March 2, 2025 • 31 mins
Michele shares her insights on making a long-distance relationship thrive despite the challenges it presents. Through discussion of communication, shared experiences, and overcoming misconceptions, she portrays a refreshing and encouraging perspective on love across miles.
• Michele recounts her nearly nine-year-long long-distance relationship
• Daily communication strategies enhance connection
• Learning about each other continuously is crucial to their bond
• Love languages and gifting take on new meaning with distance
• Combating loneliness through proactive communication is vital
• Trust and respect are essential in their relationship
• Long-distance relationships often face misconceptions about their viability
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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We are enjoying it thoroughly,yeah, uh, and today we are.
We're going to have a littlespecial topic today.
Does Michelle look nervous?
She's a little nervous.
So, as many of you know, thereare lots of different types of
relationships, right, and we hadone episode where we talked
(02:00):
about a variety of differentkinds between monogamous
relationships, long distancerelationships.
You know, not monogamousrelationship, all different
kinds.
You know, and we're hopefullygoing to have some people that
on a future date that can sharesome of those lifestyles that
we're not super familiar with.
But there is one that Michelleis very familiar with and that
(02:21):
is the long distancerelationship very familiar with,
and that is the long distancerelationship which I still am in
awe of, her and her sweetheartRick, because I can't believe
that they have been doing thisfor as long as they have.
Yeah, I would be such a bigbrat baby.
We go the distance, man, I'mtelling you yeah.
So we want to talk about that alittle bit, because here's the
thing I have heard enough peoplesay to me that girl's smart.
(02:45):
Michelle is smart, you know,because she's got the best of
both worlds.
She has this amazing guy andshe sees him every what?
Six weeks or?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
you know a couple of months.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Every couple of months Used to be longer, but
you know, the longer we'retogether, the more frequent we
see each other, you know, thelonger we're together, the more
frequent we see each other,right, yeah, so, and being in
the same place for, you know, amonth at a time or something is
going to be kind of interestingwhen the time happens, yeah, but
(03:25):
in the meantime they kind oflearn something about each other
every time that they'retogether.
Michelle, if she'd be willingto share a little bit of insight
on the long distancerelationship that she has,
because, as I mentioned before,I am in awe, because I just
don't think it would besomething that I would be able
to do on without an end in sight, you know, a long term, without
having a goal in sight, an openended type of situation.
I just I personally couldn't doit, but then again maybe I could
At this age I think we could doa lot of things differently
(03:46):
that we thought we couldn't doit, but then again, maybe I
could At this age I think wecould do a lot of things
differently that we thought wecouldn't do before.
So why don't you give us alittle bit of insight on how
this started and how long it'sbeen going on and what you've
found over the course of time?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
That's a loaded.
That was like a three-partquestion.
That's a loaded.
That was like a three-partquestion.
I was in Alaska for work.
He was in Alaska for work.
We were both staying at theSheraton and I saw him for the
first time in the bar, and so Iwon't go into the squishy story
(04:22):
about it, but that's where wemet for the first time and we
exchanged information and youknow that was March this year,
so in another month it'll benine years ago that we met.
You know he's from the Midwestand I'm from the West.
Here in the Pacific Northwestwe live 2,000 miles apart, and
(04:44):
that was in March.
You know he travels for workand so you know I saw him now
and again.
We communicated and it just has.
It just evolved Over time, overtime, and obviously we really
enjoyed each other's company.
(05:05):
It was interesting and curious.
For a while we didn't obviouslyknow each other.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
We didn't see each other every day, so it was a
process, a process for sure, theone thing that I've always been
so curious about is how you'vebeen able to kind of maintain
that day-to-day type ofcommunication, Because that
seems to me like that would bethe most difficult thing,
(05:32):
Because you don't I meanday-to-day life you have very
mundane things really going onin your life, right, things that
are happening at work or thedrive home, or at the grocery,
whatever, and those aren'tthings necessarily that you
would chat with somebody andshare on a daily basis, right,
right?
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Yeah, and if you think about it, you don't either
when you're in the same place.
I mean you're both going to yourseparate jobs every day, doing
what you do with you know eighthours a day, and obviously, when
you're starting in a newrelationship and it wasn't even
that you know, we're justgetting to know each other from
(06:09):
a distance, which is yeah, it'sdifferent than when you're in
the same place, but you know, itwas definitely something to
look forward to, because it'snot like we would come home and
see each other or meet eachother for happy hours right.
That we didn't have that option,and so is texting.
(06:30):
You know there's there was alot of texting and we pretty
much talked on the phone everysingle day.
Facetime you know, those areall things that have, of course,
facetime, those are all thingsthat, of course, have been part
of the beginning and how we'removing through it, and it leaves
(06:54):
a lot of open thoughts on whothis person is Right.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Right?
Did you find that you werelearning something new every
single time you guys weretogether?
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I laugh about that because, as you know, not
initially there was, of course,a dating period, even at a
distance, right.
That was just different thanwhat it is when you're in the
same place.
But you know, as as time wouldgo on and either he would be
visiting me or when I wouldvisit him, I kind of started
(07:35):
this thing like so what did youlearn about me this time that
you didn't know before?
Right, it's kind of this, youknow little little game and you
know there's always something,yeah there's always something
you're going to learn.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
There's always something.
Even how you live and how helives are different.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
And how you clean up after things and how you get
ready when you go somewhere andall kinds of different things.
You know little nuances thatyou don't even realize.
But I think when you're at adistance and you don't see each
other on a daily basis or everyother day and that kind of thing
(08:13):
, and after a couple of years alot of people now, after a
couple of years, will probablybe living together, right.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Or they're staying overnight at each other's places
all the time.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, and that's that's not the not the case here
, obviously.
So, um, you know just just thelittle things.
That's why trying to go out ofyour way to recognize things and
bring newness and and fun intoit as as a part of that, like I
(08:48):
said, that's why I would be likeso you know what'd you?
Learn that you didn't knowbefore, Right.
So?
Speaker 2 (08:54):
yeah, did you find that?
Did you guys ever talk aboutlove languages, like how you
would like what, what works forhim, like what kind of things
would be good for him from adistance?
