June 14, 2024 • 40 mins
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Discover the extraordinary potential within! This video explores the hidden strengths and unique abilities we all possess. Join me on an inspiring journey to unleash your inner superhero and make a positive impact in your life and the lives of others.
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•Tips to unlock your full potential
•Motivational insights and strategies
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katie-_2_06-13-2024_15052 (00:00):
Hello and welcome back to another
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episode of Strength in N.Bers,Unbreakable Mind, Unstoppable
Strength.
I am your host, Katie Dunford.
Welcome back.
How are you?
How have you been?
I know it's been a hot minute,but we're going to get it going
today.
We've got a couple topics we'regoing to cover today.
Let's get into the main tea.
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we're going to talk about beingin the fight.
we're going to talk about how mywhole Persona, like I, I like to
call it my alter ego, thatvenom.
we're going to talk about how Igot to that, this mentality of
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where I'm at now and what I'vegone through to get here.
Get to where I'm at in this,like, really good place that I'm
in.
so first off, this little Katybackground.
I grew up in, I was actuallyborn in Chicago.
Mom, dad, My parents got,divorced when I was, gosh, I was
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really little.
I, I think I was in pre-K.
kindergarten.
I think I was in kindergarten.
And so I really didn't reallyknow my dad very well.
so when we, my parents gotseparated, they my mom moved us
to Florida where my grandparentswere.
So I really didn't know my dad.
So I really never had thatrelationship with him, but on as
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like an early age, since I wasso little, my dad was always
don't send the baby, meaning me.
so as I learned these thingslike growing up, I was like,
like he really said that like, Ithink that kind of made me like,
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I missed out on having thatdaughter dad relationship
growing up.
but I was lucky enough to havean amazing.
Grandfather, that man was theglue of our family.
I think many families cancorrelate to that, that having
that one person in your lifethat holds everybody together
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that, that person in your familythat you don't want to let down.
you know, I had two.
Two of those in my life, myaunt, Mary Joan, which was my
dad's twin.
she was a godsend.
She did so much for my sisterand I growing up and, it's
always the hardest when you losethose ones that are that glue.
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And I think as for me growingup, I think I was always trying
to get that approval to getthat, hey, we're proud of you.
you know, to stand out, becauseI wondered, growing up, my
family, we had, they had someissues and I will always
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wondered why is all of thisnegativity getting more
attention than like what I'mdoing?
you know, I played music inschool, I did multiple, you
know, concerts and stuff likethat.
So I was constantly in this,like, look at me.
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Kind of, feeling that I wasfeeling growing up and like, I
felt like I never did enough.
my family was really neverreally supportive of what my
passions were.
I always wanted to be a musicteacher, but I ended up going
into the medical field becausethat's what my family did.
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My mom was a nurse.
My sister was a scrub nurse.
It's just what we did.
so it was hard that I was inthis, like, I need to do more.
I need to do better.
But why is the negative gettingmore attention than somebody
that's trying to do really good?
because like all through mygrowing up, I've worked multiple
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jobs.
I have a killer work, workethic.
You can tell by my, me workingout, like I just.
Don't stop.
when I was working at thehospital, I got a job at the
Hard Rock Casino.
As y'all seen my pictures when Iwas a go dancer.
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And I think that is the firsttime that I stood out to myself
and I was like, I'm going to dothis for me.
I don't care what anybody elsethinks.
I don't care what anybody elsesays.
you know, when I was working atthis doctor's office, the, the
doctors weren't too keen on whatI was doing as my side job when
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it all fell apart.
When I found out what I wasdoing on the weekends and I got
demoted.
I lost they cut my pay.
I was driving like an hour towork and I was like, I don't
need to do this because I'mmaking so much money on the
weekends.
It's, I'm making more at thecasinos than I was working as a
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nurse.
Which was crazy in the cath lab.
So I went after my passion, wasmy family excited about it?
No, I got made fun of a lot.
and I was building my ownconfidence at that point because
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it, I got to the point where Istarted standing up to my
family, like all that negativityand all that stuff that they
were doing.
I'm like, I don't want any partof that.
I want to, I wanted my, my, mydream and I reached that dream.
I danced for some of the mostamazing DJs.
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In Florida and throughout theworld.
I've met some amazing people andI learned how to do makeup.
I still don't know a lot aboutdoing makeup.
I still have to reach out to mygirls and ask them like, what do
you do?
Because I'm not, believe it ornot, I am very like a town boy.
But I can dress up.
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I can't clean myself up.
So it got to that point that Iwas like, I'm going to do this.
I'm just going to stand out formyself.
And I was living in myapartment.
I had, I had my own car, my ownapartment.
And, my family was still, likewhat I was doing wasn't good
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enough.
My sister was still, all thatnegativity that she was doing
was just, maybe they felt likeshe needed it more than I did
because I was doing okay.
But in all that reality, Iwasn't doing okay.
A lot of that carried onthroughout my life that looking
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for that validation in whateverI was doing, whether that was
dancing, whether that was at myjob, whether that was, in, in
fitness, whatever that was, Iwas constantly looking for that
validation and for that someoneto be like, I'm proud of you.
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Like, you're doing a good job,like keep going you're doing
great.
And I think when I became a mom,it really hit me because I was
like, I don't want to feel theway that to let my daughter feel
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that way.
So whatever her passions are,whatever she likes to do, I am a
hundred percent supportive ofher and.
My husband and I, we justcelebrate her passions.
And I think when I got to, whenI started working out on, the
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Peloton and stuff like that, Istarted feeling that confidence
come back.
I started training with JessKing.
I started meeting people.
I started getting into,different, I guess we call them
what groups, you know, hashtags,whatever they are.
And, I was like, this is great.
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I'm building my confidence up.
I'm meeting people because it isvery hard for me to meet people.
When you have a daughter thathas, you know, health issues and
what you're able to do is,you're not like everybody else.
You can't just get up and leave.
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You can't just have anybody juststay with your kid, so a lot of
people don't understand that.
So they check out real quick.
when you can't be the, thesocial butterfly, like everybody
else, because it's just like,Hmm, that's we like to go out
and do all this crazy stuff andyou can't do that, so they
forget about you.
which I felt like during, Ithink a lot of people felt that
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during the pandemic.
You know, how quickly peopledisappeared.
And I think that's also anotherlesson that I learned in life is
how quickly people just leave inyour life.
Like how quickly they check out.
And I think nowadays with socialmedia, it definitely makes it a
lot easier, because you'rereplaceable.
