3 Moves That Make You Last Longer in Bed (No Pills, No Sprays)

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Want to last longer in bed—without numbing creams, pills, or awkward distractions?

You’ve been told to count backwards, think about baseball, or change positions… but none of that actually works. And worse? It disconnects you from your partner.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’ll show you 3 science-backed moves you can use tonight to control your arousal, boost her orgasms, and turn ordinary sex into the kind she replays in her head for days.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• The truth about why you finish too fast (and how to retrain your nervous system)
• The Grind & Anchor: How slow circles can align with her clitoral network and keep you in control
• The Edge & Tease Reset: How to build anticipation while resetting your arousal
• The Root Lock Pulse: A pelvic floor hack that intensifies her orgasm while giving you stamina

No gimmicks. No distractions. Just moves that make you unforgettable in her bed and her brain.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to last longer, keep your erection strong, and give her orgasms that feel deeper and more intense.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:19):
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Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annettetopic is three moves that help
you last longer in bed withoutnumbing creams or pills.
Look, every guy wants stamina.

(01:03):
Numbing creams or pills, look,every guy wants stamina.
But what you've been told to docounting backwards, changing
positions, thinking aboutbaseball none of that actually
works and it leaves your partnerreeling in the feeling of being
engaged in disconnected sex.
None of us want that.
You've been told it's just badgenetics.

(01:23):
Or that you need numbing sprays, distraction tricks or pills.
And here's the issue None ofthose actually fix the problem.
They just mask it, which meansyou stay stuck in the same cycle
you enter her, you pump fastand it's over before either of
you are ready.
That's the problem we're fixingtoday, because the truth is,
stamina isn't something you'reborn with.
It's something you can traininto your body.

(01:44):
And the good news you don'tneed to spend months meditating
or squeezing a magic ring aroundyour cock.
You just need three moves thatretrain your nervous system,
make her orgasms feel strongerand leave her replaying you in
her head for the next day andthe day after that and the day
after that.
Stamina isn't about numbingyourself.

(02:06):
It's about learning how to movein ways that control your
arousal and turn ordinary sexand intimacy into the one thing
she can't stop thinking about.
By the end of this episodeyou'll know the science behind
why you finish too fast andthree unexpected moves you can
use tonight to last longer.

(02:28):
No pills, no sprays, justcontrol.
But before we dive in, I want toremind you that I'm on OnlyFans
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(02:51):
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(03:12):
You can also scroll down to thenotes below this episode and
you're going to find links toeverywhere you want to find me,
and I'm excited to see you there.
So now let's dive into howyou're going to start lasting
longer when you're in bed withyour partner.
Tonight.
Cheers, we are going to startwith the science of control.

(03:32):
So here's what research tellsus.
Your nervous system is thegatekeeper.
Fast, repetitive thrustingsends your sympathetic nervous
system fight or flight intooverdrive and that's why your
heart races and your orgasmrockets forward.
To last longer, you have toactivate the parasympathetic

(03:53):
nervous system, the rest anddigest mode that slows arousal
and keeps your erection strong.
Your pelvic floor is yourhidden control switch.
Muscles like the bulbousspongiosis and the PC muscles
control ejaculation reflexes.
Strengthening and learning topulse these muscles gives you a

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built-in pause button.
Most men and people withpenises never use Dopamine and
anticipation are performanceenhancers.
When you interrupt the scriptand build suspense, her dopamine
spikes and that makes herwetter and more responsive For
you.
Switching the rhythm lowersoverstimulation so you can go

(04:39):
again and again, and again, anddon't.
We all want that when we'rehaving really amazing intimacy,
lasting longer isn't a baddistraction.
It's about hacking your nervoussystem so you can stay in
control while becomingunforgettable in her bed and her

(05:00):
brain.
So here are the three moves thatcan help you retrain your body.
I call the first move the grindand anchor right.
When she expects thrusts, youare going to press deep and stop
pumping, anchor your hipsagainst hers and switch to
grinding in slow circles.

(05:20):
Now I want you to note this isa good time to be in
communication with her.
If she happens to be on theshallower side, you're gonna
wanna make sure that the depthyou anchor at is good for her
and not painful.
Also, those circles are notgiant circles.
They are small grinding circlesthat are going to hit her in

(05:43):
all the right spots.
Here's why it works.
You're reducing friction on themost sensitive nerves of your
penis, which slows your arousalcurve.
For her, you're aligning withher clitoral network what
research calls the quittlealignment technique, which
increases her chances of orgasm.
Finally, you're going to layerit.
I've talked a lot about layeringin my intimacy how-to videos.

