January 27, 2025 • 44 mins
What’s it really like to be a medium? Do I see spirits everywhere? How do I know I’m not connecting with a “bad spirit”? And can your loved ones answer every question you bring to a reading?
In this highly requested episode of Spirit Speakeasy, I’m tackling the most common (and sometimes surprising!) questions I receive as a working psychic medium. Whether you’re curious about how mediumship works, seeking answers about connecting with loved ones, or wondering what it means to engage with the spirit world, this episode has something for you.
You’ll hear:
- What it’s like to navigate daily life as a medium (no, I’m not seeing spirits 24/7!)
- How readings in public (or even on TV) really happen—and why they’re rare
- Why the spirit world doesn’t have “bad spirits” sneaking through
- If your loved ones answer specific questions during readings—and why some answers aren’t guaranteed
- What happens when we cross over and reconnect with loved ones, including those we’ve never met
Plus, I’ll share personal stories about surprising readings that happened in the most unexpected places (like rideshares and Apple Stores) and dive into the heart of mediumship: connection, trust, and healing.
If you’ve ever wondered what happens during a mediumship session—or beyond—this episode is packed with eye-opening insights, heartfelt stories, and answers you’ve been waiting for.
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Joy, hey, beautiful soul,welcome to spirit speakeasy. I'm
Joy Giovanni, joyful medium. I'ma working psychic medium, energy
healer and spiritual giftsmentor. This podcast is like a
seat at the table in a secretclub, but with mediums, mystics
and the spiritual luminaries ofour time. So come behind the
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velvet ropes with me and seeinside my world as I chat
insider style with profoundlygifted souls, we go deep, share
juicy stories, laugh a lot, andit wouldn't be a speakeasy
without great insider secretsand tips. You might even learn
that you have some gifts of yourown. So step inside the spirit
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speakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul.
Welcome back, or welcome in foranother episode of spirit
speakeasy. This is one of themost highly requested episodes
that I get. This is Ask a mediumanything part four. We've done
three of these in the past, andtoday, I am going to be
answering the most commonquestions I've recently received
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from all of you and clients,etc. And I'm going to go down a
quick list of what thesequestions are, just so you know
what you're in for in thisepisode. And then I will dive
into them one by one. Thequestions we're going to answer
in this ask a medium episode is,do you just see dead people
anywhere you go? Is itoverwhelming in real life to be
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a medium? Do you ever givereadings in public like on TV?
What if I have a list ofquestions I want my loved one to
answer in my reading? How do youknow you're not connecting with
a bad spirit? Will I see myloved one again when I die, or
even loved ones I never got tomeet. So we're going to be
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answering all of thesequestions, and probably more,
because I didn't really maketons of notes, I just want to
kind of answer them on the fly.
And I'm sure more things willcome up as a result of these
questions. But let's start rightat the top with Question one, do
you see dead people everywhereyou go? Is it overwhelming in
real life to be a medium? I willsay I don't feel like it's more
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overwhelming to be a medium thanto be like just a generally
energetic, sensitive person. Andbecause I have trained as a
medium and I work as a medium, Ireally am able to manage my
energy so that it's lessoverwhelming. I guess I don't.
The way the question is phrasedis funny, do you see dead people
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all the time, the way mymediumship works? I don't see
the people. They don't have aphysical body anymore. I don't
see a physical representation ofthem. I more sense them, and
then move my awareness toconnect with them, and they
share details with me throughsometimes quick flashes of
mental pictures, through theemotions. Sometimes I will just
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know bits of details. We callthat claircognizance, so I don't
just experience crossed overloved ones, dead people. I hate
that way of saying it, it'spretty irreverent, but I don't
see crossed over peopleeverywhere I go. I don't see
them at all, but I don'texperience them everywhere I go.
I really experience them whenI'm working as a general rule, I
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sometimes, in meditation, willbecome aware of a specific
person. Usually it's someone Iknow. I once in a while in in,
well, in meditation, I amsometimes becoming aware of the
spirit world as a world, so kindof the spirit world in general,
rather than like specificindividuals. But what I'm out
and about I'm really focused on,typically, whatever I'm doing,
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my human life, the the world, Ikind of have to focus on what's
happening around me anyway, justto be present and to navigate
the world. So I don't think it'sany more difficult or
challenging or overwhelming inreal life to be a medium than it
is to just be an energeticallysensitive person. And also, I'm
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not reading people everywhere Igo, like mediumship and psychic
work for me, or they're just sointertwined and so tied
together. So when I'm at acheckout at a store, I'm not
like reading that person'senergy. I might become aware of
things like, Oh, I feel likethey're having a really hard
day, or light things that areright on top, but I'm not
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blending my energy into theirspace to discern or to know
information about them. It'sjust not it's just not
appropriate, to be quite honest,and it's not how I work. I once
in a while will become aware ofa spirit person. I'm going to
save that for the next question.
But I don't just generally seeand become aware of spirit
people everywhere I go. It doeshappen once in a blue moon, but
not as a general rule. Andmediums that have trained we can
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this is not the right way. I'mgoing to say it again, the
language we can contain ourfocus, meaning we don't have to
let our mind wander to thespirit world. We don't have to
let our awareness wander to thespirit world. It can sometimes
happen if we are just kind ofwandering in our. Emotions and
not really paying attention ifwe're overwhelmed. Sometimes we
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can become aware of spirit. Itcan happen from time to time,
but as a general rule, I'm notaware of things going on in
someone's life. Once in a whileI might be I'm not aware of
their spirit people. I sometimesI'm aware of my own spirit
people. When I'm out and about,I might see a sign from a loved
one of my own, or just be awareof them, but I'm usually not
aware of other people's lovedones as I move just throughout
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the world. This next questionis, do you ever give readings in
public, like on TV? As a generalrule, no, but just like all
rules, there are exceptions.
It's typically, it's, I mean,not typically. It's not my
intention when I go out in theworld, like I was saying, to
give readings. It's just forseveral reasons. One is, you can
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really ruin someone's day ifthey're not available to to for
like they're not ready for that,right? It's part of why
someone's soul kind of callsthem or pulls them or nudges
them to get a reading whenthey're ready, when they can
best receive the information.
You can really just put someonein a bad emotional state by
bringing up someone that maybethey're not ready to hear from.
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We don't at the top. You know,when we first kind of move our
awareness to spirit and meet aspirit person, typically, we
don't know the depth of therelationship. So this might be a
very triggering relationship.
This might be a challengerelationship. They might have a
lot of trauma from thatrelationship, or have unhealed
it. The spirit person isprobably showing up to to heal
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it, and of course, they care.
But as the medium, as the personwho does the communicating, we
have to have some boundariesjust to just because that's just
not nice, right? It's not niceto just go around, uh, blowing
up people's day at their job oror, you know, when they're at
the grocery store next to you,or whatever it is. I just don't
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think it's appropriate. It'spart of my training that we're
kind of taught that that's areal No, however, that being
said, there are exceptions toevery rule. And I'm thinking of
this has only happened to me. Imean, a handful of times in the
entire time that I've been amedium. I'd say it's probably
less than once a year even, thatI will give a reading to someone
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in public in the world. I cangive you two examples of when
this has happened one that wasmaybe a few years ago, I was in
a ride share taking it to gomeet someone for a dinner that I
had to go to, and we're drivingin the car, and this young man
is driving, and I was just soaware of his dad next to me in
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the car. And this is how I doit. As a medium, everyone has
obviously free will and can dowhatever, however they do it.
But for me, I became aware ofthe spirit person. Typically, I
can, can manage my awareness, soI'm not aware of them, but I
just was so aware of thisgentleman. And in my mind, I
kind of sent the thought to thisgentleman in the spirit world.
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Hey, if, if you want me tocommunicate or help you
communicate with this young manwho's driving, I need him to
mention you. I need him to bringit up. I don't know how you're
going to do it, but you got toget him to to bring it up. And,
you know, we were chatting, andhe asked me, What did I do? And
I said, I'm a medium. And andthen he said, Oh, I recently
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lost my dad. I'm having a reallyhard time. And I was like, okay,
so I asked him, which is thenice thing to do? I said, you
know, I'm, I'm, I don't normallydo this. This is very out of the
ordinary for me, but I am veryaware of your dad. And since you
brought it up, do you want tohear a little bit from him? You
can totally say no, because heit that might have just not been
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the right time for him. So it'sgood to ask right consent. So he
said, Yeah, I would really lovethat, actually. And I blended my
energy with his dad. I was awareof the circumstances around the
dad's passing, he had an illnessthat was managed for a time. I
won't give you the all of thespecifics, just to respect this
person's privacy, but I'll giveyou some of the specifics. So I
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was aware of the specificsaround his condition and his
passing, but I was also awarethat this young man who was
driving my ridesharewas not fully estranged from his
dad, like they were talking, butthe dad and he had been just
having a tough time, and thisyoung man had been kind of going
down, not the most ideal paththat as a parent that you want
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your kid to go down. He was justmaking some bad choices and
going in a direction in lifethat wasn't great. And his dad
was very upset, and I was awarethat he did get to see his dad
before his passing, and I wasaware that he had made a promise
to his dad, and his dad wasmaking me aware that he was very
proud of him, that he was reallyafter his dad's passing, trying
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to make good on this promise.
