Sex Questions Men Secretly Google at 2 a.m. -- Answered!

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Do the sex?
I'm Annette Benedetti, host ofthe podcast formerly known as
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disruption and pleasure becomespower.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annette.
Topic is size, libido and ballbusting.
Answers to the sex questionsmen are too embarrassed to ask.
You know what I love when menget curious about sex, but not

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in the locker room, bro-y kindof way you know how many women
have you banged?
Kind of way, but in the kind ofway that's involving real
questions, like vulnerablequestions, the stuff that you
Google at 2 am but never ask outloud.
2 am.
That's when you're doing it,like does size really matter, or

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how often should I be havingsex?
Or jerking off, or what does itmean if I'm into something a
little out there, kinky?
Today I've got Dr Sue Milsteinback on the show certified
sexologist, health educator andthe woman who's been blowing
minds with real shame-free sexed for over 20 years.

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And this time we're answeringyour most burning, awkward and
honest questions about sex andperformance.
No shame, no bullshit, just thetruth and maybe a few surprises
.
So let's get ready to answersome of those burning questions
that men have.
But before we dive in, I want toremind you that I'm over on

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OnlyFans and there I am postingmy sex and intimacy how-tos, my
audio guided self-pleasure akamasturbation meditations, and so
much more to help you starthaving a better sex life,
starting tonight or tomorrowhopefully tonight and you can
find me there by the handle atTalkSexWithAnette.

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You can also find me onSubstack, where I'm doing a
whole lot of the same, and I'mat TalkSexWithAn net there.
You can also scroll down to thenotes below and you're going to
find links to all the placesyou want to find me.
So don't forget that you can dothat.
But for now, dr Sue, can youreintroduce yourself to my

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listeners and just tell themalittle bit more about you?

Speaker 2 (03:00):
Sure, so I've got an academic background in human
sexuality, because you canactually get an academic
background in that.
But outside of academia Iprimarily work with people
across the lifespan answeringall those questions that you
mentioned, though sometimes I doactually ask them out loud.
I'm also on Substack asHeyDrSue.

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Folks submit their questions tome anonymously, if that's a big
thing for you, and then Ianswer them.
I'm also the co-host of thepodcast Unzipping Taboos Candid
Conversations About Sex, wherewe do a lot of the shame-free
stuff I'm so glad you said itthat way A lot of that
shame-free, no judgment.
Let's just have someconversations.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
So you're going to want to find her in all of those
places, and I will actually beon her podcast as well.
So start listening to herpodcast so that when I show up
it will be just like a nicelittle surprise for you.
But right now we are going tostart answering some of your
questions here all in one place.
So I'm ready, are you ready?
I'm ready to talk about sex andall the things men want to know

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about themselves and whatthey're doing.
So let's get ready to talkabout sex.
Cheers, Cheers.
We're just going to dive rightin with questions.
Let's do it.
So the first question is andyes, I have a whole podcast on
this, but look, if you haven'ttrusted my answer, podcast on

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this.
But look, if you haven'ttrusted my answer, we've got her
Right.
There we go.
So the question is what's thebest size penis to satisfy a
woman?

Speaker 2 (04:35):
There's no right answer to that and I know people
like no, no, no, give me anumber.
And we can't do that becauseevery woman likes something
different.
I mean, if you look at likephysiological structures and
where the G spot is, it wouldalmost seem like shorter and
wider would be better.
You'd be more likely to hit thegood spots.
But some women love really deepthrusting, like to the point

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where you're saying hello to thecervix, and some women don't.
It's less about the size andmore about your confidence, and
it's less about your size andmore about how attentive you are
as a partner.
If you've got a huge penis andyour partner's like whoa, like
slow down too much and you'renot listening, it doesn't matter
.
If you think you have enough,you're now too much and not in a

(05:18):
good way.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
And in my experience so A.
I do know size queens, womenwho just really want a giant
cock.
And I'm going to tell you alittle secret, folks A very good
friend of mine is a size queen,but when she falls for someone,
that does not matter at all,Not at all, at all, not at all.

(05:44):
And I was discussing that withher lately, with a person she's
involved with and I'm trying tofigure out what she likes about
him but showed me a picture.
I was like I thought you were asize queen, like what's
happening here.
So I think that's important tonote.
What women really fall for andget obsessed with has less to do

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with the size of their cock,more to do with confidence,
attentiveness, skills in bed,the understanding of all of the
things that light us up, how tolike, spark our anticipation,
heighten our senses right andthen get us to that.
You know the finish line if youknow what I'm saying.
But I think also something totalk about is and I don't know

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what your thoughts are on this,sue, but the right fit.
I was sharing, if y'all werelistening before, about a person
that I met and I opened hispackage, which unzipped his
package, and it came out and itwas just the perfect fit for me.
Upon seeing it, it was asthough like light radiated off

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of it and I was like, oh, theangels were singing and I knew
it was like the perfect length,not so long that it was going to
send my cervix into the livinghell, perfect girth, and I knew
it was going to be a good fitfor me.
Now, for someone else it couldbe too big, or maybe they want a

(07:17):
monster cock that's going tolike pound their cervix.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
Yeah, and I think it's.
I do.
I've heard that before.
People are just like it's rightfor me and and that may be
different at different points ofyour life, like when you first
start having sex, maybe you'reall about the I want the biggest
cock I can get, and then you'relike maybe not so much.
What I've actually found for alot of from talking to a lot of
women about this, is that whatthey find is that men who've got

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larger cocks don't always likethey're almost worse in bed
because they've always justrelied on having a really big
dick.
So it's like oh, I have a bigdick, that's all I need to do.
And they're like no, no, no,there's no, there's more.
But they've often, they've sooften relied on that that they
have no skill or they don't knowhow to listen, or they can't do

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or aren't willing to tryanything else in bed other than
like straight to sex.
So having it in, oh, yeah, it'smiserable.

Speaker 1 (08:14):
It's miserable, it is .
I mean, I mean for me, and I'msure there is that rare unicorn
of a woman who doesn't want youto work up to things and and
just wants you to pound her.
But I'm telling you that also.
Um, women fake it and I have,in response to my podcast

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episode guys, I will link thesebelow I did one on the truth
about sex with small penises andmonster cocks.
What I, a lot of men respondedto that and they're like you're
lying.
Women want big ones and and Ihave a big one and she was just

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pleased every time.
I don't think you all realizehow often women fake shit.
I do not think you realizeright, because they just know
they're not going to get wherethey want to physically and so
more or less it becomes aperformance, because the only
thing they get to get off on islike watching you be in awe of,

(09:19):
like how much fun they'resupposedly having in bed with
you.
But yeah, I mean, if you have alarge cock also, I'm sure it's
beautiful.
I'm not putting down your largecock, I'm just saying be sure
you know how to use it.
You know, rub it against a clitLike just put the tip in and
light up that G spot before yougo, for you know a throat

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culture from below.

Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, ask your partner what she wants.
I know sometimes talking isn'ta thing for people, like they're
in the moment and they don'twant to, but so many times what
we hear from women is like thisidea of that, that
pre-conversation whether it's inperson or over dinner or by
text, it's.
It's like that, that edgingthat's already starting.
That requires effort and itrequires effort.

(10:07):
You can't do with your dickLike, you have to actually think
and you have to put the timeand effort into it.
But yeah, going back to whatyou were saying about the faking
it, when we talk to people froma research perspective, when we
ask people, why do you fake it?
The number one reason for womenis I just I wasn't enjoying it
and I wanted it to be over, andso we know that's happening Like

(10:27):
great that you think she lovedit.
Maybe she's just a greatperformer, maybe she did like it
, but there was a good chancethat she was faking it just to
end it.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
Right.
Right, because when you'regetting pounded and it's painful
or uncomfortable, we shouldjust say I'm done.
We need to learn that skill.
Like you can revoke consent atany time during sex, but that's
something that I think can behard for a woman to do, so we
grit our teeth and get throughit, and I know you, as men,
don't want that.

(10:58):
You literally want to have thisreally enjoyable experience and
it feels good to know thatyou're giving someone else
pleasure and they're reallyenjoying what you're doing.
So, yeah, size, is there theright size?
We're both agreeing that that'sno, but I will also say this I

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have seen like shapes of penisesthat I'm like it could be a
great penis, like the ones thatkind of hook in I'm like, oh,
that's going to hit a G spotreally well.
Or you know, every penis hasits perk.
I love that Every penis has itsperks, every penis has its perk
Yours is, yours is perfect, justfor someone yes, so another

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common question, then that's inthe same vein as this one how
small, when it comes to penissize, is too small?

Speaker 2 (12:01):
so that's a little bit harder to answer because I
know normally I'm like you justheard me say like size doesn't
really matter.
With the smaller size itdepends on how small it is.
If it's really small, partnermay not feel anything and that's
where it can be a challenge.
The primary sex organs, reallyyour brain.

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So if the brain's turned on andthe rest of the body's turned
on and maybe it's not deepthrusting and maybe they don't
feel so much of the pressureinside the vagina, it doesn't
mean they're not going to enjoyit.
To me, the biggest piece of thatand I know we've already said
it is the confidence piece.
If you're just like, here's myteeny, tiny penis, so sorry,
everyone's turned off at thatpoint.
But if you're just like oh,here's my teeny, tiny penis, so
sorry, like everyone's turnedoff at that point.
But if you're like it's smallbut it's mighty, like, and you

(12:49):
find a way to work with it andand you're attentive and you're
making sure that there'spleasure for your partner, women
are like there is a thing oftoo small because I can't feel
the sensations, and so that canbe a challenge.
But it's really more sometimesabout width.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
It's about girth, less so about length.
100% girth is a thing and Ithink most women will agree with
that.
But I would also say that ifyou have a micropen penis or you
have a small penis, one thingto keep in mind is there are

(13:31):
plenty of women who have sexwith other women who don't have
penises and have incredible sex,and what you are doing with a
woman is sharing your body inthe perfection that it is, and
there are lots of ways you canuse your penis, whatever size it
is, to bring her pleasure.

(13:52):
There's grinding.
You know and I personally, assomeone who has sex with women
like I've been with women whohave enlarged literacies that
that almost look like micropenises and it feels extra good
because when you're grinding youhave that bigger organ that is

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just right inside my vaginalopening.
I don't need anything to be thatbig just to like touch and
stimulate and excite my G-spot.
But also, if you're withsomeone who, like you, do all

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that, she still is craving somedeep, thick penetration.
There are so many toys or usingyour finger, my fingers when I
I'm having sex with a woman aremy favorite toy because I can
it's skin on skin.
I can feel her get excited.
I can use as many fingers or afist to fill her up as little or

(14:56):
as much as she wants.
And if you are doing that, ifyou have those skills built in,
if you are a man with any dickand you've got the skills of a
lesbian, trust me she will comeback for more and more and more.
This is just my advice as aqueer woman.

Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, I 100% agree with that, and it's funny
because those are things that wewind up telling older men as
they're struggling sometimeswith erectile dysfunction or
going through prostate cancertreatments and, like their dicks
just not working the way thatthey're used to and they think
it's the end of their sex lifeand it's it's trying to educate
them about.
No, no, no, like it's, it's allthese different things, but

(15:36):
they have to be open to that andwe've just, we've totally
socialized people to believethat, like it's always about
penetration and that's how thebest orgasm is going to happen
for her, and we know that that'snot.
Like, that's not where yournerve endings really are.
So it's just giving people thatlicense to be like, go play, go
try something new.
Whether your penis is big,small, working, not working,

(15:57):
half staff, whatever, like play,stop stopping.
So like it has to be serious,or I need to know how to do this
instantly.
Like, have a good time and tryto figure it out.
It can be a great way ofdiscovering new things.

Speaker 1 (16:10):
Exactly, and sometimes, when you feel like
you're at a disadvantage becauseI'm not, I don't believe that's
a reality.
I think it's a thought process.
It forces you to open your mindand then you end up becoming an
even better lover than thepeople who just have the big

(16:32):
cock and they walk in and startramming it into someone, like
nobody wants to keep that guy.
Some people might be like, oh,let's give that a ride and see
what it's like, but then it'slike all right, well, that was
not fun, let's move on.

Speaker 2 (16:44):
Yeah, ride's over, next ride yeah.

Speaker 1 (16:47):
Well, that happens a lot.
So next question how many timesshould a man have sexual
intercourse in a week?

