August 12, 2024 • 25 mins
Do you want to have or give your partner some of the deepest and most intense orgasms she's ever experienced? Well, today I am sharing my guide to A-Spot stimulation, pleasure, and orgasms. This is a complete guide!
In this episode, you learn:
- What the A-Spot is, who has one, and where it's located
- What's special about the A-spot
- A 3-step approach to unlocking the pleasure of the A-Spot
- The best toys for A-Spot Stimulation
- The best sexual positions for A-Spot Stimulation
Recommended guides to listen to:
How to Find & Activate the G-Spot: https://youtu.be/tczpp7qsttU
20 Ways to Touch the Clit: https://youtu.be/EQ6Vsz1XIPQ
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LELO Enigma Double Sonic: http://lip.go2cloud.org/SH1M7
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
(00:20):
Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's Masturbation Mondaytopic is all about the A-spot.
What is the A-spot?
(00:41):
This is one of the most commonquestions I get from my
listeners and YouTube viewers,who are invested in giving their
partners who are women or whohave vaginas incredible, intense
, orgasmic, satisfying, intimateexperiences.
But before I dive into mycomplete guide to the A-spot, I
have an announcement to make.
(01:01):
I have changed the name of myYouTube channel and you can now
find it under the handle atTalkSexWithAnnette.
You can also find all of mypodcast episodes, my intimate
product reviews, my guides tohow to have better sex and all
of my information on my intimacy, sex and relationship coaching
(01:23):
services at TalkSexWithAnettecom.
So if you haven't already headover to YouTube, subscribe to my
YouTube channel atTalkSexWithAnette so we can
interact in the comment sectionof the videos that I create and
so that you can receive all ofmy podcast episodes, reviews and
(01:46):
bonus materials.
Now let's dive into how to findand unlock the powerful
pleasure of the A-spot Cheers.
So if you've been listening tomy podcast for any time now, you
have listened to episodes onclitoral stimulation, fingering,
finding and activating theG-spot.
So you're probably wonderingwhat's with the A-spot, why is
(02:08):
it so important?
Well, finding and learning howto stimulate the A-spot can
enhance her pleasure intenselyand immensely and could even
help her want, desire and enjoypenetrative sex even more.
But here are four huge benefitsthat come from learning how to
(02:33):
locate and activate the A-spot.
First, multiple studies haveshown that increased lubrication
is associated with A-spotstimulation.
So once you find it and youlearn to activate it, she's
going to be wetter, and we alllove that.
A-spot orgasms can be moreintense and even last longer.
(02:56):
They can even result in herexperiencing a deep emotional
release.
Regular A-spot stimulation canactually enhance her pleasure.
It increases blood flow to hervagina, making penetration feel
even better and, like I said, itmay result in her wanting,
(03:17):
desiring and asking for more anddeeper penetration during
sexual interactions.
And one of the coolest benefitsof unlocking the ace spot is
that once you unlock the acespot, it can become easier for
her to experience both blendedand multiple orgasms.
(03:41):
So what is thespot and who hasone?
The A-spot is also known as theanterior fornix.
It is exclusive to cisgenderedwomen and people who are
assigned female at birth.
It is a powerful erogenous zonethat provides pleasure when
stimulated, and it is locateddeep inside the vagina.
(04:02):
So where is the A-spot located?
The A-spot is located on thefront side of the vaginal wall,
approximately four to six inchesdeep, depending on the woman's
body.
It is deeper than the G-spotand it's located up close to the
cervix and the bladder.
So it can be incredibly hard toreach with your fingers on
(04:26):
yourself.
So if you are a vulva owner ora woman and you're trying to
find this for yourself, you mayhave a hard time reaching it
with your own fingers.
So how do you find the A-spot?
Now, whether you are doing thison your own body or you're
doing it with a partner on theirbody, or you're working as a
couple to find the A spot, Iwant to encourage you to start
(04:50):
by finding the G spot.
It's going to sort of be yourlocation marker, if you will.
