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April 25, 2025 5 mins

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Instead of waiting to feel better to start doing something, do it backwards start feeling better and then do something.

Of course I give a couple of examples of my own and hope that you apply them to yourself and your own things but my main take away for you is please don’t wait to feel better to start doing something just start doing something by feeling better and then you’ll feel better before during and after.

Feel lighter and then start fasting

Feel stronger and then start working out

Feel organized and then organize your life

Feel helpful and then help a friend

This way you get to feel good before during and after, so don’t wait to feel better to start doing something feel better first and then do something

Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Okay, so this came out of a little conversation I
had with my husband thatinspired this because I think
that a lot of us will think thisway.
And I think it applies to if youwant to start something new, if
we want to add a new activity toour day, if we want to, you
know, the usual, startexercising, start drinking more
water, eat better, whatever.

(00:22):
Just take any of that, right?
Start doing something creative.
So...
We were talking about fasting,and I was telling him how
awesome it is, and I love it.
And he said something like, Ineed to feel better to start
doing something.

(00:43):
And I just could not disagreemore, and that's not a judgment
on him, and I think I've donethat before as well, but now I
do it backwards, and I think...
you should start doing itbackwards as well.
First, you start doing somethingand you don't wait for the

(01:04):
feeling.
So you start with the feeling.
Instead of waiting to feelbetter and then start doing
something, you start with thefeeling and then you do
something.
For example, and that's how italways works anyway.
We just don't realize it.
And if we keep waiting for thefeeling to come, for us to do

(01:25):
something, we'll wait a longtime.
So basically, how does the modelwork, right?
Brooke Castillo taught us,right?
First, we have a circumstance,for example, wanting to work
out.
Then we have a thought about it,and that thought creates our
feeling.
And from that feeling is ouraction comes, right?
So if we keep waiting to workout, we have to start at the

(01:49):
top, right?
Circumstances of the workout,then we have to have a thought
about it.
And that thought will determinehow we feel about the workout.
So if we keep thinking, I needto feel better to exercise, then
that feels how?
Like, I'm just going to try iton for myself, right?
I feel like kind of down, right?

(02:13):
Bad.
I'm just going to generalize thefeeling.
I feel down, bad.
And then from that feeling, I'mnot going to go work out, right?
I'm just going to keep sittinghere waiting to feel better.
Versus if the circumstance isworking out, my thought could be
is I want to feel good, then thefeeling would be determined.

(02:37):
And from that feeling, I wouldgo work out.
So see how it always starts witha feeling.
And for me personally, I alwayslook for how do I want to feel?
Like this has been my journey inthe last six months with my
body.
And as I said, right, it wasfalling apart.
Well, with the fasting and menot having energy, I wanted to

(03:01):
feel good.
I just kept saying, I want tofeel good.
I want to feel energized.
I want to feel good.
I want to have energy.
And I kept saying that in myhead until that thought and that
feeling disappeared.
drove my action to just, youknow, to start the fasting.

(03:22):
But I had to feel good before Istarted taking action.
Do you see what I mean?
I hope, hopefully you see.
I think that it's kind ofbackwards.
Like we always think we'll feelbetter afterwards, but I really
think we do feel better evenbefore we do the thing because

(03:42):
we have to Embody that goodfeeling before we take the good
action.
Do you know what I mean?
It's kind of like when you wantto help someone, you don't only
feel good after you've helpedthem.
No, you feel good before you'vehelped them because you have the
thought of it.
You have a thought, oh my gosh,I'm going to help them.

(04:04):
It's going to be great.
They're going to enjoy it somuch.
I'm going to be such a goodperson, blah, blah, blah, blah,
right?
And during you enjoy it andafterwards you enjoy it.
So the same thing here with theexercise, with the Eating, with
the fasting, it's already soexciting even before because we
can already taste the results.

(04:25):
We can already feel good.
We can feel lighter.
We can feel stronger even beforewe start.
So this is why I call itbackwards.
Start backwards.
Start with the feeling first andthen work towards your action.
You see what I mean?
All right.
Let me know if this was helpful.

(04:45):
I'd love to hear it.
And by the way, these are mygoals this year.
I want to be strongerphysically.
I want to be stronger mentally.
And I want to feel healthy.
I want to feel good and healthy.
And I also want to contribute toto this community.

(05:08):
And I want to really put myselfout there to share my stories,
no matter how crazy they are, sothat they help you and make your
day better.
All right, guys.
Love you all.
Have a great day and see younext week.
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