October 15, 2024 • 27 mins
Have you ever considered viewing symptoms, not as a disease or illness, but as your body repairing?
After battling rheumatoid arthritis, IBS, and mental health struggles, I sought a different path from the grim prognosis handed to me by traditional medicine.
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Sharise Parviz (00:01):
Welcome to Burn the Boats and Take your Island.
This is Charisse, if youremember.
I have taken a couple of daysoff of journaling my retreat, my
at-home retreat, my reset, mydetox, my absolute begin from
the beginning and start overagain, taking care of myself,
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time for me and taking care ofmyself, time for me, time for me
so that I can bring the best methat I can be to the world
around me.
Wow, that's all right, and thatis the big reason for me doing
this is I knew that I was notbeing my best, and when I'm not
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my best, I can't serve people inthe best way that I want to
serve them.
And actually that might bringme to my topic today.
Just interestingly, I was justgoing to check in and give you a
little update on what has beengoing on since my last podcast
episode.
Excuse me, and I'll, then maybethey'll, maybe I'll chat a bit
about what's been on my mind.
Well, so I think the lastpodcast I did was a couple of
(01:07):
days ago and I will let you knowwhat happened since then.
So this past weekend which it'sbeen, I think Friday was my
last podcast episode.
So this weekend I just gotreally sick, and so I think I
need to reframe that I wasn'tsick, and so I think I need to
reframe that I wasn't sick.
Let's just say I had somesevere detox reactions.
(01:31):
Now I'm used to it.
You might've heard die off detox, herx reactions, and these are
all what that typically is.
What detox, die off, all ofthat, whatever you want to call
it, whatever you've heard itbeing called, what it is is that
as your body starts cleansingand as you start to how do I
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want to say this?
I'm trying to think of how tosay this, because it's not about
killing off parasites orkilling off fungi.
Okay, I'm going to go on aquick, I'm going to, I'm going
to do a quick detour and thenI'm going to come right back on
to the main road.
So we've been taught you knowreally our whole lives for
decades now, that parasites andthat bacteria are bad for us and
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we have to kill them Right.
And and what I've learned youknow, I remember knowing all
about probiotics back in oh mygosh, early, two thousands, and
I mean like really early and Iknew about them because I was
severely ill.
Um, I think I mentioned that myhusband was ill, which is how I
found the gaps protocol, but Iwas extremely ill in the year
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2000.
I multiple, multiple illnesses Ibecame.
I was diagnosed with rheumatoidarthritis and I was told I
would end up in a wheelchair in10 years.
That's what my doctor told meand I just said, yeah, bs,
that's not going to happen.
Yeah, no, I wasn't going to.
That was not going to be theword that was spoken over by me
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just because he had a white coaton and he had a couple of
initials behind his name.
Not going to happen, but anyway, I was.
I could barely walk, I couldn'tmove my hands.
It started off with, you know,joint pain on bilateral on both
sides of my body and then justgrew progressively worse.
And then I also had IBS and Iended up having my gallbladder
(03:30):
taken out, which, if I had knownnow what wait, if I knew then
what I know now, I would neverhave had that done.
Right, like you know I would.
It was no need to take out mygallbladder knowing what I know
now, but at the time I didn'tknow it.
So I took out the gallbladder.
You do the best you can withwhat you know.
And so, um, I also was diagnosedwith OCD.
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For those of you who don't knowwhat that is, it's obsessive
compulsive disorder.
Um, it was quite debilitating,um, really debilitating, and
depression and anxiety.
Now, a lot of this stemmed froma trauma that had been coming
up.
I had a very close loved one ofmine who had passed.
(04:13):
Um, that devastated me.
That was extremely devastatingand I think that started down my
spin.
You know my uh into into myworld of illness.
But it had been building up formany, many, many, many, many
years and I won't go into allthe details right now.
At some point I will Only notto you know, just to you know,
(04:33):
because my life is so important,but only to say I've been there
.
If you're there, you can getout.
It is not a death sentence foryou, whether it's anxiety or
depression or physical ailmentor whatever, or any doctor.
You know, to me it's a curse.
But you know what?
I don't believe in curses.
Let me say that again, I dobelieve in curses, but I believe
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a curse is only as potent andpowerful as the power we give it
.
You know they say that wordsmean.
You know words carry energy.
They do Absolutely, they doright.
We hold the power of life ordeath on our tongue, however.
However, we can choose toaccept what someone says or to
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reject it.
We could also.
We can also choose to analyzeit.
Right, and I actually havewritten on that.
I'll share that with you.
At some point.
It's called reject, reject,accept or analyze.
When someone gives you some acritical word or quote, unquote,
(05:38):
a curse, right, and I don't, soI of course.
I don't think the doctor wastelling me that I had, you know,
10 years before I could, andI'd end up in a wheelchair.
He didn't.
You know, he's just a shittydoctor, excuse my language, but
he was.
But beyond that, you know, I'msorry for him, but I refuse to
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accept it.
That's all.
I just refused to accept that Iwas a dancer.
I had been dancing for, youknow, since I was a child, this,
I was in my early thirties,right after the birth of my
third baby, and that's when allthese, you know, not quite after
, but after, right, it was afterthe birth of my baby, but a
year after and that's when Istarted having all these
(06:20):
problems.
But I wasn't going to acceptthat.
You know, I wasn't going toaccept that I was not going to
dance again.
I wasn't going to accept that Icouldn't walk.
It just wasn't something I wasgoing to accept.
So I had to find other avenuesand so I looked at my diet again
, even though I had trauma and Ihad a huge loss and I had a
very traumatic childhood and allthese things built up, and even
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though I think the loss of mydear loved one, like I said, I
think it's kind of started myspin.
