2 wrong trip ideas, trust the process

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Are you struggling finding an answer to a problem either to you your health problems or relationships or work well I was struggling with finding an idea for a trip and this is what happened to listen to the episode to really see how this can help you with your problem.

Sometimes, we can only discover what we truly want by first exploring and rejecting the wrong options, as the process of trial and error helps clarify our desires-whether it’s choosing a trip destination, a job, or any important decision. So, instead of getting discouraged when things don’t feel right, embrace each step as part of the journey toward finding the right answer, and don’t give up even if it takes time.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Guys, how are you today?
I'm going to share with yousomething that I had a
revelation about an aha momentthat seems a bit obvious to me
now that I am that I've had it,but it didn't seem to me obvious
at all while I was going throughit.
So I want to share with you incase you're in the middle of
going through your process.

(00:20):
finding the right answer for youand it could be the right answer
for let's say food or workoutsor finding the right person for
you or finding the right job foryourself or finding the right
living situation whatever answeryou're looking for right now I

(00:41):
hope I'm hoping the story helpsand so this is what happened
this was a few months ago my Myhusband and I were planning a
trip, just the two of us, to getaway.
We set up babysitting for fouror five days and we could not
pass up this opportunity.
With our four kids, we justwanted to go away and really

(01:03):
just rest and just somewhere todo something together, which we
tried to make a point of doingthat regularly.
So we decided, okay, let's dothat.
But we did not know where wewanted to go and for the longest
time I had no idea to the pointwhere I just gave up kind of

(01:24):
figuring it out and I justthought you know what let let my
husband figure it out because myanswer in my head was I don't
know where I want to go I don'tcare I don't want anything and I
think part of it was I was tootired from taking care of the
kids And I forgot all the joysof traveling because maybe I was

(01:45):
traveling with my kids.
And I just did not have anydesire to go anywhere.
So I could not access that pointof me where I wanted something,
which was weird.
So I let it go and I toldmyself, okay, let my husband
figure it out.
So he came back to me with threeoptions.
And...

(02:07):
At first, I didn't know whichones I wanted.
And as I kind of was talking tomy husband and he picked one, as
soon as he picked that one, Irealized I do not want that one.
And as soon as we moved on tothe next, I also realized that I
also don't want that one.

(02:28):
And all of this happened in thespace of like not, you know, one
conversation.
It happened in the space ofweeks.
So each conversation was spacedout between the other one.
So it was not like a quick aharealization.
Each time he would pick one andsay, like throughout the couple

(02:50):
days, I would be like, oh mygosh, I don't want to go there.
We've been there and I justdon't, this does not excite me.
And so after the first twooptions, after, you know, him
picking them, I just realizedthis is not what I want.
And I want actually this thirdoption that I actually am
excited about.
So my point here is that I couldnot have figured out that I want

(03:19):
this third option withoutpicking the first two options
that were not right.
And I did not know what I wanteduntil we picked the wrong
options.
So here's What I'm saying isthat in the process of any

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answer, I mean, I know my momprobably already knows this.
So as I hear my mom listeningand she's like, yeah, yeah,
yeah.
But, and you probably alreadymight already know this to a
certain level, but I want us toexpand our mind to apply to
this.
a situation we're currentlystruggling in.
For example, my friend, she'slooking, she's actually applying

(04:04):
for a job right now.
She had an interview and todayshe just heard back and they
invited her back for anotherinterview, which is super
exciting.
But all last week, I know shewas miserable because she, I'm
pretty sure she decided thatthey didn't want her to come
back for another interview,which was miserable and she was

(04:25):
depressed and we didn't evenmeet up.
So If you're in a situationthat's like that, that you are
miserable and you think this isit and you're upset and all you
can see is right now, I want youto think that this is just a
step in the process of findingthe right answer for you, which

(04:45):
is Finding the other 99 wronganswers.
It's super obvious now, now thatI can look at the situation in
hindsight, and it could be superobvious to you for other
situations, but when we're init, what if we expanded our mind

(05:06):
in these terms that, oh, thisis...
And it was Corinne Crabtree'sweight loss program, and it's
awesome.
And when I joined it, I actuallyhad a breakthrough, and I told

(05:28):
myself, you know what, thismight not be it, but I'm willing
to do this step to get to theright step.
So whenever we start something,we might have the hopes that
this is it.
Finally, I figured it out.
But so often it's not and we getso discouraged and disappointed

(05:48):
that we give up.
And I just don't want to dothat.
And I want to encourage you notto do that either.
And just keep going and keeplike accumulating the wrong
answers until you find the rightone.
And that's my offering to youguys today that it's super
trivial with the trip.

(06:09):
You know, I didn't know what Iwanted until we picked one.
I'm like, oh, no.
I don't want this one.
We've been there.
Super boring.
That was in my head.
And I only figured out what wewant by picking the wrong ones.
So what if we do the same thingwith our job?
But that could take years,right?

(06:33):
Because as for my friend, she'ssearching for fulfillment and
she's tried a job and that couldtake a year.
and to fully learn it, to fullyexplore it, to then find out
that, you know what, this doesnot excite me.
I'm not learning enough.
I'm not thriving here.

(06:54):
I want something more.
I want more of a challenge.
That could be a whole year forone step or more, right?
So that's just the minimum.
And that could be reallyfrustrating because you just
want to be done with theprocess.
But nope, it's a process.
So That's what I have for you.
Don't give up.
Think of it as just a couple ofsteps, wrong steps until you

(07:17):
find the right one.
And hopefully it doesn't takethat long because I know we are
impatient.
All right, guys, I love you allso much and I'll see you in the
next episode.