And you. Move his life in abetter direction. And he said,
Yeah, that's true. Actually.
That's why I'm driving this rideshare, even because I'm trying
to get money to go back toschool. And I, you know, he
shared a couple things. Heexited these not good, very not
good things that he was doingand participating in and and had
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really been trying to get hislife together like he had
promised his dad. And then I wasaware of a few more details from
his dad, something that he hadof his dad that I couldn't see.
Actually, I can tell you this. Isaid, you know your dad is
indicating that you have a cardwith his photo and with a little
something about him, a littlequote or prayer or something.
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You keep it with you. And he'slike, yeah, actually, it's right
here. And he pulled it out from,I don't even know where in the
front seat, but he pulled itout, and he said, it's right
here. And then I said, I keep Hekeeps showing me his thumb, and
I don't understand what this is.
I just, you know, I wasn't afull reading, so I wasn't maybe
understanding it correctly. Andhe said, Oh, I have this. It was
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aware of a chain that he hadwith his dad's like, name on it,
and he said, Yeah, thethumbprints on the back of this.
And so it was really validating.
And that was maybe just like afive or 10 minute, quick little
communication from his dad, butjust letting him know his dad's
safe. He's not upset with him.
He's very proud of him. He wantsthe best for him. And that young
man was very grateful and happy,and I just like, I hope I didn't
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like, mess you up for the restof your driving shift. And he
was like, no, actually, that wasreally relieving. And I really
am doubly inspired to, like,stay on this path. So that was a
positive example. I have anotherpositive example that I can give
you. There was another timerecently that shout out to
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ubiquitous Tara.
We were at an Apple store I justdon't love I mean, most of us
don't love them all, especiallycrowded season, and this was
right before the holidays. Itwas super crowded. I needed to
make sure I got a new phone,because mine was just not being
amazing. And I wanted to do it,you know, before the end of the
year. So she went there with me,and we had this wonderful rep
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that was helping us. And it waspretty chaotic in that store,
which I feel like it often is.
And for some reason, I just keptbecoming aware of this. Again,
it was a young man. This youngman's it felt like it was a
woman. She was incrediblystrong, and it felt like either
a grandma that raised Him ormaybe an older mom. And again, I
was aware of her a few differenttimes throughout I was at the
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store for a couple hours. Ifyou've ever bought a phone or a
laptop at the Apple Store, youknow you're going to be there a
couple hours when it's crowded.
And I was there a long time. SoI was aware of her. And again, I
kind of in my thoughts. Said toher, thank you so much for
letting me be aware of you. Idon't normally work this way. If
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you, if I need to communicatewith this young man on your
behalf, he needs to bring it up.
He needs to he needs to bringyou up somehow. That's kind of
my, I guess my go to and sowe're working together, working
together. And as part of it, Ihad to give my email, and they
it's joyful medium, as you guysknow, at joyful medium.com and
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they said, Oh, joyful media. AndI said, no medium. And he said,
like, Oh, what is that? And Isaid, Well, essentially, I
talked to people that havecrossed over and communicate
with them and give readings. Andhe was like, I'm so interested
in that. And I just was like,Okay, well, we are busy. And
kept still being aware of thiswoman. And he said, like, do you
ever, like, just become aware ofpeople? And he's like, I have
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someone that I really want toknow. I really would want to
hear from. And and I was like,Well, typically, no, but you do
have an incredibly strong womanaround you right now that I feel
like, helps to raise you, andshe has so much love for you,
and is a big personality andreally loves you a lot. And I
was gonna leave it at that. Andthen he said, Oh yeah, that's my
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grandma, so and so, and I havethis memorial tattoo for her,
and, like, shows me the tattoo.
So then, of course, I was like,Okay, well, he really opened up.
And I said, you know, since I amaware of her, Would you like to
hear a couple things? Because hewas like, first, he's like, I
don't know if I'm kind of scaredof that. And I was, you know,
just like we always talk about,I was like, it's never anything
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scary. It's typically just themletting you know they love you
and they're around and and thenthat's when the whole thing
happened, where I said,Actually, you have a woman
around you, because he wascurious. So then he said, Yeah,
I would love to hear a fewthings. But meanwhile, it's a
busy store, and his managerkeeps coming up. And so it was a
little bit choppy, but it washis grandma, and I brought
through some lovely detail fromher, where, you know, where she
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where they had all lived, andthen where she was from, how she
passed, I was aware that hewasn't able to say goodbye to
her in the way that he wanted,and that there was a lot of
division in the family. And sowe touched into that. And then
the grandma helped to bringforward, or make me aware of a
young man on the other side thathad passed suddenly and
tragically. And I. They hadindicated that this was going to
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be hard for this young man atthe Apple Store to hear about.
And so I said, I just want tosay something to you, and I'm
not going to go deep into it,but I am aware of a young man
like I said, that passessuddenly and tragically, that is
either your best friend or acousin that you're very, very
close with. You know him, kindof in your younger years, high
school and early earlyadulthood. And I said, Do you
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understand this? This young manon the other side? And I could
see his face was like, this wasthe emotional one for him,
right? And so probably this wasthe need. This probably was who
he needed to know was okay. AndI he was like, I do know who
that is. That's my best friend.
And I said, Okay, I'm not goingto super go into it, because I'm
aware it's a very difficultsituation. I'm just going to
give you a little bit from him.
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The friend, had mentioned thisreally lovely photograph of the
two of them that he said, Thisyoung man that I was working
with at the store, had he kindof described the photo a little
bit, or showed me a quick flashof what it might look like? And
I knew, you know where he hadit, and I said, He wants you to
think of those days and think ofhim like that. I was aware that
his life was taken from him aspart of this complication, but
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he wanted his friend to knowthat he was okay, that he was
safe and at peace. And actually,his grandma loved this young man
quite a bit. So we had kind of alaugh about that. So those are
my couple examples of how it canhappen. But I would say it's the
exception, not like the typicalway it is. You could imagine
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that someone coming up to you.
First of all, how do you evenknow that a medium that's going
to approach you in public is onthe level you don't, and a lot
of times, I can't tell you howmany clients I have come in that
says, Oh, the girl that does myhair said she's psychic and she
told me this. Or the person thatdoes my nails says they're
psychic and told me this. Andusually it's these really
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terrifying or unsettling bitsabout their life, and if the
person's not ready for it, or ifyou're not trained for it, or if
they're just in, like at theirjob, or maybe they're not ready
for that communication, it canjust be a mess. So typically,
no, I don't give readings inpublic, like on TV. And the
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other thing is, while I thinkyou guys have probably heard me
say this before, I think there'sa wonderful place for those TV
shows, and that mediumship iscoming more, a little more
mainstream. I think that'swonderful in a lot of ways. The
thing that a lot of people don'tthink through, particularly with
the shows where they're doingreadings on the show, that that
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scenario, whatever that personsteps into, is already miked.
It's already lit. There'salready been a crew in there
preparing everything, movingthings, to get the lighting
right so they know this readingis gonna happen.
Yeah, even if it looks like onthe show that this person is
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just getting into this scenariowith this other person who then
starts spontaneously readingthem. They know, they've signed
waivers, they like, there's allkinds of things that happen.
It's not as spontaneous as itlooks. But I'm not saying the
mediumship is not real, becauseI think it is in a lot of those
cases. And I actually, actuallyhave gotten to meet or witness
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or know, a couple of a few ofthe famous mediums. So they're
real mediums. It's just thescenario that they're setting up
for TV is not necessarily like agenuine scenario. It doesn't
happen the way it looks likeit's happening, and there's a
lot of editing that happens, buta crew is coming in and
lighting, and, like I said,waivers are signed, and all
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kinds of things are happening.
So it's not usual for all themediums that I know. It's not
usual for us to just spring intospontaneous readings wherever we
go, but it can happen, and mysolution for it really is to
kind of tell the spirit person.
