May 27, 2025 • 16 mins
You think she wants you because of how good you were during sex?
Think again.
What you do after sex is what sets you apart—and makes her crave you all over again.
In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re flipping the script and diving into what happens in the 5 minutes after you come. Because that window? It’s not downtime—it’s prime time.
You’ll learn:
- 🔥 How to use touch, talk, and energy to leave her shaking for more
- 🧠 The science behind afterglow oxytocin—and how to use it to deepen connection
- 💋 What “praise kink” actually looks like in vanilla and kinkier dynamics
- 🧖♀️ 5 unexpected aftercare moves that make you unforgettable in bed
- 🛏️ How to set up round two before she even asks for it
Whether you're looking to level up your intimacy, turn casual sex into something magnetic, or become the lover she can't stop thinking about—this episode is your new playbook.
Touch her body, her mind, and her heart. Not just during sex—but after.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here.
Nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you, and if
(00:40):
you're new, welcome to mypodcast.
Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annettetopic is how to touch her after
sex so that she begs for more.
(01:01):
If you think great sex is onlyabout what you do during, you're
wrong.
The truth is the most powerfulmove you can make, the one that
leaves her aching for round two,happens after you finish.
It's not your dick or dildo,it's not your rhythm, it's not
(01:21):
your stamina.
It's what you do when her bodyis still trembling, breath is
still shallow and her heart iswide open, because in the five
minutes after sex, her brain isbathing in oxytocin, her nervous
system is buzzing and what youdo next determines whether she
(01:41):
feels cherished or dismissed,desired or done with.
Today, I'm teaching you how totouch her after sex in a way
that makes her want you againand again, deeper, louder and
longer.
This isn't about performance.
It's about presence If you wantto be the lover she craves not
(02:04):
just once, but again and again.
You're going to want to hearthis.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans and there I am sharingmy sex and intimacy how-tos,
demonstrations and audio-guidedself-pleasure meditations and so
much more more all designed tohelp you start having more
(02:26):
pleasure in your life and bettersex, starting tonight.
Now you can find me there withmy handle at TalkSexWithAnette.
I'm also over on Substack doinga whole lot of the same, and
you can find me there with myhandle at TalkSexWithAnette as
well.
And, of course, you can alwaysscroll down to the notes in the
description of this podcast, andyou're going to find all the
(02:47):
links you need to find mewherever you want to find me and
join me.
So hopefully I will see youthere.
Now let's dive into it and talkabout what you can do in those
critical five minutes minutesafter you've come, to seal the
deal for your next date.
Cheers After sex is a primetime for seduction, and this is
(03:12):
backed by science.
After orgasm, your brain floodswith oxytocin and prolactin.
Oxytocin equals the cuddlehormone.
Prolactin is the chemical thatinduces feeling satiated and
bonding.
But here's the twist Women'soxytocin spikes higher and lasts
(03:32):
longer.
Now, if you are a man or aperson with a penis, you are
likely biologically winding downwhile her body is primed for
connection, and that's why whatyou do after sex determines
whether she feels deeply wantedor emotionally dismissed.
Emotional dismissal is a moodkiller and ends your night on a
(03:58):
note that makes her think twiceabout ever coming back for
seconds, or thirds or fourths.
Don't believe me.
Listen to this.
Research from the KinseyInstitute shows the partners who
engage in affectionate post-sexbehavior report higher sexual
satisfaction and strongeremotional bonding across the
(04:20):
board.
How does this translate?
Aftercare equals foreplay forthe next time.
That's right.
You're already engaging inforeplay for your next sex
session or lovemaking session,whatever you want to call it.
Now I'm going to share fouraftercare techniques that will
have her craving you so hardshe'll start freeing up time on
(04:42):
her calendar for your next hotromp before the night has even
ended.
So let's get into them.
The first aftercare techniqueI'm going to share with you that
is guaranteed to have hercoming back for more is the
erotic come down.
It's a touch that teases roundtwo.
Okay, so the minute you come.
(05:02):
Don't freeze, don't pull awayand don't flop and roll.
Instead, touch her like you'restill turned on.
Your orgasm is not the cue toexit, it's the invitation to
linger.
So here's what you're going todo.
You can use your whole hand,laying flat and warm, against
(05:24):
her lower belly.
You can cup her vulva and addlight pressure.
You can run it over her chestor her inner thighs, or you can
use light, tickly fingertips andtrace the same path.
Your tongue, your cock or yourtoy followed and you can trace
(05:46):
that path over her labia,clitoral hood, through her
wetness, if she's notoverstimulated, or over her
nipples.
But you're going to do it in aslower, lazier, more reverent
fashion.
Note the touch you use after sexwill differ depending on her
needs, her desires.
Tune in to her physicalreaction.
(06:09):
Does she crave warm, firm,grounding touch or slow, light,
sensual movements that createsparks across her body?
Of course, you can have aconversation about this ahead of
time, but it's also just thisbeautiful act of discovery and
bonding after sex.
(06:29):
So make sure you are tuning into her physical reactions when
you do either of these.
You can also use your breathand breathe into her neck, her
ear or her shoulder.