Speaker 2 (17:06):
as he wants, as long as his partners are consenting.
There's really no number and Iknow you were talking about this
before but this idea of likenormal, that there's some kind
of normal that you need to hit,it's going to be different for
every man.
It's going to be different fordifferent same man, different
stages of life, like when you're18, 19, 20, you're probably
hitting it way more often thanwhen you're in your 70s and 80s.
So it's going to depend a loton your needs, your partner's

(17:27):
needs, your desires, yourability to find a partner, like
all those things are going tocome into play.
But there's no one number andbefore someone does this because
every time I answer thisquestion someone goes and
Googles it while I'm talking andthey're like I found this
research article that says thoseresearch articles are based off
self-report.
Most people are going toover-exaggerate, so I just need

(17:51):
folks to keep that in mind andthey also tend to look at one
specific age group.
So I can't give you a number.
If you're satisfied and you'rehappy, then that works.
If you're not satisfied, thenthat's where the problem comes
up.
But it's less about number andmore about needs of you and
partner partners.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
Right, right, you could have one or two or three
or four partners, depending onwho you are and what's going on.
I think also, the question thatyou should be asking is how
much intimacy do I need in mylife Beyond the PNV sex and cum
situation?
There is so much health-wise,there are so many benefits to

(18:38):
your health, mental health,physical health, emotional all
of that that comes from intimacyand that can be touch, hug,
laying with someone,skin-on-skin contact.
I think that's important forevery human, but it doesn't have
to just be about the sex partof it.

(19:09):
Right, your concern is on thesex, but you might get as much
Mm-hmm that your body will dumplike oxytocin and dopamine and
all of those really wonderfulchemicals that are like a
powerful little vitamin intoyour system when you are getting
that.

Speaker 2 (19:30):
Have you ever heard of the concept called skin
hunger?

Speaker 1 (19:34):
No, I feel it already .
What is it?

Speaker 2 (19:38):
It's just the technical.
It's not really all that supertechnical.
It's the term we use for whenpeople want touch, and it
doesn't have to be like sexytouch.
It's just what you were justsaying, that human contact, sex

(19:59):
in the United States or we don'ttalk about it, we don't have
conversations about what peopleneed or what they want, and so
they feel this emptiness.
It's exactly what you were justsaying.
They feel this emptiness andthey think they have to go out
and get laid to fill it, whenreally it's that skin hunger.
They just need that physicaltouch.
They just need someone to benext to them or cuddle them and
if you're naked, that's fine orhug them or hold hands and we

(20:20):
saw this a lot during COVID thatpeople who were in lockdown by
themselves they were talkingabout like this whole, I need to
get laid, and yeah, that mayhave been partially true.
Really they were missing thathuman contact.
That skin hunger is such astrong motivator.
So I think you've got a greatpoint.
When people are like, how muchsex should I be having, it may

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not be about the sex, it may beabout that contact, because if
you find that you're having sexa lot and you're not getting
what you need.
It may not be the sex and maybethe intimacy.
It may be that connection.

Speaker 1 (20:53):
Absolutely.
I definitely get skin hunger.
I'm going to use that kind ofscary term.
It's a little, a little bitSilence of the Lambs, but I
think I felt that last night Iwas like I need to be spooned,
so maybe that's the moreimportant question that you

(21:16):
should be asking.
All right, next question I'm amale.
This is the question.
I'm a male.
It's my favorite way that Ioften get questions sent to me.
Do I need to shave my pubichair?
I want to hear your answer tothis one.

Speaker 2 (21:41):
So a lot of this is going to come down to confidence
.
If you're thinking I'm a messdown there and no one's going to
love it, you're going to walkin feeling like that.
Some women do love it.
I'm trying to figure out how to.
Sorry, there's a pause.
I was trying to figure out howto phrase this.
Some women do love it to bemaintained.

(22:01):
I don't think women are nearlyas picky about that as men are,
and their partners.
I know that most women do notwant nothing Like it feels a
little prepubescent.
I don't see that push fromwomen to be like men shave down
all the way way.
The same way, a lot of womenget pressure from their male
partners.
Um, if you're concerned aboutsize and how it looks, this is a

(22:24):
great way.
Like you could do some artfulframing about how you cut it and
how you present it, um, butmost of the time what I hear
from women is just as long asit's not like all over the place
and you're confident in whatyou have, they don't really care
.
It doesn't seem to be as muchof an issue for female partners
of their men as it does mentowards their female partners.

(22:44):
What do you think I have astrong opinion?

Speaker 1 (22:47):
Oh, give it please.
So I would agree with you thatwomen are far more generous when
it comes to this subject.
But I will tell you somethingwe all unanimously tend to hate
that we don't say anything about.
If you want to shave, shave.
If it makes you feelcomfortable, do it.
Here's the thing you need toknow.

(23:07):
If you are going to do it, thenyou need to keep it up while
you're with her, otherwise weend up getting the pokies.
It very quickly, within a day,becomes pokey and itchy as fuck
and our lovely lady bits ourlabia, our inner thighs.
We are delicate and scratchingus there.

(23:29):
Now there may be some women whoare into that.
That's their kink.
Ask first.
For the rest of us, it feelskind of gross and I want to
expand this pubic hairconversation from the dick and

(23:53):
balls to the chest to the back.
Look, if I'm going to be on aman like, I'm okay with some
hair, what I'm not okay with islaying my body against theirs
and just instantly feeling likeI have the itchiest wool coat
against me.
And that only happens when youshave down so that it's short

(24:14):
enough that it becomes pokey ora porcupine.
No one wants a porcupine.
They're lonely creatures, youknow, for a reason.
So if you're going to shave,you know it's got to go.
You got to do it all the time.
Go, get it lasered off ifthat's what you feel like you
need to do.
Or you need to leave it.
Long enough that it's stillsoft and you're like a furry

(24:37):
little.
Long enough that it's stillsoft and you're like a furry
little okay, furry, big, sexyman, all right, that's my
opinion.
Like I expect a man to havehair.
I'm like fine with it, but Idon't want to be flossing with
your pubes either.
So keep it under control, bro.

Speaker 2 (24:51):
You know what I mean.
Yeah, I think we've got therewas that point where people were
manscaping for like within aninch of their lives, like
everything was coming off, and Ithink we've kind of moved past
that phase.
I love the way you said it,that women are way more generous
, but they also, unless pain'stheir thing, they don't want the
friction burns from that theydon't want.
Yeah, that's.
That can be reallyuncomfortable.

