April 7, 2025 • 47 mins
In this soulful and truth-filled episode of Spirit Speakeasy, I’m pulling back the curtain on the real role of spirit guides—and how to recognize the subtle, powerful ways they’re already working with you.
Forget the Hollywood version of spiritual connection. If you've ever wondered why you’re not “hearing” your guides clearly or assumed you must be doing it wrong, this episode is going to shift your perspective—and help you build something deeper and more authentic.
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- What spirit guides truly are (and what they aren’t)
- The different types of guides that may be on your spirit team
- Real-world signs your guides are near you
- How spirit communicates through your inner language
- Why trust is the key—and how to strengthen it over time
- Practical steps to connect without forcing it
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Joy, hey, beautiful soul,welcome to spirit speakeasy. I'm
Joy Giovanni, joyful medium. I'ma working psychic medium, energy
healer and spiritual giftsmentor. This podcast is like a
seat at the table in a secretclub, but with mediums, mystics
and the spiritual luminaries ofour time. So come behind the
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velvet ropes with me and seeinside my world as I chat
insider style with profoundlygifted souls, we go deep, share
juicy stories, laugh a lot, andit wouldn't be a speakeasy
without great insider secretsand tips. You might even learn
that you have some gifts of yourown so step inside the spirit
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speakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul,welcome back, or welcome in for
another episode of spiritspeakeasy. Today, we're
exploring the concept of spiritguides their purpose, plus I'm
offering some practical stepsfor you to recognize and start
cultivating a relationship withyour own guides for support and
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guidance. Right away, I'm gonnashare some of the truths that no
one talks about whenever I'mlooking up videos about spirit
guides to see what other peopleare teaching, I'm seeing some of
these sneaky truths that no oneis talking about. So let's dive
right in and really unfold thistopic of spirit guides. I'm
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going to give you some do's anddon'ts. We're going to talk
about how to connect and why theway that you might have already
been trying to connect might notbe working. And plus, I'm going
to really just unfold a littlebit with you what spirit guides
actually are and how to know,one, if you're making it up and
two, this deeper understandingof why you actually are always
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connected, and hopefully, by thetime we're done, you will feel
and understand the same thing.
So let's get started. I waswondering for some of you, have
you ever felt a sudden nudge, awhisper of guidance or an
unexplained sense of calm duringa really difficult moment. What
if that was your spirit guidetrying to reach you? Let's start
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off with an honest truth. One ofthe biggest reasons people feel
disconnected from their spiritguides is because they're
unknowingly waiting for anexperience that looks more like
the movies than a real spiritualconnection. Sometimes people are
expecting, like an all powerful,booming voice, type of a guide
who shows up like dramatically,hopefully in a puff of smoke,
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right with all the answers andsteers them away from every
challenge and has like, full onconversations like Yoda like a
wise old sage in like a fantasymovie, right? But here's the
thing, our spirit guides don'toverride our free will. They
don't usually hand us step bystep instructions in this way,
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and they're not here to keep usfrom discomfort. I know that's a
hard truth, but in fact,sometimes the role of our spirit
guide is to guide us throughthose uncomfortable moments so
that we can develop, strengthenand grow more into the full
potential of ourselves, right? Iknow lots of you are parents or
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mentors to younger people. Allof us were younger people.
Certainly think about the timeswhen we had to learn something
ourself or really struggle, evenif we had mentorship or teachers
or family around us, thedifference in having someone do
it for us versus support usthrough it, right? So kind of
keep that in perspective,because understanding how spirit
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guides actually communicate andwhat their role really is, makes
all the difference in yourability to understand that you
can do this, because when westop trying to force the
connection to look a certainway, we really open ourselves up
to subtle, consistent andpowerful ways that our spirit
guides are already supporting usevery single day. And what I
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know for sure is that when youtreat this like a relationship
instead of a transaction, youopen the door to something truly
meaningful and deeplysupportive. There was a time
when I really didn't, I don'tknow if I didn't believe in
spirit guides. I don't Iwouldn't say that because I had
some strange experiences when Iwas pretty young, but I didn't
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know that I that they couldcommunicate with me, or how they
communicated, like I was sayingearlier. I was one of those
people that thought, oh, it'sgot to be like a voice from the
sky, or like a little, do youguys remember that show Casper,
the Friendly Ghost, like alittle friendly ghost that
appears beside you, or a Smurfof some kind, right? I was
looking for that, and I wasreally confused, personally. So
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it's why, now that I have thisdifferent perspective, this
different understanding, Ireally want to help unfold this,
just to dispel some myths. Andit's really a beautiful
experience to build arelationship with your spirit
guides, and I don't want you tomiss out on it. So let's break
this down. What exactly. Exactlyour spirit guides. How can we
recognize when they really arethere, and how can we recognize
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this connection with them whenit shows up? So first, let's
start by just having anunderstanding of what spirit
guides are. I like to definespirit guides as benevolent, non
physical helpers that assist usthrough our lifetime. So part of
I think, what the confusion canbe for me, and the way I
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understand it, and the way Iseparate it in my mind, is
Spirit guides are not angels.
That is a different type ofbeing. And you know, we talk
about angels here a lot, so diveinto those Archangel episodes if
you want to understand moreabout what angels are? They are
helpers and supporters, butthey're not technically our
spirit guides, if we're gonnadown into the nitty gritty of it
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today. So not angels. They'renot our crossed over loved ones,
our deceased loved ones. A lovedone can inspire you. Can be on
your spirit team over there, butthey're not technically a spirit
guide in the most like strictsense of the term, and I just
like to clarify it, because it'sjust a different role. They had
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a relationship with us, usuallyin this lifetime. If there are
deceased loved ones and theystill support us, they still
spend time with us, it's just,it's just a different function
that they have. And you'll seewhy as we go. Because I really
hopefully help you understandhow we even get our spirit
guides. So not angels, notdeceased loved ones. Those are
just different helpers anddifferent types of support that
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we have. But these arebenevolent, non physical
helpers. You can call them lightbeings. You can think of them in
whatever way you like, butthey're a guide. I'm going to
tell you the way that I pictureit, but I want you to understand
that their role really is tosupport, to guide, to give us
nudges. It's not to control us,it's not to step in front of us
when we're making a choice thatis going to teach us a tough
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lesson, right? They allow us tohave our human experience. It's
actually part of their role. Sothis is how I picture it, and
what my guides have helped meunderstand. I'm going to paint a
little picture for you. Soimagine you as a soul in non
physical before you come intothis life experience, before
you're a baby in a womb, becausethat's ultimately how we all
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pass through this gate intophysical reality, right? So
you're a soul on the other side,and your lottery ticket has come
up, because there's a lot ofsouls that want to come into
this physical experience, andit's your turn. You put in your
lottery and it's your turn. Soas you're preparing to come into
this human experience, you'repreparing to come into human
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form as you so part of what'shappening is that you're
building, or helping toconstruct, the blueprint for
some of, not all of, I don'tbelieve, but for some of the
collective components that youwant to have in this lifetime,
some of it, which we've talkedabout in previous episodes. The
one to skip a few reincarnationepisode, I think, is where we
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talked about it. Sometimes Ithink it's contracts or
agreements that we have withother souls in this lifetime
that help us build some of thosecomponents right? Like, maybe
you agreed to a certain mom ormaybe you agreed to a certain
family unit, right? So that willhelp construct this blueprint of
the parts of your life that aredecided when you come in. Right?
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We know that some of ourphysicality is decided. We know
that, you know, some parts ofour life are decided when we get
here. I don't believe that weget to know all the things, but
I think we contribute to a lotof it. So as you're collecting
these creative components, andyou're so excited, and your time
is coming to come into thisphysical experience, this earth
school, and you're preparing,wouldn't you think that you
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would also select invite,request the guides that you
wanted to support you and tostart helping you build these
cooperative components? That'sthe way I see it. So imagine
yourself in your own like you'rethe CEO of this life experience
that you're gonna have, andyou're in this boardroom, and
imagine a big whiteboard withall the components that you're
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adding for this lifetime, andthen you start thinking, Okay,
who do I want as captain ofthese teams? Who do I want as my
life guide? Who do I want as asmy, maybe your medium Who do I
want as my mediumship guide? Whodo I want as my professional
guide, or student guide, orwhatever it is that you're going
to experience, there are somesome things that you already
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know, and you can startcultivating your team on the
other side, which is what Ibelieve that we all do as souls,
inviting those specific guides,those inspirers, to our
celestial boardroom table, andall come together, and They sit
with us in whatever version of ameeting it looks like over
there, and understand ourblueprint as a soul. Why are we
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coming into this incarnation?
What are some of the experiencethat we've signed up for? What
are some of the really the way Isee it is our intention here is
to, I learned this from AndyBing, to become. Know the the
most full expression of oursoul's potential in this
lifetime. So we would need toknow what is, what is the
fullest potential of our soul inthis lifetime, the expression of
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our soul through this humanself, right? So I think our
guides sit there with us duringthat whole process on the other
side. Time doesn't work the sameover there. So for however long
that takes for us to constructall those understandings, what
do, what do we want to grow toexpress in this lifetime? What
are the core qualities of oursoul in this lifetime? So when
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you think of it and understandit that way, your guides aren't
these strangers, you know, inthe UN, non physical right?
