Careful What You Ask For

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I've been careful to make a list of things I want for my life because I believe that these things are coming for me. The thing is, they don't always happen the way I expect them to. 

Sometimes you need to be more specific. Sometimes, be aware that the good things coming for you are housed in lessons. What is it that you're manifesting for your life? Are you being specific enough? Are you sure that the difficulties you're going through aren't actually the good things inside a lesson you need to learn in order to accept them?

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Episode Transcript

Patrice B (00:41):
Welcome back, y'all, to the randomest podcast ever.
I took a little, just a littlebreak, but I'm back.
it wasn't even that much of abreak, but I'm just happy to be
back with y'all.
And I'm back with some of themost randomest shit.
I'm still in my healed andhealing journey.

(01:02):
But what I realize is that as Isit and I'm processing what it
is that I want, desire anddeserve, right?
And y'all, I'm gonna tell y'allI'm sipping with this one.
This, this, this, I'm sipping.
I'm just sipping on a littleRiesling because I need to keep
my spirit calm and chill, but Igot a little something for this,

(01:23):
right?
What today I want to share withyou guys is be careful what you
ask for.
I'm going to tell y'all, I havebeen who child, I have been
writing down, being very clearand specific about what it is
that I want in my life.
What does that look like for me?

(01:45):
And what I'm going to tell you,I don't care if it's God,
universe, him, she, them, orthey, Whoever it is, if you got
a whole team of people behindyou, they are listening and they
will deliver that shit just howyou ask, but you gotta be
specific.
You have got to be specific.

(02:06):
So I had a whole list of aperson, especially once you
start to like really say like,Hey, what is it that I want?
Cause I have seen some things insome relationships that you'd be
like, I don't, I know I don'twant that.
So instead of focusing on thelack, I focus on abundance.

(02:26):
And let me tell y'all, it's beencoming in abundance.
It comes in.
It's like, Hey, you asked forwhat you got it.
I made a list of what type ofperson I would want to have as
my partner, as my future.
And I'm going to tell you, younever said I heard you and gave

(02:49):
me the whole damn list.
But guess what?
Their ass wasn't single.
I have met some of the mostamazing people.
They just might not have been myperson, but they've been
absolutely amazing.
When I sit down and I thinkabout what I have written down
and what I see for my futureself, and it doesn't matter if

(03:11):
it's now or if it was 20 yearsago.
Sometimes they take their timewith giving it to you, but they
will give it to you just how youask.
And you have to be clear on whatthat looks like.
Y'all don't be playing becauseI'm gonna tell you God,
universe, them or they, whoeveryour tribe is, they got your

(03:35):
back, they listening.
They are listening.
So in this healed and healingjourney, while yes, I wrote down
a list of, Hey, this is what Iwould like if somebody will come
into my space, please can theybe this amazing?
And they sent me some amazingass people, but they wasn't my
people.
Just the minor details, right?

(03:55):
So I had to go back and tweakthe list a couple of times.
But in this journey of askingfor what I want, I wanted peace,
sanity, and balance.
And I told y'all that back inthe beginning and they said,
this is how we're going to giveit to you.
We're going to make youuncomfortable so that you
understand and own your peace.

(04:17):
We going to shake you up.
So you understand the bad andthe good.
So you get your balance.
And you won't go into that innerwork.
So your ass could be saying inthe midst of insanity.
And I was like, shit, theydidn't gave me what I asked for.
They are giving it to me.

(04:38):
But mind you, it ain't comingout.
I thought it was going to come.
I ain't even gonna lie.
I've been kind of like, wait aminute.
I thought I just asked for thebasics and they gave me a little
razzle dazzle.
I didn't need the razzle dazzle.
I just wanted the basics.
Could you have made it easy?
Maybe I should have asked foreasy, but I didn't.
So in this space of like healingand healed and what I put out

(05:03):
that I want, what it is that Isee for myself, I had to revisit
the list because I'm telling youright now, this is crazy at how
How I am supported and they showup for me because they was like,
Hey, Trish, you asked for it.

