February 18, 2024 • 46 mins
Remember the days when 'last call' meant the night was just getting started? Our guest, Fox 46 Charlotte meteorologist, Ted Phaeton ensures us that that storm has passed. He knows the weather can change, it's unpredictable at times and the underlying message of today's show is that so is life. This episode is packed with useful strategies you can use today to be able to navigate any kind of storm.
Inside today's show you'll learn...
- How Ted pops out of bed at 2:30 am every day 😯
- What books changed Ted's life 📖
- The power of intention 🧘♀️
- The courage behind saying 'no' 🚫
- The magic that unfolds when you step forward into the unknown magic✨
- Why dancefloors all around America are running wild now... 🕺
- And finally, how autonomy and a clear direction can paint a picture of fulfillment🎨
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And there are things I still would enjoy doing here
and there and I still indulge inwhether it's going out having a
couple of drinks with friends.
That's great.
I can't tell you the last timeI shut the bar down, though I
can't tell you the last time mywife used to know me, for we'd
go to the bar, and not just thebar, we'd go to the club chase,
and if there was a dance floorin a city, I was out there to
(00:21):
murder it.
I might be wanted in about fouror five cities for premeditated
murder on those dance floors.
If there was a circle andpeople are dancing, that was my
jam.
I can't tell you the last timeI murdered a dance floor.
Dance floors are running wild.
Now I'm consistently makingcrazy choices about this.
I'm just a child.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I still do.
I am Welcome to the Way of thePrimal man, where we help guys
go from dad Bob to father figureby finding true success from
the inside out in health, wealthand even relationships.
I'm Bob, I'm Ted Feighton hereand today we're going to talk
about.
By the end of the show, youwill really, really understand
(01:04):
how embodying an identitycreates the discipline to have
the things you want, as opposedto struggling from the outside
and living in scarcity.
To create confidence andsurpass that, even to competence
to have the life, the goals andthe the you that you really
have been searching for allalong.
(01:25):
Isn't that right, ted?
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Absolutely, man.
I'm ready to pull it in.
Brother, let's jump in today.
Chase, how you doing Cool.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Awesome man, I'm ready to jump in, and you've
already had a long day too,right yeah?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
For anyone that doesn't know, I wake up early.
My alarm clock goes off at 2.20am every day.
I'm a meteorologist by tradeMorning meteorologist.
I get to work by 3 am.
I have a whole morning routinethat helps get me out of the
door within 10 minutes.
I get ready for a morning show,I host my show or I do the
weather for my show.
(02:05):
I'm not the only one there, butit's a six hour show from 4 am
to 10 am, and then obviously alot of what people see at home
has been worked on in the days,the weeks, even the months
beforehand.
So we had a big meeting comingup to the end of the year
looking at the new year in termsof our content, the structure
of our show and whatnot.
(02:26):
So that was a good two, threehour meeting really, the merging
of the minds into how we cankind of up the ante and push to
the next level.
So that was my morning.
This is my day.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
You know I had flashbacks to the Navy there
when you talked about gettingout of the door in 10 minutes,
because my barracks were on adifferent base in San Diego from
where my ship was and breakfaststarted at 6 am, so the duty
van would leave the barracks bylike 5.30, which when you're at
20-something and you worked 12hours the day prior and then you
(03:05):
wanted to have some fun atnight, that's early, so shower
at night, lay the uniform outand I could be up and out the
door and down to that duty vanin like four minutes.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Yeah, systemized.
I get that.
My wife makes fun of me because.
So I put my clothes out thenight before my alarm goes off.
I don't hit snooze, I roll outof bed, I go brush my teeth.
My clothes are already laid out.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I put my clothes on.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
I haven't looked at my phone yet.
This is important for me andthen I walk out the door.
My backpack is already packed,good to go, it's by the door, my
keys are hung up by the door,my jacket's on the way, if I
need it.
This is why I'm regimented.
And then I get in my car stillhaven't looked at my phone yet.
Well, at this point I'm openingup the Bible app, I get the
Bible verse of the day and thenI'll do a blinkest book.
(03:54):
I'll summarize that on my wayinto work and I actually have a
recorded affirmation of my voice, of the vision of who I am and
the vision I have for my lifeand how it's going to manifest
in the next 12 months, and I'llplay that sound recording and
then usually I have maybe threeto five minutes left before I'm
(04:14):
at work and I'll use that quiettime to just reflect and
silently identify who I want tobe that day.
And then I get to work andthat's when I really start kind
of OK, what's the weather, andthings like that.
But if I don't do that routine,I'll feel out of whack for most
of the day.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I hear that I'm one of those.
Oh, so Some people call itcrazy and I like to think that
it's fun when I go out and I getmy cold tub at 5.15 am.
Midwest keeps it cold for meand that's my morning cup of joe
man, like that's.
(04:53):
That's like when I miss that, Ifeel it.
And I want to highlightsomething really important for
the listeners there that likewhen you do get into your phone,
as opposed to jumping straightinto somebody else's story, you
are bolstering your own andthat's so cool.
How long have you been doingthat?
How long have you had the 12month vision affirmations?
Speaker 1 (05:17):
So that actually has been a year and a half that I've
been doing it.
Now this is going to be thetime next time I'm going to be
making another affirmation andgoing forward.
I've done the projection, thelife statement, and I've written
things down.
I never recorded it andlistened to it back every day.
That was the ad.
(05:38):
That was, um, just, it was asmall tidbit.
It's amazing how I one of myfavorite quotes.
I say a lot is small hinges,swing big doors.
It's amazing how just a mentorof mine was like oh yeah, you
should record your voice and dothat.
And it's stuck.
And I have done it every daysince and it's just, it's, it's
(05:58):
a game changer in my mindset.
I could speak for myself in theexperience that I've had in it.
Game changer for my mindset andposture syndrome drastically
reduced.
That's something I mean.
I've been in the industry for 10years.
When it comes to TV, there'stimes we have breaking news or
breaking weather and I'm lookingin the mirror like, can I do
this?
It's like, dude, you have adecade experience in this.
(06:21):
You make good money to tellpeople when things are dangerous
.
Why is there in posturesyndrome still, you know,
bubbling up?
You have the proof of concept.
You have the proof of product.
You were doing this.
You're getting paid to do it.
You're getting affirmationsfrom others.
Why don't you believe inyourself?
For me, that recording of myown voice, reminding me of who I
(06:41):
am, for some reason, that justit got into my subconscious and
helped convince me.
Everybody can tell me something.
But hearing my own voice hasstuck into my subconscious and
was like yeah, ted, this is whatyou do, you are capable, you
can handle this.
I'm not hoping for there to bebad weather, but I'm ready if
there is.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Let's go, all right, thank you Boom, and what part of
the country are you ameteorologist in?
Speaker 1 (07:08):
I'm in Charlotte, North Carolina.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
That's right.
I had a feeling you had saidthat in the past.
I just I'm having troublerecalling that and so you know
I'm over here in the Midwest andeven with the best
meteorologist, I like to sayI'll believe the weather 15
minutes after it happens.
Fair enough.
Things, things, things shiftquickly over here.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
To your point, man one of my biggest pet peeves is
someone will check the weatheron Wednesday and then on
Saturday.
It's not what I said it wasgoing to be, and I'm like man.
They update four or five timesa day.
You know there's models thatupdate hourly.
So to your point, yes, thingsare always going to change.
So unless someone's payingattention to the weather nonstop
(07:51):
, it's not going to be accuratefor what you actually need it to
be.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
You know the way that I like to draw parallels on
this show.
The weather always changes andat the same time, the weather of
life always changes, right?
So how?
How has that, that mindset,helped you in your journey of
seeing things small door, bigdoors on the doors, on hinges.
(08:23):
I know that one.
I'm missing it right now, buthow?
You know how you've been ableto see new doors open that you
maybe weren't expecting.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Yeah.
So when it comes to weather, myinterest in it started in
college, mainly because ithelped me realize how small I am
.
Extreme ownership was was agreat book, but it was a mindset
that I've somewhat adopted to apoint, because I really took a
(08:54):
lot of things.
Personally, I thought I hadcontrol over the outcomes every
year, over everything in my life.
And whether was the first thingthat continuously humbled me?
And I've done wrestling,martial arts.
Those have been great humblingthings right, but you look at,
okay, that's another man.
(09:14):
I got to learn this skill.
You still have this thing inback of your head, like I can
best them eventually.
But whether it was as much as Istudied it, as much as I was
confident in what was going tohappen, something I didn't
foresee still happened.
There was always a flank that Iwould miss and that was humbling
and it was reminding me of justhow small and minute I was.
(09:38):
You know, for context, if youlook at the size of a
thunderstorm, it could be thesize of a city, the size of a
hurricane, it could be the sizeof a state.
Matter of fact, I think it wasHurricane Harvey over Austin,
texas or Houston.
It recorded on the seismograph,like it moved the earth.
(09:59):
Mother nature cansingle-handedly move the earth,
and who am I, this smallorganism of just a person,
compared to all that power?
So it was extremely humbling.
Because of that humility, I'velearned of how little control I
(10:22):
actually have over the ethosthat's around me.
I only have control over myself,this little body.
So to kind of piggyback off ofyour parallel weather reminded
me of how small andinsignificant I actually was.
