October 8, 2024 • 24 mins
Join me and my adventurous kitty, Bonnie Blue, as we wander down our path and unpack the story behind our move from California to Arkansas and to finding our dream home.
Learn about my professional path as a strategic interventionist, naturopath, and herbalist, and how empowering others lies at the heart of my mission. Get inspired by the "string metaphor exercise," a simple yet profound technique to strengthen positive habits and discard negative ones.
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Sharise Parviz (00:01):
Hey, all right, here we are on a morning walk
and the birds are singing.
Listen to that.
I hope you can hear that.
Yeah, the birds are chirpingaway, the leaves are turning
colors.
Me and Bonnie Blue, my kittywe're all going for a walk down
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our lane.
My kitty is we're all going fora walk down our lane and we
have a beautiful.
I said to you, my property is ablessing and I, you know, 55
years old and I have theproperty of my dreams and I'm so
thankful for it.
It was just to me, it was amiracle that we found this,
because we looked everywhere fora property and everything just
(00:44):
wasn't like what we wanted.
You know, we wanted something.
It was so funny.
We wanted something that wasnot too far from town.
Okay, so I had a lot of.
I guess you could talk aboutmanifestation.
I really don't like the termmanifestation.
It's a little woo woo for me,and even though I'm an energy
healing coach, I'm actually veryanalytical and only decided to
go into energy healing when Istarted understanding the
(01:05):
science behind some of these.
And you know the science that'scoming out in the research.
Okay, let me not go there,let's go back to where we're
going.
So, um, we came to arkansas andwe thought, well, we'll stay
here for about a year, right, wehadn't even decided if we were
going to land here and stay here, but it was.
My husband is very much I.
I mean he, you know, he's.
He's in technology, he's atechnological architect I have
(01:28):
no idea what that is.
He does a lot of governmentcontracts.
He's independent, but he does alot of government contracts,
and but I have no idea what itis that he does.
So it's like I know he can keepmy machines running, okay, and
keep my website and going and doall the things that I have no
idea how to do.
Anyway, but we stayed out herein an apartment.
(01:49):
Well, we stayed in a hotel fortwo months and then an apartment
for a year and we were lookingat properties and everything was
like eh, eh, eh, eh, right.
So I had requirements for aproperty I had that had to be 30
minutes from town, because, I'msorry, you know, I grew up in
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the inner city, I grew up in thehood and I'm just, you know, a
city girl at heart and I don'twant to be too far from my cup
of coffee in the morning.
So, you know, I just like goinginto town, I like being in the
city, but so it had to be, atleast you know, no more, sorry,
no more than a half an hour awayfrom town.
Okay, but it had to be.
It had to be rural and awayfrom people, but yet I could
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still get into town and be nearpeople when I wanted to be.
But a half an hour, that's allI wanted.
Half an hour drive.
I also wanted I didn't wantflatland, I wanted more, uh,
topography, more more valleysand hills and things like that.
Okay, that was, those are mythings that I want, and and I
wanted a home.
That was done, which I didn'tget, but that's okay, it's, it's
(02:56):
getting done now.
But, um, so those were the myrequirements.
My husband's requirements isthat it was the property had to
be off a paved road, right?
I mean, we drove around some ofthese areas and like, oh my
gosh, some of the roads were sohard to get in and out.
Of.
So he said, no, I want to be ona main, be off of a main paved
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road, okay.
So we looked for a year.
Well, yeah, up and down lookedand again we decided.
Really, we decided within acouple of months of being here.
We looked around, we checked itout, we were paying attention.
My husband had done all theanalysis.
He looked at the politics, helooked at the rights,
specifically First Amendmentrights, second Amendment rights.
He looked at all of thesethings and Arkansas came up
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pretty high on the list for whatwe wanted in our lives.
Plus, northwest Arkansas isnice because it has a lot of
business, a lot of work, and sowe had hoped that, okay, if we
land here and our family wantsto come here, there's work here,
there's a lot of work here andWalmart is here.
(04:05):
There's like five differentFortune 500 companies in
Arkansas and I think like threeor four of them are up here in
Northwest Arkansas, which iswhere we are.
Okay.
So, and you know my family, alot of my family well, two of my
kids are in California, whichis ridiculous for so many
different reasons.
So if they ever need a place toland, they can land here, find
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good work and not be tooexpensive, be able to, you know,
afford a home, which you knowin California forget it, I mean,
it's so hard there at leastwhere we were living, which is
Silicon Valley and San Jose, youknow anything like that.
It's just ridiculous.
And I don't know who wants tobe in California anyway.
I'm sorry, if you live, I meanI don't we.
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I spent 20 years there.
I loved it when I first movedthere and then it all went to
pot so, and my husband was bornand raised there and he just saw
it you know he talks about it alot because he saw it going
from a beautiful, you know town,country, country, towns, rural
area of cherry trees andorchards and all that to
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becoming, you know, the cementjungle of technology.
So by the time we moved away,we were just ready to move away.
And after the wholerestrictions of Newsom and the
restrictions that they put onfor COVID which, quite honestly,
I rolled my eyes out when Ifirst heard about COVID, but
then I'm pretty skeptical aboutanything the government says to
(05:33):
us.
