November 1, 2024 • 31 mins
Running for Change: Embracing Local Politics, Life's Balance, and Fermented Foods
Discover the art of balancing meticulous planning with the freedom of spontaneity. Reflecting on my own evolving approach to planning, I share how transitioning from a rigid, structured work environment to a more spontaneous lifestyle brought relief and new perspectives.
What if running for local office could reignite your faith in politics? Join us as we recount the journey of my husband, Michael, who transformed his political frustration into action by running for local office in Arkansas. Despite being new to the area and challenging a seasoned incumbent, Michael's commitment to the community led him to knock on a thousand doors, bridging the gap between constituents and their representatives.
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Sharise Parviz (00:00):
Welcome to Burn the Boats baby.
This is S Parviz, holisticHealth Specialist, life Energy
Healing and Relationship Coach,and today we are going to ask
the question to plan or not toplan?
That is the question.
Alright, but first just a quicklittle update.
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I think I mentioned that wewent to a dinner where the
governor was going to be andspeaking.
This is election time, as youall know, I think you all know,
so of course everybody isgetting out there and doing
their canvassing and Michael, myhusband, is actually helping a
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lot of folks with their campaign.
Just a quick background.
So when we came out here toArkansas I think I mentioned my
husband I dropped the politicsbecause I just was kind of
getting into a dark place.
And my husband kind of pickedit up and ran with it and he
decided he was really not happywith our local representation
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out here because he would emailand he would, you know, call or
whatever, and they would not.
He would not pick up the localrepresentation that he's talking
, where I'm talking about I'mnot going to give names or
anything like that but wouldn'tpick up, and so he got really
frustrated.
My husband did, and so myhusband said well, you know what
.
I'm just going to run againsthim in the primary.
So nobody knew.
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You know, we've only been outhere three years and we've only
really been involved.
Oh, my husband, when I say wereally he has only really been
involved in politics, well, I'mbehind him and kind of
supporting him.
So it is a we Okay, we haveonly really been involved in the
politics.
Maybe you know the past year.
So we don't really, you know,but certainly not, as you know,
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running in any as a candidate orrunning for any political
office.
But my husband was just soinfuriated with our
representation for not returningphone calls and he was actually
going to the meetings and hewas raising concerns about
things that were happening andhe just wasn't being heard and
he was just getting more andmore pissed, quite honestly.
And I don't blame him rightBecause, as I said, when we came
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out to Arkansas, the last thingwe wanted Arkansas to see
Arkansas become is littleCalifornia and they were trying
to do a whole lot ofoverreaching, let's just say,
with permitting and all thiscrazy stuff.
So my husband got ticked offHold on a second About ready to
drop my phone anyway.
So he decided to run now andnobody knew him Right, and he's
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running against the, theincumbent, who's?
I think I can't remember howmany terms, I don't remember
what the term limits are on thisposition, but I think it's.
He's been in there for at leasttwo terms, okay, and now is
unopposed, and now is going forhis third.
So they knew him.
Well, my husband kicked butt,let me tell you as a no name, he
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kicked butt and he did sobecause he went out to talk to
the people, and that's what'sreally important to him.
He said you know, if I'm goingto do this right, it's obviously
not for the money, becausethere's no money in it.
Well, you're just not supposedto be money in politics.
But I don't know if you cantell those people in Washington
about that, but supposedlyyou're not right.
Make your money outside ofpolitics and then serve the
people.
But, yeah, well, you knowthat's not how it really happens
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, but in local politics there'sabsolutely no money.
So you know, and that's okay,we knew that.
So, and that's not why we didit Right.
So it was for the people.
And you know, we're very, verypassionate about making sure we
protect Arkansas and do our partin doing that.
So he went out.
Now remember, if you've beenfollowing me, my husband when he
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was at his sickest, lowestpoint two years ago well, that's
not his lowest point, but outof it before I took over his
healing, he couldn't walk, hewas back to almost not being
able to walk at all.
We went to go see a movie andhe could barely walk from the
parking lot into the movietheater and we were parked
pretty like much closest likethe closest parking spot, into
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the sidewalk to get into themovie theater.
He could barely walk it.
And so, um, and then his liverwas, he was having liver issues
and he was starting to getjaundiced and he was starting to
get sick.
And that's when I knew I tookit over.
So just just a little recap onthat.
Um, so that was two years ago,right?
Yes, so he started canvassinglast I'm trying to get all the
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dates right I don't remember Sixmonths ago, whatever it was for
the primaries.
So he literally walked maybe athousand houses and then he had
some excuse me, some folks fromthe local committee to help him
and you know, to pass out his,you know his literature and
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knock on doors.
But he himself walked athousand houses and some of
these places were like ruralarea, right?
I told my husband.
I said you need to get a bigold button that says who you are
from a distance, because peopleout in the country they come
out here because they don't wantpeople on their property, they
want to be left alone, and youknow so when you wear a big old
button so they can see youcoming, you know and, and so
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there's no problems, right?
Anyway, nothing but greatpeople.
In fact, we met so manywonderful people.
He met wonderful people.
Then I got to meet through him.
Ok, anyway, he did great.
He talked to all of you know,like I said, he walked himself a
thousand houses and again, thisis just for local.
So, and then he had, you know,others who helped him out, but
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everyone he talked to, almostall of them didn't know I mean,
maybe about a handful did whothe local politician that my
husband was running against, whohe even was, the local
politician that my husband wasrunning against, who he even was
.
So, anyway, michael was reallyable to make an impact in the
community by doing that andreally being hands-on and
meeting people face-to-face.
And you wouldn't imagine well,you could imagine, but you
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wouldn't believe that howappreciative they were that
someone actually cared about howthey felt, right and taking
their concerns seriously,because it's our concerns too,
we live.
They felt right and takingtheir concerns seriously because
it's our concerns too, we livehere too, right.
So, anyway, so he did lose, buthe only lost by 77 votes, and
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that's huge.
And people were, you know, hedid lose.
Well, yeah, he lost, but 77votes as a no-name compared to
an incumbent who, I think, Ithink it's been two terms that
he ran, that's crazy good.
So, you know, and here's thething, what's interesting is,
you know, my husband then, ofcourse, congratulated, called
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the his opponent, you know whowon and congratulated him, you
know, and and he said, well, hesaid, you know, oh, I think it's
right.
He called him and he said oh,hey, it's great that you
answered your phone Right,because of course, he wasn't
answering his phone previously.