But everything had been boilingand bubbling underneath for a
long time, ever since I was achild and I think when I lost
her, it all just bubbled out.
You know, it's kind of like a,you know, a cap on a soda, right
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, you know.
And you shake the soda orsomething, carbonated water,
whatever you want to do I don'tdrink soda, but I do drink
kombucha, and it's the same idea, right.
And all that pressure isbuilding underneath that lid and
boy, something just pops openthat lid and poof, right, you
know, you could have a kombuchabomb.
I'll tell you about that.
I actually had a bottle explode.
It's like, wow, now I know howto make a homemade bomb, um, so
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anyway, uh, yeah, you know, andI think that's really what
started it off, but it certainlywasn't the only problem.
So I had all these psychologicalissues and all these physical
issues anyway.
But it was through educatingmyself, through diet, through um
, changing my diet, which wasparamount.
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I mean, that was the foundationof my healing.
That's when I realized howimportant diet was, because I
was, I had grown up in theeighties and nineties and
everything was no fat, skinless,this, right, you know, having
pickles on your salad thing Imentioned that to make yourself
taste so good because youweren't letting yourself have
fat or anything, right?
So that's how you know, that'show I had eaten for decades,
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right?
And so it caught up with me.
Plus, oh well, that isn't theonly way.
Then I, of course I was a bingeeater.
So I would eat really clean,quote, unquote, clean, right,
With all the vegetables and leanmeats and all that.
But then I scarfed down a bagof Reese cups at night or
whatever, right.
So obviously I wasn't healthy.
I was fit in the sense becauseI was always physically active,
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but I wasn't healthy.
Okay, let's get back on track.
So when I got sick early 2000s,before I really knew anything
about anything, and this isbefore I don't even think GAPS
was out yet.
I think I was before GAPS.
I think Nourishing Traditionshas just coming out.
But I looked at the NourishingTraditions book and I went oh my
God, I can't do this.
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I don't even know how.
I never learned how to cook,right, I never, ever learned how
to cook.
So that cookbook was, it wasjust too daunting.
I had it and I looked at the,the premise of the foods and so
forth and so forth, but I Icouldn't do it.
But I did do an uh, what'scalled an anti uh candida diet
or antifungal diet.
(09:16):
Right, no grains at all, cutthem all out, and to this day
I'm not really into grains.
But no grains, no sugars, nofruits, except for maybe
grapefruits, some berries notstrawberries, but blackberries,
raspberries, blueberries andgreen apples that was the only
fruit that I, that I allowedmyself to have on this and then
(09:38):
completely cut out all grains,noodles, breads, no sugar
altogether.
I did use stevia, right, thattime stevia was not allowed on
the shelf with all the other,you know, sugar substitutes.
You had to find it in asupplement aisle.
But yeah, so I started usingstevia way back when, okay, and
I started using probiotics.
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I had learned about probiotics.
Now this is how behind themedical industry is behind the
health industry.
That's funny, I don't equatemedical with health, but it's
not.
They're not the same.
So when my dad had gotten intoan accident severe accident back
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in 2010, so this is 10 yearsafter I had begun my journey of
healing and I was well and I wason my feet and doing all the
things I'd gotten, I hadcompletely recovered and anyway,
I'll go into that later date.
But how that all happened.
But when my dad got his accident, they had him on antibiotics,
(10:41):
right, and so I had asked thenurse.
I said, how soon this is howignorant I was about the medical
system.
Well, I wasn't, and I was, youknow, I knew that they I didn't
buy their BS, but I didn'trealize they were so uneducated
beyond the BS.
Okay, I guess that I wasshocked.
So when I told the nurse, Iasked the nurse.
(11:01):
I said, okay, when I was therewas he was getting discharged.
I said so he's on theantibiotics for whatever it was.
And I said, um, when should hebegin his probiotics?
And she looked at me with thislike crazy, like what are you
talking about?
What probiotic I've never.
I don't know what to put.
And I looked at her and I went,oh, now this is 10 years after
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I had been taking them.
This is 10 years after I hadlearned from about probiotics,
okay, and I'm like, oh, oh, youknow, and I'm just kind of
looking, this is shocking, right, and they already had had
studies on bacteria in the gutand so on and so forth.
That was all going out into theNIH and all these studies about
that.
How do you not know this?
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Anyway, I was shocked, I wassurprised and further confirmed.
Actually, I shouldn't say was Ishocked and surprised?
No, maybe not.
Maybe I was.
You know, I always say you know,I don't always trust anything,
and then I'm disappointed whenI'm found out to be right.
So, you know, I didn't trustthe medical establishment.
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I mean, I was there with my dadwhen he got into his accident.
I was there every day and thankGod I was, because if you do
not have an advocate, if someone, one of your loved ones, is in
the hospital, you have to makesure you have an advocate.
Oh, that was crazy just initself.
I don't want to get too offtrack.
These are stories I can tell,share for another day.
But anyway, back to theprobiotic deal, because that's
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where I'm going with this.
So, anyway, I was just furtherconfirmed that the medical
industry and God bless gooddoctors I know there are good
doctors and I have a such arespect for nurses, such a
respect.
They are the hardest workingpeople and I totally have a
respect for that and at the sametime, I think that you know the
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medical, you know industrialcomplex is completely just about
keeping you sick.
I'm not saying individualdoctors and nurses are.
We know that plenty of themaren't, because they lost their
licenses, they spoke up and theyleft the medical industrial
complex during the you know thepandemic right.