But there it is.
So but I ended up having toclose down my performing arts
school, you know, and thendecided not to go back and
that's when we decided to move.
All right, so year we looked atour property and everything was
kind of flat.
It wasn't that great, or is itoff a main road, it was too far
away.
And then Michael found thisproperty and he pulled it up on
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the internet and I looked and Isaw I just saw the road right.
Of course everything looks goodon the internet because they
choose the best pictures, so ofcourse it's going to look good.
But immediately we were bothlike, oh my gosh, that's it.
We got to go see it.
So we came and it was the roadso we have I think it's 2000,.
I don't know.
(06:17):
I don't know, I'm going to say2000 feet, but I be totally
wrong of a winding road.
So hold up, this is what'sgreat.
It's 30 minutes from town,literally 30 minutes from town,
okay, and which is perfect, it'soff of a main county road that
is very well maintained.
One thing about the county welive in they maintain their
roads beautifully.
So right off a main road, andit is.
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We have three levels to ourproperty.
So we have a lower valley wherewe have two holding ponds, a
creek, then we have the driveway, main entrance level, and then
so we have this beautiful.
I guess 2,000, I'm saying 2,000feet I could be completely off
of that, who knows?
I'm not great at measurements,but it's a big one.
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It's a long road that windsaround between, I mean
surrounded by oak trees andwalnut trees, and it's this
beautiful winding road and itwinds up and it goes around
where you have a large pond, andthen it goes up again on the
third level.
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So we have three levels to thisproperty, where we have our
home and our and I just I andthen there's a um, what's called
.
We call it the donut island orthe donut pond.
There's a pond that's kind ofthey shaped a um, I don't know
who did this, right, right,which owner, how many owners,
which owner from us did this?
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But they made a pond, like theybuilt a mound, and then they
carved out a pond.
That's a circular pond goingaround this, this hill, and this
hill is attached with a gate,not a gate, a bridge.
I'm telling you I was.
It was just gorgeous, gorgeous.
Now the house I think Imentioned this early on was a
(08:04):
complete wreck.
So I didn't get that.
I mean we had dogs.
I mean they, I guess they werebreeding dogs.
I don't know what they weredoing, they were renters and no
idea.
But the house, all the doorswere broken, like all of them
had holes and they were didcheap, cheap, cheap doors that
break really easy.
So they had like three kids andthey had and it's not a big
house.
So we're planning to add on,but right now we just want to
(08:27):
finish the house we have.
But it's got.
It's only three bedrooms andtwo or one and a half baths, so
it's not a big place.
In fact, all of my stuff here,but it doesn't matter.
It's a beautiful home but it wasa mess when we first moved in
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and it smelled like pee and I'mnot sure if it was dog pee or
human pee or probably acombination of both and they
smoked.
So there was smoke.
I mean rings of smoke becausethey had fans on all the rooms.
Rings of smoke up on theceiling oh, you know, it was a
popcorn ceiling, it was verydated.
I mean, yeah, it was a mess.
(09:10):
I mean it was a mess and Ithink I told you we couldn't
find workers, right, because Iwanted to have a move-in ready
house, but we couldn't find theworkers.
We just were able to get thefloor done, which was good
enough because at least we gotthe pee smell out right.
(09:33):
And then of course, they leftand they left all their trash
everywhere.
So of course we had to get, youknow, someone to come in and
pick up all the trash and dumpit anyway.
So but all in all, all of thatbeing said, I I can't, I can't
tell you how thankful I ambecause I love it here and I
have never said that about anyplace I've ever lived.
(09:54):
I love the people here.
Oh my gosh.
I mean, you know my husband.
He grew up so, even though hegrew up in San Jose, which,
during the time of him being achild, it was all farm and rule,
and so he grew up, his familywas farmers, so he, with his
grandpa and the tractor, so he's, you know, his family has been,
(10:15):
you know, planting andgardening and doing all these
things, you know, and knowinghow to do these things, you know
, since he was a child, sincebefore he was born, and, of
course, he's got a super greenthumb.
I mean I can't grow s*t, but hehas a super green thumb and
sorry about that, I shouldn'tknow anyway.
Um, so he would.
He and he loves to garden.
(10:36):
I mean he and he does abeautiful job.
He built a beautiful, uhdeveloped a little French garden
when we were living in San Jose.
It was lovely and, um, you know, just pretty.
I mean nothing reallyfunctional, I mean, meaning, you
know, as far as herbs and allthat which we're doing now.
But pretty, it was lovely, andhe loves doing it, and he wanted
to farm and we thought at firstwe thought we were going to do
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wine, that's what he wanted todo.
He wanted to build a winery,but Arkansas is not a place for
wine, so for grapes.
So, although a funny thing itis, it was supposed to have been
based on what he did, hisresearch.
And then we're like, oh no, itreally isn't OK.
So anyway, we have other plansfor farming and we're working on
those plans now.
(11:18):
But now we're working on foodand which is, I think, a little
more practical and necessarythan wine right now.
