How to Be the Best She’s Ever Had Without Needing a Big… Anything

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Want to be the best she’s ever had… without needing a big anything?
You’re not alone. Most men secretly worry about size, performance, or whether they measure up to her past partners. But here’s the truth:

What makes sex unforgettable has nothing to do with what you were born with — and everything to do with what you do with it.

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the real skills that make you her top-tier experience:
 ✔ rhythm
 ✔ pressure
 ✔ body reading
 ✔ psychological arousal
 ✔ confidence without ego
 ✔ and the technique every woman wishes more men knew

If you want deeper connection, better feedback, more confidence, and sex that she remembers… this is the episode to watch.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:45):
Do the sex.
I'm Annette Benedetti, host ofthe podcast formerly known as
Locker Room Talk and Shots.
The show has a new name, TalkSex with Annette.
But at its core, this is stillyour locker room.
It's where we strip away shame,get curious, and speak the
unspoken about sex, kink,dating, pleasure, and desire.

(01:06):
Around here, nothing's offlimits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends, and of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest, and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you.
And if you're new, welcome to mypodcast where desire meets

(01:27):
disruption and pleasure becomespower.
Now, let's talk about sex.
Cheers.
Ringlo.
Today's Talk Sex within Nettopic is how to be the best
she's ever had without needing abig anything.
Being the best she's ever hadhas nothing to do with size and

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everything to do with what youactually do with her body.
And today we are ending one ofthe biggest myths men carry into
the bedroom.
And that's that being great inbed is about size, stamina, or
porn-level athleticism.
It's not.
Research actually shows thatonly 18% of women list size as a

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major factor in sexualsatisfaction, and that the
majority prioritize emotionalconnection, foreplay, and
partner responsiveness instead.
What women remember most vividlyisn't penetration at all.
It's how their partner made themfeel in their body, their

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responsiveness, their rhythm,their confidence, and their
presence.
So today I'm giving you fiveskills that make you
unforgettable, the ones thatwomen talk about in group chats,
replay in their mind, andcompare everyone else too.
And none of them require havinga big anything.

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But before we dive in, I want toremind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans, and there I'm sharingmy sex and intimacy how-tos,
demos, and audio guidedself-pleasure meditations.
I'm also offering sort of anintro to sex and intimacy
coaching where you can drop meyour questions and I will answer
them.
So if you're not ready to divein to a full regimen of sex and

(03:15):
intimacy coaching, you can get alittle taste of what I have to
offer.
So you can find me there underthe handle at TalkSex with the
Net.
You can find me on Substack,doing a whole lot of the same
under the same handle.
Of course, you can scroll downto the show notes below and you
will find links to everywhereyou want to find me.
And I cannot wait to see youthere.

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But for now, let's dive intothose five skills that are going
to make you unforgettable inbed, regardless of size.
Cheers.
Here's what women actually meanwhen they say they were the
best.
Her most memorable loversweren't the biggest.
They were the most in tune.

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Let me tell you a secret.
When women say someone was thebest, they're not talking about
the shape, length, or anythingyou've been conditioned to
obsess over.
They're talking about how safethey felt, how turned on they
were before penetration evenhappened, how well they
responded to her body, how theypaced the experience, and how

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they made their pleasure feeleffortless and not rushed.
And science backs this up.
Studies show that female arousalrelies heavily on feeling
emotionally attuned.
Because women's arousal systemslargely are responsive and not
spontaneous.

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That means her body turns onwhen you tune in.
Women remember presence, rhythm,and emotional confidence more
than anything.
Why?
Because biologically a woman'snervous system responds to
safety cues, steady touch, pacedmovement, attuned attention,
which give her brain permissionto relax and become aroused.

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Most men rely heavily onfriction.
The best lovers rely onattunement.
Now that you know what womenreally want, here are five
skills that will make youunforgettable in bed, and they
have absolutely nothing to dowith the size of anything.
The first skill that makes youunforgettable in bed is rhythm.

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Great lovers don't thrustharder, they thrust with rhythm.
Every woman says this and almostno man will hear it.
Her body doesn't respond topressure or depth first, it
responds to rhythm.
Why?
Because the pelvic floor andclitoral network respond best to
consistent, predictablestimulation, not sudden changes.

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Neuroscience research shows thatconsistent rhythmic movement
activates the parasympatheticnervous system, which enhances
relaxation, lubrication, andorgasmic response.
Your rhythm is a thing thattells her you're safe, I feel
you, I'm not rushing this, andyour pleasure matters to me.

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When your rhythm is smooth,steady, and predictable enough
for her body to sink up, that'swhen she starts grinding back,
pulling you in deeper, losingcontrol in the way everybody
wants to see.
If you want to practice this,put your hand on her hip.
Match her movement first.