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So I know there are gooddoctors and nurses and medical
professionals out there.
It's unfortunate, though, thatthey're in a corrupt system.
That's what's unfortunate.
But this confirmed that thissystem is corrupt and this
system isn't about healing andhealth.
It's really about sickness andmaintaining illness.
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Oh, did I say that?
I did say that Because,basically, what the you know?
Come on, let's be real theydon't make any money if you're
well.
They don't make any money ifyou don't come into the doctor's
office and pay them a visit toget your antibiotic or whatever
it is.
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You know, I remember when mykids were little and I did the
whole wellness checkup and I hada great.
I had a wonderful, wonderful,wonderful pediatrician.
Actually the whole office wasgreat and it was.
She was a Christian I believethe whole office was Christian,
but I know she definitely wasand she was a homeschooling mom
on top of being a doctor and shewas wonderful.
I mean, she was such a blessingand she knew that I was not
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into the vaccines.
I didn't do childhood vaccines.
Now I did some with my firstborn, before I knew better, and
then less.
With my second born and then bymy third it was like yeah, not,
and then basically we always westopped.
I stopped, um after she wasborn, we pretty much just
stopped and um, and she ofcourse had an obligation to tell
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me about the vaccinations.
Right, that's her obligation.
And I would sit there and I'dlook at, think about it and I'd
test my heart.
You know, and this is before Iknew exactly how dangerous.
Now of course I would thinktwice, but you know, back then
you're still kind of weighing itMm-ha, mm-ha, and I was just
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like yeah, no, I don't think so,and that was it Okay.
And then eventually she got tothe point where I just have to
tell you this.
I said okay, and I just goingto say no.
And she's like, okay, and thatwas it.
She was great.
But she was so surprised shewould say she would look at her
chart when I would come in tosee her and she would be like,
oh, I haven't seen you in a year.
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And I'm like, are you supposedto?
She said no, it's just likeit's very rare that I don't have
, you know, kids that I seecertainly more often than you
know, on their wellness checkupday.
And I went, oh, oh, okay, I'msorry to hear that, I guess,
maybe.
Oh, I'm sorry for the parentsand the kids, but you know,
again, that's how doctors makemoney, right?
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But I mean, I don't.
When my kids were sick, I didn'ttreat them with Tylenol.
You know, I didn't do thesethings.
I kept them, you know, coolwith a wet rag.
I mean, I was old school, youknow, and I would sleep beside
them and I would make sure thatthey're.
Yeah, it was a lot more workthan just giving them a Tylenol,
but I knew that the Tylenol waspoison and I don't know where
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I'm going to post this podcastand I'll probably get censored
and kicked off, but whatever, Idon't care.
Hell with it.
You know, if you want to followme and you'd like to be to
continue, then just join, signup to my website and all this
will be loaded on my website andthat's mine, right?
We?
Um, I know that that's going tobe protected, because we also
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have a web host that believes infree speech.
So, moving on back to back towhat I was talking about, okay,
so about probiotics anyway.
So bacteria and viruses yeah,this is where we started.
Or bacteria, about viruses, I'mnot going to touch that right
now.
Where we started.
I'm back to viruses, I'm notgoing to touch that right now.
But bacteria and fungus.
So you know, we've been taughtthat, oh my gosh, we have to.
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You know, bacteria or parasitesand all these things are so bad
for us, right?
And the thing is is, are theyreally?
Or are they in us?
Because they serve a function?
And this is the new researchthat's coming out is based on
the terrain theory, which is thetheory that we work on the
terrain, the inner body, thebody, what's going on inside of
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us, and we keep that healthy andthat body maintains balance,
homeostasis, and it's really theterrain is why we get sick,
because the terrain is sick.
The terrain is poison, theterrain is toxic, the terrain
has been exposed to something,and I don't mean like an
infection, like a virus, I meanexposed to poisons or toxins of
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some sort, metals, whatever.
So the terrain stays healthy,we stay healthy.
It's not some outside you know,villainous virus that's coming
to get us.
It's what's happening inside usthat will determine our illness
or our health.
So, when it comes to fungus, orparasites or bacteria, what have
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you, are they really the enemy?
And the new research is showingthat no, they're not.
They actually have a job toperform, and that job, maybe, is
protecting us from toxins inour body.
For instance, there are certainwell, fungus, for instance,
will actually wrap up metals,will wrap their I'm going to use
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the word body, for lack of abetter term around metals and,
like a donut, they wrapthemselves around a metal to
protect the body from thesemetals being lodged in our
tissues or in our brain.
Right?
So these fungus, this fungus,is actually benefiting us.
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Now, that doesn't mean itdoesn't cause us problems,
because, like all living things,you know, they poop and they
fart and they excrete, and sothose excretions could cause us
illness, but them in themselvesare actually performing a
function.
Now, when we clean up theterrain, we clean up the inner
body, then the fungus or theparasites or what have you,
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they're not needed anymore andeventually they'll either, you
know, become very, very benignand friendly and just chill, or
they'll get flushed out of thebody.
So this past weekend, going backto the topic of this
conversation this past weekend Iwas feeling really ill I'm
going to quote unquote on thatill and I wasn't ill, but what I
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was was I was detoxifying and Irealized that I was feeling all
these detox sensations.
So what does detox sound likeor feel like, whatever?
Well, you know, when you'redetoxing you have detox
reactions.
Then you could get headaches,right, and I had that.
Well, that was after the bread.
So actually sometimes can be alittle confusing.
It could actually be, you know,you might be something that you
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ate that is toxic, that can becausing problems.