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And I think that's why it's soimportant to, yes, keep your
circle small, which I'velearned.
but to those who matter, thosewho that are going to lift you
up, those that are going to bethere for you through the good,
the bad, and those that aregoing to support you no matter
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what you're doing.
So when I started with Peloton,I just really got that sense of
community and I started feelingreally good and I'm like, man,
I'm really good at this.
I'm really good at cycling.
Really good at this.
They're playing EDM music.
I'm loving it.
but then came that, thatnegativity on my, that in the
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brain that said, you need to dothis to be accepted.
You need to do this so that, sothese people continue to talk to
you.
You need to act like this.
So you're still like in thegroup.
You know, or, you you to dosomething different or to say
something, cause you're alwaysin that fear of that judgment
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feeling of, I really can't bemyself because of, how somebody
else's reaction is.
And in fear of that retro, that,that, feeling that you is maybe
true or maybe not true howyou're feeling, When that
projection is felt.
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So I think like it had, it'sgood and it's bad.
I've met some amazing peoplethrough that journey and I've
learned a lot about myself andthat's like where this whole
venom thing came to, partake.
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I started feeling like.
I have a backbone and that now,like, it really doesn't, like,
it really doesn't matter what Isay.
It doesn't really matter whatI'm doing because I'm doing it
for me.
Like I'm not doing it for thewrong reasons.
And I felt like a lot of thingsin my life, I have done them for
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the wrong reasons and not formyself.
So when I started.
With lifting weights thatstarted being a confidence
booster for me and I startedfeeling like you know What I'm
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feeling really good right now.
I am feeling really good rightnow and This is making me feel
good.
So it started to Make me notworry about what everything else
on the outside was going on Likeit didn't I didn't care all
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these people like saying stuffto me and drama and all this
other like crap, I was like, Idon't care, care.
And then this is like how I feelnow, like I don't have time for
that.
I don't have time for negative.
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Negative Nelly's, I don't havetime for drama queens.
I don't have time for like Icall crisis vampires, which I
used to use that term in thehospital when people are just
like, they love to stir, and I'mjust like, I'm just done.
I'm just absolutely done.
And like the whole Venom personawas like that.
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Like I said, it was my alterego.
It was like how I felt like Icould do with things like when
people would say.
Mean or negative things to me,You know like a lot when the
whole Peloton stuff was likegoing down Like I am like that
I'm still shocked to this daythe things that people had said
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to me that I'm just like thesepeople are really typing this
stuff like y'all and that's likeAnd I would say that was like
the worst part for me because Iwas like, I was a member of this
community for like six, sevenyears and these people are
messaging me saying this kind ofstuff.
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And I'm just like, are youkidding me right now?
So I think it really goes downto how you handle certain
things.
And that's it.
That venom was that all of thatnegativity, all of those nasty
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words, all of those drama andall of those things that I let
try to change me.
I, that the things that I letbother me, it didn't bother me
anymore because I was just like,I had so much.
built up inside me from allthat, that I needed an outlet.
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And I was like, you know what?
I'll run a marathon on thetread.
I'll sprint really fast.
I'll, I'll do multiple races.
And I was like, building up allthese receipts for myself that I
was like, look what I'm doing.
Look what I'm doing.
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And I was like, When I startedinspiring people, I was like,
all that other shit don'tmatter.
It don't matter.
Inspiring people for me is likesuch a gift.
And like this whole strengththing has turned out bigger than
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I ever thought it would have.
And I just want to keep buildingthose receipts because it's, I'm
not just looking, I'm not thatthe whole validation or that
whole, like I'm doing it forattention or that whole, doing
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it for likes or doing it for,the gram.
I'm doing it to be proud ofmyself.
I tell myself all the time, howproud I am that I stuck with it.
I do it because I want myhusband proud of me.
my daughter proud of me, I wantmy daughter to look at me and be
like, she's stronger than herdaddy.
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Not possible because he has thebicep vein and I still don't
have mine.
It does make an appearance everyonce in a while, but he's got me
on that.
And multiple other strengthmoves because hello, he has much
bigger arms than I do jealous.
So I just want my family to beproud of me.
it doesn't matter, yes, I poston Instagram a lot of my
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workouts and what I'm doing, butI'm doing it to inspire people
to go against the grain, to getyour own venom, all that
negative hardships, things thathave built out inside of you,
inside you.
Be the beast, release the beastbecause we all have that
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superhero inside of us.
I strongly believe thateverything that you, that people
go through in their past, youcan either let it like destroy
you or you can let it build you.
I refused to let all everythingthat I had to deal with growing
up and getting to where I'm atright now.
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I refuse to let it destroy me.
Like I refuse to let it to breakme.
I was just like, all thesepeople that said, Oh, she can't
do it.
Why would you want to do that?
Like, why don't you, why?
You can't do that.
You can't beat him.
He's a guy.
You can't, and I always heardthese people saying you can't
and I'm like, why are you sayingyou can't?
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Like that really, like, that'swhy it's so important to who
you're surrounding yourselfwith.
And there was this quote, I havea quote written down, so I
didn't forget to say it todaybecause there's really has stuck
with me.
The people who introduce you tonew ways of thinking are the
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ways of seeing life are the mostimportant.
And that's totally true becauseif you surround yourself with
all these people that are sayingyou can't or questioning why
you're doing something, theyshould just, for somebody that's
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a, for somebody that's really inyour corner, they should be
like, you got this.
Yeah.
You're totally going to beathim.
Even if the dream or the goal isso far fetched, Yes, they are
going to think you're crazy, butthe first thing they should say
is you're crazy, but I know youcan do it because I've proven to
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myself over and over again thatno matter what people say, no
matter what is in mysurroundings or what is going on
in my life, I am going to comeout swinging.
And I think that's just how youtake things.
And I think if you keep beatingyourself up over the past or
what you've gone through, howcan you move forward?
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Like all my, like I, with myrelationship with my family, I
have none.
My family is in these four wallsthat I live in.
Which is hard.
A lot of people ask, don't youhave a sister?
I'm like, yeah, you know, I hada mom that basically told me
that I wasn't her daughter.
So you can take those thingsthat have happened in your life
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and let it destroy you.
You can let those people win.
Like those people that told you,you can't, you can let them win.
You can, but you lose.
You have to keep fighting.
You have to stay in the fightbecause at the other end of all
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the struggles, of all thehardships, of all the failures,
you're going to come out betterbecause you're going to be proud
of yourself.