These strange beings that youdon't know, that you have no
idea who they are, and you'rewondering if you even have them,
or if they've showed up. Theseare beings that have been with
you since before you came intothis physical experience, who
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really have, even beyond, like acollege level PhD in you, in
your soul's blueprint for thislifetime, and sat with you that
you made requests of them andasked them to help you in
certain ways that you have soulto soul agreements with these
guides. Okay, I'm gonna get offmy soapbox about what guides
actually are and how we knowthem, and so hopefully, if you
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can a mental picture of whateverthat meeting would look like for
you. Don't you think, with theintelligence of our soul and the
intelligence of all of our soulsas as collectives and the
intelligence of the guides,don't you think that they'd be a
process? Where do you think theyjust get assigned? When? When
you think that they getassigned? And I think that they
agree as well. I don't thinkit's like an assignment that
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they don't want, right? So let'stalk about what types of spirit
guides there are next because wesaid they're not angels, they're
not loved ones, even thoughthose are also helpers. I
believe that we have primaryguides and then we have like
specialists. Let's call them. Ikind of touched on it a little
bit. So your primary guide wouldbe your life guide. I feel like
for some people, perhaps thatguide serves a double duty as
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another type of guide, and forothers, that's just what they
do. They're your life guidethat's with you, supporting you
your whole life. I do believe wealso have two guardian angels
assigned to us individually,plus all the archangels we can
work with, plus our loved onesand ancestors who support and
work on our team in a differentway. So on your spirit team, we
have the the inspires that youhave selected ahead of time. So
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your primary guard, this guide,this could also include
specialists like if you are oneof the soul, one of the soul
qualities that you are strivingto express in this lifetime is
creativity. Maybe you have aguide that just specifically
works with you, across yourlife, in your creative zone, in
the different aspects of yourlife, and how you express that,
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right? Maybe you one of thegreatest expressions of your
soul is to be a healer of somekind. And that can look like
energy healing. It can look likea doctor, a veterinarian. It can
look like someone that doestherapy or counseling. Healers
come in so many career paths,right? It's just a quality of
someone. And sometimes healersare teachers or not in a quote,
unquote, healing profession, butyou would have a healing guide
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that also is with you, helpingto breadcrumb you along that
path. Because if you think aboutit, we all have multiple paths
happening in our livessimultaneously, right? We have
whatever we're doing in thatphase of our life, whether it's
school or a job, and what'staking up the bulk of our day,
right? And then we have familyrelationships or family
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exchanges. We might havefriendship exchanges. We have
dreams and goals, right? We havethese, all these different
little threads that we'reweaving together throughout our
day. We have hobbies or specialinterests, we have emotions, we
have all these differentthreads. So we have this team of
spirit guides that we'veselected, the primary guide,
plus the supporting, thesupporting character guides, I
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guess. I believe that some ofthese guides are on our team.
Let's just call it our spiritteam. On our spirit team for our
whole life. I believe some ofthem are a little bit more short
term, a reason, a season or alifetime. You may have heard it
as so sometimes it's our wholelife, sometimes it's a season,
right? Maybe they're just thereto help you during your younger
phase, and then another guideswaps in. Or maybe it's just
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something you don't needguidance with anymore. Maybe
it's something that you leave tothe side, or a reason, a
specific reason that you'vecalled that guide in, right?
Maybe you have a special eventor a special project, and you
want a special guide for thisproject, you can call them in
for that. Maybe you had neverbeen a medium before, and you're
starting to develop yourmediumship well, then it's kind
of like your mediumship guide isnow up at that and they might be
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with you for just that reason.
And if you continue it on, theymight stay on as long as you're
doing, quote, unquote, thatreason, right? So I do believe
that we have ancestors as wellas even, even sometimes animal
spirits assigned to us and arenot assigned, is probably not
the right word, but that thatalso assist and and inspire and
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help and support us. So it's apretty big team that we have.
It's why. People might only haveone or two spirit guides, plus
you've got your ancestors, plusyou've got your loved ones as
inspirers, plus you've got andwe've talked about in the
ancestor episode as well.
There's been a couple of thosethat the ancestors are not just
ancestors that are likephysically related to you from
your family of origin, but alsoin the profession that you're
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in. So if you're a teacher, forexample, all the teachers that
ever taught are part of thatlineage of ancestry of teachers,
right? If you're a baker, sayyou know anything, so you get
the picture. So there are lotsof different kinds of guides
that we can have and reasonsthey can be there. We do have
quite a team. I want to justtouch into some of the common
signs that we can experience orhave to understand that our
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spirit guides are near or arewanting to interact with us.
Because I kind of think near andfar are relative terms to the
way we understand things here. Idon't think it works like that
on this in the spirit world, Idon't think they're that
separate from us. It's not likethere's a distance of space that
they need to travel. It's likethey're they're instantaneously
with us with just a thought or ano notice at all. So some people
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will see repeating recurringnumbers with their spirit
guides. And you can even assigna specific number to your
specific guide to know, like,oh, okay, my when my life guide
is here, they show me repeatingthrees, for example, or they
show me the number 789,whatever, whatever you would
want to pick, or whatever you'realready experiencing. Some
people have dreams of theirspirit guides. I had this within
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the last couple years in thestrangest way. I did recently
talk about it in an episode, soI won't put you guys through
that story again, but it was inthe dreams episode that was just
a couple before this one, and itjust was a really interesting,
surreal, very real experience.
So some people receive theirguides in dreams. Sometimes it's
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one dream in your whole life.
Some people will hear it as likean inner voice. Sometimes we say
a thought that's not your own.
So if you were just thinkingabout, Oh, what am I gonna make
for dinner, let me just think,what do I have in the fridge?
And then all of a sudden, fromlike out of left field, a
thought pops in.
Why don't you look in the pantrycabinet? You know what? I mean,
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something like that. So just athought that's just coming in
from out of left field, thatdoesn't feel like the same train
that you were just on. Somepeople experience it like that.
A lot of the way I feel, andsince my guides showing up are
through synchronicities, whichwe're going to talk a little bit
more about in a second here.
Some people will especiallyearlier on, when you're starting
to understand your guide. Somepeople will receive physical
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sensations. Like, I've hadpeople say, like, Oh, my head
tingles, or, Oh, my left fingerstingle or, you know, it could be
anything. I've heard lots ofdifferent people's experience of
this. So it could be a littlephysical sensation. But like I
said, that's usually, usuallyearlier on in our understanding,
and then as we get moreexperience, they kind of quiet
the physical hellos. Some peoplehave emotional shifts or just
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feel like a calm wash over them.
But let's dive a little moreinto the synchronicities, since
that's the one I have, the mostexamples of a synchronicity
would be like you were justthinking about looking into
learning a new language. This issomething I feel like, I'm think
I'm always thinking about,you're just thinking about
learning a new language, andmaybe you hadn't even talked to
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anyone about it yet. Maybe youwatched a couple YouTube videos
about it, and you were like,yeah, let me, let me think about
learning a new language anddoing a little research. So
you've kind of thought about itfor a little bit on your own,
and then maybe later that day,maybe the next day, or a couple
days later, you're out at acafe, and you're waiting, you
know, in line, and the peoplethat are also in line waiting
are talking about learning aforeign language, whether it's
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that they just wanted to learn aforeign language, or that
they're struggling learning aforeign language, just some
version of mentioning learning aforeign language. So it could be
something like that, where it'slike you already had started
thinking about it, or talkingabout it, and you hear people
talking about it, or even itcould be a reference to the
specific language that you werethinking about learning, right?
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Maybe it's, it's not a supercommon language wherever you
live, and you're thinking aboutlearning it, and then you're
somewhere and you hear someonespeaking that language, or you
hear someone saying they're fromthat region or country, even. So
it's really interesting the waythe synchronicities can line up.
It could be maybe, you know,this is super, super dorky and
personal, but I am a triple Amember, and so triple A sends
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out this, like little magazineor kind of advertisement thing
every once in a while, and theyfeature different travel
locations sometimes. So maybethen a couple days later, you
get your triple A magazine, andit's one of the language you
were thinking of as one of theyou know, places featured in
this travel magazine. So it'sthese little droplets of
synchronicities to let you know,like, keep paying more attention
here. You're on the right pathhere. Look more here. And
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sometimes we'll even findourselves saying, like, so
weird. I was just talking aboutthat, or I was just thinking
about that. So kind of watch forthose sort of things to happen.
Because really, the way I liketo think of our guides, and the
way that I feel like is is mostaccurate, or closest to
accurate, is think of them as,like, behind the scenes, helpers
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trying to line. Things up foryou, trying to breadcrumb you
along the way, to nudge you thisdirection, or just like, just a
little bit more to the left,type of a thing. I sometimes, in
my mind, think of those. Ifyou've ever had bowling, like
bowling, ball, bowling, I knowthey don't do that everywhere.
Oh, I'm gonna sneeze.
No, I'm not. I was just kidding.
So if you've ever gone bowlingwith little kids, some places
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have this ramp that you roll theball down. Some places have
these little bumpers that theyput to block the gutters. So
guides kind of serve as youknow, it's not that they're not
gonna let us go off the rails ifwe really push we can, but they
try to nudge us back into thecenter. Because why? Because
they sat with us and know oursoul's blueprint, and know our
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intentions and our highestexpression in this lifetime. So
it's why they even know what toguide us about or towards or
away from, because of theintention and blueprint of our
soul. Okay, back to back to mynotes, back to my outline. So
behind the scenes, helpers, yes,I feel like some of the ways
that my guides and I have workedin the most direct contact
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really are more with like mymediumship guide, I work with
him all the time, and my healingguides, I have two that are
probably the most interactive.
But even then, it's not like aconversation in the way that you
and I have a conversation, it'sit's just through a subtle
knowing or a sensing or so,those are the ones that I'm
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probably the most interactivewith. Even my mediumship guide,
when I do my meditation, Ialways say hello to him, and I
feel him in the same place, inmy energy field every time, and
he says a little energetic helloback, but it's not a verbal
Hello, because he doesn't have averbal voice box my healing
guides. When I go into a healingsession, sometimes I know what
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kind of healing we're doingbased on which guide shows up.
