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do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
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Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's topic is think womendon't want sex.
Well then, these five kinksthat they are absolutely crazy
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about are going to blow yourmind.
Most men have no idea just howkinky women really are.
They think women only want soft, slow, romantic sex.
Or, even worse, they thinkwomen don't even want sex at all
.
Let me be crystal clear thatidea is outdated, boring and
flat out wrong.
Women are not only horny, theyare into some wildly hot,
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creative, unexpected kinks, andin this episode I'm going to be
breaking down the five top kinkswomen love that most men never
see coming.
We're talking about the kind ofkinks that wake the body up,
make her wetter, louder and moreinsatiable than you've ever
seen.
And, the best part, every oneof these can totally transform
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your sex life if you're boldenough to try them.
In fact, studies show thatcouples who explore together
have higher sexual satisfaction,more frequent orgasms and a
stronger emotional connectionand intimacy than those who
don't.
So if you've been stuck in abedroom routine that feels more
meh than mind-blowing, this isyour invitation to get curious,
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get turned on and get way moreconnected.
This episode isn't just abouther pleasure.
It's about unlocking a wholenew level of pleasure you can
both enjoy together.
Oh, and if you're looking forsexy, non-awkward ways to bring
up kink with your partner, justsend her this episode and say
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which one of these turns you on.
Boom, easy, instantconversation.
But before I dive in, I want toremind you that I'm over on
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how-tos, along with audio guidedself-pleasure meditations and
so much more, all designed tohelp you along your own
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self-pleasure and sexual journey, whether you are solo or
partnered.
You can find me there by myhandle at TalkSexWithANet.
You can also find me over onSubstack, where I'm doing a lot
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find me wherever you want tofind me.
So let's get into it guys.
So let's get into it, guys.
Top five kinks that women arereally into and that you need to
give a try, starting tonight,cheers, all right, let's dive
right in.
Get ready to unleash the beast,because Primal Kink is our
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number one kink we are going tocover today that women are crazy
about, and primal kink is morethan you think.
Primal kink is all aboutunleashing your raw animal
instinct in the bedroom.
We're talking growls,possessive grips and that sweaty
, intense physicality that comeswith tapping into your wild
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side.
It's less about softness andromance and more about giving
into that ferocious energy.
Why women love it.
According to research from theKinsey Institute, 25% of women
report enjoying primal play.
Tapping into that ferocity andthe intensity during sex, it's
like letting go of control for amoment and diving into
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something that is deeper andmore visceral.
So fro tip for him.
Take charge, but always checkin.
Whether you're guiding her bodyor using possessive language,
the key is to make her feel safein that vulnerability.
A little growling in her ear,gripping her waist firmly, can
elevate the experience.
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Just keep communication clear,especially if it's your first
time exploring this kink.
So pro tip for her Look, ladies, I know that you love that raw
desire and feeling it comingfrom your partner.
If you're into primal play, letgo of any inhibitions.
Tap into your inner wild side,whether it's a primal growl,
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aggressive kiss or playfulbiting.
This kink is all about fullyembracing that animal energy.
Number two want to bring theheat Impact.
Play will get you there.
It is our number two kink thatwomen are really into.
So what is it?
You've heard about it spanking,slapping or light impact on the
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body.
It's all about giving a littlesting to enhance sensation and
release those feel-goodendorphins.
A little pain can actuallyincrease pleasure by triggering
physical responses like arousaland deep sensitivity, why women
love it.
According to the Journal ofSexual Medicine, 40% of women
report that a little bit of painmixed with pleasure intensifies
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their orgasms.
The idea here isn't to hurt butto enhance that tingly pleasure
you feel when your bodyexperiences different sensations
.
Pro tip for him start withgentle taps and pay attention to
her body language.
Lightly tap her ass or thighsand gradually increase intensity
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based on her responses.
Do not go from zero to 100.
That's bound to turn her off.
A bit of teasing in betweenstrikes or hits or slaps, like
soft caresses or kissing, helpsbalance the sensation and keeps
things sexy.
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Pro tip for her communicateyour comfort level.
Spanking can be incrediblypleasurable and sexy, but it's
all about knowing your limits.
Let your partner know if youlike a firm hand or prefer
something lighter, or you likesomething like a spoon or a
flogger or a paddle.
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Spanking is personal, so don'tbe afraid to guide the tempo and
the intensity.
Folks consider safe words here.
Even if you don't plan on it.
Safe words here, even if youdon't plan on upping the
intensity to an extreme level.
It's always good to have safewords in place so you know when
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to go, when to stop and when tojust slow down.
Moving on to our number three,kink that women love.
Power play is where it's at.
So what is power play?
This one is about exploringcontrol in the bedroom.
Whether it's domination orsubmission, power dynamics bring
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a thrill and intense intimacythat makes the sex hotter.
It's not about who's in charge.
It's about discovering whatturns you both on in those
moments, why women love it.
Research published in theJournal of Sex Research shows
that 60% of women report havingmore intense orgasms when they
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engage in power play, whetherthrough submission or dominance.
Giving or taking control tapsinto your desires, boosting
sexual satisfaction Pro tip foreither partner.
If you're enjoying being incontrol, take the reins.