Because I don't know if you'veheard me say this, but actually
I believe I work for the spiritworld, not necessarily my
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clients in this world, eventhough, of course, I honor and
respect them, my true like who Iwork for is the spirit side. So
I will lovingly say to them,like they need to give me the
green light, or bring you up insome way, or ask or inquire, or
they need to give some veryclear indication that this is
okay. Can you, can you influencethat? And they can, usually, if
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that person is truly open,available, it's okay, right?
Yeah, because we don't want tocause, we don't want to do any
harm, right? That's one of thecore, I don't know, foundational
things we need to agree to asmediums or spiritual workers,
like do no harm, right? So thatis my answer to, do I see loved
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ones everywhere I go? Is itoverwhelming? And do I give
readings in public? The nextquestion is, what? Oh, what if
I. A list of questions that Iwant my loved one to answer in
my reading. Most of you guysknow I do one on one readings,
either in person in my office inSan Diego, or online via zoom. I
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also do group readings, whichsometimes are like a family
group or a group of friends thatknow each other, and sometimes
are a more public group, wherepeople are just buying tickets
and it's a bunch of people thatdon't necessarily know each
other. So readings can happen alot of ways. When you're signing
up for them and this person'swanting to know, if I come in
for a session, what if I have,like, this list of questions I
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want the loved one to answer inmy reading? Um, what I can tell
you is that I think it's humannature to have certain things we
want to know or would like tohear about. I don't think we
could even help ourselves fromlike mentally thinking about it,
or even mentally kind of makinga list. But what I will say is
it's much more effective to gointo the reading just open
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hearted and open minded, lettingthe spirit person, whether it's
a specific loved one or a groupof your loved ones communicate
what they know you need to hearor what needs to be lifted off
your heart, or what they need tocommunicate or clear up. So the
way I like to do it is Inormally when I meet my client,
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whether they're in person oronline, I tell them a little bit
about how I work, what to expectfor the session, and then I let
them know, if they havequestions, it's okay. Just kind
of hang on to them. Let me workfor a little bit. Let's see what
comes organically out of thecommunication out of the
session. And then if they ifthey still have questions at the
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end, we can either take a lookat them, 99% of the time, the
spirit person does answer most,if not all, of the questions,
but just depending on what thequestion is like, I've had
people a lot of times thequestions are like, are they at
peace? Are they safe? Do theyknow about X, Y, Z? It's part of
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why I don't like to know thequestions ahead of time, because
then my mind wants to search forthe answers. And a lot of times
the communication and the thingsthat they're sharing or bringing
up in the reading, I don't knowhow they relate to the question,
or I won't even know thatquestions are being answered as
part of what they'recommunicating, especially if
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it's a do they know how thisaffected me? Do they know that I
had a baby? Do they know, youknow, depending what the
questions are, where it doesn'twork, typically is either like,
it's really hard for me tounderstand data points as far as
like, I'll give you a goodexample. On more than one
occasion, I've had differentpeople come in wanting to know
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like the password to a phone ora code to a banking thing, a
deposit box or a banking online,whatever, I there's probably no
way for me to get thatinformation. Do you know what I
mean someone's pass code totheir phone or something that's
written in like a coded way, andcan I tell them what that means?
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It doesn't really work likethat. It's not mediumship. Is
not like phone a friend, where Ihave them on the phone talking
to me, saying into my human ear.
No, the password is bananasandwiches, whatever it is, they
really are impressing upon methrough the emotions. Sometimes
I'll get quick flashes ofpictures, sometimes I'll have
mental words or even songs, butit's not them just standing next
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to me talking in my ear. I wishit was just doesn't work that
way, and then the wholeemotional part would be missing
anyway. So I'm really workingwith them the whole time to
understand the nuanced parts ofthe communication. So a lot of
questions that you might havenaturally get answered as part
of the communication. So if it'ssomething that's very like a
password or a, yeah, a phonenumber of someone like, I'm
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probably not going to probablythat's not going to come about.
The other thing that that oftenis not like answered as part of
a reading, is if it's somethingthat really just, you know, I
think the best way I can say itis there's things that we maybe
need to know, right? Like it's aburden on our heart or our soul.
Are they safe? Are they okay?
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Did they go to a bad place? Arethey? Do they know who they are?
Did they did they do they havetheir memory now, if they didn't
when they were here? There aresome things that we really it's
heavy on our heart to need toknow, and then there are other
things that we might want toknow, but from their
perspective, or from our soul'sperspective, we don't need to
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know, we just want to know. Sothey won't necessarily answer
everything, but if it'ssomething that we truly need,
they will often answer it justas a natural part of the
communications. So I think itdepends on you as the
individual. If you can come intoa reading without a list and
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just allow the experience, trustthat your loved ones will
communicate what they need tocommunicate, or what you what
the true need is. But if you'resomeone who gets really anxious
and this list is happening andyou're it's draining all of your
mental energy. Anyway, write itdown. Most mediums probably
won't want to see it. I willoften if they say they have a
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list, and I tell them, Okay,hang on to it. Let's work a
little bit and see I justrecently in a small group
reading of a family. I didn't Ithink that maybe the gal did say
she had a list, and I kind ofsaid, like, okay, just hang on
to it and we'll look at itlater. And then I had asked, you
know, were there items on thelist that, do we address
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everything? And she's looking atit, and she said, yeah,
actually, in one way or another,we did address all of these,
all of these items. Soyeah, often, most of the
questions that you might put ona list get answered as a natural
part of the communication. Thereis a bit of a need to know
versus want to know. And it'sprobably not going to be
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details, like, where did youhide the fill in the blank, or
what is the password or code tofill in the blank those I mean,
it'd be miraculous if we couldget it, but that's typically not
the type of information thatthey are using this mystical
experience and connection ofsouls to bring through usually
has a weightier meaning thanthat. So the next question I've
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been asked this actually ininterviews recently, in the last
couple years, kind of more thanI would really expect. And the
question is, how do you knowyou're not connecting with a
quote, unquote bad spirit? It'snot just a bad question,
because, trust me, when I firstcame to this work, or even
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before I, like, understood thiswork, or took part in it at all
the way I would say it is, like,I wouldn't allow even like TV
shows about witchcraft that arevery mainstream on mainstream
networks or cartoons. I wouldn'tallow, allow those kind of shows
in my house. And I would say, Idon't want to open doors. I
don't understand. And what Imeant was I don't know if things
are bad or not bad. So what Inow understand is that one,
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there aren't bad spirits thatare are with our loved ones.
It's that we just return to oursoul, self, and the truth of our
soul is love and is compassionand is, you know, the highest
vibrational energy, not thechallenged behaviors or
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personalities or struggle thatwe work through on this side,
our true soul self really is themore evolved version of us. So
even someone that was challengedon this side, for example, once
they cross over and they'recommunicating that those
challenges have at least largelybeen healed, worked through,
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processed, understood, andthere's a personal growth that
happens as part of thetransition, usually. So that's
one two. We all have guides asmediums, even if we don't,
depending To what degree we workconsciously with them, you know,
we can work very consciously andintentionally with them. They
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can kind of work in thebackground, but our guides are
assisting even in the backgroundall the time. So if they're
hypothetically, even though Idon't at this point, I don't
believe that there's badspirits, just for the record,
hypothetically, if there was abad spirit that wanted to
communicate right, disguised asa person, your guide would know
and wouldn't allow it. I don'tthink that they can, like,
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disguise themselves over therelike that, because it's not a
physical form. And when I hearthese fear based things, I know
that they're through this filterof, well, fear and human
understanding, because whenwe're non physical by
definition, we're not in aphysical form. So it's not like
we could disguise ourselves asanother physical form. We don't
have a physical form. Does thatmake sense? So it's not like the
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boogeyman is coming to yourguide and slipping past because
they're wearing the suit of anangel. You know what I mean? It
just doesn't work like that. Ibelieve we're recognized on the
other side by our unique,energetic vibration, I think,
sort of like the idea of afingerprint in a very simplified
way. I think we all, each of oursouls, has a unique energetic
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vibration, signature vibration,and I think that's more how we
recognize each other at thispoint in my work. Anyway, this
is what I believe, notnecessarily, like we do here by
by physical attributes, or likewe see someone and recognize
them, or if we are uncited, ifwe smell someone or know someone
and recognize them, right? Ithink it's different over there,
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so I don't think there's theselike bad spirits slipping
through for communication. Andthe other thing is the intention
behind mediumistic community.
Education, good mediumship.
Let's just call it is to hold inlove and respect and with a
level of reverence, right?