But if you're kind of cleansingand you're doing all the things
and you start to develop thesenew symptoms, then typically
that's really a detox reaction.
So I was having headaches and Ijust was having not feeling well
.
My stomach wasn't feeling welland my muscles were achy and not
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from different kind of muscle,like you know the difference
between a worked out muscle anda flu-like muscle pain, right,
soreness.
So it was like that and so Ithought okay, you know, I
started stage two of the gaps.
Hold on, let me let this carpass and then I'm just going to
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chill out.
So I did, I just rested.
I listened to my body.
What my body was telling me iswe're working, we're repairing,
so how about you just relax?
How about you just chill outand relax, read a book, you know
, and do all the things that youwere going to do on this
retreat so we can do what we'resupposed to do.
And so that's what I did.
So over the weekend I didnothing.
I just read some books, I tooksome detox baths, all the things
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that I did, and I really justlistened to my body.
I went for walks, but when mybody said, yeah, we're done, I
listened to it and I went downand I rested.
And that, you know, is what Idid.
I listened intuitively to whatmy body was telling me it needed
.
So, come today.
So that actually.
So that was over the weekendand actually lasted.
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This is Tuesday, lasted onMonday.
So three days Saturday, Sunday,monday, yeah, and I feel so
much better today.
I'm feeling great again.
I got my energy back again.
So I think you know, and I hadsome really good cleansing
moments, if you know what I meanand um, and I feel really good.
So I think my body was busydoing some repair that it was
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wanting to do for quite sometime, so I'm very thankful for
that.
So we're back in the game,right?
So, um, today I'm going tocontinue with stage two.
I'm going to I don't know howlong I'll stay on stage two.
Um, you know I can tolerate.
Typically you stay on a stagewhen you're doing the gaps
protocol.
You stay on a stage for as longas, as long as you could
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tolerate the foods at um, at theamounts that are recommended.
So, if you can, then you'reready to move on to the next
stage.
Your body is healed up enoughthat you can now move forward.
Um, but stage two is sonutritiously complete that some
people stay on it for theirlives.
Some people that um, uh, with,uh, schizophrenia, bipolar I'm
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using this as diagnosis, eventhough I don't really like using
diagnostic terms, because Idon't necessarily believe in
them, but just for ease ofconversation and so or with very
severe autism, autistic cases.
Stage two is completely well,it's complete, so people can
stay on it indefinitely.
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So I don't know if I'll do that, but I thought, well, let me
just keep it here for a littlewhile, since I just came off
this detox.
You know reaction time over theweekend and uh, and then we'll
see.
We'll see what I'm ready tojump forward to stage three.
Anyway, I think that's enoughfor today.
I know I was going to goelsewhere.
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Um, I was going to go to theplace where.
Why am I doing this right, andwhat keeps me, what is keeping
me committed?
Because it's not myself.
You know, it's very easy for usto let let ourselves down.
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You know, we may be super and Ican tell you personally, for me
I am.
Um, in my past, if I was justdoing it for me, like if I was
just doing something because Iwanted it and it really had no
real great outcome, other thanfor my own selfish reasons, my
own personal reasons not thatthere's anything wrong with
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being selfish once in a whilebut for my own personal reasons,
I let myself down.
Because it's very easy to letyourself down.
Oh, you know, I'll do thistomorrow, or, oh, what's one
little bite, you know, whatever,right, we all do it.
Well, I shouldn't say we all.
I do it.
Maybe you do it too.
But, um, when we have a greaterwhy and this is that why, uh,
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worksheet, that is on my website, that's free.
If you sign up for my newsletter, you'll get that finding out
what your greater why is and thegreater why is usually not
doesn't just include you.
I mean, you're part of it,obviously, but it's because you
want to.
You want to contribute tosomething greater than you, and
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for me, it's my work, it's whenI work with people.
That's my family, it's thelegacy I leave and that's why I
run my program.
It's called the leading ladysolution, because I want you to
become the leading lady and thelegacy builder for generations,
to look back on and go.
That's where we came from and Itruly believe, and, as I say on
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my website and as I, you livethe legacy you leave.
If you want to leave a greatlegacy, then live one today.
So what keeps me motivated?
It's not just me, I mean it'sjust not.
It doesn't motivate me enough.
But give me a reason mychildren, my grandchildren, the
people that I serve, that I wantto help the people that I serve
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, that I want to help the waysthat I want to contribute on
this earth.
While I'm still on this earth,I need the energy, I need the
health, I need the vitality todo so, and when I remember
that's my why, then, yeah, it'seasy to commit Because it's not
about willpower.
Will willpower is is a short,like, you know, like accelerator
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man.
It'll.
It'll kick you in the butt andget you moving.
But what won't keep you moving?
You know you have to bemotivated by something greater.
You have to have a purpose, youhave to have a purpose.
So what's your purpose?
Purpose?
What is your purpose?
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And I don't mean your life'spurpose.
Everybody's like what's mylife's?
I don't know.
I still don't even know what mylife's purpose is.
I know what my purpose is inthe now and if I follow the
purpose that I'm doing in thenow, then in the end, when I see
all the stitches and all thepieces that come together, I'll
say, oh, that must have been mylife's purpose, but I don't
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worry about what my life'spurpose.
I've done that when I waslittle and then my life was like
oh, that was for a time.
It's no longer my life'spurpose anymore.
So, but what is your purpose inthe?
Now?
I think it's a lot easier to askwhat do you feel is calling on
you?
What do you feel is justitching at you?
Or, like what God does to mekeeps poking me in the shoulder,
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pestering me?
Is God pestering you to dosomething?
And if he is, why does he wantyou to do it?