I want to encourage you to goback and watch my video that is
an instructional on finding andactivating the G-spot.
I'm going to link it below.
Once you have found the G-spot,which is located right inside
(05:14):
the vaginal opening, for somepeople it can be as deep as two
inches.
For someone like me, it's rightinside my vaginal opening.
From there you're going to movetwo to four inches deeper.
Now all of this really dependson a person's body.
I hate when we put specificmeasurements to it because
(05:35):
really the best way to locatethese erogenous zones is by
trial and error and by reallyturning her on so that she feels
it when you do finally hit theright spot and it gets excited.
If I had personally followedthe guideline for finding my
(05:59):
G-spot, I would have never foundit.
I would have been reaching waytoo deep inside of my body and
as a result, of course, myA-spot is definitely not six
inches inside of my body.
Now you may be wondering if youwill notice a different texture
or is there some sort of signthat you've actually hit the
(06:19):
A-spot?
Generally speaking, from whatthe research says and from my
own experience, I haven'tnoticed any difference in
texture.
However, some research says forsome people the A-spot may feel
smoother.
Some people say maybe it's alittle puffier.
Some research says it's thesize of a penny.
(06:41):
Says it's the size of a penny.
I would not depend on any ofthat and I would depend on
either feedback or tuning intoyourself if you're doing this
exploration on your own.
She will definitely know oncethe ace spot has not only been
found but is excited.
So what does the ace spot feellike when it's finally located
(07:04):
and you're stimulating it?
So if she has not turned onahead of time and you hit the
ace spot, it may just feel likepressure without any pleasure at
all.
I can tell you from my personalexperience that when my ace
spot is hit, activated, touched,pushed on, pounded on and I'm
not aroused, it just feels likepressure and it can actually
(07:27):
feel uncomfortable to me.
However, when it is approachedand activated properly, it can
be incredibly arousing, verystimulating and cause a lot of
lubrication.
Not squirting, this is totallydifferent, but extra lubrication
(07:47):
and eventually intense,sometimes deeply emotional
orgasms.
That can go on and on and on.
Now here's my step-by-step guideto finding and activating the
A-spot.
Step one we're going to turnher on and we're going to do
(08:07):
that by starting with clitoralstimulation.
Now, as with the G-spot, theA-spot is much easier to find
and locate and for her to feeland feel aroused by when she's
already turned on.
And we know that most womenbecome aroused and become
orgasmic from clitoral andvulval stimulation.
(08:30):
So that's where we're going tostart Now.
I have already created a fullguide to clitoral stimulation.
I'm going to link it below sothat you can head down there and
you can listen to it.
But what's most important hereis that by pleasuring the
clitoris, we're going to unlockaccess to the pleasure of the
(08:53):
G-spot, because once she becomesexcited, that G-spot is going
to become engorged and it'sgoing to make it easier to feel
and find.
Second, now we are going tostart stimulating her G-spot
Again.
I have a full video on how tostimulate the G-spot for her
(09:13):
pleasure.
I'm going to link it below.
But once you start stimulatingher G-spot and she starts to get
more excited, this arousal andpleasure can unlock access and
excitement in the body forever.
That is the A spot.
A good example of this isduring penetrative sex.
(09:34):
She might start asking for youto go deeper.
She might even do this duringfingering.
You may even feel her vaginastart to widen as she gets
aroused from the G spotstimulation.
That's going to start unlockingaccess to deeper pleasure and
(09:57):
the A-spot.
Step three, once she is askingyou for deeper penetration or
you're asking her are you readyfor deeper penetration?
Do you want me to go deeper?
You're going to go deeper intothe vaginal canal and you're
going to focus on that area deepinside the canal, about two
(10:18):
inches deeper than the G-spot,and applying stimulation.
You can do that with the comehither motion.
I am not a huge fan of sayingthat because I find that a lot
of people overdo the come hithermotion, which can be very
painful and take away from thepleasure.
(10:40):
But that is where you are goingto start focusing, adding
stimulation as you move deeper.
I encourage you to continuestimulating her clitoris.