And and the, the winner, right,he said, oh, I'm going to
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answer the phone anytime youcall Michael.
Well, I hope you answer thephone anytime anybody calls you,
right, but anyway.
So, hopefully, what Michaelsaid is hopefully, I kind of,
you know, got him on his toesRight, so he's back into
actually taking care of thepeople and feeling a little bit
more threatened and lesscomfortable.
So he actually gets back on hisjob and that's the important
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part.
But anyway, because he had sucha great success again yeah, he
lost, but by so few votes, andit's because he has such great
success Other folks are lookingto him local politics, local
politicians to help him, helpthem campaign and get some ideas
and so forth and becauseMichael did the analysis and
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realized what his mistake was,went yeah, I, yeah.
So he said you know next time,we, you know.
He figured out what he neededto do differently next time,
which, of course, is always thecase we want to do.
You know, when somethingdoesn't work out our way, we
look at it, we analyze it andfigure out what we can do next
time.
But so, knowing that you know,if he does decide to run again
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and quite honestly I think hewill not, be not necessarily for
that position before anotherposition, but he just doesn't
know what God is calling him todo yet but anyway, so he figured
it out and next time he runs hewill have more experience under
his belt.
But still, 77 votes, that'spretty killer.
So he made such an impact thatother people are asking how did
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you do it?
You know well, people want tohear from you.
Here's the deal politicians,people want to hear from you and
they want to hear from youdirectly, you know.
And whether that's a town hallmeeting, I mean, but a tight one
, not like you know you're goingup there and presenting but
where you can actually stand andmeet the people, talk with the
people and hear their concerns.
You know, I mean, ourpoliticians have gotten so far
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removed from the people thatthey're no longer listening to
them.
I don't care whether you're onthe right or the left, it's just
, it's the same.
And we need to get back toknowing hello, the politician
serves us, not we them.
Right, they're not celebritiesthere are, they work for us,
right.
So, but we treat them likecelebrities.
If you're in Washington, youcertainly get paid like a
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celebrity, and you know it's no.
No, they forget their place andtheir places to serve the
people.
And when they stop doing that,that's when we need to do a
little bit of pushback andthat's when we need to get
involved, and that's what myhusband did, anyway.
So what we did, I'm going nowmoving that story along, and
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let's go right where we were.
We went to a dinner for apolitician I think it was state
politics, I'm not going to namenames again or whatever and, of
course, our wonderful governorwas there and I've been really
happy with her.
This is, you know, governorSanders, right, and I've really
been happy with her, and so Iwas able to meet with her and
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talk with her and I mean shecame in and she came in and did
some great changes, you know, alot of great conservative
changes, which is what we cameto Arkansas for.
Right, if we wanted liberalchanges, we go to California.
We didn't want that, so we cameto Arkansas.
So we're very happy that, whywe came is what we got.
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Uh, time, they did a beautifulsetup and she was there to show
her support for the um, thecandidate that is running for
his position in state.
And, uh, you know, it was justa wonderful, it was nice.
You know, it was just reallycasual.
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Well, yeah, kind of casual, youknow, not quite cocktail, but
not quite business casual alittle in between.
And, uh, you know, horsd'oeuvres and, um, yeah, just
really nice.
Now, how did I?
I did plan for these horsd'oeuvres, talking about
planning, which I wanted to dotoday.
So how did I plan?
I knew that there would bestuff to eat and I knew there
was probably gonna be stuff thatI didn't want to eat and stuff
that really wouldn't be on myplan.
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I'm on stage two gaps, whichyou know is allows other things,
but certainly nothing that wason that table.
So what did I do?
Well, I'll tell you what I did.
I wore an outfit that had atighter waistband and I was so
that when I felt my waistband,it would remind me we do not
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want to pop out of thiswaistband, right, right, and
I've done that before with belts.
Just a reminder.
It's like a little, you know,physical reminder to remind.
Let's just keep it.
So I did eat some.
I had some brisket, I had somemeat, which was delicious, with
a local restaurant here and so Ihad some brisket and that's
really it.
I didn't really I didn't haveanything else really.
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I had some brisket and some.
I think I had some salami and Ihad some cheese.
Now, that's not quite stage twofoods, but you know, you do
what you do where you need to doand you make the best choices
you can make from all theoptions that you have.
But there was no sweets, therewas nothing like that, it was
just meats.
I focused on the meats and theprotein.
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So, and my little tightwaistband, you know, not
uncomfortably tight, but itwould be uncomfortably tight if
I had overeaten.
So that was my little tricklast night, but it was just,
really it was in and out, whichI like even better.
So you know, it was only like atwo hour dinner or hors
d'oeuvres really, um, and meetand greet and ah, which was
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perfect.
It was just like going in,doing all the rounds, meeting
all the people, saying hello andbeing able to leave right away.
And that was kind of always mything.
My husband always makes fun ofme because he's more of the
social butterfly than I am.
You know he is definitely theextrovert.
Extrovert, he likes to get outthere and mingle and be around
the people and chit, chat and doall that.
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And I guess I'm the I callmyself an introvert, but I guess
it's an extrovert.
Introvert I like being outthere, but it can't be too long.
And so whenever I tell myhusband, I would say, when we
had events to go to or, you know, networking events or just
whatever events that I'd say, OK, let's go, let's hurry up and
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go so we can get back.
I was already looking forwardto being back home, um, and he
just laughed oh, yeah, I know,but yeah, so, okay, today let's
get onto what I wanted to chatabout.
And what I wanted to chat aboutis to plan or not to plan, and,
um, you know, and this meanslike actually like taking a
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planner and writing out yourschedule, organizing your day,
organizing your time, and I knowthere are some people that are
like so into it and doing it,and like you know, just to the
nth degree, and there's somethat are just like, no, I don't
plan anything.
So I'll tell you a little bitabout where I fall on that
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spectrum.
Here Is that when I ran my well, actually ever since I was in
college, because when I was incollege, I had already had one
child, and so if I hadn'torganized my time, you know, I
went to school full time, Iworked part time and then, of
course, I had my son and wasmarried.
So I had to organize my timepretty, pretty, pretty rigidly.
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I mean, it was pretty if Iwould not have been able to
graduate like I did with highhonors, if I hadn't with high
honors if I hadn't.
So yeah, planning andorganizing my time and looking
and saying, okay, this is whatto do, or what do you?
