THIS Means It's Time To QUIT Alcohol

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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Stopping drinking alcohol is one of the most
emotionally turbulent thingsthat you can ever do in your
life.
It is such a strange thing thatwe go through when we try and
stop because so many emotionsjust flood up out of nowhere and
we don't quite know what to dowith them.
Sometimes the emotion is thedesire to drink, but sometimes
it's totally different.
It might be a feeling ofcelebration, and then we don't

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know what to do with that.
It might be a feeling of pain,of grief.
Again, we don't know what to dowith it.
And this journey that we all gothrough when we're trying to
stop drinking alcohol is aroller coaster.
There is no other word thatdescribes it better.
It is up and it is down.
And during the 10 years that Istruggled for, during the 10
years that I was really tryingto put all the pieces together
and really just figure this outonce and for all, I went through

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these cycles.
And I know not everybody goesthrough these cycles the same
way that I did.
I've worked with a lot of peoplewho have just sustained the same
amount of drinking for decades.
But for me, it was this up anddown turbulent cycle.
And the reason why I wentthrough these cycles so early on
was because I wasn't a chronicdaily drinker for decades.
I realized almost probably whenI was 19 years of age that

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number one is I would never havejust one drink.
I would almost always drink morethan I intended to.
But the other thing I realizedis that this drug, this thing,
it is slowing me down, it isholding me back, and it is doing
nothing good for me.
And it just kept causing damage,it just kept hurting me.
And I'd read these self-helpbooks, right?
When I was in my 20s, I went, Iwent on like this self-help

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binge and I read all theseclassic books, right?
Like uh Think and Grow Rich, youknow, How to Win Friends and
Influence People, like thesehabit books, these relationship
books, and I went on this likeinformation consuming spree.
And part of that informationconsuming spree is I came across
this book and it's called TheOne Thing.
And I've spoken about thisbefore in the channel, but I
want to bring it back up becauseagain, often we don't need to be

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taught anything new.
We need to be reminded.
So I like to teach similarthings because this one is just
so useful.
There was a book called The OneThing, and I'm quite sure it was
written by some real estateagent, but the whole book was
around this question.
And the question was what is theone thing that I could do such
that by doing it, everythingelse becomes easier or
unnecessary.

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So it was really a book onprioritizing, but it was talking
about business and career.
But it didn't just relate tothat, it related to everything.
Think about it.
If, you know, let's say you're abusiness person and you want to
grow your business, but you'retired and you're drained.
And let's just say that you'reobese and you know that being
obese is the cause of your lackof energy because of your diet,
because of the extra body weightthat you're carrying around for

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you.
The answer to that questionmight just be that I need to
lose weight, and that will makeeverything else easier or
necessary.
For me, when I ask myself thatquestion, the same thing come up
every single time.
Stop drinking.
It was obvious that was thenumber one source of pain in my
life.
It was the number one thing thatwas holding me back.
But every time I tried to stop,this emotional turbulence would

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hit me.
So going back to this cycle, howit went for me is I would drink
and it would be fine.
Life would be normal.
You know, I'd have things undercontrol.
I might be doing something, youknow, work or whatever, and
having friends or having theirpartner, and life would be okay.
And that's how it would alwaysstart.
And then over time, I'd drinkmore, or I'd go on a binge and
something bad would happen.

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And I'd reach this peak amountof pain.
And I would get to a place whereeither the pain wasn't enough,
so I'd keep drinking until thepain got worse, or I'd get to a
place where the pain would beenough to motivate me.
And I would stop drinking.
Sometimes I might stop drinkingfor 24 hours.
And then I'd restart that samecycle again.
Sometimes I might stop drinkingfor a week, but this cycle would
just repeat because what wouldhappen is the pain would

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disappear, which could takeanywhere from one day to six
months, because I would stop andstart, and then I'd have that
idea.
It would come back.
It would be like this light bulbswitch.
Maybe this time's gonna bedifferent.
Maybe this time I can be like myreally cool, charismatic,
successful friend that's gotmillions of dollars of real
estate and a great career, andhe has one or two drinks.
Maybe I can be like him.
If he can do it, why can't I?