And I've just learned through myrelationship with them over the
years to recognize them based ontheir energy, just like if
you've ever I know not everyoneis animal lovers, but if you are
an animal lover, if you've everhad pets, if you were to close
your eyes, and if you have twodogs or two cats and one of them
wanders in the room, often weknow which one it is or a kid,
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even just by their energy,right? So that's how I work with
my guides, and it's really moreof an energetic communication in
the way I do it with my work,and those are the ones I'm
probably the most interactivewith. So how do you start
building a relationship withyour guides? Again, you already
have a relationship with yourspirit guides, and they already
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have been assisting you behindthe scenes. It never needs to be
anything more interactive thanthat. Just so, you know, I know,
of course, if you're here, it'sprobably because you would like
it to be a little bit moreinteractive with that than that.
But they're not offended if youdon't talk to them or if you
don't know them. They're workingon your behalf based on the
relationship you as a soul onthe other side already have with
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them. So they're working behindthe scenes at all times your
entire life, on your behalf andin your highest and greatest
interest, but that being said,so if you want to leave them in
the background, that's perfectlyfine. But some simple
techniques, like journaling,meaning like journaling about
those little nudges that you'renot sure where they came from,
or those things that you're notsure intuition, or those
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thoughts that do pop in kind ofout of left field, they're
always positive. They're never,they're never negative. I know
we've talked about this in thepast, but spirit guides are
benevolent. They're allbenevolent, so they have your
best interest at heart. And it'snot going to be, yeah, it's not
going to be scary type advice ornegative type advice. It's, it's
often, the truth is, it's oftenthe thing that we already know
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we're supposed to be doing, orwe've already, like, we've
already been kind of getting thenudge, even though we haven't
connected the two to two dots ofone to one. You know, one plus
one is two dots of like, ohyeah. This is for my spirit
guide. And they're saying, like,Yes, this is a great idea for
you. Please proceed, right? Somaking notes about like, in a
journal, about synchronicities,about little signs, about when
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those weird things happen whereyou were just thinking about the
thing, and then you see it onTV. So making, no, and I don't
mean the ads, because we allknow that devices are listening,
right? But like, like, in thetravel sense, for example,
you're just thinking about thatlanguage, and all of a sudden
tourism for Italy is the oneI've been looking at pops up. So
making some notes and doing somejournaling, and even just
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setting the intention to be moreaware, right and then
remembering to be a little bitmore aware of those
synchronicities as they'rehappening. And meditation, of
course, is where we can spendtime sitting soul to soul in the
energy with our spirit guides,which is my favorite way of
connecting with them, especiallywhen I'm getting to know them
and starting to understand whatthey're going to feel like each
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one, because they're allindividuals, so they all feel
just a little bit differently.
And remember, it's aboutspending time sitting the energy
with them, starting tounderstand how you might
recognize them, like, will theyshow up with a color, for
example, or a specific sign?
Like the numbers we were talkingabout, maybe there's an animal
that they'll show you whenthey're wanting to get your
attention. What are the areas inyour life that they help you
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with? Right? If you're a writer,are they your writing guide? If
you're a chef, are they yourcreative inspiration for chefing
Guide? What do they help youwith and how? Yeah, how can you
work together? How can you sensethem around you? I really this
is one of these things thatnobody talks about that I
mentioned at the top. The truthis, it's not as much about
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learning, like if they had a jobin their past life, or what
ethnicities they experienced inanother incarnation. If you
learn those details, or receivesome of those details about them
over time as part of yourrelationship. That's fine, but
it's not the goal, and it'sreally totally unnecessary. It's
a very human demand or need, andthat's not a healthy
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relationship making right? Soyou want to, like, just treat
them like you would any friend,and if you start to understand
different little details aboutthem over time, then, like I
said, great, but it's notdemanding or needing or seeking
that information. Most of myspirit guides, I don't know a
lot about their last lives orsome of them, I can infer some
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information based on some thingsthat I have understood about
them over time, or the way thatthey feel to me, or the way I
have, like, a mental image ofthem, a mental picture of them
in my mind. Butit's not about like, I know, I
know that's often what a lot ofthe videos I see are about. You
know, was your spirit guide, aTibetan monk in a past lifetime.
Maybe, maybe they were, andthat's a that's wonderful if
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they were, but the attachment toneed to know that, or ranking
that with some value system istotally human and not what our
spirit guides are about at all.
And quite frankly, the way thatthey've given it to me, and I've
heard other mediums that I knowarticulate this in different
ways. Sometimes those detailsare like just for us, like the
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way that we could best receivethem. So if you would have the
most respect for them as a wisemedicine teacher, right, of any
capacity, that's how they'llshow up, whatever way you could
best receive them and understandthem. Release the need for all
of that if it comes along aspart of the relationship,
wonderful. But just my strong,strong encouragement there,
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don't dig for that information.
It's not helpful, and you'llreceive it if you need it. Okay?
The other little thing in thisis how to tell if you're making
it up? I want to pause here forjust a second, because this is a
question that comes up all thetime when people are trying to
start connecting with theirguides or their loved ones or
their angels, and it's a really,really valid one and an
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important one. So how do youknow that you're not just making
it up? It's totally normal thatyou're second guessing what
you're receiving, especiallywhen it's subtle, until you
learn and start to accept it'ssubtle, this is the way they
communicate. It's it's reallycommon to second guess, and most
of us have been conditioned totrust like our logical mind over
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our intuition. So when a softinner voice or a sign or
synchronicities pop up, our leftbrain wants to come in and say,
that's just a coincidence. Oh,that's just me. Oh, that's me
wanting to believe something,right? So we have to give that
left brain, a little bit ofpermission and setting the
intention that like, No, this issomething I'm working on. It's
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okay for us to notice this andnot judge it and not categorize
it, right? But here's somethingto try on. What if it is just
you and what if it's you, plusyour guides, working through
your own intuitive channel, yourown intuitive instrument, right?
Your physical body. Spiritguides often communicate by
blending the energy of theirsoul, their energy with the
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energy of us as a soul. So theymight drop into our thoughts.
They might we might have like amental picture, a mental image
of something. It might be anidea or an inspiration. It might
be feelings, like emotions thatfeel kind of like your own, they
will use our internal languageand the subtle intuitive sense
and kind of intertwine with thefaculty of our imagination
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sometimes. So just know thatthat is part of how it works.
All of the subtle psychic senseswork. We've said this before so
many times, work intertwinedwith that faculty of the
imagination. So it's naturalthat it feels a little bit like
you're imagining it at first,until you get used to it. So
yes, it can totally feel likeyou're making it up at first.
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The key is to noticing what'sdifferent. Does the thought feel
loving but unexpected? Is themessage clear and kind did it
drop in quickly? Some peoplelike the word download in here,
where it's like a chunk ofinformation all at once that we
just understand something. Andsometimes we have to process
and, like unfold the I hate theword download. You guys, I don't
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know why. I feel like maybe it'sthe way I have heard it used a
lot. I just don't love it. Butsometimes it will just drop it.
And kind of just like that, andall of a sudden you have an
understanding about something,or, you know, like, oh, yeah, I
know what I'm supposed to do.
But then sometimes our brainwants to come in and start
analyzing it, right? So theseare all signs that might come
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from spirit, and my advice istrust. First make a note of it
and then test it as you go,right? It's not an all or
nothing. Write it down, sit withit, see how it plays out, see
what happens, see what comes tolight in the next couple days.
Trust is like a muscle, and themore that we work with it, the
clearer the communicationbecomes, because we're paying
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attention for how thecommunication comes and what it
actually is. So here are somedo's and don'ts to help you
start working on therelationship with your spirit
guides. If you choose, okay,do's first, right? Let's start
with the positive. Start withthe do's. What do we do in the
do's column? Do stay open andcurious. I would say approach
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this like you're getting to knowsomeone new. You're building
trust over time. You're not likegoing through an instruction
manual and ticking off the boxesof how this works, right? This
is a relationship. So stay open,stay curious, stay available. Do
be consistent. It's helpful tocheck in with the guides
regularly, sit with themregularly, just so you start to
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understand what that energeticexchange feels like, what each
of their unique energy feelslike, even if it's only one of
them, which is usually how Isuggest starting to work with
just one first, even if it's afew minutes a day to just kind
of sit quietly, connect withthem, maybe do a little bit of
journaling. Maybe you have aspecial journal for the guide
you're working with. Or justeven energetically saying hello
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starts to build that energeticrelationship in a more
intentional way. Because, like Isaid, you already have a
relationship with them. Do payattention to the subtlety.
Again, spirit guides speaksoftly, very subtly. It's not
like a disembodied voice talkingto you, or like I remember those
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mystery movies when I was a kidwhere, like, the pen would just
pick itself up and start writingthe answer to the mystery. It's
not that. So we just payattention to those subtle
intuitions, nudges, subtleimagery, subtle dreams, those
gut feelings, or kind offeelings about things that don't
don't match right.
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Sometimes it's like thosesynchronicities we were talking
about. The communication oftenfeels like a whisper, not a
shout, and it often isbreadcrumbs, or sometimes I'll
see them like a string of pearlsstringing along. And often it is
the thing that we kind of deepinside know is the right answer
or is the best choice for us,right? Even if we don't like the
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answer, do use tools, if ithelps. Things like journaling.
Oracle cards are great. Therewas a time where I had a couple
different Oracle card decks, andI had them assigned to different
guides once I built arelationship with them so they I
could kind of have a differentstyle of communication. You can
invite them into your dreams andthen do some journaling to help
you remember you could dointuitive drawing if you're a
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little bit more on the artisticside, that can help you kind of
understand some symbols aboutthem, or some things about them,
and start building therelationship with them that way.
So there are lots of ways to usetools to help you, but I also
want to encourage you to toanother do. Do trust the feel of
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it. If the message feels lovingand gentle, wise, expansive,
feels it might feel a little outof your comfort zone, right?
