April 30, 2024 • 22 mins
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This is a season of growth, challenges, and leveling up. Do you feel it too? I've been working on being self-aware on my journey of healing and we've had some good conversations in the salon about life and growth.
You know how you feel like you've done some healing, then the universe sends you a new challenge? Stay steady and sturdy in yourself and the people who are uncomfortable with that will show themselves out!
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Patrice B (00:42):
Welcome back, y'all.
I'm so happy to be back with youguys.
Yes, the disclaimer is that theman is back on the show.
Allergy season has kicked up andI really think I'm invincible
and I'm not.
I don't have no leg in thisfight with these allergies.
And it's times where before,y'all, I would just be like, I'm
(01:03):
not taping because the man wasstrong.
Like.
Y'all would be like, is thisPatrice or is this a special
guest?
But today, y'all, it's, it's,it's me.
I'm giving y'all the raw and thereal.
Now today, I just want to shootthis shit with y'all because I
realize that in this season ofgrowth and like leveling up,
(01:27):
you're going to be challengedlike shit.
Like I've been, Like what in theworld is going on now?
All of y'all that believe in themoons, the stars, the
alignments, the planets, theretrogrades and your future.
Like it came through like astorm last week and I was like,
(01:49):
what in the world is universal?
I tell me, but what I have beennoticing and this healed and
healing and journey.
Cause y'all know, I ain'talways.
I ain't always healed, right?
But I'm still in the journey ofhealing.
I've healed some things, but I'mworking on things, you know, as
they come.
(02:10):
And I think we've all got to beat some point self aware.
And at this stage I have beentruly, truly, truly self aware
of me and my shit.
I tell y'all that all the time.
I take ownership of mine.
Now today's, conversationdefinitely need to come with a
little drink being made on thespot.
(02:32):
Because at this point, child, weall know that retrograde came
with a little something.
So today we just going intolike, what does that healed and
healing look like?
You know, sometimes we thinkthat we overcome one thing, but
And now we done and that it'sover and now we, we all good,
(02:55):
right?
We done.
We over with it.
It's all great.
But let me tell you something.
It ain't, I can't even tell youthat it is never ending.
Now I find that the more that Ibegin to level up, In my energy
and anybody who knows me, I justhad this conversation this week.
(03:15):
Like, I think that I'm tallerthan I am.
I do.
Right.
This is, this is a point in thestory.
Just, this is some of my, my, myhealing and heal, right?
So this week with some of thethings that are just like in my,
my journey of being healed andhealing.
I, I think I mentioned to youguys before about how I asked my
(03:36):
son how he views himself, right?
And so in this week'sconversation with one of my
clients, because we had somereally good conversations in the
salon, Just about life andgrowth.
Cause I'm sharing this journeywith them as well, right?
They're sharing with me.
We are getting it together.
Okay.
Now I need y'all to know thatI'm about five, three and a
(03:59):
half, five, four.
And I think five, four ispushing it, but you won't let
this girl right here be greatbecause you can't tell me that I
ain't tall.
I believe that I am really likea five, six, five, seven, And
play with me on a really goodday when this energy is giving
big.
I'm 5'9 in my mind, because youcan't tell me otherwise.
(04:21):
Like when I'm out here in thesestreets, I'm walking into the
room like I'm really on that 5'9I ain't 5'3 I'm 5'9 And the walk
matches the energy and I believethis.
And police said, I'mma let y'allknow that's a little delulu, but
it ain't coming from the cupthat we just poured.
But, honest statements.
(04:43):
Like I do believe that I amtall.
I believe that my energy is big.
I believe that the love that Igive is big.
I can't nobody tell meotherwise.
So in this season of beinghealed and healing, I am
becoming and noticing how I'vereally, honestly, truly view
(05:06):
myself.
Now, I believe that I am tall,but what I see for myself is
that my energy is big.
Everything that I have inside ofme is big.
It is amazing.
The love that I give is so big.
You know, I'm full Scorpio, youget all in or you get nothing,
(05:28):
but when I'm all in, it's big.
I give big energy in everythingthat I do.
When I'm in the salon, I knowthat the experiences that I
create for my customers is anexperience that they may not get
anywhere else.
The level of education that Igive to them and empower them to
(05:50):
know so they're not out heredoing no craziness.
It's big.
It's huge.
I go above and beyond.