The A-spot is associated withblended and multiple orgasms.
Some women will not be able toorgasm alone from A-spot
(11:04):
stimulation.
They will still need you to bestimulating the clitoris or the
G-spot, but they will feel theorgasm that comes from deeper
within and that A spot erogenouszone, a spot orgasms, can be
incredibly intense.
First, because they are locatedso deep within your body, they
(11:31):
may feel very different to awoman who has not come regularly
from internal stimulation.
On top of it, oftentimes theyare blended with your clitoral
orgasm or your G-spot orgasm,and that's why you may also find
that she experiences multipleorgasms, because she can
(11:56):
continue to write off thedifferent types of orgasms that
are occurring at the same time.
She may also feel overwhelmedand need you to stop, and that
can come either from a physicalplace of overwhelm and
exhaustion or from an emotionalplace of deep, deep release.
(12:19):
So to sum up my three-stepprocess think of clitoral
pleasure as the key to unlockingthe G-spot, and G-spot pleasure
as the key to unlocking theA-spot.
The A-spot and then the A-spot.
(12:39):
Pleasure is the key tounlocking multitudes of ways to
orgasm and experience pleasuretogether.
My top tip for finding andpleasuring the A-spot is
practice makes perfect and keepthe pressure low.
A-spot orgasms may take time toachieve and you may never
achieve a A-spot orgasm on itsown.
(13:00):
Be consistent with practicingfinding the A-spot.
If you start to get frustratedbecause you aren't finding it,
then back off.
Enjoy a G-spot orgasm orclitoral play.
Also, start with light pressureand then slowly build up to
more intense strokes if and onlyif it feels good.
(13:23):
So here are a couple techniquesyou can use when trying to find
the A-spot and when learning howto pleasure it and bring it to
orgasm.
First of all, I'm going to sayin the beginning always include
clitoral stimulation.
So if you have a partner, thiscan be a little bit easier.
Have your partner use theirfingers.
(13:46):
You can use your fingers onyourself when exploring your
A-spot.
It just may be a little bitmore difficult, depending on
your comfort and your reach, butif you have a partner, they can
use their fingers.
They can stimulate clitoristhrough oral sex while they use
(14:06):
their fingers to enter you, oryou can help them out by
stimulating your own clitoriswhile they use their fingers
inside of you.
You can use a toy on yourclitoris while they explore
inside of you as well.
Another way you can explore yourA-spot and you can do this on
your own or with a partner is touse a vibrator that is designed
(14:30):
either for the G-spot or A-spotand reaches five to six inches
inside of your body.
I can suggest one like theWeVibe Rave 2.
You can see it is long enoughto reach inside and activate
both the G spot and the A spot,and the cool thing about this
(14:52):
vibrator in particular is thatits vibrations radiate all the
way down the shaft of it.
If you are listening on mypodcast, you can go over to my
YouTube channel and see the RAVE2.
I have a full review on it andI will link it below.
So it will stimulate yourA-spot, but the body of it
vibrates, so it's also going tostimulate your G-spot and it
(15:15):
will most likely, depending onhow you position it reach your
clitoris as well.
So if you are exploring yourA-spot on your own, this is
going to be a great wand for youto use.
If you are a partner to someoneand you're helping them find
their A-spot, this might be anice tool when your fingers get
tired, because they will.
(15:36):
The next way you can explore andtry to find the A-spot is,
obviously, if you are with apenis owner.
They can use their penis to tryto stimulate that A-spot.
I suggest only moving on tothis level of exploration.
Once you've already sort offound it with fingers and they
know what they're shooting for,you can of help them out by
(15:57):
stimulating your clitoris.
Or, if you are the partner withthe penis, you can stimulate
their clitoris with your hand,your fingers or a vibe while you
enter them.
I will be talking aboutpositions that are best for this
in one minute Now.
Finally, if you are exploringyour A-spot on your own, you are
a vulva owner, a woman, and youare wanting to find your A-spot
(16:18):
on your own, you are a vulvaowner, a woman, and you are
wanting to find your A-spot onyour own, there are tools that
are going to really help you dothat, and I've got them right
here.
