April 22, 2024 • 22 mins
"It's not about how much money we make that ultimately makes us happy between 9 to 5. It's whether or not the work fulfills us." --Malcom Gladwell
In this episode of Surviving to Thriving we are getting down to the nitty-gritty of your skills and superpowers and discussing the difference between finding a job and discovering a role that is made for YOU. I'm sharing a fantastic exercise straight from my 8-week ignitHER program. It's like a spotlight on your talents, unique knowledge, and what makes you truly special in minutes. Trust me, it's a game-changer.
Let's dive into:
- Why it's crucial to know and leverage your skills and superpowers.
- Simple steps to uncovering what makes you shine and what drives you.
- How this exercise can fast-track your journey to finding a fulfilling career or role.
If you're itching to step into your greatness and align your skills with your purpose, this episode is for you. Tune in for insights, inspiration, and practical exercises to unlock your full potential.
You are ready to uncover your superpowers and find your why aren't you?
What to listen to next:
Episode 100: RISK TAKERS: Inspiring Stories of Courage and Reward
Episode 96: CAREER MAGIC: Transforming Your Journey with Transferable Skills
Episode 90: DREAMS: 3 Exercises to Ignite Your Next Chapter
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Welcome to Surviving to Thriving, the weekly podcast
for women ready to move beyondjust getting by and into the
realm of thriving.
I'm Janessa Durrani, a lifecoach who's empowered countless
women to design lives they trulylove.
And my mission To help everywoman on earth carve out a role
(00:33):
they adore, one that'sfulfilling and provides them the
rewards they're seeking.
Now, if the idea of that bothexcites and terrifies you, then
you're in the right place, myfriend.
Each week, I share mystrategies, frameworks and a few
stories along the way for youto put into immediate
(00:54):
application, guiding you throughincremental changes on your
transformative journey.
Gain the confidence, competenceand clarity needed to design
your life now.
I'm so thrilled you've joinedus.
Welcome to our journey together.
Let's go.
(01:28):
Hello, my friends, I was talkingto a potential client the other
day who is like so many of us.
She is a mom and she, afterhigh school, went on to beauty
school and has worked in a salonon and off throughout her
mothering years and is now themom of two tweens, tween teens
(01:55):
and is wanting to kind of movemore fully into a completely new
direction.
Loves, loves, loves doing hair,but it isn't tapping into all
of what she wants to give to theworld and it also is not giving
(02:15):
her the income that she iswanting.
So I asked her a million and ahalf questions, because that is
my favorite part of my job I'mreally digging into.
What do people love about thework they do or have done, what
do they not enjoy about it, whatis their intention for moving
forward, what's their intentionfor changing direction, and so
(02:38):
forth.
So I asked her 9 millionquestions and then I was like
you know what?
I have talked you up one sideand down the other.
What is a question that youhave for me?
And she said so how do you workexactly?
Do you just find women jobs?
And it made me think of no,nope, that isn't actually what I
(03:01):
do.
I am a career coach and whilethe end result is in the women
getting a job and not justgetting any job, but getting a
job that fills them up, thatthey look forward to, where they
feel valued and where they feeluseful, because that is the
(03:22):
common thread, my friend,through every single woman that
I work with, is that they justwant to be useful.
They want to be able to bevalued and adored for the work
that they do.
So I said no, actually I don't.
I said what I do is I help yourealize just how freaking
(03:47):
amazing you are right now, withall the skills, superpowers and
loves that you have, withouthaving to go and get a new
certification or go back toschool and do all the things and
do tons of studying andfiguring out.
I hold a mirror to you so thatyou can see how freaking amazing
(04:15):
you are right now and at theend of it then we develop a
package that puts it alltogether so that you can go out
into the world and confidentlysee yourself and pitch yourself
in this new way.
And I was thinking my Igniterprogram is an eight-week program
(04:42):
and I was counting.
There are about 25 differentexercises at least that we go
through throughout the course ofthe whole time.
That just keeps pulling all ofyour fabulousness out.
Pulling all of yourfabulousness out and pulling all
your fabulousness out Becausethis is what's happening out.
(05:04):
And pulling all yourfabulousness out because this is
what's happening when we'relittle.
We are messy, little, dreamygirls who don't have any
adulting inhibitions.
We don't know that there'sorthodontics bills, we don't
know what a mortgage is and wejust see something that we love
(05:27):
and we want to go do that, butas we get older, everyone's like
, oh, it's time to stop playing,get your head out of the clouds
, it's time to go and be anadult.