You don't need anybody to tellyou that, because that is
something that I've searched fora long time and nothing is
better than looking back at howhard you worked.
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You did that because I thinkthat, you never do things alone.
You never do things alone, butit's that that saying of, you
can lead a horse to water, butyou can't force them to drink.
Like you can have all theinformation, all the knowledge,
all the books, all the,everything at your, the palm of
your hands.
But if you don't drink thewater, what are you going to do?
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So it takes you to do that.
It takes your ownership to dothat.
So you have to ask for help.
And I think that was likesomething Joe had talked about
in one of his reels when he, youknow, talked about like, asking
for help and being that sourceand looking for people like me
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that, you're on social media andyou're seeing all this
information that's being thrownat you.
And you're like.
Okay, what's right?
What's wrong?
What's what am I doing here?
Like, what is that?
How do I do that and doing itwrong and then not getting that
feedback?
So it takes you Checking the egoand putting aside the you know I
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want to show off or I want toyou know Lift the heaviest
weight and stuff like that.
You earn the weight I getquestions all the time about how
heavy I can lift.
I don't know I guess we'll findout when we get there.
I think that we get into thisthing where, you know, like with
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social media, it's, a lot oftimes, I do funny stuff on
reels.
And of course it's just like,what the, the what's viral, but
most of the time it's just meworking out and I could care
less whether or not it's viralor not, because I'm just proud.
I'm proud of what I did.
And more or less the Instagramfor me is just a highlight reel
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for me.
Showing how far I've come.
And every day I can look at thatwhen I've had a hard day and be
like, shit, I did that.
Okay.
We go another day.
And I think that with all the,when you have the hard days and
you have the good days andstaying in the fight, it's like
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a roller coaster.
It's not going to be perfect.
I was.
Like, we talk about how Istarted with running, how I
started with strength classes,how I started with pushups.
I was awful.
I am not an athlete coordinatedperson.
I am a tall giraffe with reallylong legs, just like I'm not
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athletic.
I never was.
I was the band geek, it justgoes to show that when you have
somebody that believes in you somuch that sees your potential
and helps you realize it, andthen you just soar because
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everybody needs help.
Everybody needs guidance.
You shouldn't feel like you'redoing it alone because that's
you need that feedback ofgetting better.
And that's one thing I've alsonoticed in, as I get in.
as I get older, is that I wantless yes people in my life.
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I don't want people just tellingme yes.
I want the corrective criticism.
I want the, that's not good.
Do this.
I want somebody to tell meyou're doing it wrong.
you're off.
You shouldn't be doing that.
I want that correctivecriticism.
And I think for me, like thispast, this past like month, I
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would say I had a lot of selfsabotage.
in my diet, where I was nothitting my protein goals.
I wasn't hitting my carbsbecause I thought I knew better.
Like I thought I, like I can,it's fine.
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Not to mention You know, I'mstill working out and adding,
doing lawn outside.
So you're working outside, whichis exercise, mind you, that is
exercise, especially in theheat.
so I wasn't taking any of thatconsideration and I lost weight.
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I felt so defeated.
I was so mad at myself that Ilet myself down.
I was like, I worked so hard toput on that weight.
And I lost it and I really gotdown on myself.
I was just like, I was like, youknow what, Katie, this is me
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talking to myself.
It's like, you know what, Katie,we get a day.
You get a day, whatever you gotto soak, whatever you got to cry
out, whatever you got to do toget mad whatever you have to do,
you're going to pick up your biggirl pants.
And you're going to get back init and you're going to fix it.
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And I started, the ultimatechess program.
And because the bench is, hasalways been a huge goal of mine.
cause kind of bench and pushupsgo together.
That's my kind of, that's myhouse.
so I started ultimate chest andI got right back in it.
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I started getting back on mydiet.
I started getting my carbs inand I actually, I did not, I may
have lost for the month, butoverall for this year, I've
gained 2.
2 pounds.
Which I'm really proud ofbecause building muscle,
especially as a woman and tryingto gain weight is so hard.
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That's why I like when somepeople think that, that they
have to do more cardio to loseweight, like put on some muscle
and that muscle will burn everybit of weight you're trying to
put on.
Trust me, I am dealing with it.
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cause it is very hard for me.
To be putting on weight.
So you just can't give up likeas much as, as hard as it gets
when you're in the trenches andyou're just down on yourself and
mad at yourself, you just can'tgive up two years training on
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tonal.
There was tons of times that Ijust wanted to give up that.
I was just like, I'm just notgonna, I can't do this.
And I never gave up on myself.
I refused to give up on myselfbecause it was that venom.
It was that this is for me andI'm coming out swinging.
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And I think that is such amotivator and a, it just adds
that extra kick in the ass thatyou need because, that whole
thing of, you know, thatsometimes, you keep the, keep
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your enemies closer, sometimesyou got to keep those enemies
closer so they can sit back andwatch the show, right?
You know because people aregonna think you're nuts and I
love it I love the fact thatpeople think that you know i'm
You know off my rocker thinkingof doing things like Who would
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have thought that I would havebeen at the tonal studio doing
push ups next to joe?
Like would I beat him?
Would I have beaten him?
No, but he does have a run forhis money on the rematch I still
need a Keem though, but we do.
Because that that, is thatcrazy?
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Yes.
Will you beat me?
Of course.
But that doesn't mean I'm notgoing to go out swinging.
So it's just like, it is justfinding that passion inside you
and finding that joy.
Because then all the doubts, allthe negativity, all the, I
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can'ts around you are no longerloud anymore.
I no longer hear them.
Like I, I think Joe couldliterally throw the hardest
program, like him saying, y'allare going to puke with this.
I would take it.
I would like, I literally thinkthat there is.
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Nothing that he could programthat I would second guess my
capabilities of completing anddoing it might take me a second
time to do it better.
And that's why I repeat a lot ofthe programs because I know I
can do things better.
I know I can do that movebetter.
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I know I can push more vol.E.
I can lift it heavier.
And that's what staying lockedin is.
And it's just getting betterbecause you're not going to be
perfect every day.
There's times when I can barelydo five pushups.
There's days like that.
Like during my monthly, there'sbeen times where I, my sleep was
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off.
My nutrition was off and I couldbarely do five pushups.
Five push ups.
So you're gonna have badtraining days and good training
days But the great thing is youalways get another shot.
You always get another day.