I highly suggest using dualstimulators, and the kind of
dual stimulators I like are onesthat give pleasure air attack
to your clitoris while having anarm that reaches inside and
(16:42):
hits your G-spot and or A-spot.
My favorite dual stimulatorsthat I use, and regularly use to
play with my A-spot and find myA-spot, are the Womanizer Duo 2
.
I have done a review on thisbaby.
I talk about it all the time.
If you've been listening to mefor any time at all, you know
(17:04):
that I love this dual stimulator.
You can see she has a littlebit of a longer arm so I can
push her deep inside, and I'mgoing to give all the credit to
the Duo 2 for my verywell-rounded knowledge of my
A-Spot.
This is going to be a great toyfor you to use if you are on
(17:26):
your own and you are wanting tofind your A-Spot.
Another one that's actually newand I just tried for the first
time this last week and itactivated my A-Spot, much to my
surprise, is the Lilo EnigmaDouble Sonic, and if you are
watching on YouTube you can seeit has a very flexible arm.
(17:46):
I will provide a link to itbelow, but it blew my mind and
it made it very easy for me tofind my A-spot in like next to
no time at all, for me to findmy A spot in like next to no
time at all.
And finally, one of the lastdual stimulators that is perfect
for hitting the A spot is byTracy's Dog.
(18:06):
It is the OG Stimulator.
It has an arm that reaches deepenough it stimulates the
clitoris and all of the vulvaaround it and it's going to give
you a good shot at feeling thatpleasure deep, deep inside.
Finally, the best A-spotpositions during sex.
(18:29):
The number one position forexploring the A-spot during sex
is the lifted missionaryposition.
So she is going to be laying onher back.
You can get a wedge or a pillowto put under her hips.
It may give your partner or thepenis owner better access to
(18:52):
moving deeper inside.
So give that a try Again.
I highly recommend, if you arethe person entering her or on
top, make room for her hands ora toy so she can continue to
stimulate her clitoris while youstimulate her G and A spot.
The second best position isdoggy style.
(19:15):
When she's on her hands andknees in front of you, you can
insert your fingers from behind,with your fingers curving down.
It will allow you to accessdirectly that A spot area and
you will be able to go moredeeply inside of her.
You may also quite easilyaccess her clitoris on the
(19:37):
outside and the G-spot.
Also, when she's in doggy styleposition, she may be able to
prop some pillows under herchest and stimulate her clitoris
on her own as well.
If you are having sex again,it's the same for the penis
owner.
They're going to be able tomove more deeply inside of her
and hopefully stimulate thatA-spot as well.
(20:01):
And finally, one of the bestpositions for finding the A-spot
is cowgirl her on top.
If she is on top, she is goingto be able to move her body and
position the penis when it'sinside her in the place it needs
to be to reach that deep A-spotlocation.
Also the angle of the bodiesand the way the penis enters.
(20:24):
Actually, the natural curve ofthe penis is going to be more
likely to hit the A-spot as well.
She can also, when she's on top, use a vibe to activate her
clitoral pleasure.
This might also be a good timeto wear a cock ring.
I love Fun Factory's nose cockring.
(20:47):
It has little prongs that stickout and will hit her clitoris
and give it that continualvibration while she moves
against you and you reach her Aspot, and the chances of having
a blended orgasm in thatsituation are high.
I can say that from someserious personal experience.
(21:11):
The bottom line is the journeyto exploring and discovering the
A spot is one that can help youunlock more pleasure and deepen
your connection with yourselfand with your partner.
It can help you and a partnerhave a more orgasmic, intense
(21:32):
and closely bonded relationshipand if you are on this journey
on your own, it can really helpyou process emotions, release
stress and trauma and build amore trusting and loving
relationship with yourself.
A drop a comment below thevideo.
(21:57):
If you are on my YouTubechannel at TalkSexWithAnnette,
you can always scroll down andclick on my SpeakPipe link and
leave me a voicemail.