(05:23):
This is what I'm gonna give youbecause I learned a long time
ago that you don't pray to Godand you don't pray to whoever
you pray to.
You don't ask for strengthbecause what they do is they put
you in positions to be strong.
So here I am thinking I'm comingfrom the brighter side of life
and asking for peace.
And so within the peace that I'masking for, what do they do?

(05:45):
Disrupt everything until youlearn to experience it and own
it within you because theoutside shouldn't disrupt you.
Damn.
Did y'all feel that?
I'm gonna take a sip on thatone.
Because the reality is you haveto appreciate the storm to get

(06:06):
to the sunshine.
And sometimes that storm looksreally rocky for some.
And life just throws you aboulder and not just a curve
ball.
But then on the other hand, youget the other side where you
have to learn the lessons.
And sometimes we are lookingoutside for our lessons and the

(06:27):
lessons are coming from within.
Cause I'm gonna tell you on thishealed and healing journey, I've
been doing that shadow work.
And when they talk about thatshadow, you know, that friend
that walk with you every day.
That know the truth that'sbehind you at every step is with
you in the darkness when youcan't see them and damn sure

(06:48):
they're in the light when youcan see them and they got your
back.
They know everything that sideis like, wow.
And I've made so manydiscoveries about self.
Things that might trigger.
Where does this stem from?
Right.
And it's like, wow.

(07:11):
And even though sometimes withlife throwing a curve ball or a
boulder, right?
I'm still able to take ownershipof my shit.
What did you ask for?
What is this showing you?
Now I'm gonna tell y'allsomething funny, my cousin, she
cracks me up, but she is one whoknows me like the back of my
hand.

(07:31):
I know her like the back of herhand.
We pick a side, the tan side,dark side.
We got it.
Right.
But I laugh because she, oh, shetalks about how like I encounter
people.
Right.
And when it doesn't work out,I'd be like, okay, it didn't
work out.
That wasn't my person.
And I moved the fuck on.
Cause that's what you do.

(07:52):
You just move the fuck on.
Cause you're not supposed tostay here.
I believe that the universe saidyou wasn't mine.
So, I should keep moving.
And I move just that easily.
It's not moving in a sense thatI need to look for something.
Cause I'm never reallysearching.
It just happens.
But I do move on.

(08:12):
I take the lesson I'm supposedto get from it.
I appreciate everything thatI've learned.
Even the hardships I take thatand I move the fuck on because
I'm gonna tell you this lifeKeeps moving Y'all I'm still
waiting on February 29th andit's leap year We in the summer

(08:35):
and I'm just like where did thetime go?
It keeps moving So why should Istay still?
Um, I'm learning these lessonsand I'm moving forward because
I'm owning this shit.
Things have popped up.
It's made me aware.
Some things have beenuncomfortable and I told y'all

(08:55):
it's been an uncomfortable ride,but I'm enjoying the ride.
I'm enjoying a little bumps.
It may not be smooth pavementand we on the gravel, but I'm
enjoying the ride.
The connections that I get tohave, the connections that I get

(09:16):
to lose.
I appreciate them.
Cause it don't stop nothing.
I gotta keep going.
I gotta keep growing.
That might be a whole rap.
I'm about to be on AtlanticRecords y'all, cause that was a
whole rap.

(09:36):
Don't judge me.
Blame it on the wine.
I'm a couple glasses in.
But I definitely want you guysto know that you get what you
ask for.
Ask for the world because youdeserve it.
And it's coming.
Believe you, me, it's coming.

(09:58):
Um, every last one who islistening to this podcast as of
today, whenever you arelistening to it, you have now
survived a hundred percent ofyour bad days.
Keep going and keep growing andbe careful what you ask for

(10:20):
because they are listening.
It is coming.
Believe it.
And that ain't the wine talking.
I'm being for real.
It's coming.
This was a quickie for me, butit was short and sweet.
You get what you ask for.
So be specific and be verycareful about what you ask for

(10:43):
because it's coming.
Believe in you and believe it'scoming.
And um, buy that next record.
it's going to be called keepgoing and growing, whichever way
we want to look at it.
But look at me, check me out onBT awards.
Um, next year until next time.
Thank you.
Cause I know y'all got options.

(11:05):
We'll talk soon.