Wild Sobriety

In today’s episode of Wild Sobriety, I’m talking about what I believe is the most overlooked—and most crucial—piece of sustainable sobriety and feminine healing: radical self-compassion.

After years in the self-development and coaching world, I’ve noticed something that quietly keeps women stuck: the belief that healing means trying harder, being better, or fixing yourself alone. In this episode, I share why that approach actually d...

The start of a new year often comes with reflection, intention-setting, and pressure to get everything “right.” For many women, that pressure quietly shows up as overwhelm — and eventually as the urge to drink, numb, or escape. In this video, I explore how the way we approach priorities, especially at the beginning of a new year, can actually fuel stress drinking rather than support real change.

This isn’t a conversation about resol...

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On today’s episode, I’m talking about the one thing that’s usually missing from Dry January—and why that’s exactly why so many alcohol breaks don’t last.

If you’re participating in Dry Janu...

In this episode I sit down with Essence Turner, Self Love Coach, to talk about self-worth, healing, and finding your true purpose. 

We dive into her personal journey from the underground of exotic dancing, drinking and instability to radical forgiveness, healing and serving others.  Essences shares a relatable story of finding her way into her feminine expression, practical tips for self-love, and how to break through limiting belie...

What if nothing is actually going wrong?

In this episode, I’m unpacking a truth that has completely changed how I move through sobriety, business, money stress, emotions, and even embarrassment: the work is always working — either for you or on you.

We talk about getting out of your head, breaking the mental loops, and learning how to trust the process even when it doesn’t feel good yet. I share how sobriety taught me clear seeing — ...

Hey friends, today’s episode is extra special—I’m sitting down with Nicole, a former client and now a true inspiration, as she celebrates an incredible milestone: 1,000 days alcohol-free! 

We get real about the ups and downs of her sobriety journey, the grit it took to keep going, and how life has changed in ways she never expected. Nicole opens up about the challenges, the small (and big) wins, and what it really means to make alco...

Sobriety and feminine living meet the magic of the winter solstice in this episode. I’m diving into what the solstice really means for those of us longing to live through the lens of love, and how this dark, quiet time of year in the northern hemisphere is actually the perfect invitation to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves.

I’ll share how I use the solstice as a portal for deep inner exploration—tapping into the cycl...

We unpack the fifth blind spot that keeps women stuck with alcohol: the belief that seeking support means something is wrong, rather than a powerful up level. We show how to replace isolation and shame with evaluation, evidence, and celebration so alcohol becomes irrelevant.

• reframing sobriety 
• moving from isolation
• replacing alcohol-as-reward 
• strategy's that work to track your progress
• shar...

I used to think if I just read one more book or listened to one more podcast, I’d finally “get it.” But all that information kept me busy instead of free. In this episode, I talk about the hidden blind spot of overconsumption—why filling your brain with recovery content isn’t the same as changing your relationship with alcohol.

I share how twenty years of drinking alongside a wellness practice taught me that awareness isn’t enough. ...

If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious, trying to stop drinking, or rebuilding after a relapse, this conversation will help you understand exactly where you are and what you need ...

You can quit drinking and still feel like you’re battling yourself all day. In this episode, I talk about the blind spot most women miss — the power of self-talk — and how the words we use can either fuel cravings or dissolve them in seconds.

I share how I learned to stop fighting my mind and start speaking to myself with compassion instead. When stress stacks up, judgment adds pressure until the body wants relief. But the antidote ...

In this episode, I get real about what failure tolerance looks like for women who keep trying to quit drinking or make big changes in their lives. 

I share how repeated attempts—even when they feel disappointing—are actually proof of your resilience and belief that something bigger is possible. 

You’ll hear why getting numb to failure is normal, how to recognize the lessons hidden in your attempts, and why resilience alone isn’t enou...

The hardest part isn’t pouring the last drink — it’s learning how to live well without needing one. In this episode, I share why “just quit” often fails and how a commitment-first approach makes sobriety simpler, softer, and actually sustainable.

Instead of fighting cravings, I walk you through how to uncover what alcohol has really been doing for you — comfort, transition, connection — and how to meet those needs in ways that honor...

This bonus episode is a truth-telling moment — the conversation I wish someone had given me during the 20 years I wanted to quit drinking but didn’t know where to turn. If you’ve been stuck between two awful options — white-knuckle sobriety forever or resigning yourself to drinking because nothing else feels right — this is your sign that a third option exists.

I share the real mindset shifts I learned outside of AA, how I finally m...

What if quitting drinking isn’t actually the real problem?

In this episode of Wild Sobriety, I share how I stopped making alcohol the center of my life — and started focusing on what actually mattered: learning to handle real life without needing to escape it.

I talk about how changing my relationship with alcohol wasn’t about giving something up, but about raising the quality of my problems — from “how do I stop drinking?” to “how d...

If you’re waiting for sobriety to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever.

I say that not to discourage you — but because the moment you stop chasing the quick fix is the moment real freedom begins. There’s always a cost: either the short-term comfort that keeps you small, or the long-term peace that expands every part of your life.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the three brutal — but liberating — truths that changed everything for m...

This is Part 1 of a 5 part series: The 5 Blindspots Secretly Sabotaging Your Sobriety.  I share  the three key reasons why distraction and replacement don’t lead to lasting change. Discover how to confront your beliefs, meet your real needs, and break free from the exhaustion of avoidance. Join me for a feminine-based approach to sustainable sobriety and start living your wildest, alcohol-free life!

• why avoidance keeps y...

If you're a woman over wondering "Am I an alcoholic?" - you're not alone. This is the question that keeps so many of us stuck in shame, confusion, and endless Google searches at 2am.

In this video, I'm sharing the truth about labels, the spectrum of alcohol use, and why the question itself might be keeping you from the freedom you're seeking.

🌹 IN TODAY'S VIDEO:
• Why the la...