You know when you'd get yoursyllabus and I would break it
down and break it down by theweeks, you know, and plan
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backwards where you take thefinal project and you plan
backwards how much you need todo from the end date to where
you are now, how much you needto do each week, or whatever.
Break it down into, uh, smallerportions, right, smaller
segments of time.
So I was a huge planner andthat worked really well.
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Um, and pretty much, I was ahuge planner all the way up
until I left my studio, myperforming arts school, and when
you know, when I left myperforming arts school, I
stopped planning.
Well, I think I told you I wasjust not really in a frame of
mind of knowing what the heck Iwanted to do in my life, so it
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was kind of like what do I planfor?
But I did get involved with aplanning.
There's a very, you know,well-known planner.
You know it's called I'm notgoing to name the name, but it's
a planner company and and youcan learn to become, to train,
to become, to teach how to usethis planner.
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It's a really really in depthplanner, like everything is
planned.
I mean everything is plannedGoals, dreams, key projects,
everything.
So it's really for theprofessional.
It doesn't have to just be usedfor the professional, but it
typically is and it's fororganizations and professionals.
So I thought that's great.
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I mean I love planning right,so I became a trainer because I
thought this would be reallygreat.
I mean I love planning right,so I became a trainer because I
thought this would be reallygreat to teach.
If I want to teach, this isbefore I decided I wanted to
become a coach or thetraditional natural path or
anything.
So I did it.
I was really gung-ho with it forabout six months and then I
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just got so sick of planning Ijust dumped it all.
I was like I'm done.
I am so done with committing,with planning my life and
committing myself to everydetail of my life.
I just got sick of it.
I'm just like this isridiculous.
I mean, if my life has to beplanned to the minute almost,
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then it's.
You know what I'm not living mylife I'm.
If my life has to be planned tothe minute almost, then it's
good, and you know what?
I'm not living my life.
I'm just planning to live, asopposed to actually living.
And I'm not a big on commitment, meaning I will give you the
shirt off my back until youexpect it.
And then when you startexpecting it of me and start
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committing me to something, thenit's like then I start to buck
right.
It's one thing if I'm incontrol of giving, but it's
another thing when you expect me, when you commit me to
something.
Now, nobody's committing me towrite down my daily plan, except
for me.
But just the idea of having towrite everything down at that
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point in my life was just likeI'm not going to do this, this
is ridiculous.
I'm going to live my life.
So for about a year, maybe ayear and a half after that, I
didn't, I didn't plan.
I mean, I was already nowworking and doing all these
things and in my practice, but Iwouldn't write this thing down
in a damn journal.
I was like not going to do itright in a day planner.
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Okay, so I would just dopost-it notes, because to me a
post-it note is yeah, it'snoncommittal, it's a post-it
note, write it down, stick it onmy computer and walk away.
Throw it away, whatever youknow, and I didn't miss any
important things or anythinglike that, right.
But I just the idea of forcingmyself to sit down with a day
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planner you know once a week orwhatever it is and write things
down, I just like no, I'm justnot going to do it.
I just do not want to do that.
That's not my life, justsitting here and planning it.
Okay, so I went from being anextreme planner I mean, I used
to be one of those seriouscalorie counters too, man, I
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would count every single caloriethat went into my body, I mean
I had always written everythingdown but to absolutely refusing
to do any of it.
And now I found a balance.
So why do I find the benefit ofwriting things down?
Well, there's quite a fewbenefits to it, quite honestly,
and you might be someone whoalready understands these
benefits and you might besomeone that's really bucking it
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, like I did, you know, for awhile, but you really are, um,
and you know one thing is itjust helps to keep me on track.
That's pretty simple, right.
It helps me to keep focused.
So I get a, you know, when Iwrite things down and I can look
back on it I can celebrate mywins and it also helps me to
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pre-plan for the future.
So, while that might be mywellness journal, my daily
planner, inside my wellnessjournal, of the foods I will add
the lifestyle activities, Iwill add supplements or whatever
.
You know it does help to keep meon track and then when I really
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feel like I haven't failed orlike I failed or I'm not doing
as well, I can go back to theprevious pages and go, oh, and
show myself how far I've come,whereas if I didn't write that
down, it would just get lost.
You know success usually getslost.
You know we don't remember oursuccesses as well as we remember
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our failures, and so writingour successes down we can look
back and go, oh, you know, Ifeel like I'm not going anywhere
, but look at how far I've gone.
So that helps to help celebrateourselves in the middle of a
quest that we're on, whateverthat quest is.
You know, the other thing thatplanning does is it frees my
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mind to think about otherimportant things and not the
mundane tasks that have to bedone or for the day right.
So you know, when I schedule myday I don't want to have to
think about it.
There's a lot more things Iwant to think about and
contemplate than what am Isupposed to do at 7am, right?
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So writing things down reallyhelps me to free my mind for
creative thinking.
For, you know, creatingchoreography for my dance class
that I'm going to be shootingsoon and putting up virtually,
or whatever my yoga classes, orworking with my clients, or
coming up with new techniques tohelp my clients, whatever it is
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that I can actually free mymind for more fun things than
remembering.
You know, what I need to eat,what I need to do, what's
happening at two o'clock, right,you know all of that.
Write it down, get it off yourbrain and save your brain for
more important tasks and thingsand fun things to do.
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You know I the other thing isthat what I found to writing
things down so I'm not thewriter, the planner, like I used
to be I still plan, but notlike to, like I said, the nth
degree that every minute ofevery day has to be written down
and lived by, you know?
No, like it's a religion, no,right, I write it down.
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So here's my process forplanning.
Now I start off with a cleanslate.
The first thing I do is, I lookat my schedule and what is
always reoccurring.
If that works for me and Idon't want to change it, I just
write it down in the planner,right, I have my ideal week and
I write that down.
So what I know I doconsistently over and over and
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over again, you know, maybe mywake up time, or I go to the gym
at a certain time, or whateverit is things that are already
routine in my life.
Well, that's easy, that you justwrite that down, just throw it
in, you know, into the plannerand then from there I just start
living my life and if I add newthings, I go let's try it,
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maybe it might fit at this time,right, and looking at what my
schedule already is, based onwhat I'm already doing, and if
it doesn't work and I move it toa different time and try and
experiment with a different time.
It's all an experiment.
That's why I keep it light,keep it all an experiment.
Then, once I find the area inmy life where that activity fits
, ah, okay, that goes in theplanner and I do that.