What is the purpose in it?
All right, I've talked longenough, but if you're interested
in kind of delving deep andyou'd love to try that, the
greater.
Why your why?
Worksheet?
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All right, burn the boats, baby, and take the island Bye-bye.
Welcome to Burn the Boats and Take your Island.
This is Charisse, if youremember.
I have taken a couple of daysoff of journaling my retreat, my
at-home retreat, my reset, mydetox, my absolute begin from
the beginning and start overagain, taking care of myself,
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time for me and taking care ofmyself, time for me, time for me
so that I can bring the best methat I can be to the world
around me.
Wow, that's all right, and thatis the big reason for me doing
this is I knew that I was notbeing my best, and when I'm not
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my best, I can't serve people inthe best way that I want to
serve them.
And actually that might bringme to my topic today.
Just interestingly, I was justgoing to check in and give you a
little update on what has beengoing on since my last podcast
episode.
Excuse me, and I'll, then maybethey'll, maybe I'll chat a bit
about what's been on my mind.
Well, so I think the lastpodcast I did was a couple of
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days ago and I will let you knowwhat happened since then.
So this past weekend which it'sbeen, I think Friday was my
last podcast episode.
So this weekend I just gotreally sick, and so I think I
need to reframe that I wasn'tsick, and so I think I need to
reframe that I wasn't sick.
Let's just say I had somesevere detox reactions.
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Now I'm used to it.
You might've heard die off detox, herx reactions, and these are
all what that typically is.
What detox, die off, all ofthat, whatever you want to call
it, whatever you've heard itbeing called, what it is is that
as your body starts cleansingand as you start to how do I
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want to say this?
I'm trying to think of how tosay this, because it's not about
killing off parasites orkilling off fungi.
Okay, I'm going to go on aquick, I'm going to, I'm going
to do a quick detour and thenI'm going to come right back on
to the main road.
So we've been taught you knowreally our whole lives for
decades now, that parasites andthat bacteria are bad for us and
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we have to kill them Right.
And and what I've learned youknow, I remember knowing all
about probiotics back in oh mygosh, early, two thousands, and
I mean like really early and Iknew about them because I was
severely ill.
Um, I think I mentioned that myhusband was ill, which is how I
found the gaps protocol, but Iwas extremely ill in the year
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2000.
I multiple, multiple illnesses Ibecame.
I was diagnosed with rheumatoidarthritis and I was told I
would end up in a wheelchair in10 years.
That's what my doctor told meand I just said, yeah, bs,
that's not going to happen.
Yeah, no, I wasn't going to.
That was not going to be theword that was spoken over by me
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just because he had a white coaton and he had a couple of
initials behind his name.
Not going to happen, but anyway, I was.
I could barely walk, I couldn'tmove my hands.
It started off with, you know,joint pain on bilateral on both
sides of my body and then justgrew progressively worse.
And then I also had IBS and Iended up having my gallbladder
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taken out, which, if I had knownnow what wait, if I knew then
what I know now, I would neverhave had that done.
Right, like you know I would.
It was no need to take out mygallbladder knowing what I know
now, but at the time I didn'tknow it.
So I took out the gallbladder.
You do the best you can withwhat you know.
And so, um, I also was diagnosedwith OCD.
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For those of you who don't knowwhat that is, it's obsessive
compulsive disorder.
Um, it was quite debilitating,um, really debilitating, and
depression and anxiety.
Now, a lot of this stemmed froma trauma that had been coming
up.
I had a very close loved one ofmine who had passed.
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Um, that devastated me.
That was extremely devastatingand I think that started down my
spin.
You know my uh into into myworld of illness.
But it had been building up formany, many, many, many, many
years and I won't go into allthe details right now.
At some point I will Only notto you know, just to you know,
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because my life is so important,but only to say I've been there
.
If you're there, you can getout.
It is not a death sentence foryou, whether it's anxiety or
depression or physical ailmentor whatever, or any doctor.
You know, to me it's a curse.
But you know what?
I don't believe in curses.
Let me say that again, I dobelieve in curses, but I believe
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a curse is only as potent andpowerful as the power we give it
.
You know they say that wordsmean.
You know words carry energy.
They do Absolutely, they doright.
We hold the power of life ordeath on our tongue, however.
However, we can choose toaccept what someone says or to
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reject it.
We could also.
We can also choose to analyzeit.
Right, and I actually havewritten on that.
I'll share that with you.
At some point.
It's called reject, reject,accept or analyze.
When someone gives you some acritical word or quote, unquote,
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a curse, right, and I don't, soI of course.
I don't think the doctor wastelling me that I had, you know,
10 years before I could, andI'd end up in a wheelchair.
He didn't.
You know, he's just a shittydoctor, excuse my language, but
he was.
But beyond that, you know, I'msorry for him, but I refuse to
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accept it.
That's all.
I just refused to accept that Iwas a dancer.
I had been dancing for, youknow, since I was a child, this,
I was in my early thirties,right after the birth of my
third baby, and that's when allthese, you know, not quite after
, but after, right, it was afterthe birth of my baby, but a
year after and that's when Istarted having all these
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problems.
But I wasn't going to acceptthat.
You know, I wasn't going toaccept that I was not going to
dance again.
I wasn't going to accept that Icouldn't walk.
It just wasn't something I wasgoing to accept.
So I had to find other avenuesand so I looked at my diet again
, even though I had trauma and Ihad a huge loss and I had a
very traumatic childhood and allthese things built up, and even
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though I think the loss of mydear loved one, like I said, I
think it's kind of started myspin.