Now, while some people mightlisten to that and be like, oh,
small minded, no, because Irecognized how small and
(10:45):
insignificant I was compared tothe world and the universe, I
also respected my place in itand also looked at the opposite,
which was, you know, thebutterfly effect.
A butterfly flaps its wings inCalifornia and it thunderstorms
in Europe, understanding that,as massive as this world isn't,
(11:09):
as small as I might be, I stillcan make a ripple that echoes
eternity.
And that contrast has helped mekind of go with the flow of
weather, go with the flow oflife, and instead of thinking
how can I control this life, howcan I control this outcome, I'm
now thinking how do I show upin this storm, how do I weather
(11:35):
this season and be better for it, because when I'm long gone,
the things I've done, theimpacts I've made will outlast
me.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Hmm, I want to hear about how the ripples that you
plan on creating that willoutlast you.
And you talk about storm andwhat came to mind for me was a
bison.
And have you heard about what'sunique about bison when there's
a storm approaching?
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah, love it, share it if someone hasn't heard it.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Yeah, yeah, they'll turn and walk straight into it,
because they know that walkinginto the storm makes it shorter.
You know that there's that's sopoignant to me and I want to
hear about the ripples and Ikeep on putting a pin that to
keep us on track.
And I want to just pile on tothe mother nature being so
powerful.
You know from the floods inYosemite what like last year,
(12:30):
that we're washing away roadsand hold buildings to.
I mean, when I was in the Navyand we get tossed around on the
ship, you know, or thesandstorms out in the middle of
the Persian Gulf, that wouldjust clog, like we had thick
foam that we put over our airintakes and I was changing those
things three times a day.
Yeah, so yeah, mother nature isone powerful beast.
(12:53):
No joke not to be toiled withthat being said, no, the ripples
that you're going to create.
How are you doing that?
What?
What are those ripples going tolook like?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Well, I first will acknowledge that all ripples in
the lake fade.
So there's not the ego of whenwe think legacy, I don't think
forever, I think echoes a fewgenerations.
So when I say ripple eternity,I know the impacts I make can
impact somebody else who willmake their own ripple, and so on
(13:25):
and so forth.
So just to clarify, I'm awareall ripples fade at mine will to
, but I'm in the current seasonwhere my wife is expecting,
we're going to have our firstchild and that's been eyeopening
for me in the journey of thispast year of Ted, who are you
really?
Because who you are is going toleak into this child who is
(13:51):
then going to, god willing,perpetuate the same cycle or, at
the very least, be a member ofsociety while they are here, and
they are going to impact otherpeople as well.
So I'm starting to take morestock into who I actually am and
how I show up doing deep dives,facing traumas that I had no
(14:15):
problem brushing past before.
It wasn't important.
Now there's, there's moregravity to it.
So one way is unpacking.
Can I curse on this podcast?
Is that?
Is that allowed?
Absolutely unpacking my shit?
Yeah right, just unpacking myshit, dumping that luggage so my
(14:35):
kids don't have to carry it.
And this is continuation of workthat started growing up wanting
to be just, I think, like a lotof guys, just a valuable asset
to society, finding where I fitin, what can I provide, what can
I give.
And that had me running allover the place people pleasing
(14:56):
and being passive, aggressive,growing resentment.
So that had me going down thewrong path for a while and then
reflecting on okay, what are mygifts?
What do I enjoy doing?
What does the world need?
I'm gonna have to put bread onthe table.
So what can I also make moneydoing?
(15:16):
The Japanese concept of ickyguy, where those four overlap
what the world needs.
What are you good at?
What do you enjoy doing?
What can you make money doing?
That's what you could provide.
Well, my wife will tell you.
I like to speak a lot.
I like to talk.
I just told everybody I have asix hour show in the morning.
That wasn't enough.
I'm on this podcast talking toChase after I'm gonna have
(15:37):
client calls after this.
I love to talk, but I also Ilove to read.
My father was a reader.
I became a reader after school,acquiring knowledge, learning
on self improvement, selfdevelopment.
So I identified I can providevalue to the world by hosting
(15:57):
conversations and focusing onthe solution, not the
divisiveness that a lot ofconversations that we see these
days focus on.
Right, I love Chase man.
I love this podcast.
We start talking and we're likeman, let's have a positive
impact.
There's other podcasters likelet's find what we disagree on,
let's make it as divisive aspossible, we're gonna get all
(16:19):
the downloads.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
That's not my name that's not my ripple, no, I hear
that.
And even the post I put upyesterday a picture of my dog
talking about my personal, justhow I saw the last three plus
years and what played out.
And then one of my very goodfriends left a long comment on
(16:42):
there, and he was on the otherside of it three years ago and
he's like I got the thing.
I wouldn't get it again if Ihad the choice, I see, and he
tossed it back to me.
He's like what, if you werewrong, though, how would you
play that?
And I was like this is anawesome conversation, because he
and I even we're really goodbuddies and we disagree.
(17:06):
We do disagree on a lot, andeven so, we're like okay, how
can we use that to move forwardand build so absolutely.
And what you said there about itbeing so important who you are
as a father a phrase that reallystays in the back of my head is
behaviors and personalities arecaught, not taught, and that's
powerful, 100%, yeah.
(17:27):
And then there was anotherthread that I wanted to pull on,
where you put more than twothreads in front of Chase.
One's gonna fall off.
And so you're using all thisstuff and you're digging in and
you're unearthing all thistrauma that you have moved past
before, and what does that helpto create for you?
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Oh, two things.
One, it creates margin.
So many times a lot of peoplefeel overwhelmed, stuck, burnt
out, because they're trying tocram more into their lives and
they haven't let go of the oldstuff.
So there's no margin to fit thenew.
So it's created margin for mein terms of taking on more of
(18:20):
those storms life is sure tothrow at us, and it's also
created clarity In terms of whenyou know who you are, you know
who you're not and certainthings I used to do.
That don't necessarily serve Tedtoday, and don't get me wrong.
There were a lot of fun andthere are things I still would
(18:41):
enjoy doing here and there, andI still indulge in.
Whether it's going out having acouple of drinks with friends,
that's great.
I can't tell you the last timeI shut the bar down, though I
can't tell you the last time mywife used to know me, for we'd
go to the bar, and not just thebar, we'd go to the club chase
and if there was a dance floorin a city, I was out there to
murder it.
I might be wanted in about fouror five cities for premeditated
(19:04):
murder on those dance floors Ifthere was a circle and people.
That was my jam.
I can't tell you.
The last time I murdered adance floor.
Dance floor is a running wildnow.
But that was old Ted and partof it was.
I mean, I still dance to thisday, but I'm dancing at home.
I'm dancing to Michael Bluebleoff of Alexa in the kitchen
(19:28):
grabbing my wife while doingdishes to create a moment for us
.
So it's like I'm not.
I'm not silencing Ted, wholoves to dance.
I'm just enhancing Ted wholoves to dance with his wife.
Right now it's just the dogwatching us like we're crazy,
but soon it's going to be alittle kid watching us like
we're crazy.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
That's, that's powerful, because so many people
talk about killing the ego or,you know, killing your shad.
Like you integrate those piecesof yourself in the past to keep
that piece alive and carry itin the future.
And that's such a such apowerful real world example of
that.
Right there, Like, yeah, I loveto dance and now I dance around
the house with my, with my wifeI mean speaking from experience
(20:11):
, dude, anytime a song comes on,my daughter starts shaking her
butt.
Now she's 14 months old, soshe'll stand there on the floor,
start dancing.
She knows how to spin, She'll.
She'll take a few steps andthen she'll spin and do a 360.
And I'll pick her up and I'vebeen doing this since she was
strong enough to hold herself up.
I'll pick her up by her thighsand dance her around.
just swing around and she'llcome up and ask to be picked up.
So keep dancing, man.
(20:31):
Like I'm less of a, I've becomemore of a dancer in the last 14
months because of my daughter.
I remember what I wanted to askyou what's your favorite book?
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Oh, so my favorite book is the alchemist.
I'm actually looking right overthere on my bookshelf, but I'm
rethinking that as my favoritebook.
I'm rethinking that as myfavorite book because a mentor
of mine slapped me in the facewith asking me how did that book
change your life?
Now I love reading it, chase.
(21:08):
I love reading the book and Iget a lot of great insights from
that book and I recommendanybody who was looking for a
great read to dive in.
I can't say with specificityhow it changed my life, so I
would start with the alchemistand I'll default to.
(21:30):
My favorite book is the book Ihaven't written yet.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I love that.
The fun part about that isyou're, you're writing it as you
live it.
It's just exactly yet to comeout of the, out of your pen on
the paper or digital paper.
I love asking that question.
I was reading was instilled ata young age as well.
I had illustrated classics forchildren, so like the old
daykins and Jules Verne novels,you know, reading level came
(22:02):
down.
There was pictures in there, soI'm at a bookshelf.
When I was a kid and I wasreading Atlas Shrugged and I was
in the Navy on the planet, so Ihaven't read Atlas Shrugged yet
and you can someone startstalking about books on my
nightstand.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
It's literally I have content of my character, shelby
Steel.
It's a book my dad gave me.
I've read it a couple of times.
It's great for, honestly, thetimes that we're in.
For anybody that's curiousabout race relations and things
like that, it's a great read.
But Atlas Shrugged rightunderneath that is going to be
on my nightstand, so that is inthe pipeline.
