February 16, 2025 • 9 mins
Turns out, there is such thing as "too much" personal development.
It turned into a way for me to hide from real-world action.... to stay safe and play small.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It slapped me in the face like a ton of bricks, guys
the awareness that all of myself-awareness, all of my
self-development, all of myself-work was actually starting
to hold me back.
Good at that stuff.
(00:28):
That I could trick myself intobelieving that I was doing the
right things, that I could usethat work to feel good about
doing the wrong things, that Icould use that work to convince
myself that I actually did somework without moving the needle
on anything tangible.
And as much as it would be niceif we could all just sit in the
mountains in the Himalayas anddrink bone broth and meditate
all day, that's not the world welive in and we've chosen to
(00:51):
incarnate in these meat suits inour current realities for a
specific reason.
And a lot of the self-work thatI was doing was me trying to
find a quiet space from thenoise inside of me that was
screaming, saying Chase, you'resupposed to be out here creating
(01:12):
something.
Okay, we incarnated in the 20thand 21st century because it is
the playground of life and ithas never been easier to create
your reality.
What are you doing sitting onyour hands, dude?
We have handed you the worldand I, I, I would, I would hear
(01:34):
it, but I wouldn't listen andI'd go and I'd eat some more
mushrooms and I'd go meet myselfand I would try and figure it
all out.
I would hear it I am that guyI'm meant to create, I'm meant
to, but I wouldn't take anyfucking action.
And I'd go back down the rabbithole and I'd go sit with Cambo.
(01:55):
I'd get super clear and I'mlike, all right, cool, I got it,
I'm gonna go do it.
And I wouldn't take any actionand my subconscious would start
speaking to me again and I'd goand I'd smoke some 5-MeO-DMT and
I'd go melt into a rainbowriver of source consciousness
and I can create my reality.
And then I still wouldn'tfucking do it.
(02:18):
And then one day it's like oh,oh, what if all this integration
stuff that I've been talkingabout is actually me talking to
me about it?
What if the masculine energythat I possess that regardless
of gender, we all possessmasculine energy we can tap into
(02:38):
?
What if the masculine energy Ipossess is meant to create?
What if that makes life morefun?
What if we are allgoal-striving mechanisms and
while, yes, happiness can becreative from within to keep us
from needing that next thing,what if I will actually have
some fun using this happinessthat I created, this alignment,
(03:00):
that I've created thisenlightenment to go out and help
others.
Right, there is only a certainlevel of self-work that is
applicable and practical beforewe have to, before we get to go
out and start actually takingaction on our goals.
(03:21):
Right, I have talked to peoplesince my shift in business
coaching and say, oh yeah, I'mworking with this personal
development coach or this shadowwork coach or this coach and
then I'm going to come work withyou and that's fine.
Yeah, every journey and, if I'mbeing quite honest, it reminds
(03:44):
me of where I was.
And I know for damn sure thatif I had just taken the action
to drive my business forwardsooner, when I cause what
happened, guys, uh, especiallyduring is, it rocked me as a
brick and mortar gym owner.
I took some action.
I was not admitting how much itrocked me as a person and as a
(04:08):
business owner.
So when I dove into all thepsychedelics and everything and
it was fun, I made some greatfriends and I'm still friends
with a lot of them, so it was agreat time.
And if, at the same time, I hadactually been taking action on
my business, we I mean, you knowif, if some bots were candy
nuts, every day would beChristmas, and I mean there,
(04:29):
there would have been a lot ofdebt avoided there.
So what does that mean to youguys?
Right, what, what, what, wheredid you get uncomfortable in the
last five minutes of me ranting?
Where'd you go?
Huh, wow, am I just playing acircle, jerk, mental
(04:52):
masturbation game of trying towork on myself instead of put
myself to work, work on myselfinstead of put myself to work?
You know, there's this,especially in the last few years
.
There's this talk ofoptimization and you got to have
the perfect morning routine andyou got to have this and you
got to have that Y'all.
I have never made more money iswhen I have a toddler and my
(05:18):
sleep is absolutely jacked, andmaybe I don't meditate for three
days in a row, maybe I don'tget my cold plunge for a couple
of weeks, but I have a reason tomove and create.
And that's what I know formyself, and this is a tangent I
wasn't expecting this one totake.
(05:38):
I know for myself that sense ofpurpose that I was chasing, I
found in parenthood.
Maybe it's not your particularjam, that's fine, but you could
find it in actually takingaction on the things that you've
been avoiding?
Right, if you're still here,there's something inside you
(05:59):
going oh, what have I beenavoiding?
Is it that talk with my partner?
Is it the talk with my boss?
