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What if you’re jealous of your kid?

Is it normal to be jealous of your kid? What do you do? Do you judge yourself? Do you move on? Do you pretend you’re not jealous? Listen to this episode to work through that with me together

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
How are you today?
I hope you like parentingbecause you have another kid and
I have another kid and that isourselves.
Here's what happened.
So my oldest is 13, and that'sgrade 8, and he's going to grade
9 next year.
And in our school, they havepretty fancy field trips that

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they take, and they presented uswith options for next year where
we have to make decisions whereour child's going to go next
year.
And the trips are quite...
from my perspective, like, youknow, France, Spain, Portugal,
New York City.

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So I found that I had someemotions about that, which
surprised me.
I wanted to judge them and I didjudge myself a bit, but also I
found myself that I needed toparent myself in terms of a
child in me felt upset.

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The child in me felt like, whatabout me?
I didn't go on trips like thatwhen I was little.
That's not fair.
I'm upset.
I want to go as well.
And it went in this circle.
Remember those cute littlepackages?
That's the package.
This is my package.
What about me?
It's quickly realize well Idon't know if quickly realize

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but I realized that this islegitimate this is what is going
on for me and I need to allowthis kind of recognize it and
comfort myself and just simplyparent myself most of the time I
don't even need to do anythingexcept for just listen and just
acknowledge what's going on andthe other thing I want to kind

(01:59):
of share with you is that ifthat's happening with you for
you know that that's normalthat's okay that comes up and
also it comes up in waves so youmight think it comes up once and
you're done with it it doesn'tnecessarily have to be true for
me it comes in waves every timethe subject comes up or if i'm

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feeling tired that might come upas my weak weakness or um As the
topic comes up, that samethought package will come up.
Unless we work through it,unless we feel it, right?
So as I'm going through it, I'mseeing a change and shift and it

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feels different.
And now I'm trying to figureout, okay, so how can I comfort
my child and child?
I'm really trying to tell mychild that we could do this if
we wanted to.
If we really wanted to go dothis, I could figure it out and
I could take you to theseplaces.

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But the reality is I actuallydon't want to do this because my
priorities lie in my kids now,my family, and that's more
important than going on a trip.
I've gone on trips, I've gone toEurope, and I think I would just
enjoy it more when my prioritiesare not with the kids you know

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that's the truth for me rightnow and if i really really want
to then that's more of aconversation with my husband
that you know maybe him and icould make that work for our
yearly time together or notyearly whenever but it's not
something that's unavailable tome and i have to really talk as

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a parent to my child to to tellher, you know, we can do this.
I can do this for you.
And you don't need to carry thisfrom when I was little.
Because growing up in Russia, Icame to Canada when I was 13.
And I remember in Russia, ourschool was an English intensive
school.
So we studied English every dayas opposed to once a week as

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other schools.
And some classes, some peoplegot to go to London, England on
a field trip.
And I never got to go for somereason.
I guess we didn't have themoney.
And I just always felt sojealous of those kids who did
get to go that I guess it neverreally healed.
And so it came up now for me.

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And this is...
I had to really parent myself asanother child.
And it came in waves.
So I thought I would share withyou so you would not feel alone
in case you're also goingthrough a totally childish
reaction.
And I even told my husband, Isaid, I'm feeling like a child
here.
I'm jealous.

(04:57):
This is not fair.
I want to go there, blah, blah,blah, blah.
And he said, yeah, you are.
You are acting like a child.
And I think it's legitimate.
We are...
children inside as well asadults.
And so that's the beauty of it.
We can help ourselves.
So there you go.
Hopefully this helps you be achild and feel all the terrible

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emotions that the child wouldfeel and also parent yourself,
you know, the way you want toparent yourself.
And really when I say parent, Ithink it's more comfort, you
know, comfort and really justreassure the child that we can
take care of them.
We can get them what they want.
They can have it as well.
And what do they really want,you know?

(05:42):
So there you go.
There you have it.
Parenting and other child.
So when I really legitimatelysay I take care of six people, I
take care of six people,including my own child and my
adult self.
Okay, guys, have a great day.
I love you.
Hope this helps.
Bye.