When I walk into my spaces thatare for me, especially home, I'm
not coming in five three, boo.
I'm coming in five, nine.
I'm coming in big.
(06:11):
And I had a situation where lastweek, and you know how when you
healed and healing, the universesaid, Oh, you needed to learn a
new lesson.
You going to walk intosomething.
Some things that I didn't reallywant to see, but I walked in on
it.
But the way that I entered theroom, I didn't come in small.
I came in stallion like.
(06:33):
I walk like a stallion.
I am that.
But in a situation where itcould just break down your
spirit and make you small, makeyou feel small, it didn't do
that.
I was like, Whoa.
And it was, it was a, it was avery like off putting surprise,
but the surprise was, it was agood slash bad surprise, it
(06:54):
didn't take away from who I amand how I view myself.
And sometimes we allow people toTake away your energy, your
bigness, all of the things thatmake you, you and make you great
and make you grand.
And we can't do that.
(07:15):
And that day was like, I haddifferent, you know, things
coming through that they weretrying to penetrate this energy.
They was trying to, they wastrying to really, really
penetrate This healed andhealing journey in a way that
they think they were going tostop it or change the outcome.
(07:37):
And some people don't even, I'mgoing to tell you this, some
people maybe unintentionallydon't realize that that's what
they're trying to do.
It's change you.
And I was talking to my oldestson because we have
conversations and I talked toboth of my sons on the level of
I need them to understand, knowthemselves, love themselves.
(07:59):
But we talk candidly about howwe view each other and where we
are in life.
Like my oldest son is very intuned.
When I'm a little off, he knowlike mom about to pop or she's
tired today.
Brain is overwhelmed.
He knows these things.
And I know y'all with my ADHD,it seems like I'm all over the
place, but it goes back to theconversation of not being moved
(08:20):
when you own your shit.
My oldest son has this view ofme and he said that I was, and
I'm gonna tell you, it's realspecial.
It's sometimes how he, explainsthings, but he used the words,
he's like, you know, when you'relike indirectly manipulated.
And I was like, what kind ofcrap is this boy about to tell
me today?
(08:41):
So his description of me is thatmy son feels as if I'm a
boulder.
It's big.
I got big energy.
And when I encounter people,they initially are drawn to me.
And then it's uncomfortable.
She take up a lot of space.
(09:02):
So I want to move it.
I need to relocate it.
This boulder, I want to break itdown.
And what happens is, is that forthe boulder to move, The person
who has the problem attempts tomove it and when they can't move
it one way they shift, theychange, they go to the other
(09:22):
side, they attempt to move itand sometimes will bring in
items to help move that boulder.
But I stay firm and I stayplanted in who I am and it makes
others uncomfortable.
And I was like, God damn, boy,that was kind of, That was like
you, your mama chow.
And I appreciated him for that.
(09:44):
Right.
Because the description was kindof that space that I had been in
last week where it was comingfrom all angles.
But you know, at first I waslike, Oh, I'm a little tired.
But then it was like, Oh, fuckthat.
We good.
We are good.
Especially once you go back andyou check you and where you are
in your space, you can not bemoved.
(10:06):
I am big, I have big energy andas long as you know, people, I
am definitely clear of when I, Itold y'all, I take ownership of
passionate, petty, positive andpenitentiary, all them P's and
Patrice is.
(10:27):
It's me, I know that forcertain, I know when they come,
I know how they are, I know, Iam aware of what has caused, you
know, petty to pop out becausepetty is reactive, petty, my
petty isn't like, Oh, I'm justpetty out here in this world
because I ain't got that muchtime.
(10:47):
I don't have that much energy.
I'm really on my positive andpassionate because I want
everybody to be great because Iwant to be great.
And thanks to the Tito's today,bringing this conversation to
life.
So the things that I realized isthat the more I take ownership
of me, I cannot be moved fromwhere I am.
(11:08):
I had someone that I had nottalked to.
I had decided that thatconnection was no longer for me.
And I was very clear like, youknow, I'm good on that.
Like, I think we could really befriendly, just friendly, you
know, cause I do believe friendsand friendly are two different
types of friends.
(11:28):
We can be social, but we may notbe good, good, close buddy,
buddy.
And I thought that that wasokay.
And they asked for a favor.
And.
I was like, I was super busy andanybody who knows me, you know
what I'm saying?
I'd be all over the place.
I ain't always focused.
