New Season Of You

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Today I'll reflect on the year 2024 and discuss the rapid passage of time, personal growth, and life lessons learned. I'll delve into my experiences with relationships, accountability, and the importance of self-reflection. On my journey of self-improvement, I've heard from people from my past that have made me think about how I handle myself and how I affect the people around me. As I look forward to 2025, there's huge value in living in the moment, appreciating where one has been, and being selective about who to share one's energy with. 

Tune in for an insightful conversation on growth, gratitude, and the excitement of new beginnings.

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Episode Transcript

Patrice B (00:41):
Welcome back to the randomest podcast ever.
Can y'all believe that we arealmost at the end of 2024?
It is crazy.
I cannot believe it.
It went by so fast.
I don't know for y'all, but itdefinitely has flew.
It flew by.
I felt like it was September,November, and now we saying

(01:03):
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year.
And This entire year has been atest of my damn patience.
I would have to say like as Ireflect back on a year, like the
lessons, all the things thatI've been sharing with you guys,
some of it is on the spot.
Some of it is just like, Hey,later past.

(01:24):
But what I realized that thisyear was definitely a year of
reflection.
As I reflect on the year thatI've had throughout this year,
I've shared so many differentlessons with you guys.
But just reflecting on who am I,what is it that I want?

(01:44):
Who is it that I want?
And it's just been all like inthe moment sharing with you
guys.
Some is my story.
Some isn't, but it also makes meaware.
Like when you talk to someoneelse and you're having that
conversation about life, right?
Everybody has like a differentperspective and it is so
enlightening as to the viewpointas to which they view life, how

(02:06):
they see it.
And it could just be based onpast trauma, whatever.
it has just been an interestingtime, be it the relationships,
friendships, workships, whateverthat is.
I have been like, wow,perspective.

(02:26):
You learn something new everyday.
And I have been having toreflect on this season of
Patrice.
And the reflection is, is whereyou've been and where you're
going.
And in these spaces of like,Hey, where you been?

(02:48):
How did that go?
How did that affect you?
But more so, how does whereyou've been get you to where
you're going?
And, I have to say, y'all, wejust have to, we definitely have
to take accountability of ourown shit for us to grow and be
better.
That is a fact.
We must do that.

(03:12):
Some people hold on to thingsfor a really long time.
I just had a situation thisweekend where someone told me
that they had looked up to me inmiddle school because I seemed
to be a person who knew who theywere back then.
And I apparently impacted herlife in a way where she admired

(03:36):
me, but also her encounter withme said I was kind of sassy.
Um, and I showed a mean girl.
And what's so funny is that I'mlike, dang, in middle school,
perspective is everything,right?
And she is entitled to the waythat she feels.
But when we are even thinkingabout our encounter with someone
else, it's always more than justus.

(03:57):
It is beyond us.
At that time of all the thingsthat she said, like she had no
clue, like in my life, whatcould have been going on, like
what my response was or noresponse to her could have just
been a direct reflection of mylife.
Not necessarily anything towardsher.
She doesn't really know me andnone of these encounters I

(04:17):
remember right now.
but she's clearly held onto thatfor probably 30 years.
That's a long time.
But in this moment of now andbeing in a space where she is in
a closer proximity and can seeme as the person that I am and
some of the things that she saideven me of touching her hair to

(04:37):
try to figure out what was goingon with it.
If it was like all hers orwhatever.
I'm still that person.
I'm still just that damn random.
I am so random.
Like, what I'm thinking I mightsay, or it's on my face, I may
act on it.
I've always been like this supercreative person who was just

(04:58):
always in her own world.
but I do take accountability,for when I fuck up.
When I was like, Hey, that wasme.
I could have did somethingdifferent.
Um, and sometimes in the fuck upand my reflection of my year,
like when Patrice is Patrice andcause y'all know I'm a verb
yeah, I can make mistakes andthe consequences are sometimes

(05:18):
you still have to pay for them.
You may lose that friendship.
You may lose the connection andI will take that ill and be like
lesson learned.
But also in my reflection, italso made me think about the
leaps of faith.
That we have to take andbelieving in ourselves and
taking the next steps and goinginto the new era of you or

(05:42):
whatever that is and reflectingto know, like, hey, everything
of where you've been and thelessons that you learned are
going to help you for your nextstages.
You took accountability, youlearned your lessons and how do
you apply that going forward?
You never know whose lives youimpact or some people don't even

(06:03):
realize how they can impact yourlife.
And the simplest way my lessons,all of my lessons has gotten me
to where I am today.
Every last one.
I'm telling you, y'all be like,Whoa, wait a minute.
And I be trying to go into myshell and be like, let me just
not come outside a little bit.