Sometimes the good, good nextstep, or the the greatest thing
for us is outside of our comfortzone. So it might feel a little
outside your comfort zone, butdoes it feel like it's expansive
for you? Does it feel like it'sgrowth in a positive way for
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you? It's probably from yourguide. If it feels fearful or
anxious, harsh, mean, that'sprobably your ego or your fear
chiming in. So that's really thedistinction. And the last do is,
do treat this like arelationship instead of a
transaction. Think of the waythat we build relationships with
people we don't demand. We'renot immediately like
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disappointed if we're notunderstanding them. This is for
the long haul over time. If youwant to have a relationship with
the guides, it's not I alwayssay none of this stuff is a
light switch. It's more aboutrelationship. Okay, let's go
through some don'ts reallyquick, just so I can give these
two as well. Don't force it oroverthink it. This is just not
helpful. And the more we forceor overthink, the more that left
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brain wants to come in and tellus that we're wrong, sometimes
trying too hard to, quote,unquote, get something or get it
right. It creates resistance.
Spirit guidance flows, and itflows more easily when we can
relax into it. So if you feellike you're forcing it or
overthinking it, maybe take abreak and try again later.
Right? Don't expect it to be abooming voice or like a movie
level moment. This happens oncein a blue moon, and sometimes
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once in a lifetime, andsometimes not at all. So don't
look for it that way. Mostpeople never hear their guides
in a full sentence like. Aconversation. Instead, you might
get an impression, a feeling, aquiet knowing that's more the
way the communication is. So nobooming voices. Don't assume
that you're doing it wrong. Justbecause it's quiet or very
subtle, silence doesn't meanabsence. Just because you feel
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like they're awfully quietdoesn't mean that they're not
there. You have an agreementwith them, a contract with them,
so they are there all of thetime in assistance to you. What
else do I want to say here?
Sometimes your guides are arewaiting for your energy to
settle down. Sometimes they'rewaiting for a better time to
move you in a direction.
Sometimes you've made somechoices that have moved you in
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one direction, and they need toallow some things to occur, some
choices, some time to then helpyou move back in a direction
that is in alignment with yourgreatest good, right? They're
not attached to time in the waythat we are. We tend to be our
human nature, especially incapitalist societies, because we
trade time for money or time fornecessities. We tend to think
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like, I gotta get this donefast. I gotta get there. We're
always on a race to a deadline,right, or to, like, an end
point. They're not so attachedto like, you know, if you
express this quality from yoursoul when you're seven or when
you're 77 they're not soattached to that. So, yeah,
don't assume you're doing itwrong because it's quiet, don't
compare your experiences toothers, especially because the
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language of it doesn't quitefit. So you could be having a
very similar experience tosomeone, but the way that they
express it in the language justmight not resonate as the same
experience for you. So for manyreasons, don't compare your
experience to others. Somepeople feel their guides. Some
people see or have mentalpictures. Some people have a
knowing, some dream, yourconnection is totally unique to
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you, and sometimes it's uniquewith those individual guides.
And when they show up in theways in which they work with
you, because they have differentroles, don't ask for every
answer or try to outsource yourintuition, right? That's not
their job. That's not whatthey're there for. Your guides
won't do the work for you.
They're here to support you, tosupport your soul's path.
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They're more in support of yoursoul than your human desires.
I'll tell it to you that way. Sothey're really working on behalf
of you as a soul. They're nothere to hand you an escape from
growth or, like an easy wayaround, a shortcut, so to speak,
it just doesn't work that way.
They don't have interest in thatbecause you're you're truly not
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having the full human experiencewhen you're bypassing the
emotions and the humanexperience itself, right? So
that's just not what they do.
You can sit with them forguidance or support around a
choice that you're making orsomething that's coming up for
you, but don't expect them tosay you, quote, unquote, should
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do this. They don't give shouldslike that, but they will gently
nudge us, and like I said,sometimes deep inside, we know
the best choice and we don'tlike the answer. I've been
guilty of this, or just in theexperience of this, so many
times in my life, where, in myheart of hearts, I know this is
not the healthiest thing for me,but I just want to pursue this
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relationship, this opportunity,this whatever it is, so they
won't step in front of us whenwe're doing that. They will
support us and love us throughit no matter what. So don't try
to outsource your intuition orask for every answer. You're not
gonna get it, and then you'regonna think they're not there,
but they are okay. So whathappens as this connection
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deepens? Say you're sitting withthem, you've been journaling,
noticing the synchronicities.
Well, the communication evolvesover time, and you'll just start
noticing them a little morequickly in your own awareness.
Sometimes, with certain guides,I can tell when they're even in
my physical space, I'll knowthat they're that they've shown
up with my healing guides.
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Often, it's when I'm in thehealing session that I become
aware of them, because I'm inthat space, and then they show
up, and we work together thatway, so we have a much deeper
working relationship, and it'salmost a telepathic
communication when they'regiving me, like additional to
do's or instructions in ahealing session, for example. So
that works a little differently.
It depends why you're workingwith them. If you're working
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with them for writing or acreative project of any kind,
maybe you just can more quicklyget into that zone where you
invite them in beside you, youfeel them with you, and then you
start creating, and you can justaccept the vibe of that co
creation energy, right? So allof the connection can deepen and
can expand. It doesn'tnecessarily get louder, though
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we get more sensitive to it. Isthe way I understand it. We can
also learn to trust our guidesand the guidance a little bit
more after years of practice andexperience. Sometimes now I'm to
the point where if I receivelike a guidance, a nudge, and I
know there's a certain feelingof it that I can recognize it, I
won't even question it. I'lljust go back and get whatever
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the thing was from sometimes.
It's like, I'm leaving. If thisjust happened the other day, I
think that's what I'm thinkingof it I'm leaving. And all of a
sudden, from out of left fieldinto my mind, pops the thought,
like, I need to bring a snack.
And of course, my left brainright away is like, you don't
need to bring a snack. You'regoing to be gone for an hour,
and it's not the time of daywhen you like to eat, so you
don't need a snack. And I'velearned, like I said over the
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years, that I'm just like, Youknow what? What's it gonna hurt?
I'm gonna grab that littlesnack. So I did, and then I
left, and I needed the snack. Somy point is, you just start to
learn to trust the guidance alittle bit more, and sometimes
it's not as important for me.
Oh, is it a guide telling me? Isit my intuition? Is my angels?
Is it my aunt? You know what? Imean? I'm just like, I'll just
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get the snack and keep it movingright. So sometimes we're less
attached to the nitty gritty,and we can receive more of the
guidance because of it.
Consistency really matters morethan intensity, just like any
relationship building, if we canbe consistent, if we can
remember to say hello, if we canremember to note or be available
for synchronicities when they'rehappening. Our lives are so busy
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it can just be easy to forget.
Unless it's like really quicksuccession, where within a
couple days, you're hearing thesame thing multiple places. It
can be easy to forget what wewere thinking about, or forget
that we saw that sign by the endof the week. I mean, we can't
even usually remember what wewore on Monday by Saturday,
right? So making notes and beingconsistent really does help this
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connection deepen and bloom in adifferent way over time. Some of
the common questions andmisconceptions are people asking
things like, what if I don'thave spirit guides? I think we
talked about in the firstsegment. Hopefully you can
understand why I believe we allhave spirit guides, and why,
even if you've never worked withthem
or don't want to acknowledgethem in any sort of conscious,
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conscious or intentional way,you have spirit guides? Why
don't I hear them clearly? Well,because they don't talk like
that. They don't it's not likegenie in the movie Aladdin
that's gonna, you know, do alittle song and dance and grant
all our wishes. Doesn't worklike that. We have to pay
attention for the way that theydo communicate, right? Can
guides leave or change? Yes, Iknow people don't like that
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answer, but I mean, I've knownyou guys know that I'm a
channel, so I channel acollective of guides called the
violet flame. I've known otherchannels that over many years of
channeling one guide. That guidelets them know, hey, our
channeling work is done, andyour next channeling guide is
gonna be stepping in. So that issometimes how it works. It's
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based on the need of our souland not the need or desire of
our human personality, is theway I wanna say it. So, like I
said, sometimes a guide is for areason or a season, even so
perhaps your season is done, orperhaps your reason that they
were there assisting you. Maybeyou were going through something
medical or something emotional,and you needed a certain extra
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healing. Maybe they were onlywith you for that chapter of
healing in your life, and thenthey might go and you might not
need them anymore. So yes, theycan leave and they can change
depending on our needs, right?
And maybe, you know, I believethere are lots of expressions of
our soul in every lifetime. Somaybe your soul is expressing in
one direction, and then as youadd in more expressions, maybe
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you need additional guides, orthey swap out. Maybe that guide
can handle this new career path,right? So it just depends
totally on you and on what yoursoul needs for the agreed upon
blueprint from the beginning. SoI'm going to give you my final
thoughts and a little takeaway.
I want to give you a little justa little bit of heartfelt
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guidance. I guess your spiritguides already know you, and
your soul already knows them. Sobuilding the relationship is
about you remembering them. Andthe truth is, most people who
listen to this podcast and whowork with me are also working on
remembering the truth ofthemselves as a soul. I know I'm
still always working on it dayto day, because we live in our
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humanness, but we all are asoul, having a human experience,
having a human expression. Sojust know that your guides know
you as a soul, and you knowthem. Your soul knows them. So
it's really about youremembering this relationship
you already have with them. Butdon't expect them to appear like
the genie in the lamp. You haveto make your own choices. You
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have to live this lifeexperience as player one. You
are in charge. You're chief inthis body in this lifetime, so
you have seniority. They arejust the supporting crew behind
the scenes, something to work onright away, if you want, ask
yourself and consider what's onepiece of intuitive guidance I
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dismissed recently or latelybecause I thought I was just
imagining it. Focus on learningto trust yourself, learning to
trust that your guides arepresent and that you can
continue to build your ownrelationship with them slowly
and over time. After all, isn'tthat how the best friendships
grow and blossom? I certainlythink so. So I hope you've
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learned a little bit aboutspirit guides today, what they
are, why you definitely havethem, and you already are
communicating with them, soul tosoul, even if you don't know it
in your conscious mind. Let meknow how it's going with you and
your experience of your spiritguides, if you choose to start
interacting with them in alittle bit more of an
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intentional way, I hope thatthis has dispelled some myths
and that you've understood sometruths that really nobody else
is talking about. So thanks forbeing here with me today. If
this podcast means something toyou, it would mean so much to
me, if you would like andsubscribe wherever you are
listening or watching this, ithelps me, because you'll never
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miss an episode, and it helpsyou because you'll never miss an
episode. So as always, Iappreciate you. Soul to soul.