So I might respond in my headand don't send that text
(11:48):
message.
But I forgot to respond.
And the next day they respondedwith, nevermind.
It wasn't even.
And so what they were asking forwas not an immediate today, not
even the day that theyresponded, but It was their
entryway to try to move theboulder to maybe she'll change
(12:10):
her mind because what happenedright after, like, nevermind,
I'll get someone else to do it.
I said, Oh my goodness, my bad.
I had a question and I answeredit.
I asked in my head, but I neverpressed in.
What time were you looking forfor that?
And I thought that it was animmediate response to that.
Like, Oh, like, I'm stillwilling to do it.
(12:31):
And.
The next two text messages looklike biographies of somebody's
life about how they felt.
And it came with, it was likefeelings, a lot of feelings of I
could be evil.
I think that I am a princess andeven called me Cruella Deville.
(12:55):
I was like, what the hell?
So I guess you didn't need helpbecause this doesn't even
pertain to what you asked whenyou initially sent the text.
So I mean that baby had somethings on their mind that they
needed to get off.
Now If in your mind, you feellike that's how you feel about
(13:19):
me, then take ownership.
I probably would be.
Cruella DeVille, evil, andeverything, because you probably
caused that.
Because my patty is reactive.
But the thing was, is that thistime it just came in silence,
because it did.
The, the energy that I initiallysaid no to was nothing more than
that.
It was nothing else that I needto respond to or give energy to.
(13:43):
So if it wasn't positive, I'mnot responding.
Now there's people out herethat's given like block lists.
They got to block people to getout of their energy.
And I believe that long as Istay planted and this boulder
energy, your ass going to exit.
(14:04):
Because you're uncomfortable inthis space, this space of
positivity, this space of beingpassionate and growth and
healing and heal.
When they're uncomfortable,shit, they exit themselves.
I don't even have to do it.
My silence is enough.
(14:26):
And I'm going to tell you, Idon't even have a list to be
blocked.
I don't.
I'd be like, your ass just gotto be uncomfortable because
that's your problem.
Not mine.
Because if I don't like you, Idon't like you.
I'm a gone by my life.
It doesn't stop.
I ain't giving you much time.
I ain't searching for nothingcause I don't care.
(14:48):
I don't like you.
And that could be also myScorpio energy.
Check a moon, check orsomething.
But it is what it is.
But I do believe that I standtall in everything that I do
because I do have that integrityat this stage I own and know my
(15:10):
worth.
And so if this big energy makesyou more uncomfortable, then go
ahead and exit sir, ma'am, them,they and other, it's okay.
Because none of this energy isintending to hurt you.
I hope that this big energyempowers you because I believe
(15:34):
that if I am in someone's spaceand I share this energy, I want
you to be great as well.
And if it's not your time to begreat, it's not your time to be
great.
Be uncomfortable and exit andrevisit when it is your time.
I believe that aboutrelationships, friendships, I
ain't gotta block you.
(15:58):
I ain't even that focused toblock nobody, let's be honest.
Real random side note, y'allever get that little, that good
mixer that you want with yourdrinks?
I'mma tell you, that dull orangepeach mango, it go great in
breakfast.
It's great with a little mimosaand it's great with a little
touch of, a little alcohol.
(16:18):
Just so you know, if you haven'tgotten it, you probably should.
It's But I really want you guysto be able to stand, be bold and
be big in your energy, in yourjourney, even when it comes with
some flaws.
Cause I even had to apologize toa friend for my spicing this
(16:41):
last week.
I was in my big energy.
Sometimes that big, big energycomes with some things you need
to realize, but I had snapped ina way and I had to come back to
say, you know what?
That energy was not directedtowards you.
It was my emotions.
And her friendship was much moreimportant, more important to me
(17:02):
than my ego at that time.
And I needed to say, the waythat I spoke to you was not
appropriate.
You did not deserve that.
I didn't sleep well knowing thatI had spoke to someone who was
kind and considerate to me.
And I came from a place ofemotion because I was having a
day and it wasn't the right sideof me that propels me forward.
(17:28):
And I took ownership of my shitand apologized.
I'm glad it is a friend whounderstands who she, she dealing
with and she didn't hold itagainst me, but I got my words
off my chest.
But how often do people do thatand take ownership of, you know
what?
I was wrong as hell for thatday, that moment I was wrong.
(17:49):
Now whether somebody acceptsyour apology or not, that's
something different.