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Respect. It's a mysticalexperience. It's not, it's not
the same as just like rotatingyour tires or something like we
are, we are raising the energyof our soul, blending our soul
with the soul of someone who isdiscarnate, meaning out of a
body, and they are slowing theirvibration to blend souls with us
and to create thiscommunication, which, from my
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side, doesn't always feel supereasy. I'm working the whole time
with them. So why would thisbeautiful, mystical experience
be wasted on something that wastrickery or that was bad? The
intention of good mediumship isalways for healing, for growth,
for someone to get a little bitof clarity or understanding or
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to get what they need so thatthey can somehow release
themselves from things that areburdening them or holding them
back, or they can have moreclarity in a positive way. The
intention is always the highestand greatest need of the soul,
both the soul that is my humanclient in a body sitting on the
screen or in my office, and myclient who is the discarnate
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soul who is on the spirit side.
So the intention is the highestand greatest good and the
highest need of both souls.
There's no room for anythingbad, even if hypothetically, you
could make the argument thatsomething bad, like an evil
spirit, did exist, they're notcommunicating in mediumship in
this way. And there's guides,and there's our soul, and
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there's all of our other lovedones, and I think, and again, no
shade on this question, becauseit's a good question. It's
definitely a question I've hadin my journey, for sure, but it
really minimizes theintelligence and the power and
love behind what's actuallyhappening in a mediumistic
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communication. We have our ownloved ones around us all the
time, the ones that we knew, andthe layers of ancestors that we
didn't know. And we've talkedabout ancestors here before, and
what that means. It can mean arelational like related to you
ancestor, or it can be anancestor in whatever work you
do. If you're a biochemist, youhave a lineage, an ancestry, of
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all the other biochemists thatever came before you, for
example. So we have a lot oflove for us on the other side
that's not going to just allowsomething from that side to
throw us a ride. Chaos happensin this world, in our life all
the time, and I think that'swhere all of that yucky energy
and quote, unquote bad energylives is kind of in our world
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that we experience now. I don'tthink it's on the other side,
but just knowing that really allof this is a mystical experience
that only happens through thelove that we share, through the
the energy and the purity of theessence of our souls and the
intelligence of our souls. Theyhave to know who they are, who
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you are, what time yourappointment is, what you need to
hear, the connection you havewith them. Because actually, if
I was on the other side rightnow, and I took 10 different
people who knew me in thisworld, most of them each would
probably identify me a differentway. I'm a different person to
each of these people. I might bea mom to one. I might be a
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friend to the other. I might bea mentor to the other. So they
need to know how to bestidentify themselves to you based
on shared memories or detailsabout themselves, details about
your life. There's a lothappening, and just to reduce it
to somehow a bad spirit beingable to swoop in, it's not it's
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just not fair, I think, to allof the effort and energy that
goes into the spirit world. Theyhave to learn to communicate
with Mediums too, because we'reall a little different, we have
to learn to communicate withthem. So there's a lot of heart
and soul that goes into this.
And I just in my work, I'venever met a bad spirit. I've met
people that have challenges intheir lives, but that doesn't
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make them bad, right? It justmakes them they had a challenge
in their life. So I hope that Iknow there's a quite a tangent,
but I hope that answers that.
How do I know I'm not connectingwith a bad spirit all of those
ways? There's a lot of ways. Andthe final question for this
session of Ask a mediumanything, will I see my loved
one again when I die, or lovedones I never got to meet for my
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understanding, yes, absolutely,I believe we're greeted and
reunited with all of those thatwe've known and loved that are
on the other side and theancestors again, that maybe we
didn't get the opportunity tomeet. I sometimes have. I.
Ancestor of a client in myoffice or on my zoom from that
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is like a great grandparent, forexample. Sometimes they were
blessed to get to know thisperson a little bit in their
life, even if it was like whenthey were a kid. Sometimes they
didn't get to know that person,and that person passed away
before they were born. Butthen that person who's coming,
if it's like a great grandparenton the other side, for example,
they're sharing details aboutthemselves and often things
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going on in this client's lifebecause they care about you.
They care about what's going onto you. They're around you right
now, even if you didn't knowthem physically on this side, in
this lifetime, it doesn't meanyour soul doesn't know them from
the other side. I think we alsoget to hang out a little bit
with family members on the otherside before we come in, so
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before we incarnate into thislife as as a baby. I think we're
partially, at least some of thetime with other family members
over there. So I think we knowthem before even I've had often
a grandparent who's crossed overand they're, well, it'd probably
be like a parent and their kidis in my office, but it's an
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adult kid who has their ownkids, and that person saying,
like, Yes, I know my grandbaby.
Where else would I be thanhanging out with them? I spent
time with them over here beforethey came in, and I know they're
like this, and they're likethis, and their personalities
like this and and I've even hadthem say like, you know,
sometimes they sit down at theirlittle table to play Tea Party,
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and they're serving someone elseand talking to someone else when
they play Tea Party. And that'sme. I sit, I sit with them.
They, they actually are aware ofme in their own way. So, yeah,
they spend time with us now. Sowe, I believe, certainly get to
meet them on the other side, andwe definitely get to be reunited
with our loved ones. I thinkthat they kind of wait for us. I
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don't think people arereincarnating before we get to
be reunited with them. I thinkthey, they want to see us just
as much as we want to see them.
So we get to to be reunited. Weget to understand really, either
what the challenges were in ourrelationship or the strengths.
And the other thing to to knowis, however many years you've
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been on this earth, however oldyou are. We have memories that
we hang on to right things thatwe can recall right now, maybe
our third grade teacher, orwhat, you know, what music
instrument we played in middleschool, or there's memories that
we have, but then there's 1000sand 1000s of memories that we've
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completely forgotten that oursoul still contains. You know,
often we talk about it as theunconscious, right? But our soul
still contains all of thosememories, and when we cross
over, we get to have all thememories all at once. Our human
brain couldn't possibly manageto hold on to every single
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memory we've had in ourlifespan, in our brain all at
once. Right? Now, like I can'tremember what I wore every day
of sixth grade. Do you know whatI mean? My soul knows. So when
we cross over, we really get tohave the totality of our
memories, and that includes lotsof wonderful people, lots of
other souls. Sometimes thosesouls show up as friends,
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sometimes they show up aschallengers, to help move us in
a direction or help usunderstand something in life,
even the people we hadchallenges with, I think we come
to clarity and understanding andhave some sort of healing on the
other side. I think a lothappens as part of this
experience on this side, and Ithink a lot happens as we
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transition to the other side. SoI know that really, all of the
love and compassion that wereceive when we cross over is
all about our healing andunderstanding and the growth and
expansion of our own soul. Ithink it's part of the reason we
come here to this side, for thisexperience. There are emotions
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that when we understand thatwe're all connected, that we're
not separate, we come into thesephysical bodies to experience
separation, the illusion ofseparation, to feel what it
feels like to be separate, tofeel what it feels like to
assume that we're disconnectedwhen we're on the other side,
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when we return to spirit, to ourtrue soul selves. None of that
illusion exists. So it's hard tofeel sad when you know that
there's you know the truth is,there's no sadness over there.
It's hard to feel alone when youknow that you're connected to
the most divine love at alltimes and you're never separate.
There is no separation. It'sonly in coming here that we can
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have that experience ofseparation, of contrast, of
discomfort. So we can grow andexpand and bump up against
things and discover things thatour soul self actually knows we
find our. Again to a degree. Soin that way, I think
understanding that we'rereturning to love, we're
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returning eventually home, butthat we've come here for a
reason to have this experience,even if we don't understand in
our lifetime, why, why we'vecome why we needed these
experiences. I believe that wereally do get clarity on that
when we cross over and get tomeet with all of our loved ones
on the other side. And Iactually think we get to meet
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with kind of whoever weeventually want. I think we get
to meet with mentors andascended masters and teachers,
even teachers we didn't know.
There are books that I have readof people who have long crossed
over that I think I'll get tomeet when I'm over there, and
get to understand their wisdomand get to share in the energy
of their soul in a differentway. So I think we're much more
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connected than we realize, and Ithink it's our illusion of
separation and our humannessthat tries to reduce everything
to these very simple littleboxes, and I don't think it's
quite like that on the otherside. So I hope that you have
enjoyed this episode. I hopethat you got some questions
answered. If you have otherquestions, feel free to send
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them in. I try to sprinkle theseask a medium episodes and
throughout the year. So you caneither call in 305928,
love, that's 305-928-5683,it's not it. It's not a toll
free number. So carry your ratesupply, I guess how to say it.
