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Episode Summary:
In this powerful episode, Rita unpacks the psychological and spiritual threshold we all face in the “messy middle” the in-between phase of desiring change but feeling frozen in fear. Drawing from real-life examples, nervous system science, and transformational coaching, she shares how to move from fear to aligned action using three life-changing tools.
Whether you're standing in the doorway of your next chapter or circling your vision with doubt, this episode gives you the clarity and courage to take the next step forward—messy middle and all.
Top 5 Takeaways:
Liminality = The Messy Middle
It’s the transitional space between your old self and your new self
Fight, Flight, or Freeze Isn’t Just for Gazelles
Humans stay frozen in survival mode because our perception keeps our nervous system activated long after the threat is gone.
Tool #1: The 90-Second Rule
Allow yourself to feel fear fully for 90 seconds, then ask: “What would I do if I trusted myself right now?”
Tool #2: Future Self Journaling
Write daily as your future self—what you decide, think, and no longer tolerate
Tool #3: Flip Fear with a New Question
When fear masquerades as logic, ask: “What if it works better than I imagined?” and choose faith over fear
Time Stamps:
03:10 The concept of liminality and standing in the threshold
07:20 Nervous system dysregulation and how humans freeze
10:00 Why you can’t “figure it out” from a fear-based mind
12:40 External excuses (economy, market, etc.) and reclaiming agency
21:30 Tool #1 – The 90-Second Rule for emotional release
24:00 Tool #2 – Future Self Journaling + daily prompts
29:10 Tool #3 – Fear masquerading as logic and how to flip it
33:10 How we unconsciously justify playing small
40:30 Reframing “I’m stuck” and rewriting your internal story
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