Episode 33-Healthy Self-Care Series-Be Present-6.m4a

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Hey, everyone, welcome back to the Get Well, Live Well & Thrive podcast. My name is Dana Lyons and I'm your host, and I want to welcome you back to self-care island. This is a time when we just set aside. It's a fun phrase we're using to set aside time for us just to take a little pause in our day. We're not going to multitask where we listen to this series. This is a series where I want you to be hyper-focused on yourself for a little bit. This is an average of maybe a half hour for each episode, and it's a time when we just grab our favorite drink, sit in our favorite chair, and pull it up. We're going to kick our shoes off, put them in the water, and we're going to relax just for a little bit. So welcome back. Today, we're going to talk about something that I have been learning how to do better and better. It affects all of us. I have not mastered this yet by any means, but we're going to talk about being present. I think this is the episode, I mean, yeah, episode six in the series called healthy self-care. And I think it is really important. I'm learning as I get older. It's just so important as I get healthier and healthier to be present in every moment of my day. I mean, we all struggle. There's nobody who can say, oh, I don't, I don't struggle at all with being present. I think if you live in the world today, we are all guilty of living distracted to some degree. Why? We have phones that can distract us. We multitask and do a million different things. And that actually is like the way of life. It seems it's our culture. We have, if we're women, and you're listening to me, you're a woman, we tend to do a million things at one time, right? You can hold a baby on the hip, cook dinner, talk on the telephone all the while, watch all your other kids are doing, answer your husband at the same time. And we're just doing things. And we can say we did all those things, but it doesn't necessarily mean that we are fully present in the task at hand at the moment that we're in. And so I want to talk about that a little bit today because it is an issue for all of us that we need to, I think some struggle with it more than others, but we all, nobody's exempt from being distracted in the world today. And I think to get healthier and healthier, we have to be more and more present. I just think it's so important. I recently was coaching somebody, and in a couple of her sessions, she actually did even mention, I was present. I mean, I was taking care of loved ones, but I was not present for years. We could go in what we call, what I call robot mode, where you just go, how many of you know, we can leave our house. I do this. I hate to admit this, but I do this quite often, especially with my youngest child. It's like, we have to go somewhere different today. We hop in the car and the minute you hit a certain street, you could go on autopilot. And every once in a while, she'll be like, where are you going? I'm like, actually, I don't know. You know what? I just, every time I get to that street, we always go this way because we go to this certain location. And I went in, I guess I just went in autopilot mode. I thought I was going there. I was like, all right, let me just turn around and I'll, you know how we do that. It's like something triggers us. We just do the same motion we've done. Every single time we hit that same corner. And I do that with driving, but we could do that in life as well. It's like, we know if somebody is talking, we could do a million different things. We could be meeting with a friend and yet carrying the stress of something that just happened right before. We could be out on a date with our spouse and yet our mind, it is in a million different directions. Wives and moms, you could be with our kids or maybe your job. And men, it could be pulled into, you know, work mode. I've caught my husband several times and I'll just be like, where are you