Well, that wine doesn'tnecessarily not necessary, but
not as important as food is,anyway, so I don't know, yeah,
so I'm just loving it.
And right now I'm just taking awalk and listening to the birds
and seeing all thesecaterpillars on the ground and
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all the deer, and we have littlebaby deer, little Bambis
running around and mean it'sjust, it's just, it's just
beautiful.
So anyway, I was going to sharewith you, uh, what's been going
on.
So I have.
Now I started, let's see, Ithink prep day was Friday, so I
had two full days, saturday andSunday, on my liquid fast, and
(12:04):
then yesterday I did a partialliquid fast, the the gaps fast,
and then had a meat stock withthe meat and vegetables in the
evening and woke up this morningand I have lost a total of five
pounds now in three days.
Now, some of that's waterweight, right, I mean.
A lot of times when you knowpeople, oh, it's so exciting and
it is because you're gettingrid of inflammation, you're
getting rid of a lot of theexcess water and all of that.
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But usually the first, if youlose a lot of weight right away,
it's really mainly water weightto begin with.
So but that's great because Ido feel good.
I feel lighter again, my tummyis, oh, almost back to where it
was normally, which is flat, andI can actually start to see
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some of my muscles again.
So I'm pretty pleased with thatand my energy level is super,
and so I thought what I would dotoday is share with you an
exercise that I did for myself.
This is like one of mystrategies.
So I'm a strategicinterventionist and I don't know
if you know anything about meprobably not yet, I don't know.
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You could go to my website andlearn.
But, um, I've trained.
I'm a traditional naturopath, Iam a life and relationship and
energy healing coach.
I do sound healing, I do breathwork Um, I do, oh my goodness.
I trained under, uh, dr ChloeMadonis and Tony Robbins and
actually trained and became acoach, a certified coach, under
the RMT Robbins, madonis andTony Robbins, and actually
trained and became a coach, acertified coach, under the RMT
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Robbins Madonis Training Academy.
So you know I.
And then I've trained under thenew biology clinic with Dr Tom
Cowan and so I have a wide, Iwear a lot of hats and I was
just talking to my husband andDan.
I said, you know I, because I'mpassionate about so many things.
I love learning.
Learning is a passion of mine,but learning just for learning
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sake is is okay, but learning soyou can help others is the bomb
.
Okay, that is what I live for.
But I have a passion.
I love learning new things.
So I also am a clinicalherbalist because I thought,
well, I should learn how to doherbal medicines right, because
if we don't do regular drugs, wedon't do that.
Once I got my husband off themedication that was destroying
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his liver.
I said we're done.
I said, okay, what now?
So I decided I was going toeither learn homeopathy or
herbalism, and I love both.
But with all the struggle that'sgoing on with homeopathy, my
concern is well, the FDA has itsway, fda has its way.
There won't be any homeopathy.
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And even though I'm, you know,petitioning along and trying to
help support, you know, keepinghomeopathy available, you know
the government's going to dowhat the government's going to
do, you know, until the peoplesay no more.
I don't know that we've gottenthere yet, but I'm hoping we're
getting close.
But I don't mean violence oranything, but I mean it's time
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to just maybe stop being sopassive and start speaking out
more, and we are, but I thinkwe're going to be forced to have
to do so a little bit more.
Again, I'm not talking violence.
I'm just talking about gettingout there, being unafraid to say
what you need to say and chooseto live your life the way
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you're meant to live, which isfree.
So I decide well, if they takethe homeopathy away, what can't
they take away?
They can't take my dandelion,they really can't.
If they take my dandelion away,well then it's done If my
dandelion won't grow anymore.
Well then, we're done right.
So they can't take my weeds, soI'm going to learn how to use
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them.
So I decided to go intoherbalism, become a clinical
herbalist, anyway.
So, as a life coach, which isI'm going to share with you,
right now, there's a tool that Iuse with my clients or in
workshops, or and and even formyself, right, everything that I
do, everything that I teach,everything that I may, you know,
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um, offer someone to look intothat they might find for
themselves I've tried myself.
I do not recommend or anythingthat I have not firsthand
experience.
Or, if I don't have it, I knowenough people who have firsthand
experience, people that I trust, to try it.
Now, why would I not tryeverything?
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Well, I don't have.
There's a lot of conditionsthat I don't have.
For instance, you know, it'slike a doctor if they don't have
any experience with cancer,they're not just going to try
chemotherapy, right?
Not that anybody should dochemotherapy anyway, but that's
not the point.
The point is there are thingsthat I haven't tried for myself
because they're not somethingthat I need right.
So, but I will talk to otherpractitioners or talked who said
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, yes, I have those kind ofclients, and this is what we did
.
I did a work, yes, ok.
Well, what are the?
You know how many worked, orwhatever we talk about stats or
or what have you, and clinicalstudies and so forth and so on.
So, if I so, either I will doit myself or I know people who
have done it and have hadsuccess with it either way.
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So one of the tools I thoughtI'd share with you is called the
string metaphor.
Now, metaphors are used a lot inthe kind of coaching I do.
And what are metaphors?