Speaker 1 (25:10):
It really can kill, like, especially if you're in
the middle of sex and you knowyou're grinding on them and
you're getting into it becauseof course you want to grind so
that your clitoris is hitting.
You know their sort of pelvicmounts, which helps you have an
orgasm.
Well, if you're getting, ifyou're, if it's like prickly,
it's hurting the clitoris, likeyou can't keep grinding, it

(25:32):
makes it hard to get off.
So, when it comes to yourmanscaping, think about that,
and I, like you, know manscape,but that doesn't mean like go
scorched earth.
Yeah, right, you don't need tobe a jungle, but let's not be.
You know the Badlands, right?

(25:53):
Yes, no-transcript, because Iget more sensation.

(26:36):
I'm Italian, so when my shitgrows out, it's like you got,
you have to have a machete toget to the clip, right.
But then when I date women,they're like you have a little
bit of a push Right, likebecause, like women who date men
, and I'm like, nope, well,because my ex paid to get mine

(26:56):
lasered off.
So now I mean I get a littlehair, but not a lot.
So it's like you can't makeeverybody happy, right?
So I guess the best thing youcan do is A make sure you're not
prickly.
No one likes that and thenotherwise, either they like you
or they don't.

Speaker 2 (27:16):
And if the hair?

Speaker 1 (27:17):
is the deal breaker.
They can go fuck themselves,yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:20):
And just own it.
Just own it Like this is what Igot going on, Like I didn't
know I was hooking up tonightand this is what's going, this
is what's down there.
Take it or leave it.
And if they're willing, ifthat's their deal breaker, then
so be it.
That wasn't the right one foryou.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
So there's nothing I can do if I think I'm going to
hook up with a woman, I have towait months to get anything that
would resemble a womanly.

Speaker 2 (27:44):
Check back with me in September.

Speaker 1 (27:49):
You're just going to have to be OK with what's going
on down there.
Fuck, you can't win them all.
You can't win them all, allright.
So moving on, I'm excited aboutthis one Also.
I have a full episode on thisone, but I'm excited to talk
about it here.
I'm obsessed with ball busting.
Is there something wrong withme mentally?

Speaker 2 (28:14):
I'm realizing people can't see me shaking my head, so
unless they're watching thevideo, I don't think there's
anything wrong.
That's that's just a kink.
That's your kink.
As long as you're doing itrelatively safely, because you
can cause some serious damage,as long as it's something where
everyone's consenting, you'renot forcing someone to hurt you
and you're enjoying it, I don'tthink there's anything wrong

(28:37):
with you mentally, like good foryou for finding that it can be
a challenge to bring that upwith a new partner if they're
not into it, so that I and and Iknow that can happen like you
bring it up and the person'slike what the hell's wrong with
you, and so I could see wherethat question was coming from.
But no, it's just a differentkind of kink.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
Yeah, I think that with kinks, it's a bad place to
go to, to start asking, likewhere does this come from?
Why do I like this?
Sometimes you just like it andthere is nothing wrong with

(29:19):
having a kink.
The thing that gets challengingagain, like you said, is
getting matching up with apartner who likes specific kinks
.
So I think, specifically withthis one because now on the kink
spectrum, we're looking atsomething that could be a little
more physically dangerous.
Right like this is somethingthat could be dangerous for you

(29:40):
Is A.
If it's something that you'reinto, you need to really get
educated about it about how todo it, exactly how it needs to
be done so that you don't gethurt, different equipment, what
the limits are.
There are classes.
If you are living, if you livein a city where there's a kink

(30:03):
community, they might put onclasses about it, or I'm sure
that you could find someinformation online.
Again, I have a full episode onit which could be really
helpful.
But more so once you're fullyeducated, if you have a partner
that you're able to bring it upwith and they have no experience

(30:24):
, they need to get educated.
Don't just have them kick youin the balls or like stomp on
your balls, like with noeducation on how to do that, or
you could end up in the hospital.

Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yep and possibly losing a testicle, and that's
can't be fun, and no more ballbusting would happen, no more
can't bust balls that aren'tthere.
Yes, and it's funny because Iit's what you were saying before
about, you know, not reallytrying to figure out where it
comes from.
I get that question a lot, likewell, why do you think I am
this way?
And I like do we really need todo a deep dive into how you got

(31:03):
this way?
You like it this way?
So again, as long as you're notpressuring a partner into doing
it, who's not into it, like,why do we need to get into the?
Where did it come from?
But having that conversationwith someone who actually isn't
a ball busting, what he startedrealizing was it was less about
the ball busting and more aboutthe power dynamic.
He's like man, I could take orleave the ball busting.

(31:25):
I'm like so it's not, it's notactually the ball busting for
you.
Then, like he's like no, it's,I think it's more the power,
like she's got total power overme.
I'm like then that's somethingdifferent.
But because we don't talk aboutthese things openly usually, he
had just gone online, foundthis thing of ball busting, was
like oh, I think that's what Ilike and it.

(31:45):
He enjoyed it.
But it was more about thatpower dynamic and making himself
vulnerable and that submissionaspect to it, so like I could
see why you'd want to do alittle deep dive into what
caused it.
But I don't.
I don't think there's anythingmentally wrong with you at all.

Speaker 1 (32:01):
No, no, I don't.
Nothing's mentally wrong withyou as long as you're being like
safe about it and you're not.
This isn't like a self-harmsituation that's being taken to
the level of endangering yourhealth, if you think about it.
What is widely accepted and farmore common is like women who

(32:23):
like to have their pussiesspanked or slapped.
Slapping a pussy is pretty.
I mean, maybe some vanillapeople don't do it, but I would
say even vanilla people kind oflike that.
Everyone likes to spank a pussyor slap it with a cock, I mean,
and then it can go up in levelof pain.
It's a very similar dynamic.

(32:44):
Or a woman who likes to get hercervix pounded Now that is very
much the equivalent in pain.
Just so y'all know when you'redoing it and we don't like it.
It's the same as getting yourfucking balls kicked, all right,
but some women love that.
It's the equivalent, but wedon't put the same shame around

(33:06):
it.

Speaker 2 (33:07):
Yeah, and I think part of it's because we're not
upsetting the power structureright, like women, we do things
with women.
I want to say to women but thatsounds wrong, as I'm saying it
in my head, because it shouldalways be done with consent.
But women, but women, havingthese things done to them
doesn't upset the powerstructure.
Putting someone's balls at riskand making them that vulnerable

(33:29):
, it upends that.
So they are so similar, but we,just because of the dynamic, we
don't talk about it the sameway and it'd be so freeing for
people if we did.