And this starts as early asmiddle school.
I feel like we are like you gotto figure out what you're
(05:51):
wanting to do, you got to workon those grades, you got to stay
focused and we squelch any bitof dreaming we have left in us.
Now, all right, you come intomiddle school when you're 11.
Think of where we're at in our50s.
(06:12):
It's like Janessa, I am not adreamer.
I have bills to pay.
I got to be sensible andresponsible.
I need security and I get that,and this is where that comes
from.
Right, I've talked about thisbefore.
My dad had the same job hisentire life.
(06:33):
That's what you do.
You leave school and you saythis is what I'm going to become
.
You go to a trade school, yougo to a college.
You do whatever the case is.
You start that first job andthen you go and find a little
bit better, a little bit better,and you might veer off.
(06:56):
Like you know, I was saying toa group of women that I was with
today that I graduated with 35women in well, no, they were not
all women.
I graduated with 32 women andthree boys in my interior design
program in 1994.
And I would say less than fiveof them are still doing interior
(07:22):
design, but a lot of them areworking in the periphery right.
They've gone into sales,they've gone into facilities
management.
They are kind of doing theirown kind of side thing.
That's creative, and othershave just done something
completely different.
So we rarely leave our lane andwe can't see outside of our
(07:48):
lane and we are trying to beresponsible and sensible and
doing all the things.
And I did a podcast, probably amonth ago, on transferable
skills and I'll put that link asone of the follow-ons from this
week on this whole idea ofcalling up all of your skills
(08:11):
that you can put into a box,pick up and take anywhere you go
.
Now if someone came to me andsaid, janessa, I really want to
be a dentist, I really want tobe a doctor, I want to be a
lawyer, all right, girl, you'regoing to have to go back to
school, but for everything elseyou've got what it takes.
(08:36):
So again, I hold a mirror to myclients to help them see, and I
do that through a milliondifferent interactive, what I
call structured dreaming, andone of those exercises actually
three of those exercises Ishared in a podcast again about
(09:01):
a month and a half ago.
I shared in a podcast againabout a month and a half ago,
and I will add that one, becausethose two and this one perfect,
perfect combination if you'retrying to like, really start
looking about what you want todo next.
So here is another exercisethat we do in Igniter that will
help you pull out of you yourawesomeness.
(09:27):
Okay.
So, when you have a minute, whenyou're not driving, folding
your laundry or walking the dog,I want you to write down five
jobs.
It could be your last five.
It could be five of yourfavorite Matters, not to me.
(09:47):
These are roles that you haveheld in the world.
So this could be volunteer,this could be paid work, this
could be your job as a mom.
Okay, so five.
I want you to have five rolesin some capacity.
For each one of them, I wantyou to write down what is the
(10:12):
unique knowledge that youdeveloped, utilized and or honed
in that role.
Okay, so, for example, I myfirst job, as you know well, not
my first job.
My first professional job wasas an interior designer
(10:36):
corporate interior designer soin that job I learned how to do
construction documents andspecifications and vendor
solicitation and changemanagement and I did
construction management andproject management and written
(10:58):
communications and I learnedabout building codes.
I learned about we workedprimarily all in corporate, so I
learned a lot about howfinancial services and insurance
companies, how they worked andhow they needed to be organized
and so forth.
This is just top level, justoff the top of my head.
(11:20):
So get out of you all of thethings, all of the things from
emotional intelligence to I mean, let's go to soft skills active
listening, empathy, to actuallygermane, to the trade and or
(11:45):
just some of those problemsolving, critical thinking,
written communication, verbalcommunication, presentation
skills.
I was like you know, you can belike I'm the queen of
PowerPoint.
I can do pivot tables in mysleep, whatever they were.
It does not matter how long agoit was, it doesn't matter right
(12:07):
now if you like it or not.
It is a skill that you used.
And think about your uniqueknowledge, okay.
So again I have a currentigniter who has a child with
special needs.
What she knows about navigating, and this has actually been
(12:28):
several of my igniters theirability to navigate the IEP
system, to advocating for theirchild, working through school
systems, finding programs.
You know what, my friend?
That is valuable.
There are people in the worldthat need to know.
(12:52):
So some of these things it'swhat we went through is what we
have to offer to someone else.
That is two steps behind us.
We have to offer to someoneelse.
That is two steps behind us.
Okay, so now we have the fiveroles and we have all of your
unique knowledge and all of yourskills.
Keep dumping them out.