Well, metaphors probably learn,remember, in school, you know
grade school are symbols, youknow they symbolize something
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right.
And a lot of times we usemetaphors in our speech because
sometimes it's just easier,sometimes it's hard to put into
words what we're feeling, whatwe're thinking, and so sometimes
we just use a metaphor tosymbolize.
Like you know, I ran up againsta brick wall, right.
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Or, excuse me, you know, I feellike I have so many hurdles to
jump over, right.
Or, oh, that went so well, itwas smooth as ice.
So those are metaphors thathelp to reflect what we're
feeling, what we're thinking,without us having to necessarily
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find the words to express it,and metaphors are very important
because they're a visual right.
Not necessarily a visual like animage, it can be, but it could
be a visual like a tactile, areal object right that can
remind us of something and youdon't have to think of the words
, because the object themselveswill speak it to you.
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Let me give an example.
So this string metaphor to you?
Let me give an example.
So this string metaphor is youtake a string, I don't know,
maybe about a foot long, maybeAgain, I don't know measurements
very well but long enough thatyou could tie around your wrist.
How about that?
And just a string, and thatstring could be a metaphor for
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anything you want.
It could be the metaphor of youtying yourself to an outcome, a
success, a goal that you have,and that string symbolizes that
you tying yourself to thatoutcome.
Okay, so it can mean that, andit could be any outcome you want
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.
You decide what that, what thatis for you.
It could also mean, becausewe're going to tie the string
around our wrist, so you canalso use it as a cutting ties
from something.
So, instead of being tying youto something, to a goal, an
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outcome, whatever it is,relationships, career, health,
wellness, whatever right,emotional, you know, resources,
how you want to feel,emotionally, mentally, anything.
You have a goal and that stringaround your wrist you're going
to is going to symbolize youtying yourself, committing
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yourself to that goal.
Or you can take some scissorsand you can cut that string once
it's tied to your wrist, andthat would symbolize you cutting
the ties away from something,maybe something that's been
holding you back, maybe it'sthinking right Beliefs, old
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beliefs that just don't serveyou anymore.
Old thinking that you're likeyou know what.
I used to think that, but whydo I think that now?
Or is that even my thought?
Where did that thoughtoriginate?
Did that originate with me, ordid it originate with my parents
?
Or did it originate fromsociety?
Or did it originate with myparents?
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Or did it originate fromsociety?
You know a lot of age, forinstance.
Oh, when you turn a certain age, it's all downhill from there,
right?
Okay, there's a metaphor, right, it's all falls apart from
there.
Well, does it, and we believethat, but does it have to?
Can you can?
Is there another truth?
Have have there been people whohave lived long, long beautiful
lives and, as they grew older,didn't get old?
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They just they just got older,but without getting old.
Is there examples of that?
Sure, there are.
I could tell you one of my, mygrandmother-in-law.
She died at 102, and she chosewhen to die.
She literally was like I'm doneI can go into that later but
she lived a full, independentlife up to 102, almost 103.
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So where did that belief stemfrom?
It's not an original thought.
So again, take a string, decideif it's going to be a string
that ties you to an outcome, toa goal, to an intention, to
something you want in any areaof your life, or decide that
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that string is going tosymbolize cutting ties from
something, from beliefs, fromhabits, from whether maybe it's
smoking, maybe it's overeating,maybe it's whatever it is.
You make the choice.
Take that string Once you'vedecided what it's going to
represent to you.
Tie it around your wrist.
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If you decide that that stringis going to represent you tying
yourself to something, leave iton your wrist and look at it
every day, and that is yourreminder, that's your symbol
that says remember what you'retying yourself to.
Is what you're doing todayGoing to bring you closer to
that goal, the outcome, thatintention that you have that the
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string represents?
Okay, now, if you've chosen thatthe string is going to be a
symbol of you cutting away fromsomething.
Take your scissors and cut away.
Keep the string.
Maybe keep it somewhere whereyou can see it.
You might even keep it in yourpocket, it doesn't matter.
Wherever you think you mightneed it to remind yourself.
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Oh no, when you start to maybemove into a habit you want to
get rid of.
Again, I don't know what youchose, but let's just say it was
a habit of smoking or eatingsomething you shouldn't eat, or
whatever, right.
Or maybe it's a thought thatI'm too old for this, or I'll
never do this, or I'm not goodenough, or I'm not worthy,
whatever.
Whatever you decided, that youwant to cut away from that
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string is a reminder.
Uh-uh, you cut yourself awayfrom that that is no longer
attached to you.
So that's called the stringmetaphor exercise.
Try it for yourself if you'dlike.
I would love to hear what youdecided to use your string
metaphor for either tyingyourself to something or cutting
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away, cutting ties fromsomething.
So let me know, go ahead, andyou know you can message me on
my website and find me onTwitter.
If you can't find me on Twitter, I shouldn't say Twitter
anymore.
Right, go to my website andthen click on the it's still the
Twitter symbol right up on theupper left-hand corner of my
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website and hopefully, then Iwill be getting these out on
Spotify and YouTube and all thesocial media, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah things and then youcan chat with me there, all
right, and actually I'll getthese out on X too, and you can
comment there too, all right.