Speaker 1 (33:38):
We don't talk about it the same way, and it'd be so
freeing for people if we did so.
I guess that's a good point,though it's an annoying
comparison to have to make.
It's bad.
It's bad that we have to makethe comparison, but before you
go into like shaming yourself.
flip the script and what you'regoing to find my guess is I'm

(34:02):
going to be conservative and sayseven out of 10 times is the
same thing happening to a womanis more acceptable.
You know, no one's saying, oh,is she crazy because she likes
having a cock so big that itbangs her cervix.
You know everyone's like, oh,he's awesome and that's hot sex.
But a man wanting to experienceball busting is something's

(34:25):
mentally wrong with him.
No, it is a domination thing.
That is also a power, a painpower dynamic which is very
common in kink which is verycommon in kink.

Speaker 2 (34:38):
So, and especially with the ball busting, it's
amazing because I did a questionon that for my Q&A and it was
like the floodgates opened Likethe next.
I felt like the next 10questions I got were all about
ball busting, because they foundsomeone who was willing to talk
about it in a nonjudgmental way.
Like where else are you goingto get that information?
Because we don't talk about itwhen it is.

(34:59):
I mean, I don't think it's themost common one out there, but
it is way more common thanpeople think.
And so like stop, stop with theshame, and I'm sure some
partners have said some thingsto you that have not helped with
the shame.
But yeah, I was just it's waymore common, I think, than
people realize.

Speaker 1 (35:18):
Yeah, in fact in line with it, but different and
again, I know that many of mylisteners come from these
episodes is putting a cock in acage?
Is putting a cock in a cage orwanting to have your cock in
chastity in a cage bad?

(35:39):
Is something wrong with me thatI desire that?
Is something wrong with me thatI get off on that?
And again, this is just a powerdynamic that is hot for some
people and I have to admit, whenI learned about cocks and cages
which I learned from my verybest friend Lucy, who's a
dominatrix I was like why wouldanybody want that?

(36:01):
Then I put a cock in a cageholy shit.

Speaker 2 (36:06):
You had all the power though.
Yeah, that's hot yeah talkabout vulnerability.

Speaker 1 (36:12):
Yeah, yeah, I get it now like it was.
Things are foreign when youhaven't heard about them and can
be scary when they're new toyou.
And then you slap a cage on acock and you're like, oh yeah,
of course I'd like that you knowcage.

Speaker 2 (36:43):
Sure shit does not matter what the size of that
thing I mean the cage size youmay need you may need to be
different, but what's greatabout that is it kind of pulls
away that focus on size.
It's.
There's so many other thingsyou can do and yeah there are so
many other things.

Speaker 1 (36:53):
And again going back to the cock cage, you know
people don't blink when you.
It's like female chastity,right when you're putting a
chastity belt on a woman it'sthe same excitement of
controlling someone's sexualityand owning someone's sexuality,
because the key holder in eithercase gets to say I own that

(37:13):
cock or I own that pussy andthat's hot.
Like, come on, that's hot Evento vanilla folks.
You don't put a cage on it butyou want to own it.

Speaker 2 (37:22):
You know not that they'll admit that.

Speaker 1 (37:26):
I'm saying putting a ring on it's pretty much owning
it.
But whatever, different cages,different different costs to
those cages.
But all right On to the nextone.
Why does my libido fluctuate somuch Life?

Speaker 2 (37:44):
It's because of life and I'm not sure if the question
came from a man, because Ithink this applies to everyone,
regardless of your sex,regardless of your gender.
Like so much of our libido isbased off everything that's
happening around us.
It's whether or not we're tired, it's what medications we're on
.
It's are we fighting with ourpartner?
Do we have a partner?

(38:04):
When was the last time we gotoff?
Like all of those things canimpact your sex drive.
And it's anyone who's ever beenfired, because I have some
friends who are going throughthis right now, who used to work
with the government.
It's like I just can't seem tobe there for my partner.
I can't, I'm not interested.
I'm like, of course you're notinterested.
You just lost your job.

(38:25):
You just lost your identity.
You're worried about puttingfood on the table.
Like people's sex livesstruggle around major holidays,

(38:45):
usually because of family stressand everything they're going to
have to deal with.
It's like that's the last thingsometimes they're thinking of.
So everything that's going onin your life, from what you're
eating to how tired you are, towhether or not you've got a job
all that's going to get in theway and we just don't talk about
that.
We just we make this assumptionagain, especially especially
for men, that you're going toalways want it and sometimes you

(39:06):
just don't, and that's okay.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
Your libido is going to go up and down too.
I do think the sex drive curveacross the lifespan for men and
women can differ as well, andthat can be really frustrating,
especially later in life, toeverybody involved.
One thing that I think peopleare experiencing and coming to

(39:33):
understand more and more is thatwomen, as they hit their late,
late 30s and hit their 40sespecially, sex drive spikes,
and this is something we need totalk about more.
I know I have some incels outthere that can't help but listen

(39:53):
to my podcast and I know thatyou guys are insisting that
women hit the wall at somethingridiculous like 35.
But the reality is, like it ornot, when we hit 40, our sex
drive is on fire Most of a lotof us.

(40:15):
The percentage right.
Can you back me up on this?

Speaker 2 (40:19):
I can't.
I mean, I can't throw numbersat you, but and it's actually
into their 50s as well.
What we find with some women isthat once they get through
menopause and they can't getpregnant, they're like woohoo,
like let's do this thing, whichis a complete opposite of what
we used to tell people.
It was like, oh yeah, in yourlate 30s, 40s, but then
menopause and your sex drive'sgoing to die.

(40:39):
And most of the women I talk to, as they're aging, they're like
I'm ready, let's go, I need alittle more lube than I used to
but like, let's do this becausethat fear is gone for them.
But yeah, for folks listening,sex drives tend not to match by
age.
It's we actually see, the olderthe men are getting, like yeah,
the more their sex drive isactually tanking.

(41:00):
And what we find with women andI know we were just focusing on
30s and 40s, but we find withwomen in their 60s, 70s, 80s is
that if they're not having sexwith their husbands, it's
usually because he's not into it, like his sex drive is just
going, his testosterone isdropping, and she's like, hey,
wait, I still want to do things.
So, yeah, there's usually amismatch there, right, but

(41:23):
there's also a reason.