You can email me at Annette, atTalkSexWithAnnette as well.
I am happy to answer as manyquestions as I can, either in
(22:17):
upcoming podcast episodes orshort form videos.
So let me know.
And if you are someone who islooking for assistance in your
intimate life, either withyourself or with a partner, or
you just want someone to helpyou on your path to finding or
maintaining or improving therelationship you're in, remember
(22:38):
my books are open for sex,relationship and intimacy
coaching, and you can find outmore about that at
talksexwithanettecom.
So until next time, I'll seey'all in the locker room.
Cheers.
Do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
(00:20):
Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's Masturbation Mondaytopic is all about the A-spot.
What is the A-spot?
(00:41):
This is one of the most commonquestions I get from my
listeners and YouTube viewers,who are invested in giving their
partners who are women or whohave vaginas incredible, intense
, orgasmic, satisfying, intimateexperiences.
But before I dive into mycomplete guide to the A-spot, I
have an announcement to make.
(01:01):
I have changed the name of myYouTube channel and you can now
find it under the handle atTalkSexWithAnnette.
You can also find all of mypodcast episodes, my intimate
product reviews, my guides tohow to have better sex and all
of my information on my intimacy, sex and relationship coaching
(01:23):
services at TalkSexWithAnettecom.
So if you haven't already headover to YouTube, subscribe to my
YouTube channel atTalkSexWithAnette so we can
interact in the comment sectionof the videos that I create and
so that you can receive all ofmy podcast episodes, reviews and
(01:46):
bonus materials.
Now let's dive into how to findand unlock the powerful
pleasure of the A-spot Cheers.
So if you've been listening tomy podcast for any time now, you
have listened to episodes onclitoral stimulation, fingering,
finding and activating theG-spot.
So you're probably wonderingwhat's with the A-spot, why is
(02:08):
it so important?
Well, finding and learning howto stimulate the A-spot can
enhance her pleasure intenselyand immensely and could even
help her want, desire and enjoypenetrative sex even more.
But here are four huge benefitsthat come from learning how to
(02:33):
locate and activate the A-spot.
First, multiple studies haveshown that increased lubrication
is associated with A-spotstimulation.
So once you find it and youlearn to activate it, she's
going to be wetter, and we alllove that.
A-spot orgasms can be moreintense and even last longer.
(02:56):
They can even result in herexperiencing a deep emotional
release.
Regular A-spot stimulation canactually enhance her pleasure.
It increases blood flow to hervagina, making penetration feel
even better and, like I said, itmay result in her wanting,
(03:17):
desiring and asking for more anddeeper penetration during
sexual interactions.
And one of the coolest benefitsof unlocking the ace spot is
that once you unlock the acespot, it can become easier for
her to experience both blendedand multiple orgasms.
(03:41):
So what is thespot and who hasone?
The A-spot is also known as theanterior fornix.
It is exclusive to cisgenderedwomen and people who are
assigned female at birth.
It is a powerful erogenous zonethat provides pleasure when
stimulated, and it is locateddeep inside the vagina.
(04:02):
So where is the A-spot located?
The A-spot is located on thefront side of the vaginal wall,
approximately four to six inchesdeep, depending on the woman's
body.
It is deeper than the G-spotand it's located up close to the
cervix and the bladder.
So it can be incredibly hard toreach with your fingers on
(04:26):
yourself.
So if you are a vulva owner ora woman and you're trying to
find this for yourself, you mayhave a hard time reaching it
with your own fingers.
So how do you find the A-spot?
Now, whether you are doing thison your own body or you're
doing it with a partner on theirbody, or you're working as a
couple to find the A spot, Iwant to encourage you to start
(04:50):
by finding the G spot.
It's going to sort of be yourlocation marker, if you will.
I want to encourage you to goback and watch my video that is
an instructional on finding andactivating the G-spot.
I'm going to link it below.
Once you have found the G-spot,which is located right inside
(05:14):
the vaginal opening, for somepeople it can be as deep as two
inches.