Is it the actions on mybusiness?
Is it where I've been lettingmyself get complacent with my
health and wellness?
Is it where I've been lettingmyself get complacent with my
(06:20):
health and wellness?
Like, where is it Right and howcan you address it?
Like, how can you actuallyaddress it?
Not, how can I, how can Imeditate and do breath, work on
it and forgive myself for it?
No, like, what actual fuckingactions can you take?
Right, silence, to let that oneland for a second, because too
(06:44):
often we can fall into thesepersonal development rabbit
holes and all they are is a wayto trick ourselves into feeling
good about ourselves even thoughwe haven't actually done
anything.
Right, and if you are happy, ifyour bills are paid and you're
good, then why are you stilldoing all the personal
(07:05):
development work?
Right?
What inside of you is asking tobe answered?
What is the call that thatyou're using this over piling of
personal development work totry and run away from?
And what happens if you answerthat call?
What happens if you actually goon the journey?
(07:31):
Speaking from personalexperience, I was scared of what
lies on the other side and Iwasn't scared of failure.
Fuck, I've failed before.
I was scared of actuallysucceeding.
I still remember this momentwhen I realized I had it all.
I'd been in business for myselffor a few years.
I understood the game, Iunderstood marketing, I was a
(07:51):
sales savage and I realized thatI was scared of success.
And then I went and dove intopersonal development work and
thought that I was scared ofsuccess.
And then I went and dove intopersonal development work and
thought that I could quell thatfear of success without actually
going and getting success.
Now you know what actually gotme over my fear of success Going
(08:15):
out and getting it andrealizing that life actually got
better.
The thing about success is itwas unknown and internally I was
wondering huh, will I still beable to be me?
Because if I go out and Iachieve actual success, then
that means fundamentally that Iwas wrong about who I am.
(08:37):
If I haven't gotten that untilnow, then I was wrong about me
and I have to admit that I canstep into a new paradigm, funny
thing being that new paradigmwasn't as like scary or big or
new as people make it out to be.
It's simple, daily actionsexecuted over and over again,
(09:04):
and you only know to put a bowon this.
I realized that I only.
I only figured out whatpersonal development work I
actually needed to do when Istarted taking the action To get
the thing that I was kind ofscared of, because then Layers
(09:26):
started peeling off of me and Istarted seeing new pieces.
But you can't see what's aroundthe corner Without stepping
around the fucking corner, youknow.
It slapped me in the face like a ton of bricks, guys
the awareness that all of myself-awareness, all of my
self-development, all of myself-work was actually starting
to hold me back.
Good at that stuff.
(00:28):
That I could trick myself intobelieving that I was doing the
right things, that I could usethat work to feel good about
doing the wrong things, that Icould use that work to convince
myself that I actually did somework without moving the needle
on anything tangible.
And as much as it would be niceif we could all just sit in the
mountains in the Himalayas anddrink bone broth and meditate
all day, that's not the world welive in and we've chosen to
(00:51):
incarnate in these meat suits inour current realities for a
specific reason.
And a lot of the self-work thatI was doing was me trying to
find a quiet space from thenoise inside of me that was
screaming, saying Chase, you'resupposed to be out here creating
(01:12):
something.
Okay, we incarnated in the 20thand 21st century because it is
the playground of life and ithas never been easier to create
your reality.
What are you doing sitting onyour hands, dude?
We have handed you the worldand I, I, I would, I would hear
(01:34):
it, but I wouldn't listen andI'd go and I'd eat some more
mushrooms and I'd go meet myselfand I would try and figure it
all out.
I would hear it I am that guyI'm meant to create, I'm meant
to, but I wouldn't take anyfucking action.
And I'd go back down the rabbithole and I'd go sit with Cambo.
(01:55):
I'd get super clear and I'mlike, all right, cool, I got it,
I'm gonna go do it.
And I wouldn't take any actionand my subconscious would start
speaking to me again and I'd goand I'd smoke some 5-MeO-DMT and
I'd go melt into a rainbowriver of source consciousness
and I can create my reality.
And then I still wouldn'tfucking do it.
(02:18):
And then one day it's like oh,oh, what if all this integration
stuff that I've been talkingabout is actually me talking to
me about it?
What if the masculine energythat I possess that regardless
of gender, we all possessmasculine energy we can tap into
(02:38):
?
What if the masculine energy Ipossess is meant to create?
What if that makes life morefun?
What if we are allgoal-striving mechanisms and
while, yes, happiness can becreative from within to keep us
from needing that next thing,what if I will actually have
some fun using this happinessthat I created, this alignment,
(03:00):
that I've created thisenlightenment to go out and help
others.