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Every single time I'd have onedrink, we know what happens.
We know the end of the story.
And then I'd drink again, thingswould be fine, and then boom,
the emotion would smack me in myface, and I'd be back at square
one.
And if this story soundsfamiliar to you, the reason why
I wanted to talk to you about itis because it is normal.
This up and down cycle goes onfor all of us.
Now, luckily, I found a waythrough it by reframing the way

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that I viewed alcohol.
I broke it down from its firstprinciples, I studied the
individual component parts ofthe problem, put things back
together, and developed a newparadigm, this new worldview.
This is what I help people do inmy business at soberclear.com,
where we work with businessowners and professionals, we
help them through this processto get them in control of their
own drinking.
But I'm not here to persuade youto join my program.

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I'm here to tell you that if youhave gone through a similar
cycle, if you've been up anddown, it is normal and it is
okay.
You're not the only person whogoes through this cycle.
I've gone through it, and tensof, if not hundreds of millions
of people globally have gonethrough the very same thing.
Sometimes when we drink, we canfeel alone.
I just got off the phone withsomebody and he said that he's

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been struggling to stop drinkingfor most of his life.
He's been to rehabs, medicaldetoxes, all of this stuff.
He told me something reallyinteresting, and this is what
encouraged me to make thisvideo.
He said that he's got friendsthat don't drink.
And he said that these peopledrank for longer than me, they
drank more than me.
And I said, How did you stop?
And they just said, I don'tknow, I just stopped.
And for that guy, it was like,please, just give me a solution.

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He tried AA, he tried all thisstuff, and nothing was working.
And can you imagine thefrustration being in your 40s or
your 50s and feeling so alone inthis problem?
Because the thing is, is peopledon't really vocalize it.
They're not gonna go around andsay, hey, friend, I've got a
massive drinking problem.
Usually people don't talk aboutthese things because we just
want to brush it under the rug.
It's just alcohol, right?

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That's the way society sees it.
It's just a few drinks, it'sonly alcohol, it's not like
you're taking drugs like cocaineor anything bad, you're just
drinking.
So nobody goes around reallytalking about their struggles
and their problems.
But I am telling you, afterspeaking with literally
thousands of people at thispoint who have got a drinking
problem, I've seen people fromall walks of life get hit with

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this issue.
I have worked with medicaldoctors, I've worked with
healthcare CEOs that areresponsible for thousands of
employees.
I'm not even joking, I've hadstop drinking coaches contact me
for help.
Respect to that person that didthat, but this is what I'm
talking about.
Like, you do you think you'rethe only person that suffers
with this problem?
Of course you're not.
But it feels that way becauseit's so hard to know what to do.

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Where do we turn?
Right?
It seems sometimes like the onlypeople that are vocal about it
are at the local AA meeting.
And I don't know about you, butI don't want to go there.
Right?
I don't want to call myself analcoholic, I don't want to have
to go to these meetings for therest of my life.
I don't want to do that.
What I wanted to do was fix theproblem and move on.
And if you're struggling rightnow, all I want you to take away
from this video is I want toremind you that number one is
you're not alone.

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But number two, the change ispossible.
It is 100% possible.
Just like that guy told me.
There are people out there thathave drank for longer than him,
that have drank more than him,and then just suddenly stopped
drinking.
That happens all of the time.
See, I'm pretty sure that myfamily thought that I was going
to die from drugs and alcohol.
I'm pretty sure that thatthought went through their head.

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I'm pretty sure I scared theliving shit out of them.
And I have felt so defeated andI've felt so hopeless that I
just thought that's it.
My life is finished.
I'm just gonna do this for therest of my life.
Probably die in my mid-30s andthat was it.
Oh, and I'm getting quitepassionate talking about this
because those thoughts have gonethrough my damn head.
But I fixed it.
I found a way through.
And if I can do it, if all thepeople I've worked with can do

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it, if the tens of thousands ofpeople who have emailed me over
the years just through watchingthis channel have done it, if
people who I've worked with thatwere drinking it so much that
they were losing their eyesightand they have managed to stop
drinking for multiple years, ifthey can do it, then guess what?
So can you.
And the only thing that I wantfor you is for you to not lose
hope.
Even if you've already stoppeddrinking, even if you're walking

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this path and you've got somemomentum and things are feeling
good, don't lose hope.
You can make this changepermanent.
The best thing you can do, in myeyes, is fix the way that you
view alcohol instead of tryingto fix the way that you view
yourself.
And maybe for a second, alsoconsider that question that I
mentioned earlier.
What is the one thing that youcan do in your life such that by
doing it, everything elsebecomes easier or unnecessary?

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And if stopping drinking alcoholis the first answer that comes
to your mind, then I feel yourpain.
Believe me.
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Regardless, I believe in you.
I know you can do this.
Have a great day.