(13:13):
Keep dumping them out, and ifyou have overlap, that's fine.
Then what were you known for inthat role?
What did everyone come to youfor?
Were you the connector?
Were you the peacemaker?
(13:34):
Were you the doer?
Were you the organizer?
Were you the queen of logistics?
Were you the organizer?
Were you the queen of logistics?
What was it that?
When you left, they were likethere is a hole in this
organization as a result of youleaving.
How are we ever going to fillthis part of what you did,
(13:55):
something that was beyond just aregular skill and so forth?
This is your superpower, okay,and different superpowers come
up in different roles.
So what was your superpower,maybe more than one for that
role.
(14:16):
Then, for each role, I want youto write down everything you
loved about that role,everything from I loved
interacting with the people.
I love the customer service.
You know, when I was talking tothe woman who is a stylist,
she's like I love helping peoplefeel better, I love talking to
(14:42):
them, I love hearing theirproblems.
Okay, so if I said thatsomeone's kind of skill and love
is that they love helpingpeople, making them feel better
and helping understand theirproblems, that could be 17
(15:06):
different roles, my friend, andnot necessarily are you going to
say, oh, hairdresser, okay.
So this is where I need you tosee that strip away.
Okay.
So first, all the things thatyou loved, and then what are the
things you did not love, whatare the things that sucked you
(15:31):
dry from that job?
If anything, and it could justbe, I didn't love it, I didn't
hate it, it's just the meh.
Okay, once we have your uniqueknowledge, all of your skills,
what you loved about it, whatyou didn't love about it and
(15:55):
what your superpowers were, thisis gold.
Okay, this gives you all thethings.
So now I want you to just erasewhat the job was Erase what the
role was.
It doesn't matter if you werethe CEO or if you were the CEO
(16:20):
of your family or if you itdoesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what it was.
A race cross out doesn't matter, because now you have all the
things.
You have all the skills thatyou have to share.
You know what your new job,from all the loves take, from
all the loves, this is what thisnew role needs to be able to
(16:43):
provide me.
These are my superpowers andthis is what I want to move
forward with.
This is how I get filled up.
And then all of the things thatyou did not love.
We're going to make sure thatyou don't go in a direction that
makes you have to do thosethings on the regular.
(17:05):
Every job has something that'snot so great that you have to do
.
It's like my podcast from a fewweeks ago First ecstasy, then
dishes.
Everything has a downside, butwe want to play up the good side
so that it out balances thethings that are like, eh okay.
The things that are like, ehokay, this is gold.
(17:30):
My friend, I want you to justplay in this place, even if you
freaking love your job right now.
I want you to do this.
I want you to do this so youcan see what you have to offer
and what you should be valuedfor.
Two of the women that just wentthrough my last igniter came to
(17:53):
the end and were like I think Iwant to stay at my company, but
now I see my value.
Now I want to talk to themabout leveling up, about using
my skills and superpowers tomake the organization even
(18:13):
better.
It gave them this whole newperspective, this clear clarity
of how freaking amazing theywere and how they wanted to do
more for their company and thusbe valued for that.
So anyone can utilize this, ifyou have.
(18:42):
I am working with a collegestudent right now.
We've done this exact sameexercise for all of his jobs
that he's had so far.
He is unclear as to where, whathe wants to major with.
He needs to now declare andpoint in a direction, and we've
done something very similar.
You can do this with each ofyour kids.
(19:03):
What is it that you love?
What are the things you're like?
I don't really like that.
I don't want to do that.
What do all of their friendscome to them for?
What are they known for atschool?
What in all of the roles thatthey've had and it doesn't have
to be a paid again.
(19:27):
My oldest was a spirit captainand the marching band he was a
trombone leader.
He is kind of the HR.
He's the conduit between me andthe robotics team and so forth.
It is very clear when we didthis exercise for him that he is
(19:49):
always about bringing twogroups together.
He is the glue that brings themtogether.
So last year, when we did thisexercise for him, along with the
assessments and so forth that Iuse, we realized that
peacekeeping, peacekeeping ishis jam.
We realized that peacekeeping,peacekeeping is his jam.
(20:12):
So he is at least pointing inthe direction of international
relations, diplomacy andpeacekeeping because we did this
exercise, this exercise.
I'm just getting goosebumpsbecause this exercise is so
freaking simple but gives youeverything you need.
I don't help women get jobs.
(20:33):
I help women realize howfreaking amazing they are so
that they can realize what therole they want to have next.
And then we help them, I helpthem, they get the job.