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For, you know, any activity orwhatever I'm doing or whatever
I'm trying to add into my life,I first start adding it, seeing
if it works well, and then, ifit works at that time, I put it
in the planner and then that'seasy.
That way you're not sittinghere contemplating, okay, what
should I do at eight, and thenokay, and then at nine, and then
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you know all this and then whathappens?
You spend all this time.
This is the frustrating part,at least it was for me.
You spend all this timepre-planning your plan, time
pre-planning your plan, and then, when you get to the day of the
planning or we get to that time, it doesn't work and you're
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like I just spent all this timeand it didn't work.
So write down your routine as isthat is working for you.
That goes in your planner, andthen, as you start to add new
things or do new things,experiment with times and days
or whatever experiment where youwant to put it.
When you find the space in yourdaily routine or weekly routine
that works, then put it in yourplanner and work it that way,
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because I find then you aredirecting the planner instead of
you feeling the plannerdirecting you, directing the
planner instead of you feelingthe planner directing you,
because I think that's part ofthe problem with planning is, we
feel that our daily planner isnow the boss of us and if you
remember, I talked.
You know we don't like beingtold what to do.
I think I said that in a pastpodcast.
We don't like to be told whatto do.
Don't tell me what to do.
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And then when we put everythingdown on our planner and then we
got, then it feels like theplanner is our boss and that's
not the way it should be.
We should be the boss of ourplanner.
So I think for me you knowbeing like the commitment phobe
I'm not going to do that um isdoing it that way, right,
figuring it out first in realtime what works, what doesn't
work in that, in what slot, andthen putting it in the planner,
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and then that way the planner isserving me, even if it's just
mental.
This is all mental, this isjust all perception, as opposed
to me thinking or feeling orperceiving that, um, you know
I'm, I, the planner iscontrolling me, and instead now
I feel like I'm controlling theplanner.
I hope that makes sense, youknow, and so.
But planning is a good thing todo and the nice thing I find is
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that once I find a routine thatworks.
You just have to write downonce.
Now, of course you have likethings like meetings or whatever
that might change.
You know, you know at times orwhatever, but a lot of them base
really the majority of your day.
You know the majority ofpeople's day from my experience
with the people I work with,people I meet and myself.
The majority of people's day,from my experience, or the
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people I work with, people Imeet and myself, the majority of
the day is pretty much just onrepeat.
It's like Groundhog Day.
I mean you're just pretty muchdoing the same thing getting up
at the same time, you know,going at the same time to the
same place, maybe for work orwhatever it is.
You're pretty much repeatingthis same thing.
And then of course, you haveadditions, right, but it's
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pretty much the same.
I would say 80% of our scheduleis pretty consistent.
It doesn't mean it doesn'tchange right, routines do change
but it does mean you build aroutine and it's pretty much
consistent.
So once you have thatconsistent routine, then it's
like, okay, you don't have tothink about it so much anymore.
Again, you have to write downnew meetings or new things that
come up, or you know holidays orbirthdays or birthdays even
those are routine, right, youget those into the calendar once
you're done, but once you knowso, when new things come up,
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sure they have to be placed in,but unless you have a whole
routine change, you're prettymuch good once it's set.
And then, yeah, I have had myroutines changed quite, you know
, quite often.
Not quite often, I shouldn'tsay quite often, but I have had
them done often.
I mean, the last time I had myhuge routine change is when my
daughter and grandbaby, when shejust had the first grandbaby
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and was pregnant with her second, came to stay with us for a
while and I, because she waspregnant, I wanted to help out
and I wanted to, and of course Iwanted the time with the baby
too, so I would get up and bewith the baby so my daughter
could sleep in.
Anyway, when I had on myschedule before they came to
visit that I got up at 5 am andI did some, you know, did my
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prayers and so forth, but then Iwould actually do some work and
so forth, but then I wouldactually do some work and um,
but little one.
When she came to stay with us,well, she got up at seven, and
so I never could get everythingdone that I wanted to get done.
So I had to make it routinechange.
And so the way I made a routinechange is I moved my wake up
time to four and that gave methe same amount of time that I
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needed to work before baby gotup Right.
And now baby is gone, right,and I still have decided.
You know, 4am is still good, soI kept that routine.
So, yes, things change and youhave to kind of work it around,
but once you have it set, it'syours right, not much to do.
So you know, if you're one thathas kind of been bucking, you
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know, resisting planning, justyou know, start with post-it
notes, you know, because ifyou're finding that you're late
where you go or you missappointments or shoot your
double book that's I've had alot of folks who've had problems
with that when not planning Ijust say you know what, just
start with post-it notes.
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Start with post-it notes, putyour post-it notes somewhere
where you'll see it every day.
It's a post-it note, you know.
And then just deal with post-itnotes or write it in a planner
and pencil.
I mean it's just the feeling ofgoing, yeah, I could do this or
I don't have to, you know, andit gives you a sense of freedom,
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right?
It's just mind games that we'replaying with ourselves.
That's okay.
Sometimes we need to play thosemind games, all right.
Anyway, that's it for today.
Just a quick rundown of what I'mgoing to be doing.
I'm going to be starting stagethree in gaps, and what is that?
Let me tell you a little bitabout what is in stage three.
So it's all the same foods instage one and two, but a few
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things are added.
New Mashed avocado is addedinto my soups.
I also get to get to.
I can do this anytime I want,but add in nut butter pancakes,
Yum.
So this is the first area wherewe start to bring in some of the
higher carbohydrate foods likenuts, right, and you start with
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nut butter pancakes.
You can make your own nutbutter or just buy a good source
as also an option, and youstart with source is also an
option and you start with makingnut butter pancakes.
This is when, cooking, youstart to have a little more
challenge in your cooking.
So at this point, from thispoint, we've been doing stocks
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and we've been doing soups andcasseroles, and all of these
have a lot of, much more easierto digest because they're cooked
in water.
Now, at this point, we arestarting to eat fried or
scrambled eggs instead of justthe whole egg dropped in a soup.
Now we're scrambling it, whichmakes it a little more difficult
to digest, right?
And then this is where you startto not just drink the brine,
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but now also eat the fermentedvegetables.
So previously I've beendrinking the liquid, the brine,
the liquid from my sauerkraut,or what's called cabbage tonic,
and from my fermented drinks.
Right now, I'm going toactually start eating the
fermented vegetables.
Yes, so that's the change instage three.
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All right, I'll let you knowhow it all goes.
Have a beautiful day, and planor not to plan, that's up to you
.