Big hugs. Lots of love. Bye fornow. From inside spirit
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speakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul,welcome back, or welcome in for
another episode of spiritspeakeasy. Today, we're
exploring the concept of spiritguides their purpose, plus I'm
offering some practical stepsfor you to recognize and start
cultivating a relationship withyour own guides for support and
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guidance. Right away, I'm gonnashare some of the truths that no
one talks about whenever I'mlooking up videos about spirit
guides to see what other peopleare teaching, I'm seeing some of
these sneaky truths that no oneis talking about. So let's dive
right in and really unfold thistopic of spirit guides. I'm
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going to give you some do's anddon'ts. We're going to talk
about how to connect and why theway that you might have already
been trying to connect might notbe working. And plus, I'm going
to really just unfold a littlebit with you what spirit guides
actually are and how to know,one, if you're making it up and
two, this deeper understandingof why you actually are always
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connected, and hopefully, by thetime we're done, you will feel
and understand the same thing.
So let's get started. I waswondering for some of you, have
you ever felt a sudden nudge, awhisper of guidance or an
unexplained sense of calm duringa really difficult moment. What
if that was your spirit guidetrying to reach you? Let's start
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off with an honest truth. One ofthe biggest reasons people feel
disconnected from their spiritguides is because they're
unknowingly waiting for anexperience that looks more like
the movies than a real spiritualconnection. Sometimes people are
expecting, like an all powerful,booming voice, type of a guide
who shows up like dramatically,hopefully in a puff of smoke,
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right with all the answers andsteers them away from every
challenge and has like, full onconversations like Yoda like a
wise old sage in like a fantasymovie, right? But here's the
thing, our spirit guides don'toverride our free will. They
don't usually hand us step bystep instructions in this way,
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and they're not here to keep usfrom discomfort. I know that's a
hard truth, but in fact,sometimes the role of our spirit
guide is to guide us throughthose uncomfortable moments so
that we can develop, strengthenand grow more into the full
potential of ourselves, right? Iknow lots of you are parents or
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mentors to younger people. Allof us were younger people.
Certainly think about the timeswhen we had to learn something
ourself or really struggle, evenif we had mentorship or teachers
or family around us, thedifference in having someone do
it for us versus support usthrough it, right? So kind of
keep that in perspective,because understanding how spirit
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guides actually communicate andwhat their role really is, makes
all the difference in yourability to understand that you
can do this, because when westop trying to force the
connection to look a certainway, we really open ourselves up
to subtle, consistent andpowerful ways that our spirit
guides are already supporting usevery single day. And what I
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know for sure is that when youtreat this like a relationship
instead of a transaction, youopen the door to something truly
meaningful and deeplysupportive. There was a time
when I really didn't, I don'tknow if I didn't believe in
spirit guides. I don't Iwouldn't say that because I had
some strange experiences when Iwas pretty young, but I didn't
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know that I that they couldcommunicate with me, or how they
communicated, like I was sayingearlier. I was one of those
people that thought, oh, it'sgot to be like a voice from the
sky, or like a little, do youguys remember that show Casper,
the Friendly Ghost, like alittle friendly ghost that
appears beside you, or a Smurfof some kind, right? I was
looking for that, and I wasreally confused, personally. So
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it's why, now that I have thisdifferent perspective, this
different understanding, Ireally want to help unfold this,
just to dispel some myths. Andit's really a beautiful
experience to build arelationship with your spirit
guides, and I don't want you tomiss out on it. So let's break
this down. What exactly. Exactlyour spirit guides. How can we
recognize when they really arethere, and how can we recognize
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this connection with them whenit shows up? So first, let's
start by just having anunderstanding of what spirit
guides are. I like to definespirit guides as benevolent, non
physical helpers that assist usthrough our lifetime. So part of
I think, what the confusion canbe for me, and the way I
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understand it, and the way Iseparate it in my mind, is
Spirit guides are not angels.
That is a different type ofbeing. And you know, we talk
about angels here a lot, so diveinto those Archangel episodes if
you want to understand moreabout what angels are? They are
helpers and supporters, butthey're not technically our
spirit guides, if we're gonnadown into the nitty gritty of it
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today. So not angels. They'renot our crossed over loved ones,
our deceased loved ones. A lovedone can inspire you. Can be on
your spirit team over there, butthey're not technically a spirit
guide in the most like strictsense of the term, and I just
like to clarify it, because it'sjust a different role. They had
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a relationship with us, usuallyin this lifetime. If there are
deceased loved ones and theystill support us, they still
spend time with us, it's just,it's just a different function
that they have. And you'll seewhy as we go. Because I really
hopefully help you understandhow we even get our spirit
guides. So not angels, notdeceased loved ones. Those are
just different helpers anddifferent types of support that
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we have. But these arebenevolent, non physical
helpers. You can call them lightbeings. You can think of them in
whatever way you like, butthey're a guide. I'm going to
tell you the way that I pictureit, but I want you to understand
that their role really is tosupport, to guide, to give us
nudges. It's not to control us,it's not to step in front of us
when we're making a choice thatis going to teach us a tough
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lesson, right? They allow us tohave our human experience. It's
actually part of their role. Sothis is how I picture it, and
what my guides have helped meunderstand. I'm going to paint a
little picture for you. Soimagine you as a soul in non
physical before you come intothis life experience, before
you're a baby in a womb, becausethat's ultimately how we all
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pass through this gate intophysical reality, right? So
you're a soul on the other side,and your lottery ticket has come
up, because there's a lot ofsouls that want to come into
this physical experience, andit's your turn. You put in your
lottery and it's your turn. Soas you're preparing to come into
this human experience, you'repreparing to come into human
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form as you so part of what'shappening is that you're
building, or helping toconstruct, the blueprint for
some of, not all of, I don'tbelieve, but for some of the
collective components that youwant to have in this lifetime,
some of it, which we've talkedabout in previous episodes. The
one to skip a few reincarnationepisode, I think, is where we
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talked about it. Sometimes Ithink it's contracts or
agreements that we have withother souls in this lifetime
that help us build some of thosecomponents right? Like, maybe
you agreed to a certain mom ormaybe you agreed to a certain
family unit, right? So that willhelp construct this blueprint of
the parts of your life that aredecided when you come in. Right?
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We know that some of ourphysicality is decided. We know
that, you know, some parts ofour life are decided when we get
here. I don't believe that weget to know all the things, but
I think we contribute to a lotof it. So as you're collecting
these creative components, andyou're so excited, and your time
is coming to come into thisphysical experience, this earth
school, and you're preparing,wouldn't you think that you
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would also select invite,request the guides that you
wanted to support you and tostart helping you build these
cooperative components? That'sthe way I see it. So imagine
yourself in your own like you'rethe CEO of this life experience
that you're gonna have, andyou're in this boardroom, and
imagine a big whiteboard withall the components that you're
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adding for this lifetime, andthen you start thinking, Okay,
who do I want as captain ofthese teams? Who do I want as my
life guide? Who do I want as asmy, maybe your medium Who do I
want as my mediumship guide? Whodo I want as my professional
guide, or student guide, orwhatever it is that you're going
to experience, there are somesome things that you already
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know, and you can startcultivating your team on the
other side, which is what Ibelieve that we all do as souls,
inviting those specific guides,those inspirers, to our
celestial boardroom table, andall come together, and They sit
with us in whatever version of ameeting it looks like over
there, and understand ourblueprint as a soul. Why are we
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coming into this incarnation?
What are some of the experiencethat we've signed up for? What
are some of the really the way Isee it is our intention here is
to, I learned this from AndyBing, to become. Know the the
most full expression of oursoul's potential in this
lifetime. So we would need toknow what is, what is the
fullest potential of our soul inthis lifetime, the expression of
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our soul through this humanself, right? So I think our
guides sit there with us duringthat whole process on the other
side. Time doesn't work the sameover there. So for however long
that takes for us to constructall those understandings, what
do, what do we want to grow toexpress in this lifetime? What
are the core qualities of oursoul in this lifetime? So when
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you think of it and understandit that way, your guides aren't
these strangers, you know, inthe UN, non physical right?