Then we help them, I help them,they get the job.
(20:55):
You have everything you needright now to find a role that
you love and it's right there onthat piece of paper, my friend,
I hope you have a freakingamazing week.
I appreciate your staying powerand thank you for joining me
until the very end.
You're recreating your life, myfriend, and I am so incredibly
proud of you.
If you found this episodehelpful, please share, subscribe
(21:19):
and leave a review.
It means the world to me.
Your support helps more womendiscover it.
Reach out anytime, as I'm hereto support you.
My email is in the show notesand you can find me at
JanessaDurranicom.
And until next week, remember,start where you are, use what
(21:42):
you have, do what you can wash,rinse and repeat, one
intentional step at a time.
You've got this, my friend.
Welcome to Surviving to Thriving, the weekly podcast
for women ready to move beyondjust getting by and into the
realm of thriving.
I'm Janessa Durrani, a lifecoach who's empowered countless
women to design lives they trulylove.
And my mission To help everywoman on earth carve out a role
(00:33):
they adore, one that'sfulfilling and provides them the
rewards they're seeking.
Now, if the idea of that bothexcites and terrifies you, then
you're in the right place, myfriend.
Each week, I share mystrategies, frameworks and a few
stories along the way for youto put into immediate
(00:54):
application, guiding you throughincremental changes on your
transformative journey.
Gain the confidence, competenceand clarity needed to design
your life now.
I'm so thrilled you've joinedus.
Welcome to our journey together.
Let's go.
(01:28):
Hello, my friends, I was talkingto a potential client the other
day who is like so many of us.
She is a mom and she, afterhigh school, went on to beauty
school and has worked in a salonon and off throughout her
mothering years and is now themom of two tweens, tween teens
(01:55):
and is wanting to kind of movemore fully into a completely new
direction.
Loves, loves, loves doing hair,but it isn't tapping into all
of what she wants to give to theworld and it also is not giving
(02:15):
her the income that she iswanting.
So I asked her a million and ahalf questions, because that is
my favorite part of my job I'mreally digging into.
What do people love about thework they do or have done, what
do they not enjoy about it, whatis their intention for moving
forward, what's their intentionfor changing direction, and so
(02:38):
forth.
So I asked her 9 millionquestions and then I was like
you know what?
I have talked you up one sideand down the other.
What is a question that youhave for me?
And she said so how do you workexactly?
Do you just find women jobs?
And it made me think of no,nope, that isn't actually what I
(03:01):
do.
I am a career coach and whilethe end result is in the women
getting a job and not justgetting any job, but getting a
job that fills them up, thatthey look forward to, where they
feel valued and where they feeluseful, because that is the
(03:22):
common thread, my friend,through every single woman that
I work with, is that they justwant to be useful.
They want to be able to bevalued and adored for the work
that they do.
So I said no, actually I don't.
I said what I do is I help yourealize just how freaking
(03:47):
amazing you are right now, withall the skills, superpowers and
loves that you have, withouthaving to go and get a new
certification or go back toschool and do all the things and
do tons of studying andfiguring out.
I hold a mirror to you so thatyou can see how freaking amazing
(04:15):
you are right now and at theend of it then we develop a
package that puts it alltogether so that you can go out
into the world and confidentlysee yourself and pitch yourself
in this new way.
And I was thinking my Igniterprogram is an eight-week program
(04:42):
and I was counting.
There are about 25 differentexercises at least that we go
through throughout the course ofthe whole time.
That just keeps pulling all ofyour fabulousness out.
Pulling all of yourfabulousness out and pulling all
your fabulousness out Becausethis is what's happening out.
(05:04):
And pulling all yourfabulousness out because this is
what's happening when we'relittle.
We are messy, little, dreamygirls who don't have any
adulting inhibitions.
We don't know that there'sorthodontics bills, we don't
know what a mortgage is and wejust see something that we love
(05:27):
and we want to go do that, butas we get older, everyone's like
, oh, it's time to stop playing,get your head out of the clouds
, it's time to go and be anadult.
And this starts as early asmiddle school.
I feel like we are like you gotto figure out what you're
(05:51):
wanting to do, you got to workon those grades, you got to stay
focused and we squelch any bitof dreaming we have left in us.
Now, all right, you come intomiddle school when you're 11.
Think of where we're at in our50s.
(06:12):
It's like Janessa, I am not adreamer.
I have bills to pay.
I got to be sensible andresponsible.
I need security and I get that,and this is where that comes
from.
Right, I've talked about thisbefore.