And when you're looking at lovelanguages, like like the acts
of service, obviously are notthings necessarily that you
could do but like the giftingthing, right, you know.
(09:15):
But if he's not a person who'sreally drawn to having gifts,
then that wouldn't necessarilybe something that resonates
right, right.
Whereas you might be someonewho's drawn to gifts but he
doesn't do gifts, or you knowit's interesting.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
We've never like taken a deep dive into those
things.
We recognize what each other'slove languages are because we
have talked about that.
But just even as you're posingthat question, it makes me think
how, when you are at a distance, it puts a different how, when
(09:47):
you are at a distance, it puts adifferent, it almost puts a
different spin on it.
You know, when it comes to thelove language thing, because you
know I especially when, as wewere getting to know each other,
I loved sending boxes right,and we're big on cards, cards,
(10:08):
boxes, little something that youcan send, because that's how
that brings the connection in.
And whatever is in those isrepresentative and speaks to the
kind of person that you are.
So it's exposing at the sametime different aspects.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Sure Does that make sense?
Well, and it probably,especially if, like, the cards
and the gifts and things likethat that are getting sent
aren't something that, like say,he's comfortable with doing.
He has to really make an effortto do that so you know that
it's even more special.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, there's thought that goes into different things
and yeah yeah, yeah, andkeeping things spicy yeah so
let's talk about spicy.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
So how have you been able to combat the feeling of
like missing him and the loan?
There's loneliness.
Obviously that corresponds withthat when you're trying to to
live your life but you want toshare something that's happening
with them.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
You know you know it's communication can be
challenging in any relationship,sure?
So add the layer of 2 000 milesand there you go.
So communication is even, andeven in different ways, I think,
probably because you know ifI'm feeling some kind of way.
(11:30):
It's actually something that Ilearned through this
relationship about myself, andthe importance of letting him
know if I am feeling some kindof way, even based on his
communication, is huge in a longdistance relationship, right?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I would say, probably in some respects even more so.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yes, because of the distance.
It's not like this has neverhappened, but it's.
It's not like if he wasn'tanswering the phone.
I can't just like drive my assover there and knock on the door
.
See what's going on.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Right.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yeah, that's not an option.
So there's a level of trust.
Yeah, level of trust.
The communication is huge andrespect the respect um realizing
that.
Respect the respect, realizingthat, yeah, you know vice versa
he can't just show up on mydoorstep Right and so going out
(12:27):
of your way to communicate,whereas if you're in a
relationship, that's that whereyou're both there, it might feel
different because you can dothose things.
So I don't know if that makessense, but what I'm trying to
convey, but because you're notable to do those things, the
(12:50):
level of respect that comes intoplay is super important and I
have to say he's definitely achamp.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Yeah, no, he really has been pretty wonderful about
it, yeah.
I know we, we talk we've talkedabout this so many times because
I don't have.
I haven't really been in thatsituation until like way, way
back when I was dating Brian.
You know we lived apart for 13,14 months.
He was down in California and Iwas here.
(13:19):
We got engaged halfway throughthat time period.
So whenever we saw each other,it was always this like you know
wonderful moment kind of athing, where it's like there's
no fighting, there's no arguing,there's, you know, everything's
wonderful.
It's like this long weekend kindof a thing you know, and then
when you're in the same place,it's like a whole.
It was a whole differentballgame.
(13:40):
You have to kind of learn tolive together and we had to
learn each other's kind ofidiosyncrasies and just the
things that would be pet peeves,because we really hadn't been
exposed to them in the same waybefore.
So what do you, what can you do, or what do you do to kind of
combat some of that feeling ofbeing apart, like when you're
(14:02):
missing?
Speaker 1 (14:05):
I just feel so fortunate being in a
relationship like we are longdistance with technology.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, that's huge.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
FaceTime is huge, you know, and on top of the
distance we have a three hourtime difference.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
So when I'm like getting off work, he's, you know
, it's, it's, he's, he's donehis deal for the evening and
he's getting ready for bed.
So there's a timing thing.
That that comes into play tooand it, you know, as we've gone
on and on and our relationshiphas solidified and the trust has
(14:44):
deepened and the respectfactors, all of that stuff, it's
interesting because you do getto know each other on a
day-to-day basis and what thoserhythms are and how to um, how
to recognize him how torecognize the rhythms and what
(15:05):
the other one has going on Like.
If, if we just you know, have aquick phone call before before
bed, it's okay.
I mean like it's late, his dayis done, I'm still early evening
, remember when you guys were.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
you were saying, when you very first started seeing
each other, you had like thisexpectation.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Well, yeah, we actually.
Actually, I learned early onthat expectations in a long
distance relationship are notrealistic.
Yeah, and he really helped merecognize that honestly, because
I think, as a woman, we tend tohave expectations regardless.
And, don't get me wrong, thereare things that are a given
(15:47):
right, but we did FaceTime everysingle day and it was late at
night and we would into thehours.
There were a lot of things.
No-transcript.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
There were a lot of things.
It's kind of like the real,fresh dating stuff.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Yeah, getting to know each other.
But as time has gone on, yeah,we have recognized our rhythm
and come to a level of respectand we know enough about each
other now?
I would hope so after nineyears to where it's all good.
It's all good, you're just sochill about it.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
And you know it hasn't always been chill.
There's been things and momentsand it's, like you know, trying
to figure it out and coming tothe place, to where you can feel
chill if you will about it Kindof like whatever will be, will
be.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Yeah, whatever the future holds, it will hold, and
those are the things we'vetalked about where I've been
like and it's our personalitiesare so different because I just
really can't fathom what you'veexplained to me or what you're
doing, because it's notsomething that I've.
When I did that before a long,long, long, long time ago, there
was an end in sight, right, andit was a pretty short end in
(17:06):
sight.
So I would be, I would probablybe okay with it if I knew that
there was like an end in sight,because, especially, you know,
where men are concerned is, menand women are very different,
and he's a good looking guy andyou know you have to be in a
place where you are verytrusting of his intentions and
you've.