But you can just leave a quickmessage if you have a question
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that you want to ask a medium,or you can email it to admin at
joyful medium.com, and ofcourse, I'll be compiling
another one of these questionand answer sessions. But maybe
just maybe, some of theseanswers have opened your mind
just one inch wider, or haveeven created more questions for
you, and can send you on thislittle quest of discovery
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yourself. Thanks for being herewith me. I always enjoy getting
to talk about the spirit worldand mediumship, and I can't tell
you how grateful I am to be ableto do this work as a medium, to
be able to have clients thattrust me to communicate with the
souls of their loved ones on theother side, and to have souls of
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loved ones on the other sidethat trust me to work with their
loved ones here on this side,I'm ever grateful to be getting
to do this work. And if you'veever been curious about
mediumship readings, I still doreadings. You can check out my
website, joyful medium.com inthe section marked work with me,
or just peruse all over thewebsite and get lots of
questions answered. So thanksfor being here and I will see
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you very soon. Big hugs. Lots oflove. Bye for now. From inside,
spirits. Be easy. You.
Joy, hey, beautiful soul,welcome to spirit speakeasy. I'm
Joy Giovanni, joyful medium. I'ma working psychic medium, energy
healer and spiritual giftsmentor. This podcast is like a
seat at the table in a secretclub, but with mediums, mystics
and the spiritual luminaries ofour time. So come behind the
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velvet ropes with me and seeinside my world as I chat
insider style with profoundlygifted souls, we go deep, share
juicy stories, laugh a lot, andit wouldn't be a speakeasy
without great insider secretsand tips. You might even learn
that you have some gifts of yourown. So step inside the spirit
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speakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul.
Welcome back, or welcome in foranother episode of spirit
speakeasy. This is one of themost highly requested episodes
that I get. This is Ask a mediumanything part four. We've done
three of these in the past, andtoday, I am going to be
answering the most commonquestions I've recently received
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from all of you and clients,etc. And I'm going to go down a
quick list of what thesequestions are, just so you know
what you're in for in thisepisode. And then I will dive
into them one by one. Thequestions we're going to answer
in this ask a medium episode is,do you just see dead people
anywhere you go? Is itoverwhelming in real life to be
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a medium? Do you ever givereadings in public like on TV?
What if I have a list ofquestions I want my loved one to
answer in my reading? How do youknow you're not connecting with
a bad spirit? Will I see myloved one again when I die, or
even loved ones I never got tomeet. So we're going to be
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answering all of thesequestions, and probably more,
because I didn't really maketons of notes, I just want to
kind of answer them on the fly.
And I'm sure more things willcome up as a result of these
questions. But let's start rightat the top with Question one, do
you see dead people everywhereyou go? Is it overwhelming in
real life to be a medium? I willsay I don't feel like it's more
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overwhelming to be a medium thanto be like just a generally
energetic, sensitive person. Andbecause I have trained as a
medium and I work as a medium, Ireally am able to manage my
energy so that it's lessoverwhelming. I guess I don't.
The way the question is phrasedis funny, do you see dead people
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all the time, the way mymediumship works? I don't see
the people. They don't have aphysical body anymore. I don't
see a physical representation ofthem. I more sense them, and
then move my awareness toconnect with them, and they
share details with me throughsometimes quick flashes of
mental pictures, through theemotions. Sometimes I will just
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know bits of details. We callthat claircognizance, so I don't
just experience crossed overloved ones, dead people. I hate
that way of saying it, it'spretty irreverent, but I don't
see crossed over peopleeverywhere I go. I don't see
them at all, but I don'texperience them everywhere I go.
I really experience them whenI'm working as a general rule, I
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sometimes, in meditation, willbecome aware of a specific
person. Usually it's someone Iknow. I once in a while in in,
well, in meditation, I amsometimes becoming aware of the
spirit world as a world, so kindof the spirit world in general,
rather than like specificindividuals. But what I'm out
and about I'm really focused on,typically, whatever I'm doing,
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my human life, the the world, Ikind of have to focus on what's
happening around me anyway, justto be present and to navigate
the world. So I don't think it'sany more difficult or
challenging or overwhelming inreal life to be a medium than it
is to just be an energeticallysensitive person. And also, I'm
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not reading people everywhere Igo, like mediumship and psychic
work for me, or they're just sointertwined and so tied
together. So when I'm at acheckout at a store, I'm not
like reading that person'senergy. I might become aware of
things like, Oh, I feel likethey're having a really hard
day, or light things that areright on top, but I'm not
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blending my energy into theirspace to discern or to know
information about them. It'sjust not it's just not
appropriate, to be quite honest,and it's not how I work. I once
in a while will become aware ofa spirit person. I'm going to
save that for the next question.
But I don't just generally seeand become aware of spirit
people everywhere I go. It doeshappen once in a blue moon, but
not as a general rule. Andmediums that have trained we can
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this is not the right way. I'mgoing to say it again, the
language we can contain ourfocus, meaning we don't have to
let our mind wander to thespirit world. We don't have to
let our awareness wander to thespirit world. It can sometimes
happen if we are just kind ofwandering in our. Emotions and
not really paying attention ifwe're overwhelmed. Sometimes we
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can become aware of spirit. Itcan happen from time to time,
but as a general rule, I'm notaware of things going on in
someone's life. Once in a whileI might be I'm not aware of
their spirit people. I sometimesI'm aware of my own spirit
people. When I'm out and about,I might see a sign from a loved
one of my own, or just be awareof them, but I'm usually not
aware of other people's lovedones as I move just throughout
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the world. This next questionis, do you ever give readings in
public, like on TV? As a generalrule, no, but just like all
rules, there are exceptions.
It's typically, it's, I mean,not typically. It's not my
intention when I go out in theworld, like I was saying, to
give readings. It's just forseveral reasons. One is, you can
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really ruin someone's day ifthey're not available to to for
like they're not ready for that,right? It's part of why
someone's soul kind of callsthem or pulls them or nudges
them to get a reading whenthey're ready, when they can
best receive the information.
You can really just put someonein a bad emotional state by
bringing up someone that maybethey're not ready to hear from.
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We don't at the top. You know,when we first kind of move our
awareness to spirit and meet aspirit person, typically, we
don't know the depth of therelationship. So this might be a
very triggering relationship.
This might be a challengerelationship. They might have a
lot of trauma from thatrelationship, or have unhealed
it. The spirit person isprobably showing up to to heal
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it, and of course, they care.
But as the medium, as the personwho does the communicating, we
have to have some boundariesjust to just because that's just
not nice, right? It's not niceto just go around, uh, blowing
up people's day at their job oror, you know, when they're at
the grocery store next to you,or whatever it is. I just don't
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think it's appropriate. It'spart of my training that we're
kind of taught that that's areal No, however, that being
said, there are exceptions toevery rule. And I'm thinking of
this has only happened to me. Imean, a handful of times in the
entire time that I've been amedium. I'd say it's probably
less than once a year even, thatI will give a reading to someone
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in public in the world. I cangive you two examples of when
this has happened one that wasmaybe a few years ago, I was in
a ride share taking it to gomeet someone for a dinner that I
had to go to, and we're drivingin the car, and this young man
is driving, and I was just soaware of his dad next to me in
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the car. And this is how I doit. As a medium, everyone has
obviously free will and can dowhatever, however they do it.
But for me, I became aware ofthe spirit person. Typically, I
can, can manage my awareness, soI'm not aware of them, but I
just was so aware of thisgentleman. And in my mind, I
kind of sent the thought to thisgentleman in the spirit world.
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Hey, if, if you want me tocommunicate or help you
communicate with this young manwho's driving, I need him to
mention you. I need him to bringit up. I don't know how you're
going to do it, but you got toget him to to bring it up. And,
you know, we were chatting, andhe asked me, What did I do? And
I said, I'm a medium. And andthen he said, Oh, I recently
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lost my dad. I'm having a reallyhard time. And I was like, okay,
so I asked him, which is thenice thing to do? I said, you
know, I'm, I'm, I don't normallydo this. This is very out of the
ordinary for me, but I am veryaware of your dad. And since you
brought it up, do you want tohear a little bit from him? You
can totally say no, because heit that might have just not been
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the right time for him. So it'sgood to ask right consent. So he
said, Yeah, I would really lovethat, actually. And I blended my
energy with his dad. I was awareof the circumstances around the
dad's passing, he had an illnessthat was managed for a time. I
won't give you the all of thespecifics, just to respect this
person's privacy, but I'll giveyou some of the specifics. So I
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was aware of the specificsaround his condition and his
passing, but I was also awarethat this young man who was
driving my ridesharewas not fully estranged from his
dad, like they were talking, butthe dad and he had been just
having a tough time, and thisyoung man had been kind of going
down, not the most ideal paththat as a parent that you want
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your kid to go down. He was justmaking some bad choices and
going in a direction in lifethat wasn't great. And his dad
was very upset, and I was awarethat he did get to see his dad
before his passing, and I wasaware that he had made a promise
to his dad, and his dad wasmaking me aware that he was very
proud of him, that he was reallyafter his dad's passing, trying
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to make good on this promise.