Hey, have a great day, um, anddo your stream metaphor.
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All right, be blessed, bye-bye.
Hey, all right, here we are on a morning walk
and the birds are singing.
Listen to that.
I hope you can hear that.
Yeah, the birds are chirpingaway, the leaves are turning
colors.
Me and Bonnie Blue, my kittywe're all going for a walk down
(00:23):
our lane.
My kitty is we're all going fora walk down our lane and we
have a beautiful.
I said to you, my property is ablessing and I, you know, 55
years old and I have theproperty of my dreams and I'm so
thankful for it.
It was just to me, it was amiracle that we found this,
because we looked everywhere fora property and everything just
(00:44):
wasn't like what we wanted.
You know, we wanted something.
It was so funny.
We wanted something that wasnot too far from town.
Okay, so I had a lot of.
I guess you could talk aboutmanifestation.
I really don't like the termmanifestation.
It's a little woo woo for me,and even though I'm an energy
healing coach, I'm actually veryanalytical and only decided to
go into energy healing when Istarted understanding the
(01:05):
science behind some of these.
And you know the science that'scoming out in the research.
Okay, let me not go there,let's go back to where we're
going.
So, um, we came to arkansas andwe thought, well, we'll stay
here for about a year, right, wehadn't even decided if we were
going to land here and stay here, but it was.
My husband is very much I.
I mean he, you know, he's.
He's in technology, he's atechnological architect I have
(01:28):
no idea what that is.
He does a lot of governmentcontracts.
He's independent, but he does alot of government contracts,
and but I have no idea what itis that he does.
So it's like I know he can keepmy machines running, okay, and
keep my website and going and doall the things that I have no
idea how to do.
Anyway, but we stayed out herein an apartment.
(01:49):
Well, we stayed in a hotel fortwo months and then an apartment
for a year and we were lookingat properties and everything was
like eh, eh, eh, eh, right.
So I had requirements for aproperty I had that had to be 30
minutes from town, because, I'msorry, you know, I grew up in
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the inner city, I grew up in thehood and I'm just, you know, a
city girl at heart and I don'twant to be too far from my cup
of coffee in the morning.
So, you know, I just like goinginto town, I like being in the
city, but so it had to be, atleast you know, no more, sorry,
no more than a half an hour awayfrom town.
Okay, but it had to be.
It had to be rural and awayfrom people, but yet I could
(02:35):
still get into town and be nearpeople when I wanted to be.
But a half an hour, that's allI wanted.
Half an hour drive.
I also wanted I didn't wantflatland, I wanted more, uh,
topography, more more valleysand hills and things like that.
Okay, that was, those are mythings that I want, and and I
wanted a home.
That was done, which I didn'tget, but that's okay, it's, it's
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getting done now.
But, um, so those were the myrequirements.
My husband's requirements isthat it was the property had to
be off a paved road, right?
I mean, we drove around some ofthese areas and like, oh my
gosh, some of the roads were sohard to get in and out.
Of.
So he said, no, I want to be ona main, be off of a main paved
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road, okay.
So we looked for a year.
Well, yeah, up and down lookedand again we decided.
Really, we decided within acouple of months of being here.
We looked around, we checked itout, we were paying attention.
My husband had done all theanalysis.
He looked at the politics, helooked at the rights,
specifically First Amendmentrights, second Amendment rights.
He looked at all of thesethings and Arkansas came up
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pretty high on the list for whatwe wanted in our lives.
Plus, northwest Arkansas isnice because it has a lot of
business, a lot of work, and sowe had hoped that, okay, if we
land here and our family wantsto come here, there's work here,
there's a lot of work here andWalmart is here.
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There's like five differentFortune 500 companies in
Arkansas and I think like threeor four of them are up here in
Northwest Arkansas, which iswhere we are.
Okay.
So, and you know my family, alot of my family well, two of my
kids are in California, whichis ridiculous for so many
different reasons.
So if they ever need a place toland, they can land here, find
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good work and not be tooexpensive, be able to, you know,
afford a home, which you knowin California forget it, I mean,
it's so hard there at leastwhere we were living, which is
Silicon Valley and San Jose, youknow anything like that.
It's just ridiculous.
And I don't know who wants tobe in California anyway.
I'm sorry, if you live, I meanI don't we.
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I spent 20 years there.
I loved it when I first movedthere and then it all went to
pot so, and my husband was bornand raised there and he just saw
it you know he talks about it alot because he saw it going
from a beautiful, you know town,country, country, towns, rural
area of cherry trees andorchards and all that to
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becoming, you know, the cementjungle of technology.
So by the time we moved away,we were just ready to move away.
And after the wholerestrictions of Newsom and the
restrictions that they put onfor COVID which, quite honestly,
I rolled my eyes out when Ifirst heard about COVID, but
then I'm pretty skeptical aboutanything the government says to
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us.
But there it is.
So but I ended up having toclose down my performing arts
school, you know, and thendecided not to go back and
that's when we decided to move.