(06:07):
You're going to want to go backand watch all of those videos
or listen to them to reallyunderstand what layering is.
But you're going to layer it,so you're going to sync your
circles with her breath.
Every exhale, grind deeper.
Every inhale, slow down.
Grinding isn't lazy sex, it's ascience-backed way to last

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longer while hitting her clit atthe same time.
So the second move I'm going toteach you is called the edge and
tease reset.
When you feel yourself buildingtoo fast, pull almost all the
way out, hold, press your hipsagainst her and tease with just
your tip, maybe rub along herfold, breathe, let her squirm.

(06:53):
This is going to feel amazingto her and it's going to give
you a moment, a moment to reset.
Here's why it works.
You're stepping off the gas,you're giving your nervous
system time to reset and for her, the anticipation spikes.
Dopamine and science showsdelayed gratification triggers

(07:15):
more intense orgasms.
We all love that.
Once again, we are going tolayer this move, so we're going
to pair the tease withwhispering exactly what you're
about to do when you slide backin Language or Second language
or sex talk plus touch recruitsmore neural pathways.

(07:35):
Edging isn't just for you, it'sforeplay that makes her wetter
while you take control of yourorgasm.
And finally, the third move I'mgoing to teach you is called the
root lock pulse Instead ofholding your breath or clenching
your abs.
Tighten your pelvic floor likeyou're stopping your stream
mid-pee.

(07:56):
Hold for two seconds, release.
Do this while you're inside her.
Here's why it works.
This interrupts the ejaculatoryreflex and forces your body to
reset.
Studies on pelvic floortraining show men who practice
this gain significant staminacontrol.
For her, every pulse makes yourshaft flex inside her, which

(08:19):
she feels as extra thickness andpressure that intensifies her
orgasm, while you stay calm.
Once again, we're going tolayer it.
So you're going to sink yourpulses to your thrust squeeze on
entry, release on exit.
It feels intentional,controlled and unforgettable.
The root lock pulse is thedifference between your orgasm

(08:42):
controlling you and youimprinting yourself in her
memory.
So now let's put it all together.
Here's how you turn this into astamina loop.
She'll replay in her mind.
First, start deep and slow,with a grind and anchor.
Again, remember to check inwith her about the depth.
Make sure it feels good to her.

(09:02):
Second, when you get close,switch to the edge and tease
reset.
And then finally layer in theroot lock pulse as you slide
back in.
Now let's put it all together.
Here's how you turn this into astamina loop.
She'll replay in her mind overand over again.

(09:23):
First, you're going to startdeep with the grind and anchor.
Remember we're going to checkin with her about the depth and
make sure it feels good to her.
We're going to keep thosecircles.
Next, when you get close tohaving an orgasm, we're going to
switch to the edge and teasereset and then finally, you're

(09:44):
going to layer in the root lockpulse as you slide back in.
Repeat that cycle and you'llnotice two things.
First, you're going to last waylonger and her orgasms are
going to get stronger everysingle time because you're
giving her variety, anticipationand depth.

(10:04):
So here's what not to do Don'tjust stop cold without touching
her.
That feels awkward and not hotat all.
Don't overdo the pauses Once ortwice per round.
Keeps it sexy and not robotic.
And finally, don't skipcommunication.
Check in, especially if you'replaying with teasing or control

(10:26):
or depth.
Make sure it's working for herso she feels like she is
connected to you and part ofthis amazing intimacy that's
taking place.
So here's my challenge to youtonight Don't use pills or
sprays or excuses.
Don't escape into your mind andstart counting sheep or playing
baseball or whatever sport youlike to bring into the bedroom.

(10:49):
Use these three moves the grindand anchor, the edge and tease,
reset, root, lock and pulse.
Do them in one night and takenote of how much longer you're
able to last.
But also watch her for herreaction.
See how she reacts to these newmoves, as opposed to you
thrusting away at her and thencoming too soon.

(11:11):
That's not what any of us wantin our bedroom experience.
And then check back in with meand let me know how it goes.
Look, it's not about numbingyourself out, it's about control
.
Three moves can flip yourstamina from over too soon to
unforgettable and the kind shereplays in her mind tomorrow.

(11:32):
This is going to help in anydesire discrepancy you might
have and it's going to bring hermore pleasure in the bedroom
while giving you the confidenceyou deserve when you're engaged
in intimacy.
Now I'd like to hear back fromyou after you try these, so make
sure to check back in.

(11:53):
Drop your comment below thevideo if you are listening this
on YouTube.
If you are an audio listener,of course, you can run over to
my YouTube channel atTalkSexWithAnette and you can
drop your comment below thevideo, or you can email me at
Annette at TalkSexWithAnettecom.
Now, if you are looking for acheerleader, a wing woman, if

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you will, in your intimacyjourney.
My coaching books are open.
You can find out more aboutthat at TalkSexWithAnettecom, or
again you can head over to myOF page where you can just start
by asking me questions thereand seeing how that goes for you
.
But whatever you decide to do,remember pleasure is your

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birthright and you deserve tostart having the best intimacy
of your life, starting tonight.
So until next time I'll see youin the locker room Ring loop.