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Slow down to 70% of your naturalpace.
Breathe.
Don't hold your breath.
Bodies sink through consistency,not speed.
And now you're already betterthan 90% of men.
The second skill that will landyou in the girls' group chat
only in the best ways is havinghands that actually know what

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they're doing.
Your hands can turn her onfaster than anything else if you
know what you're doing.
Penetration is great, butforeplay is the part that
actually sets up her climax.
Most women need 10 to 20 minutesof consistent external
stimulation to reach their peakarousal.
That's straight out of clinicalresearch.

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This isn't because they're slow.
It's because the vulva clitorisand surrounding erectile tissue
take time to engorge with blood,the same way the penis does.
Hands that make youunforgettable do three things.
First, they ground her.
Placing your full palm on herlower belly or thigh sends a
pressure signal through thereceptors that calm the nervous

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system.
It literally drops cortisol.
Second, they explore before theyfocus, touching the edges, outer
thighs, stomach, lower back.
It activates the anticipationpathways in the brain's reward
system.
This increases dopamine andheightens arousal.
Third, they follow herbreathing.

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Breath is one of the firstphysiological indicators of
arousal.
When her breath speeds up, it'sbecause her sympathetic nervous
system is activating, meaningshe's getting close.
This is how she feels seenwithout a word.
On to the third skill that isgoing to make you unforgettable

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in bed.
It is reading her body like aman.
If you can read her body, shewill trust you with it.
Most men get into their heads.
Great lovers get into her body.
Here are three signals womengive that men often miss.
First, her hips tilt towardsyou.
This is an involuntary response,a signal that her pelvic floor

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is contracting and she wantsmore stimulation.
Second, her thighs tighten.
This means increased clitoraland vulvar sensitivity.
Science shows women often tensetheir inner thighs during peak
arousal as a way to intensifysensation.
And third, her breath catches.

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This reflects a spike in tensionat the height of arousal, not a
cue to speed up.
In fact, consistency during thismoment is what helps her reach
her climax.
If you master this one skill,she's gonna think you're a
psychic.
You'll also avoid the biggestmistake men make.

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The fourth skill most of y'allare getting wrong is pressure.
Not too light, not too hard.
This one's a little bit tricky.
Every woman says the same thingin coaching sessions.
Men either press too lightly orway too hard.
Why?
Because most men are guessing.
Great lovers test.

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Studies found that women's nerveendings in the clitoral and
vulva area respond best toincremental increases in
pressure, not sudden intensity.
So do this.
Start with medium pressure,increase by five to ten percent,
not fifty.
Watch her thighs, breath, andhips.

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They'll tell you instantly.
Women feel safest and sexiest,but partners who don't jump to
extremes.
Now we've arrived at skillnumber five, psychological
arousal.
This is what she remembers foryears to come.
Women get turned on with theirbrains first, then their bodies

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fall.
Here's where you become trulyunforgettable.
Because women are aroused byanticipation, attention, tone,
pacing, how you look at them,how you move their body, and how
steady you stay when she startsto unravel.
And there's science behind this.
Studies show that female arousalbegins in the prefrontal cortex

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and the limbic system, the partsof the brain tied to
anticipation and emotionalsafety.
This is why your voice, yourtone, your pace, your confidence
can be more arousing thananything you do physically.
So say things like, Don't rush.
I want to feel all of you.

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Or right there.
Stay right there.
Or you feel so good when youmove like that.
It's grounded, it's confident,not performative, and it hits
deep.
If you want to be the best she'sever had, don't try to impress
her.
Learn her.
Pick one of these five skillsand practice it for the next

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week.
Not all five, just one.
Because mastery isn't aboutdoing more.
It's about doing one thing sowell, her body can't forget you.
Here's the truth that most mennever hear.
Women don't remember thebiggest.
They remember the most attuned,the most present, the most
connected.
They remember the lover whoslowed down enough to feel her,

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the one who didn't flinch whenshe started to fall apart in
pleasure, the one who createdthe kind of experience.
If you become that person, youwon't just be the best she ever
had.
You'll be the one she thinksabout years later.
So I want you to practice atleast one of these skills and
then report back.
Tell me what you thought.
How did it go?

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Try it out with your partner.
How did she react?
If you're on my YouTube channelright now watching this episode,
drop your comments below andtell me what you thought.
If you're an audio listener,feel free to head on over to my
YouTube channel at TalkSexwithinet and leave your comments
there.
You can email me Annette attalksexwithenet.com.
You can also scroll down to thenotes section below, and there

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is a speak pipe where you cansend me a voice message.
I'd love to hear from you.
Also, if you are looking for acheerleader, a wingwoman, if you
will, a guide on your own self,pleasure, or intimacy journey,
I'm here for you.
My books are open.
You can find out more about thatat Annette at

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talksexwithanette.com.
So until next time, here's tobecoming unforgettable in the
bedroom.
I'll see y'all in the lockerroom.
Cheers.