Advanced Oral Skills Everyone Should Know

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Want to take your oral intimacy skills from “pretty good” to absolutely unforgettable? In this episode, I’m breaking down the advanced rhythm, pacing, and attunement techniques that cause full-body reactions, deeper connection, and those moments where she completely loses control.

This isn’t about flashy moves or performance pressure.
 This is about understanding the science of her arousal, her nervous system, her breath, and the rhythm patterns that help her body relax, build intensity, and let go.

You’ll learn:
 ✨ Why steady rhythm creates stronger pleasure responses
 ✨ How to read her breath, tension, and micro-movements
 ✨ The psychology behind anticipation and sensory focus
 ✨ What not to do if you want to keep her in the moment
✨ How to hold a rhythm long enough for her body to take over

If you want to feel more confident, more attuned, and more skilled in creating intimacy that stays with her long after it’s over, this episode is for you.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (01:29):
Do the sex.
I'm Annette Benedetti, host ofthe podcast formerly known as
Locker Room Talk and Shots.
The show has a new name, TalkSex with Annette.
But at its core, this is stillyour locker room.
It's where we strip away shame,get curious, and speak the
unspoken about sex, kink,dating, pleasure, and desire.

(01:50):
Around here, nothing's offlimits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends, and of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest, and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you.
And if you're new, welcome to mypodcast where desire meets

(02:11):
disruption and pleasure becomespower.
Now, let's talk about sex.
Cheers.
Today on Talk Sex with the Nut,we are talking about oral
intimacy at the advanced level.
The kind that doesn't just makeher feel good, it makes her lose

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control of her rhythm, herbreath, and yeah, she might have
that grab your hair like shemeans it moment.
This isn't beginner stuff.
This isn't go down there andhope for the best.
This is the science of rhythmpressure, anticipation, and
nervous system activation.
The thing that turns she likesoral into she completely forgot

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where she is right now.
If you want to take Oral fromsomething she enjoys to
something her body reacts to,this episode is your new secret
weapon.
But before we dive in, I want toremind you that if you want
step-by-step detailed guides, Iam doing that over on OnlyFans,
where I'm sharing my demos andmy how-to's with what to do with

(03:20):
anatomy on anatomy there.
You are also going to find audioguided self-pleasure meditations
and the opportunity for someone-on-one coaching on my
OnlyFans.
You can find me there by myhandle at Talk Sex withinet.
You can also find me over onSubstack doing a whole lot of
the same.
And I'm there with my handle atTalk Sex with the Net.

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You can, of course, scroll downto the show notes below, and
you're gonna find everywhere youwanna find me there.
And I can't wait to see you.
For now, let's dive into theseadvanced oral techniques.
Cheers.
So let's start with why theseadvanced oral techniques work.
Here's the truth most peoplenever learn.
Women's arousal is rhythmdependent.

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Studies have found that womenreach peak pleasure more
consistently when stimulationfollows a predictable, steady
rhythmic pattern, not random,not fast, not constantly
changing.
Why?
Because her nervous systemresponds to pattern recognition,
not novelty.
Her body needs consistency,progressive intensity, stable

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pressure, and predictable pacingso she can climb into deeper
waves of arousal.
And there's more.
Neuroscience shows thatconsistent rhythm can put her
into a sensory trance.
This trance-like state causesinvoluntary hip movements,
breath pattern shifts, totalloss of composure.

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And yes, the grab the hairmoment you all are waiting for.
Not because you're doing more,but because you're doing the
same thing with precision,attention, and presence.
This is what most people aregetting wrong.
They think that oral is aboutflashy moves, but science says
different.
Pleasure isn't created bytricks, it's created by rhythm

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plus repetition plus risingintensity.
And that's what separatesunforgettable lovers from
everyone else.
Okay, now that we've got why itworks out of the way, let's dive
into the advanced oral rhythmtechnique.
We're gonna talk about theactual method now.
Step one is you're going tostart with sensory mapping.

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For the first 10 to 15 seconds,don't rush, don't aim, don't
perform.
You are learning.
You're learning how she breatheswhen something feels good, the
micro movements of her hips,when you hit that right spot,
and how her body softens whenshe's opening to sensation.
This primes her nervous systemand tells her, I'm not rushing

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your pleasure.
I'm attuned to it.
This alone creates instant melt.
So many women are worried abouttaking too long and making you
work too hard.
Once she knows you are locked inand you are tuned in and you're
not rushing her, she's gonna letgo and she's gonna get into the

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moment and let her body be fullypresent for you.
So, number two, when she reacts,don't change anything.
This is the advanced part.
Her body will show you there'sgoing to be maybe a sharp
exhale, a softening of her hips,a slight rise or tilt, a pause

