October 23, 2024 • 25 mins
Unlock your hidden potential and transform your life by understanding how the Enneagram can help unblock your tantric energy. Discover the secrets behind how each Enneagram type inadvertently stifles its energy flow, and learn practical strategies to break free from these self-imposed barriers. Start with Type One, the Perfectionist, where rigidity and control are replaced by the liberation that comes with flexibility. Type Two, the Helper, learns the art of self-care to restore equilibrium, while Type Three, the Achiever, finds strength in vulnerability and authentic self-expression. With actionable insights tailored for each type, this episode promises a path to heightened self-awareness and personal growth.
Explore the unique challenges faced by Types Six, Seven, and Eight as they navigate their internal energy blocks. Type Six is often trapped in a web of anxiety and fear, but by releasing these, they can tune into their intuitive nature. For Type Seven, the avoidance of difficult emotions can stifle creativity; by embracing emotional presence, they unlock a wellspring of creativity and spiritual energy. Type Eight, often caught in a cycle of control, will find power in vulnerability, enhancing their intuitive capabilities. This conversation offers transformative insights to help you harness your spiritual and creative energies to their full potential. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned practitioner, these revelations are bound to inspire your journey of self-discovery.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Okay, I promised that I would talk about how all of
the Enneagram types blocktantric energy.
So on tonight's episode we aregoing to talk about how each
Enneagram type will know howthey're blocking their own
tantric energy.
So if you don't know what theEnneagram is, I'm going to put a
link in the show notes on howto figure out what your
(00:25):
Enneagram type is.
But basically, it's thisancient personality typing
system.
What I love about it is thatit's a manual to your mind.
Now, we are all unique andthere's like subtypes and
there's a whole complexity andlayers to the Enneagram.
I like to keep it simple whenI'm talking about it, because we
can get really overcomplicatedwith it and we can also like
(00:48):
overanalyze it and we miss thepoint and the beauty of the tool
.
It's basically a tool thathelps us understand our brains.
It really helps us understandour core fears, our core desires
, and I like to say it's likethis cool user manual that when
you read it you're like, oh crap, am I doing that?
(01:08):
Dang it.
Or when you're dealing withsomeone else, you have like a
little user manual to the backend of their brain and you can
understand some of their quirks,their blind spots and things
that they might not even beaware of in a really cool and
unique way.
So that's the quick and dirtyon Enneagram blind spots and
things that they might not evenbe aware of in a really cool and
unique way.
So that's the quick and dirtyon Enneagram.
(01:34):
But let's talk types.
So type one, also known as theperfectionist.
They are in the body triad,which means they tend to have
some built-in repressed angerand most of the time they don't
know about it.
Normally it just shows up likejudgment.
It doesn't show up likeexplosive anger.
So when a type one is blockingtheir tantric energy, they may
(01:59):
be overly rigid and controlling,suppressing their actual, true
desires.
And opening up involvesembracing flexibility and
spontaneity.
So one of the ways that a typeone can activate their tantric
energy or to like really connectback in with it, is to be in
(02:20):
their seven, which is playful,more spontaneous, less rigid.
Pull the inner critic judge outof their head and give them a
holiday.
That is like number one.
So if you're a type one andyou've been experiencing any of
that, really step into yourseven and like play, go, play,
(02:42):
dance in the rain I'm sayingthat because it's raining
outside and I just went for adance in the rain.
I'm saying that because it'sraining outside and I just went
for a long walk in the rain andit felt so good.
Play, just play, smile, laugh,throw away the plan, get in the
car, drive, don't make any planson your vacation.
Literally show up without asingle reservation.
(03:04):
I know that might be a big leap, I get that, but try it one
time.
It'll be, it'll be really cooland magical.
Okay, type two the helper.
Twos block their energy byprioritizing other people's
needs over their own, leading toemotional depletion.
Learning to receive and balancegiving with self-care opens
(03:25):
their flow.
Twos really need to learn howto express their needs, and that
is a big ask.
I know I work with a lot oftwos because when I say that to
them, they look at me with bigeyes like what I don't
understand.
Don't people just know what Ineed?
Like I know what they need?
The answer is no, they don't.
(03:45):
It is a unique gift of the typetwo and unfortunately, most
other people do not have thatgift.
So your unique genius is alsothe thing you crave the most,
but other people don't reallyknow how to do it, so got to
learn how to express your needs.
When you do that and you'resuper clear about it, you're
(04:07):
going to feel the free flow ofyour energy back.
So, type twos, to open up yourenergy, figure out what your
needs are and how to have themmet and, more importantly, allow
people to meet them.
It's okay.
You can allow them to meet theneeds that you have.
It's actually really good foryou.
(04:27):
Type three is the achiever.