Right, there is only a certainlevel of self-work that is
applicable and practical beforewe have to, before we get to go
out and start actually takingaction on our goals.
(03:21):
Right, I have talked to peoplesince my shift in business
coaching and say, oh yeah, I'mworking with this personal
development coach or this shadowwork coach or this coach and
then I'm going to come work withyou and that's fine.
Yeah, every journey and, if I'mbeing quite honest, it reminds
(03:44):
me of where I was.
And I know for damn sure thatif I had just taken the action
to drive my business forwardsooner, when I cause what
happened, guys, uh, especiallyduring is, it rocked me as a
brick and mortar gym owner.
I took some action.
I was not admitting how much itrocked me as a person and as a
(04:08):
business owner.
So when I dove into all thepsychedelics and everything and
it was fun, I made some greatfriends and I'm still friends
with a lot of them, so it was agreat time.
And if, at the same time, I hadactually been taking action on
my business, we I mean, you knowif, if some bots were candy
nuts, every day would beChristmas, and I mean there,
(04:29):
there would have been a lot ofdebt avoided there.
So what does that mean to youguys?
Right, what, what, what, wheredid you get uncomfortable in the
last five minutes of me ranting?
Where'd you go?
Huh, wow, am I just playing acircle, jerk, mental
(04:52):
masturbation game of trying towork on myself instead of put
myself to work, work on myselfinstead of put myself to work?
You know, there's this,especially in the last few years
.
There's this talk ofoptimization and you got to have
the perfect morning routine andyou got to have this and you
got to have that Y'all.
I have never made more money iswhen I have a toddler and my
(05:18):
sleep is absolutely jacked, andmaybe I don't meditate for three
days in a row, maybe I don'tget my cold plunge for a couple
of weeks, but I have a reason tomove and create.
And that's what I know formyself, and this is a tangent I
wasn't expecting this one totake.
(05:38):
I know for myself that sense ofpurpose that I was chasing, I
found in parenthood.
Maybe it's not your particularjam, that's fine, but you could
find it in actually takingaction on the things that you've
been avoiding?
Right, if you're still here,there's something inside you
(05:59):
going oh, what have I beenavoiding?
Is it that talk with my partner?
Is it the talk with my boss?
Is it the actions on mybusiness?
Is it where I've been lettingmyself get complacent with my
health and wellness?
Is it where I've been lettingmyself get complacent with my
(06:20):
health and wellness?
Like, where is it Right and howcan you address it?
Like, how can you actuallyaddress it?
Not, how can I, how can Imeditate and do breath, work on
it and forgive myself for it?
No, like, what actual fuckingactions can you take?
Right, silence, to let that oneland for a second, because too
(06:44):
often we can fall into thesepersonal development rabbit
holes and all they are is a wayto trick ourselves into feeling
good about ourselves even thoughwe haven't actually done
anything.
Right, and if you are happy, ifyour bills are paid and you're
good, then why are you stilldoing all the personal
(07:05):
development work?
Right?
What inside of you is asking tobe answered?
What is the call that thatyou're using this over piling of
personal development work totry and run away from?
And what happens if you answerthat call?
What happens if you actually goon the journey?
(07:31):
Speaking from personalexperience, I was scared of what
lies on the other side and Iwasn't scared of failure.
Fuck, I've failed before.
I was scared of actuallysucceeding.
I still remember this momentwhen I realized I had it all.
I'd been in business for myselffor a few years.
I understood the game, Iunderstood marketing, I was a
(07:51):
sales savage and I realized thatI was scared of success.
And then I went and dove intopersonal development work and
thought that I was scared ofsuccess.
And then I went and dove intopersonal development work and
thought that I could quell thatfear of success without actually
going and getting success.
Now you know what actually gotme over my fear of success Going
(08:15):
out and getting it andrealizing that life actually got
better.
The thing about success is itwas unknown and internally I was
wondering huh, will I still beable to be me?
Because if I go out and Iachieve actual success, then
that means fundamentally that Iwas wrong about who I am.
(08:37):
If I haven't gotten that untilnow, then I was wrong about me
and I have to admit that I canstep into a new paradigm, funny
thing being that new paradigmwasn't as like scary or big or
new as people make it out to be.
It's simple, daily actionsexecuted over and over again,
(09:04):
and you only know to put a bowon this.
I realized that I only.
I only figured out whatpersonal development work I
actually needed to do when Istarted taking the action To get
the thing that I was kind ofscared of, because then Layers
(09:26):
started peeling off of me and Istarted seeing new pieces.
But you can't see what's aroundthe corner Without stepping
around the fucking corner, youknow.
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