My dad had the same job hisentire life.
(06:33):
That's what you do.
You leave school and you saythis is what I'm going to become
.
You go to a trade school, yougo to a college.
You do whatever the case is.
You start that first job andthen you go and find a little
bit better, a little bit better,and you might veer off.
(06:56):
Like you know, I was saying toa group of women that I was with
today that I graduated with 35women in well, no, they were not
all women.
I graduated with 32 women andthree boys in my interior design
program in 1994.
And I would say less than fiveof them are still doing interior
(07:22):
design, but a lot of them areworking in the periphery right.
They've gone into sales,they've gone into facilities
management.
They are kind of doing theirown kind of side thing.
That's creative, and othershave just done something
completely different.
So we rarely leave our lane andwe can't see outside of our
(07:48):
lane and we are trying to beresponsible and sensible and
doing all the things.
And I did a podcast, probably amonth ago, on transferable
skills and I'll put that link asone of the follow-ons from this
week on this whole idea ofcalling up all of your skills
(08:11):
that you can put into a box,pick up and take anywhere you go
.
Now if someone came to me andsaid, janessa, I really want to
be a dentist, I really want tobe a doctor, I want to be a
lawyer, all right, girl, you'regoing to have to go back to
school, but for everything elseyou've got what it takes.
(08:36):
So again, I hold a mirror to myclients to help them see, and I
do that through a milliondifferent interactive, what I
call structured dreaming, andone of those exercises actually
three of those exercises Ishared in a podcast again about
(09:01):
a month and a half ago.
I shared in a podcast againabout a month and a half ago,
and I will add that one, becausethose two and this one perfect,
perfect combination if you'retrying to like, really start
looking about what you want todo next.
So here is another exercisethat we do in Igniter that will
help you pull out of you yourawesomeness.
(09:27):
Okay.
So, when you have a minute, whenyou're not driving, folding
your laundry or walking the dog,I want you to write down five
jobs.
It could be your last five.
It could be five of yourfavorite Matters, not to me.
(09:47):
These are roles that you haveheld in the world.
So this could be volunteer,this could be paid work, this
could be your job as a mom.
Okay, so five.
I want you to have five rolesin some capacity.
For each one of them, I wantyou to write down what is the
(10:12):
unique knowledge that youdeveloped, utilized and or honed
in that role.
Okay, so, for example, I myfirst job, as you know well, not
my first job.
My first professional job wasas an interior designer
(10:36):
corporate interior designer soin that job I learned how to do
construction documents andspecifications and vendor
solicitation and changemanagement and I did
construction management andproject management and written
(10:58):
communications and I learnedabout building codes.
I learned about we workedprimarily all in corporate, so I
learned a lot about howfinancial services and insurance
companies, how they worked andhow they needed to be organized
and so forth.
This is just top level, justoff the top of my head.
(11:20):
So get out of you all of thethings, all of the things from
emotional intelligence to I mean, let's go to soft skills active
listening, empathy, to actuallygermane, to the trade and or
(11:45):
just some of those problemsolving, critical thinking,
written communication, verbalcommunication, presentation
skills.
I was like you know, you can belike I'm the queen of
PowerPoint.
I can do pivot tables in mysleep, whatever they were.
It does not matter how long agoit was, it doesn't matter right
(12:07):
now if you like it or not.
It is a skill that you used.
And think about your uniqueknowledge, okay.
So again I have a currentigniter who has a child with
special needs.
What she knows about navigating, and this has actually been
(12:28):
several of my igniters theirability to navigate the IEP
system, to advocating for theirchild, working through school
systems, finding programs.
You know what, my friend?
That is valuable.
There are people in the worldthat need to know.
(12:52):
So some of these things it'swhat we went through is what we
have to offer to someone else.
That is two steps behind us.
We have to offer to someoneelse.
That is two steps behind us.
Okay, so now we have the fiveroles and we have all of your
unique knowledge and all of yourskills.
Keep dumping them out.
(13:13):
Keep dumping them out, and ifyou have overlap, that's fine.
Then what were you known for inthat role?
What did everyone come to youfor?
Were you the connector?
Were you the peacemaker?
(13:34):
Were you the doer?
Were you the organizer?
Were you the queen of logistics?
Were you the organizer?
Were you the queen of logistics?
What was it that?
When you left, they were likethere is a hole in this
organization as a result of youleaving.
How are we ever going to fillthis part of what you did,
(13:55):
something that was beyond just aregular skill and so forth?