Speaker 1 (41:25):
Yeah, I think that that's like a huge source of
frustration.
So the experiences men andwomen are having aren't matching
up with the information thatthey're getting either.
Say that couples inrelationships at this time,

(41:49):
especially right now, who areolder, aren't struggling with
their sexual relationship.
Because I want to move on tothe next question, which comes
from this is a compilation ofmultiple questions that I get
from listeners all the time.
The number one question that Iget from my male listeners is
how do I get my partner, my wife, my female partner, to not just

(42:15):
have sex with me but desire me?
The common complaint I get andthese are from men that are
easily, I'd say, 45 and up,maybe usually 50 and up is that
she doesn't want to have sexanymore at all, and when she
does, it's fine and it's nice tobe having sex, but I can tell

(42:37):
she doesn't really want to.
And how do I get her to desire?
They want to be desired, Menwant to be desired, and it's
something we haven't talkedenough about.
We always think of that wantingto be desired, feeling as
something that is more feminine,something that women want, but

(42:57):
men want to be thirsted afterright.
They want someone to be like ohmy God, I can't wait until you
put your hands on me and I can'twait till I can feel your cock
in me, right, but that's thepiece that's missing.
She'll like give him the monthlysex, but it's sort of like

(43:18):
let's get this over with.
I know I have to do my duty.
Nobody, nobody wants to havethat sex, right, Right?
So that's my question what areyour thoughts on that?
For men who are like how do Iget her to desire me and desire
intimacy with me?
What are some tips we can givethem?

Speaker 2 (43:39):
So what I usually tell them is let's back up and
see whether or not you'retreating her like a woman or if
she's living her life as a wifeand a mother Not that those are
bad roles but if she's wife andmother and caretaker, she can't
just turn it off and be like, oh, okay, like now, I want sex.
So for men and I see thisdesire discrepancy all the time

(44:03):
if you're having this kind ofthing, like when was the last
time you gave her the ability tolike step back and be a sexy
woman herself, when was the lasttime she had that moment of
feeling desired, and not justbecause you wanted it and that's
what I tend to find withcouples, especially when they've
been together for a whilethere's no touch unless they
want something.

(44:23):
So it's the okay, I'm gonnawant sex later.
Or I want your attention, or,like now, I'm gonna touch you.
If having a woman turn on herdesire, especially when she's
leading, like all thesedifferent roles and, you know,
wearing all these different hats, you've, you've got to give her
the time and the space to getturned on and you got to put in
the effort elsewhere.

(44:45):
You can't just turn around,touch her and be like oh, you're
not turned on.
Why not Send her that dirtytext in the middle of the day
Like start her thinking aboutthat.
Don't have it be that you bothcome home from work.
But she's got to first do thedishes, you know, put things
away, make the dinner, let herbe a woman before she's playing
these other roles and thenshe'll be able to, most of the

(45:07):
time, be more on board withbeing that partner that you want
.
But there's got to be that timeand space for her.
She can't just turn it off andturn it on, and we know that
about women in general and I'mgoing to make horrible gender
stereotypes here, so I apologize, horrible gender stereotypes
here, so I apologize.
Men can usually turn it onfaster.
They don't need as muchstimulation and or they're

(45:27):
getting it during the day intheir own brains, whereas women
usually take longer.
It's more of a slow burn.
So if she's a slow burn, youcan't just turn around, look at
her and be like OK, time for sexand think she's going to jump
right on it.
You got to help that slow burn,you got to feed those embers,
and that takes time.
So I usually tell guys likewhat are you doing to help this?
What are you doing to help herhave that space of being a woman

(45:50):
and not mom, caretaker, wifeAgain not that those are bad
roles, those are important.

Speaker 1 (45:58):
Right.
I think that the big piece thatis missing is integrating touch
and intimacy, weaving itthroughout your day.
That is not attached toactually sex, meaning PNV sex,
which is, you know, you want toget your penis in there.
I get that.
So things you could startmaking a habit in your daily

(46:21):
life is, when you're out doingsomething together, just hold
her hand, just reach out andhold her hand and walk silently
holding hands.
When you get up to get ready inthe morning, if she's still in
bed, lean over and kiss herforehead while she's like
sleeping or lightly awake, rightBefore she goes like, stop at

(46:42):
the door, turn around, come backand hug her, maybe bring her
coffee in bed in the morning.
If she gets up after you, likethese little acts of love and of
seeing her and caring for herin an intimate way, a she's
going to want to reciprocate.
Women are primed for that.

(47:04):
So again, I hate to say, dothis with the intention of
getting something back, but thisis going to enhance your life
overall.
You're going to have a partnerwhere you feel like, wow, we're
caring for each other.
Make sure you are touchingthroughout the day.
That, like intimacy, is soimportant.

(47:26):
The other thing I like to tellmen in particular, then, one of
the number one things I seecouples struggle with when women
just aren't interested in sexanymore, it's because it feels
like work to them.
It's gotten to this place whereit feels like work for them,
where the work she has to put inis more than what the payoff

(47:49):
feels like it's going to be.
So the trick is to make it notfeel like work anymore, and part
of that the work piece and thepressure piece, like feeling
like I'm pressured into it oh,he's holding my hand because he
wants me to do it, and thenthat's going to be work.
And then I've got to put thiswork in and I might get the
orgasm, you know, but it's likethis 20 minute act and then I

(48:13):
get the climax and then I got toclean up the mess because he's
going to come everywhere.
Like this is what goes throughour brain, and so sometimes the
best thing to do is really takesex off the table and start
setting up a situation wherethere's an invitation right,
like I want to sit and spoonwith you naked and maybe watch

(48:33):
our favorite movie tonight, andlike, just know, like I don't
want to have any sex.
You know I don't.
That's not my plan tonight.
I just just want to hold you.
But you can always leave an openinvitation.
If you're in the mood, let meknow.
That's not my intention fortonight, right?
Or hey, I'm kind of feelinglike exchanging massages tonight

(48:57):
up, full body massages.
There's like a big payoff forher and let her know.
Yeah, I want to do it withoutclothes on, but I just want you
to know like I'm not initiatingsex, I just think it would be
fun, it would be a nice way tospend our Thursday evening or a
Friday evening, but I'll let herknow.
If you want something more, letme know.

(49:19):
But that's not my intention.
Leaving an open invitationwhere, if she starts to feel
something that she can decideand you're kind of setting up a
scene where it's an easy thingto happen, but not making it the
plan or the reason for doingthe sexy massage or a cuddling

(49:40):
naked or whatever you can set upthose sexy moments and leave
the open invitation.