You always get another week Youalways get another shot at
another program going back at itand seeing how much better you
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do So it's like that whole likewhy I think it was at the Lion
King movie Where, Simba likelaughs in the face of danger.
Sometimes that's what you got todo.
Like it's, with taking advancedprograms and, intermediate or,
coach Joe, or like taking a Timleg.
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Class, or taking a hip programwith coach Ash or, a hip program
with, Akeem, you or doingmobility with Casey, because
that legit will make you sweat.
You just have to be like, youcan't let the can'ts went in or
that, I don't think I can do it,because I will show you that you
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can, because I was there and Ihad a.
Tonal member that was talkingabout power build and that's the
program that I will be goingnext Is power build that is my
home.
That is my home base.
I think I could stay in powerbuild forever Literally and this
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woman was talking to me abouthow she didn't think she could
do it and how she was Not ableto do the push ups going chest
to deck And how it was, she wason her knees doing push ups You
And I messaged her and I said, Iam here for you.
I sent her videos of when Istarted the program with Joe the
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first time.
And I said, you can look how farI've come.
I said, you can do this.
And that's what I've like.
That's why I say when this wholefitness thing, what I've, what,
I started doing.
Reasons for, lifting weights wasto build that backbone and
strengthen myself and myconfidence.
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It's gotten way bigger thanthat.
Like I get messages from women.
I get messages from men talkingabout how I inspire them.
And it's absolutely crazy to mebecause I'm just like, I came
from like 120 pound little girlthat was like clueless, that was
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lost, that was broken, thatdidn't know what she was going
to do.
But I used all that, that hadhappened, that was said, that
was done.
And I used it to push myselfforward and to be like, I'm not
going to let that win.
And I'm going to show otherwomen and men and anybody else
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that you can.
And after I had sent her so manyvideos, And I had told her that
I had messaged Joe and I stillremember because it just like,
this is why power build is sospecial to me.
And I messaged him and I said, Ican't do this.
It was like the first class andI messaged him and I said, I
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can't do this.
And it was just that, like thatwhole message of be different.
And that has stuck in my mindfor these two years of my
training.
And I had told her, I said, Meetyourself where you are because
where you are right now is notwhere you're going to end.
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I'm still not done yet.
I ain't done.
Like I have such highexpectations and goals for
myself that I'm just like, mygirl, you're crazy, but we're so
doing it and we're going to havea blast doing it.
So staying in the fight doesn'thave to be so Like stressful and
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be like a crutch or somethingthat kind of blacks you out.
When sometimes when you set yourgoals so high and you like, you
don't reach them and then youget blacked out and you're like,
shit, it's not going to be likethat.
It doesn't have to be like that.
Staying in the fight is like,put your Dukes up, put your
fists up.
And just keep going, even whenit hurts and when it's bad and
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you're like, man, I suck atthis, you're going to suck.
I suck at a lot of things.
Let's talk about some of thosethings like Bulgarians.
let's talk about the reversefly.
Let's talk about reverse lunges.
There's a couple of them that Iliterally have to dial that way
back and flies.
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So everybody has to work atsomething and you're just you're
always going to be learning.
You can always get better.
And I think that's one of thethings that's so amazing with
the coaches on tonal is howh.Ble they are and genuine
because all of them will talkabout things that they're
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constantly working on or thingsthat they can do better.
what with their training andtheir goals that they have for
themselves, whatever that is.
And so for you to think that youcan't it's like how like what
would have happened if I hadgiven up like i'm not gonna
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listen to joe What is joe now?
Like I was like that is notgonna happen because he's the
size of a linebacker Not that hecan pop through the screen and
be like katie get this shit donebut that's like How I thought I
was just like, all right, healready knows how I'm thinking
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right now.
Because I let the hat out of thebag, I told him I can't do this,
but he was not going to let mequit because I know I wanted to
show up.
So sometimes you just need thatperson that it, like I said,
don't surround yourself withyes, people, because what is
that going to accomplish bypeople always telling you, yes,
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you're doing amazing.
Yes.
You're doing right.
Yes.
That's it.
Yes.
Yes.
That's fine.
You quit.
Yes.
That's okay.
Who wants to hear yes all thetime.
I want that feedback.
So staying in the fight is notalways a stressful thing.
I think sometimes people wouldjust take it to this, like, you
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know, like I said, it makes, itmakes people blackout, when they
don't get the results thatthey've wanted.
But this is why I talk aboutwith people with recording
yourself working out recordingyourself doing a move that you
need help with.
It's with tonal, you have thatsmart view that you can use to
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help you with form.
and it's just being open toLearning, like Joe says, being
coachable, like realizing thatyou're not going to know
everything, you're not going tobe good at everything, and it's
always, you're always going tobe learning, but the biggest
thing that you can do is like, Italked about it this week on my
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Instagram.
Is that people that inspire you,people that motivate you, people
that are your mentors, thebiggest gift that you can give
to them is by inspiring otherpeople because Joe's already
done what he's done.
Joe's like, he's all the coachesat tonal, absolutely incredible
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accomplishments that they've allthat they've all done.
So for them, like what coachCasey and Joe talked about on
their podcast.
is for them is helping people ishelp because they've done it and
they're doing it.
So for them, their gift ishelping others.
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And for me, everything that theygive me, like is the most
amazing brain food that I soakit all up.
And I'm just like, I just wantto inspire people and I want
them to see how amazing thecoaches are.
I want to see how, that what'sin pop.
That's what is it?
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Come on, Katie, talk.
What is possible?
I've been talking for too longand I'm like trying not to take
a drink of water like every fiveseconds.
So I do apologize.
so, so it, it, everything isthere.
You have all the tools.
Everything is there.
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You just have to ask for helpand you have to be willing to
make adjustments You have to bewilling to fail you have to be
willing to not be perfectbecause you will never be
perfect I am still not perfect.
I will never be perfect.
I don't want to be perfect.
I want to be my weird Crazy,like I don't want to be I don't
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want to be I don't want to benormal.
I don't want to be perfect Ijust want to be me.
And that is the best.
That's another thing they talkedabout on the podcast is like
being yourself, be yourself,make mistakes.\ Don't be perfect
because you're going to inspiresomebody else to try.
Because if you don't try, you'llnever find out.
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And you need to find out whatyou're.
Capable of, because like I said,I 120 pounds.
You are capable and you can doit.
You just can't give up when itgets hard.
When you fail, you can't giveup.
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You got to stay in the fight.
Thank you guys for joining me onthis podcast.
I really do appreciate all ofyou joining.