But everything had been boilingand bubbling underneath for a
long time, ever since I was achild and I think when I lost
her, it all just bubbled out.
You know, it's kind of like a,you know, a cap on a soda, right
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, you know.
And you shake the soda orsomething, carbonated water,
whatever you want to do I don'tdrink soda, but I do drink
kombucha, and it's the same idea, right.
And all that pressure isbuilding underneath that lid and
boy, something just pops openthat lid and poof, right, you
know, you could have a kombuchabomb.
I'll tell you about that.
I actually had a bottle explode.
It's like, wow, now I know howto make a homemade bomb, um, so
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anyway, uh, yeah, you know, andI think that's really what
started it off, but it certainlywasn't the only problem.
So I had all these psychologicalissues and all these physical
issues anyway.
But it was through educatingmyself, through diet, through um
, changing my diet, which wasparamount.
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I mean, that was the foundationof my healing.
That's when I realized howimportant diet was, because I
was, I had grown up in theeighties and nineties and
everything was no fat, skinless,this, right, you know, having
pickles on your salad thing Imentioned that to make yourself
taste so good because youweren't letting yourself have
fat or anything, right?
So that's how you know, that'show I had eaten for decades,
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right?
And so it caught up with me.
Plus, oh well, that isn't theonly way.
Then I, of course I was a bingeeater.
So I would eat really clean,quote, unquote, clean, right,
With all the vegetables and leanmeats and all that.
But then I scarfed down a bagof Reese cups at night or
whatever, right.
So obviously I wasn't healthy.
I was fit in the sense becauseI was always physically active,
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but I wasn't healthy.
Okay, let's get back on track.
So when I got sick early 2000s,before I really knew anything
about anything, and this isbefore I don't even think GAPS
was out yet.
I think I was before GAPS.
I think Nourishing Traditionshas just coming out.
But I looked at the NourishingTraditions book and I went oh my
God, I can't do this.
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I don't even know how.
I never learned how to cook,right, I never, ever learned how
to cook.
So that cookbook was, it wasjust too daunting.
I had it and I looked at the,the premise of the foods and so
forth and so forth, but I Icouldn't do it.
But I did do an uh, what'scalled an anti uh candida diet
or antifungal diet.
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Right, no grains at all, cutthem all out, and to this day
I'm not really into grains.
But no grains, no sugars, nofruits, except for maybe
grapefruits, some berries notstrawberries, but blackberries,
raspberries, blueberries andgreen apples that was the only
fruit that I, that I allowedmyself to have on this and then
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completely cut out all grains,noodles, breads, no sugar
altogether.
I did use stevia, right, thattime stevia was not allowed on
the shelf with all the other,you know, sugar substitutes.
You had to find it in asupplement aisle.
But yeah, so I started usingstevia way back when, okay, and
I started using probiotics.
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I had learned about probiotics.
Now this is how behind themedical industry is behind the
health industry.
That's funny, I don't equatemedical with health, but it's
not.
They're not the same.
So when my dad had gotten intoan accident severe accident back
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in 2010, so this is 10 yearsafter I had begun my journey of
healing and I was well and I wason my feet and doing all the
things I'd gotten, I hadcompletely recovered and anyway,
I'll go into that later date.
But how that all happened.
But when my dad got his accident, they had him on antibiotics,
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right, and so I had asked thenurse.
I said, how soon this is howignorant I was about the medical
system.
Well, I wasn't, and I was, youknow, I knew that they I didn't
buy their BS, but I didn'trealize they were so uneducated
beyond the BS.
Okay, I guess that I wasshocked.
So when I told the nurse, Iasked the nurse.
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I said, okay, when I was therewas he was getting discharged.
I said so he's on theantibiotics for whatever it was.
And I said, um, when should hebegin his probiotics?
And she looked at me with thislike crazy, like what are you
talking about?
What probiotic I've never.
I don't know what to put.
And I looked at her and I went,oh, now this is 10 years after
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I had been taking them.
This is 10 years after I hadlearned from about probiotics,
okay, and I'm like, oh, oh, youknow, and I'm just kind of
looking, this is shocking, right, and they already had had
studies on bacteria in the gutand so on and so forth.
That was all going out into theNIH and all these studies about
that.
How do you not know this?
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Anyway, I was shocked, I wassurprised and further confirmed.
Actually, I shouldn't say was Ishocked and surprised?
No, maybe not.
Maybe I was.
You know, I always say you know,I don't always trust anything,
and then I'm disappointed whenI'm found out to be right.
So, you know, I didn't trustthe medical establishment.
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I mean, I was there with my dadwhen he got into his accident.
I was there every day and thankGod I was, because if you do
not have an advocate, if someone, one of your loved ones, is in
the hospital, you have to makesure you have an advocate.
Oh, that was crazy just initself.
I don't want to get too offtrack.
These are stories I can tell,share for another day.
But anyway, back to theprobiotic deal, because that's
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where I'm going with this.
So, anyway, I was just furtherconfirmed that the medical
industry and God bless gooddoctors I know there are good
doctors and I have a such arespect for nurses, such a
respect.
They are the hardest workingpeople and I totally have a
respect for that and at the sametime, I think that you know the
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medical, you know industrialcomplex is completely just about
keeping you sick.
I'm not saying individualdoctors and nurses are.
We know that plenty of themaren't, because they lost their
licenses, they spoke up and theyleft the medical industrial
complex during the you know thepandemic right.
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So I know there are gooddoctors and nurses and medical
professionals out there.
It's unfortunate, though, thatthey're in a corrupt system.
That's what's unfortunate.
But this confirmed that thissystem is corrupt and this
system isn't about healing andhealth.