Obviously he has to trust yourintentions too, because there's
been plenty of times when we'reout and stuff and I'm like stay
(17:27):
away, she's taken.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
You know you know, leave her alone.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
She's fine, you know, yeah.
So what do you think some ofthe misconceptions are out there
of long distance relationshipsthat we can kind of enlighten
some people about?
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I think, some of the givens.
When it comes to long distancerelationships, I think there is
the idea that they're doomed.
Why would you even put in thetime and effort?
Is it really going to goanywhere?
Would you even put in the timeand effort?
Is it really going to goanywhere?
Where's it going to get youthat?
Uh, either or the man or thewoman at when you're in a long
(18:07):
distance relation relationship?
Um, they're going to cheat, uh,you know that happens.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
That happens when people live in the same place.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Exactly that happens, no matter what Right.
So, um, you know it's, it'sjust really your, your, your
mindset, and getting to knowyour person, truly getting to
know your person, and and um,recognizing things about them,
patterns, consistent, just like,just like I was saying, just
(18:38):
how we live our everyday lifeand what we have going on.
You know he has, he has afamily, I have a family, I have
grandkids.
We have all these things thatare going on.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
And you've started to weave those things together.
Yeah, I mean definitely.
He has two amazing daughtersand you know he's so dedicated
to them and it's really cool tosee how well they've done, but a
lot of that is a testimony tohim you know, and the kind of
effort he's put into that, andthey don't live even in the same
state that he lives, right, youknow.
So he's supporting them from adistance, but his home, where he
(19:13):
lives in Indianapolis, is wherethey grew up, and so that's
kind of the home base now, yeah,and so that's kind of the home
base now, yeah, and so that'swhere he's at and I and he's
been here, you know, obviouslyseveral times and he's like
there's no way I would ever livehere.
It's too expensive, which istrue If you compare where we're
at, compared to Indianapolisit's.
I was like, oh, no problem, youcan get a shack for 600,000 here
(19:36):
, you know, if you move way out,of the city kind of a thing.
Yeah, it is kind of that bad,but it's.
It's interesting to see youknow the differences in terms of
lifestyle.
Like, yeah, I'm always like,okay, what's the next step,
what's the next step?
And Michelle's like, well, justkind of wait and see what
(19:58):
happens.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
And I just I love that about you.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Because I I admire that really.
It's's like you're just kind ofdoing what you do and I think
the timing in terms of where weare in our lives, it kind of
makes sense, and we've been inconversations with people in
groups and things where they'relike oh my God, michelle, this
is like the perfect scenario.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You've got, you know this amazing guy.
But you got your own time, youcan do your own thing.
You kind of live independently.
But then you spend all thistime with him and get to do fun
things and everything, and youknow and you're perfectly happy
and settled that way.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
I have to say that you know we are.
We're going on nine years andand the longer time goes on, the
more it's it's getting.
I'm not going to say difficult,but it's like I was saying we
see each other more often now.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Because it is harder to be apart.
Well, it's quality time.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Yeah, it's harder to be apart and because we are
starting to weave those thingsin amongst each other and with
our families in a way.
Yeah, there's just more of thatwant.
So it's almost.
You move through these phases.
(21:09):
It's definitely been phases.
But you know, it doesn't justbecause you're at a distance
doesn't mean the other one'sgoing to cheat.
Just because you're at adistance doesn't mean that it's
doomed Like.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
think of all the things that are possibilities,
you know in that situation, Imean, if you were waiting to
meet somebody that is, you know,local, or even you know just
even in happenstance or whatever, meeting someone who's local,
the likelihood is that you knowthere are so many other people
that are out there in this worldand you guys met in such a real
(21:43):
serendipitous way you know thatit's kind of cool.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Well, and it took me a long time to you know, after I
was divorced, and figuring outwho the heck I am and moving
through all that, and then youkind of come to a place do I
have it all figured out?
Hell, no.
But you get to a place where,okay, I think I have figured
this out and what I need to doand who I am and how I'm moving
(22:09):
through life as a single womanwith a family and all the stuff
right.
So it takes you a long time tofigure that out.
And now, having this otherperson, it's definitely just
like life in general, the phasesyou go through.
So is the relationship right,you know?
(22:31):
And, and just like anyrelationship, there's, there's
all the things there's patience,there's communication, there's
understanding, there'sflexibility, there's sacrifice,
there's, there's a lot.
And I I just feel like for meit's even more warranted in a
(22:52):
way, when you're doing this at adistance, trying to bring it
all together.
You almost have to work harder.
Yeah, there's more forethought.
I think that goes into thingsin all aspects.
There's got to be moreforethought for me anyways.
(23:13):
And yeah, you know, it's nineyears later and it's still kind
of new because we have morephases that we're going to be
going through Right.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
So, I was saying to Michelle, I was telling these
guys, I was saying to Michellethat, okay, I think I'm always
like trying to plan to make sureshe's happy, right.
I think maybe you guys need tobe like be in the same place for
like a month or two months at atime and really get a feel for
it, like work from you know,work remotely or something, and
get a feel for it, because everyday is kind of like it's like
(23:49):
vacation.
You know, when you guys seeeach other, it's a week at a
time.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
You were saying that and it is true Like you know,
every when we see each otherit's it's, you know, it's like
we're playing house because wehaven't seen each other and it's
great and uh.
But you know, it's kind ofeveryday too.
We don't make it this big to do.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
When we see each other, we're just doing normal
everyday shit.
You guys go to Costco.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Yeah, we do everyday shit.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Yeah, so there's that , but keep an open mind about it
.
Yeah For sure.
Just, you know anybody outthere that is considering it.
It's not a bad thing.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
It's not doomed and there are really great
possibilities.
Depends on the people, rightFor sure, but with the right
mindset and, you know, dependingon what you want.
Are those your words of wisdom?
There's my words of wisdom yeah, yeah, yeah, it's turned out.
Uh, turned out, it's it'sactually.
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I love it.
I can't wait till we can betogether all the time.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
That'll come.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
That'll come.
So let me ask you this nineyears ago, when you guys first
met, and then even like yearinto it, two years into it, when
you were just kind of trying tofeel it all out, yeah, did you
think it would be nine yearslater, I mean, I would say, no,
I mean, if you knew that.