I love me some type threes.
They are go-getters and theylove goals.
Threes may disconnect fromtheir emotions and their pursuit
of success.
Allowing vulnerability andauthentic self-expression helps
restore their life force.
I love it when I meet threesbecause they usually come in and
(04:49):
they're like, um, something'swrong with my face.
It's like leaking and I don'tknow how to make it stop and I'm
like, oh, those are tears ofvulnerability.
Hello, nice to meet you.
I was there once too.
I'm a seven.
We're very similar and I I meanseriously it is.
It is a beautiful experience towalk a three through, stepping
into their vulnerability andtheir vulnerable side, because
(05:12):
it's like a really foreignlanguage.
I love working with threesbecause they're very easy.
They like a goal list.
So if you're dating a three oryou're married to a three or you
are a three.
You need a list of like andsuccess that people can meet
Like.
So, okay, let me give it to you.
(05:32):
Like this If you're married toa three and you want intimacy
and connection and they're like,but I like to work and my like
whole entire life is builtaround work you have to give
them a list of ways to besuccessful being intimate with
you and vulnerable.
I know that doesn't soundromantic, but to them it is.
And remember, you want toactivate their tantric energy.
(05:55):
You don't want to like activatetheir ego.
So when you do that, it allowsthem to step into vulnerability
because they know how to besuccessful at it.
Type threes If you're withsomeone and they're complaining
because you're a workaholic andthat you don't know how to be
present and be vulnerable, tellthem this Be like hey.
If you want to have like cuddletime on the couch and you want
(06:18):
me to watch like a whatever youwant on the TV, give me a time
frame.
Fridays from seven to eight, wewatch romantic comedies.
You'll be all there.
You'll feel so safe in itbecause you'll know exactly what
to do and how to be present inthat hour.
It's really important forthrees to have time boundaries,
(06:38):
because it allows you to be morevulnerable and for anyone
that's judging them, don't, thisis a beautiful thing.
Type threes get some stuff donein the world.
They're extremely successfuland learning how to set them up
for success in the bedroom or inyour relationship is going to
(06:58):
have you're going to have such abetter experience with them and
when they really step intotheir like, vulnerable side they
are such an amazing ally andespecially in partnerships and
business and in love, reallyallows them to be authentic, and
(07:20):
when they get to be authenticlike their tantric energy is
flowing.
Their life force is going to beunstoppable.
So this is a great remembrancefor threes too.
If you're afraid of yourvulnerability or you feel like
you started leaking and youdon't know how to turn off the
faucet, that's your higher selfcoming in, saying it's time for
(07:41):
you to learn how to feel all ofyour feelings.
Yeah, you can call me because Iwas there.
I'm really good with threes.
Type fours individualists.
They're the opposite of that.
They have a very deepconnection with all of their
feelings, especially sadness.
Fours can become trapped inemotional intensity, which
(08:03):
actually blocks their energywith self-absorption.
What does that mean?
Sometimes, fours are so intheir pain and sadness they
can't see out of it, like it ispart of their like energy and
their creative flow.
But when they can't see outsideof it they lose connection with
(08:27):
other people.
And connecting to the body andpracticing gratitude can help
them unblock their creative flow.
So, instead of looking for moresadness and more pain,
connecting in with gratitudeactually creates more balance
for you and that activates yourflow again.
(08:48):
Type fives head triad news.
This is the people.
People are all logic.
It makes me really angry when Imeet type fives and they're
like I was recently diagnosed asAsperger's.
I'm like why did we have tostart labeling all type fives as
Asperger's?
Like that is just who they arelike.
They are intellectual beingswho really enjoy intellect and
(09:10):
studying and have an incredibleprotective stance over their
time.
And you know I'm not dissingpeople who are like actually
legitimately labeled Asperger's,but type fives.
If you take your Enneagram andyou've been told that I just
want you to go read the entiresection on the type five you
might find a little bit morevalidity than some of the
(09:32):
traditional paths.
So fives tend to overintellectualize and distance
themselves from their emotions,blocking energy in their lower
chakras.
Engaging in physical practiceshelps them reconnect with their
life force.
So type fives tend to all ofthe head triad tends to not be
in their body a whole bunch.
They like to intellectualizeand live up here and they are
(09:56):
very disconnected from theirbodies.
So lower chakra activation thatI see a sphincter says what I
did, okay.
Sphincter says what yeah,that's for you.
You need to do some breath workand activate your pelvic floor
and your the muscles of yourwork and activate your pelvic
floor and the muscles of youranus.
(10:17):
Sorry, I'm just excited that Iget to say this on my podcast
now.
So when you activate all ofthose muscles, you're really
connecting to the root chakraand connecting back into your
life force energy.
