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What if your superpower of “I’ve got it” is the very thing keeping you exhausted? In this episode, I unpack the quiet trap high-achieving women fall into: mistaking capacity for compulsion. We talk about why saying yes feels safer than slowing down, how your body always pays the bill, and the simple filter I use to ensure I don’t lose sight of my defined version of success.
TOPICS & TANGENTS:
• Capacity vs. compulsion: why “I can” isn’t the same as “I should”
• The hidden cost of being capable: energetic and emotional price tags
• “Your body pays the bills”: what over-functioning does to your nervous system
• Discernment as a regulation skill: pause, ask, and act with intention
• My success filter: will this bring me closer to or further from peace
• Breaking the “helpful one” identity without burning everything down
• Micro-habits that create exhale moments instead of more adrenaline
• Real-talk examples from retreats, pods, and everyday life
POINT OF THE STORY:
Strength is not carrying it all. Strength is knowing when to set it down. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should, and trust me… and your nervous system knows the difference.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
• Mixermind (the curated, connection-first visibility community I’m part of)
• Bonus for my community: join via my link and you’ll get a 1:1 visibility strategy session with me on how to use Mixer Mind intentionally and map your 2026 visibility plan
• My chat with Katie Grimes on her podcast Anything for Love — we dove into cycle syncing, rest, and turning your hormones into your biggest business advantage. It’s such a good one to queue up after this episode.
MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.
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