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More, Miss is Taylor Talk.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
He's your host, Sammy Rose.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Our content on Taylor's Talk recently has been very beauty
and fashion focused, which we love. We do love it,
but every now and again we do like to change
up the pace. Considering the headlines in the media lately
and some of the situation that we've all faced as women,
We've all been in them, whether it's in the workplace,
at home, or out in public at school. Learning to
speak up can be really, really tough. It's something that
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I still struggle with today. In today's chat, I'm excited
to speak to the recently crowned Missus Galaxy twenty twenty four,
recently crowned a Lennie Selik. Welcome to the podcast to Lenny,
thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
As I said before, I'm so excited to be on
your podcast. I've been listening for a while now.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Oh thank you, Oh my gosh, thank you so so much.
And I have to say big congratulations. You were recently
crowned Missus Galaxy twenty twenty four and now you're off
to the US very soon.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yes, yeah, exactly. It's been a real big whirlwind, but.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I am so here for it, perfect, so exciting for you.
Now today's podcast, I wanted to speak to you obviously
as missus Galaxy twenty twenty four. You're a woman of
the world. You have done multiple pageants, but we're learning
how to speak up for any woman, regardless of who
you are, what industry you work in, can be really,
really tough. And we've all been in a sticky situation
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where we felt unsure about when to speak or if
we can speak up. How have you built up your
confidence over the years of Lenny.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Yeah, so for me, my confidence building came from a
very young age and a lot of my story is
a big reason why I do what I do now.
So unfortunately, from a young age, I experienced domestic and
family violence, which led me being placed into Oh thank you,
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it's to epidemic at the moment that I am almost
honored to kind of shed some light on it. And
you know this, this experience actually led me being placed
into Vostecreit at the age of twelve. And how this
came about was that I finally spoke out and told
an adult about what I was experiencing at home, and
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so you know, going through this process is quite pull on.
But what it showed me and what it taught me
was that, you know, particularly at that time, being twelve,
I could decide to enter into foster care. So the
law was really what excited me. So later and in life,
you know, I went and studied a Bachelor of Laws
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and did probably away so many years of study. And
that now, you know, is why I do what I do.
So I have my own business to advocate society where
I teach women the basics of advocacy skills, which we
will surely get into. But how I built up my
confidence was really taking these very small moments of light
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in my life where I you know, almost noticed that
ah okay, I did speak up. You know, at twelve,
I spoke up for my safety. When I entered into law,
I really spoke up for others and learned how to
do that. And how I built up my confidence in
the last few years particularly was actually entering into the
Australia Galaxy paget and so I mean, you have to
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kind of build some form of confidence to be able
to get up on stage and do what had your
go through.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Gosh, I don't hate it.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
But yeah, I mean from how I've kind of built
that confidence was really focusing on what my goals were.
You know, manifestation is a really big thing for me,
so truly kind of changing the rhetoric that I mostly
tell myself, you know, positive self talk. It's a really
really big thing that yes, I can do this, Yes
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I'm a leader, Yes I'm a role model. And that
has really changed my perception of not only myself but
what I can achieve.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Yeah, gosh, that's amazing. And what I'm hearing is that
you kind of have these smaller things that you do
each day to kind of bolster your confidence, especially when
you are speaking up regularly. Are there small practical things
that we can do every day or every now and
again when we think of it, to kind of help
us get used to speaking up, Because it's kind of
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that you know, age old saying of getting comfortable with
the uncomfortable, Like have you got any like I guess tips.
I kind of get the vibe as well from you
that practice makes perfect. Is that what you think?
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Yes? Definitely, And I love the phrase getting comfortable with
being uncomfortable. I think it is one of those things that, yeah,
in a sense, we do have to get used to
kind of get over that fear of speaking up or
speaking out against things that we find I'm not you know,
not great or and don't align with our values. So
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one of the biggest things I started to do was,
you know, I use the example of going to doctor's
appointments after my experiences, I had a lot of health issues,
and so instead of going in there because I feel
like we've all been in that situation where we've walked
into an appointment and go on, I don't even know
why I'm here, who am I? So what I started
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to do was, you know, I do a bit of
research about the doctor, what they specialized in, particularly what
their bedside manner was. Then I'd go in there with
a list, you know, I'd have maybe one side where
these are my symptoms that I really really want to
address and talk about, and these are the questions that
I have about my body. So when I got in there,
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I was then prepared to have these you know, more
difficult or scary conversations because I found going to see
a doctor quite over whelming, and I know that each
person has their own little things. So getting as prepared
as you can in those situations really do help. I
actually also, you know, in regards to doctor's appointments, I
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had a lot of difficulty finding doctors that I really
worked well with. Yes, yes, And a lot of people
have this and I often hear the phrase like, you know,
with psychologists, you won't always find a psychologist that works
well tis far. Again, it's the same with general you know, practitioners.
You really need to find somebody who blends with And
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so I started going into these appointments with I'm interviewing
you your this is your job application to be on
my team, and it takes a lot really just boosted
my confidence because I was like, you know, at the
end of the day, their treatment will happen. Yeah, yeah,
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I want somebody that's going to work well with me.
And I think when you go into it almost like
a you know, you're they're applying for this job on
your team, it changes your confidence and changes the communications style.
So I really started doing that with all facets of
my life and I found a huge change, you know,
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And there are so many small things, and I think
one of the best things and one of the things
that I often hear from the ladies that come to
my women's advocacy circles is that when you start thinking
about it and it's in the back of your mind,
you instantly start doing it. So if you start thinking,
you know what, I'm going to start advocating for myself,
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then that's where you see those timey changes start to happen.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
It's so funny you mentioned there, Lenny, that kind of
when you go into the doctor's surgery and you know
you're interviewing them, which is such a great mindset to have.