For someone like me, it's rightinside my vaginal opening.
From there you're going to movetwo to four inches deeper.
Now all of this really dependson a person's body.
I hate when we put specificmeasurements to it because
(05:35):
really the best way to locatethese erogenous zones is by
trial and error and by reallyturning her on so that she feels
it when you do finally hit theright spot and it gets excited.
If I had personally followedthe guideline for finding my
(05:59):
G-spot, I would have never foundit.
I would have been reaching waytoo deep inside of my body and
as a result, of course, myA-spot is definitely not six
inches inside of my body.
Now you may be wondering if youwill notice a different texture
or is there some sort of signthat you've actually hit the
(06:19):
A-spot?
Generally speaking, from whatthe research says and from my
own experience, I haven'tnoticed any difference in
texture.
However, some research says forsome people the A-spot may feel
smoother.
Some people say maybe it's alittle puffier.
Some research says it's thesize of a penny.
(06:41):
Says it's the size of a penny.
I would not depend on any ofthat and I would depend on
either feedback or tuning intoyourself if you're doing this
exploration on your own.
She will definitely know oncethe ace spot has not only been
found but is excited.
So what does the ace spot feellike when it's finally located
(07:04):
and you're stimulating it?
So if she has not turned onahead of time and you hit the
ace spot, it may just feel likepressure without any pleasure at
all.
I can tell you from my personalexperience that when my ace
spot is hit, activated, touched,pushed on, pounded on and I'm
not aroused, it just feels likepressure and it can actually
(07:27):
feel uncomfortable to me.
However, when it is approachedand activated properly, it can
be incredibly arousing, verystimulating and cause a lot of
lubrication.
Not squirting, this is totallydifferent, but extra lubrication
(07:47):
and eventually intense,sometimes deeply emotional
orgasms.
That can go on and on and on.
Now here's my step-by-step guideto finding and activating the
A-spot.
Step one we're going to turnher on and we're going to do
(08:07):
that by starting with clitoralstimulation.
Now, as with the G-spot, theA-spot is much easier to find
and locate and for her to feeland feel aroused by when she's
already turned on.
And we know that most womenbecome aroused and become
orgasmic from clitoral andvulval stimulation.
(08:30):
So that's where we're going tostart Now.
I have already created a fullguide to clitoral stimulation.
I'm going to link it below sothat you can head down there and
you can listen to it.
But what's most important hereis that by pleasuring the
clitoris, we're going to unlockaccess to the pleasure of the
(08:53):
G-spot, because once she becomesexcited, that G-spot is going
to become engorged and it'sgoing to make it easier to feel
and find.
Second, now we are going tostart stimulating her G-spot
Again.
I have a full video on how tostimulate the G-spot for her
(09:13):
pleasure.
I'm going to link it below.
But once you start stimulatingher G-spot and she starts to get
more excited, this arousal andpleasure can unlock access and
excitement in the body forever.
That is the A spot.
A good example of this isduring penetrative sex.
(09:34):
She might start asking for youto go deeper.
She might even do this duringfingering.
You may even feel her vaginastart to widen as she gets
aroused from the G spotstimulation.
That's going to start unlockingaccess to deeper pleasure and
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the A-spot.
Step three, once she is askingyou for deeper penetration or
you're asking her are you readyfor deeper penetration?
Do you want me to go deeper?
You're going to go deeper intothe vaginal canal and you're
going to focus on that area deepinside the canal, about two
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inches deeper than the G-spot,and applying stimulation.
You can do that with the comehither motion.
I am not a huge fan of sayingthat because I find that a lot
of people overdo the come hithermotion, which can be very
painful and take away from thepleasure.
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But that is where you are goingto start focusing, adding
stimulation as you move deeper.
I encourage you to continuestimulating her clitoris.
The A-spot is associated withblended and multiple orgasms.
Some women will not be able toorgasm alone from A-spot
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stimulation.