Post a note, not to post a note, but you know, see, if your
life doesn't get just a littlemore freer, quite honestly, by
writing it down, instead ofhaving to think about it and
chaining yourself to oh gosh, Idon't know what I'm supposed to
do here.
Right, it actually can bepretty freeing to plan than to
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not to plan.
All right, have a beautiful day.
Bye-bye.
Welcome to Burn the Boats baby.
This is S Parviz, holisticHealth Specialist, life Energy
Healing and Relationship Coach,and today we are going to ask
the question to plan or not toplan?
That is the question.
Alright, but first just a quicklittle update.
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I think I mentioned that wewent to a dinner where the
governor was going to be andspeaking.
This is election time, as youall know, I think you all know,
so of course everybody isgetting out there and doing
their canvassing and Michael, myhusband, is actually helping a
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lot of folks with their campaign.
Just a quick background.
So when we came out here toArkansas I think I mentioned my
husband I dropped the politicsbecause I just was kind of
getting into a dark place.
And my husband kind of pickedit up and ran with it and he
decided he was really not happywith our local representation
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out here because he would emailand he would, you know, call or
whatever, and they would not.
He would not pick up the localrepresentation that he's talking
, where I'm talking about I'mnot going to give names or
anything like that but wouldn'tpick up, and so he got really
frustrated.
My husband did, and so myhusband said well, you know what
.
I'm just going to run againsthim in the primary.
So nobody knew.
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You know, we've only been outhere three years and we've only
really been involved.
Oh, my husband, when I say wereally he has only really been
involved in politics, well, I'mbehind him and kind of
supporting him.
So it is a we Okay, we haveonly really been involved in the
politics.
Maybe you know the past year.
So we don't really, you know,but certainly not, as you know,
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running in any as a candidate orrunning for any political
office.
But my husband was just soinfuriated with our
representation for not returningphone calls and he was actually
going to the meetings and hewas raising concerns about
things that were happening andhe just wasn't being heard and
he was just getting more andmore pissed, quite honestly.
And I don't blame him rightBecause, as I said, when we came
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out to Arkansas, the last thingwe wanted Arkansas to see
Arkansas become is littleCalifornia and they were trying
to do a whole lot ofoverreaching, let's just say,
with permitting and all thiscrazy stuff.
So my husband got ticked offHold on a second About ready to
drop my phone anyway.
So he decided to run now andnobody knew him Right, and he's
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running against the, theincumbent, who's?
I think I can't remember howmany terms, I don't remember
what the term limits are on thisposition, but I think it's.
He's been in there for at leasttwo terms, okay, and now is
unopposed, and now is going forhis third.
So they knew him.
Well, my husband kicked butt,let me tell you as a no name, he
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kicked butt and he did sobecause he went out to talk to
the people, and that's what'sreally important to him.
He said you know, if I'm goingto do this right, it's obviously
not for the money, becausethere's no money in it.
Well, you're just not supposedto be money in politics.
But I don't know if you cantell those people in Washington
about that, but supposedlyyou're not right.
Make your money outside ofpolitics and then serve the
people.
But, yeah, well, you knowthat's not how it really happens
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, but in local politics there'sabsolutely no money.
So you know, and that's okay,we knew that.
So, and that's not why we didit Right.
So it was for the people.
And you know, we're very, verypassionate about making sure we
protect Arkansas and do our partin doing that.
So he went out.
Now remember, if you've beenfollowing me, my husband when he
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was at his sickest, lowestpoint two years ago well, that's
not his lowest point, but outof it before I took over his
healing, he couldn't walk, hewas back to almost not being
able to walk at all.
We went to go see a movie andhe could barely walk from the
parking lot into the movietheater and we were parked
pretty like much closest likethe closest parking spot, into
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the sidewalk to get into themovie theater.
He could barely walk it.
And so, um, and then his liverwas, he was having liver issues
and he was starting to getjaundiced and he was starting to
get sick.
And that's when I knew I tookit over.
So just just a little recap onthat.
Um, so that was two years ago,right?
Yes, so he started canvassinglast I'm trying to get all the
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dates right I don't remember Sixmonths ago, whatever it was for
the primaries.
So he literally walked maybe athousand houses and then he had
some excuse me, some folks fromthe local committee to help him
and you know, to pass out his,you know his literature and
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knock on doors.
But he himself walked athousand houses and some of
these places were like ruralarea, right?
I told my husband.
I said you need to get a bigold button that says who you are
from a distance, because peopleout in the country they come
out here because they don't wantpeople on their property, they
want to be left alone, and youknow so when you wear a big old
button so they can see youcoming, you know and, and so
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there's no problems, right?
Anyway, nothing but greatpeople.
In fact, we met so manywonderful people.
He met wonderful people.
Then I got to meet through him.
Ok, anyway, he did great.
He talked to all of you know,like I said, he walked himself a
thousand houses and again, thisis just for local.
So, and then he had, you know,others who helped him out, but
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everyone he talked to, almostall of them didn't know I mean,
maybe about a handful did whothe local politician that my
husband was running against, whohe even was, the local
politician that my husband wasrunning against, who he even was
.
So, anyway, michael was reallyable to make an impact in the
community by doing that andreally being hands-on and
meeting people face-to-face.
And you wouldn't imagine well,you could imagine, but you
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wouldn't believe that howappreciative they were that
someone actually cared about howthey felt, right and taking
their concerns seriously,because it's our concerns too,
we live.
They felt right and takingtheir concerns seriously because
it's our concerns too, we livehere too, right.
So, anyway, so he did lose, buthe only lost by 77 votes, and
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that's huge.
And people were, you know, hedid lose.
Well, yeah, he lost, but 77votes as a no-name compared to
an incumbent who, I think, Ithink it's been two terms that
he ran, that's crazy good.
So, you know, and here's thething, what's interesting is,
you know, my husband then, ofcourse, congratulated, called
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the his opponent, you know whowon and congratulated him, you
know, and and he said, well, hesaid, you know, oh, I think it's
right.
He called him and he said oh,hey, it's great that you
answered your phone Right,because of course, he wasn't
answering his phone previously.
And and the, the winner, right,he said, oh, I'm going to
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answer the phone anytime youcall Michael.
Well, I hope you answer thephone anytime anybody calls you,
right, but anyway.
So, hopefully, what Michaelsaid is hopefully, I kind of,
you know, got him on his toesRight, so he's back into
actually taking care of thepeople and feeling a little bit
more threatened and lesscomfortable.