What would you have thoughtback?
Speaker 1 (25:09):
then I don't want to say no, but it's like I don't
know that I thought that farahead, right, yeah.
So it was just like because ofall the dynamics and things that
you're trying to figure out andnavigate and maneuver and come
together on right and, honestly,a couple years into it is still
(25:32):
how could I align it withsomebody that's in the same
proximity, right, A couple yearsinto it?
For a long distancerelationship like ours is
probably like six months into adating relationship when you're
living in the same place, right,If even something like that,
right.
So two years into it was stilljust like really new.
(25:53):
How do you know?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah, that's a big leap of faith.
Yeah, a leap of faith.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
He's worth it.
He's worth it, worth it.
Yeah, she was just saying,today she was like I don't know
what we were talking about andshe was sitting up at the
counter and I walk in and shewas like I am just so in love
with him.
I'm like it's the cutest thingever.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
I did say that I love that for you.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
And I just think I thought it was kind of a cool
thing to share because I think alot of women in particular men
too, but you know women are abulk of our audience.
They're curious about this?
Speaker 1 (26:28):
Yeah, because it's almost like having the best of
both worlds.
Keep your options open, ladies.
Keep your options open.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Especially if you're getting, if you're used to
living the life, the way youchoose to live or the things
that you choose to do and youdon't want to deviate from that,
this might be a really goodoption for you if you meet
someone who's really special.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
There are some, you know really good men I'm sure
special.
There are some, you know reallygood men I'm sure outside of
wherever it is you're, you'reliving and go explore.
Yeah, keep, keep your mind open, keep your options open, go
explore, have fun.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Have fun, yeah, okay.
Well, michelle's out having funand, on that note, thank you
everybody for joining us and Ihope you learned a little bit
from michelle a little tidbit.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, long distance relationship,
we're not even having to cut anyof this out no I didn't make
her get into all the deets allthe dirty deets, keeping it high
level out of respect for my guyyeah, but yeah, yeah, it's a
good thing okay yeah, hey, didyou have a ring the bell?
Speaker 2 (27:25):
uh, I think you do, I do.
Yeah, why don't you do this one?
Because there we go uh thestart of ring the bell yeah is.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
So here we go.
Uh, deal breakers in thebedroom, jules.
So I've heard that.
Socks if your man wears socksto bed, is that a deal breaker?
I'm sure there's others, butlet's just talk about that for a
second.
Socks in bed is that a dealbreaker, guys or gals?
Speaker 2 (27:56):
Guys or gals, okay.
So I was told one time that itprovides good traction.
I don't even I call totalbullshit on that, okay okay I
think it's just yes, I was likethat.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
We need traction man.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Thank you very much.
I think it was an excuse.
No, I, I don't like that Idon't like that.
I mean, would I kick someoneout of bed for it?
Probably not.
Yeah, maybe ask them to takethem off, right?
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Right, Well, and this kind of ties in with because
there are times I wear socks tobed I'll put you know foot cream
and like lotions and getting,because I want you know my feet
to be soft, and then I put thesocks on and you sleep in them.
Yeah Right, If my guy is here.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
You don't do that.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
I'm not going to sleep with the socks on my feet.
So that's wherein some of thosethings that you might not know.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
So the day-to-day, it's not only the socks, it's
the not shaved legs, it's allthis stuff, right, yeah, but you
know what?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
I'd be fine with wearing socks, I think he would
be too.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
I think it just depends on how freezing cold it
is outside.
Yeah, but it wouldn't be myfirst preference, but again.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I'm not that.
Can you think of any otherbedroom?
Deal breakers Say that 10 timesfast.
You know, no, not really.
That would be a deal breaker.
No, no, like.
Do you have an example?
Oh, I was just wondering ifanything was, you know, coming
to top of mind, like do you likeit when men sleep in underwear,
(29:29):
or do you mind it if they sleepin full pajamas?
Would that be a deal breaker ifthey did it all the time?
How?
Speaker 2 (29:38):
old, are you Two?
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Let me button up my jammies.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I've always worn stuff to sleep in.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Like tank top, pair of shorts.
Some people sleep naked.
Yeah, iies, I've always wornstuff to sleep in yeah, like
tank top, pair, shorts.
Some people sleep naked.
Yeah, I know, I know I do, andso I'm all about like my sheets.
I want my sheets to be like, inreally good shape.
And I like good quality sheets.
Got to wash them a lot.
But yeah, the sleeping nakedI'm just.
I don't know, I mean I will,but it's not like my first
inclination, right and.
I think a lot of that comes fromhaving kids right, Because
(30:07):
they're coming in bowling openthe door.
Mom, I didn't even think aboutthat, but you're totally right.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Yeah, yeah, totally right.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Basically you start out that way, and then you just
kind of keep going that way.
But I don't like to be cold.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Yeah, that's what a lot of it is for me.
That's where the electronicscome in handy.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
The child's going to walk in and you know all the
things, did you ever walk in onyour parents?
No, really.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
No, yeah, all the things Anyways.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Did you ever walk in on your parents?
Speaker 1 (30:45):
No, Really no, I did one time.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
One time and I was maybe Did any of your kids ever
walk in on you.
No.
Me neither no never, not that Iknow.
Well, if they did, they didn'tsay anything.
But no, I remember walking inone time on my parents and I
don't Now I time on my parentsand I don't now I know at the
time I didn't probably know, butyeah yeah there was that real
(31:16):
life people.
Yep, we're all just out thereliving real life.
Everybody does it.
And on that note, yep, we'reout yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
Peace out.
Thank you, people.
All right, bye.
Havea good day.
I'm a hick, yo, I'm a hick.
(31:44):
Yeah, I'm a hick.
I'm a hick, I'm a hick.
Welcome to a Blonde, a Brunette and a Mike podcast.
We're just two Seattle bestieswho keep it real, definitely
unfiltered, and are always readyfor a laugh.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm Michelle the Blonde, hey there, and I'm Jules
the Brunette.