They will still need you to bestimulating the clitoris or the
G-spot, but they will feel theorgasm that comes from deeper
within and that A spot erogenouszone, a spot orgasms, can be
incredibly intense.
First, because they are locatedso deep within your body, they
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may feel very different to awoman who has not come regularly
from internal stimulation.
On top of it, oftentimes theyare blended with your clitoral
orgasm or your G-spot orgasm,and that's why you may also find
that she experiences multipleorgasms, because she can
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continue to write off thedifferent types of orgasms that
are occurring at the same time.
She may also feel overwhelmedand need you to stop, and that
can come either from a physicalplace of overwhelm and
exhaustion or from an emotionalplace of deep, deep release.
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So to sum up my three-stepprocess think of clitoral
pleasure as the key to unlockingthe G-spot, and G-spot pleasure
as the key to unlocking theA-spot.
The A-spot and then the A-spot.
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Pleasure is the key tounlocking multitudes of ways to
orgasm and experience pleasuretogether.
My top tip for finding andpleasuring the A-spot is
practice makes perfect and keepthe pressure low.
A-spot orgasms may take time toachieve and you may never
achieve a A-spot orgasm on itsown.
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Be consistent with practicingfinding the A-spot.
If you start to get frustratedbecause you aren't finding it,
then back off.
Enjoy a G-spot orgasm orclitoral play.
Also, start with light pressureand then slowly build up to
more intense strokes if and onlyif it feels good.
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So here are a couple techniquesyou can use when trying to find
the A-spot and when learning howto pleasure it and bring it to
orgasm.
First of all, I'm going to sayin the beginning always include
clitoral stimulation.
So if you have a partner, thiscan be a little bit easier.
Have your partner use theirfingers.
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You can use your fingers onyourself when exploring your
A-spot.
It just may be a little bitmore difficult, depending on
your comfort and your reach, butif you have a partner, they can
use their fingers.
They can stimulate clitoristhrough oral sex while they use
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their fingers to enter you, oryou can help them out by
stimulating your own clitoriswhile they use their fingers
inside of you.
You can use a toy on yourclitoris while they explore
inside of you as well.
Another way you can explore yourA-spot and you can do this on
your own or with a partner is touse a vibrator that is designed
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either for the G-spot or A-spotand reaches five to six inches
inside of your body.
I can suggest one like theWeVibe Rave 2.
You can see it is long enoughto reach inside and activate
both the G spot and the A spot,and the cool thing about this
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vibrator in particular is thatits vibrations radiate all the
way down the shaft of it.
If you are listening on mypodcast, you can go over to my
YouTube channel and see the RAVE2.
I have a full review on it andI will link it below.
So it will stimulate yourA-spot, but the body of it
vibrates, so it's also going tostimulate your G-spot and it
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will most likely, depending onhow you position it reach your
clitoris as well.
So if you are exploring yourA-spot on your own, this is
going to be a great wand for youto use.
If you are a partner to someoneand you're helping them find
their A-spot, this might be anice tool when your fingers get
tired, because they will.
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The next way you can explore andtry to find the A-spot is,
obviously, if you are with apenis owner.
They can use their penis to tryto stimulate that A-spot.
I suggest only moving on tothis level of exploration.
Once you've already sort offound it with fingers and they
know what they're shooting for,you can of help them out by
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stimulating your clitoris.
Or, if you are the partner withthe penis, you can stimulate
their clitoris with your hand,your fingers or a vibe while you
enter them.
I will be talking aboutpositions that are best for this
in one minute Now.
Finally, if you are exploringyour A-spot on your own, you are
a vulva owner, a woman, and youare wanting to find your A-spot
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on your own, you are a vulvaowner, a woman, and you are
wanting to find your A-spot onyour own, there are tools that
are going to really help you dothat, and I've got them right
here.
I highly suggest using dualstimulators, and the kind of
dual stimulators I like are onesthat give pleasure air attack
to your clitoris while having anarm that reaches inside and
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hits your G-spot and or A-spot.
My favorite dual stimulatorsthat I use, and regularly use to
play with my A-spot and find myA-spot, are the Womanizer Duo 2
.