This is not going to detractfrom your intellect, because
once you realize that yourintuitive nature is to connect
in with sources intellect, youdon't have to read as many books
(10:38):
because when your intuitioncomes on, you can just download
a whole bunch of coolinformation and then go find the
books that support it.
I promise you it's a really,really fun gift of intuition.
I have it.
It's super cool gift ofintuition.
I have it, it's super cool.
So one of the things that atype five could do would be
something like Qigong.
(10:58):
This is going to help keep thelife force in your body and help
flow that energy through yourbody and help you stay connected
in your body.
Really important Now, type sixis the loyalist.
Sixes often block their energythrough worry and doubt.
I'm just going to say if you'veever seen the movie Inside Out,
(11:19):
anxiety is the type sixembodied.
Type six has a ton of anxiety.
They're usually looking upconspiracy theories on the
internet and they have plannedevery possible worst case
scenario out so that when itactually arises they're already
(11:41):
prepared for it.
They're probably the calmestperson in the room because they
knew it was going to happen.
Type sixes tend to be a lot ofhero types and also like law
enforcement military.
And also like law enforcementmilitary.
They're the people who are,like you know, creating plans
around theft.
And I don't know.
I don't know because I'm not atype six, but I will say that
(12:04):
that worry, doubt and anxietycan take a toll on their
intuition because they arerunning 100% of the time on fear
, and fear energy blocks tantricenergy.
It just blocks it.
So we got to like start lettinggo of some of the fear and
anxiety and stepping into theenergy of flow and ease, because
(12:24):
, believe it or not, you will beable to detect threats much
easier when your intuition isturned on, because now you've
got your sixth sense activated,able to communicate with you
clearly when there's an actualthreat.
Trust me, that is a truesuperpower.
So type sevens, the last in thehead triad here, block energy by
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avoiding difficult emotions andseeking constant stimulation.
If you've ever had someone whohas toxic positivity, it's
probably a type seven.
I'm pretty sure we are the oneswho created like the high vibes
movement and lie to everyoneabout you're not supposed to
feel your negative feelings inorder to manifest.
(13:12):
In fact, type sevens, they'redifferent than all of the other
eight types.
We have to learn how to feelall of our negative feelings in
order to manifest, otherwise ourmanifester gets burnt out
because it's just straightdenial.
So type sevens need to groundand process through all of our
(13:32):
feelings, to ground and processthrough all of our feelings.
Now the cool thing is is, oncewe learn how to process our
feelings, we do it prettyquickly, like I don't remember
what was going on earlier.
I had this like deep wave ofsadness wash over me and I was
like, oh, I don't want to dealwith this right now and I'm
thinking about, like you know,inside out, and my joy is like,
(13:54):
oh, why is sadness here?
And I thought you know what youdo this for.
Like, this is what you do Sitdown and talk to the sadness.
What's up?
What do you?
What are you here to teach me?
What do you need?
And I, like, really sat with itand allowed it to process.
And then I laid in my magiclamp and I did this amazing
(14:14):
recode that I had just recordedfor a conscious communication
seminar and I felt instantlybetter.
I just had some old sadnessthat needed to be processed and
let go of, and it really didn'ttake a whole bunch, other than
me recognizing that it was thereand then doing one of the
things that I teach to processthrough it.
(14:35):
And then I left and I feltinspired.
I felt my creative energy backand I felt fully empowered and
actually kind of excited aboutdoing my podcast, which I have
been putting off for a couple ofweeks, which is also a seven
thing.
We like constant stimulation.
So if you're with someone inlike or if you're a seven and
you're constantly distracted,fomo is like a killer of
(15:00):
connection for you.
Fear of missing out onsomething better kills your
relationships.
I'm not kidding, this is aserious issue for sevens.
It also kills your tantricenergy because you're not really
present with people, you're notconnected.
You're like kind of likedevouring stuff but never
actually being with stuff.
(15:20):
It's like what is the word?
I was just working on a shadowof gluttony the other day and
it's like that feeling like it'snever enough, like planning the
vacation and being there butlike thinking about the next one
because this one wasn't goodenough.
That's the curse of the seven.
So be present in your body, bepresent with your feelings and
(15:41):
be present with other people andpresence is the greatest gift
that you can learn To be presentwith everyone.
This weekend, when we weredoing our conscious
communication seminar, it feltso good because I could sit with
them in their pain or their joy, and I wasn't trying to get to
(16:02):
the next session or the nextsegment.
I was just fully present in theexperience, which allowed my
intuition to just come rightthrough and guide the group
exactly where we needed to go.
If I was looking at theschedule or thinking about what
was next or break time, I wouldhave missed out on the beauty of
what we had created.