So he actually gets back on hisjob and that's the important
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part.
But anyway, because he had sucha great success again yeah, he
lost, but by so few votes, andit's because he has such great
success Other folks are lookingto him local politics, local
politicians to help him, helpthem campaign and get some ideas
and so forth and becauseMichael did the analysis and
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realized what his mistake was,went yeah, I, yeah.
So he said you know next time,we, you know.
He figured out what he neededto do differently next time,
which, of course, is always thecase we want to do.
You know, when somethingdoesn't work out our way, we
look at it, we analyze it andfigure out what we can do next
time.
But so, knowing that you know,if he does decide to run again
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and quite honestly I think hewill not, be not necessarily for
that position before anotherposition, but he just doesn't
know what God is calling him todo yet but anyway, so he figured
it out and next time he runs hewill have more experience under
his belt.
But still, 77 votes, that'spretty killer.
So he made such an impact thatother people are asking how did
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you do it?
You know well, people want tohear from you.
Here's the deal politicians,people want to hear from you and
they want to hear from youdirectly, you know.
And whether that's a town hallmeeting, I mean, but a tight one
, not like you know you're goingup there and presenting but
where you can actually stand andmeet the people, talk with the
people and hear their concerns.
You know, I mean, ourpoliticians have gotten so far
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removed from the people thatthey're no longer listening to
them.
I don't care whether you're onthe right or the left, it's just
, it's the same.
And we need to get back toknowing hello, the politician
serves us, not we them.
Right, they're not celebritiesthere are, they work for us,
right.
So, but we treat them likecelebrities.
If you're in Washington, youcertainly get paid like a
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celebrity, and you know it's no.
No, they forget their place andtheir places to serve the
people.
And when they stop doing that,that's when we need to do a
little bit of pushback andthat's when we need to get
involved, and that's what myhusband did, anyway.
So what we did, I'm going nowmoving that story along, and
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let's go right where we were.
We went to a dinner for apolitician I think it was state
politics, I'm not going to namenames again or whatever and, of
course, our wonderful governorwas there and I've been really
happy with her.
This is, you know, governorSanders, right, and I've really
been happy with her, and so Iwas able to meet with her and
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talk with her and I mean shecame in and she came in and did
some great changes, you know, alot of great conservative
changes, which is what we cameto Arkansas for.
Right, if we wanted liberalchanges, we go to California.
We didn't want that, so we cameto Arkansas.
So we're very happy that, whywe came is what we got.
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Uh, time, they did a beautifulsetup and she was there to show
her support for the um, thecandidate that is running for
his position in state.
And, uh, you know, it was justa wonderful, it was nice.
You know, it was just reallycasual.
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Well, yeah, kind of casual, youknow, not quite cocktail, but
not quite business casual alittle in between.
And, uh, you know, horsd'oeuvres and, um, yeah, just
really nice.
Now, how did I?
I did plan for these horsd'oeuvres, talking about
planning, which I wanted to dotoday.
So how did I plan?
I knew that there would bestuff to eat and I knew there
was probably gonna be stuff thatI didn't want to eat and stuff
that really wouldn't be on myplan.
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I'm on stage two gaps, whichyou know is allows other things,
but certainly nothing that wason that table.
So what did I do?
Well, I'll tell you what I did.
I wore an outfit that had atighter waistband and I was so
that when I felt my waistband,it would remind me we do not
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want to pop out of thiswaistband, right, right, and
I've done that before with belts.
Just a reminder.
It's like a little, you know,physical reminder to remind.
Let's just keep it.
So I did eat some.
I had some brisket, I had somemeat, which was delicious, with
a local restaurant here and so Ihad some brisket and that's
really it.
I didn't really I didn't haveanything else really.
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I had some brisket and some.
I think I had some salami and Ihad some cheese.
Now, that's not quite stage twofoods, but you know, you do
what you do where you need to doand you make the best choices
you can make from all theoptions that you have.
But there was no sweets, therewas nothing like that, it was
just meats.
I focused on the meats and theprotein.
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So, and my little tightwaistband, you know, not
uncomfortably tight, but itwould be uncomfortably tight if
I had overeaten.
So that was my little tricklast night, but it was just,
really it was in and out, whichI like even better.
So you know, it was only like atwo hour dinner or hors
d'oeuvres really, um, and meetand greet and ah, which was
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perfect.
It was just like going in,doing all the rounds, meeting
all the people, saying hello andbeing able to leave right away.
And that was kind of always mything.
My husband always makes fun ofme because he's more of the
social butterfly than I am.
You know he is definitely theextrovert.
Extrovert, he likes to get outthere and mingle and be around
the people and chit, chat and doall that.
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And I guess I'm the I callmyself an introvert, but I guess
it's an extrovert.
Introvert I like being outthere, but it can't be too long.
And so whenever I tell myhusband, I would say, when we
had events to go to or, you know, networking events or just
whatever events that I'd say, OK, let's go, let's hurry up and
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go so we can get back.
I was already looking forwardto being back home, um, and he
just laughed oh, yeah, I know,but yeah, so, okay, today let's
get onto what I wanted to chatabout.
And what I wanted to chat aboutis to plan or not to plan, and,
um, you know, and this meanslike actually like taking a
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planner and writing out yourschedule, organizing your day,
organizing your time, and I knowthere are some people that are
like so into it and doing it,and like you know, just to the
nth degree, and there's somethat are just like, no, I don't
plan anything.
So I'll tell you a little bitabout where I fall on that
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spectrum.
Here Is that when I ran my well, actually ever since I was in
college, because when I was incollege, I had already had one
child, and so if I hadn'torganized my time, you know, I
went to school full time, Iworked part time and then, of
course, I had my son and wasmarried.
So I had to organize my timepretty, pretty, pretty rigidly.
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I mean, it was pretty if Iwould not have been able to
graduate like I did with highhonors, if I hadn't with high
honors if I hadn't.
So yeah, planning andorganizing my time and looking
and saying, okay, this is whatto do, or what do you?
You know when you'd get yoursyllabus and I would break it
down and break it down by theweeks, you know, and plan
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backwards where you take thefinal project and you plan
backwards how much you need todo from the end date to where
you are now, how much you needto do each week, or whatever.
Break it down into, uh, smallerportions, right, smaller
segments of time.
So I was a huge planner andthat worked really well.
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Um, and pretty much, I was ahuge planner all the way up
until I left my studio, myperforming arts school, and when
you know, when I left myperforming arts school, I
stopped planning.