These strange beings that youdon't know, that you have no
idea who they are, and you'rewondering if you even have them,
or if they've showed up. Theseare beings that have been with
you since before you came intothis physical experience, who
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really have, even beyond, like acollege level PhD in you, in
your soul's blueprint for thislifetime, and sat with you that
you made requests of them andasked them to help you in
certain ways that you have soulto soul agreements with these
guides. Okay, I'm gonna get offmy soapbox about what guides
actually are and how we knowthem, and so hopefully, if you
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can a mental picture of whateverthat meeting would look like for
you. Don't you think, with theintelligence of our soul and the
intelligence of all of our soulsas as collectives and the
intelligence of the guides,don't you think that they'd be a
process? Where do you think theyjust get assigned? When? When
you think that they getassigned? And I think that they
agree as well. I don't thinkit's like an assignment that
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they don't want, right? So let'stalk about what types of spirit
guides there are next because wesaid they're not angels, they're
not loved ones, even thoughthose are also helpers. I
believe that we have primaryguides and then we have like
specialists. Let's call them. Ikind of touched on it a little
bit. So your primary guide wouldbe your life guide. I feel like
for some people, perhaps thatguide serves a double duty as
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another type of guide, and forothers, that's just what they
do. They're your life guidethat's with you, supporting you
your whole life. I do believe wealso have two guardian angels
assigned to us individually,plus all the archangels we can
work with, plus our loved onesand ancestors who support and
work on our team in a differentway. So on your spirit team, we
have the the inspires that youhave selected ahead of time. So
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your primary guard, this guide,this could also include
specialists like if you are oneof the soul, one of the soul
qualities that you are strivingto express in this lifetime is
creativity. Maybe you have aguide that just specifically
works with you, across yourlife, in your creative zone, in
the different aspects of yourlife, and how you express that,
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right? Maybe you one of thegreatest expressions of your
soul is to be a healer of somekind. And that can look like
energy healing. It can look likea doctor, a veterinarian. It can
look like someone that doestherapy or counseling. Healers
come in so many career paths,right? It's just a quality of
someone. And sometimes healersare teachers or not in a quote,
unquote, healing profession, butyou would have a healing guide
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that also is with you, helpingto breadcrumb you along that
path. Because if you think aboutit, we all have multiple paths
happening in our livessimultaneously, right? We have
whatever we're doing in thatphase of our life, whether it's
school or a job, and what'staking up the bulk of our day,
right? And then we have familyrelationships or family
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exchanges. We might havefriendship exchanges. We have
dreams and goals, right? We havethese, all these different
little threads that we'reweaving together throughout our
day. We have hobbies or specialinterests, we have emotions, we
have all these differentthreads. So we have this team of
spirit guides that we'veselected, the primary guide,
plus the supporting, thesupporting character guides, I
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guess. I believe that some ofthese guides are on our team.
Let's just call it our spiritteam. On our spirit team for our
whole life. I believe some ofthem are a little bit more short
term, a reason, a season or alifetime. You may have heard it
as so sometimes it's our wholelife, sometimes it's a season,
right? Maybe they're just thereto help you during your younger
phase, and then another guideswaps in. Or maybe it's just
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something you don't needguidance with anymore. Maybe
it's something that you leave tothe side, or a reason, a
specific reason that you'vecalled that guide in, right?
Maybe you have a special eventor a special project, and you
want a special guide for thisproject, you can call them in
for that. Maybe you had neverbeen a medium before, and you're
starting to develop yourmediumship well, then it's kind
of like your mediumship guide isnow up at that and they might be
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with you for just that reason.
And if you continue it on, theymight stay on as long as you're
doing, quote, unquote, thatreason, right? So I do believe
that we have ancestors as wellas even, even sometimes animal
spirits assigned to us and arenot assigned, is probably not
the right word, but that thatalso assist and and inspire and
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help and support us. So it's apretty big team that we have.
It's why. People might only haveone or two spirit guides, plus
you've got your ancestors, plusyou've got your loved ones as
inspirers, plus you've got andwe've talked about in the
ancestor episode as well.
There's been a couple of thosethat the ancestors are not just
ancestors that are likephysically related to you from
your family of origin, but alsoin the profession that you're
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in. So if you're a teacher, forexample, all the teachers that
ever taught are part of thatlineage of ancestry of teachers,
right? If you're a baker, sayyou know anything, so you get
the picture. So there are lotsof different kinds of guides
that we can have and reasonsthey can be there. We do have
quite a team. I want to justtouch into some of the common
signs that we can experience orhave to understand that our
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spirit guides are near or arewanting to interact with us.
Because I kind of think near andfar are relative terms to the
way we understand things here. Idon't think it works like that
on this in the spirit world, Idon't think they're that
separate from us. It's not likethere's a distance of space that
they need to travel. It's likethey're they're instantaneously
with us with just a thought or ano notice at all. So some people
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will see repeating recurringnumbers with their spirit
guides. And you can even assigna specific number to your
specific guide to know, like,oh, okay, my when my life guide
is here, they show me repeatingthrees, for example, or they
show me the number 789,whatever, whatever you would
want to pick, or whatever you'realready experiencing. Some
people have dreams of theirspirit guides. I had this within
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the last couple years in thestrangest way. I did recently
talk about it in an episode, soI won't put you guys through
that story again, but it was inthe dreams episode that was just
a couple before this one, and itjust was a really interesting,
surreal, very real experience.
So some people receive theirguides in dreams. Sometimes it's
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one dream in your whole life.
Some people will hear it as likean inner voice. Sometimes we say
a thought that's not your own.
So if you were just thinkingabout, Oh, what am I gonna make
for dinner, let me just think,what do I have in the fridge?
And then all of a sudden, fromlike out of left field, a
thought pops in.
Why don't you look in the pantrycabinet? You know what? I mean,
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something like that. So just athought that's just coming in
from out of left field, thatdoesn't feel like the same train
that you were just on. Somepeople experience it like that.
A lot of the way I feel, andsince my guides showing up are
through synchronicities, whichwe're going to talk a little bit
more about in a second here.
Some people will especiallyearlier on, when you're starting
to understand your guide. Somepeople will receive physical
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sensations. Like, I've hadpeople say, like, Oh, my head
tingles, or, Oh, my left fingerstingle or, you know, it could be
anything. I've heard lots ofdifferent people's experience of
this. So it could be a littlephysical sensation. But like I
said, that's usually, usuallyearlier on in our understanding,
and then as we get moreexperience, they kind of quiet
the physical hellos. Some peoplehave emotional shifts or just
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feel like a calm wash over them.
But let's dive a little moreinto the synchronicities, since
that's the one I have, the mostexamples of a synchronicity
would be like you were justthinking about looking into
learning a new language. This issomething I feel like, I'm think
I'm always thinking about,you're just thinking about
learning a new language, andmaybe you hadn't even talked to
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anyone about it yet. Maybe youwatched a couple YouTube videos
about it, and you were like,yeah, let me, let me think about
learning a new language anddoing a little research. So
you've kind of thought about itfor a little bit on your own,
and then maybe later that day,maybe the next day, or a couple
days later, you're out at acafe, and you're waiting, you
know, in line, and the peoplethat are also in line waiting
are talking about learning aforeign language, whether it's
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that they just wanted to learn aforeign language, or that
they're struggling learning aforeign language, just some
version of mentioning learning aforeign language. So it could be
something like that, where it'slike you already had started
thinking about it, or talkingabout it, and you hear people
talking about it, or even itcould be a reference to the
specific language that you werethinking about learning, right?
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Maybe it's, it's not a supercommon language wherever you
live, and you're thinking aboutlearning it, and then you're
somewhere and you hear someonespeaking that language, or you
hear someone saying they're fromthat region or country, even. So
it's really interesting the waythe synchronicities can line up.
It could be maybe, you know,this is super, super dorky and
personal, but I am a triple Amember, and so triple A sends
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out this, like little magazineor kind of advertisement thing
every once in a while, and theyfeature different travel
locations sometimes. So maybethen a couple days later, you
get your triple A magazine, andit's one of the language you
were thinking of as one of theyou know, places featured in
this travel magazine. So it'sthese little droplets of
synchronicities to let you know,like, keep paying more attention
here. You're on the right pathhere. Look more here. And
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sometimes we'll even findourselves saying, like, so
weird. I was just talking aboutthat, or I was just thinking
about that. So kind of watch forthose sort of things to happen.
Because really, the way I liketo think of our guides, and the
way that I feel like is is mostaccurate, or closest to
accurate, is think of them as,like, behind the scenes, helpers
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trying to line. Things up foryou, trying to breadcrumb you
along the way, to nudge you thisdirection, or just like, just a
little bit more to the left,type of a thing. I sometimes, in
my mind, think of those. Ifyou've ever had bowling, like
bowling, ball, bowling, I knowthey don't do that everywhere.
Oh, I'm gonna sneeze.
No, I'm not. I was just kidding.
So if you've ever gone bowlingwith little kids, some places
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have this ramp that you roll theball down. Some places have
these little bumpers that theyput to block the gutters. So
guides kind of serve as youknow, it's not that they're not
gonna let us go off the rails ifwe really push we can, but they
try to nudge us back into thecenter. Because why? Because
they sat with us and know oursoul's blueprint, and know our
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intentions and our highestexpression in this lifetime. So
it's why they even know what toguide us about or towards or
away from, because of theintention and blueprint of our
soul. Okay, back to back to mynotes, back to my outline. So
behind the scenes, helpers, yes,I feel like some of the ways
that my guides and I have workedin the most direct contact
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really are more with like mymediumship guide, I work with
him all the time, and my healingguides, I have two that are
probably the most interactive.
But even then, it's not like aconversation in the way that you
and I have a conversation, it'sit's just through a subtle
knowing or a sensing or so,those are the ones that I'm
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probably the most interactivewith. Even my mediumship guide,
when I do my meditation, Ialways say hello to him, and I
feel him in the same place, inmy energy field every time, and
he says a little energetic helloback, but it's not a verbal
Hello, because he doesn't have averbal voice box my healing
guides. When I go into a healingsession, sometimes I know what
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kind of healing we're doingbased on which guide shows up.
And I've just learned through myrelationship with them over the
years to recognize them based ontheir energy, just like if
you've ever I know not everyoneis animal lovers, but if you are
an animal lover, if you've everhad pets, if you were to close
your eyes, and if you have twodogs or two cats and one of them
wanders in the room, often weknow which one it is or a kid,
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even just by their energy,right? So that's how I work with
my guides, and it's really moreof an energetic communication in
the way I do it with my work,and those are the ones I'm
probably the most interactivewith. So how do you start
building a relationship withyour guides? Again, you already
have a relationship with yourspirit guides, and they already
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have been assisting you behindthe scenes. It never needs to be
anything more interactive thanthat. Just so, you know, I know,
of course, if you're here, it'sprobably because you would like
it to be a little bit moreinteractive with that than that.