I know this was a kind of likeoff the wall kind of podcast
today.
but I've gotten some messageswanting some.
Podcast fun.
So I hope y'all have a fabulousweek and I'll see you on the
next episode
Hello and welcome back to another
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episode of Strength in N.Bers,Unbreakable Mind, Unstoppable
Strength.
I am your host, Katie Dunford.
Welcome back.
How are you?
How have you been?
I know it's been a hot minute,but we're going to get it going
today.
We've got a couple topics we'regoing to cover today.
Let's get into the main tea.
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we're going to talk about beingin the fight.
we're going to talk about how mywhole Persona, like I, I like to
call it my alter ego, thatvenom.
we're going to talk about how Igot to that, this mentality of
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where I'm at now and what I'vegone through to get here.
Get to where I'm at in this,like, really good place that I'm
in.
so first off, this little Katybackground.
I grew up in, I was actuallyborn in Chicago.
Mom, dad, My parents got,divorced when I was, gosh, I was
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really little.
I, I think I was in pre-K.
kindergarten.
I think I was in kindergarten.
And so I really didn't reallyknow my dad very well.
so when we, my parents gotseparated, they my mom moved us
to Florida where my grandparentswere.
So I really didn't know my dad.
So I really never had thatrelationship with him, but on as
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like an early age, since I wasso little, my dad was always
don't send the baby, meaning me.
so as I learned these thingslike growing up, I was like,
like he really said that like, Ithink that kind of made me like,
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I missed out on having thatdaughter dad relationship
growing up.
but I was lucky enough to havean amazing.
Grandfather, that man was theglue of our family.
I think many families cancorrelate to that, that having
that one person in your lifethat holds everybody together
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that, that person in your familythat you don't want to let down.
you know, I had two.
Two of those in my life, myaunt, Mary Joan, which was my
dad's twin.
she was a godsend.
She did so much for my sisterand I growing up and, it's
always the hardest when you losethose ones that are that glue.
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And I think as for me growingup, I think I was always trying
to get that approval to getthat, hey, we're proud of you.
you know, to stand out, becauseI wondered, growing up, my
family, we had, they had someissues and I will always
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wondered why is all of thisnegativity getting more
attention than like what I'mdoing?
you know, I played music inschool, I did multiple, you
know, concerts and stuff likethat.
So I was constantly in this,like, look at me.
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Kind of, feeling that I wasfeeling growing up and like, I
felt like I never did enough.
my family was really neverreally supportive of what my
passions were.
I always wanted to be a musicteacher, but I ended up going
into the medical field becausethat's what my family did.
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My mom was a nurse.
My sister was a scrub nurse.
It's just what we did.
so it was hard that I was inthis, like, I need to do more.
I need to do better.
But why is the negative gettingmore attention than somebody
that's trying to do really good?
because like all through mygrowing up, I've worked multiple
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jobs.
I have a killer work, workethic.
You can tell by my, me workingout, like I just.
Don't stop.
when I was working at thehospital, I got a job at the
Hard Rock Casino.
As y'all seen my pictures when Iwas a go dancer.
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And I think that is the firsttime that I stood out to myself
and I was like, I'm going to dothis for me.
I don't care what anybody elsethinks.
I don't care what anybody elsesays.
you know, when I was working atthis doctor's office, the, the
doctors weren't too keen on whatI was doing as my side job when
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it all fell apart.
When I found out what I wasdoing on the weekends and I got
demoted.
I lost they cut my pay.
I was driving like an hour towork and I was like, I don't
need to do this because I'mmaking so much money on the
weekends.
It's, I'm making more at thecasinos than I was working as a
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nurse.
Which was crazy in the cath lab.
So I went after my passion, wasmy family excited about it?
No, I got made fun of a lot.
and I was building my ownconfidence at that point because
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it, I got to the point where Istarted standing up to my
family, like all that negativityand all that stuff that they
were doing.
I'm like, I don't want any partof that.
I want to, I wanted my, my, mydream and I reached that dream.
I danced for some of the mostamazing DJs.
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In Florida and throughout theworld.
I've met some amazing people andI learned how to do makeup.
I still don't know a lot aboutdoing makeup.
I still have to reach out to mygirls and ask them like, what do
you do?
Because I'm not, believe it ornot, I am very like a town boy.
But I can dress up.
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I can't clean myself up.
So it got to that point that Iwas like, I'm going to do this.
I'm just going to stand out formyself.
And I was living in myapartment.
I had, I had my own car, my ownapartment.
And, my family was still, likewhat I was doing wasn't good
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enough.
My sister was still, all thatnegativity that she was doing
was just, maybe they felt likeshe needed it more than I did
because I was doing okay.
But in all that reality, Iwasn't doing okay.
A lot of that carried onthroughout my life that looking
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for that validation in whateverI was doing, whether that was
dancing, whether that was at myjob, whether that was, in, in
fitness, whatever that was, Iwas constantly looking for that
validation and for that someoneto be like, I'm proud of you.
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Like, you're doing a good job,like keep going you're doing
great.
And I think when I became a mom,it really hit me because I was
like, I don't want to feel theway that to let my daughter feel
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that way.
So whatever her passions are,whatever she likes to do, I am a
hundred percent supportive ofher and.
My husband and I, we justcelebrate her passions.
And I think when I got to, whenI started working out on, the
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Peloton and stuff like that, Istarted feeling that confidence
come back.
I started training with JessKing.
I started meeting people.
I started getting into,different, I guess we call them
what groups, you know, hashtags,whatever they are.
And, I was like, this is great.
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I'm building my confidence up.
I'm meeting people because it isvery hard for me to meet people.
When you have a daughter thathas, you know, health issues and
what you're able to do is,you're not like everybody else.
You can't just get up and leave.
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You can't just have anybody juststay with your kid, so a lot of
people don't understand that.
So they check out real quick.
when you can't be the, thesocial butterfly, like everybody
else, because it's just like,Hmm, that's we like to go out
and do all this crazy stuff andyou can't do that, so they
forget about you.
which I felt like during, Ithink a lot of people felt that
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during the pandemic.
You know, how quickly peopledisappeared.
And I think that's also anotherlesson that I learned in life is
how quickly people just leave inyour life.
Like how quickly they check out.
And I think nowadays with socialmedia, it definitely makes it a
lot easier, because you'rereplaceable.
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And I think that's why it's soimportant to, yes, keep your
circle small, which I'velearned.
but to those who matter, thosewho that are going to lift you
up, those that are going to bethere for you through the good,
the bad, and those that aregoing to support you no matter
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what you're doing.