It's really about sickness andmaintaining illness.
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Oh, did I say that?
I did say that Because,basically, what the you know?
Come on, let's be real theydon't make any money if you're
well.
They don't make any money ifyou don't come into the doctor's
office and pay them a visit toget your antibiotic or whatever
it is.
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You know, I remember when mykids were little and I did the
whole wellness checkup and I hada great.
I had a wonderful, wonderful,wonderful pediatrician.
Actually the whole office wasgreat and it was.
She was a Christian I believethe whole office was Christian,
but I know she definitely wasand she was a homeschooling mom
on top of being a doctor and shewas wonderful.
I mean, she was such a blessingand she knew that I was not
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into the vaccines.
I didn't do childhood vaccines.
Now I did some with my firstborn, before I knew better, and
then less.
With my second born and then bymy third it was like yeah, not,
and then basically we always westopped.
I stopped, um after she wasborn, we pretty much just
stopped and um, and she ofcourse had an obligation to tell
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me about the vaccinations.
Right, that's her obligation.
And I would sit there and I'dlook at, think about it and I'd
test my heart.
You know, and this is before Iknew exactly how dangerous.
Now of course I would thinktwice, but you know, back then
you're still kind of weighing itMm-ha, mm-ha, and I was just
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like yeah, no, I don't think so,and that was it Okay.
And then eventually she got tothe point where I just have to
tell you this.
I said okay, and I just goingto say no.
And she's like, okay, and thatwas it.
She was great.
But she was so surprised shewould say she would look at her
chart when I would come in tosee her and she would be like,
oh, I haven't seen you in a year.
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And I'm like, are you supposedto?
She said no, it's just likeit's very rare that I don't have
, you know, kids that I seecertainly more often than you
know, on their wellness checkupday.
And I went, oh, oh, okay, I'msorry to hear that, I guess,
maybe.
Oh, I'm sorry for the parentsand the kids, but you know,
again, that's how doctors makemoney, right?
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But I mean, I don't.
When my kids were sick, I didn'ttreat them with Tylenol.
You know, I didn't do thesethings.
I kept them, you know, coolwith a wet rag.
I mean, I was old school, youknow, and I would sleep beside
them and I would make sure thatthey're.
Yeah, it was a lot more workthan just giving them a Tylenol,
but I knew that the Tylenol waspoison and I don't know where
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I'm going to post this podcastand I'll probably get censored
and kicked off, but whatever, Idon't care.
Hell with it.
You know, if you want to followme and you'd like to be to
continue, then just join, signup to my website and all this
will be loaded on my website andthat's mine, right?
We?
Um, I know that that's going tobe protected, because we also
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have a web host that believes infree speech.
So, moving on back to back towhat I was talking about, okay,
so about probiotics anyway.
So bacteria and viruses yeah,this is where we started.
Or bacteria, about viruses, I'mnot going to touch that right
now.
Where we started.
I'm back to viruses, I'm notgoing to touch that right now.
But bacteria and fungus.
So you know, we've been taughtthat, oh my gosh, we have to.
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You know, bacteria or parasitesand all these things are so bad
for us, right?
And the thing is is, are theyreally?
Or are they in us?
Because they serve a function?
And this is the new researchthat's coming out is based on
the terrain theory, which is thetheory that we work on the
terrain, the inner body, thebody, what's going on inside of
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us, and we keep that healthy andthat body maintains balance,
homeostasis, and it's really theterrain is why we get sick,
because the terrain is sick.
The terrain is poison, theterrain is toxic, the terrain
has been exposed to something,and I don't mean like an
infection, like a virus, I meanexposed to poisons or toxins of
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some sort, metals, whatever.
So the terrain stays healthy,we stay healthy.
It's not some outside you know,villainous virus that's coming
to get us.
It's what's happening inside usthat will determine our illness
or our health.
So, when it comes to fungus, orparasites or bacteria, what have
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you, are they really the enemy?
And the new research is showingthat no, they're not.
They actually have a job toperform, and that job, maybe, is
protecting us from toxins inour body.
For instance, there are certainwell, fungus, for instance,
will actually wrap up metals,will wrap their I'm going to use
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the word body, for lack of abetter term around metals and,
like a donut, they wrapthemselves around a metal to
protect the body from thesemetals being lodged in our
tissues or in our brain.
Right?
So these fungus, this fungus,is actually benefiting us.
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Now, that doesn't mean itdoesn't cause us problems,
because, like all living things,you know, they poop and they
fart and they excrete, and sothose excretions could cause us
illness, but them in themselvesare actually performing a
function.
Now, when we clean up theterrain, we clean up the inner
body, then the fungus or theparasites or what have you,
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they're not needed anymore andeventually they'll either, you
know, become very, very benignand friendly and just chill, or
they'll get flushed out of thebody.
So this past weekend, going backto the topic of this
conversation this past weekend Iwas feeling really ill I'm
going to quote unquote on thatill and I wasn't ill, but what I
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was was I was detoxifying and Irealized that I was feeling all
these detox sensations.
So what does detox sound likeor feel like, whatever?
Well, you know, when you'redetoxing you have detox
reactions.
Then you could get headaches,right, and I had that.
Well, that was after the bread.
So actually sometimes can be alittle confusing.
It could actually be, you know,you might be something that you
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ate that is toxic, that can becausing problems.
But if you're kind of cleansingand you're doing all the things
and you start to develop thesenew symptoms, then typically
that's really a detox reaction.
So I was having headaches and Ijust was having not feeling well
.
My stomach wasn't feeling welland my muscles were achy and not
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from different kind of muscle,like you know the difference
between a worked out muscle anda flu-like muscle pain, right,
soreness.
