Giving - Having - Being Grace

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A word that keeps coming up for me for the last 6 months or so is grace. It means a lot of things to show grace, be grace, give grace, be graceful, and even to say grace. I have had some experiences recently where I would have liked to be given some grace in order to navigate the situation I was in.

Those experiences made me reevaluate the way I run my business, treat my clients, and communicate the expectations to the people in my life. It's important to give grace, conduct yourself with grace, but most importantly to give yourself some grace on your healed and healing journey because growth, transforming, transcending, and changing is difficult.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker (00:41):
Welcome back, y'all, to this most randomest podcast
ever.
But in this season, y'all, Iknow I have been sharing all the
things in my healed and healingjourney.
And I hope this, I hope that ithelps someone or makes you aware
of something.

(01:02):
Shoot, I'm just sharing mystories.
And sometimes it's, you know, itis my stories are not always my
stories, but

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Y'all, I'm telling you, like when you start to
become more self aware of yourshit, man, things are like
blaring lights.
And so.
With that being said, some ofthe things, and I'm excited
about this y'all, because when Itell y'all sometimes it's
uncomfortable, but I love howit's just making me more and

(01:30):
more aware.
But I will say in the last likesix months for me, a word that
has been standing out in thisseason for me and all of my
lessons has been grace.
Now it has been interesting ashow we use grace in our lives,

(01:51):
right?

Speaker (01:52):
And it's so much so that I had to ponder and think
about all the ways that we usethe word grace, that we're going
to go to Webster for this one.
It's simple elegance orrefinement of movement,
courtesy, goodwill.
It is something that you saybefore dinner.

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It is a word that we use togreet someone of royalty.
It is that you can believesomeone has in terms of
personality, charm, grace, andbeauty.
It's to give someone honor orcredit by one's presence.
And to be an attractive person.

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In or on or adorned.
And that was just, that's all ofit.
You go on from nouns to verbs.
Like grace is just used in somany different ways.
And I feel like I am in a spaceof grace.
We are talking about a graceperiod of time, my presence,

(03:00):
energy, And sometimes grace isgiven and sometimes it's not.
I've had several situationswhere I've felt like, Oh, just a
couple in different ways of whengrace was not given and it
wasn't understood.
And it all came from the lack ofcommunication.

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So, one situation is aconnection with a friend and
rules of engagement had changed.
The friend felt like, hey, Ishouldn't have to now update you
and explain to you.
And I'm like, hey friend, thisis something so simple and you
could have just talked to me.
But the friend felt like, Hey, Idon't got to explain that to

(03:47):
you.
But the thought is, is that, Heyfriend, give me grace.
If I needed to learn somethingnew in our rules of engagement,
a simple conversation could havebeen had and the outcome could
be different.
Well, I've gracefully exitedthat friendship.
In a recent, situation, I had, aprofessional experience when it

(04:12):
comes to grace.
with a lack thereof.
And what happened was that I wasdue to get my hair done.
We had an appointment for 9.
30.
I reach out at about 8.
40 because my morning changed.
And I had to drop my youngestson off to school, which is
going to affect my time.

(04:33):
And I am very respectful ofother people's business, like
hands down, like if those areyour rules, this is your rules,
sir, ma'am, but we do expect foryou to also abide by them as
well.
So what was interesting wasthat, I reached out at about
930.

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I reached out to say, Hey, youmay, I may be like 10 or 15
minutes behind.
And, she doesn't respond backuntil 926.
was already at the place.
So I was waiting to like see herwalk in or something like that.
But at 926, she was telling me,Yes, it is too late because I
have someone behind you.