(16:23):
One of my favorite gifts of myspiritual awakening, midlife
spiritual bitch slap experienceis that I have learned how to
feel.
I've learned how to feel all ofthe feels and not just think
about them, but feel themwhether they're good or bad.
Now, type sevens, this is a big, big task because you think you
(16:50):
feel, but most of the timeyou're just thinking about
feeling.
You're not actually embodyingthe feelings, and this is where
embodiment practices areincredibly helpful for you.
Ground clear focus, createsomething beautiful.
Because, sevens, I'm tellingyou, you are magical spiritual
(17:11):
creators.
If you can just sit with yourpain long enough to get to your
intuition, promise you it's agift.
That's a big statement too,because a couple of weeks ago I
didn't think it was Type eightschallengers.
Eights can block energy bystaying in control and denying
all vulnerability.
(17:32):
Okay, I think the eights, thesevens and the threes should
just have a vulnerabilityvacation where we go and learn
how to like, cry and feel andtalk about stuff and, like you
know, do breath work and eyegazing with each other.
I think that's probably comingup, because threes, sevens and
eights need vulnerability, andtype eights especially need
(17:55):
vulnerability because in theirvulnerability their intuition
gets incredibly strong and theirtantric energy flows.
See, eights tend to think thattheir anger is their tantric
energy or it may kind of igniteit.
But their real power, theirreal tantric manifesting
abilities, come when they tapinto that vulnerability and they
(18:18):
allow that vulnerability tolead, instead of control and
anger, surrender, to softnessand emotional openness.
It helps you unlock your lifeforce.
I know that's a big ask, don'tworry, we're probably going to
go on vacation one day and I'llhelp you all step into this,
(18:41):
because it is a really powerfulplace.
When you allow your softness tocome through, your genius of
being able to stand up forwhat's right when you're in your
softness actually becomesamplified by your higher self
and it's like this compassionateforce on the world that we need
right now.
(19:03):
Type nines this is also in thebody triad.
Nines block their energy bynumbing out or avoiding conflict
.
I love type nines because theythink they meditate and they're
like no, my mind's completelyclear and it's not meditation.
They're actually justcompletely numbed out, like they
just aren't having any thoughtsat all.
(19:24):
This is a tough place for anine because you're actually
blocking out your life forceenergy.
Nines tend to say like marinatewith whoever they're around.
To say like marinate withwhoever they're around Merge is
the word and they'll literallyshift into the perspective of
(19:48):
the person that they're with andagreeing with, like everything,
because they're almost likesplitting their energy and
they're like merged with theother person and them and they
don't know the differencebetween them and themselves and
the other person and them, andthey don't know the difference
between them and themselves andthe other person, and this
blocks out their own power andenergy.
It's very draining for typenines.
Energy for type nines is goingto look like engaging with life
(20:13):
fully and stepping into yourpersonal power, and that's going
to help you tap into yourtantric energy.
Now some nines are afraid totap into it because they have a
lot of repressed rage.
So if that might be you, then Iwould say like working with
someone who can help you releasethat rage so that it like
(20:33):
starts flowing more into, like abeautiful flow, peaceful energy
is going to make a bigdifference for you.
A lot of nines were told thatthey didn't matter and that
their opinions didn't matter,their voice didn't matter, and
so they have a really hard timeexpressing themselves and
connecting with who they are,because they were really kids
(20:56):
who oriented to whoever theywere around so that they could
feel safe in the world and toavoid conflict at all costs.
Because, although they're inthe anger triad, they have a
deep fear of their own anger.
It doesn't feel safe to them,but what happens is, instead of
(21:17):
like experiencing it, releasingit, discussing it, they
completely repress and ignore itand then it looks like numbing
out, literally just not beingthere and not like numbing out
creates so much disconnectionfor you.
I've dated a lot of nines andone of the loneliest experiences
(21:41):
is when a nine shuts you outbecause you're like all of a
sudden you're like there withthem, like you're all there and
they get you and then theyfreeze you out and it's like
they're not even there and youfeel this cold loneliness just
go over your entire being and itfeels almost like the life has
(22:06):
been sucked out of yourrelationship.
It is a horrible feeling and Iknow the nines.
I'm not blaming nines, I'm notsaying that this is their fault.
I'm just saying that like theydo it as a self-preservation way
of making sure that they havean idea of who they are.
But when they do that and theyfreeze out the other person,
(22:27):
they also lose the ability tohave deep connection with people
and stay in their own authorityover who they are, in their own
authority over who they are.
And when you learn how to be inyour body and be present with
people and also still be yourauthentic self, you're going to
have your own energy and power,fueling your relationships, and
(22:50):
your partner is not going tofeel like they just stepped into
the Northwest freeze.