I'm excited to dive into that.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
Get through the first 300 pages and it really picks
up Good deal.
I could do that, so I'll saythat much yeah, yeah and ran.
I mean I have a quote fromAtlas Shrugged on my ribs and
it's the only like text quote inEnglish that I have.
And so it's not that I don'tsuffer, it's that I know the
unimportance of suffering.
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I know that pain is to befought and thrown aside, not to
be accepted as part of one'ssoul and as a permanent scar
across one's view of existence.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Let's go.
I'm gonna have to move that tothe top.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
This is that little intuitive hit, and you get it
when you're hosting hosting ashow.
I'm like I'm willing to betAtlas Shrugged is going to come
up here as we talk about books.
So, yeah, very cool Now, andback back in your journey and
all the knowledge that you'vegleaned from books and making
good recommendations on the show.
I agree about the alchemist, bythe way, great book.
(23:37):
I agreed with most of it,though, and it was like more
confirmation bias.
How are you using all of thatLike?
What is that specifically like?
Has stepping into and lookingat your identity and doing all
the affirmations?
Has that created moremotivation?
Has that helped you to embodymore things and be more
disciplined, and how?
Speaker 1 (23:58):
I think it's led to action, and not just action, but
I would say results right,Because a lot of people take
action.
I think there's a lot of guyslistening to this episode right
now, Chase who take action intheir lives every day, but
they're like where are myresults?
And I think the results comefrom the 20% of actions that
(24:20):
yield the results.
So we might be doing 80% of thewrong stuff.
Now I've read all these booksand, to be honest with you, a
lot of it was, after a certainpoint, just kind of just
reiterating things that I'vealready known.
How many of us would have theobstacle.
Where information is not theobstacle, action is.
(24:40):
It's not so much that we don'tknow what to do next, it's just
we haven't taken these actionsteps to do next.
And the reality is a lot ofthese books are written from
examples that can operate in avacuum.
Our world does not operate likethat.
So we need to test thesetheories, we need to apply these
theories.
So when I started unpackingthings like my identity, one was
(25:03):
I'll share this one was my fearof confrontation Great book
boundaries.
Dr Henry cloud talks about whywe avoid certain confrontations,
why we don't set properboundaries, and for me it was
people pleasing, it was fear ofabandonment in my relationships.
Chase, I wouldn't want to starta conflict with you because I
(25:25):
would be afraid that thisrelationship would part ways, no
matter how potent, fresh, newor deep it was.
I would not want to rustle anyfeathers.
So because of that, I avoided alot of confrontation.
But I also avoided a lot ofopportunity because I also saw
no as confrontation.
So when it would come time totell everybody about that event
(25:48):
that you have coming up, youwouldn't make those phone calls.
You would do everything, butyou would, oh snap, you know
what?
Let me do my laundry and let meclean the dishes.
And you know my website reallycould be redesigned right now.
So let me redesign my websiteand I know I just finished
working on the landing page, butlet me re edit this picture.
So at the end of the day, I didall this stuff but I didn't
(26:09):
pick up the phone with theidentity of selling your
business and actually make salescalls.
So by finding more of thatcomfort and hey, Ted, you're a
business owner literally drivinghome, I'm first I'll have the
random thought like man, itfeels good to be a business
owner.
As a business owner, you'realways trying to put yourself
(26:29):
out there.
You know you have not becauseyou ask not.
And I write down in my, in mydaily discipline every morning
that's another habit of mine ofthree things I want to
accomplish today.
There's a number of questions.
One is what are the threethings you're grateful for?
What are three things you'veachieved recently?
What have you experienced?
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How are you going to make Jessfeel love today?
That's my wife and what are thethree outcomes you want?
And that's a good reminder intobeing grateful.
You're achieving things alongthe way.
That's a good little ego boost.
And then you know what specialmoments are.
You have you experienced Likelife is special, bro, no matter
what.
Like a special moment Iexperienced yesterday was
(27:12):
laughing at a dumb joke with mywife, and that was a special
moment because I'm happy tolaugh at dumb jokes with my wife
.
Those little things, bro.
And what am I thankful for,dude?
Yesterday I was thankful forzoom because it allowed me to do
calls.
Today I'm thankful forRiverside because it allows us
to.
So these are things that weremind ourselves with and then,
(27:33):
at the end of the day, I reflectin how I showed up and that
helps me in between, feel themeat of that sandwich, you know,
say you're going to dosomething, feel it, do it and,
at the end of the day, how to go, what needs to be adjusted,
what needs to be changed.
Give yourself grace becauseyou're human, and then try again
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tomorrow 100%.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
I love those pieces and any of my current or past
clients listening will know Imean it's my personal routine
that I'll invite them into.
Or you know, at the end of thenight I do my wins and what I
want to get done for the nextday.
I write that down.
At the end of the night it'slike all right, cool, like what
did I get done?
Okay, cool, let's still on thelist, we'll write that down.
And then, yeah, I start the daywith the gratitude.
(28:21):
So I'm right there with you ona lot of that man Reading the
little silly stuff.
Yeah, I tell a story sometimesof being on a in Putacano on the
beach, my sister-in-law and mywife and my wife was pregnant at
the time so she wasn'tpartaking with her.
They may not have been a littledose of psilocybin.
My sister-in-law goes like, isit always this bright and
(28:44):
beautiful or is it just themushrooms?
Like, well, they're highlightedand life is always that
beautiful, if you so choose, andthat's so cool.
And the last point I wanted todrive home there is to me what
you were talking about.
I say often guys are hiding inthe easy hard.
I'm going to go do my fitness,but I didn't really work on my
(29:05):
business, or I'm going to createa post, but I didn't like talk
to anybody who might want tosign up for my stuff, and it's
hiding from the resistance asopposed to leaning into it.
You're not actually moving theneedle.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah, learning to lean into those needles.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
And then you're going to have to do some of the other
examples that you laid out.
Looks like there's enoughvideos out there of salesmen,
right, that they're like I wantto get.
I thrive like these.
Like they're kind of like thehustle porn kind of salesmen.
They're like I thrive onchasing a hundred nos, because I
know for every hundred nos I'mgoing to get 10 yeses.
(29:41):
And there is something to that,though, like looking for more
nos, because sooner or laterthere's going to be a yes.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
Which and the thing about that cause you mentioned
the hustle porn, that hustleculture I anybody who knows me
from two years ago, they willsay Ted was go, go, go, go, go
2021 almost took your boy out.
I was, I had a virtualconference, I was getting
married, I was negotiating a newcontract, I was resigning for
(30:11):
my current, like everything wasgoing on and it almost took me
out.
And I was doing the easy heart,I was doing the hard, hard, I
was doing all of it, chase, andthen I decided to slow down and
and slowing down has been a gamechanger.
And this is I'm saying it likeI want to clap in between and
(30:34):
I'm getting emotional nowbecause this is this.
There's somebody out there whowas just like me, there's,
there's an old Ted out there whodoes not want to listen to this
, but slow the F down because Iwas always chasing the deadline,
I was always chasing the nextcall, I was always chasing.
I could not stop and I can tellyou right now I have slowed
(30:57):
down, I am in flow.
When I'm with my wife, when I'mwith her parents, when I'm with
my parents, when I'm at work, Iam in flow and I have been more
productive in my business.
I've had the highest revenue inmy business these past few
months and I've ever had as anentrepreneur, and I'm going
slower than I've ever been going.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
I slow down to speed up and learn that one first and
shoot it with Mark Wahlberg.
Yeah, you know, I was slow,smooth, smooth as fast.
Exactly, you know, I knew everyword to that movie, bro.
If I walked in the room myparents had shooter on, they
would change the channel,because I just start like
reciting the whole script as itwent on.
Great one.
(31:41):
I'm so glad that you said that,though, that you're seeing this
these record months.
This record, because when wetry and force things, we can
separate ourselves from it asopposed to just letting it
happen and letting it come andit's.
You're laying out all thesebeautiful real world examples to
these concepts that people mayor may not have heard before.
(32:03):
And like buck the trend on it.
Like no, I don't, I'm good.
Like what does that personactually know?
Like here's, here's Ted, hey,he's on TV, he's, he's, does,
does all right for himself asfar as most things are concerned
and as far as I know, like fromthis side of the screen, I have
a couple of conversations withthe guy.
He's a legit human being andhe's telling you guys, slow down
(32:28):
100%.
What else did slowing downbring for you?
Speaker 1 (32:35):
I don't know if anybody can hear.
I just took a deep breath,breath, breath, man, I'm
breathing, I'm reflecting, I'mgaining insights on things.
I think it was Abraham Lincolnthat said you give me six hours
to cut down a tree.
I'll spend the first foursharpening my acts.
(32:56):
We jump hastily into things.
I'm able to kind of approachthings with a little bit more
due diligence, also align things.
When we move so fast, we don'thear ourselves think and and I
still speak pretty fast and Iget ahead of myself at times
(33:17):
slowing down, action wise, andnow also working on slowing down
with my words helps buildclarity.
So you only have to cut once.
Right.
They say measure 10 times cutonce measure twice, cut once,
(33:37):
and the slowing down makes moreintentional movements.
And we talked about the stormsin life before.
One of the analogies I've beenusing was F1 drivers fastest
race cars in the world.
They still have to hit thebrakes.
