"Alcohol Recovery" is ridiculous. It's time that changed.

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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical, and easy
decision.
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your best life when alcoholfree.
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Have you ever met somebody thatsays that they are in recovery?
I certainly have.
In fact, there was a period ofmy own life when I was trying to
stop drinking alcohol that Ithought that I was in recovery
as well.
So today I want to talk to youabout this idea of recovery.
And we're going to go deep intothis topic.
We're going to talk aboutaddiction, alcoholism, and
sobriety.
But today in this video, I'mgoing to give you an alternative

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way to look at this idea ofbeing in recovery.
And this is not going to bemainstream.
I'm pretty sure that if you, Idon't know, took this to your
therapist, they'd say the samething.
They say this guy has got noidea what he's talking about.
Because the ideas are going tobe contrarian in nature.
When I tried to stop drinkingalcohol, I went to Alcoholics
Anonymous for around about 90days.

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The problem is I refuse to buyinto this idea that I'm a
recovering alcoholic for therest of my life.
So today I'm going to unpackthis idea for you.
If we've not met yet, my name isLeon Sylvester.
I'm the founder ofsoberclear.com.
At this point, I've helped tensof thousands of people stop
drinking alcohol with thisYouTube channel.
I've done thousands ofone-on-one calls with people who
are looking for help.

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So whilst what I tell you inthis video isn't going to be for
everybody, I'm pretty sure thatif you've got an open mind,
you'll start to see this wholeidea of being in recovery in a
totally different way.
And if I'm honest, this could bethe final video that you ever
need to watch on stoppingdrinking.
So what is the problem here?
What am I talking about?
Well, let's just dive into thisidea of recovering.

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So what exactly do we recoverfrom?
And where does this wordrecovery even stem from?
Well, we recover from diseases.
So whenever somebody says, youknow, oh, I'm in recovery, we
know what they're talking about.
Usually they're in recovery,which means they're doing some
sort of 12-step program in orderto fix either an alcohol or a
drug addiction.
Now, when I went to AA, when Idid the 12-step program, I

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bought into this idea as well.
I was in recovery.
But it all started breaking downfor me when I realized that I
was an alcoholic with a diseasethat had no known cure.
So I'd hear people say, yeah,I'm in recovery, great.
They weren't drinking,fantastic.
I mean, I'm not knocking thatidea, and I'm not knocking that
they were sober, but you know,I'm not trying to criticize
people.
But then not once in any ofthese meetings did I ever meet

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somebody that said, I'verecovered.
See, to me, this is a massiveproblem.
And I'm sure that my own mother,who's been to AA for over 20
years, hasn't drank for over 20years, is gonna harshly disagree
with me on this.
And that's fine.
In fact, the whole idea of AAand being in recovery saved my
life because my mum stoppeddrinking alcohol through this
system.
She followed the 12 steps, shehasn't drank for over 20 years,

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it saved her life, which meantthat my upbringing was totally
different to that alternativelife path.
So I actually have my entirelife to thank for these ideas.
But where it breaks down for meis that we're not recovering.
It's that we stay in recoverybecause we have a lifelong
disease with no known cure.
So, in other words, if you're inrecovery and you label yourself

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an alcoholic and you follow the12-step program, this is where
we get diagnosed with a diseasewith no known cure.
But I'd like you to go and ask amedical professional if they
agree with this.
No medical professional is goingto tell you that you have a
disease with no known curebecause you drink too much of an
addictive drug.
It ain't gonna happen.
And if they do say it, thenthey're incredibly misinformed.
See, in this day and age, thislabel, this idea of being in

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recovery is slowly disappearing.
Medical professionals arecorrectly not calling people
alcoholics anymore and insteadlabeling the problem as alcohol
use disorder.
They're separating the personfrom the problem.
But when we're in recovery, wenever do that.
We are the problem.
We're in recovery, we have adisease, we have no known cure,
and we can never be fixed.
All we can do is go to thesemeetings for the rest of our