So it was like that and so Ithought okay, you know, I
started stage two of the gaps.
Hold on, let me let this carpass and then I'm just going to
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chill out.
So I did, I just rested.
I listened to my body.
What my body was telling me iswe're working, we're repairing,
so how about you just relax?
How about you just chill outand relax, read a book, you know
, and do all the things that youwere going to do on this
retreat so we can do what we'resupposed to do.
And so that's what I did.
So over the weekend I didnothing.
I just read some books, I tooksome detox baths, all the things
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that I did, and I really justlistened to my body.
I went for walks, but when mybody said, yeah, we're done, I
listened to it and I went downand I rested.
And that, you know, is what Idid.
I listened intuitively to whatmy body was telling me it needed
.
So, come today.
So that actually.
So that was over the weekendand actually lasted.
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This is Tuesday, lasted onMonday.
So three days Saturday, Sunday,monday, yeah, and I feel so
much better today.
I'm feeling great again.
I got my energy back again.
So I think you know, and I hadsome really good cleansing
moments, if you know what I meanand um, and I feel really good.
So I think my body was busydoing some repair that it was
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wanting to do for quite sometime, so I'm very thankful for
that.
So we're back in the game,right?
So, um, today I'm going tocontinue with stage two.
I'm going to I don't know howlong I'll stay on stage two.
Um, you know I can tolerate.
Typically you stay on a stagewhen you're doing the gaps
protocol.
You stay on a stage for as longas, as long as you could
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tolerate the foods at um, at theamounts that are recommended.
So, if you can, then you'reready to move on to the next
stage.
Your body is healed up enoughthat you can now move forward.
Um, but stage two is sonutritiously complete that some
people stay on it for theirlives.
Some people that um, uh, with,uh, schizophrenia, bipolar I'm
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using this as diagnosis, eventhough I don't really like using
diagnostic terms, because Idon't necessarily believe in
them, but just for ease ofconversation and so or with very
severe autism, autistic cases.
Stage two is completely well,it's complete, so people can
stay on it indefinitely.
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So I don't know if I'll do that, but I thought, well, let me
just keep it here for a littlewhile, since I just came off
this detox.
You know reaction time over theweekend and uh, and then we'll
see.
We'll see what I'm ready tojump forward to stage three.
Anyway, I think that's enoughfor today.
I know I was going to goelsewhere.
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Um, I was going to go to theplace where.
Why am I doing this right, andwhat keeps me, what is keeping
me committed?
Because it's not myself.
You know, it's very easy for usto let let ourselves down.
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You know, we may be super and Ican tell you personally, for me
I am.
Um, in my past, if I was justdoing it for me, like if I was
just doing something because Iwanted it and it really had no
real great outcome, other thanfor my own selfish reasons, my
own personal reasons not thatthere's anything wrong with
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being selfish once in a whilebut for my own personal reasons,
I let myself down.
Because it's very easy to letyourself down.
Oh, you know, I'll do thistomorrow, or, oh, what's one
little bite, you know, whatever,right, we all do it.
Well, I shouldn't say we all.
I do it.
Maybe you do it too.
But, um, when we have a greaterwhy and this is that why, uh,
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worksheet, that is on my website, that's free.
If you sign up for my newsletter, you'll get that finding out
what your greater why is and thegreater why is usually not
doesn't just include you.
I mean, you're part of it,obviously, but it's because you
want to.
You want to contribute tosomething greater than you, and
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for me, it's my work, it's whenI work with people.
That's my family, it's thelegacy I leave and that's why I
run my program.
It's called the leading ladysolution, because I want you to
become the leading lady and thelegacy builder for generations,
to look back on and go.
That's where we came from and Itruly believe, and, as I say on
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my website and as I, you livethe legacy you leave.
If you want to leave a greatlegacy, then live one today.
So what keeps me motivated?
It's not just me, I mean it'sjust not.
It doesn't motivate me enough.
But give me a reason mychildren, my grandchildren, the
people that I serve, that I wantto help the people that I serve
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, that I want to help the waysthat I want to contribute on
this earth.
While I'm still on this earth,I need the energy, I need the
health, I need the vitality todo so, and when I remember
that's my why, then, yeah, it'seasy to commit Because it's not
about willpower.
Will willpower is is a short,like, you know, like accelerator
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man.
It'll.
It'll kick you in the butt andget you moving.
But what won't keep you moving?
You know you have to bemotivated by something greater.
You have to have a purpose, youhave to have a purpose.
So what's your purpose?
Purpose?
What is your purpose?
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And I don't mean your life'spurpose.
Everybody's like what's mylife's?
I don't know.
I still don't even know what mylife's purpose is.
I know what my purpose is inthe now and if I follow the
purpose that I'm doing in thenow, then in the end, when I see
all the stitches and all thepieces that come together, I'll
say, oh, that must have been mylife's purpose, but I don't
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worry about what my life'spurpose.
I've done that when I waslittle and then my life was like
oh, that was for a time.
It's no longer my life'spurpose anymore.
So, but what is your purpose inthe?
Now?
I think it's a lot easier to askwhat do you feel is calling on
you?
What do you feel is justitching at you?
Or, like what God does to mekeeps poking me in the shoulder,
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pestering me?
Is God pestering you to dosomething?
And if he is, why does he wantyou to do it?
What is the purpose in it?
All right, I've talked longenough, but if you're interested
in kind of delving deep andyou'd love to try that, the
greater.
Why your why?
Worksheet?
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All right, burn the boats, baby, and take the island Bye-bye.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!