So that's just my personalexperience on the other side of
the nine, and I would sayloneliness is not a feeling I
love and that freeze out is oneof the most lonely experiences
(23:11):
I've ever had, because I thinkwhen you're sitting with another
human being and they'recompletely disconnected and shut
down, that's more lonely thanbeing completely alone.
Sitting by yourself on a desertisland, like being with someone
who's completely disconnectedis way more lonely than being
(23:31):
alone.
So that is my little journeythrough the Enneagram and how we
close off our tantric energy ineach Enneagram type.
I hope you enjoyed this and ifyou're interested in learning
more about the Enneagram, it issomething I teach in SOMA, tribe
and in all of my classesactually, because I think the
(23:52):
Enneagram is probably one of themost helpful personal
development tools that'sunderutilized by most people.
Well, I hope you enjoyedtonight.
Thank you so much for listening.
I really appreciate you and Ihope you have a great day.
Take care.
Okay, I promised that I would talk about how all of
the Enneagram types blocktantric energy.
So on tonight's episode we aregoing to talk about how each
Enneagram type will know howthey're blocking their own
tantric energy.
So if you don't know what theEnneagram is, I'm going to put a
link in the show notes on howto figure out what your
(00:25):
Enneagram type is.
But basically, it's thisancient personality typing
system.
What I love about it is thatit's a manual to your mind.
Now, we are all unique andthere's like subtypes and
there's a whole complexity andlayers to the Enneagram.
I like to keep it simple whenI'm talking about it, because we
can get really overcomplicatedwith it and we can also like
(00:48):
overanalyze it and we miss thepoint and the beauty of the tool
.
It's basically a tool thathelps us understand our brains.
It really helps us understandour core fears, our core desires
, and I like to say it's likethis cool user manual that when
you read it you're like, oh crap, am I doing that?
(01:08):
Dang it.
Or when you're dealing withsomeone else, you have like a
little user manual to the backend of their brain and you can
understand some of their quirks,their blind spots and things
that they might not even beaware of in a really cool and
unique way.
So that's the quick and dirtyon Enneagram blind spots and
things that they might not evenbe aware of in a really cool and
unique way.
So that's the quick and dirtyon Enneagram.
(01:34):
But let's talk types.
So type one, also known as theperfectionist.
They are in the body triad,which means they tend to have
some built-in repressed angerand most of the time they don't
know about it.
Normally it just shows up likejudgment.
It doesn't show up likeexplosive anger.
So when a type one is blockingtheir tantric energy, they may
(01:59):
be overly rigid and controlling,suppressing their actual, true
desires.
And opening up involvesembracing flexibility and
spontaneity.
So one of the ways that a typeone can activate their tantric
energy or to like really connectback in with it, is to be in
(02:20):
their seven, which is playful,more spontaneous, less rigid.
Pull the inner critic judge outof their head and give them a
holiday.
That is like number one.
So if you're a type one andyou've been experiencing any of
that, really step into yourseven and like play, go, play,
(02:42):
dance in the rain I'm sayingthat because it's raining
outside and I just went for adance in the rain.
I'm saying that because it'sraining outside and I just went
for a long walk in the rain andit felt so good.
Play, just play, smile, laugh,throw away the plan, get in the
car, drive, don't make any planson your vacation.
Literally show up without asingle reservation.
(03:04):
I know that might be a big leap, I get that, but try it one
time.
It'll be, it'll be really cooland magical.
Okay, type two the helper.
Twos block their energy byprioritizing other people's
needs over their own, leading toemotional depletion.
Learning to receive and balancegiving with self-care opens
(03:25):
their flow.
Twos really need to learn howto express their needs, and that
is a big ask.
I know I work with a lot oftwos because when I say that to
them, they look at me with bigeyes like what I don't
understand.
Don't people just know what Ineed?
Like I know what they need?
The answer is no, they don't.
(03:45):
It is a unique gift of the typetwo and unfortunately, most
other people do not have thatgift.
So your unique genius is alsothe thing you crave the most,
but other people don't reallyknow how to do it, so got to
learn how to express your needs.
When you do that and you'resuper clear about it, you're
(04:07):
going to feel the free flow ofyour energy back.
So, type twos, to open up yourenergy, figure out what your
needs are and how to have themmet and, more importantly, allow
people to meet them.
It's okay.
You can allow them to meet theneeds that you have.
It's actually really good foryou.
(04:27):
Type three is the achiever.
I love me some type threes.
They are go-getters and theylove goals.
Threes may disconnect fromtheir emotions and their pursuit
of success.
Allowing vulnerability andauthentic self-expression helps
restore their life force.
I love it when I meet threesbecause they usually come in and
(04:49):
they're like, um, something'swrong with my face.