But they're not offended if youdon't talk to them or if you
don't know them. They're workingon your behalf based on the
relationship you as a soul onthe other side already have with
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them. So they're working behindthe scenes at all times your
entire life, on your behalf andin your highest and greatest
interest, but that being said,so if you want to leave them in
the background, that's perfectlyfine. But some simple
techniques, like journaling,meaning like journaling about
those little nudges that you'renot sure where they came from,
or those things that you're notsure intuition, or those
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thoughts that do pop in kind ofout of left field, they're
always positive. They're never,they're never negative. I know
we've talked about this in thepast, but spirit guides are
benevolent. They're allbenevolent, so they have your
best interest at heart. And it'snot going to be, yeah, it's not
going to be scary type advice ornegative type advice. It's, it's
often, the truth is, it's oftenthe thing that we already know
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we're supposed to be doing, orwe've already, like, we've
already been kind of getting thenudge, even though we haven't
connected the two to two dots ofone to one. You know, one plus
one is two dots of like, ohyeah. This is for my spirit
guide. And they're saying, like,Yes, this is a great idea for
you. Please proceed, right? Somaking notes about like, in a
journal, about synchronicities,about little signs, about when
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those weird things happen whereyou were just thinking about the
thing, and then you see it onTV. So making, no, and I don't
mean the ads, because we allknow that devices are listening,
right? But like, like, in thetravel sense, for example,
you're just thinking about thatlanguage, and all of a sudden
tourism for Italy is the oneI've been looking at pops up. So
making some notes and doing somejournaling, and even just
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setting the intention to be moreaware, right and then
remembering to be a little bitmore aware of those
synchronicities as they'rehappening. And meditation, of
course, is where we can spendtime sitting soul to soul in the
energy with our spirit guides,which is my favorite way of
connecting with them, especiallywhen I'm getting to know them
and starting to understand whatthey're going to feel like each
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one, because they're allindividuals, so they all feel
just a little bit differently.
And remember, it's aboutspending time sitting the energy
with them, starting tounderstand how you might
recognize them, like, will theyshow up with a color, for
example, or a specific sign?
Like the numbers we were talkingabout, maybe there's an animal
that they'll show you whenthey're wanting to get your
attention. What are the areas inyour life that they help you
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with? Right? If you're a writer,are they your writing guide? If
you're a chef, are they yourcreative inspiration for chefing
Guide? What do they help youwith and how? Yeah, how can you
work together? How can you sensethem around you? I really this
is one of these things thatnobody talks about that I
mentioned at the top. The truthis, it's not as much about
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learning, like if they had a jobin their past life, or what
ethnicities they experienced inanother incarnation. If you
learn those details, or receivesome of those details about them
over time as part of yourrelationship. That's fine, but
it's not the goal, and it'sreally totally unnecessary. It's
a very human demand or need, andthat's not a healthy
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relationship making right? Soyou want to, like, just treat
them like you would any friend,and if you start to understand
different little details aboutthem over time, then, like I
said, great, but it's notdemanding or needing or seeking
that information. Most of myspirit guides, I don't know a
lot about their last lives orsome of them, I can infer some
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information based on some thingsthat I have understood about
them over time, or the way thatthey feel to me, or the way I
have, like, a mental image ofthem, a mental picture of them
in my mind. Butit's not about like, I know, I
know that's often what a lot ofthe videos I see are about. You
know, was your spirit guide, aTibetan monk in a past lifetime.
Maybe, maybe they were, andthat's a that's wonderful if
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they were, but the attachment toneed to know that, or ranking
that with some value system istotally human and not what our
spirit guides are about at all.
And quite frankly, the way thatthey've given it to me, and I've
heard other mediums that I knowarticulate this in different
ways. Sometimes those detailsare like just for us, like the
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way that we could best receivethem. So if you would have the
most respect for them as a wisemedicine teacher, right, of any
capacity, that's how they'llshow up, whatever way you could
best receive them and understandthem. Release the need for all
of that if it comes along aspart of the relationship,
wonderful. But just my strong,strong encouragement there,
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don't dig for that information.
It's not helpful, and you'llreceive it if you need it. Okay?
The other little thing in thisis how to tell if you're making
it up? I want to pause here forjust a second, because this is a
question that comes up all thetime when people are trying to
start connecting with theirguides or their loved ones or
their angels, and it's a really,really valid one and an
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important one. So how do youknow that you're not just making
it up? It's totally normal thatyou're second guessing what
you're receiving, especiallywhen it's subtle, until you
learn and start to accept it'ssubtle, this is the way they
communicate. It's it's reallycommon to second guess, and most
of us have been conditioned totrust like our logical mind over
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our intuition. So when a softinner voice or a sign or
synchronicities pop up, our leftbrain wants to come in and say,
that's just a coincidence. Oh,that's just me. Oh, that's me
wanting to believe something,right? So we have to give that
left brain, a little bit ofpermission and setting the
intention that like, No, this issomething I'm working on. It's
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okay for us to notice this andnot judge it and not categorize
it, right? But here's somethingto try on. What if it is just
you and what if it's you, plusyour guides, working through
your own intuitive channel, yourown intuitive instrument, right?
Your physical body. Spiritguides often communicate by
blending the energy of theirsoul, their energy with the
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energy of us as a soul. So theymight drop into our thoughts.
They might we might have like amental picture, a mental image
of something. It might be anidea or an inspiration. It might
be feelings, like emotions thatfeel kind of like your own, they
will use our internal languageand the subtle intuitive sense
and kind of intertwine with thefaculty of our imagination
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sometimes. So just know thatthat is part of how it works.
All of the subtle psychic senseswork. We've said this before so
many times, work intertwinedwith that faculty of the
imagination. So it's naturalthat it feels a little bit like
you're imagining it at first,until you get used to it. So
yes, it can totally feel likeyou're making it up at first.
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The key is to noticing what'sdifferent. Does the thought feel
loving but unexpected? Is themessage clear and kind did it
drop in quickly? Some peoplelike the word download in here,
where it's like a chunk ofinformation all at once that we
just understand something. Andsometimes we have to process
and, like unfold the I hate theword download. You guys, I don't
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know why. I feel like maybe it'sthe way I have heard it used a
lot. I just don't love it. Butsometimes it will just drop it.
And kind of just like that, andall of a sudden you have an
understanding about something,or, you know, like, oh, yeah, I
know what I'm supposed to do.
But then sometimes our brainwants to come in and start
analyzing it, right? So theseare all signs that might come
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from spirit, and my advice istrust. First make a note of it
and then test it as you go,right? It's not an all or
nothing. Write it down, sit withit, see how it plays out, see
what happens, see what comes tolight in the next couple days.
Trust is like a muscle, and themore that we work with it, the
clearer the communicationbecomes, because we're paying
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attention for how thecommunication comes and what it
actually is. So here are somedo's and don'ts to help you
start working on therelationship with your spirit
guides. If you choose, okay,do's first, right? Let's start
with the positive. Start withthe do's. What do we do in the
do's column? Do stay open andcurious. I would say approach
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this like you're getting to knowsomeone new. You're building
trust over time. You're not likegoing through an instruction
manual and ticking off the boxesof how this works, right? This
is a relationship. So stay open,stay curious, stay available. Do
be consistent. It's helpful tocheck in with the guides
regularly, sit with themregularly, just so you start to
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understand what that energeticexchange feels like, what each
of their unique energy feelslike, even if it's only one of
them, which is usually how Isuggest starting to work with
just one first, even if it's afew minutes a day to just kind
of sit quietly, connect withthem, maybe do a little bit of
journaling. Maybe you have aspecial journal for the guide
you're working with. Or justeven energetically saying hello
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starts to build that energeticrelationship in a more
intentional way. Because, like Isaid, you already have a
relationship with them. Do payattention to the subtlety.
Again, spirit guides speaksoftly, very subtly. It's not
like a disembodied voice talkingto you, or like I remember those
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mystery movies when I was a kidwhere, like, the pen would just
pick itself up and start writingthe answer to the mystery. It's
not that. So we just payattention to those subtle
intuitions, nudges, subtleimagery, subtle dreams, those
gut feelings, or kind offeelings about things that don't
don't match right.
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Sometimes it's like thosesynchronicities we were talking
about. The communication oftenfeels like a whisper, not a
shout, and it often isbreadcrumbs, or sometimes I'll
see them like a string of pearlsstringing along. And often it is
the thing that we kind of deepinside know is the right answer
or is the best choice for us,right? Even if we don't like the
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answer, do use tools, if ithelps. Things like journaling.
Oracle cards are great. Therewas a time where I had a couple
different Oracle card decks, andI had them assigned to different
guides once I built arelationship with them so they I
could kind of have a differentstyle of communication. You can
invite them into your dreams andthen do some journaling to help
you remember you could dointuitive drawing if you're a
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little bit more on the artisticside, that can help you kind of
understand some symbols aboutthem, or some things about them,
and start building therelationship with them that way.
So there are lots of ways to usetools to help you, but I also
want to encourage you to toanother do. Do trust the feel of
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it. If the message feels lovingand gentle, wise, expansive,
feels it might feel a little outof your comfort zone, right?
Sometimes the good, good nextstep, or the the greatest thing
for us is outside of our comfortzone. So it might feel a little
outside your comfort zone, butdoes it feel like it's expansive
for you? Does it feel like it'sgrowth in a positive way for
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you? It's probably from yourguide. If it feels fearful or
anxious, harsh, mean, that'sprobably your ego or your fear
chiming in. So that's really thedistinction. And the last do is,
do treat this like arelationship instead of a
transaction. Think of the waythat we build relationships with
people we don't demand. We'renot immediately like
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disappointed if we're notunderstanding them. This is for
the long haul over time. If youwant to have a relationship with
the guides, it's not I alwayssay none of this stuff is a
light switch. It's more aboutrelationship. Okay, let's go
through some don'ts reallyquick, just so I can give these
two as well. Don't force it oroverthink it. This is just not
helpful. And the more we forceor overthink, the more that left
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brain wants to come in and tellus that we're wrong, sometimes
trying too hard to, quote,unquote, get something or get it
right. It creates resistance.