And what's ironic is, I wouldsay, the F1 cars go faster than
the NASCAR cars and you justhave this big oval, but the F1
(34:00):
drivers they're going throughhairpin turns, right, but top
speed is not always the bestspeed.
You have to be able to pumpyour brakes and I think true
power is being able to go 250,300 miles per hour, but not
doing that all the time.
And that's where I'm at now.
I know I have the capacity tohit top speed, but I wait until
(34:23):
I build out that straight awayin my life and I see the open
road before I hit the gasbecause I'm going to, I'm going
to season.
Right now, a baby's coming intothe world.
That's a.
That's a hairpin turn.
I'm coming up on what do youthink I'm doing?
I'm, I'm pumping the brakes alittle bit, guys, I'm I'm
understanding that there's achange around the corner and if
I try going all gas, no brakes,into it, I'm going to barrel
(34:47):
into the sidewall of myrelationship and my marriage
with my wife, and that's goingto cause so much more turmoil if
I'm not being diligent andintentional with how I approach
this curve.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
I love that.
And the thing I used to drivethat point home is right behind
me, that peregrine Falcon,fastest animal in the world, 242
miles an hour towards its prey,and it waits until it sees it,
the prey.
It's not flying around divingat 242 miles an hour at any
random thing.
It's up there surveying, gotthis keen eyesight, taking
(35:23):
everything in and it goes.
I want that and it goes towardsthat as fast as possible,
faster than any living thing onthe planet.
That's, that's legit.
What are you creating right now?
We've talked about a coupletimes, you know, ted the
businessman, ted theentrepreneur.
What is it that you're creatingto?
(35:45):
To help those rip of spread.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Uh, I mean a lot of big value for me is family man.
I'm creating a family, um.
Second big values, you know,community.
When it comes to modern man andour mastermind, the noble
knights, we're creating acommunity community of men
Pouring into each other, havingconversations like this, you
know, unpacking their shit,showing up as their best selves,
(36:13):
you know, in their environment,in their, in their families, in
their households, in theircommunities, in their lives.
So, number one, family.
Number two, community and nospecific order.
Number three I'm creating Ted,ted, fate and who I am.
I'm in Thomas and creation ofwho I am.
(36:34):
And, uh, it took me a while torealize that, um, you know the
work's never finished and Ithink we actually spoke about
that last time.
We talked about you know thework never being finished.
Um, because, where I am now, mymyself development journey
started Eight, nine years ago,just shy of a decade ago, when I
(36:58):
looked around and I realized Iwas doing pretty okay for myself
.
I was a meteorologist, I was Ontv, I was making okay money.
I wasn't making great money,but I was living on my own and,
by all definitions, from theoutside, looking in.
I, I was on my way, trajectorywas good, um, and then I'm
sitting down on the anchor desk.
This is back when I was inanchor um and my co anchor was
(37:25):
talking about how she dedicatedher life to get there.
She, she studied politicalscience, she Graduated with a
degree in journalism.
She worked her butt off all theway up to become an anchor and
keep in mind my degrees inweather and then I landed into
the anchor job.
So that was a huge eye-openerfor, like, holy crap, ted,
(37:47):
here's somebody next to youwho's dedicated their whole
lives to get to where youstumbled into.
And that's no knock at thisperson who dedicated their whole
lives.
And there's no knock at at whatthe profession of anchoring is.
It's extremely difficult andextremely demanding, but here I
am doing it because I'm capableof it and I worked to get there,
(38:07):
but there was no intention.
So then the self-developmentpiece came and is like oh well,
let me be intentional about mygrowth and everything.
And that has led to growth inmy Growth, in my earning
potential, growth in therelationships, in the life that
I've had ever since, and now ina place of hey, ted, you started
from landing into a job to nowabsorbing everything, to grow to
(38:32):
some goal of becoming anational tv personality.
And then you realize Do youeven want that?
Though?
What does Ted want?
Hold on now, ted.
We never had this conversation.
Congratulations on the intent,but now what is it you want, ted
?
And what does that look like?
And that's what I'm working oncreating now.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Hmm, what is?
What was that answer when youask yourself what you want?
Speaker 1 (39:03):
What I want is autonomy Autonomy over my life,
autonomy over my time.
I want to be able to Goanywhere in the world when I
decide to, I will still haveobligations, but those
obligations will be, you know,in terms that I've agreed upon.
(39:26):
If it's not a hell yet to hell,no um, and I could be with my
family.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
The centralism grudman come yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, um, yeah, that's what I want.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
I love that, yeah, that if it's not a hell yet,
it's a hell, no, and that that'sbeautiful.
I'm after Very similar, I saidwhen my wife was pregnant.
It's like by the time, mydaughter's five.
All she will know Is that youcan create the world as you want
it.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
Yeah, you know, and and talking about books you
would reference, you know 20 theeffort comes from.
There are 20, you know 20 theeffort can drive 80 percent of
growth.
And have you read the one thing?
Yes, this says okay, now dialthat 20.
What's the 20?
That 20?
What's the 20?
Yeah, and you know, for anyonelistening, if you just Think
(40:20):
about that, go Archimedes on itwhat's the longest lever and the
strongest fulcrum in your liferight now?
Or, to use a little morewidespread term, right now,
what's the lowest hanging fruitthat you can pick?
Just do it like you hear.
Hear the two of us over heretalking about some some high
level stuff.
And just what is it that you'renot doing right now that you
(40:41):
want to do, that you could doright now?
Speaker 1 (40:43):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
Just go, do that, take one step forward.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
What if it were that simple?
Speaker 1 (40:50):
It's scary because people can't see the other side.
If I could piggyback off thatand it's something my wife said
she's like you're so good atjust jumping in, and you know my
wife she's I married thestrength to my weaknesses, right
(41:11):
, so she's good at like.
She wants to know the plan, shewants to know where we're gonna
go, where we're gonna end up.
And I say start with the end inmind, but the middle could be
mucky.
My wife wants a, she wants theIkea, a bcd, e, fg type
directions.
If I could see b and a littlecorner of c I'm jumping, because
the path becomes clear as youwalk it and especially if it's a
(41:37):
path that has been walkedbefore, you might have to clear
it yourself.
And that is what I think peopleare afraid of, because they say,
okay, the first step or thesecond step, I just don't know
how to get there.
Okay, let's not worry aboutgetting there, but can you get
one step above where you are?
And one analogy I used is ifyou're in a pitch black room and
(41:58):
you can't see anything, you'restanding in the middle of the
room.
Most people might say is Idon't know where to go.
What I say is put your handsout in front of you, take a
couple steps, find a wall, shimeacross that wall until you find
a doorway, and then move that,open that door, move into the
next room.
Well, I still don't know whereI am, but at least you're not
where you were.
You still don't know whereyou're going, but you're making
(42:20):
progress and that's what'simportant.
And my thumbs up came up.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
I uh, there, there was a, a poem that came up, and
it's from Antonio Machado.
I pulled it up, uh, and it wasalong the lines of wanderer,
there is no path, the path ismade by walking.
Uh, wanderer, the path is,there is no road, the road is
(42:50):
your footstep, or somethingalong those lines.
And it's exactly.
You know, what you're sayinghere is create your path.
That's amazing, oh man, wecould go, for we like we could
go for two hours and keep thepeople, keep the people hooked,
cause they can go find you atthe, that the modern man, and,
uh, and listen, listen to moreyou over there.
(43:12):
If there's one thing that thepeople can take away from this
episode, one nugget for them totake and chew on and store in
their, in their body, what is it?
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Um, you'll like this.
Um, one thing you could take isthis pen, anybody at home,
anyone watching, anyonelistening this, this pen, uh,
and realize that this lifeyou're living.
I said my favorite book is thebook I haven't written yet.
Chase so eloquently said isbecause I'm writing it right now
.
(43:43):
This pen, whether it'sjournaling, whether it's how you
show up every day, take the penof your life, start writing.
Realize you are the author andI actually know somebody who can
help you with that story.
But start start writing because, um, if there's one thing that
(44:03):
I would want to tell a youngerTed is just help help a younger
Ted realize the true power hehas over his future life.
And all it takes is to startwriting.
Start and being intentional andstart putting into practice who
(44:23):
you want to become, becausethat'll make it easier to say no
to certain things.
When you know you're not adrinker and when you know that
you're, uh, uh, an athlete, it'seasier to say no to the drugs
and the alcohol.
Why I'm an athlete.
This, what I do is I train.
So take this pen, take the penfor the metaphor of your life
(44:44):
and start writing your story.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
With the mic drop and , uh, now you got the people all
, all motivated on their feet,giving a round of applause, and
they're on their commute.
Where can they find you, andwhat do you have coming up that
they ought to know about?
Speaker 1 (45:04):
Yeah, you guys can find me at the modern man
podcastcom.
That has all all the links andall our socials.
Instagram is a great way tokeep up with us at the modern
man podcast and um coming upliterally this month while you
guys are listening, is themodern man retreat, denver,
north Carolina.
We are going to dive deep,build brotherhood, camaraderie,
(45:26):
um work our stories, um becomebecome more intentional in who
we are becoming and how we showup, working on the integrity of
who we say we are and who weactually are, and then build
some effective productionpractices.
That's going to be wrapped upwith a breath work and cold
plunge journey.