(05:16):
The thing was, is that she nevercame.
She never appeared.
So even if I was able to changemy timing, do something
different, I Sis wasn't going todo my hair no way.
That's what it appeared as now acustomer and as a professional
as to what that looks like.
So before I even knew that shehad responded back to me at 926

(05:39):
and I read it and I was like,Oh, let me, you know, Ooh, my
apologies.
And let me know if there's anyfee for a missed appointment.
And now let me preface by sayingthis, I didn't know the rules.
I didn't know the rules ofengagement.
We had a discussion.
I did not book it through hersite because I was actually

(06:00):
doing something that is not onher site.
And so we were trying somethingnew.
But what was interesting is thatSis never even showed up.
She had no intention on coming.
Whether I was on time or not,she never showed up because I

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was there well before nine inthe space.
Me running behind was justsaying like, Hey, I may just, I
didn't give her all the detailsand maybe I should have, but at
that point it doesn't evenreally matter when she
responded.
I was when she did and she neverintended on coming.
But I went to her site and shehas a grace period of if you're

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10 minutes late, there's a feeand after 15, you're canceled.
And so, at that moment, I waslike, wait a minute, when did
she respond back to me?
wasn't giving me any grace.
And when we are in those spacesof like the friend who decided

(07:03):
that, Hey, I don't have toexplain anything to you.
The stylist that says like, Hey,I'm giving you no more than I
give you nothing.
Essentially.
there was no grace.
There was no time for grace.
And being in this space of ushaving the grace periods, the

(07:25):
grace periods of rest, a chanceto get it together, how we
present ourselves, What Igathered with all of my
randomness in these twosituations was, is that the
grace that needs to be given, Ineed to give it to self.

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Be patient in your grace periodof transitioning.
Be gentle.
Note that you are still gracefulin your journey of
transformation.
You are amazing.
And even in the times of you donot really feel like your best

(08:07):
or you're still trying to figureit out.
Just know that you are stillroyalty and full of grace.
And it was more of the graceperiod of being still.
listening.
I'm in a grace period and aroundme I am seeing the benefit of

(08:33):
grace.
Owning it, knowing it, beingstill in it, being thankful for
it.
Because that's the other thingtoo is that I'm thankful for all
of the experiences I have beenhaving.
Like the stylist that didn'tshow up also makes me aware of

(08:54):
how do I conduct myself in mybusiness?
Making sure that when I'mdealing with customers that they
are clear as to how I am to betreated and respected.
And they have a time period tofigure it out.

(09:16):
Because I believe that you haveto teach people how to treat
you.
And we need that grace period oftime for them to learn it.
And sometimes it comes a littlebit more, quicker than other
times.
But note that, yes.
Grace can show up in so manyways in your life and appreciate

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those moments.
grace in the difficult moments.
Be grateful in those moments ofgrace for things that are coming
in the lessons that you arelearning and know that you are
worthy throughout the wholeentire process.

(09:59):
Because I'm now in a season ofgrace.
And I don't know if any of youhave ever paid attention to
this.
or being aware of it foryourself.
And I hope this helps.
I'm gonna tell you, I hope thishelps someone and you realize
that, give yourself grace in thecraziest times and the best of

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times.
Give yourself grace.
Be thankful for what you aretaking in and putting out.
It's a wonderful time and it'shealed in a healing journey.
Y'all.
I'm telling you, I'm lovingevery bit of it.
I am loving every moment andthis, the fact that I'm sharing
it with you guys, it's like,Whoa, we have to give ourselves

(10:48):
grace when we are endingrelationships.
And there's a period of like,Ooh, we got to figure it out.
We got a grace period.
Some people go a little longerwith their grace period before
they move on.
And some people understand thatit needed to end and they can
move on faster because thehealed and healing journey looks
very different for differentpeople and the lessons that we

(11:09):
have to learn.
and because I have been morehyper focused on being more self
aware.
And being in that space ofknowing me, owning me is coming
like rapid fire and I am soexcited for it.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
But I have also been functioning in a space of grace
of being thankful for what hasbeen feeding my soul.
And having grace while doing it.
Cause I'm going to tell you, youare tested along the way.
And sometimes we don't even giveourselves credit in that grace

(11:55):
period, where we need a little,we need to give ourselves a
little bit of grace in a periodof transition and change because
you need those moments to getit.
Cause some things can happenquickly and some things move
slower, but you have to giveyourself grace.
And so in this season of healedand healing, I hope you give

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yourself grace.
I hope you move with grace.
I hope that you have grace forwhat is coming for you.
Because that shit ain't easytransforming, transcending,
changing, movement, alterations,growth is difficult.

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It's difficult,

Speaker (12:46):
And I know y'all could be anywhere but you spent your
time with me until next time