And you. Move his life in abetter direction. And he said,
Yeah, that's true. Actually.
That's why I'm driving this rideshare, even because I'm trying
to get money to go back toschool. And I, you know, he
shared a couple things. Heexited these not good, very not
good things that he was doingand participating in and and had
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really been trying to get hislife together like he had
promised his dad. And then I wasaware of a few more details from
his dad, something that he hadof his dad that I couldn't see.
Actually, I can tell you this. Isaid, you know your dad is
indicating that you have a cardwith his photo and with a little
something about him, a littlequote or prayer or something.
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You keep it with you. And he'slike, yeah, actually, it's right
here. And he pulled it out from,I don't even know where in the
front seat, but he pulled itout, and he said, it's right
here. And then I said, I keep Hekeeps showing me his thumb, and
I don't understand what this is.
I just, you know, I wasn't afull reading, so I wasn't maybe
understanding it correctly. Andhe said, Oh, I have this. It was
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aware of a chain that he hadwith his dad's like, name on it,
and he said, Yeah, thethumbprints on the back of this.
And so it was really validating.
And that was maybe just like afive or 10 minute, quick little
communication from his dad, butjust letting him know his dad's
safe. He's not upset with him.
He's very proud of him. He wantsthe best for him. And that young
man was very grateful and happy,and I just like, I hope I didn't
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like, mess you up for the restof your driving shift. And he
was like, no, actually, that wasreally relieving. And I really
am doubly inspired to, like,stay on this path. So that was a
positive example. I have anotherpositive example that I can give
you. There was another timerecently that shout out to
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ubiquitous Tara.
We were at an Apple store I justdon't love I mean, most of us
don't love them all, especiallycrowded season, and this was
right before the holidays. Itwas super crowded. I needed to
make sure I got a new phone,because mine was just not being
amazing. And I wanted to do it,you know, before the end of the
year. So she went there with me,and we had this wonderful rep
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that was helping us. And it waspretty chaotic in that store,
which I feel like it often is.
And for some reason, I just keptbecoming aware of this. Again,
it was a young man. This youngman's it felt like it was a
woman. She was incrediblystrong, and it felt like either
a grandma that raised Him ormaybe an older mom. And again, I
was aware of her a few differenttimes throughout I was at the
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store for a couple hours. Ifyou've ever bought a phone or a
laptop at the Apple Store, youknow you're going to be there a
couple hours when it's crowded.
And I was there a long time. SoI was aware of her. And again, I
kind of in my thoughts. Said toher, thank you so much for
letting me be aware of you. Idon't normally work this way. If
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you, if I need to communicatewith this young man on your
behalf, he needs to bring it up.
He needs to he needs to bringyou up somehow. That's kind of
my, I guess my go to and sowe're working together, working
together. And as part of it, Ihad to give my email, and they
it's joyful medium, as you guysknow, at joyful medium.com and
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they said, Oh, joyful media. AndI said, no medium. And he said,
like, Oh, what is that? And Isaid, Well, essentially, I
talked to people that havecrossed over and communicate
with them and give readings. Andhe was like, I'm so interested
in that. And I just was like,Okay, well, we are busy. And
kept still being aware of thiswoman. And he said, like, do you
ever, like, just become aware ofpeople? And he's like, I have
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someone that I really want toknow. I really would want to
hear from. And and I was like,Well, typically, no, but you do
have an incredibly strong womanaround you right now that I feel
like, helps to raise you, andshe has so much love for you,
and is a big personality andreally loves you a lot. And I
was gonna leave it at that. Andthen he said, Oh yeah, that's my
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grandma, so and so, and I havethis memorial tattoo for her,
and, like, shows me the tattoo.
So then, of course, I was like,Okay, well, he really opened up.
And I said, you know, since I amaware of her, Would you like to
hear a couple things? Because hewas like, first, he's like, I
don't know if I'm kind of scaredof that. And I was, you know,
just like we always talk about,I was like, it's never anything
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scary. It's typically just themletting you know they love you
and they're around and and thenthat's when the whole thing
happened, where I said,Actually, you have a woman
around you, because he wascurious. So then he said, Yeah,
I would love to hear a fewthings. But meanwhile, it's a
busy store, and his managerkeeps coming up. And so it was a
little bit choppy, but it washis grandma, and I brought
through some lovely detail fromher, where, you know, where she
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where they had all lived, andthen where she was from, how she
passed, I was aware that hewasn't able to say goodbye to
her in the way that he wanted,and that there was a lot of
division in the family. And sowe touched into that. And then
the grandma helped to bringforward, or make me aware of a
young man on the other side thathad passed suddenly and
tragically. And I. They hadindicated that this was going to
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be hard for this young man atthe Apple Store to hear about.
And so I said, I just want tosay something to you, and I'm
not going to go deep into it,but I am aware of a young man
like I said, that passessuddenly and tragically, that is
either your best friend or acousin that you're very, very
close with. You know him, kindof in your younger years, high
school and early earlyadulthood. And I said, Do you
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understand this? This young manon the other side? And I could
see his face was like, this wasthe emotional one for him,
right? And so probably this wasthe need. This probably was who
he needed to know was okay. AndI he was like, I do know who
that is. That's my best friend.
And I said, Okay, I'm not goingto super go into it, because I'm
aware it's a very difficultsituation. I'm just going to
give you a little bit from him.
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The friend, had mentioned thisreally lovely photograph of the
two of them that he said, Thisyoung man that I was working
with at the store, had he kindof described the photo a little
bit, or showed me a quick flashof what it might look like? And
I knew, you know where he hadit, and I said, He wants you to
think of those days and think ofhim like that. I was aware that
his life was taken from him aspart of this complication, but
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he wanted his friend to knowthat he was okay, that he was
safe and at peace. And actually,his grandma loved this young man
quite a bit. So we had kind of alaugh about that. So those are
my couple examples of how it canhappen. But I would say it's the
exception, not like the typicalway it is. You could imagine
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that someone coming up to you.
First of all, how do you evenknow that a medium that's going
to approach you in public is onthe level you don't, and a lot
of times, I can't tell you howmany clients I have come in that
says, Oh, the girl that does myhair said she's psychic and she
told me this. Or the person thatdoes my nails says they're
psychic and told me this. Andusually it's these really
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terrifying or unsettling bitsabout their life, and if the
person's not ready for it, or ifyou're not trained for it, or if
they're just in, like at theirjob, or maybe they're not ready
for that communication, it canjust be a mess. So typically,
no, I don't give readings inpublic, like on TV. And the
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other thing is, while I thinkyou guys have probably heard me
say this before, I think there'sa wonderful place for those TV
shows, and that mediumship iscoming more, a little more
mainstream. I think that'swonderful in a lot of ways. The
thing that a lot of people don'tthink through, particularly with
the shows where they're doingreadings on the show, that that
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scenario, whatever that personsteps into, is already miked.
It's already lit. There'salready been a crew in there
preparing everything, movingthings, to get the lighting
right so they know this readingis gonna happen.
Yeah, even if it looks like onthe show that this person is
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just getting into this scenariowith this other person who then
starts spontaneously readingthem. They know, they've signed
waivers, they like, there's allkinds of things that happen.
It's not as spontaneous as itlooks. But I'm not saying the
mediumship is not real, becauseI think it is in a lot of those
cases. And I actually, actuallyhave gotten to meet or witness
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or know, a couple of a few ofthe famous mediums. So they're
real mediums. It's just thescenario that they're setting up
for TV is not necessarily like agenuine scenario. It doesn't
happen the way it looks likeit's happening, and there's a
lot of editing that happens, buta crew is coming in and
lighting, and, like I said,waivers are signed, and all
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kinds of things are happening.
So it's not usual for all themediums that I know. It's not
usual for us to just spring intospontaneous readings wherever we
go, but it can happen, and mysolution for it really is to
kind of tell the spirit person.
Because I don't know if you'veheard me say this, but actually
I believe I work for the spiritworld, not necessarily my
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clients in this world, eventhough, of course, I honor and
respect them, my true like who Iwork for is the spirit side. So
I will lovingly say to them,like they need to give me the
green light, or bring you up insome way, or ask or inquire, or
they need to give some veryclear indication that this is
okay. Can you, can you influencethat? And they can, usually, if
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that person is truly open,available, it's okay, right?