(45:47):
Um, and we're always hostingthe modern man podcast every
week and we have the nobleknights mastermind group, which
I encourage men to check out Ifthey're looking for a group.
Of course, obviously I knowchase, you facilitate a lot as
well, but um, modern man podcastis where you can.
The guys can find me and justkeep building these
relationships.
(46:07):
Well said.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Ted, thank you for being here please the played a
(46:37):
huge role in guiding me to thatdiscovery.
Get after it.
And there are things I still would enjoy doing here
and there and I still indulge inwhether it's going out having a
couple of drinks with friends.
That's great.
I can't tell you the last timeI shut the bar down, though I
can't tell you the last time mywife used to know me, for we'd
go to the bar, and not just thebar, we'd go to the club chase,
and if there was a dance floorin a city, I was out there to
(00:21):
murder it.
I might be wanted in about fouror five cities for premeditated
murder on those dance floors.
If there was a circle andpeople are dancing, that was my
jam.
I can't tell you the last timeI murdered a dance floor.
Dance floors are running wild.
Now I'm consistently makingcrazy choices about this.
I'm just a child.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I still do.
I am Welcome to the Way of thePrimal man, where we help guys
go from dad Bob to father figureby finding true success from
the inside out in health, wealthand even relationships.
I'm Bob, I'm Ted Feighton hereand today we're going to talk
about.
By the end of the show, youwill really, really understand
(01:04):
how embodying an identitycreates the discipline to have
the things you want, as opposedto struggling from the outside
and living in scarcity.
To create confidence andsurpass that, even to competence
to have the life, the goals andthe the you that you really
have been searching for allalong.
(01:25):
Isn't that right, ted?
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Absolutely, man.
I'm ready to pull it in.
Brother, let's jump in today.
Chase, how you doing Cool.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Awesome man, I'm ready to jump in, and you've
already had a long day too,right yeah?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
For anyone that doesn't know, I wake up early.
My alarm clock goes off at 2.20am every day.
I'm a meteorologist by tradeMorning meteorologist.
I get to work by 3 am.
I have a whole morning routinethat helps get me out of the
door within 10 minutes.
I get ready for a morning show,I host my show or I do the
weather for my show.
(02:05):
I'm not the only one there, butit's a six hour show from 4 am
to 10 am, and then obviously alot of what people see at home
has been worked on in the days,the weeks, even the months
beforehand.
So we had a big meeting comingup to the end of the year
looking at the new year in termsof our content, the structure
of our show and whatnot.
(02:26):
So that was a good two, threehour meeting really, the merging
of the minds into how we cankind of up the ante and push to
the next level.
So that was my morning.
This is my day.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
You know I had flashbacks to the Navy there
when you talked about gettingout of the door in 10 minutes,
because my barracks were on adifferent base in San Diego from
where my ship was and breakfaststarted at 6 am, so the duty
van would leave the barracks bylike 5.30, which when you're at
20-something and you worked 12hours the day prior and then you
(03:05):
wanted to have some fun atnight, that's early, so shower
at night, lay the uniform outand I could be up and out the
door and down to that duty vanin like four minutes.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Yeah, systemized.
I get that.
My wife makes fun of me because.
So I put my clothes out thenight before my alarm goes off.
I don't hit snooze, I roll outof bed, I go brush my teeth.
My clothes are already laid out.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I put my clothes on.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
I haven't looked at my phone yet.
This is important for me andthen I walk out the door.
My backpack is already packed,good to go, it's by the door, my
keys are hung up by the door,my jacket's on the way, if I
need it.
This is why I'm regimented.
And then I get in my car stillhaven't looked at my phone yet.
Well, at this point I'm openingup the Bible app, I get the
Bible verse of the day and thenI'll do a blinkest book.
(03:54):
I'll summarize that on my wayinto work and I actually have a
recorded affirmation of my voice, of the vision of who I am and
the vision I have for my lifeand how it's going to manifest
in the next 12 months, and I'llplay that sound recording and
then usually I have maybe threeto five minutes left before I'm
(04:14):
at work and I'll use that quiettime to just reflect and
silently identify who I want tobe that day.
And then I get to work andthat's when I really start kind
of OK, what's the weather, andthings like that.
But if I don't do that routine,I'll feel out of whack for most
of the day.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I hear that I'm one of those.
Oh, so Some people call itcrazy and I like to think that
it's fun when I go out and I getmy cold tub at 5.15 am.
Midwest keeps it cold for meand that's my morning cup of joe
man, like that's.
(04:53):
That's like when I miss that, Ifeel it.
And I want to highlightsomething really important for
the listeners there that likewhen you do get into your phone,
as opposed to jumping straightinto somebody else's story, you
are bolstering your own andthat's so cool.
How long have you been doingthat?
How long have you had the 12month vision affirmations?
Speaker 1 (05:17):
So that actually has been a year and a half that I've
been doing it.
Now this is going to be thetime next time I'm going to be
making another affirmation andgoing forward.
I've done the projection, thelife statement, and I've written
things down.
I never recorded it andlistened to it back every day.
That was the ad.
(05:38):
That was, um, just, it was asmall tidbit.
It's amazing how I one of myfavorite quotes.
I say a lot is small hinges,swing big doors.
It's amazing how just a mentorof mine was like oh yeah, you
should record your voice and dothat.
And it's stuck.
And I have done it every daysince and it's just, it's, it's
(05:58):
a game changer in my mindset.
I could speak for myself in theexperience that I've had in it.
Game changer for my mindset andposture syndrome drastically
reduced.
That's something I mean.
I've been in the industry for 10years.
When it comes to TV, there'stimes we have breaking news or
breaking weather and I'm lookingin the mirror like, can I do
this?
It's like, dude, you have adecade experience in this.
(06:21):
You make good money to tellpeople when things are dangerous
.
Why is there in posturesyndrome still, you know,
bubbling up?
You have the proof of concept.
You have the proof of product.
You were doing this.
You're getting paid to do it.
You're getting affirmationsfrom others.
Why don't you believe inyourself?
For me, that recording of myown voice, reminding me of who I
(06:41):
am, for some reason, that justit got into my subconscious and
helped convince me.
Everybody can tell me something.
But hearing my own voice hasstuck into my subconscious and
was like yeah, ted, this is whatyou do, you are capable, you
can handle this.
I'm not hoping for there to bebad weather, but I'm ready if
there is.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Let's go, all right, thank you Boom, and what part of
the country are you ameteorologist in?
Speaker 1 (07:08):
I'm in Charlotte, North Carolina.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
That's right.
I had a feeling you had saidthat in the past.
I just I'm having troublerecalling that and so you know
I'm over here in the Midwest andeven with the best
meteorologist, I like to sayI'll believe the weather 15
minutes after it happens.
Fair enough.
Things, things, things shiftquickly over here.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
To your point, man one of my biggest pet peeves is
someone will check the weatheron Wednesday and then on
Saturday.
It's not what I said it wasgoing to be, and I'm like man.
They update four or five timesa day.
You know there's models thatupdate hourly.
So to your point, yes, thingsare always going to change.
So unless someone's payingattention to the weather nonstop
(07:51):
, it's not going to be accuratefor what you actually need it to
be.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
You know the way that I like to draw parallels on
this show.
The weather always changes andat the same time, the weather of
life always changes, right?
So how?
How has that, that mindset,helped you in your journey of
seeing things small door, bigdoors on the doors, on hinges.
(08:23):
I know that one.
I'm missing it right now, buthow?
You know how you've been ableto see new doors open that you
maybe weren't expecting.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Yeah.
So when it comes to weather, myinterest in it started in
college, mainly because ithelped me realize how small I am
.
Extreme ownership was was agreat book, but it was a mindset
that I've somewhat adopted to apoint, because I really took a
(08:54):
lot of things.
Personally, I thought I hadcontrol over the outcomes every
year, over everything in my life.
And whether was the first thingthat continuously humbled me?
And I've done wrestling,martial arts.
Those have been great humblingthings right, but you look at,
okay, that's another man.
(09:14):
I got to learn this skill.
You still have this thing inback of your head, like I can
best them eventually.
But whether it was as much as Istudied it, as much as I was
confident in what was going tohappen, something I didn't
foresee still happened.
There was always a flank that Iwould miss and that was humbling
and it was reminding me of justhow small and minute I was.
(09:38):
You know, for context, if youlook at the size of a
thunderstorm, it could be thesize of a city, the size of a
hurricane, it could be the sizeof a state.
Matter of fact, I think it wasHurricane Harvey over Austin,
texas or Houston.
It recorded on the seismograph,like it moved the earth.
(09:59):
Mother nature cansingle-handedly move the earth,
and who am I, this smallorganism of just a person,
compared to all that power?
So it was extremely humbling.
Because of that humility, I'velearned of how little control I
(10:22):
actually have over the ethosthat's around me.
I only have control over myself,this little body.
So to kind of piggyback off ofyour parallel weather reminded
me of how small andinsignificant I actually was.
Now, while some people mightlisten to that and be like, oh,
small minded, no, because Irecognized how small and
(10:45):
insignificant I was compared tothe world and the universe, I
also respected my place in itand also looked at the opposite,
which was, you know, thebutterfly effect.
A butterfly flaps its wings inCalifornia and it thunderstorms
in Europe, understanding that,as massive as this world isn't,
(11:09):
as small as I might be, I stillcan make a ripple that echoes
eternity.