That might be something withinthem or it could be damage is
done and you have to take yourL.
But I'm going to tell you whatpeople don't get to do is try
to.
(18:10):
Move that boulder becausethey're uncomfortable with how
you shine.
They try to break you downbecause they feel like you
should be less than for it to becomfortable for them.
And I'll be damned if I'm goingto play small for anybody.
(18:31):
Note that I am five, nine in mymind.
I told y'all that Call it theLulu, call it what you want, but
I'm big, I'm giving me stalliontall.
And I know it's only in my mind.
That's the reality of it.
Cause I'm really not that tall,but you can't tell me that I'm
not.
But my message this week is bebig, be you, be that bolder.
(18:57):
Don't let nobody break you downcause they uncomfortable.
Be indirectly manipulative andmove that space in that room and
make them others uncomfortable.
With all of your energy, thatbig energy that you have in your
healed and healing journey, makethem uncomfortable.
(19:20):
It's okay.
No need to block them cause theywill exit.
And it's a sight to see whenpeople walk away, they should be
gone.
I hope to help somebody thisweek.
Was that retrograde head throughme?
They spun me for a loop lastweek.
I was like, is this going to bean episode of snapped?
(19:43):
But I had to bring myself backto the reality.
And let me tell you something.
I love my son and my sons causewe had some really good
conversations because in myhealed and healing journey, I'm
definitely sharing all of thiswith my mans, my, my young men.
I'm going to know their value.
(20:03):
They're going to know theirworth.
They are going to be confidentand make some of the best
decisions for them to knowthemselves and love themselves.
Because I want that for them.
I want that for my friends.
I want that for my family.
So those that are in my circle,they big too.
Cause we got big energy.
I believe in them.
(20:25):
Cause I'm that friend.
And if people don't pour intoyou, don't allow it them to stop
your growth.
Just stand firm in your shit.
Even if you got to have a littletouch of diluted to get there.
Cheers to a new week.
(20:47):
And I know you guys got optionsto be anywhere, but you chose to
be with me and I'm grateful forthat.
Yet again, this week.
On.
The most randomest podcast ever.
And yeah, no tequila this week,a little vodka.
(21:08):
And don't forget that dullmango, orange peach mango.
It's nice.
It's a nice little addition toyour mimosas, your pancakes and
your alcohol, but enjoy yourweek.
Thank you as always.
Welcome back, y'all.
I'm so happy to be back with youguys.
Yes, the disclaimer is that theman is back on the show.
Allergy season has kicked up andI really think I'm invincible
and I'm not.
I don't have no leg in thisfight with these allergies.
And it's times where before,y'all, I would just be like, I'm
(01:03):
not taping because the man wasstrong.
Like.
Y'all would be like, is thisPatrice or is this a special
guest?
But today, y'all, it's, it's,it's me.
I'm giving y'all the raw and thereal.
Now today, I just want to shootthis shit with y'all because I
realize that in this season ofgrowth and like leveling up,
(01:27):
you're going to be challengedlike shit.
Like I've been, Like what in theworld is going on now?
All of y'all that believe in themoons, the stars, the
alignments, the planets, theretrogrades and your future.
Like it came through like astorm last week and I was like,
(01:49):
what in the world is universal?
I tell me, but what I have beennoticing and this healed and
healing and journey.
Cause y'all know, I ain'talways.
I ain't always healed, right?
But I'm still in the journey ofhealing.
I've healed some things, but I'mworking on things, you know, as
they come.
(02:10):
And I think we've all got to beat some point self aware.
And at this stage I have beentruly, truly, truly self aware
of me and my shit.
I tell y'all that all the time.
I take ownership of mine.
Now today's, conversationdefinitely need to come with a
little drink being made on thespot.
(02:32):
Because at this point, child, weall know that retrograde came
with a little something.
So today we just going intolike, what does that healed and
healing look like?
You know, sometimes we thinkthat we overcome one thing, but
And now we done and that it'sover and now we, we all good,
(02:55):
right?
We done.
We over with it.
It's all great.
But let me tell you something.
It ain't, I can't even tell youthat it is never ending.
Now I find that the more that Ibegin to level up, In my energy
and anybody who knows me, I justhad this conversation this week.
(03:15):
Like, I think that I'm tallerthan I am.
I do.
Right.
This is, this is a point in thestory.