Yeah, because we don't want tocause, we don't want to do any
harm, right? That's one of thecore, I don't know, foundational
things we need to agree to asmediums or spiritual workers,
like do no harm, right? So thatis my answer to, do I see loved
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ones everywhere I go? Is itoverwhelming? And do I give
readings in public? The nextquestion is, what? Oh, what if
I. A list of questions that Iwant my loved one to answer in
my reading. Most of you guysknow I do one on one readings,
either in person in my office inSan Diego, or online via zoom. I
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also do group readings, whichsometimes are like a family
group or a group of friends thatknow each other, and sometimes
are a more public group, wherepeople are just buying tickets
and it's a bunch of people thatdon't necessarily know each
other. So readings can happen alot of ways. When you're signing
up for them and this person'swanting to know, if I come in
for a session, what if I have,like, this list of questions I
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want the loved one to answer inmy reading? Um, what I can tell
you is that I think it's humannature to have certain things we
want to know or would like tohear about. I don't think we
could even help ourselves fromlike mentally thinking about it,
or even mentally kind of makinga list. But what I will say is
it's much more effective to gointo the reading just open
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hearted and open minded, lettingthe spirit person, whether it's
a specific loved one or a groupof your loved ones communicate
what they know you need to hearor what needs to be lifted off
your heart, or what they need tocommunicate or clear up. So the
way I like to do it is Inormally when I meet my client,
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whether they're in person oronline, I tell them a little bit
about how I work, what to expectfor the session, and then I let
them know, if they havequestions, it's okay. Just kind
of hang on to them. Let me workfor a little bit. Let's see what
comes organically out of thecommunication out of the
session. And then if they ifthey still have questions at the
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end, we can either take a lookat them, 99% of the time, the
spirit person does answer most,if not all, of the questions,
but just depending on what thequestion is like, I've had
people a lot of times thequestions are like, are they at
peace? Are they safe? Do theyknow about X, Y, Z? It's part of
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why I don't like to know thequestions ahead of time, because
then my mind wants to search forthe answers. And a lot of times
the communication and the thingsthat they're sharing or bringing
up in the reading, I don't knowhow they relate to the question,
or I won't even know thatquestions are being answered as
part of what they'recommunicating, especially if
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it's a do they know how thisaffected me? Do they know that I
had a baby? Do they know, youknow, depending what the
questions are, where it doesn'twork, typically is either like,
it's really hard for me tounderstand data points as far as
like, I'll give you a goodexample. On more than one
occasion, I've had differentpeople come in wanting to know
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like the password to a phone ora code to a banking thing, a
deposit box or a banking online,whatever, I there's probably no
way for me to get thatinformation. Do you know what I
mean someone's pass code totheir phone or something that's
written in like a coded way, andcan I tell them what that means?
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It doesn't really work likethat. It's not mediumship. Is
not like phone a friend, where Ihave them on the phone talking
to me, saying into my human ear.
No, the password is bananasandwiches, whatever it is, they
really are impressing upon methrough the emotions. Sometimes
I'll get quick flashes ofpictures, sometimes I'll have
mental words or even songs, butit's not them just standing next
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to me talking in my ear. I wishit was just doesn't work that
way, and then the wholeemotional part would be missing
anyway. So I'm really workingwith them the whole time to
understand the nuanced parts ofthe communication. So a lot of
questions that you might havenaturally get answered as part
of the communication. So if it'ssomething that's very like a
password or a, yeah, a phonenumber of someone like, I'm
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probably not going to probablythat's not going to come about.
The other thing that that oftenis not like answered as part of
a reading, is if it's somethingthat really just, you know, I
think the best way I can say itis there's things that we maybe
need to know, right? Like it's aburden on our heart or our soul.
Are they safe? Are they okay?
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Did they go to a bad place? Arethey? Do they know who they are?
Did they did they do they havetheir memory now, if they didn't
when they were here? There aresome things that we really it's
heavy on our heart to need toknow, and then there are other
things that we might want toknow, but from their
perspective, or from our soul'sperspective, we don't need to
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know, we just want to know. Sothey won't necessarily answer
everything, but if it'ssomething that we truly need,
they will often answer it justas a natural part of the
communications. So I think itdepends on you as the
individual. If you can come intoa reading without a list and
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just allow the experience, trustthat your loved ones will
communicate what they need tocommunicate, or what you what
the true need is. But if you'resomeone who gets really anxious
and this list is happening andyou're it's draining all of your
mental energy. Anyway, write itdown. Most mediums probably
won't want to see it. I willoften if they say they have a
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list, and I tell them, Okay,hang on to it. Let's work a
little bit and see I justrecently in a small group
reading of a family. I didn't Ithink that maybe the gal did say
she had a list, and I kind ofsaid, like, okay, just hang on
to it and we'll look at itlater. And then I had asked, you
know, were there items on thelist that, do we address
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everything? And she's looking atit, and she said, yeah,
actually, in one way or another,we did address all of these,
all of these items. Soyeah, often, most of the
questions that you might put ona list get answered as a natural
part of the communication. Thereis a bit of a need to know
versus want to know. And it'sprobably not going to be
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details, like, where did youhide the fill in the blank, or
what is the password or code tofill in the blank those I mean,
it'd be miraculous if we couldget it, but that's typically not
the type of information thatthey are using this mystical
experience and connection ofsouls to bring through usually
has a weightier meaning thanthat. So the next question I've
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been asked this actually ininterviews recently, in the last
couple years, kind of more thanI would really expect. And the
question is, how do you knowyou're not connecting with a
quote, unquote bad spirit? It'snot just a bad question,
because, trust me, when I firstcame to this work, or even
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before I, like, understood thiswork, or took part in it at all
the way I would say it is, like,I wouldn't allow even like TV
shows about witchcraft that arevery mainstream on mainstream
networks or cartoons. I wouldn'tallow, allow those kind of shows
in my house. And I would say, Idon't want to open doors. I
don't understand. And what Imeant was I don't know if things
are bad or not bad. So what Inow understand is that one,
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there aren't bad spirits thatare are with our loved ones.
It's that we just return to oursoul, self, and the truth of our
soul is love and is compassionand is, you know, the highest
vibrational energy, not thechallenged behaviors or
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personalities or struggle thatwe work through on this side,
our true soul self really is themore evolved version of us. So
even someone that was challengedon this side, for example, once
they cross over and they'recommunicating that those
challenges have at least largelybeen healed, worked through,
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processed, understood, andthere's a personal growth that
happens as part of thetransition, usually. So that's
one two. We all have guides asmediums, even if we don't,
depending To what degree we workconsciously with them, you know,
we can work very consciously andintentionally with them. They
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can kind of work in thebackground, but our guides are
assisting even in the backgroundall the time. So if they're
hypothetically, even though Idon't at this point, I don't
believe that there's badspirits, just for the record,
hypothetically, if there was abad spirit that wanted to
communicate right, disguised asa person, your guide would know
and wouldn't allow it. I don'tthink that they can, like,
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disguise themselves over therelike that, because it's not a
physical form. And when I hearthese fear based things, I know
that they're through this filterof, well, fear and human
understanding, because whenwe're non physical by
definition, we're not in aphysical form. So it's not like
we could disguise ourselves asanother physical form. We don't
have a physical form. Does thatmake sense? So it's not like the
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boogeyman is coming to yourguide and slipping past because
they're wearing the suit of anangel. You know what I mean? It
just doesn't work like that. Ibelieve we're recognized on the
other side by our unique,energetic vibration, I think,
sort of like the idea of afingerprint in a very simplified
way. I think we all, each of oursouls, has a unique energetic
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vibration, signature vibration,and I think that's more how we
recognize each other at thispoint in my work. Anyway, this
is what I believe, notnecessarily, like we do here by
by physical attributes, or likewe see someone and recognize
them, or if we are uncited, ifwe smell someone or know someone
and recognize them, right? Ithink it's different over there,
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so I don't think there's theselike bad spirits slipping
through for communication. Andthe other thing is the intention
behind mediumistic community.
Education, good mediumship.
Let's just call it is to hold inlove and respect and with a
level of reverence, right?
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Respect. It's a mysticalexperience. It's not, it's not
the same as just like rotatingyour tires or something like we
are, we are raising the energyof our soul, blending our soul
with the soul of someone who isdiscarnate, meaning out of a
body, and they are slowing theirvibration to blend souls with us
and to create thiscommunication, which, from my
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side, doesn't always feel supereasy. I'm working the whole time
with them. So why would thisbeautiful, mystical experience
be wasted on something that wastrickery or that was bad? The
intention of good mediumship isalways for healing, for growth,
for someone to get a little bitof clarity or understanding or
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to get what they need so thatthey can somehow release
themselves from things that areburdening them or holding them
back, or they can have moreclarity in a positive way. The
intention is always the highestand greatest need of the soul,
both the soul that is my humanclient in a body sitting on the
screen or in my office, and myclient who is the discarnate
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soul who is on the spirit side.