It was actually, I'm sure you know her. Emily Egan.
So she was Miss Galaxy twenty twenty three, I want
to say maybe of twenty twenty two. Anyway, she's amazing
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And I remember we were talking about dating. So I
am a single girlie and I used to always go
into dates being like, oh, you know, I hope they
like me. And after speaking with Emily and I mean,
these Galaxy girls, there must be something in the water.
I don't know. You're all just bloody beautiful. And she
would say to me, you know what, Sammy, you've got
to lack them. Are they good enough for you? And
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it's exactly the same Mantra, and I just I think
that's so so amazing, And obviously she's been one of
the female role models, even though she's younger than me,
She's one of the people that I look to in
my life and I go, oh, like, that's the kind
of attitude that I want to have and I strive
to have as much as I can. Is have you
got some strong female role models that you've looked up
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to and who've shown you you know how to speak up,
regardless of I guess the negative opinions that might come
of it, or especially if you know deep down that
in your gut that it is the right thing to do.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yes. I mean, Emily Egan has been such a huge
role model in my life as well, obviously being a
part of the Galaxy system. She's very hard not to
notice because she's the kindest person ever and really shows
what it is to be a good not only a
pageant queen, but just a good person in general. But
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I think one of the biggest role models that I
actually have and who I constantly look to is grettath
on Berg. She is an environmental activist and when I
first noticed her, I was really really young, and she
spoke to the United Nations, I believe, when she was
maybe ten, eleven, twelve years old, and she spoke about
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the impact of that as humans they're making gets the
environment and the concern that for her generation and for
future generations, we weren't going to have a clean earth
that we can live sustainably. And what it showed me was,
at no matter what age, no matter your language abilities,
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who you are as a person, you can really make
an impact. And now it doesn't need to be a
massive United Nations speech at the age of eleven, but
it can be that. It doesn't matter who you are.
It's that I truly believe that advocacy is inherent to
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all of us. And I often speak about this. You
know that gut feeling. I almost call it like advocacy belly,
because when you've walked away from certain situations, you think, hm,
I don't feel right about this. This feels like it
grows against my values. That is often I feel the
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trigger to go, Okay, what can I do about this?
How can I make that change? And I think that
why Greta has been so instrumental in my development is
because she was just so young, and you don't expect
that at that age, but it just goes to show
that you can do this, You can become an advocate
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and even in just small ways and in your community
as well. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
No, I think she's a very outspoken, brilliant role model
and I love that. Thank you so much, Lenny. And
I also wanted to ask you, speaking of women, no
matter what our age is, do you think that we
will eventually live in a world where we all feel
comfortable learning to speak up for what we believe in.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
That is actually my goal, that is my life mission
to particularly what she advocates society is to show women
that it is okay to speak up. And I think
it's almost with society and how it is, it's almost
feels like that women are seeking permission, and I really
want to send the message back we don't need permission
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to be ourselves, to be authentic, to advocate and speak
up for ourselves. And I think it's about creating that safety,
that acknowledgment that, yes, for women, consistently, things are really
incredibly rough. However, we have so much power that we
just need to unlock. And yes, my goal is and
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my hope is that we can make that change. But
I'm seeing it consistently across the board now where you know,
only just a few years ago, pads and tampons, for instance,
was considered a luxury, and anybody who bleeds knows that
having pads and tampons shouldn't be a luxury, and so
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you know, charities like Share the Dignity had a huge
impact on that as well. There are so many examples,
like for domestic and family violence, there is a petition
for a role of commission to happen at the moment,
which I highly encourage you and your listeners to go
have a look and sign to end domestic and family
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violence in Australia and to have more and further funding
by the government to really promote the importance of charities
like Worthy which is based over in Wa which help
women with Saint Haven's and provide them with essential products.
So I really hope that these are some of the
examples that we're seeing where these are women led groups
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particularly and they are making that change. And again we
don't need to do big things, but having small impacts
and noticing what is going on around you can really
help to promote in yourself that ability to.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Speak up that was beautifully, said HELENNI that is just oh,
I love it. So also, we've got to give your
business a shout out. Tell me a little bit in
a nutshell? What is she advocacy?
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Yes, so she advocates Society, you know, was predominantly born
out of pageantry as well as my own story. And
I hold monthly women's advocacy circles where I teach things
like communication, leadership skills, research skills, and a lot of
this came from studying law. But it's about providing women
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with the safe space to just thee the authentic self
to share their story because there is so much power
in sharing a story and I really want to show women. Probably,
like I've been saying, I'm probably far too passionate about
this at this point, but it's really just to provide
women with those fundamental skills that actually inherent to most
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of us. And a lot of what I see through
the women that come to She Advocates Society is that
they go, oh, yeah, I've done that before, or yes
I can do that. I can implement that in my
day to day. So that's really what She Advocates Society
is all about. In a nutshell, is to just show
women what they're capable of in their advocacy skills and
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being able to speak up to themselves.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
That's amazing, Lenny. And where can our listeners if they
want to have a look or maybe enroll in one
of the courses, Where can they find you guys online
and your socials as well as your personal socials.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
As well of course, so she advocates, society is on Instagram.
It's all one word. I also have my own website
Eleniselic dot com and my Instagram is missus Galaxy Australia
twenty twenty four now.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
So I'm exciting. We love to hear it well, Elennie,
it has been a pleasure chatting with you. Thank you
so much for coming on the Tailor Talk podcast.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Thank you so much.