Spirit guidance flows, and itflows more easily when we can
relax into it. So if you feellike you're forcing it or
overthinking it, maybe take abreak and try again later.
Right? Don't expect it to be abooming voice or like a movie
level moment. This happens oncein a blue moon, and sometimes
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once in a lifetime, andsometimes not at all. So don't
look for it that way. Mostpeople never hear their guides
in a full sentence like. Aconversation. Instead, you might
get an impression, a feeling, aquiet knowing that's more the
way the communication is. So nobooming voices. Don't assume
that you're doing it wrong. Justbecause it's quiet or very
subtle, silence doesn't meanabsence. Just because you feel
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like they're awfully quietdoesn't mean that they're not
there. You have an agreementwith them, a contract with them,
so they are there all of thetime in assistance to you. What
else do I want to say here?
Sometimes your guides are arewaiting for your energy to
settle down. Sometimes they'rewaiting for a better time to
move you in a direction.
Sometimes you've made somechoices that have moved you in
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one direction, and they need toallow some things to occur, some
choices, some time to then helpyou move back in a direction
that is in alignment with yourgreatest good, right? They're
not attached to time in the waythat we are. We tend to be our
human nature, especially incapitalist societies, because we
trade time for money or time fornecessities. We tend to think
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like, I gotta get this donefast. I gotta get there. We're
always on a race to a deadline,right, or to, like, an end
point. They're not so attachedto like, you know, if you
express this quality from yoursoul when you're seven or when
you're 77 they're not soattached to that. So, yeah,
don't assume you're doing itwrong because it's quiet, don't
compare your experiences toothers, especially because the
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language of it doesn't quitefit. So you could be having a
very similar experience tosomeone, but the way that they
express it in the language justmight not resonate as the same
experience for you. So for manyreasons, don't compare your
experience to others. Somepeople feel their guides. Some
people see or have mentalpictures. Some people have a
knowing, some dream, yourconnection is totally unique to
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you, and sometimes it's uniquewith those individual guides.
And when they show up in theways in which they work with
you, because they have differentroles, don't ask for every
answer or try to outsource yourintuition, right? That's not
their job. That's not whatthey're there for. Your guides
won't do the work for you.
They're here to support you, tosupport your soul's path.
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They're more in support of yoursoul than your human desires.
I'll tell it to you that way. Sothey're really working on behalf
of you as a soul. They're nothere to hand you an escape from
growth or, like an easy wayaround, a shortcut, so to speak,
it just doesn't work that way.
They don't have interest in thatbecause you're you're truly not
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having the full human experiencewhen you're bypassing the
emotions and the humanexperience itself, right? So
that's just not what they do.
You can sit with them forguidance or support around a
choice that you're making orsomething that's coming up for
you, but don't expect them tosay you, quote, unquote, should
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do this. They don't give shouldslike that, but they will gently
nudge us, and like I said,sometimes deep inside, we know
the best choice and we don'tlike the answer. I've been
guilty of this, or just in theexperience of this, so many
times in my life, where, in myheart of hearts, I know this is
not the healthiest thing for me,but I just want to pursue this
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relationship, this opportunity,this whatever it is, so they
won't step in front of us whenwe're doing that. They will
support us and love us throughit no matter what. So don't try
to outsource your intuition orask for every answer. You're not
gonna get it, and then you'regonna think they're not there,
but they are okay. So whathappens as this connection
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deepens? Say you're sitting withthem, you've been journaling,
noticing the synchronicities.
Well, the communication evolvesover time, and you'll just start
noticing them a little morequickly in your own awareness.
Sometimes, with certain guides,I can tell when they're even in
my physical space, I'll knowthat they're that they've shown
up with my healing guides.
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Often, it's when I'm in thehealing session that I become
aware of them, because I'm inthat space, and then they show
up, and we work together thatway, so we have a much deeper
working relationship, and it'salmost a telepathic
communication when they'regiving me, like additional to
do's or instructions in ahealing session, for example. So
that works a little differently.
It depends why you're workingwith them. If you're working
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with them for writing or acreative project of any kind,
maybe you just can more quicklyget into that zone where you
invite them in beside you, youfeel them with you, and then you
start creating, and you can justaccept the vibe of that co
creation energy, right? So allof the connection can deepen and
can expand. It doesn'tnecessarily get louder, though
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we get more sensitive to it. Isthe way I understand it. We can
also learn to trust our guidesand the guidance a little bit
more after years of practice andexperience. Sometimes now I'm to
the point where if I receivelike a guidance, a nudge, and I
know there's a certain feelingof it that I can recognize it, I
won't even question it. I'lljust go back and get whatever
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the thing was from sometimes.
It's like, I'm leaving. If thisjust happened the other day, I
think that's what I'm thinkingof it I'm leaving. And all of a
sudden, from out of left fieldinto my mind, pops the thought,
like, I need to bring a snack.
And of course, my left brainright away is like, you don't
need to bring a snack. You'regoing to be gone for an hour,
and it's not the time of daywhen you like to eat, so you
don't need a snack. And I'velearned, like I said over the
(40:20):
years, that I'm just like, Youknow what? What's it gonna hurt?
I'm gonna grab that littlesnack. So I did, and then I
left, and I needed the snack. Somy point is, you just start to
learn to trust the guidance alittle bit more, and sometimes
it's not as important for me.
Oh, is it a guide telling me? Isit my intuition? Is my angels?
Is it my aunt? You know what? Imean? I'm just like, I'll just
(40:40):
get the snack and keep it movingright. So sometimes we're less
attached to the nitty gritty,and we can receive more of the
guidance because of it.
Consistency really matters morethan intensity, just like any
relationship building, if we canbe consistent, if we can
remember to say hello, if we canremember to note or be available
for synchronicities when they'rehappening. Our lives are so busy
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it can just be easy to forget.
Unless it's like really quicksuccession, where within a
couple days, you're hearing thesame thing multiple places. It
can be easy to forget what wewere thinking about, or forget
that we saw that sign by the endof the week. I mean, we can't
even usually remember what wewore on Monday by Saturday,
right? So making notes and beingconsistent really does help this
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connection deepen and bloom in adifferent way over time. Some of
the common questions andmisconceptions are people asking
things like, what if I don'thave spirit guides? I think we
talked about in the firstsegment. Hopefully you can
understand why I believe we allhave spirit guides, and why,
even if you've never worked withthem
or don't want to acknowledgethem in any sort of conscious,
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conscious or intentional way,you have spirit guides? Why
don't I hear them clearly? Well,because they don't talk like
that. They don't it's not likegenie in the movie Aladdin
that's gonna, you know, do alittle song and dance and grant
all our wishes. Doesn't worklike that. We have to pay
attention for the way that theydo communicate, right? Can
guides leave or change? Yes, Iknow people don't like that
(42:10):
answer, but I mean, I've knownyou guys know that I'm a
channel, so I channel acollective of guides called the
violet flame. I've known otherchannels that over many years of
channeling one guide. That guidelets them know, hey, our
channeling work is done, andyour next channeling guide is
gonna be stepping in. So that issometimes how it works. It's
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based on the need of our souland not the need or desire of
our human personality, is theway I wanna say it. So, like I
said, sometimes a guide is for areason or a season, even so
perhaps your season is done, orperhaps your reason that they
were there assisting you. Maybeyou were going through something
medical or something emotional,and you needed a certain extra
(42:53):
healing. Maybe they were onlywith you for that chapter of
healing in your life, and thenthey might go and you might not
need them anymore. So yes, theycan leave and they can change
depending on our needs, right?
And maybe, you know, I believethere are lots of expressions of
our soul in every lifetime. Somaybe your soul is expressing in
one direction, and then as youadd in more expressions, maybe
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you need additional guides, orthey swap out. Maybe that guide
can handle this new career path,right? So it just depends
totally on you and on what yoursoul needs for the agreed upon
blueprint from the beginning. SoI'm going to give you my final
thoughts and a little takeaway.
I want to give you a little justa little bit of heartfelt
(43:37):
guidance. I guess your spiritguides already know you, and
your soul already knows them. Sobuilding the relationship is
about you remembering them. Andthe truth is, most people who
listen to this podcast and whowork with me are also working on
remembering the truth ofthemselves as a soul. I know I'm
still always working on it dayto day, because we live in our
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humanness, but we all are asoul, having a human experience,
having a human expression. Sojust know that your guides know
you as a soul, and you knowthem. Your soul knows them. So
it's really about youremembering this relationship
you already have with them. Butdon't expect them to appear like
the genie in the lamp. You haveto make your own choices. You
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have to live this lifeexperience as player one. You
are in charge. You're chief inthis body in this lifetime, so
you have seniority. They arejust the supporting crew behind
the scenes, something to work onright away, if you want, ask
yourself and consider what's onepiece of intuitive guidance I
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dismissed recently or latelybecause I thought I was just
imagining it. Focus on learningto trust yourself, learning to
trust that your guides arepresent and that you can
continue to build your ownrelationship with them slowly
and over time. After all, isn'tthat how the best friendships
grow and blossom? I certainlythink so. So I hope you've
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learned a little bit aboutspirit guides today, what they
are, why you definitely havethem, and you already are
communicating with them, soul tosoul, even if you don't know it
in your conscious mind. Let meknow how it's going with you and
your experience of your spiritguides, if you choose to start
interacting with them in alittle bit more of an
(45:25):
intentional way, I hope thatthis has dispelled some myths
and that you've understood sometruths that really nobody else
is talking about. So thanks forbeing here with me today. If
this podcast means something toyou, it would mean so much to
me, if you would like andsubscribe wherever you are
listening or watching this, ithelps me, because you'll never
(45:45):
miss an episode, and it helpsyou because you'll never miss an
episode. So as always, Iappreciate you. Soul to soul.
Big hugs. Lots of love. Bye fornow. From inside spirit
speakeasy, you
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