Show confidence, guide eachother during sex and let your
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desires lead the way.
If you're exploring submission,embrace that feeling of giving
over control and enjoy thesensations of being led.
Trust is essential here, somake sure you and your partner
are on the same page.
Talk about what you're doing inadvance.
Talk about your boundaries,your hard no's, your yes's.
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Have that conversation up front.
And again, let's go back tohaving some safe words in place,
just to make sure nothing goesoff the rails.
Moving on to the next kink thatwomen love, if you want to take
pleasure to the next level,sensory deprivation will make
everything feel more intense.
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What is it?
Sensory deprivation soundsintense right.
When you take away sight, saywith a blindfold, all of your
other senses get a seriousupgrade.
The anticipation and mystery ofnot knowing when or where your
partner is going to touch youmakes every sensation feel
electric.
Why women love it.
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A study published in theJournal of Sex Research shows
that sensory deprivationincreases sexual pleasure and
satisfaction by making touchmore intense and stimulating.
Not knowing what's coming nextmakes everything feel more
exciting.
Pro tip for him get a soft,comfortable blindfold Don't use
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flimsy fabric here and startwith gentle strokes on her body,
Slowly caress her arms, herneck or inner thighs to build
anticipation.
Then switch it up with moreintense touches or kisses.
Make sure to check in and makesure she's comfortable with the
experience.
You can take this in alldirections.
You can play with temperatureplay, sensation play can include
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using feathers, or you canstart to integrate that spanking
, slappy feelings.
Of course, all negotiated upfront.
Surprise her, surprise her withwhat's coming next.
It's bound to get a reactionthat you're both going to enjoy.
Pro tip for her, going to enjoy.
Pro tip for her.
Let go and embrace the mysteryof the adventure.
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This is a journey.
With a blindfold, you can befully present in the moment and
just feel.
When your sense of sight istaken away, the sensation of a
touch or a kiss could feel 10times more intense.
Trust your partner and let themlead the experience.
Side note here sensorydeprivation can also include
things like taking away yoursense of hearing and just
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generally disorienting you towhat's going on in your
environment.
Now, taking away sight with ablindfold.
That's a pretty simpleentry-level take on sensory
deprivation.
So I decided to start you there.
Entry-level take on sensorydeprivation so I decided to
start you there.
But feel free to explore all ofthe options that this kink
provides.
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Now for our last kink that womenlove.
That might surprise men.
Get ready to get creative.
Role play can take your bedroomfantasy to new heights.
That's right.
Women seem to be particularlyinto role play.
So what is role play?
It's about slipping into adifferent persona or scenario
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without needing to buy a ton ofcostumes.
You're creating a fantasy worldwhere the boundaries of your
usual selves get stretched andexplored.
It could be as simple aspretending to be someone new or
acting out a different scenario.
You've heard of the classicteacher-student, doctor-patient,
nurse-patient.
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There are so many differenttakes on role-playing.
This kink is boundless.
You could be animals, you couldbe anything you want, and the
more you do it, the morecreative you'll get as time goes
on.
Stepping into the role play kinkcan really help keep the
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passion and excitement in yourrelationship alive forever,
forever.
Here's a couple tips to get youguys started.
Start small, maybe.
Role play a stranger scenario,or act out a playful power
dynamic.
You don't need costumes andprops at first.
They can always come later.
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But getting into a newcharacter and feeling that rush
of anticipation can heighten thewhole experience.
Remember, be playful andembrace the fantasy.
Whether you're pretending to bea sultry spy or a daring lover,
roleplay lets you step intodifferent versions of yourself.
Don't worry if you feel alittle silly at first, everyone
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does.
Just remember, it's all in thespirit of fun, exploration and
enhancing your love life.
Role play starter suggestion,especially if your sex life has
gotten a little boring.
Pretend you're meeting eachother for the first time.
How would you get each otherinto the bedroom?
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Maybe do it different than youdid the first time.
You can even be totallydifferent people.
You're probably differentversions of yourself now than
you were when you met.
Act that out, play it out.
See what it would be like nowif you just met and decided you
wanted to bang.
So there you have it.
Primal play, impact play, powerplay, sensory deprivation and
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role play.
These are five kinks that cantotally surprise you and add
some serious spice to your sexlife.
The key to exploring any ofthese Communication.
Always check in, keep thingsfun and be open to new
experiences together.
After all, sex should never beboring and with these kinks
you'll keep things anything butpredictable.
So go ahead, start aconversation with your partner.
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These kinks aren't just fun.
They're a way to deepen yourconnection and explore desire
together.
Keep it sexy, keep it safe andget ready for some serious hot
adventures in the bedroom.
And remember, if you arelooking for a cheerleader, a
support person, a guide in yourown self-pleasure journey or in
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your sexual relationship withyour partner, I have my sex and
intimacy coaching books open now.
I love to work with singles andcouples.
I love helping people overcomethe challenges they're facing in
the bedroom or in their ownpersonal intimate life.
So if you want to find out moreabout my offerings, you can
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check them out atTalkSexWithAnnettecom or just
shoot me an email at Annette atTalkSexWithAnnettecom.
Until next time, I'll see youin the locker room.
Cheers.