Join us as we dive into all ofthe juicy topics like dating,
women's health, sex politics,relationships and everything in
between.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
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always see eye to eye, but thatjust makes our conversations
that much more interesting.
That's right.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
So if you're looking for a podcast that's both
entertaining and honest, I thinkwe've got you covered.
Two authentic women, both withreal talk.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
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Hey, we've got our Moscow MuleCups, but they don't have Moscow
Mules in them.
They have it has.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Well, it's Tito's and it's soda.
We got a little splash of cran,mango and a lime.
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
So it's kind of like our version of a Cosmo.
It's kind of bougie Cheers,just because it's Did you just
say bougie, I did I like it inthis cut.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You know how I am about my cuts Clink, clink.
We got the cheers going on,yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
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Yeah, so we're also cheersingbecause our socials are looking
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Tell your friends about us,because if you're enjoying us,
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Speaker 2 (01:37):
so thank you everybody for listening and for
being a part of our community.
We are enjoying it thoroughly,yeah, uh, and today we are.
We're going to have a littlespecial topic today.
Does Michelle look nervous?
She's a little nervous.
So, as many of you know, thereare lots of different types of
relationships, right, and we hadone episode where we talked
(02:00):
about a variety of differentkinds between monogamous
relationships, long distancerelationships.
You know, not monogamousrelationship, all different
kinds.
You know, and we're hopefullygoing to have some people that
on a future date that can sharesome of those lifestyles that
we're not super familiar with.
But there is one that Michelleis very familiar with and that
(02:21):
is the long distancerelationship very familiar with,
and that is the long distancerelationship which I still am in
awe of, her and her sweetheartRick, because I can't believe
that they have been doing thisfor as long as they have.
Yeah, I would be such a bigbrat baby.
We go the distance, man, I'mtelling you yeah.
So we want to talk about that alittle bit, because here's the
thing I have heard enough peoplesay to me that girl's smart.
(02:45):
Michelle is smart, you know,because she's got the best of
both worlds.
She has this amazing guy andshe sees him every what?
Six weeks or?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
you know a couple of months.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Every couple of months Used to be longer, but
you know, the longer we'retogether, the more frequent we
see each other, you know, thelonger we're together, the more
frequent we see each other,right, yeah, so, and being in
the same place for, you know, amonth at a time or something is
going to be kind of interestingwhen the time happens, yeah, but
(03:25):
in the meantime they kind oflearn something about each other
every time that they'retogether.
Michelle, if she'd be willingto share a little bit of insight
on the long distancerelationship that she has,
because, as I mentioned before,I am in awe, because I just
don't think it would besomething that I would be able
to do on without an end in sight, you know, a long term, without
having a goal in sight, an openended type of situation.
I just I personally couldn't doit, but then again maybe I could
At this age I think we could doa lot of things differently
(03:46):
that we thought we couldn't doit, but then again, maybe I
could At this age I think wecould do a lot of things
differently that we thought wecouldn't do before.
So why don't you give us alittle bit of insight on how
this started and how long it'sbeen going on and what you've
found over the course of time?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
That's a loaded.
That was like a three-partquestion.
That's a loaded.
That was like a three-partquestion.
I was in Alaska for work.
He was in Alaska for work.
We were both staying at theSheraton and I saw him for the
first time in the bar, and so Iwon't go into the squishy story
(04:22):
about it, but that's where wemet for the first time and we
exchanged information and youknow that was March this year,
so in another month it'll benine years ago that we met.
You know he's from the Midwestand I'm from the West.
Here in the Pacific Northwestwe live 2,000 miles apart, and
(04:44):
that was in March.
You know he travels for workand so you know I saw him now
and again.
We communicated and it just has.
It just evolved Over time, overtime, and obviously we really
enjoyed each other's company.
(05:05):
It was interesting and curious.
For a while we didn't obviouslyknow each other.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
We didn't see each other every day, so it was a
process, a process for sure, theone thing that I've always been
so curious about is how you'vebeen able to kind of maintain
that day-to-day type ofcommunication, Because that
seems to me like that would bethe most difficult thing,
(05:32):
Because you don't I meanday-to-day life you have very
mundane things really going onin your life, right, things that
are happening at work or thedrive home, or at the grocery,
whatever, and those aren'tthings necessarily that you
would chat with somebody andshare on a daily basis, right,
right?
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Yeah, and if you think about it, you don't either
when you're in the same place.
I mean you're both going to yourseparate jobs every day, doing
what you do with you know eighthours a day, and obviously, when
you're starting in a newrelationship and it wasn't even
that you know, we're justgetting to know each other from
(06:09):
a distance, which is yeah, it'sdifferent than when you're in
the same place, but you know, itwas definitely something to
look forward to, because it'snot like we would come home and
see each other or meet eachother for happy hours right.
That we didn't have that option,and so is texting.
(06:30):
You know there's there was alot of texting and we pretty
much talked on the phone everysingle day.
Facetime you know, those areall things that have, of course,
facetime, those are all thingsthat, of course, have been part
of the beginning and how we'removing through it, and it leaves
(06:54):
a lot of open thoughts on whothis person is Right.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Right?
Did you find that you werelearning something new every
single time you guys weretogether?
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I laugh about that because, as you know, not
initially there was, of course,a dating period, even at a
distance, right.
That was just different thanwhat it is when you're in the
same place.
But you know, as as time wouldgo on and either he would be
visiting me or when I wouldvisit him, I kind of started
(07:35):
this thing like so what did youlearn about me this time that
you didn't know before?
Right, it's kind of this, youknow little little game and you
know there's always something,yeah there's always something
you're going to learn.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
There's always something.
Even how you live and how helives are different.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
And how you clean up after things and how you get
ready when you go somewhere andall kinds of different things.
You know little nuances thatyou don't even realize.
But I think when you're at adistance and you don't see each
other on a daily basis or everyother day and that kind of thing
(08:13):
, and after a couple of years alot of people now, after a
couple of years, will probablybe living together, right.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Or they're staying overnight at each other's places
all the time.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, and that's that's not the not the case here
, obviously.
So, um, you know just just thelittle things.