So when I started with Peloton,I just really got that sense of
community and I started feelingreally good and I'm like, man,
I'm really good at this.
I'm really good at cycling.
Really good at this.
They're playing EDM music.
I'm loving it.
but then came that, thatnegativity on my, that in the
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brain that said, you need to dothis to be accepted.
You need to do this so that, sothese people continue to talk to
you.
You need to act like this.
So you're still like in thegroup.
You know, or, you you to dosomething different or to say
something, cause you're alwaysin that fear of that judgment
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feeling of, I really can't bemyself because of, how somebody
else's reaction is.
And in fear of that retro, that,that, feeling that you is maybe
true or maybe not true howyou're feeling, When that
projection is felt.
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So I think like it had, it'sgood and it's bad.
I've met some amazing peoplethrough that journey and I've
learned a lot about myself andthat's like where this whole
venom thing came to, partake.
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I started feeling like.
I have a backbone and that now,like, it really doesn't, like,
it really doesn't matter what Isay.
It doesn't really matter whatI'm doing because I'm doing it
for me.
Like I'm not doing it for thewrong reasons.
And I felt like a lot of thingsin my life, I have done them for
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the wrong reasons and not formyself.
So when I started.
With lifting weights thatstarted being a confidence
booster for me and I startedfeeling like you know What I'm
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feeling really good right now.
I am feeling really good rightnow and This is making me feel
good.
So it started to Make me notworry about what everything else
on the outside was going on Likeit didn't I didn't care all
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these people like saying stuffto me and drama and all this
other like crap, I was like, Idon't care, care.
And then this is like how I feelnow, like I don't have time for
that.
I don't have time for negative.
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Negative Nelly's, I don't havetime for drama queens.
I don't have time for like Icall crisis vampires, which I
used to use that term in thehospital when people are just
like, they love to stir, and I'mjust like, I'm just done.
I'm just absolutely done.
And like the whole Venom personawas like that.
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Like I said, it was my alterego.
It was like how I felt like Icould do with things like when
people would say.
Mean or negative things to me,You know like a lot when the
whole Peloton stuff was likegoing down Like I am like that
I'm still shocked to this daythe things that people had said
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to me that I'm just like thesepeople are really typing this
stuff like y'all and that's likeAnd I would say that was like
the worst part for me because Iwas like, I was a member of this
community for like six, sevenyears and these people are
messaging me saying this kind ofstuff.
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And I'm just like, are youkidding me right now?
So I think it really goes downto how you handle certain
things.
And that's it.
That venom was that all of thatnegativity, all of those nasty
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words, all of those drama andall of those things that I let
try to change me.
I, that the things that I letbother me, it didn't bother me
anymore because I was just like,I had so much.
built up inside me from allthat, that I needed an outlet.
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And I was like, you know what?
I'll run a marathon on thetread.
I'll sprint really fast.
I'll, I'll do multiple races.
And I was like, building up allthese receipts for myself that I
was like, look what I'm doing.
Look what I'm doing.
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And I was like, When I startedinspiring people, I was like,
all that other shit don'tmatter.
It don't matter.
Inspiring people for me is likesuch a gift.
And like this whole strengththing has turned out bigger than
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I ever thought it would have.
And I just want to keep buildingthose receipts because it's, I'm
not just looking, I'm not thatthe whole validation or that
whole, like I'm doing it forattention or that whole, doing
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it for likes or doing it for,the gram.
I'm doing it to be proud ofmyself.
I tell myself all the time, howproud I am that I stuck with it.
I do it because I want myhusband proud of me.
my daughter proud of me, I wantmy daughter to look at me and be
like, she's stronger than herdaddy.
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Not possible because he has thebicep vein and I still don't
have mine.
It does make an appearance everyonce in a while, but he's got me
on that.
And multiple other strengthmoves because hello, he has much
bigger arms than I do jealous.
So I just want my family to beproud of me.
it doesn't matter, yes, I poston Instagram a lot of my
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workouts and what I'm doing, butI'm doing it to inspire people
to go against the grain, to getyour own venom, all that
negative hardships, things thathave built out inside of you,
inside you.
Be the beast, release the beastbecause we all have that
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superhero inside of us.
I strongly believe thateverything that you, that people
go through in their past, youcan either let it like destroy
you or you can let it build you.
I refused to let all everythingthat I had to deal with growing
up and getting to where I'm atright now.
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I refuse to let it destroy me.
Like I refuse to let it to breakme.
I was just like, all thesepeople that said, Oh, she can't
do it.
Why would you want to do that?
Like, why don't you, why?
You can't do that.
You can't beat him.
He's a guy.
You can't, and I always heardthese people saying you can't
and I'm like, why are you sayingyou can't?
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Like that really, like, that'swhy it's so important to who
you're surrounding yourselfwith.
And there was this quote, I havea quote written down, so I
didn't forget to say it todaybecause there's really has stuck
with me.
The people who introduce you tonew ways of thinking are the
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ways of seeing life are the mostimportant.
And that's totally true becauseif you surround yourself with
all these people that are sayingyou can't or questioning why
you're doing something, theyshould just, for somebody that's
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a, for somebody that's really inyour corner, they should be
like, you got this.
Yeah.
You're totally going to beathim.
Even if the dream or the goal isso far fetched, Yes, they are
going to think you're crazy, butthe first thing they should say
is you're crazy, but I know youcan do it because I've proven to
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myself over and over again thatno matter what people say, no
matter what is in mysurroundings or what is going on
in my life, I am going to comeout swinging.
And I think that's just how youtake things.
And I think if you keep beatingyourself up over the past or
what you've gone through, howcan you move forward?
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Like all my, like I, with myrelationship with my family, I
have none.
My family is in these four wallsthat I live in.
Which is hard.
A lot of people ask, don't youhave a sister?
I'm like, yeah, you know, I hada mom that basically told me
that I wasn't her daughter.
So you can take those thingsthat have happened in your life
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and let it destroy you.
You can let those people win.
Like those people that told you,you can't, you can let them win.
You can, but you lose.
You have to keep fighting.
You have to stay in the fightbecause at the other end of all
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the struggles, of all thehardships, of all the failures,
you're going to come out betterbecause you're going to be proud
of yourself.
You don't need anybody to tellyou that, because that is
something that I've searched fora long time and nothing is
better than looking back at howhard you worked.
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You did that because I thinkthat, you never do things alone.