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in the breath.
When this happens, you justfound the rhythm her body wants.
Most partners ruin this momentby switching techniques or
speeding up.
Advanced lovers know when herbody reacts, you lock in.
This is where her pleasurestarts to snowball.
All right, the third part ofthis method, you're gonna match

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your rhythm to her tempo.
This is where things get primal.
Women have a natural pelvictempo, and when your rhythm
matches that, something calledrhythm entrainment kicks in.
Rhythm entrainment is a realphenomenon where two rhythmic
patterns sink, amplifying eachother.
It happens when people slowdance, it happens when kissing

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feels hypnotic, and itdefinitely happens in oral
intimacy.
When your rhythm syncs with herbody, she doesn't just enjoy it,
she loses control.
This is where the hair grabbing,hip shifting, thigh shaking all
begins.
You know that thing we all wantto have happen.
So, number four, you're gonnause breath to build intensity.

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Your breath is an underratedtool.
Slow, deep breathing from yousignals emotional safety and
intensifies sensation.
It taps into her parasympatheticnervous system, the part
responsible for relaxation,openness, and allowing pleasure
to rise.
When your breath deepens, herbody feels grounded, held, safe,

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and free to feel more.
Remember, when stress increasesin her body, cortisol kicks in
and that libido dies down.
That's not what you want.
That's why this alone canamplify her response
significantly.

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Number five, you are gonna staysteady when she gets close.
This is where most people panic.
They hear a gasp, a deeperbreath, and think, oh, time to
add more.
No, her body is reachingthreshold and needs your
consistency to cross it.
Stay steady, stay rhythmic, stayattuned.
This is the moment she can'tstay still.

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This is the moment she grabs youbecause she's not thinking
anymore.
Her body is doing the talking.
Okay, so that's the method.
Here's what not to do.
Advanced addition.
Here's the mistakes almosteveryone makes at the advanced
level.
You're not going to do thesethings.
Do not chase her reactions.
If she pulls away or stiffens,it's often overwhelm, not

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discomfort.
Stay calm and stay consistent.
Do not speed up when herbreathing gets heavier.
That breathing is a sign thatshe's climbing, not a request
for intensity.
Do not switch techniques becauseyou're bored or insecure.
If she likes something once,she's gonna like it 30 seconds
later.
More, not less.

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Do not misinterpret quietness.
Many, many, many women getquieter the closer they get.
Silence is not a stop sign, itis concentration.
And do not respond to everymovement with more pressure.
Sometimes her movements meanyes, stay right there, not more,
more, more.

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Don't let your breath getshallow.
Your tension becomes hertension.
And don't make climax the goal.
Pressure kills pleasure.
Presence ignites it.
Here's what to do instead.
And this is what actually makesyou an unforgettable lover.
Tune your attention, not yourtechnique.

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Women feel when you're presentversus performing.
Watch her breath more than hersounds.
Breath reveals everything.
Match her attention withpresence, not pressure.
If she tightens, you ground.
If she rises, you stabilize.
Use micro adjustments.

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Tiny shifts in the angle or paceoutperform big changes every
time.
Let her body lead the rhythm.
Her hips know what to do.
Follow.
Do not force.
Also, slow down your internalenergy.
If your vibe is frantic, shecan't relax.

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Anchor yourself becausestability equals safety.
Safety equals surrender.
Surrender oftentimes leads toorgasm.
And then make sure to staysteady through the threshold.
That's when she crosses from Ifeels good to I can't think.
And finally, focus on theexperience, not the outcome.

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She feels everything you feelabout the moment.
So here's your challenge fortonight.
When you're giving oral, I wantyou to find her rhythm and hold
it.
Don't rush, don't switch everyfew seconds.
Don't try to impress her withvariety.
Find the pace her body respondsto it long enough for her to
completely unravel.

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That's the difference betweenthat was good and oh my God,
what just happened to me.
If you want deeper sensualtraining, advanced techniques,
or guided demonstrations, youcan find me on OnlyFans and
Substack under atTalkSexWithanet.
Remember, those links are below.
And if you're looking for awingwoman, some support in your

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own intimate life, my books areopen.
My sex and intimacy coachingbooks are open.
You can find out more about thaton my website,
talksexwithinet.com.
Also, if you try this, I want toknow how it works out.
So make sure to drop a commentbelow the video if you're on my
YouTube channel at talk sexwithinet, or you can email me at

(12:27):
Annette at TalkSexwithanet.
Shoot me a voice note.
You can go down to the notessection below and you're gonna
find a speak pipe.
I love hearing your voices.
So until next time, I'll seey'all in the locker room.
Cheers.