That's why trying to go out ofyour way to recognize things and
bring newness and and fun intoit as as a part of that, like I
(08:48):
said, that's why I would be likeso you know what'd you?
Learn that you didn't knowbefore, Right.
So?
Speaker 2 (08:54):
yeah, did you find that?
Did you guys ever talk aboutlove languages, like how you
would like what, what works forhim, like what kind of things
would be good for him from adistance?
And when you're looking at lovelanguages, like like the acts
of service, obviously are notthings necessarily that you
could do but like the giftingthing, right, you know.
(09:15):
But if he's not a person who'sreally drawn to having gifts,
then that wouldn't necessarilybe something that resonates
right, right.
Whereas you might be someonewho's drawn to gifts but he
doesn't do gifts, or you knowit's interesting.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
We've never like taken a deep dive into those
things.
We recognize what each other'slove languages are because we
have talked about that.
But just even as you're posingthat question, it makes me think
how, when you are at a distance, it puts a different how, when
(09:47):
you are at a distance, it puts adifferent, it almost puts a
different spin on it.
You know, when it comes to thelove language thing, because you
know I especially when, as wewere getting to know each other,
I loved sending boxes right,and we're big on cards, cards,
(10:08):
boxes, little something that youcan send, because that's how
that brings the connection in.
And whatever is in those isrepresentative and speaks to the
kind of person that you are.
So it's exposing at the sametime different aspects.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Sure Does that make sense?
Well, and it probably,especially if, like, the cards
and the gifts and things likethat that are getting sent
aren't something that, like say,he's comfortable with doing.
He has to really make an effortto do that so you know that
it's even more special.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, there's thought that goes into different things
and yeah yeah, yeah, andkeeping things spicy yeah so
let's talk about spicy.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
So how have you been able to combat the feeling of
like missing him and the loan?
There's loneliness.
Obviously that corresponds withthat when you're trying to to
live your life but you want toshare something that's happening
with them.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
You know you know it's communication can be
challenging in any relationship,sure?
So add the layer of 2 000 milesand there you go.
So communication is even, andeven in different ways, I think,
probably because you know ifI'm feeling some kind of way.
(11:30):
It's actually something that Ilearned through this
relationship about myself, andthe importance of letting him
know if I am feeling some kindof way, even based on his
communication, is huge in a longdistance relationship, right?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I would say, probably in some respects even more so.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yes, because of the distance.
It's not like this has neverhappened, but it's.
It's not like if he wasn'tanswering the phone.
I can't just like drive my assover there and knock on the door
.
See what's going on.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Right.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yeah, that's not an option.
So there's a level of trust.
Yeah, level of trust.
The communication is huge andrespect the respect um realizing
that.
Respect the respect, realizingthat, yeah, you know vice versa
he can't just show up on mydoorstep Right and so going out
(12:27):
of your way to communicate,whereas if you're in a
relationship, that's that whereyou're both there, it might feel
different because you can dothose things.
So I don't know if that makessense, but what I'm trying to
convey, but because you're notable to do those things, the
(12:50):
level of respect that comes intoplay is super important and I
have to say he's definitely achamp.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Yeah, no, he really has been pretty wonderful about
it, yeah.
I know we, we talk we've talkedabout this so many times because
I don't have.
I haven't really been in thatsituation until like way, way
back when I was dating Brian.
You know we lived apart for 13,14 months.
He was down in California and Iwas here.
(13:19):
We got engaged halfway throughthat time period.
So whenever we saw each other,it was always this like you know
wonderful moment kind of athing, where it's like there's
no fighting, there's no arguing,there's, you know, everything's
wonderful.
It's like this long weekend kindof a thing you know, and then
when you're in the same place,it's like a whole.
It was a whole differentballgame.
(13:40):
You have to kind of learn tolive together and we had to
learn each other's kind ofidiosyncrasies and just the
things that would be pet peeves,because we really hadn't been
exposed to them in the same waybefore.
So what do you, what can you do, or what do you do to kind of
combat some of that feeling ofbeing apart, like when you're
(14:02):
missing?
Speaker 1 (14:05):
I just feel so fortunate being in a
relationship like we are longdistance with technology.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, that's huge.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
FaceTime is huge, you know, and on top of the
distance we have a three hourtime difference.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
So when I'm like getting off work, he's, you know
, it's, it's, he's, he's donehis deal for the evening and
he's getting ready for bed.
So there's a timing thing.
That that comes into play tooand it, you know, as we've gone
on and on and our relationshiphas solidified and the trust has
(14:44):
deepened and the respectfactors, all of that stuff, it's
interesting because you do getto know each other on a
day-to-day basis and what thoserhythms are and how to um, how
to recognize him how torecognize the rhythms and what
(15:05):
the other one has going on Like.
If, if we just you know, have aquick phone call before before
bed, it's okay.
I mean like it's late, his dayis done, I'm still early evening
, remember when you guys were.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
you were saying, when you very first started seeing
each other, you had like thisexpectation.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Well, yeah, we actually.
Actually, I learned early onthat expectations in a long
distance relationship are notrealistic.
Yeah, and he really helped merecognize that honestly, because
I think, as a woman, we tend tohave expectations regardless.
And, don't get me wrong, thereare things that are a given
(15:47):
right, but we did FaceTime everysingle day and it was late at
night and we would into thehours.
There were a lot of things.
No-transcript.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
There were a lot of things.
It's kind of like the real,fresh dating stuff.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Yeah, getting to know each other.
But as time has gone on, yeah,we have recognized our rhythm
and come to a level of respectand we know enough about each
other now?
I would hope so after nineyears to where it's all good.
It's all good, you're just sochill about it.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
And you know it hasn't always been chill.
There's been things and momentsand it's, like you know, trying
to figure it out and coming tothe place, to where you can feel
chill if you will about it Kindof like whatever will be, will
be.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Yeah, whatever the future holds, it will hold, and
those are the things we'vetalked about where I've been
like and it's our personalitiesare so different because I just
really can't fathom what you'veexplained to me or what you're
doing, because it's notsomething that I've.
When I did that before a long,long, long, long time ago, there
was an end in sight, right, andit was a pretty short end in
(17:06):
sight.