You never do things alone, butit's that that saying of, you
can lead a horse to water, butyou can't force them to drink.
Like you can have all theinformation, all the knowledge,
all the books, all the,everything at your, the palm of
your hands.
But if you don't drink thewater, what are you going to do?
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So it takes you to do that.
It takes your ownership to dothat.
So you have to ask for help.
And I think that was likesomething Joe had talked about
in one of his reels when he, youknow, talked about like, asking
for help and being that sourceand looking for people like me
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that, you're on social media andyou're seeing all this
information that's being thrownat you.
And you're like.
Okay, what's right?
What's wrong?
What's what am I doing here?
Like, what is that?
How do I do that and doing itwrong and then not getting that
feedback?
So it takes you Checking the egoand putting aside the you know I
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want to show off or I want toyou know Lift the heaviest
weight and stuff like that.
You earn the weight I getquestions all the time about how
heavy I can lift.
I don't know I guess we'll findout when we get there.
I think that we get into thisthing where, you know, like with
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social media, it's, a lot oftimes, I do funny stuff on
reels.
And of course it's just like,what the, the what's viral, but
most of the time it's just meworking out and I could care
less whether or not it's viralor not, because I'm just proud.
I'm proud of what I did.
And more or less the Instagramfor me is just a highlight reel
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for me.
Showing how far I've come.
And every day I can look at thatwhen I've had a hard day and be
like, shit, I did that.
Okay.
We go another day.
And I think that with all the,when you have the hard days and
you have the good days andstaying in the fight, it's like
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a roller coaster.
It's not going to be perfect.
I was.
Like, we talk about how Istarted with running, how I
started with strength classes,how I started with pushups.
I was awful.
I am not an athlete coordinatedperson.
I am a tall giraffe with reallylong legs, just like I'm not
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athletic.
I never was.
I was the band geek, it justgoes to show that when you have
somebody that believes in you somuch that sees your potential
and helps you realize it, andthen you just soar because
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everybody needs help.
Everybody needs guidance.
You shouldn't feel like you'redoing it alone because that's
you need that feedback ofgetting better.
And that's one thing I've alsonoticed in, as I get in.
as I get older, is that I wantless yes people in my life.
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I don't want people just tellingme yes.
I want the corrective criticism.
I want the, that's not good.
Do this.
I want somebody to tell meyou're doing it wrong.
you're off.
You shouldn't be doing that.
I want that correctivecriticism.
And I think for me, like thispast, this past like month, I
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would say I had a lot of selfsabotage.
in my diet, where I was nothitting my protein goals.
I wasn't hitting my carbsbecause I thought I knew better.
Like I thought I, like I can,it's fine.
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Not to mention You know, I'mstill working out and adding,
doing lawn outside.
So you're working outside, whichis exercise, mind you, that is
exercise, especially in theheat.
so I wasn't taking any of thatconsideration and I lost weight.
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I felt so defeated.
I was so mad at myself that Ilet myself down.
I was like, I worked so hard toput on that weight.
And I lost it and I really gotdown on myself.
I was just like, I was like, youknow what, Katie, this is me
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talking to myself.
It's like, you know what, Katie,we get a day.
You get a day, whatever you gotto soak, whatever you got to cry
out, whatever you got to do toget mad whatever you have to do,
you're going to pick up your biggirl pants.
And you're going to get back init and you're going to fix it.
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And I started, the ultimatechess program.
And because the bench is, hasalways been a huge goal of mine.
cause kind of bench and pushupsgo together.
That's my kind of, that's myhouse.
so I started ultimate chest andI got right back in it.
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I started getting back on mydiet.
I started getting my carbs inand I actually, I did not, I may
have lost for the month, butoverall for this year, I've
gained 2.
2 pounds.
Which I'm really proud ofbecause building muscle,
especially as a woman and tryingto gain weight is so hard.
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That's why I like when somepeople think that, that they
have to do more cardio to loseweight, like put on some muscle
and that muscle will burn everybit of weight you're trying to
put on.
Trust me, I am dealing with it.
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cause it is very hard for me.
To be putting on weight.
So you just can't give up likeas much as, as hard as it gets
when you're in the trenches andyou're just down on yourself and
mad at yourself, you just can'tgive up two years training on
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tonal.
There was tons of times that Ijust wanted to give up that.
I was just like, I'm just notgonna, I can't do this.
And I never gave up on myself.
I refused to give up on myselfbecause it was that venom.
It was that this is for me andI'm coming out swinging.
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And I think that is such amotivator and a, it just adds
that extra kick in the ass thatyou need because, that whole
thing of, you know, thatsometimes, you keep the, keep
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your enemies closer, sometimesyou got to keep those enemies
closer so they can sit back andwatch the show, right?
You know because people aregonna think you're nuts and I
love it I love the fact thatpeople think that you know i'm
You know off my rocker thinkingof doing things like Who would
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have thought that I would havebeen at the tonal studio doing
push ups next to joe?
Like would I beat him?
Would I have beaten him?
No, but he does have a run forhis money on the rematch I still
need a Keem though, but we do.
Because that that, is thatcrazy?
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Yes.
Will you beat me?
Of course.
But that doesn't mean I'm notgoing to go out swinging.
So it's just like, it is justfinding that passion inside you
and finding that joy.
Because then all the doubts, allthe negativity, all the, I
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can'ts around you are no longerloud anymore.
I no longer hear them.
Like I, I think Joe couldliterally throw the hardest
program, like him saying, y'allare going to puke with this.
I would take it.
I would like, I literally thinkthat there is.
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Nothing that he could programthat I would second guess my
capabilities of completing anddoing it might take me a second
time to do it better.
And that's why I repeat a lot ofthe programs because I know I
can do things better.
I know I can do that movebetter.
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I know I can push more vol.E.
I can lift it heavier.
And that's what staying lockedin is.
And it's just getting betterbecause you're not going to be
perfect every day.
There's times when I can barelydo five pushups.
There's days like that.
Like during my monthly, there'sbeen times where I, my sleep was
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off.
My nutrition was off and I couldbarely do five pushups.
Five push ups.
So you're gonna have badtraining days and good training
days But the great thing is youalways get another shot.
You always get another day.
You always get another week Youalways get another shot at
another program going back at itand seeing how much better you
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do So it's like that whole likewhy I think it was at the Lion
King movie Where, Simba likelaughs in the face of danger.
Sometimes that's what you got todo.