Just, this is some of my, my, myhealing and heal, right?
So this week with some of thethings that are just like in my,
my journey of being healed andhealing.
I, I think I mentioned to youguys before about how I asked my
(03:36):
son how he views himself, right?
And so in this week'sconversation with one of my
clients, because we had somereally good conversations in the
salon, Just about life andgrowth.
Cause I'm sharing this journeywith them as well, right?
They're sharing with me.
We are getting it together.
Okay.
Now I need y'all to know thatI'm about five, three and a
(03:59):
half, five, four.
And I think five, four ispushing it, but you won't let
this girl right here be greatbecause you can't tell me that I
ain't tall.
I believe that I am really likea five, six, five, seven, And
play with me on a really goodday when this energy is giving
big.
I'm 5'9 in my mind, because youcan't tell me otherwise.
(04:21):
Like when I'm out here in thesestreets, I'm walking into the
room like I'm really on that 5'9I ain't 5'3 I'm 5'9 And the walk
matches the energy and I believethis.
And police said, I'mma let y'allknow that's a little delulu, but
it ain't coming from the cupthat we just poured.
But, honest statements.
(04:43):
Like I do believe that I amtall.
I believe that my energy is big.
I believe that the love that Igive is big.
I can't nobody tell meotherwise.
So in this season of beinghealed and healing, I am
becoming and noticing how I'vereally, honestly, truly view
(05:06):
myself.
Now, I believe that I am tall,but what I see for myself is
that my energy is big.
Everything that I have inside ofme is big.
It is amazing.
The love that I give is so big.
You know, I'm full Scorpio, youget all in or you get nothing,
(05:28):
but when I'm all in, it's big.
I give big energy in everythingthat I do.
When I'm in the salon, I knowthat the experiences that I
create for my customers is anexperience that they may not get
anywhere else.
The level of education that Igive to them and empower them to
(05:50):
know so they're not out heredoing no craziness.
It's big.
It's huge.
I go above and beyond.
When I walk into my spaces thatare for me, especially home, I'm
not coming in five three, boo.
I'm coming in five, nine.
I'm coming in big.
(06:11):
And I had a situation where lastweek, and you know how when you
healed and healing, the universesaid, Oh, you needed to learn a
new lesson.
You going to walk intosomething.
Some things that I didn't reallywant to see, but I walked in on
it.
But the way that I entered theroom, I didn't come in small.
I came in stallion like.
(06:33):
I walk like a stallion.
I am that.
But in a situation where itcould just break down your
spirit and make you small, makeyou feel small, it didn't do
that.
I was like, Whoa.
And it was, it was a, it was avery like off putting surprise,
but the surprise was, it was agood slash bad surprise, it
(06:54):
didn't take away from who I amand how I view myself.
And sometimes we allow people toTake away your energy, your
bigness, all of the things thatmake you, you and make you great
and make you grand.
And we can't do that.
(07:15):
And that day was like, I haddifferent, you know, things
coming through that they weretrying to penetrate this energy.
They was trying to, they wastrying to really, really
penetrate This healed andhealing journey in a way that
they think they were going tostop it or change the outcome.
(07:37):
And some people don't even, I'mgoing to tell you this, some
people maybe unintentionallydon't realize that that's what
they're trying to do.
It's change you.
And I was talking to my oldestson because we have
conversations and I talked toboth of my sons on the level of
I need them to understand, knowthemselves, love themselves.
(07:59):
But we talk candidly about howwe view each other and where we
are in life.
Like my oldest son is very intuned.
When I'm a little off, he knowlike mom about to pop or she's
tired today.
Brain is overwhelmed.
He knows these things.
And I know y'all with my ADHD,it seems like I'm all over the
place, but it goes back to theconversation of not being moved
(08:20):
when you own your shit.
My oldest son has this view ofme and he said that I was, and
I'm gonna tell you, it's realspecial.
It's sometimes how he, explainsthings, but he used the words,
he's like, you know, when you'relike indirectly manipulated.
And I was like, what kind ofcrap is this boy about to tell
me today?
(08:41):
So his description of me is thatmy son feels as if I'm a
boulder.
It's big.
I got big energy.
And when I encounter people,they initially are drawn to me.
And then it's uncomfortable.
She take up a lot of space.
(09:02):
So I want to move it.
I need to relocate it.
This boulder, I want to break itdown.