I have done a review on thisbaby.
I talk about it all the time.
If you've been listening to mefor any time at all, you know
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that I love this dual stimulator.
You can see she has a littlebit of a longer arm so I can
push her deep inside, and I'mgoing to give all the credit to
the Duo 2 for my verywell-rounded knowledge of my
A-Spot.
This is going to be a great toyfor you to use if you are on
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your own and you are wanting tofind your A-Spot.
Another one that's actually newand I just tried for the first
time this last week and itactivated my A-Spot, much to my
surprise, is the Lilo EnigmaDouble Sonic, and if you are
watching on YouTube you can seeit has a very flexible arm.
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I will provide a link to itbelow, but it blew my mind and
it made it very easy for me tofind my A-spot in like next to
no time at all, for me to findmy A spot in like next to no
time at all.
And finally, one of the lastdual stimulators that is perfect
for hitting the A spot is byTracy's Dog.
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It is the OG Stimulator.
It has an arm that reaches deepenough it stimulates the
clitoris and all of the vulvaaround it and it's going to give
you a good shot at feeling thatpleasure deep, deep inside.
Finally, the best A-spotpositions during sex.
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The number one position forexploring the A-spot during sex
is the lifted missionaryposition.
So she is going to be laying onher back.
You can get a wedge or a pillowto put under her hips.
It may give your partner or thepenis owner better access to
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moving deeper inside.
So give that a try Again.
I highly recommend, if you arethe person entering her or on
top, make room for her hands ora toy so she can continue to
stimulate her clitoris while youstimulate her G and A spot.
The second best position isdoggy style.
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When she's on her hands andknees in front of you, you can
insert your fingers from behind,with your fingers curving down.
It will allow you to accessdirectly that A spot area and
you will be able to go moredeeply inside of her.
You may also quite easilyaccess her clitoris on the
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outside and the G-spot.
Also, when she's in doggy styleposition, she may be able to
prop some pillows under herchest and stimulate her clitoris
on her own as well.
If you are having sex again,it's the same for the penis
owner.
They're going to be able tomove more deeply inside of her
and hopefully stimulate thatA-spot as well.
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And finally, one of the bestpositions for finding the A-spot
is cowgirl her on top.
If she is on top, she is goingto be able to move her body and
position the penis when it'sinside her in the place it needs
to be to reach that deep A-spotlocation.
Also the angle of the bodiesand the way the penis enters.
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Actually, the natural curve ofthe penis is going to be more
likely to hit the A-spot as well.
She can also, when she's on top, use a vibe to activate her
clitoral pleasure.
This might also be a good timeto wear a cock ring.
I love Fun Factory's nose cockring.
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It has little prongs that stickout and will hit her clitoris
and give it that continualvibration while she moves
against you and you reach her Aspot, and the chances of having
a blended orgasm in thatsituation are high.
I can say that from someserious personal experience.
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The bottom line is the journeyto exploring and discovering the
A spot is one that can help youunlock more pleasure and deepen
your connection with yourselfand with your partner.
It can help you and a partnerhave a more orgasmic, intense
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and closely bonded relationshipand if you are on this journey
on your own, it can really helpyou process emotions, release
stress and trauma and build amore trusting and loving
relationship with yourself.
A drop a comment below thevideo.
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If you are on my YouTubechannel at TalkSexWithAnnette,
you can always scroll down andclick on my SpeakPipe link and
leave me a voicemail.
You can email me at Annette, atTalkSexWithAnnette as well.
I am happy to answer as manyquestions as I can, either in
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upcoming podcast episodes orshort form videos.
So let me know.
And if you are someone who islooking for assistance in your
intimate life, either withyourself or with a partner, or
you just want someone to helpyou on your path to finding or
maintaining or improving therelationship you're in, remember
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my books are open for sex,relationship and intimacy
coaching, and you can find outmore about that at
talksexwithanettecom.
So until next time, I'll seey'all in the locker room.
Cheers.
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