Speaker 2 (49:46):
Yep, when I work with couples who've been together
for a while, the big complaintis we're not really enjoying sex
and it's because so often it'sbecome scripted right, I touch
you there, you say, ooh, baby,you touch me here, then we're
having sex.
So a lot of times what I tellthem is take sex off the table.

(50:09):
You're not allowed, no more.
That's the homework is do thoseother things.
Reconnect in other ways themassage, the cuddling.
You really want to turn yourlady on.
Put your phone down and look ather when she's talking, when
she feels heard.
That is the first step infeeling connected.
Ask her how her day is andlisten and put your phone down,
listen to her, hear what she'ssaying.
If she knows that you'reengaging with her and there's no

(50:31):
, none of like you were saying,none of that pressure like sex
is off the table for whatever.
A week, sometimes I'll havepeople do that for a week,
sometimes it's two days.
But take that, take that out ofthe equation and just reconnect
on another level and suddenlyyou know they'll be like whoops.
We didn't make the week becausewe'd reconnected.
But you've got to be presentfor your partner and it can't

(50:54):
just be in the moment you wantsex these are great tips, so
give them a try.

Speaker 1 (51:05):
Give them a try.
The work off the table, takethe pressure off the table.
Integrate, touch throughoutyour day, little acts of like
new love.
When you first fall in lovewith someone, or you're falling
in love with them, you do thesethings right.
Do these things.
The chances are, if you're nothaving intimacy, you've also
grown apart and you don't evenknow who she is anymore.

(51:25):
So get curious about who she isand start getting to know each
other again as new lovers.

Speaker 2 (51:36):
But again, make sure there's space for her to do that
.
That's some good advice.

Speaker 1 (51:42):
How often do men masturbate?

Speaker 2 (51:46):
Again, this is going to be an age and where you are
in your life, like if you're inyour 18 to like mid-20s.
It could be multiple times aday without batting an eyelash,
and then you know, you move intoyour 30s, 40s and beyond.
It could be once a day, onceevery other day.
I have worked with men who saythat they don't masturbate, they
don't enjoy it, it doesn'tbring them pleasure, they prefer

(52:06):
to save themselves for likebeing with their partner.
So it really does depend A lotof times.
College age, it's like, ah,multiple times a day, whenever I
can find a free moment tomyself, whenever I can find a
bathroom.
But that's going to change overtime and whether or not you're

(52:26):
with a partner and other thingsthat are going on in your life.
But I just I hate that ideabecause I hear this all the time
oh, all men masturbate.
I'm like, no, there are somewho don't and that's OK.

Speaker 1 (52:35):
Also, that was kind of the follow up question, I
think a common question is thatwas kind of the follow-up
question.
I think a common question ishow much masturbation is bad for
a guy If a?

Speaker 2 (52:51):
man masturbates too much, can it be harmful?
That was literally the questionI answered last week on my sub
stack.
So you're not going to wear itout, I mean, unless you've got
like friction burns, in whichcase maybe use some more lube,
but you're not going to wear outthe pieces.
So the thing is, if you aremasturbating so much that you're
not going to work, you're notgoing to school, you're not

(53:14):
meeting your responsibilities,that is too much and I can't
give you a number.
If you are masturbating so muchthat you're not wanting to be
with your partner, then that's aproblem.
But in terms of like the toomuch, yeah, in terms of the too
much, it's not really.
It's hard to draw a line there.
The big thing for me is guiltLike.

(53:34):
If your partner is like I don'twant you masturbating, you know
we're together, I don't wantyou masturbating when I'm not
present and you are you'reprobably going to feel guilty
about it and you're going tobring that into the sex with
your partner, or you're going toavoid sex with your partner
because you're feeling guilty.
So for me it's less about thefrequency and more about the
situation.
I have worked with men in thedeep South who really do believe

(53:59):
that masturbating is a sin andfor them, like even thinking
about it is too much for them.
So like once a year might belike oh crap, I like you know I
did something wrong.
So so much of it about is aboutyou and how you feel about it.
If you're masturbating five, 10times a day and you're still
getting your stuff done and yourpartner doesn't care I don't

(54:21):
really care then it's reallyabout your situation.

Speaker 1 (54:25):
Then I'm going to add another question Is
masturbating bad for men?

Speaker 2 (54:32):
No, no, I don't think it's bad Again, if you're not
feeling guilty.
If you're like the whole time.
You're like I'm going to hell,I don't even know how you're
getting off.
Then you're like I'm going tohell, I don't even know how
you're getting off.
Then For me it's anytime, and Idon't care what your sex or
gender is.
If you can figure out whatmakes you feel good, that's
probably going to make youbetter in bed.
If you share that informationwith your partner and I tell

(54:53):
women this all the time whenthey're like should I masturbate
?
I'm like if you're okay with itand it matches your values,
you're going to find out so muchabout you and where you like
touch and what kind of touch andwhat feels good.
Same thing for men Like not allmen like the same kind of touch
.
Masturbating makes us feel good.
It's going to give us a lot ofthe hormones that you were
talking about before.

(55:14):
Like it's a great stressreliever.
Some people do it every nightso they can like calm down and
go to sleep.
Sometimes if you're having areally bad day.
It's a great way of getting.
It's a great way of relievingthat tension.
It's a great all the time.

Speaker 1 (55:28):
Yeah.
So I love, I love how youaddressed that question.
I would say, for those of youout there who struggle with
shame around it or ethicalquestions around it, your answer
was perfecto.
My answer is everybody shouldbe masturbating.

