Unapologetically myself

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Are you feeling bad you don’t like something?

Are you feeling bad that you said no to someone or are you apologizing for something hat’s just true about you?

Well, listen to this episode to work through it together with me as I share all the things that I am accepting about myself and no longer apologizing for be unapologetically yourself.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hey guys, how are you today?
I am sitting in the car again,my favorite place to record for
you.
So I want to talk about thisphrase that I heard that really
stuck with me and made me think.
So this phrase isunapologetically myself.
And maybe I've recorded aboutthis before, but here we go

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again.
Just because I think it reallystruck with me and stuck with
me.
And I think It's something thatwe can kind of incorporate and
practice.
And I really thought that whatdoes that really mean to be
unapologetically yourself?
At first, I've always thoughtlike surface level, I thought

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that would be something that wedo with our positive sides of
ourselves that are things thatwe are proud of about ourselves.
But then I really thought likewhat if they actually mean being
okay unapologetic about parts ofourselves that we're are not
proud of and I instantly had alist of things that I am not

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proud of and I started reallytrying to be okay with them and
saying you know what that's meand I'm not going to apologize
for it and some things I'vegotten really good at that
already and some things Ihaven't so I'm going to tell you
a couple of them One of them isI actually started with a

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neighbor who wanted to gettogether and I just didn't have
space in my life for that inthat moment.
And I felt bad about that.
I felt like I should and I feelbad that I don't want to or I
don't have space in my life.
And so I really, reallystruggled with that one until I

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kind of gave myself permissionto be okay with it and not
apologize for it.
You know, I thought maybe that'sokay.
That one, I think I've gottenreally good at and decided that,
you know, the perfect situationis happening and I don't need to

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be apologizing for it.
Whatever happened, however myreaction was, was perfect.
Then another one is, I wrotedown, but this was a long time
ago, so it makes me laugh now.
I feel bad I don't likeHalloween and that I don't like
dressing up.
And that's the truth.

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I didn't grow up with Halloween.
I really could care less aboutdressing up.
Even about the kids.
Like, I really, yeah, I like thepictures of them in costumes,
but not to a degree that somepeople actually love it.
So...
And part of me felt guilty formany years because I've been
here for, I don't know, 25, 30years, that being part of this

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culture and people loving it somuch, I felt bad that I don't.
But once I kind of heard thisphrase to be unapologetically
myself, I thought, well, maybethis is just myself and I don't
need to feel bad about it.
And you know what's magicalabout this?
That I think I actually startedenjoying myself more during

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Halloween and enjoying the kidsmore.
You know, this is the best part.
So try for yourself.
Be more unapologeticallyyourself.
Same thing with Easter.
We're not religious.
We did not grow up celebratingEaster that much in Russia or
here.
And I don't get me started onEaster.

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I've enjoyed this Easter a lotmore than other Easters, and my
friend Sharon and I always havea good laugh about it because
she loves Easter, and I don'tget it.
Like, seriously.
Chocolate eggs, for what reason?
I don't know.
And all these years, my kidswere so little that I found it
actually hard.

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I had to organize and take careof my four kids for a long
weekend for no bloody reason.
So, I don't know.
And I had to go buy all theseEaster things.
And I just didn't feel it.
I didn't get it.
I don't want to do anything.
And it's just not my holiday.
But as I started doing this, andI kind of actually took off the

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obligation off of my head to doanything more than chocolate
eggs.
And I accepted the fact that Idon't like it.
I've enjoyed it more.
Sharon sent me the pictures ofthe cookies she's made for
Easter and I got inspired and Imade cookies with my kids.

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We colored the eggs and I juststarted actually doing more of
the Easter things and enjoyingit more just because I accepted
the fact that I don't likeEaster.
So it really works wonderfully.
So try it.
The other thing, what else did Iwrite down?
Um, that I am not apologeticfor.

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This is just, I added today, Idon't like making breakfast.
Oh my gosh, you guys, I don'tlike making breakfast for my
kids.
I'm too sleepy.
I'm enjoying my coffee.
Leave me alone.
And I, this morning, Out ofnowhere, well, not out of
nowhere, I asked them, do youguys want eggs and sausage and

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bacon?
I already had some bacon madeand sausage from yesterday, so I
just made some scrambled eggs.
And then one of the kids didn'teat the eggs, so of course they
got cold, and then he justdecided to throw them out.
Well, I lost it.
And I just felt like, you know,I took my time, made the
breakfast, and you didn't evenbother eating it.

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So there you go.
That just solidified the factthat I don't like making
breakfast.
And my boys are pretty good atthey can make their own eggs
when they want to.
They can grab granola.
And I'm just trying to convincemyself that it's okay that I
don't like making breakfast.
In fact, I've actually playedaround with the idea that it is

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my contribution to my boys tonot make breakfast for them so
they can make their ownbreakfast.
There you go.
I'm the best mother ever.
What else did I write down?
I don't like playing with mykids.
And this is more in terms of...
And that's more, I came to peacewith that way back when the kids
were little.
And I think I just heard someoneelse kind of admit that they

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don't like playing with littlekids.
And I just gave myselfpermission to not like playing
with them.
And then I became okay with...
Things that I did like, likereading them a book.
So this last one I stillstruggle with.
It is when I'm PMSing or I'mirritable because I really think

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I should be always nice.
100% of the time I should behappy, nice, and lovely to be
around.
So that one I'm still workingon.
Theoretically, I understand thatthat's not possible because
we're human.
But I feel really bad when I'mmean, when I'm irritable, when

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I'm annoyed.
So that one I'm still workingon.
When I get it, I'll share withyou guys.
So what is it that you can do tobe unapologetically yourself?
What is it that you areapologizing for that maybe you
can stop?
Or you can just claim that, hey,I don't like Easter.

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I don't like Halloween.
I don't like whatever it is, andthat's okay.
And then you're going to enjoyit more.
I promise you it's going to beso fun.
All right, guys, love you all somuch.
Have a great week, and I willtalk to you soon.
Bye.