And that contrast has helped mekind of go with the flow of
weather, go with the flow oflife, and instead of thinking
how can I control this life, howcan I control this outcome, I'm
now thinking how do I show upin this storm, how do I weather
(11:35):
this season and be better for it, because when I'm long gone,
the things I've done, theimpacts I've made will outlast
me.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Hmm, I want to hear about how the ripples that you
plan on creating that willoutlast you.
And you talk about storm andwhat came to mind for me was a
bison.
And have you heard about what'sunique about bison when there's
a storm approaching?
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah, love it, share it if someone hasn't heard it.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Yeah, yeah, they'll turn and walk straight into it,
because they know that walkinginto the storm makes it shorter.
You know that there's that's sopoignant to me and I want to
hear about the ripples and Ikeep on putting a pin that to
keep us on track.
And I want to just pile on tothe mother nature being so
powerful.
You know from the floods inYosemite what like last year,
(12:30):
that we're washing away roadsand hold buildings to.
I mean, when I was in the Navyand we get tossed around on the
ship, you know, or thesandstorms out in the middle of
the Persian Gulf, that wouldjust clog, like we had thick
foam that we put over our airintakes and I was changing those
things three times a day.
Yeah, so yeah, mother nature isone powerful beast.
(12:53):
No joke not to be toiled withthat being said, no, the ripples
that you're going to create.
How are you doing that?
What?
What are those ripples going tolook like?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Well, I first will acknowledge that all ripples in
the lake fade.
So there's not the ego of whenwe think legacy, I don't think
forever, I think echoes a fewgenerations.
So when I say ripple eternity,I know the impacts I make can
impact somebody else who willmake their own ripple, and so on
(13:25):
and so forth.
So just to clarify, I'm awareall ripples fade at mine will to
, but I'm in the current seasonwhere my wife is expecting,
we're going to have our firstchild and that's been eyeopening
for me in the journey of thispast year of Ted, who are you
really?
Because who you are is going toleak into this child who is
(13:51):
then going to, god willing,perpetuate the same cycle or, at
the very least, be a member ofsociety while they are here, and
they are going to impact otherpeople as well.
So I'm starting to take morestock into who I actually am and
how I show up doing deep dives,facing traumas that I had no
(14:15):
problem brushing past before.
It wasn't important.
Now there's, there's moregravity to it.
So one way is unpacking.
Can I curse on this podcast?
Is that?
Is that allowed?
Absolutely unpacking my shit?
Yeah right, just unpacking myshit, dumping that luggage so my
(14:35):
kids don't have to carry it.
And this is continuation of workthat started growing up wanting
to be just, I think, like a lotof guys, just a valuable asset
to society, finding where I fitin, what can I provide, what can
I give.
And that had me running allover the place people pleasing
(14:56):
and being passive, aggressive,growing resentment.
So that had me going down thewrong path for a while and then
reflecting on okay, what are mygifts?
What do I enjoy doing?
What does the world need?
I'm gonna have to put bread onthe table.
So what can I also make moneydoing?
(15:16):
The Japanese concept of ickyguy, where those four overlap
what the world needs.
What are you good at?
What do you enjoy doing?
What can you make money doing?
That's what you could provide.
Well, my wife will tell you.
I like to speak a lot.
I like to talk.
I just told everybody I have asix hour show in the morning.
That wasn't enough.
I'm on this podcast talking toChase after I'm gonna have
(15:37):
client calls after this.
I love to talk, but I also Ilove to read.
My father was a reader.
I became a reader after school,acquiring knowledge, learning
on self improvement, selfdevelopment.
So I identified I can providevalue to the world by hosting
(15:57):
conversations and focusing onthe solution, not the
divisiveness that a lot ofconversations that we see these
days focus on.
Right, I love Chase man.
I love this podcast.
We start talking and we're likeman, let's have a positive
impact.
There's other podcasters likelet's find what we disagree on,
let's make it as divisive aspossible, we're gonna get all
(16:19):
the downloads.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
That's not my name that's not my ripple, no, I hear
that.
And even the post I put upyesterday a picture of my dog
talking about my personal, justhow I saw the last three plus
years and what played out.
And then one of my very goodfriends left a long comment on
(16:42):
there, and he was on the otherside of it three years ago and
he's like I got the thing.
I wouldn't get it again if Ihad the choice, I see, and he
tossed it back to me.
He's like what, if you werewrong, though, how would you
play that?
And I was like this is anawesome conversation, because he
and I even we're really goodbuddies and we disagree.
(17:06):
We do disagree on a lot, andeven so, we're like okay, how
can we use that to move forwardand build so absolutely.
And what you said there about itbeing so important who you are
as a father a phrase that reallystays in the back of my head is
behaviors and personalities arecaught, not taught, and that's
powerful, 100%, yeah.
(17:27):
And then there was anotherthread that I wanted to pull on,
where you put more than twothreads in front of Chase.
One's gonna fall off.
And so you're using all thisstuff and you're digging in and
you're unearthing all thistrauma that you have moved past
before, and what does that helpto create for you?
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Oh, two things.
One, it creates margin.
So many times a lot of peoplefeel overwhelmed, stuck, burnt
out, because they're trying tocram more into their lives and
they haven't let go of the oldstuff.
So there's no margin to fit thenew.
So it's created margin for mein terms of taking on more of
(18:20):
those storms life is sure tothrow at us, and it's also
created clarity In terms of whenyou know who you are, you know
who you're not and certainthings I used to do.
That don't necessarily serve Tedtoday, and don't get me wrong.
There were a lot of fun andthere are things I still would
(18:41):
enjoy doing here and there, andI still indulge in.
Whether it's going out having acouple of drinks with friends,
that's great.
I can't tell you the last timeI shut the bar down, though I
can't tell you the last time mywife used to know me, for we'd
go to the bar, and not just thebar, we'd go to the club chase
and if there was a dance floorin a city, I was out there to
murder it.
I might be wanted in about fouror five cities for premeditated
(19:04):
murder on those dance floors Ifthere was a circle and people.
That was my jam.
I can't tell you.
The last time I murdered adance floor.
Dance floor is a running wildnow.
But that was old Ted and partof it was.
I mean, I still dance to thisday, but I'm dancing at home.
I'm dancing to Michael Bluebleoff of Alexa in the kitchen
(19:28):
grabbing my wife while doingdishes to create a moment for us
.
So it's like I'm not.
I'm not silencing Ted, wholoves to dance.
I'm just enhancing Ted wholoves to dance with his wife.
Right now it's just the dogwatching us like we're crazy,
but soon it's going to be alittle kid watching us like
we're crazy.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
That's, that's powerful, because so many people
talk about killing the ego or,you know, killing your shad.
Like you integrate those piecesof yourself in the past to keep
that piece alive and carry itin the future.
And that's such a such apowerful real world example of
that.
Right there, Like, yeah, I loveto dance and now I dance around
the house with my, with my wifeI mean speaking from experience
(20:11):
, dude, anytime a song comes on,my daughter starts shaking her
butt.
Now she's 14 months old, soshe'll stand there on the floor,
start dancing.
She knows how to spin, She'll.
She'll take a few steps andthen she'll spin and do a 360.
And I'll pick her up and I'vebeen doing this since she was
strong enough to hold herself up.
I'll pick her up by her thighsand dance her around.
just swing around and she'llcome up and ask to be picked up.
So keep dancing, man.
(20:31):
Like I'm less of a, I've becomemore of a dancer in the last 14
months because of my daughter.
I remember what I wanted to askyou what's your favorite book?
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Oh, so my favorite book is the alchemist.
I'm actually looking right overthere on my bookshelf, but I'm
rethinking that as my favoritebook.
I'm rethinking that as myfavorite book because a mentor
of mine slapped me in the facewith asking me how did that book
change your life?
Now I love reading it, chase.
(21:08):
I love reading the book and Iget a lot of great insights from
that book and I recommendanybody who was looking for a
great read to dive in.
I can't say with specificityhow it changed my life, so I
would start with the alchemistand I'll default to.
(21:30):
My favorite book is the book Ihaven't written yet.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I love that.
The fun part about that isyou're, you're writing it as you
live it.
It's just exactly yet to comeout of the, out of your pen on
the paper or digital paper.
I love asking that question.
I was reading was instilled ata young age as well.
I had illustrated classics forchildren, so like the old
daykins and Jules Verne novels,you know, reading level came
(22:02):
down.
There was pictures in there, soI'm at a bookshelf.
When I was a kid and I wasreading Atlas Shrugged and I was
in the Navy on the planet, so Ihaven't read Atlas Shrugged yet
and you can someone startstalking about books on my
nightstand.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
It's literally I have content of my character, shelby
Steel.
It's a book my dad gave me.
I've read it a couple of times.
It's great for, honestly, thetimes that we're in.
For anybody that's curiousabout race relations and things
like that, it's a great read.
But Atlas Shrugged rightunderneath that is going to be
on my nightstand, so that is inthe pipeline.
I'm excited to dive into that.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
Get through the first 300 pages and it really picks
up Good deal.
I could do that, so I'll saythat much yeah, yeah and ran.
I mean I have a quote fromAtlas Shrugged on my ribs and
it's the only like text quote inEnglish that I have.
And so it's not that I don'tsuffer, it's that I know the
unimportance of suffering.