And what happens is, is that forthe boulder to move, The person
who has the problem attempts tomove it and when they can't move
it one way they shift, theychange, they go to the other
(09:22):
side, they attempt to move itand sometimes will bring in
items to help move that boulder.
But I stay firm and I stayplanted in who I am and it makes
others uncomfortable.
And I was like, God damn, boy,that was kind of, That was like
you, your mama chow.
And I appreciated him for that.
(09:44):
Right.
Because the description was kindof that space that I had been in
last week where it was comingfrom all angles.
But you know, at first I waslike, Oh, I'm a little tired.
But then it was like, Oh, fuckthat.
We good.
We are good.
Especially once you go back andyou check you and where you are
in your space, you can not bemoved.
(10:06):
I am big, I have big energy andas long as you know, people, I
am definitely clear of when I, Itold y'all, I take ownership of
passionate, petty, positive andpenitentiary, all them P's and
Patrice is.
(10:27):
It's me, I know that forcertain, I know when they come,
I know how they are, I know, Iam aware of what has caused, you
know, petty to pop out becausepetty is reactive, petty, my
petty isn't like, Oh, I'm justpetty out here in this world
because I ain't got that muchtime.
(10:47):
I don't have that much energy.
I'm really on my positive andpassionate because I want
everybody to be great because Iwant to be great.
And thanks to the Tito's today,bringing this conversation to
life.
So the things that I realized isthat the more I take ownership
of me, I cannot be moved fromwhere I am.
(11:08):
I had someone that I had nottalked to.
I had decided that thatconnection was no longer for me.
And I was very clear like, youknow, I'm good on that.
Like, I think we could really befriendly, just friendly, you
know, cause I do believe friendsand friendly are two different
types of friends.
(11:28):
We can be social, but we may notbe good, good, close buddy,
buddy.
And I thought that that wasokay.
And they asked for a favor.
And.
I was like, I was super busy andanybody who knows me, you know
what I'm saying?
I'd be all over the place.
I ain't always focused.
So I might respond in my headand don't send that text
(11:48):
message.
But I forgot to respond.
And the next day they respondedwith, nevermind.
It wasn't even.
And so what they were asking forwas not an immediate today, not
even the day that theyresponded, but It was their
entryway to try to move theboulder to maybe she'll change
(12:10):
her mind because what happenedright after, like, nevermind,
I'll get someone else to do it.
I said, Oh my goodness, my bad.
I had a question and I answeredit.
I asked in my head, but I neverpressed in.
What time were you looking forfor that?
And I thought that it was animmediate response to that.
Like, Oh, like, I'm stillwilling to do it.
(12:31):
And.
The next two text messages looklike biographies of somebody's
life about how they felt.
And it came with, it was likefeelings, a lot of feelings of I
could be evil.
I think that I am a princess andeven called me Cruella Deville.
(12:55):
I was like, what the hell?
So I guess you didn't need helpbecause this doesn't even
pertain to what you asked whenyou initially sent the text.
So I mean that baby had somethings on their mind that they
needed to get off.
Now If in your mind, you feellike that's how you feel about
(13:19):
me, then take ownership.
I probably would be.
Cruella DeVille, evil, andeverything, because you probably
caused that.
Because my patty is reactive.
But the thing was, is that thistime it just came in silence,
because it did.
The, the energy that I initiallysaid no to was nothing more than
that.
It was nothing else that I needto respond to or give energy to.
(13:43):
So if it wasn't positive, I'mnot responding.
Now there's people out herethat's given like block lists.
They got to block people to getout of their energy.
And I believe that long as Istay planted and this boulder
energy, your ass going to exit.
(14:04):
Because you're uncomfortable inthis space, this space of
positivity, this space of beingpassionate and growth and
healing and heal.
When they're uncomfortable,shit, they exit themselves.
I don't even have to do it.
My silence is enough.
(14:26):
And I'm going to tell you, Idon't even have a list to be
blocked.
I don't.
I'd be like, your ass just gotto be uncomfortable because
that's your problem.
Not mine.
Because if I don't like you, Idon't like you.
I'm a gone by my life.
It doesn't stop.
I ain't giving you much time.
I ain't searching for nothingcause I don't care.
(14:48):
I don't like you.
And that could be also myScorpio energy.
Check a moon, check orsomething.
But it is what it is.
But I do believe that I standtall in everything that I do
because I do have that integrityat this stage I own and know my
(15:10):
worth.