It's like leaking and I don'tknow how to make it stop and I'm
like, oh, those are tears ofvulnerability.
Hello, nice to meet you.
I was there once too.
I'm a seven.
We're very similar and I I meanseriously it is.
It is a beautiful experience towalk a three through, stepping
into their vulnerability andtheir vulnerable side, because
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it's like a really foreignlanguage.
I love working with threesbecause they're very easy.
They like a goal list.
So if you're dating a three oryou're married to a three or you
are a three.
You need a list of like andsuccess that people can meet
Like.
So, okay, let me give it to you.
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Like this If you're married toa three and you want intimacy
and connection and they're like,but I like to work and my like
whole entire life is builtaround work you have to give
them a list of ways to besuccessful being intimate with
you and vulnerable.
I know that doesn't soundromantic, but to them it is.
And remember, you want toactivate their tantric energy.
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You don't want to like activatetheir ego.
So when you do that, it allowsthem to step into vulnerability
because they know how to besuccessful at it.
Type threes If you're withsomeone and they're complaining
because you're a workaholic andthat you don't know how to be
present and be vulnerable, tellthem this Be like hey.
If you want to have like cuddletime on the couch and you want
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me to watch like a whatever youwant on the TV, give me a time
frame.
Fridays from seven to eight, wewatch romantic comedies.
You'll be all there.
You'll feel so safe in itbecause you'll know exactly what
to do and how to be present inthat hour.
It's really important forthrees to have time boundaries,
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because it allows you to be morevulnerable and for anyone
that's judging them, don't, thisis a beautiful thing.
Type threes get some stuff donein the world.
They're extremely successfuland learning how to set them up
for success in the bedroom or inyour relationship is going to
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have you're going to have such abetter experience with them and
when they really step intotheir like, vulnerable side they
are such an amazing ally andespecially in partnerships and
business and in love, reallyallows them to be authentic, and
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when they get to be authenticlike their tantric energy is
flowing.
Their life force is going to beunstoppable.
So this is a great remembrancefor threes too.
If you're afraid of yourvulnerability or you feel like
you started leaking and youdon't know how to turn off the
faucet, that's your higher selfcoming in, saying it's time for
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you to learn how to feel all ofyour feelings.
Yeah, you can call me because Iwas there.
I'm really good with threes.
Type fours individualists.
They're the opposite of that.
They have a very deepconnection with all of their
feelings, especially sadness.
Fours can become trapped inemotional intensity, which
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actually blocks their energywith self-absorption.
What does that mean?
Sometimes, fours are so intheir pain and sadness they
can't see out of it, like it ispart of their like energy and
their creative flow.
But when they can't see outsideof it they lose connection with
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other people.
And connecting to the body andpracticing gratitude can help
them unblock their creative flow.
So, instead of looking for moresadness and more pain,
connecting in with gratitudeactually creates more balance
for you and that activates yourflow again.
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Type fives head triad news.
This is the people.
People are all logic.
It makes me really angry when Imeet type fives and they're
like I was recently diagnosed asAsperger's.
I'm like why did we have tostart labeling all type fives as
Asperger's?
Like that is just who they arelike.
They are intellectual beingswho really enjoy intellect and
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studying and have an incredibleprotective stance over their
time.
And you know I'm not dissingpeople who are like actually
legitimately labeled Asperger's,but type fives.
If you take your Enneagram andyou've been told that I just
want you to go read the entiresection on the type five you
might find a little bit morevalidity than some of the
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traditional paths.
So fives tend to overintellectualize and distance
themselves from their emotions,blocking energy in their lower
chakras.
Engaging in physical practiceshelps them reconnect with their
life force.
So type fives tend to all ofthe head triad tends to not be
in their body a whole bunch.
They like to intellectualizeand live up here and they are
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very disconnected from theirbodies.
So lower chakra activation thatI see a sphincter says what I
did, okay.
Sphincter says what yeah,that's for you.
You need to do some breath workand activate your pelvic floor
and your the muscles of yourwork and activate your pelvic
floor and the muscles of youranus.
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Sorry, I'm just excited that Iget to say this on my podcast
now.
So when you activate all ofthose muscles, you're really
connecting to the root chakraand connecting back into your
life force energy.
This is not going to detractfrom your intellect, because
once you realize that yourintuitive nature is to connect
in with sources intellect, youdon't have to read as many books
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because when your intuitioncomes on, you can just download
a whole bunch of coolinformation and then go find the
books that support it.
I promise you it's a really,really fun gift of intuition.
I have it.
It's super cool gift ofintuition.
I have it, it's super cool.
So one of the things that atype five could do would be
something like Qigong.