(22:58):
I know that pain is to befought and thrown aside, not to
be accepted as part of one'ssoul and as a permanent scar
across one's view of existence.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Let's go.
I'm gonna have to move that tothe top.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
This is that little intuitive hit, and you get it
when you're hosting hosting ashow.
I'm like I'm willing to betAtlas Shrugged is going to come
up here as we talk about books.
So, yeah, very cool Now, andback back in your journey and
all the knowledge that you'vegleaned from books and making
good recommendations on the show.
I agree about the alchemist, bythe way, great book.
(23:37):
I agreed with most of it,though, and it was like more
confirmation bias.
How are you using all of thatLike?
What is that specifically like?
Has stepping into and lookingat your identity and doing all
the affirmations?
Has that created moremotivation?
Has that helped you to embodymore things and be more
disciplined, and how?
Speaker 1 (23:58):
I think it's led to action, and not just action, but
I would say results right,Because a lot of people take
action.
I think there's a lot of guyslistening to this episode right
now, Chase who take action intheir lives every day, but
they're like where are myresults?
And I think the results comefrom the 20% of actions that
(24:20):
yield the results.
So we might be doing 80% of thewrong stuff.
Now I've read all these booksand, to be honest with you, a
lot of it was, after a certainpoint, just kind of just
reiterating things that I'vealready known.
How many of us would have theobstacle.
Where information is not theobstacle, action is.
(24:40):
It's not so much that we don'tknow what to do next, it's just
we haven't taken these actionsteps to do next.
And the reality is a lot ofthese books are written from
examples that can operate in avacuum.
Our world does not operate likethat.
So we need to test thesetheories, we need to apply these
theories.
So when I started unpackingthings like my identity, one was
(25:03):
I'll share this one was my fearof confrontation Great book
boundaries.
Dr Henry cloud talks about whywe avoid certain confrontations,
why we don't set properboundaries, and for me it was
people pleasing, it was fear ofabandonment in my relationships.
Chase, I wouldn't want to starta conflict with you because I
(25:25):
would be afraid that thisrelationship would part ways, no
matter how potent, fresh, newor deep it was.
I would not want to rustle anyfeathers.
So because of that, I avoided alot of confrontation.
But I also avoided a lot ofopportunity because I also saw
no as confrontation.
So when it would come time totell everybody about that event
(25:48):
that you have coming up, youwouldn't make those phone calls.
You would do everything, butyou would, oh snap, you know
what?
Let me do my laundry and let meclean the dishes.
And you know my website reallycould be redesigned right now.
So let me redesign my websiteand I know I just finished
working on the landing page, butlet me re edit this picture.
So at the end of the day, I didall this stuff but I didn't
(26:09):
pick up the phone with theidentity of selling your
business and actually make salescalls.
So by finding more of thatcomfort and hey, Ted, you're a
business owner literally drivinghome, I'm first I'll have the
random thought like man, itfeels good to be a business
owner.
As a business owner, you'realways trying to put yourself
(26:29):
out there.
You know you have not becauseyou ask not.
And I write down in my, in mydaily discipline every morning
that's another habit of mine ofthree things I want to
accomplish today.
There's a number of questions.
One is what are the threethings you're grateful for?
What are three things you'veachieved recently?
What have you experienced?
(26:50):
How are you going to make Jessfeel love today?
That's my wife and what are thethree outcomes you want?
And that's a good reminder intobeing grateful.
You're achieving things alongthe way.
That's a good little ego boost.
And then you know what specialmoments are.
You have you experienced Likelife is special, bro, no matter
what.
Like a special moment Iexperienced yesterday was
(27:12):
laughing at a dumb joke with mywife, and that was a special
moment because I'm happy tolaugh at dumb jokes with my wife
.
Those little things, bro.
And what am I thankful for,dude?
Yesterday I was thankful forzoom because it allowed me to do
calls.
Today I'm thankful forRiverside because it allows us
to.
So these are things that weremind ourselves with and then,
(27:33):
at the end of the day, I reflectin how I showed up and that
helps me in between, feel themeat of that sandwich, you know,
say you're going to dosomething, feel it, do it and,
at the end of the day, how to go, what needs to be adjusted,
what needs to be changed.
Give yourself grace becauseyou're human, and then try again
(27:55):
tomorrow 100%.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
I love those pieces and any of my current or past
clients listening will know Imean it's my personal routine
that I'll invite them into.
Or you know, at the end of thenight I do my wins and what I
want to get done for the nextday.
I write that down.
At the end of the night it'slike all right, cool, like what
did I get done?
Okay, cool, let's still on thelist, we'll write that down.
And then, yeah, I start the daywith the gratitude.
(28:21):
So I'm right there with you ona lot of that man Reading the
little silly stuff.
Yeah, I tell a story sometimesof being on a in Putacano on the
beach, my sister-in-law and mywife and my wife was pregnant at
the time so she wasn'tpartaking with her.
They may not have been a littledose of psilocybin.
My sister-in-law goes like, isit always this bright and
(28:44):
beautiful or is it just themushrooms?
Like, well, they're highlightedand life is always that
beautiful, if you so choose, andthat's so cool.
And the last point I wanted todrive home there is to me what
you were talking about.
I say often guys are hiding inthe easy hard.
I'm going to go do my fitness,but I didn't really work on my
(29:05):
business, or I'm going to createa post, but I didn't like talk
to anybody who might want tosign up for my stuff, and it's
hiding from the resistance asopposed to leaning into it.
You're not actually moving theneedle.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah, learning to lean into those needles.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
And then you're going to have to do some of the other
examples that you laid out.
Looks like there's enoughvideos out there of salesmen,
right, that they're like I wantto get.
I thrive like these.
Like they're kind of like thehustle porn kind of salesmen.
They're like I thrive onchasing a hundred nos, because I
know for every hundred nos I'mgoing to get 10 yeses.
(29:41):
And there is something to that,though, like looking for more
nos, because sooner or laterthere's going to be a yes.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
Which and the thing about that cause you mentioned
the hustle porn, that hustleculture I anybody who knows me
from two years ago, they willsay Ted was go, go, go, go, go
2021 almost took your boy out.
I was, I had a virtualconference, I was getting
married, I was negotiating a newcontract, I was resigning for
(30:11):
my current, like everything wasgoing on and it almost took me
out.
And I was doing the easy heart,I was doing the hard, hard, I
was doing all of it, chase, andthen I decided to slow down and
and slowing down has been a gamechanger.
And this is I'm saying it likeI want to clap in between and
(30:34):
I'm getting emotional nowbecause this is this.
There's somebody out there whowas just like me, there's,
there's an old Ted out there whodoes not want to listen to this
, but slow the F down because Iwas always chasing the deadline,
I was always chasing the nextcall, I was always chasing.
I could not stop and I can tellyou right now I have slowed
(30:57):
down, I am in flow.
When I'm with my wife, when I'mwith her parents, when I'm with
my parents, when I'm at work, Iam in flow and I have been more
productive in my business.
I've had the highest revenue inmy business these past few
months and I've ever had as anentrepreneur, and I'm going
slower than I've ever been going.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
I slow down to speed up and learn that one first and
shoot it with Mark Wahlberg.
Yeah, you know, I was slow,smooth, smooth as fast.
Exactly, you know, I knew everyword to that movie, bro.
If I walked in the room myparents had shooter on, they
would change the channel,because I just start like
reciting the whole script as itwent on.
Great one.
(31:41):
I'm so glad that you said that,though, that you're seeing this
these record months.
This record, because when wetry and force things, we can
separate ourselves from it asopposed to just letting it
happen and letting it come andit's.
You're laying out all thesebeautiful real world examples to
these concepts that people mayor may not have heard before.
(32:03):
And like buck the trend on it.
Like no, I don't, I'm good.
Like what does that personactually know?
Like here's, here's Ted, hey,he's on TV, he's, he's, does,
does all right for himself asfar as most things are concerned
and as far as I know, like fromthis side of the screen, I have
a couple of conversations withthe guy.
He's a legit human being andhe's telling you guys, slow down
(32:28):
100%.
What else did slowing downbring for you?
Speaker 1 (32:35):
I don't know if anybody can hear.
I just took a deep breath,breath, breath, man, I'm
breathing, I'm reflecting, I'mgaining insights on things.
I think it was Abraham Lincolnthat said you give me six hours
to cut down a tree.
I'll spend the first foursharpening my acts.
(32:56):
We jump hastily into things.
I'm able to kind of approachthings with a little bit more
due diligence, also align things.
When we move so fast, we don'thear ourselves think and and I
still speak pretty fast and Iget ahead of myself at times
(33:17):
slowing down, action wise, andnow also working on slowing down
with my words helps buildclarity.
So you only have to cut once.
Right.
They say measure 10 times cutonce measure twice, cut once,
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and the slowing down makes moreintentional movements.
And we talked about the stormsin life before.
One of the analogies I've beenusing was F1 drivers fastest
race cars in the world.
They still have to hit thebrakes.
And what's ironic is, I wouldsay, the F1 cars go faster than
the NASCAR cars and you justhave this big oval, but the F1
(34:00):
drivers they're going throughhairpin turns, right, but top
speed is not always the bestspeed.
You have to be able to pumpyour brakes and I think true
power is being able to go 250,300 miles per hour, but not
doing that all the time.
And that's where I'm at now.