And so if this big energy makesyou more uncomfortable, then go
ahead and exit sir, ma'am, them,they and other, it's okay.
Because none of this energy isintending to hurt you.
I hope that this big energyempowers you because I believe
(15:34):
that if I am in someone's spaceand I share this energy, I want
you to be great as well.
And if it's not your time to begreat, it's not your time to be
great.
Be uncomfortable and exit andrevisit when it is your time.
I believe that aboutrelationships, friendships, I
ain't gotta block you.
(15:58):
I ain't even that focused toblock nobody, let's be honest.
Real random side note, y'allever get that little, that good
mixer that you want with yourdrinks?
I'mma tell you, that dull orangepeach mango, it go great in
breakfast.
It's great with a little mimosaand it's great with a little
touch of, a little alcohol.
(16:18):
Just so you know, if you haven'tgotten it, you probably should.
It's But I really want you guysto be able to stand, be bold and
be big in your energy, in yourjourney, even when it comes with
some flaws.
Cause I even had to apologize toa friend for my spicing this
(16:41):
last week.
I was in my big energy.
Sometimes that big, big energycomes with some things you need
to realize, but I had snapped ina way and I had to come back to
say, you know what?
That energy was not directedtowards you.
It was my emotions.
And her friendship was much moreimportant, more important to me
(17:02):
than my ego at that time.
And I needed to say, the waythat I spoke to you was not
appropriate.
You did not deserve that.
I didn't sleep well knowing thatI had spoke to someone who was
kind and considerate to me.
And I came from a place ofemotion because I was having a
day and it wasn't the right sideof me that propels me forward.
(17:28):
And I took ownership of my shitand apologized.
I'm glad it is a friend whounderstands who she, she dealing
with and she didn't hold itagainst me, but I got my words
off my chest.
But how often do people do thatand take ownership of, you know
what?
I was wrong as hell for thatday, that moment I was wrong.
(17:49):
Now whether somebody acceptsyour apology or not, that's
something different.
That might be something withinthem or it could be damage is
done and you have to take yourL.
But I'm going to tell you whatpeople don't get to do is try
to.
(18:10):
Move that boulder becausethey're uncomfortable with how
you shine.
They try to break you downbecause they feel like you
should be less than for it to becomfortable for them.
And I'll be damned if I'm goingto play small for anybody.
(18:31):
Note that I am five, nine in mymind.
I told y'all that Call it theLulu, call it what you want, but
I'm big, I'm giving me stalliontall.
And I know it's only in my mind.
That's the reality of it.
Cause I'm really not that tall,but you can't tell me that I'm
not.
But my message this week is bebig, be you, be that bolder.
(18:57):
Don't let nobody break you downcause they uncomfortable.
Be indirectly manipulative andmove that space in that room and
make them others uncomfortable.
With all of your energy, thatbig energy that you have in your
healed and healing journey, makethem uncomfortable.
(19:20):
It's okay.
No need to block them cause theywill exit.
And it's a sight to see whenpeople walk away, they should be
gone.
I hope to help somebody thisweek.
Was that retrograde head throughme?
They spun me for a loop lastweek.
I was like, is this going to bean episode of snapped?
(19:43):
But I had to bring myself backto the reality.
And let me tell you something.
I love my son and my sons causewe had some really good
conversations because in myhealed and healing journey, I'm
definitely sharing all of thiswith my mans, my, my young men.
I'm going to know their value.
(20:03):
They're going to know theirworth.
They are going to be confidentand make some of the best
decisions for them to knowthemselves and love themselves.
Because I want that for them.
I want that for my friends.
I want that for my family.
So those that are in my circle,they big too.
Cause we got big energy.
I believe in them.
(20:25):
Cause I'm that friend.
And if people don't pour intoyou, don't allow it them to stop
your growth.
Just stand firm in your shit.
Even if you got to have a littletouch of diluted to get there.
Cheers to a new week.
(20:47):
And I know you guys got optionsto be anywhere, but you chose to
be with me and I'm grateful forthat.
Yet again, this week.
On.
The most randomest podcast ever.
And yeah, no tequila this week,a little vodka.
(21:08):
And don't forget that dullmango, orange peach mango.
It's nice.
It's a nice little addition toyour mimosas, your pancakes and
your alcohol, but enjoy yourweek.
Thank you as always.
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