Summary:
Why do we chase external validation? How does it erode confidence and keep us stuck? In this episode, Rita breaks down the hidden cost of seeking approval and explains how to shift into self-ownership. She shares personal experiences, asks powerful reflection questions, and provides practical tools to stop chasing and start embodying your worth.
Reflection Questions:
- Where in your life are you chasing validation?
- What would change if you gave yourself the approval you’re seeking?
- How would you walk into a room if you already felt valid?
Timestamps:
04:15 – How the “high need to be seen as” keeps you trapped
07:40 – Rita’s personal experience: The pressure to appear like she had it all together
10:10 – The question that changes everything: What if you already felt valid?
13:35 – Chasing vs. standing in confidence: The energy shift that changes everything
14:57 – Childhood programming & the drive for approval
18:16 – Why external approval is fleeting and impossible to control
22:49 – The real impact of over-giving & over-performing
27:39 – How to know when you're seeking validation (& what to do instead)
32:25 – Audit your motives: Are you doing this for you or for approval?
37:14 – The moment you stop chasing approval, you reclaim your power
39:30 – Reflection questions & final takeaways
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