All right, so year we looked atour property and everything was
kind of flat.
It wasn't that great, or is itoff a main road, it was too far
away.
And then Michael found thisproperty and he pulled it up on
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the internet and I looked and Isaw I just saw the road right.
Of course everything looks goodon the internet because they
choose the best pictures, so ofcourse it's going to look good.
But immediately we were bothlike, oh my gosh, that's it.
We got to go see it.
So we came and it was the roadso we have I think it's 2000,.
I don't know.
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I don't know, I'm going to say2000 feet, but I be totally
wrong of a winding road.
So hold up, this is what'sgreat.
It's 30 minutes from town,literally 30 minutes from town,
okay, and which is perfect, it'soff of a main county road that
is very well maintained.
One thing about the county welive in they maintain their
roads beautifully.
So right off a main road, andit is.
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We have three levels to ourproperty.
So we have a lower valley wherewe have two holding ponds, a
creek, then we have the driveway, main entrance level, and then
so we have this beautiful.
I guess 2,000, I'm saying 2,000feet I could be completely off
of that, who knows?
I'm not great at measurements,but it's a big one.
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It's a long road that windsaround between, I mean
surrounded by oak trees andwalnut trees, and it's this
beautiful winding road and itwinds up and it goes around
where you have a large pond, andthen it goes up again on the
third level.
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So we have three levels to thisproperty, where we have our
home and our and I just I andthen there's a um, what's called
.
We call it the donut island orthe donut pond.
There's a pond that's kind ofthey shaped a um, I don't know
who did this, right, right,which owner, how many owners,
which owner from us did this?
(07:44):
But they made a pond, like theybuilt a mound, and then they
carved out a pond.
That's a circular pond goingaround this, this hill, and this
hill is attached with a gate,not a gate, a bridge.
I'm telling you I was.
It was just gorgeous, gorgeous.
Now the house I think Imentioned this early on was a
(08:04):
complete wreck.
So I didn't get that.
I mean we had dogs.
I mean they, I guess they werebreeding dogs.
I don't know what they weredoing, they were renters and no
idea.
But the house, all the doorswere broken, like all of them
had holes and they were didcheap, cheap, cheap doors that
break really easy.
So they had like three kids andthey had and it's not a big
house.
So we're planning to add on,but right now we just want to
(08:27):
finish the house we have.
But it's got.
It's only three bedrooms andtwo or one and a half baths, so
it's not a big place.
In fact, all of my stuff here,but it doesn't matter.
It's a beautiful home but it wasa mess when we first moved in
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and it smelled like pee and I'mnot sure if it was dog pee or
human pee or probably acombination of both and they
smoked.
So there was smoke.
I mean rings of smoke becausethey had fans on all the rooms.
Rings of smoke up on theceiling oh, you know, it was a
popcorn ceiling, it was verydated.
I mean, yeah, it was a mess.
(09:10):
I mean it was a mess and Ithink I told you we couldn't
find workers, right, because Iwanted to have a move-in ready
house, but we couldn't find theworkers.
We just were able to get thefloor done, which was good
enough because at least we gotthe pee smell out right.
(09:33):
And then of course, they leftand they left all their trash
everywhere.
So of course we had to get, youknow, someone to come in and
pick up all the trash and dumpit anyway.
So but all in all, all of thatbeing said, I I can't, I can't
tell you how thankful I ambecause I love it here and I
have never said that about anyplace I've ever lived.
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I love the people here.
Oh my gosh.
I mean, you know my husband.
He grew up so, even though hegrew up in San Jose, which,
during the time of him being achild, it was all farm and rule,
and so he grew up, his familywas farmers, so he, with his
grandpa and the tractor, so he's, you know, his family has been,
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you know, planting andgardening and doing all these
things, you know, and knowinghow to do these things, you know
, since he was a child, sincebefore he was born, and, of
course, he's got a super greenthumb.
I mean I can't grow s*t, but hehas a super green thumb and
sorry about that, I shouldn'tknow anyway.
Um, so he would.
He and he loves to garden.
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I mean he and he does abeautiful job.
He built a beautiful, uhdeveloped a little French garden
when we were living in San Jose.
It was lovely and, um, you know, just pretty.
I mean nothing reallyfunctional, I mean, meaning, you
know, as far as herbs and allthat which we're doing now.
But pretty, it was lovely, andhe loves doing it, and he wanted
to farm and we thought at firstwe thought we were going to do
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wine, that's what he wanted todo.
He wanted to build a winery,but Arkansas is not a place for
wine, so for grapes.
So, although a funny thing itis, it was supposed to have been
based on what he did, hisresearch.
And then we're like, oh no, itreally isn't OK.
So anyway, we have other plansfor farming and we're working on
those plans now.
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But now we're working on foodand which is, I think, a little
more practical and necessarythan wine right now.
Well, that wine doesn'tnecessarily not necessary, but
not as important as food is,anyway, so I don't know, yeah,
so I'm just loving it.
And right now I'm just taking awalk and listening to the birds
and seeing all thesecaterpillars on the ground and
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all the deer, and we have littlebaby deer, little Bambis
running around and mean it'sjust, it's just, it's just
beautiful.