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This is going to help keep thelife force in your body and help
flow that energy through yourbody and help you stay connected
in your body.
Really important Now, type sixis the loyalist.
Sixes often block their energythrough worry and doubt.
I'm just going to say if you'veever seen the movie Inside Out,
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anxiety is the type sixembodied.
Type six has a ton of anxiety.
They're usually looking upconspiracy theories on the
internet and they have plannedevery possible worst case
scenario out so that when itactually arises they're already
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prepared for it.
They're probably the calmestperson in the room because they
knew it was going to happen.
Type sixes tend to be a lot ofhero types and also like law
enforcement military.
And also like law enforcementmilitary.
They're the people who are,like you know, creating plans
around theft.
And I don't know.
I don't know because I'm not atype six, but I will say that
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that worry, doubt and anxietycan take a toll on their
intuition because they arerunning 100% of the time on fear
, and fear energy blocks tantricenergy.
It just blocks it.
So we got to like start lettinggo of some of the fear and
anxiety and stepping into theenergy of flow and ease, because
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, believe it or not, you will beable to detect threats much
easier when your intuition isturned on, because now you've
got your sixth sense activated,able to communicate with you
clearly when there's an actualthreat.
Trust me, that is a truesuperpower.
So type sevens, the last in thehead triad here, block energy by
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avoiding difficult emotions andseeking constant stimulation.
If you've ever had someone whohas toxic positivity, it's
probably a type seven.
I'm pretty sure we are the oneswho created like the high vibes
movement and lie to everyoneabout you're not supposed to
feel your negative feelings inorder to manifest.
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In fact, type sevens, they'redifferent than all of the other
eight types.
We have to learn how to feelall of our negative feelings in
order to manifest, otherwise ourmanifester gets burnt out
because it's just straightdenial.
So type sevens need to groundand process through all of our
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feelings, to ground and processthrough all of our feelings.
Now the cool thing is is, oncewe learn how to process our
feelings, we do it prettyquickly, like I don't remember
what was going on earlier.
I had this like deep wave ofsadness wash over me and I was
like, oh, I don't want to dealwith this right now and I'm
thinking about, like you know,inside out, and my joy is like,
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oh, why is sadness here?
And I thought you know what youdo this for.
Like, this is what you do Sitdown and talk to the sadness.
What's up?
What do you?
What are you here to teach me?
What do you need?
And I, like, really sat with itand allowed it to process.
And then I laid in my magiclamp and I did this amazing
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recode that I had just recordedfor a conscious communication
seminar and I felt instantlybetter.
I just had some old sadnessthat needed to be processed and
let go of, and it really didn'ttake a whole bunch, other than
me recognizing that it was thereand then doing one of the
things that I teach to processthrough it.
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And then I left and I feltinspired.
I felt my creative energy backand I felt fully empowered and
actually kind of excited aboutdoing my podcast, which I have
been putting off for a couple ofweeks, which is also a seven
thing.
We like constant stimulation.
So if you're with someone inlike or if you're a seven and
you're constantly distracted,fomo is like a killer of
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connection for you.
Fear of missing out onsomething better kills your
relationships.
I'm not kidding, this is aserious issue for sevens.
It also kills your tantricenergy because you're not really
present with people, you're notconnected.
You're like kind of likedevouring stuff but never
actually being with stuff.
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It's like what is the word?
I was just working on a shadowof gluttony the other day and
it's like that feeling like it'snever enough, like planning the
vacation and being there butlike thinking about the next one
because this one wasn't goodenough.
That's the curse of the seven.
So be present in your body, bepresent with your feelings and
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be present with other people andpresence is the greatest gift
that you can learn To be presentwith everyone.
This weekend, when we weredoing our conscious
communication seminar, it feltso good because I could sit with
them in their pain or their joy, and I wasn't trying to get to
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the next session or the nextsegment.
I was just fully present in theexperience, which allowed my
intuition to just come rightthrough and guide the group
exactly where we needed to go.
If I was looking at theschedule or thinking about what
was next or break time, I wouldhave missed out on the beauty of
what we had created.
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One of my favorite gifts of myspiritual awakening, midlife
spiritual bitch slap experienceis that I have learned how to
feel.
I've learned how to feel all ofthe feels and not just think
about them, but feel themwhether they're good or bad.
Now, type sevens, this is a big, big task because you think you
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feel, but most of the timeyou're just thinking about
feeling.
You're not actually embodyingthe feelings, and this is where
embodiment practices areincredibly helpful for you.
Ground clear focus, createsomething beautiful.
Because, sevens, I'm tellingyou, you are magical spiritual
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creators.
If you can just sit with yourpain long enough to get to your
intuition, promise you it's agift.