So the intention is the highestand greatest good and the
highest need of both souls.
There's no room for anythingbad, even if hypothetically, you
could make the argument thatsomething bad, like an evil
spirit, did exist, they're notcommunicating in mediumship in
this way. And there's guides,and there's our soul, and
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there's all of our other lovedones, and I think, and again, no
shade on this question, becauseit's a good question. It's
definitely a question I've hadin my journey, for sure, but it
really minimizes theintelligence and the power and
love behind what's actuallyhappening in a mediumistic
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communication. We have our ownloved ones around us all the
time, the ones that we knew, andthe layers of ancestors that we
didn't know. And we've talkedabout ancestors here before, and
what that means. It can mean arelational like related to you
ancestor, or it can be anancestor in whatever work you
do. If you're a biochemist, youhave a lineage, an ancestry, of
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all the other biochemists thatever came before you, for
example. So we have a lot oflove for us on the other side
that's not going to just allowsomething from that side to
throw us a ride. Chaos happensin this world, in our life all
the time, and I think that'swhere all of that yucky energy
and quote, unquote bad energylives is kind of in our world
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that we experience now. I don'tthink it's on the other side,
but just knowing that really allof this is a mystical experience
that only happens through thelove that we share, through the
the energy and the purity of theessence of our souls and the
intelligence of our souls. Theyhave to know who they are, who
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you are, what time yourappointment is, what you need to
hear, the connection you havewith them. Because actually, if
I was on the other side rightnow, and I took 10 different
people who knew me in thisworld, most of them each would
probably identify me a differentway. I'm a different person to
each of these people. I might bea mom to one. I might be a
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friend to the other. I might bea mentor to the other. So they
need to know how to bestidentify themselves to you based
on shared memories or detailsabout themselves, details about
your life. There's a lothappening, and just to reduce it
to somehow a bad spirit beingable to swoop in, it's not it's
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just not fair, I think, to allof the effort and energy that
goes into the spirit world. Theyhave to learn to communicate
with Mediums too, because we'reall a little different, we have
to learn to communicate withthem. So there's a lot of heart
and soul that goes into this.
And I just in my work, I'venever met a bad spirit. I've met
people that have challenges intheir lives, but that doesn't
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make them bad, right? It justmakes them they had a challenge
in their life. So I hope that Iknow there's a quite a tangent,
but I hope that answers that.
How do I know I'm not connectingwith a bad spirit all of those
ways? There's a lot of ways. Andthe final question for this
session of Ask a mediumanything, will I see my loved
one again when I die, or lovedones I never got to meet for my
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understanding, yes, absolutely,I believe we're greeted and
reunited with all of those thatwe've known and loved that are
on the other side and theancestors again, that maybe we
didn't get the opportunity tomeet. I sometimes have. I.
Ancestor of a client in myoffice or on my zoom from that
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is like a great grandparent, forexample. Sometimes they were
blessed to get to know thisperson a little bit in their
life, even if it was like whenthey were a kid. Sometimes they
didn't get to know that person,and that person passed away
before they were born. Butthen that person who's coming,
if it's like a great grandparenton the other side, for example,
they're sharing details aboutthemselves and often things
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going on in this client's lifebecause they care about you.
They care about what's going onto you. They're around you right
now, even if you didn't knowthem physically on this side, in
this lifetime, it doesn't meanyour soul doesn't know them from
the other side. I think we alsoget to hang out a little bit
with family members on the otherside before we come in, so
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before we incarnate into thislife as as a baby. I think we're
partially, at least some of thetime with other family members
over there. So I think we knowthem before even I've had often
a grandparent who's crossed overand they're, well, it'd probably
be like a parent and their kidis in my office, but it's an
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adult kid who has their ownkids, and that person saying,
like, Yes, I know my grandbaby.
Where else would I be thanhanging out with them? I spent
time with them over here beforethey came in, and I know they're
like this, and they're likethis, and their personalities
like this and and I've even hadthem say like, you know,
sometimes they sit down at theirlittle table to play Tea Party,
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and they're serving someone elseand talking to someone else when
they play Tea Party. And that'sme. I sit, I sit with them.
They, they actually are aware ofme in their own way. So, yeah,
they spend time with us now. Sowe, I believe, certainly get to
meet them on the other side, andwe definitely get to be reunited
with our loved ones. I thinkthat they kind of wait for us. I
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don't think people arereincarnating before we get to
be reunited with them. I thinkthey, they want to see us just
as much as we want to see them.
So we get to to be reunited. Weget to understand really, either
what the challenges were in ourrelationship or the strengths.
And the other thing to to knowis, however many years you've
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been on this earth, however oldyou are. We have memories that
we hang on to right things thatwe can recall right now, maybe
our third grade teacher, orwhat, you know, what music
instrument we played in middleschool, or there's memories that
we have, but then there's 1000sand 1000s of memories that we've
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completely forgotten that oursoul still contains. You know,
often we talk about it as theunconscious, right? But our soul
still contains all of thosememories, and when we cross
over, we get to have all thememories all at once. Our human
brain couldn't possibly manageto hold on to every single
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memory we've had in ourlifespan, in our brain all at
once. Right? Now, like I can'tremember what I wore every day
of sixth grade. Do you know whatI mean? My soul knows. So when
we cross over, we really get tohave the totality of our
memories, and that includes lotsof wonderful people, lots of
other souls. Sometimes thosesouls show up as friends,
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sometimes they show up aschallengers, to help move us in
a direction or help usunderstand something in life,
even the people we hadchallenges with, I think we come
to clarity and understanding andhave some sort of healing on the
other side. I think a lothappens as part of this
experience on this side, and Ithink a lot happens as we
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transition to the other side. SoI know that really, all of the
love and compassion that wereceive when we cross over is
all about our healing andunderstanding and the growth and
expansion of our own soul. Ithink it's part of the reason we
come here to this side, for thisexperience. There are emotions
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that when we understand thatwe're all connected, that we're
not separate, we come into thesephysical bodies to experience
separation, the illusion ofseparation, to feel what it
feels like to be separate, tofeel what it feels like to
assume that we're disconnectedwhen we're on the other side,
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when we return to spirit, to ourtrue soul selves. None of that
illusion exists. So it's hard tofeel sad when you know that
there's you know the truth is,there's no sadness over there.
It's hard to feel alone when youknow that you're connected to
the most divine love at alltimes and you're never separate.
There is no separation. It'sonly in coming here that we can
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have that experience ofseparation, of contrast, of
discomfort. So we can grow andexpand and bump up against
things and discover things thatour soul self actually knows we
find our. Again to a degree. Soin that way, I think
understanding that we'rereturning to love, we're
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returning eventually home, butthat we've come here for a
reason to have this experience,even if we don't understand in
our lifetime, why, why we'vecome why we needed these
experiences. I believe that wereally do get clarity on that
when we cross over and get tomeet with all of our loved ones
on the other side. And Iactually think we get to meet
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with kind of whoever weeventually want. I think we get
to meet with mentors andascended masters and teachers,
even teachers we didn't know.
There are books that I have readof people who have long crossed
over that I think I'll get tomeet when I'm over there, and
get to understand their wisdomand get to share in the energy
of their soul in a differentway. So I think we're much more
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connected than we realize, and Ithink it's our illusion of
separation and our humannessthat tries to reduce everything
to these very simple littleboxes, and I don't think it's
quite like that on the otherside. So I hope that you have
enjoyed this episode. I hopethat you got some questions
answered. If you have otherquestions, feel free to send
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them in. I try to sprinkle theseask a medium episodes and
throughout the year. So you caneither call in 305928,
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But you can just leave a quickmessage if you have a question
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that you want to ask a medium,or you can email it to admin at
joyful medium.com, and ofcourse, I'll be compiling
another one of these questionand answer sessions. But maybe
just maybe, some of theseanswers have opened your mind
just one inch wider, or haveeven created more questions for
you, and can send you on thislittle quest of discovery
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yourself. Thanks for being herewith me. I always enjoy getting
to talk about the spirit worldand mediumship, and I can't tell
you how grateful I am to be ableto do this work as a medium, to
be able to have clients thattrust me to communicate with the
souls of their loved ones on theother side, and to have souls of
(42:16):
loved ones on the other sidethat trust me to work with their
loved ones here on this side,I'm ever grateful to be getting
to do this work. And if you'veever been curious about
mediumship readings, I still doreadings. You can check out my
website, joyful medium.com inthe section marked work with me,
or just peruse all over thewebsite and get lots of
questions answered. So thanksfor being here and I will see
(42:39):
you very soon. Big hugs. Lots oflove. Bye for now. From inside,
spirits. Be easy. You.
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