So I would be, I would probablybe okay with it if I knew that
there was like an end in sight,because, especially, you know,
where men are concerned is, menand women are very different,
and he's a good looking guy andyou know you have to be in a
place where you are verytrusting of his intentions and
you've.
Obviously he has to trust yourintentions too, because there's
been plenty of times when we'reout and stuff and I'm like stay
(17:27):
away, she's taken.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
You know you know, leave her alone.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
She's fine, you know, yeah.
So what do you think some ofthe misconceptions are out there
of long distance relationshipsthat we can kind of enlighten
some people about?
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I think, some of the givens.
When it comes to long distancerelationships, I think there is
the idea that they're doomed.
Why would you even put in thetime and effort?
Is it really going to goanywhere?
Would you even put in the timeand effort?
Is it really going to goanywhere?
Where's it going to get youthat?
Uh, either or the man or thewoman at when you're in a long
(18:07):
distance relation relationship?
Um, they're going to cheat, uh,you know that happens.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
That happens when people live in the same place.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Exactly that happens, no matter what Right.
So, um, you know it's, it'sjust really your, your, your
mindset, and getting to knowyour person, truly getting to
know your person, and and um,recognizing things about them,
patterns, consistent, just like,just like I was saying, just
(18:38):
how we live our everyday lifeand what we have going on.
You know he has, he has afamily, I have a family, I have
grandkids.
We have all these things thatare going on.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
And you've started to weave those things together.
Yeah, I mean definitely.
He has two amazing daughtersand you know he's so dedicated
to them and it's really cool tosee how well they've done, but a
lot of that is a testimony tohim you know, and the kind of
effort he's put into that, andthey don't live even in the same
state that he lives, right, youknow.
So he's supporting them from adistance, but his home, where he
(19:13):
lives in Indianapolis, is wherethey grew up, and so that's
kind of the home base now, yeah,and so that's kind of the home
base now, yeah, and so that'swhere he's at and I and he's
been here, you know, obviouslyseveral times and he's like
there's no way I would ever livehere.
It's too expensive, which istrue If you compare where we're
at, compared to Indianapolisit's.
I was like, oh, no problem, youcan get a shack for 600,000 here
(19:36):
, you know, if you move way out,of the city kind of a thing.
Yeah, it is kind of that bad,but it's.
It's interesting to see youknow the differences in terms of
lifestyle.
Like, yeah, I'm always like,okay, what's the next step,
what's the next step?
And Michelle's like, well, justkind of wait and see what
(19:58):
happens.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
And I just I love that about you.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Because I I admire that really.
It's's like you're just kind ofdoing what you do and I think
the timing in terms of where weare in our lives, it kind of
makes sense, and we've been inconversations with people in
groups and things where they'relike oh my God, michelle, this
is like the perfect scenario.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You've got, you know this amazing guy.
But you got your own time, youcan do your own thing.
You kind of live independently.
But then you spend all thistime with him and get to do fun
things and everything, and youknow and you're perfectly happy
and settled that way.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
I have to say that you know we are.
We're going on nine years andand the longer time goes on, the
more it's it's getting.
I'm not going to say difficult,but it's like I was saying we
see each other more often now.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Because it is harder to be apart.
Well, it's quality time.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Yeah, it's harder to be apart and because we are
starting to weave those thingsin amongst each other and with
our families in a way.
Yeah, there's just more of thatwant.
So it's almost.
You move through these phases.
(21:09):
It's definitely been phases.
But you know, it doesn't justbecause you're at a distance
doesn't mean the other one'sgoing to cheat.
Just because you're at adistance doesn't mean that it's
doomed Like.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
think of all the things that are possibilities,
you know in that situation, Imean, if you were waiting to
meet somebody that is, you know,local, or even you know just
even in happenstance or whatever, meeting someone who's local,
the likelihood is that you knowthere are so many other people
that are out there in this worldand you guys met in such a real
(21:43):
serendipitous way you know thatit's kind of cool.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Well, and it took me a long time to you know, after I
was divorced, and figuring outwho the heck I am and moving
through all that, and then youkind of come to a place do I
have it all figured out?
Hell, no.
But you get to a place where,okay, I think I have figured
this out and what I need to doand who I am and how I'm moving
(22:09):
through life as a single womanwith a family and all the stuff
right.
So it takes you a long time tofigure that out.
And now, having this otherperson, it's definitely just
like life in general, the phasesyou go through.
So is the relationship right,you know?
(22:31):
And, and just like anyrelationship, there's, there's
all the things there's patience,there's communication, there's
understanding, there'sflexibility, there's sacrifice,
there's, there's a lot.
And I I just feel like for meit's even more warranted in a
(22:52):
way, when you're doing this at adistance, trying to bring it
all together.
You almost have to work harder.
Yeah, there's more forethought.
I think that goes into thingsin all aspects.
There's got to be moreforethought for me anyways.
(23:13):
And yeah, you know, it's nineyears later and it's still kind
of new because we have morephases that we're going to be
going through Right.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
So, I was saying to Michelle, I was telling these
guys, I was saying to Michellethat, okay, I think I'm always
like trying to plan to make sureshe's happy, right.
I think maybe you guys need tobe like be in the same place for
like a month or two months at atime and really get a feel for
it, like work from you know,work remotely or something, and
get a feel for it, because everyday is kind of like it's like
(23:49):
vacation.
You know, when you guys seeeach other, it's a week at a
time.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
You were saying that and it is true Like you know,
every when we see each otherit's it's, you know, it's like
we're playing house because wehaven't seen each other and it's
great and uh.
But you know, it's kind ofeveryday too.
We don't make it this big to do.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
When we see each other, we're just doing normal
everyday shit.
You guys go to Costco.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Yeah, we do everyday shit.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Yeah, so there's that , but keep an open mind about it
.
Yeah For sure.
Just, you know anybody outthere that is considering it.
It's not a bad thing.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
It's not doomed and there are really great
possibilities.
Depends on the people, rightFor sure, but with the right
mindset and, you know, dependingon what you want.
Are those your words of wisdom?
There's my words of wisdom yeah, yeah, yeah, it's turned out.