Well, I think I told you I wasjust not really in a frame of
mind of knowing what the heck Iwanted to do in my life, so it
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was kind of like what do I planfor?
But I did get involved with aplanning.
There's a very, you know,well-known planner.
You know it's called I'm notgoing to name the name, but it's
a planner company and and youcan learn to become, to train,
to become, to teach how to usethis planner.
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It's a really really in depthplanner, like everything is
planned.
I mean everything is plannedGoals, dreams, key projects,
everything.
So it's really for theprofessional.
It doesn't have to just be usedfor the professional, but it
typically is and it's fororganizations and professionals.
So I thought that's great.
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I mean I love planning right,so I became a trainer because I
thought this would be reallygreat.
I mean I love planning right,so I became a trainer because I
thought this would be reallygreat to teach.
If I want to teach, this isbefore I decided I wanted to
become a coach or thetraditional natural path or
anything.
So I did it.
I was really gung-ho with it forabout six months and then I
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just got so sick of planning Ijust dumped it all.
I was like I'm done.
I am so done with committing,with planning my life and
committing myself to everydetail of my life.
I just got sick of it.
I'm just like this isridiculous.
I mean, if my life has to beplanned to the minute almost,
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then it's.
You know what I'm not living mylife I'm.
If my life has to be planned tothe minute almost, then it's
good, and you know what?
I'm not living my life.
I'm just planning to live, asopposed to actually living.
And I'm not a big on commitment, meaning I will give you the
shirt off my back until youexpect it.
And then when you startexpecting it of me and start
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committing me to something, thenit's like then I start to buck
right.
It's one thing if I'm incontrol of giving, but it's
another thing when you expect me, when you commit me to
something.
Now, nobody's committing me towrite down my daily plan, except
for me.
But just the idea of having towrite everything down at that
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point in my life was just likeI'm not going to do this, this
is ridiculous.
I'm going to live my life.
So for about a year, maybe ayear and a half after that, I
didn't, I didn't plan.
I mean, I was already nowworking and doing all these
things and in my practice, but Iwouldn't write this thing down
in a damn journal.
I was like not going to do itright in a day planner.
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Okay, so I would just dopost-it notes, because to me a
post-it note is yeah, it'snoncommittal, it's a post-it
note, write it down, stick it onmy computer and walk away.
Throw it away, whatever youknow, and I didn't miss any
important things or anythinglike that, right.
But I just the idea of forcingmyself to sit down with a day
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planner you know once a week orwhatever it is and write things
down, I just like no, I'm justnot going to do it.
I just do not want to do that.
That's not my life, justsitting here and planning it.
Okay, so I went from being anextreme planner I mean, I used
to be one of those seriouscalorie counters too, man, I
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would count every single caloriethat went into my body, I mean
I had always written everythingdown but to absolutely refusing
to do any of it.
And now I found a balance.
So why do I find the benefit ofwriting things down?
Well, there's quite a fewbenefits to it, quite honestly,
and you might be someone whoalready understands these
benefits and you might besomeone that's really bucking it
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, like I did, you know, for awhile, but you really are, um,
and you know one thing is itjust helps to keep me on track.
That's pretty simple, right.
It helps me to keep focused.
So I get a, you know, when Iwrite things down and I can look
back on it I can celebrate mywins and it also helps me to
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pre-plan for the future.
So, while that might be mywellness journal, my daily
planner, inside my wellnessjournal, of the foods I will add
the lifestyle activities, Iwill add supplements or whatever
.
You know it does help to keep meon track and then when I really
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feel like I haven't failed orlike I failed or I'm not doing
as well, I can go back to theprevious pages and go, oh, and
show myself how far I've come,whereas if I didn't write that
down, it would just get lost.
You know success usually getslost.
You know we don't remember oursuccesses as well as we remember
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our failures, and so writingour successes down we can look
back and go, oh, you know, Ifeel like I'm not going anywhere
, but look at how far I've gone.
So that helps to help celebrateourselves in the middle of a
quest that we're on, whateverthat quest is.
You know, the other thing thatplanning does is it frees my
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mind to think about otherimportant things and not the
mundane tasks that have to bedone or for the day right.
So you know, when I schedule myday I don't want to have to
think about it.
There's a lot more things Iwant to think about and
contemplate than what am Isupposed to do at 7am, right?
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So writing things down reallyhelps me to free my mind for
creative thinking.
For, you know, creatingchoreography for my dance class
that I'm going to be shootingsoon and putting up virtually,
or whatever my yoga classes, orworking with my clients, or
coming up with new techniques tohelp my clients, whatever it is
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that I can actually free mymind for more fun things than
remembering.
You know, what I need to eat,what I need to do, what's
happening at two o'clock, right,you know all of that.
Write it down, get it off yourbrain and save your brain for
more important tasks and thingsand fun things to do.
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You know I the other thing isthat what I found to writing
things down so I'm not thewriter, the planner, like I used
to be I still plan, but notlike to, like I said, the nth
degree that every minute ofevery day has to be written down
and lived by, you know?
No, like it's a religion, no,right, I write it down.
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So here's my process forplanning.
Now I start off with a cleanslate.
The first thing I do is, I lookat my schedule and what is
always reoccurring.
If that works for me and Idon't want to change it, I just
write it down in the planner,right, I have my ideal week and
I write that down.
So what I know I doconsistently over and over and
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over again, you know, maybe mywake up time, or I go to the gym
at a certain time, or whateverit is things that are already
routine in my life.
Well, that's easy, that you justwrite that down, just throw it
in, you know, into the plannerand then from there I just start
living my life and if I add newthings, I go let's try it,
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maybe it might fit at this time,right, and looking at what my
schedule already is, based onwhat I'm already doing, and if
it doesn't work and I move it toa different time and try and
experiment with a different time.
It's all an experiment.
That's why I keep it light,keep it all an experiment.
Then, once I find the area inmy life where that activity fits
, ah, okay, that goes in theplanner and I do that.
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For, you know, any activity orwhatever I'm doing or whatever
I'm trying to add into my life,I first start adding it, seeing
if it works well, and then, ifit works at that time, I put it
in the planner and then that'seasy.
That way you're not sittinghere contemplating, okay, what
should I do at eight, and thenokay, and then at nine, and then
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you know all this and then whathappens?
You spend all this time.
This is the frustrating part,at least it was for me.