This is your superpower, okay,and different superpowers come
up in different roles.
So what was your superpower,maybe more than one for that
role.
(14:16):
Then, for each role, I want youto write down everything you
loved about that role,everything from I loved
interacting with the people.
I love the customer service.
You know, when I was talking tothe woman who is a stylist,
she's like I love helping peoplefeel better, I love talking to
(14:42):
them, I love hearing theirproblems.
Okay, so if I said thatsomeone's kind of skill and love
is that they love helpingpeople, making them feel better
and helping understand theirproblems, that could be 17
(15:06):
different roles, my friend, andnot necessarily are you going to
say, oh, hairdresser, okay.
So this is where I need you tosee that strip away.
Okay.
So first, all the things thatyou loved, and then what are the
things you did not love, whatare the things that sucked you
(15:31):
dry from that job?
If anything, and it could justbe, I didn't love it, I didn't
hate it, it's just the meh.
Okay, once we have your uniqueknowledge, all of your skills,
what you loved about it, whatyou didn't love about it and
(15:55):
what your superpowers were, thisis gold.
Okay, this gives you all thethings.
So now I want you to just erasewhat the job was Erase what the
role was.
It doesn't matter if you werethe CEO or if you were the CEO
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of your family or if you itdoesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what it was.
A race cross out doesn't matter, because now you have all the
things.
You have all the skills thatyou have to share.
You know what your new job,from all the loves take, from
all the loves, this is what thisnew role needs to be able to
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provide me.
These are my superpowers andthis is what I want to move
forward with.
This is how I get filled up.
And then all of the things thatyou did not love.
We're going to make sure thatyou don't go in a direction that
makes you have to do thosethings on the regular.
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Every job has something that'snot so great that you have to do
.
It's like my podcast from a fewweeks ago First ecstasy, then
dishes.
Everything has a downside, butwe want to play up the good side
so that it out balances thethings that are like, eh okay.
The things that are like, ehokay, this is gold.
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My friend, I want you to justplay in this place, even if you
freaking love your job right now.
I want you to do this.
I want you to do this so youcan see what you have to offer
and what you should be valuedfor.
Two of the women that just wentthrough my last igniter came to
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the end and were like I think Iwant to stay at my company, but
now I see my value.
Now I want to talk to themabout leveling up, about using
my skills and superpowers tomake the organization even
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better.
It gave them this whole newperspective, this clear clarity
of how freaking amazing theywere and how they wanted to do
more for their company and thusbe valued for that.
So anyone can utilize this, ifyou have.
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I am working with a collegestudent right now.
We've done this exact sameexercise for all of his jobs
that he's had so far.
He is unclear as to where, whathe wants to major with.
He needs to now declare andpoint in a direction, and we've
done something very similar.
You can do this with each ofyour kids.
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What is it that you love?
What are the things you're like?
I don't really like that.
I don't want to do that.
What do all of their friendscome to them for?
What are they known for atschool?
What in all of the roles thatthey've had and it doesn't have
to be a paid again.
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My oldest was a spirit captainand the marching band he was a
trombone leader.
He is kind of the HR.
He's the conduit between me andthe robotics team and so forth.
It is very clear when we didthis exercise for him that he is
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always about bringing twogroups together.
He is the glue that brings themtogether.
So last year, when we did thisexercise for him, along with the
assessments and so forth that Iuse, we realized that
peacekeeping, peacekeeping ishis jam.
We realized that peacekeeping,peacekeeping is his jam.
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So he is at least pointing inthe direction of international
relations, diplomacy andpeacekeeping because we did this
exercise, this exercise.
I'm just getting goosebumpsbecause this exercise is so
freaking simple but gives youeverything you need.
I don't help women get jobs.
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I help women realize howfreaking amazing they are so
that they can realize what therole they want to have next.
And then we help them, I helpthem, they get the job.
Then we help them, I help them,they get the job.
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You have everything you needright now to find a role that
you love and it's right there onthat piece of paper, my friend,
I hope you have a freakingamazing week.
I appreciate your staying powerand thank you for joining me
until the very end.
You're recreating your life, myfriend, and I am so incredibly
proud of you.
If you found this episodehelpful, please share, subscribe
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and leave a review.
It means the world to me.
Your support helps more womendiscover it.
Reach out anytime, as I'm hereto support you.
My email is in the show notesand you can find me at
JanessaDurranicom.
And until next week, remember,start where you are, use what
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you have, do what you can wash,rinse and repeat, one
intentional step at a time.
You've got this, my friend.
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