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lives.
That is the only solution.
Being in recovery typicallymeans going to 12-step meetings.
And I don't know if othermeetings out there use the same
terminology like smart meetingsor celebrate recovery.
I'm not sure if they use thisterm.
But after speaking withthousands of people who have a
drinking problem, if you want myhonest opinion, it's time that
we banish this idea of being inrecovery for the rest of our

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lives.
See, I got dengue fever.
So a couple of years ago, I wasin Ko Samui in Thailand.
Beautiful, beautiful place, andit was New Year.
And we'd rented this awesomevilla.
I was with my friends, we werehaving a great time, and we went
to this CrossFit gym.
And this CrossFit gym was deepin the jungle.
Well, not quite, but basicallythe gym was there, and then
right next to the gym was justlike thick jungle.
And the first day, I took my topoff because it was so damn humid

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and so hot.
And I must have been bitten onmy back by mosquitoes 20 times.
And it wiped me out.
I got dengue fever.
And it lasted, I don't know, 10days, I can't remember.
But it was pretty nasty.
I was completely drained and inbed all day and had like these
weird rashes on my skin.
And I need to be really carefulabout getting bitten by
mosquitoes because if I getdengue fever again, the chance
of death increases quitedramatically every time that you

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get it.
Because there are only a certainamount of strains.
But anyway, I recovered fromdengue fever.
That is a disease, a fever thatI've recovered from.
I don't go around now talking toeverybody that I meet that I'm a
recovering dengue fever holicwith a lifelong disease with no
known cure.
No, I recovered and moved onwith my life.
I've never met somebody thatsmokes cigarettes and tells me

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that they're in recovery.
But these are both drugs.
They're both highly addictivedrugs.
But when it comes to cigarettes,people just stop and move on.
So with alcohol, it's like thisdrug that's just in its own
camp.
We don't have people say thatI'm in recovery from watching
too much pornography and they'vedeveloped a pornography
addiction.

Because here's the thing (05:45):
I am not saying that your body won't
recover after you stop drinking.
Of course it will.
It is going to heal.
So I can understand where thephrase comes from.
You do recover, but you don'tstay in recovery for the rest of
your life.
This idea of being in recoveryis all past focused.
What we're really doing when wesay this word of being in

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recovery is we're really justidentifying with a part of our
life that we've tried to moveaway from.
I'm in recovery, I'm inrecovery.
I'm reminding myself all thetime of what I'm recovering
from.
And that's fine.
Listen, if you do that andyou're getting success with that
approach and that mindset, I'mnot here to tell you to do
anything differently.
But putting your focus and yourmindset on a problem that you
used to have for the rest ofyour life, it makes no sense to

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me.
Why would I want to walk aroundwith this label for the rest of
my life?
I don't want to call myself analcoholic.
I don't think I'm an alcoholicbecause I don't think there's
such a thing.
This idea of being in recoveryand being an alcoholic, I hate
to say it, but it's a made-upself-help term.
You have got absolutely nothingwrong with you.
The very nature of alcohol isincredibly addictive.
If you drink alcohol and you gotaddicted to alcohol, that is the

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nature of alcohol.
It's not the nature of you.
Sure, you will have to gothrough some kind of adjustment
period, right?
Your body is going to heal.
You're not going to feel quiteright.
So instead of recovering from analcohol addiction for the rest
of your life and making the pastthe focus and identifying this
way, do the opposite.
We don't recover.
When we stop drinking alcohol,we're not in recovery for the
rest of our life.
What we need to do instead isrebuild.

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Imagine that.
Imagine rather than somebodysaying, Oh, I'm in recovery, is
no, I'm rebuilding my life.
I'm rebuilding my marriage.
I'm rebuilding my career, I'mrebuilding my health, I'm doing
things that are going in theright direction.
I'm not running away fromalcohol and doing all of this.
How much more empowering doesthat sound?
Because that's the shift that ishappening in this day and age.
This idea of spending your liferecovering from an alcohol

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addiction just makes no sense.
But the idea of rebuilding is alifelong journey that never
ends, but it's all positive.
It's all focused on what's infront of you.
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