Uh, turned out, it's it'sactually.
(24:47):
I love it.
I can't wait till we can betogether all the time.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
That'll come.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
That'll come.
So let me ask you this nineyears ago, when you guys first
met, and then even like yearinto it, two years into it, when
you were just kind of trying tofeel it all out, yeah, did you
think it would be nine yearslater, I mean, I would say, no,
I mean, if you knew that.
What would you have thoughtback?
Speaker 1 (25:09):
then I don't want to say no, but it's like I don't
know that I thought that farahead, right, yeah.
So it was just like because ofall the dynamics and things that
you're trying to figure out andnavigate and maneuver and come
together on right and, honestly,a couple years into it is still
(25:32):
how could I align it withsomebody that's in the same
proximity, right, A couple yearsinto it?
For a long distancerelationship like ours is
probably like six months into adating relationship when you're
living in the same place, right,If even something like that,
right.
So two years into it was stilljust like really new.
(25:53):
How do you know?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah, that's a big leap of faith.
Yeah, a leap of faith.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
He's worth it.
He's worth it, worth it.
Yeah, she was just saying,today she was like I don't know
what we were talking about andshe was sitting up at the
counter and I walk in and shewas like I am just so in love
with him.
I'm like it's the cutest thingever.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
I did say that I love that for you.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
And I just think I thought it was kind of a cool
thing to share because I think alot of women in particular men
too, but you know women are abulk of our audience.
They're curious about this?
Speaker 1 (26:28):
Yeah, because it's almost like having the best of
both worlds.
Keep your options open, ladies.
Keep your options open.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Especially if you're getting, if you're used to
living the life, the way youchoose to live or the things
that you choose to do and youdon't want to deviate from that,
this might be a really goodoption for you if you meet
someone who's really special.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
There are some, you know really good men I'm sure
special.
There are some, you know reallygood men I'm sure outside of
wherever it is you're, you'reliving and go explore.
Yeah, keep, keep your mind open, keep your options open, go
explore, have fun.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Have fun, yeah, okay.
Well, michelle's out having funand, on that note, thank you
everybody for joining us and Ihope you learned a little bit
from michelle a little tidbit.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, long distance relationship,
we're not even having to cut anyof this out no I didn't make
her get into all the deets allthe dirty deets, keeping it high
level out of respect for my guyyeah, but yeah, yeah, it's a
good thing okay yeah, hey, didyou have a ring the bell?
Speaker 2 (27:25):
uh, I think you do, I do.
Yeah, why don't you do this one?
Because there we go uh thestart of ring the bell yeah is.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
So here we go.
Uh, deal breakers in thebedroom, jules.
So I've heard that.
Socks if your man wears socksto bed, is that a deal breaker?
I'm sure there's others, butlet's just talk about that for a
second.
Socks in bed is that a dealbreaker, guys or gals?
Speaker 2 (27:56):
Guys or gals, okay.
So I was told one time that itprovides good traction.
I don't even I call totalbullshit on that, okay okay I
think it's just yes, I was likethat.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
We need traction man.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Thank you very much.
I think it was an excuse.
No, I, I don't like that Idon't like that.
I mean, would I kick someoneout of bed for it?
Probably not.
Yeah, maybe ask them to takethem off, right?
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Right, Well, and this kind of ties in with because
there are times I wear socks tobed I'll put you know foot cream
and like lotions and getting,because I want you know my feet
to be soft, and then I put thesocks on and you sleep in them.
Yeah Right, If my guy is here.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
You don't do that.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
I'm not going to sleep with the socks on my feet.
So that's wherein some of thosethings that you might not know.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
So the day-to-day, it's not only the socks, it's
the not shaved legs, it's allthis stuff, right, yeah, but you
know what?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
I'd be fine with wearing socks, I think he would
be too.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
I think it just depends on how freezing cold it
is outside.
Yeah, but it wouldn't be myfirst preference, but again.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I'm not that.
Can you think of any otherbedroom?
Deal breakers Say that 10 timesfast.
You know, no, not really.
That would be a deal breaker.
No, no, like.
Do you have an example?
Oh, I was just wondering ifanything was, you know, coming
to top of mind, like do you likeit when men sleep in underwear,
(29:29):
or do you mind it if they sleepin full pajamas?
Would that be a deal breaker ifthey did it all the time?
How?
Speaker 2 (29:38):
old, are you Two?
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Let me button up my jammies.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I've always worn stuff to sleep in.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Like tank top, pair of shorts.
Some people sleep naked.
Yeah, iies, I've always wornstuff to sleep in yeah, like
tank top, pair, shorts.
Some people sleep naked.
Yeah, I know, I know I do, andso I'm all about like my sheets.
I want my sheets to be like, inreally good shape.
And I like good quality sheets.
Got to wash them a lot.
But yeah, the sleeping nakedI'm just.
I don't know, I mean I will,but it's not like my first
inclination, right and.
I think a lot of that comes fromhaving kids right, Because
(30:07):
they're coming in bowling openthe door.
Mom, I didn't even think aboutthat, but you're totally right.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Yeah, yeah, totally right.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Basically you start out that way, and then you just
kind of keep going that way.
But I don't like to be cold.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Yeah, that's what a lot of it is for me.
That's where the electronicscome in handy.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
The child's going to walk in and you know all the
things, did you ever walk in onyour parents?
No, really.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
No, yeah, all the things Anyways.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Did you ever walk in on your parents?
Speaker 1 (30:45):
No, Really no, I did one time.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
One time and I was maybe Did any of your kids ever
walk in on you.
No.
Me neither no never, not that Iknow.
Well, if they did, they didn'tsay anything.
But no, I remember walking inone time on my parents and I
don't Now I time on my parentsand I don't now I know at the
time I didn't probably know, butyeah yeah there was that real
(31:16):
life people.
Yep, we're all just out thereliving real life.
Everybody does it.
And on that note, yep, we'reout yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
Peace out.
Thank you, people.
All right, bye.
Havea good day.
I'm a hick, yo, I'm a hick.
(31:44):
Yeah, I'm a hick.
I'm a hick, I'm a hick.
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