That's a big statement too,because a couple of weeks ago I
didn't think it was Type eightschallengers.
Eights can block energy bystaying in control and denying
all vulnerability.
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Okay, I think the eights, thesevens and the threes should
just have a vulnerabilityvacation where we go and learn
how to like, cry and feel andtalk about stuff and, like you
know, do breath work and eyegazing with each other.
I think that's probably comingup, because threes, sevens and
eights need vulnerability, andtype eights especially need
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vulnerability because in theirvulnerability their intuition
gets incredibly strong and theirtantric energy flows.
See, eights tend to think thattheir anger is their tantric
energy or it may kind of igniteit.
But their real power, theirreal tantric manifesting
abilities, come when they tapinto that vulnerability and they
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allow that vulnerability tolead, instead of control and
anger, surrender, to softnessand emotional openness.
It helps you unlock your lifeforce.
I know that's a big ask, don'tworry, we're probably going to
go on vacation one day and I'llhelp you all step into this,
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because it is a really powerfulplace.
When you allow your softness tocome through, your genius of
being able to stand up forwhat's right when you're in your
softness actually becomesamplified by your higher self
and it's like this compassionateforce on the world that we need
right now.
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Type nines this is also in thebody triad.
Nines block their energy bynumbing out or avoiding conflict
.
I love type nines because theythink they meditate and they're
like no, my mind's completelyclear and it's not meditation.
They're actually justcompletely numbed out, like they
just aren't having any thoughtsat all.
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This is a tough place for anine because you're actually
blocking out your life forceenergy.
Nines tend to say like marinatewith whoever they're around.
To say like marinate withwhoever they're around Merge is
the word and they'll literallyshift into the perspective of
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the person that they're with andagreeing with, like everything,
because they're almost likesplitting their energy and
they're like merged with theother person and them and they
don't know the differencebetween them and themselves and
the other person and them, andthey don't know the difference
between them and themselves andthe other person, and this
blocks out their own power andenergy.
It's very draining for typenines.
Energy for type nines is goingto look like engaging with life
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fully and stepping into yourpersonal power, and that's going
to help you tap into yourtantric energy.
Now some nines are afraid totap into it because they have a
lot of repressed rage.
So if that might be you, then Iwould say like working with
someone who can help you releasethat rage so that it like
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starts flowing more into, like abeautiful flow, peaceful energy
is going to make a bigdifference for you.
A lot of nines were told thatthey didn't matter and that
their opinions didn't matter,their voice didn't matter, and
so they have a really hard timeexpressing themselves and
connecting with who they are,because they were really kids
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who oriented to whoever theywere around so that they could
feel safe in the world and toavoid conflict at all costs.
Because, although they're inthe anger triad, they have a
deep fear of their own anger.
It doesn't feel safe to them,but what happens is, instead of
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like experiencing it, releasingit, discussing it, they
completely repress and ignore itand then it looks like numbing
out, literally just not beingthere and not like numbing out
creates so much disconnectionfor you.
I've dated a lot of nines andone of the loneliest experiences
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is when a nine shuts you outbecause you're like all of a
sudden you're like there withthem, like you're all there and
they get you and then theyfreeze you out and it's like
they're not even there and youfeel this cold loneliness just
go over your entire being and itfeels almost like the life has
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been sucked out of yourrelationship.
It is a horrible feeling and Iknow the nines.
I'm not blaming nines, I'm notsaying that this is their fault.
I'm just saying that like theydo it as a self-preservation way
of making sure that they havean idea of who they are.
But when they do that and theyfreeze out the other person,
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they also lose the ability tohave deep connection with people
and stay in their own authorityover who they are, in their own
authority over who they are.
And when you learn how to be inyour body and be present with
people and also still be yourauthentic self, you're going to
have your own energy and power,fueling your relationships, and
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your partner is not going tofeel like they just stepped into
the Northwest freeze.
So that's just my personalexperience on the other side of
the nine, and I would sayloneliness is not a feeling I
love and that freeze out is oneof the most lonely experiences
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I've ever had, because I thinkwhen you're sitting with another
human being and they'recompletely disconnected and shut
down, that's more lonely thanbeing completely alone.
Sitting by yourself on a desertisland, like being with someone
who's completely disconnectedis way more lonely than being
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alone.
So that is my little journeythrough the Enneagram and how we
close off our tantric energy ineach Enneagram type.
I hope you enjoyed this and ifyou're interested in learning
more about the Enneagram, it issomething I teach in SOMA, tribe
and in all of my classesactually, because I think the
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Enneagram is probably one of themost helpful personal
development tools that'sunderutilized by most people.
Well, I hope you enjoyedtonight.
Thank you so much for listening.
I really appreciate you and Ihope you have a great day.
Take care.
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