So anyway, I was going to sharewith you, uh, what's been going
on.
So I have.
Now I started, let's see, Ithink prep day was Friday, so I
had two full days, saturday andSunday, on my liquid fast, and
(12:04):
then yesterday I did a partialliquid fast, the the gaps fast,
and then had a meat stock withthe meat and vegetables in the
evening and woke up this morningand I have lost a total of five
pounds now in three days.
Now, some of that's waterweight, right, I mean.
A lot of times when you knowpeople, oh, it's so exciting and
it is because you're gettingrid of inflammation, you're
getting rid of a lot of theexcess water and all of that.
(12:26):
But usually the first, if youlose a lot of weight right away,
it's really mainly water weightto begin with.
So but that's great because Ido feel good.
I feel lighter again, my tummyis, oh, almost back to where it
was normally, which is flat, andI can actually start to see
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some of my muscles again.
So I'm pretty pleased with thatand my energy level is super,
and so I thought what I would dotoday is share with you an
exercise that I did for myself.
This is like one of mystrategies.
So I'm a strategicinterventionist and I don't know
if you know anything about meprobably not yet, I don't know.
(13:07):
You could go to my website andlearn.
But, um, I've trained.
I'm a traditional naturopath, Iam a life and relationship and
energy healing coach.
I do sound healing, I do breathwork Um, I do, oh my goodness.
I trained under, uh, dr ChloeMadonis and Tony Robbins and
actually trained and became acoach, a certified coach, under
the RMT Robbins, madonis andTony Robbins, and actually
trained and became a coach, acertified coach, under the RMT
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Robbins Madonis Training Academy.
So you know I.
And then I've trained under thenew biology clinic with Dr Tom
Cowan and so I have a wide, Iwear a lot of hats and I was
just talking to my husband andDan.
I said, you know I, because I'mpassionate about so many things.
I love learning.
Learning is a passion of mine,but learning just for learning
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sake is is okay, but learning soyou can help others is the bomb
.
Okay, that is what I live for.
But I have a passion.
I love learning new things.
So I also am a clinicalherbalist because I thought,
well, I should learn how to doherbal medicines right, because
if we don't do regular drugs, wedon't do that.
Once I got my husband off themedication that was destroying
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his liver.
I said we're done.
I said, okay, what now?
So I decided I was going toeither learn homeopathy or
herbalism, and I love both.
But with all the struggle that'sgoing on with homeopathy, my
concern is well, the FDA has itsway, fda has its way.
There won't be any homeopathy.
(14:36):
And even though I'm, you know,petitioning along and trying to
help support, you know, keepinghomeopathy available, you know
the government's going to dowhat the government's going to
do, you know, until the peoplesay no more.
I don't know that we've gottenthere yet, but I'm hoping we're
getting close.
But I don't mean violence oranything, but I mean it's time
(15:00):
to just maybe stop being sopassive and start speaking out
more, and we are, but I thinkwe're going to be forced to have
to do so a little bit more.
Again, I'm not talking violence.
I'm just talking about gettingout there, being unafraid to say
what you need to say and chooseto live your life the way
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you're meant to live, which isfree.
So I decide well, if they takethe homeopathy away, what can't
they take away?
They can't take my dandelion,they really can't.
If they take my dandelion away,well then it's done If my
dandelion won't grow anymore.
Well then, we're done right.
So they can't take my weeds, soI'm going to learn how to use
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them.
So I decided to go intoherbalism, become a clinical
herbalist, anyway.
So, as a life coach, which isI'm going to share with you,
right now, there's a tool that Iuse with my clients or in
workshops, or and and even formyself, right, everything that I
do, everything that I teach,everything that I may, you know,
(16:05):
um, offer someone to look intothat they might find for
themselves I've tried myself.
I do not recommend or anythingthat I have not firsthand
experience.
Or, if I don't have it, I knowenough people who have firsthand
experience, people that I trust, to try it.
Now, why would I not tryeverything?
(16:26):
Well, I don't have.
There's a lot of conditionsthat I don't have.
For instance, you know, it'slike a doctor if they don't have
any experience with cancer,they're not just going to try
chemotherapy, right?
Not that anybody should dochemotherapy anyway, but that's
not the point.
The point is there are thingsthat I haven't tried for myself
because they're not somethingthat I need right.
So, but I will talk to otherpractitioners or talked who said
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, yes, I have those kind ofclients, and this is what we did
.
I did a work, yes, ok.
Well, what are the?
You know how many worked, orwhatever we talk about stats or
or what have you, and clinicalstudies and so forth and so on.
So, if I so, either I will doit myself or I know people who
have done it and have hadsuccess with it either way.
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So one of the tools I thoughtI'd share with you is called the
string metaphor.
Now, metaphors are used a lot inthe kind of coaching I do.
And what are metaphors?
Well, metaphors probably learn,remember, in school, you know
grade school are symbols, youknow they symbolize something
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right.
And a lot of times we usemetaphors in our speech because
sometimes it's just easier,sometimes it's hard to put into
words what we're feeling, whatwe're thinking, and so sometimes
we just use a metaphor tosymbolize.