Like it's, with taking advancedprograms and, intermediate or,
coach Joe, or like taking a Timleg.
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Class, or taking a hip programwith coach Ash or, a hip program
with, Akeem, you or doingmobility with Casey, because
that legit will make you sweat.
You just have to be like, youcan't let the can'ts went in or
that, I don't think I can do it,because I will show you that you
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can, because I was there and Ihad a.
Tonal member that was talkingabout power build and that's the
program that I will be goingnext Is power build that is my
home.
That is my home base.
I think I could stay in powerbuild forever Literally and this
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woman was talking to me abouthow she didn't think she could
do it and how she was Not ableto do the push ups going chest
to deck And how it was, she wason her knees doing push ups You
And I messaged her and I said, Iam here for you.
I sent her videos of when Istarted the program with Joe the
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first time.
And I said, you can look how farI've come.
I said, you can do this.
And that's what I've like.
That's why I say when this wholefitness thing, what I've, what,
I started doing.
Reasons for, lifting weights wasto build that backbone and
strengthen myself and myconfidence.
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It's gotten way bigger thanthat.
Like I get messages from women.
I get messages from men talkingabout how I inspire them.
And it's absolutely crazy to mebecause I'm just like, I came
from like 120 pound little girlthat was like clueless, that was
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lost, that was broken, thatdidn't know what she was going
to do.
But I used all that, that hadhappened, that was said, that
was done.
And I used it to push myselfforward and to be like, I'm not
going to let that win.
And I'm going to show otherwomen and men and anybody else
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that you can.
And after I had sent her so manyvideos, And I had told her that
I had messaged Joe and I stillremember because it just like,
this is why power build is sospecial to me.
And I messaged him and I said, Ican't do this.
It was like the first class andI messaged him and I said, I
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can't do this.
And it was just that, like thatwhole message of be different.
And that has stuck in my mindfor these two years of my
training.
And I had told her, I said, Meetyourself where you are because
where you are right now is notwhere you're going to end.
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I'm still not done yet.
I ain't done.
Like I have such highexpectations and goals for
myself that I'm just like, mygirl, you're crazy, but we're so
doing it and we're going to havea blast doing it.
So staying in the fight doesn'thave to be so Like stressful and
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be like a crutch or somethingthat kind of blacks you out.
When sometimes when you set yourgoals so high and you like, you
don't reach them and then youget blacked out and you're like,
shit, it's not going to be likethat.
It doesn't have to be like that.
Staying in the fight is like,put your Dukes up, put your
fists up.
And just keep going, even whenit hurts and when it's bad and
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you're like, man, I suck atthis, you're going to suck.
I suck at a lot of things.
Let's talk about some of thosethings like Bulgarians.
let's talk about the reversefly.
Let's talk about reverse lunges.
There's a couple of them that Iliterally have to dial that way
back and flies.
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So everybody has to work atsomething and you're just you're
always going to be learning.
You can always get better.
And I think that's one of thethings that's so amazing with
the coaches on tonal is howh.Ble they are and genuine
because all of them will talkabout things that they're
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constantly working on or thingsthat they can do better.
what with their training andtheir goals that they have for
themselves, whatever that is.
And so for you to think that youcan't it's like how like what
would have happened if I hadgiven up like i'm not gonna
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listen to joe What is joe now?
Like I was like that is notgonna happen because he's the
size of a linebacker Not that hecan pop through the screen and
be like katie get this shit donebut that's like How I thought I
was just like, all right, healready knows how I'm thinking
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right now.
Because I let the hat out of thebag, I told him I can't do this,
but he was not going to let mequit because I know I wanted to
show up.
So sometimes you just need thatperson that it, like I said,
don't surround yourself withyes, people, because what is
that going to accomplish bypeople always telling you, yes,
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you're doing amazing.
Yes.
You're doing right.
Yes.
That's it.
Yes.
Yes.
That's fine.
You quit.
Yes.
That's okay.
Who wants to hear yes all thetime.
I want that feedback.
So staying in the fight is notalways a stressful thing.
I think sometimes people wouldjust take it to this, like, you
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know, like I said, it makes, itmakes people blackout, when they
don't get the results thatthey've wanted.
But this is why I talk aboutwith people with recording
yourself working out recordingyourself doing a move that you
need help with.
It's with tonal, you have thatsmart view that you can use to
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help you with form.
and it's just being open toLearning, like Joe says, being
coachable, like realizing thatyou're not going to know
everything, you're not going tobe good at everything, and it's
always, you're always going tobe learning, but the biggest
thing that you can do is like, Italked about it this week on my
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Instagram.
Is that people that inspire you,people that motivate you, people
that are your mentors, thebiggest gift that you can give
to them is by inspiring otherpeople because Joe's already
done what he's done.
Joe's like, he's all the coachesat tonal, absolutely incredible
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accomplishments that they've allthat they've all done.
So for them, like what coachCasey and Joe talked about on
their podcast.
is for them is helping people ishelp because they've done it and
they're doing it.
So for them, their gift ishelping others.
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And for me, everything that theygive me, like is the most
amazing brain food that I soakit all up.
And I'm just like, I just wantto inspire people and I want
them to see how amazing thecoaches are.
I want to see how, that what'sin pop.
That's what is it?
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Come on, Katie, talk.
What is possible?
I've been talking for too longand I'm like trying not to take
a drink of water like every fiveseconds.
So I do apologize.
so, so it, it, everything isthere.
You have all the tools.
Everything is there.
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You just have to ask for helpand you have to be willing to
make adjustments You have to bewilling to fail you have to be
willing to not be perfectbecause you will never be
perfect I am still not perfect.
I will never be perfect.
I don't want to be perfect.
I want to be my weird Crazy,like I don't want to be I don't
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want to be I don't want to benormal.
I don't want to be perfect Ijust want to be me.
And that is the best.
That's another thing they talkedabout on the podcast is like
being yourself, be yourself,make mistakes.\ Don't be perfect
because you're going to inspiresomebody else to try.
Because if you don't try, you'llnever find out.
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And you need to find out whatyou're.
Capable of, because like I said,I 120 pounds.
You are capable and you can doit.
You just can't give up when itgets hard.
When you fail, you can't giveup.
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You got to stay in the fight.
Thank you guys for joining me onthis podcast.
I really do appreciate all ofyou joining.
I know this was a kind of likeoff the wall kind of podcast
today.
but I've gotten some messageswanting some.
Podcast fun.
So I hope y'all have a fabulousweek and I'll see you on the
next episode
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