I know I have the capacity tohit top speed, but I wait until
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I build out that straight awayin my life and I see the open
road before I hit the gasbecause I'm going to, I'm going
to season.
Right now, a baby's coming intothe world.
That's a.
That's a hairpin turn.
I'm coming up on what do youthink I'm doing?
I'm, I'm pumping the brakes alittle bit, guys, I'm I'm
understanding that there's achange around the corner and if
I try going all gas, no brakes,into it, I'm going to barrel
(34:47):
into the sidewall of myrelationship and my marriage
with my wife, and that's goingto cause so much more turmoil if
I'm not being diligent andintentional with how I approach
this curve.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
I love that.
And the thing I used to drivethat point home is right behind
me, that peregrine Falcon,fastest animal in the world, 242
miles an hour towards its prey,and it waits until it sees it,
the prey.
It's not flying around divingat 242 miles an hour at any
random thing.
It's up there surveying, gotthis keen eyesight, taking
(35:23):
everything in and it goes.
I want that and it goes towardsthat as fast as possible,
faster than any living thing onthe planet.
That's, that's legit.
What are you creating right now?
We've talked about a coupletimes, you know, ted the
businessman, ted theentrepreneur.
What is it that you're creatingto?
(35:45):
To help those rip of spread.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Uh, I mean a lot of big value for me is family man.
I'm creating a family, um.
Second big values, you know,community.
When it comes to modern man andour mastermind, the noble
knights, we're creating acommunity community of men
Pouring into each other, havingconversations like this, you
know, unpacking their shit,showing up as their best selves,
(36:13):
you know, in their environment,in their, in their families, in
their households, in theircommunities, in their lives.
So, number one, family.
Number two, community and nospecific order.
Number three I'm creating Ted,ted, fate and who I am.
I'm in Thomas and creation ofwho I am.
(36:34):
And, uh, it took me a while torealize that, um, you know the
work's never finished and Ithink we actually spoke about
that last time.
We talked about you know thework never being finished.
Um, because, where I am now, mymyself development journey
started Eight, nine years ago,just shy of a decade ago, when I
(36:58):
looked around and I realized Iwas doing pretty okay for myself
.
I was a meteorologist, I was Ontv, I was making okay money.
I wasn't making great money,but I was living on my own and,
by all definitions, from theoutside, looking in.
I, I was on my way, trajectorywas good, um, and then I'm
sitting down on the anchor desk.
This is back when I was inanchor um and my co anchor was
(37:25):
talking about how she dedicatedher life to get there.
She, she studied politicalscience, she Graduated with a
degree in journalism.
She worked her butt off all theway up to become an anchor and
keep in mind my degrees inweather and then I landed into
the anchor job.
So that was a huge eye-openerfor, like, holy crap, ted,
(37:47):
here's somebody next to youwho's dedicated their whole
lives to get to where youstumbled into.
And that's no knock at thisperson who dedicated their whole
lives.
And there's no knock at at whatthe profession of anchoring is.
It's extremely difficult andextremely demanding, but here I
am doing it because I'm capableof it and I worked to get there,
(38:07):
but there was no intention.
So then the self-developmentpiece came and is like oh well,
let me be intentional about mygrowth and everything.
And that has led to growth inmy Growth, in my earning
potential, growth in therelationships, in the life that
I've had ever since, and now ina place of hey, ted, you started
from landing into a job to nowabsorbing everything, to grow to
(38:32):
some goal of becoming anational tv personality.
And then you realize Do youeven want that?
Though?
What does Ted want?
Hold on now, ted.
We never had this conversation.
Congratulations on the intent,but now what is it you want, ted
?
And what does that look like?
And that's what I'm working oncreating now.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Hmm, what is?
What was that answer when youask yourself what you want?
Speaker 1 (39:03):
What I want is autonomy Autonomy over my life,
autonomy over my time.
I want to be able to Goanywhere in the world when I
decide to, I will still haveobligations, but those
obligations will be, you know,in terms that I've agreed upon.
(39:26):
If it's not a hell yet to hell,no um, and I could be with my
family.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
The centralism grudman come yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, um, yeah, that's what I want.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
I love that, yeah, that if it's not a hell yet,
it's a hell, no, and that that'sbeautiful.
I'm after Very similar, I saidwhen my wife was pregnant.
It's like by the time, mydaughter's five.
All she will know Is that youcan create the world as you want
it.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
Yeah, you know, and and talking about books you
would reference, you know 20 theeffort comes from.
There are 20, you know 20 theeffort can drive 80 percent of
growth.
And have you read the one thing?
Yes, this says okay, now dialthat 20.
What's the 20?
That 20?
What's the 20?
Yeah, and you know, for anyonelistening, if you just Think
(40:20):
about that, go Archimedes on itwhat's the longest lever and the
strongest fulcrum in your liferight now?
Or, to use a little morewidespread term, right now,
what's the lowest hanging fruitthat you can pick?
Just do it like you hear.
Hear the two of us over heretalking about some some high
level stuff.
And just what is it that you'renot doing right now that you
(40:41):
want to do, that you could doright now?
Speaker 1 (40:43):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
Just go, do that, take one step forward.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
What if it were that simple?
Speaker 1 (40:50):
It's scary because people can't see the other side.
If I could piggyback off thatand it's something my wife said
she's like you're so good atjust jumping in, and you know my
wife she's I married thestrength to my weaknesses, right
(41:11):
, so she's good at like.
She wants to know the plan, shewants to know where we're gonna
go, where we're gonna end up.
And I say start with the end inmind, but the middle could be
mucky.
My wife wants a, she wants theIkea, a bcd, e, fg type
directions.
If I could see b and a littlecorner of c I'm jumping, because
the path becomes clear as youwalk it and especially if it's a
(41:37):
path that has been walkedbefore, you might have to clear
it yourself.
And that is what I think peopleare afraid of, because they say,
okay, the first step or thesecond step, I just don't know
how to get there.
Okay, let's not worry aboutgetting there, but can you get
one step above where you are?
And one analogy I used is ifyou're in a pitch black room and
(41:58):
you can't see anything, you'restanding in the middle of the
room.
Most people might say is Idon't know where to go.
What I say is put your handsout in front of you, take a
couple steps, find a wall, shimeacross that wall until you find
a doorway, and then move that,open that door, move into the
next room.
Well, I still don't know whereI am, but at least you're not
where you were.
You still don't know whereyou're going, but you're making
(42:20):
progress and that's what'simportant.
And my thumbs up came up.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
I uh, there, there was a, a poem that came up, and
it's from Antonio Machado.
I pulled it up, uh, and it wasalong the lines of wanderer,
there is no path, the path ismade by walking.
Uh, wanderer, the path is,there is no road, the road is
(42:50):
your footstep, or somethingalong those lines.
And it's exactly.
You know, what you're sayinghere is create your path.
That's amazing, oh man, wecould go, for we like we could
go for two hours and keep thepeople, keep the people hooked,
cause they can go find you atthe, that the modern man, and,
uh, and listen, listen to moreyou over there.
(43:12):
If there's one thing that thepeople can take away from this
episode, one nugget for them totake and chew on and store in
their, in their body, what is it?
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Um, you'll like this.
Um, one thing you could take isthis pen, anybody at home,
anyone watching, anyonelistening this, this pen, uh,
and realize that this lifeyou're living.
I said my favorite book is thebook I haven't written yet.
Chase so eloquently said isbecause I'm writing it right now
.
(43:43):
This pen, whether it'sjournaling, whether it's how you
show up every day, take the penof your life, start writing.
Realize you are the author andI actually know somebody who can
help you with that story.
But start start writing because, um, if there's one thing that
(44:03):
I would want to tell a youngerTed is just help help a younger
Ted realize the true power hehas over his future life.
And all it takes is to startwriting.
Start and being intentional andstart putting into practice who
(44:23):
you want to become, becausethat'll make it easier to say no
to certain things.
When you know you're not adrinker and when you know that
you're, uh, uh, an athlete, it'seasier to say no to the drugs
and the alcohol.
Why I'm an athlete.
This, what I do is I train.
So take this pen, take the penfor the metaphor of your life
(44:44):
and start writing your story.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
With the mic drop and , uh, now you got the people all
, all motivated on their feet,giving a round of applause, and
they're on their commute.
Where can they find you, andwhat do you have coming up that
they ought to know about?
Speaker 1 (45:04):
Yeah, you guys can find me at the modern man
podcastcom.
That has all all the links andall our socials.
Instagram is a great way tokeep up with us at the modern
man podcast and um coming upliterally this month while you
guys are listening, is themodern man retreat, denver,
north Carolina.
We are going to dive deep,build brotherhood, camaraderie,
(45:26):
um work our stories, um becomebecome more intentional in who
we are becoming and how we showup, working on the integrity of
who we say we are and who weactually are, and then build
some effective productionpractices.
That's going to be wrapped upwith a breath work and cold
plunge journey.
(45:47):
Um, and we're always hostingthe modern man podcast every
week and we have the nobleknights mastermind group, which
I encourage men to check out Ifthey're looking for a group.
Of course, obviously I knowchase, you facilitate a lot as
well, but um, modern man podcastis where you can.
The guys can find me and justkeep building these
relationships.
(46:07):
Well said.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Ted, thank you for being here please the played a
(46:37):
huge role in guiding me to thatdiscovery.
Get after it.
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