Like you know, I ran up againsta brick wall, right.
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Or, excuse me, you know, I feellike I have so many hurdles to
jump over, right.
Or, oh, that went so well, itwas smooth as ice.
So those are metaphors thathelp to reflect what we're
feeling, what we're thinking,without us having to necessarily
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find the words to express it,and metaphors are very important
because they're a visual right.
Not necessarily a visual like animage, it can be, but it could
be a visual like a tactile, areal object right that can
remind us of something and youdon't have to think of the words
, because the object themselveswill speak it to you.
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Let me give an example.
So this string metaphor to you?
Let me give an example.
So this string metaphor is youtake a string, I don't know,
maybe about a foot long, maybeAgain, I don't know measurements
very well but long enough thatyou could tie around your wrist.
How about that?
And just a string, and thatstring could be a metaphor for
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anything you want.
It could be the metaphor of youtying yourself to an outcome, a
success, a goal that you have,and that string symbolizes that
you tying yourself to thatoutcome.
Okay, so it can mean that, andit could be any outcome you want
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.
You decide what that, what thatis for you.
It could also mean, becausewe're going to tie the string
around our wrist, so you canalso use it as a cutting ties
from something.
So, instead of being tying youto something, to a goal, an
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outcome, whatever it is,relationships, career, health,
wellness, whatever right,emotional, you know, resources,
how you want to feel,emotionally, mentally, anything.
You have a goal and that stringaround your wrist you're going
to is going to symbolize youtying yourself, committing
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yourself to that goal.
Or you can take some scissorsand you can cut that string once
it's tied to your wrist, andthat would symbolize you cutting
the ties away from something,maybe something that's been
holding you back, maybe it'sthinking right Beliefs, old
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beliefs that just don't serveyou anymore.
Old thinking that you're likeyou know what.
I used to think that, but whydo I think that now?
Or is that even my thought?
Where did that thoughtoriginate?
Did that originate with me, ordid it originate with my parents
?
Or did it originate fromsociety?
Or did it originate with myparents?
(20:43):
Or did it originate fromsociety?
You know a lot of age, forinstance.
Oh, when you turn a certain age, it's all downhill from there,
right?
Okay, there's a metaphor, right, it's all falls apart from
there.
Well, does it, and we believethat, but does it have to?
Can you can?
Is there another truth?
Have have there been people whohave lived long, long beautiful
lives and, as they grew older,didn't get old?
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They just they just got older,but without getting old.
Is there examples of that?
Sure, there are.
I could tell you one of my, mygrandmother-in-law.
She died at 102, and she chosewhen to die.
She literally was like I'm doneI can go into that later but
she lived a full, independentlife up to 102, almost 103.
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So where did that belief stemfrom?
It's not an original thought.
So again, take a string, decideif it's going to be a string
that ties you to an outcome, toa goal, to an intention, to
something you want in any areaof your life, or decide that
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that string is going tosymbolize cutting ties from
something, from beliefs, fromhabits, from whether maybe it's
smoking, maybe it's overeating,maybe it's whatever it is.
You make the choice.
Take that string Once you'vedecided what it's going to
represent to you.
Tie it around your wrist.
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If you decide that that stringis going to represent you tying
yourself to something, leave iton your wrist and look at it
every day, and that is yourreminder, that's your symbol
that says remember what you'retying yourself to.
Is what you're doing todayGoing to bring you closer to
that goal, the outcome, thatintention that you have that the
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string represents?
Okay, now, if you've chosen thatthe string is going to be a
symbol of you cutting away fromsomething.
Take your scissors and cut away.
Keep the string.
Maybe keep it somewhere whereyou can see it.
You might even keep it in yourpocket, it doesn't matter.
Wherever you think you mightneed it to remind yourself.
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Oh no, when you start to maybemove into a habit you want to
get rid of.
Again, I don't know what youchose, but let's just say it was
a habit of smoking or eatingsomething you shouldn't eat, or
whatever, right.
Or maybe it's a thought thatI'm too old for this, or I'll
never do this, or I'm not goodenough, or I'm not worthy,
whatever.
Whatever you decided, that youwant to cut away from that
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string is a reminder.
Uh-uh, you cut yourself awayfrom that that is no longer
attached to you.
So that's called the stringmetaphor exercise.
Try it for yourself if you'dlike.
I would love to hear what youdecided to use your string
metaphor for either tyingyourself to something or cutting
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away, cutting ties fromsomething.
So let me know, go ahead, andyou know you can message me on
my website and find me onTwitter.
If you can't find me on Twitter, I shouldn't say Twitter
anymore.
Right, go to my website andthen click on the it's still the
Twitter symbol right up on theupper left-hand corner of my
(24:04):
website and hopefully, then Iwill be getting these out on
Spotify and YouTube and all thesocial media, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah things and then youcan chat with me there, all
right, and actually I'll getthese out on X too, and you can
comment there too, all right.
Hey, have a great day, um, anddo your stream metaphor.
(24:25):
All right, be blessed, bye-bye.
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