You spend all this timepre-planning your plan, time
pre-planning your plan, and then, when you get to the day of the
planning or we get to that time, it doesn't work and you're
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like I just spent all this timeand it didn't work.
So write down your routine as isthat is working for you.
That goes in your planner, andthen, as you start to add new
things or do new things,experiment with times and days
or whatever experiment where youwant to put it.
When you find the space in yourdaily routine or weekly routine
that works, then put it in yourplanner and work it that way,
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because I find then you aredirecting the planner instead of
you feeling the plannerdirecting you, directing the
planner instead of you feelingthe planner directing you,
because I think that's part ofthe problem with planning is, we
feel that our daily planner isnow the boss of us and if you
remember, I talked.
You know we don't like beingtold what to do.
I think I said that in a pastpodcast.
We don't like to be told whatto do.
Don't tell me what to do.
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And then when we put everythingdown on our planner and then we
got, then it feels like theplanner is our boss and that's
not the way it should be.
We should be the boss of ourplanner.
So I think for me you knowbeing like the commitment phobe
I'm not going to do that um isdoing it that way, right,
figuring it out first in realtime what works, what doesn't
work in that, in what slot, andthen putting it in the planner,
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and then that way the planner isserving me, even if it's just
mental.
This is all mental, this isjust all perception, as opposed
to me thinking or feeling orperceiving that, um, you know
I'm, I, the planner iscontrolling me, and instead now
I feel like I'm controlling theplanner.
I hope that makes sense, youknow, and so.
But planning is a good thing todo and the nice thing I find is
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that once I find a routine thatworks.
You just have to write downonce.
Now, of course you have likethings like meetings or whatever
that might change.
You know, you know at times orwhatever, but a lot of them base
really the majority of your day.
You know the majority ofpeople's day from my experience
with the people I work with,people I meet and myself.
The majority of people's day,from my experience, or the
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people I work with, people Imeet and myself, the majority of
the day is pretty much just onrepeat.
It's like Groundhog Day.
I mean you're just pretty muchdoing the same thing getting up
at the same time, you know,going at the same time to the
same place, maybe for work orwhatever it is.
You're pretty much repeatingthis same thing.
And then of course, you haveadditions, right, but it's
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pretty much the same.
I would say 80% of our scheduleis pretty consistent.
It doesn't mean it doesn'tchange right, routines do change
but it does mean you build aroutine and it's pretty much
consistent.
So once you have thatconsistent routine, then it's
like, okay, you don't have tothink about it so much anymore.
Again, you have to write downnew meetings or new things that
come up, or you know holidays orbirthdays or birthdays even
those are routine, right, youget those into the calendar once
you're done, but once you knowso, when new things come up,
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sure they have to be placed in,but unless you have a whole
routine change, you're prettymuch good once it's set.
And then, yeah, I have had myroutines changed quite, you know
, quite often.
Not quite often, I shouldn'tsay quite often, but I have had
them done often.
I mean, the last time I had myhuge routine change is when my
daughter and grandbaby, when shejust had the first grandbaby
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and was pregnant with her second, came to stay with us for a
while and I, because she waspregnant, I wanted to help out
and I wanted to, and of course Iwanted the time with the baby
too, so I would get up and bewith the baby so my daughter
could sleep in.
Anyway, when I had on myschedule before they came to
visit that I got up at 5 am andI did some, you know, did my
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prayers and so forth, but then Iwould actually do some work and
so forth, but then I wouldactually do some work and um,
but little one.
When she came to stay with us,well, she got up at seven, and
so I never could get everythingdone that I wanted to get done.
So I had to make it routinechange.
And so the way I made a routinechange is I moved my wake up
time to four and that gave methe same amount of time that I
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needed to work before baby gotup Right.
And now baby is gone, right,and I still have decided.
You know, 4am is still good, soI kept that routine.
So, yes, things change and youhave to kind of work it around,
but once you have it set, it'syours right, not much to do.
So you know, if you're one thathas kind of been bucking, you
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know, resisting planning, justyou know, start with post-it
notes, you know, because ifyou're finding that you're late
where you go or you missappointments or shoot your
double book that's I've had alot of folks who've had problems
with that when not planning Ijust say you know what, just
start with post-it notes.
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Start with post-it notes, putyour post-it notes somewhere
where you'll see it every day.
It's a post-it note, you know.
And then just deal with post-itnotes or write it in a planner
and pencil.
I mean it's just the feeling ofgoing, yeah, I could do this or
I don't have to, you know, andit gives you a sense of freedom,
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right?
It's just mind games that we'replaying with ourselves.
That's okay.
Sometimes we need to play thosemind games, all right.
Anyway, that's it for today.
Just a quick rundown of what I'mgoing to be doing.
I'm going to be starting stagethree in gaps, and what is that?
Let me tell you a little bitabout what is in stage three.
So it's all the same foods instage one and two, but a few
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things are added.
New Mashed avocado is addedinto my soups.
I also get to get to.
I can do this anytime I want,but add in nut butter pancakes,
Yum.
So this is the first area wherewe start to bring in some of the
higher carbohydrate foods likenuts, right, and you start with
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nut butter pancakes.
You can make your own nutbutter or just buy a good source
as also an option, and youstart with source is also an
option and you start with makingnut butter pancakes.
This is when, cooking, youstart to have a little more
challenge in your cooking.
So at this point, from thispoint, we've been doing stocks
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and we've been doing soups andcasseroles, and all of these
have a lot of, much more easierto digest because they're cooked
in water.
Now, at this point, we arestarting to eat fried or
scrambled eggs instead of justthe whole egg dropped in a soup.
Now we're scrambling it, whichmakes it a little more difficult
to digest, right?
And then this is where you startto not just drink the brine,
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but now also eat the fermentedvegetables.
So previously I've beendrinking the liquid, the brine,
the liquid from my sauerkraut,or what's called cabbage tonic,
and from my fermented drinks.
Right now, I'm going toactually start eating the
fermented vegetables.
Yes, so that's the change instage three.
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All right, I'll let you knowhow it all goes.
Have a beautiful day, and planor not to plan, that's up to you
.
Post a note, not to post a note, but you know, see, if your
life doesn't get just a littlemore freer, quite honestly, by
writing it down, instead ofhaving to think about it and
chaining yourself to oh gosh, Idon't know what I'm supposed to
do here.
Right, it actually can bepretty freeing to plan than to
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not to plan.
All right, have a beautiful day.
Bye-bye.
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