(06:25):
I don't want to talk to thepeople.
Hey, you stay over there.
I'm gonna stay over here.
Especially when it comes todating.
I feel like the new questionthat people ask, cause this is
the random, isn't it?
I've been asked so many times inthe last like few months, Hey,
are you single?
And they asked with suchcuriosity, like, are you?

(06:47):
Why is that?
And before I may not have had ananswer, but I can tell you that
I am single because I amchoosing to reserve this energy
that I have for someone who canhandle it, someone who can
appreciate it.
As I am appreciating andembracing every bit of this

(07:10):
black girl joy that I have rightnow, this peace, sanity, and
balance that I've begun tocreate.
I possess and I am enjoying.
I'm just selective about who Ishare it with because I realize
that this energy is, it can be alot, but not everybody can
handle that energy.
And my reflection, I have to bevery careful as to who you share

(07:33):
that with.
And so why are you single?
Because everybody can't have it.
They may want it, but can theyhave it?
Can they handle it?
No.
Sometimes I can't even handlethe shit of Patrice, but we are
here.
But in my reflection of like,dang, why are you single?

(07:53):
Because hey, I'm shining bright.
Hey, I'm happy in life.
Hey, positive Patty is in theforefront and not penitentiary
and petty.
Because I'm positive andpassionate about life.
I love it.
And I exude that out.
And so it draws sometimes thewrong people in.

(08:14):
So why am I single?
Because I don't want the badpeople close.
But am I open to meeting people?
Sure.
And I meet them.
Some last, some don't.
I don't mind meeting people.
I'm not blocking the energy.
I'm just not very, um, open.
I just have to be aware of who Ishare all of the goodness with.

(08:36):
But that question has come up awhole lot lately.
Like you're going by yourself,you're doing it by yourself.
But in my time of reflection, Irealized that as I grow, it's
better to have people to do itwith, like work.
For instance, in the salon, I'vereflected on, hey, for me to go
to newer heights.

(08:57):
We need some good energy andsome other people in the space.
Because we can.
We should.
It makes life easier when it'swith others, especially those
that have that, that good energyand spirits that you want around
you.
And so everything doesn't haveto be done alone.
It doesn't have to be.

(09:17):
By yourself.
You don't have to be by yourselfand everything.
And my reflection of this singlelife.
So who knows what 2025 may bringin this single girl world of
mine.
But, I'm excited about the newjourney.
I'm excited to take the stepsgoing forward, in this season of

(09:38):
reflection, I am grateful forwhere I've been because y'all,
shit, has prepared me for whereI'm about to go.
And I hope in your reflection,you can appreciate where you've
been so that you can get to thenext steps.
Go to the next level.

(10:00):
Since my birthday, if I couldsay anything, I am enjoying the
moment of now.
I told y'all that last time,like I ain't worried about too
much in the future.
I ain't worried too much in thepast.
I am in the now.
appreciating today.
Today is a good day.
I'm going to enjoy today.

(10:21):
Because I can see where I'mgoing, but I'm not focused on
where I'm going.
I'm focused more on where I am.
And I can't believe it.
We almost done.
But as always y'all we are hereand Whew, it's exciting.
New things are coming.
It's going to be amazing.

(10:43):
I'm back with more Patrisserandomness 2025.
I'm probably past the healingstage in 2025.
Y'all probably go to the levelof like breakout, but who knows
where we'll be.
But as always, I appreciate you.

(11:04):
And thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you for always spendingyour time with me.
I'm grateful.
Until next time.