(55:50):
I just feel like.
I just feel like it's soimportant for people to know
their bodies, important forpeople to know their bodies,
especially sexually, and it's soimportant and I talk mostly
about women in this arena I talkabout women needing to know

(56:11):
their pussies, needing to lookat them, needing to smell them,
needing to embrace them and lovethem.
But I and I would say in thisway I have failed my
listenership because I haven'ttalked about men and penis
owners.
I think it's equally asimportant for men to know their
bodies and what their pleasurefeels like, and also to learn

(56:34):
how to prolong pleasure and havedifferent types of pleasure
through masturbation.
And you brought up again thepoint I like to make over and
over again it's so important tohave pleasure in your life every
day, if possible.
And I'm not saying throughmasturbation, it is an easy way
to have it, but because you getthose chemicals right and they

(57:00):
help your whole health right.
Getting the oxytocin lowers thestress it can, like help with
depression.
The chemicals that your bodyreleases actually can help build
collagen.
I mean, it's pretty amazing ifyou dive into the science of the
benefits of having orgasms orpleasure every day and if you

(57:24):
don't have a partner that wantsto do the job for you.
You've got a hand for a lot oftoys and I am telling you I test
them all out.
They're pretty amazing and theycan give your partner a break
or your partner can use them onyou.
So you know, yeah, Anyways.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
Well, I think we tend to think like everyone likes to
be touched the same way and wedon't come with user's manuals,
Like it'd be great if there wasone, but we don't have them.
And so if you have a limitedsexual experience, you may not
know the different types oftouch you like, or the different
speeds or the different.
You know, maybe you do like alittle more friction, Like
there's only one way you'regoing to find that out.
Well, two, you can find it outwith a new partner or you can

(58:08):
find it out on your own.
And the other thing I just wantto throw this out there because
I'm getting more and morequestions from men who are
uncircumcised and sometimes theyrun into partners who are like
I don't know what to do withthat thing, which I think we're
going to see more and more menwho are uncircumcised in the US.
So, yeah, I think I don't thinkthere's a should.
I know you.

(58:28):
You feel like everyone shouldListen to her.

Speaker 1 (58:31):
I'm just throwing in my Benedetti two cents, all
right?
No, I just she's correct.

Speaker 2 (58:36):
I just I've worked with those people who are like I
tried it and I didn't like it,and then it's like the shame
spiral of why didn't I like it?
Give it a go, see what you like, play with it, dress it up.
I don't really care what you'redoing, as long as it's making
you feel good.
You're not doing it in public,it's not interfering with your
life like don't worry about afrequency, just make yourself

(58:57):
happy.
That's really the end of theday.
That's what you got to do.

Speaker 1 (59:00):
And I want to back up Sue's response.
Doing anything that puts youinto a shame spiral and affects
your mental health is absolutelynot good.

(59:21):
Lot is which is better acircumcised or an uncircumcised
penis?
There are a lot of questionsaround circumcision and sexual
function and what women likemore and is one yucky, and blah,
blah, blah, blah blah.
A whole podcast episode has tobe done on that, but let's just

(59:44):
address the circumcised versusthe uncircumcised penis.

Speaker 2 (59:50):
There's still a penis there.
So like one comes wrapped, onedoes not.
And I think that's so the thingI'm finding with men and I'm
getting more, like I said, I'mgetting more and more questions
about this.
It's really about the partner'sresponse that they'll hook up
with a person who's never beenwith an uncircumcised person and
they're having really like youknow, like what's wrong with it?
Like why is there all that skin?

(01:00:11):
And that's making them feeluncomfortable.
Mean, I can't say one's betterthan the other because I don't
want to be like uncircumcised isbetter.
And then the thousands of menwho are circumcised are like, oh
man, like that sucks.
I've already lost that part ofme.
I think it really comes down tojust how you use it and how you
feel about it.
And and if a partner is shamingyou for your body for whatever

(01:00:34):
reason, maybe not the partnerfor you.
There are some men who areuncircumcised, which I remember
how he said it to me.
He's like well, it's kind ofcovered all day so it doesn't
feel anything, and then when itcomes out it feels everything,
like it's not rubbing against mypants, it's not, you know,
against my underwear.
So he thinks the sensation maybe more, but there's really no

(01:00:57):
way to compare that.
But at the end of the day,there's still a penis there.
So if that's what you'relooking for, everyone wins.

Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
Right and I don't remember, so I'm not going to
reference.
There's no science I canreference, but I'm not sure how
much sensation is removed whenthey remove the foreskin.
I do believe there is.
There's obviously somesensation that is removed, but
here's I can tell you thedifference is one.

(01:01:26):
There's a different cleaningprocess for one than the other,
but I would say that someone whois uncircumcised has to just
take care of themselves, likesomeone with pussy does, like we
all need to take care of ourjunk, and if yours is
circumcised, you still need totake care of your junk.
It's just how you do it.

(01:01:47):
And if someone is with you andreacts in that way and has a
problem with it number one youknow right away she's not
educated or experienced and herreaction tells you everything
you need to know about what sexwith her is going to be like.
That's my opinion on it.
Both are fine, both handle welland honestly when fully erect.

(01:02:13):
Most of the time, when fullyerect, the one with the foreskin
looks like the same as the onewithout the foreskin.
So feel good about your body.
But this is a topic that iswell worth a full episode on,
because there are lots ofquestions around it and stuff

(01:02:36):
like that.
So I promise at some point Iwill get around to it.
So those are the questions.
I feel like we've covered a lotof ground today.
Desire kink anatomymasturbation.
Most importantly, thank you somuch for joining me and for

(01:03:01):
doing this with me, because Iknow that you and I both get
just a lot of questions that wedon't get around to answering
sufficiently.
So, guys, if you like thisepisode and you have more
questions you would like me orSue to answer, or both of us,
this is a great opportunity todrop them below this video over

(01:03:21):
on YouTube at TalkSexWithAnnette, or email them into me, or
scroll down and use my speakpipe.
Annette atTalkSexWithAnnettecom is my
email.
You can email me so you can goto Sue's Substack and you can
get a hold of her there too.
But I love having theopportunity to kind of stack up

(01:03:42):
our answers like this and giveyou answers to some of them all
in one place, so I will continueto do this.
If this is something you like,please give me your feedback.
I want to get you theinformation you want.
Sue, before we go, can youremind everybody where they can
find you?

Speaker 2 (01:03:56):
Yeah, absolutely so.
You can find me on YouTube andInstagram, at HeyDrSue, so
that's H-E-Y-D-R-S-U-E, and youcan also find me on Substack,
and if you search MilsteinHealth Consulting, which is a
mouthful, you can find me thatway, but usually people just
find me on Instagram or YouTube.

Speaker 1 (01:04:16):
Well, thank you so much for joining me and I hope
to hear from you all and to getmore of your questions, because
that's what keeps me going thequestions and the getting you
the information you need to havea better sex life with yourself
and everybody else.
Thank you again for joining metoday, sue.

Speaker 2 (01:04:38):
Oh, thank you for having me.
This was great and I'm lookingforward to you joining my show.

Speaker 1 (01:04:40):
I'm excited about it too.
All right, and listeners untilnext time.
I will see you in the lockerroom.
Cheers.

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