Let her feel your exhale like awhisper that says I'm still
(06:49):
here.
This is nervous system foreplay.
It extends the high, theeroticism, and bonus that kind
of slow sensual grounding cantrigger aftershocks, many
orgasms that ripple through thebody.
Post-climax Aftercare techniquenumber two that will keep her
(07:10):
thinking about you until thenext time you're together is
well, the praise, kink, thegentle dom version.
This is where most people fail.
If you want her to remember thesex, you have to tell her how
unforgettable she was, notgeneric compliments like that
was hot.
(07:31):
We're going to go deeper.
Try these or some version ofthese.
You looked so fucking beautifulwhen you came, or the way your
body moved under mine I couldbarely keep it together.
Or you made me feel like I'venever been touched before.
(07:52):
Why does it work?
Studies on erotic praise showthat verbal reinforcement of
desirability increases arousal,post-sex satisfaction and
long-term attraction, especiallyin female-bodied.
People Want to really flip theswitch.
Say it while stroking her cheek, kissing her shoulder or
(08:14):
pressing your body into hers,because when you pair intimate
touch with specific affirmations, you're building sexual trust,
and sexual trust equals sexualfreedom.
The third aftercare techniquethat she is going to carry with
her and cherish until the nexttime she gets to be with you is
(08:36):
the aftercare triad water,warmth and words yes, you are
tired, but here's where youstand out.
Give her comfort, like a domwho knows what they're doing.
Water bring it, don't ask, justshow up with it.
She's going to need it and soare you.
(08:56):
Warmth grab a towel, pull herto your chest, cover her with a
blanket, give her warmth.
That is grounding andreassuring Words.
Say things like are you good?
And then tell her you areincredible.
I love how open you are with me.
(09:19):
She doesn't need a caretaker.
She needs to know that she'sstill wanted, even when the sex
is done.
This is intimacy that goesbeyond the physical.
This is where casual sexbecomes magnetic sex and
relationships get sexier overtime.
Aftercare technique number fouris going to pretty much
(09:41):
guarantee that next sexyget-together.
It is called sexual memoryseeding.
If you want her thinking aboutyou hours or days later, then
end the night by planting asensory sex seed in her brain.
Try this while you're holdingher whisper the next time I'm
(10:01):
going to eat you so slow.
I'm going to eat you so slowyou're going to beg me to stop,
just so you can catch yourbreath.
Boom, that's an erotic anchor.
It creates anticipation, desireand a dopamine drip every time
(10:22):
she thinks about it.
That's science and that'sseduction.
So there are four solidaftercare techniques that are
going to change your sex lifefor the better and guarantee
that you get her back in bedagain.
But I'm not going to stop there.
I have a bonus for you Anaftercare to-go bag, if you will
(10:45):
, of five unexpected moves thatseal the deal and keep her
coming back.
For you, an aftercare to go bag,if you will, of five unexpected
moves that seal the deal andkeep her coming back for more.
If you want to blow her mindafter an orgasm, try slipping
one of these into your aftercare.
The first one is the tetheredtouch.
Think of it as a vanillaupgrade.
Gently tie a soft scarf or sasharound her wrist and hold it.
(11:09):
While you cuddle, it saysyou're mine, I'm not letting go
of you yet I mean you can evensay that to her.
It's a subtle power play thatfeels safe and sexy and a little
bit kinky.
The second move is called thewhispered recap.
(11:29):
Consider it an eroticdebriefing if you will Tell her
exactly what you loved, in order.
I loved when you pulled me inand the way you gasped when I
touched your thigh and the wayyour legs shook when I finished,
and the way your legs shookwhen I finished.
(11:49):
It turns memory into foreplayand it'll live rent free in her
head all week long.
The third aftercare move is thejust for you treat.
Think of it as an aftercaregift.
Stash her favorite snackchocolate or drink in your
nightstand.
Pull it out after sex and lether know you got it just for her
.
It's nurturing, unexpected anddownright swoon-worthy.
(12:13):
The fourth aftercare move thatis personally one of my
favorites like this is a netcertified both on the giving end
and on the receiving end is theclean up as worship.
Instead of handing her a towel,warm one up and clean her
yourself, slowly, gently, likeyou're touching sacred ground.
(12:35):
She'll feel like a goddessbecause you're treating her like
one, and this is a techniquethat can go both ways.
So, ladies, this is a greatmove to use on your man.
It whispers of cock worship andevery guy wants a little bit of
that.
And the fifth aftercare movethat will have her talking to
(13:00):
all of her friends is thesensory reset.
It's a little bit of a kinkytwist if you will Light a candle
, brush her hair, massage herscalp or spritz her favorite
scent Do them all together.
You're grounding her senses andhelping her come down from high
with care.
It's intimate as fuck and itmakes the whole experience feel
(13:25):
ceremonial.
These moves aren't aboutperfection.
They're about presence, becausewhen you show her that sex
isn't just something you do andthat it's something you care for
, you become unforgettable.
So this week I want you to beunforgettable after sex, and
that means you touch her likeyou're still inside her.
You praise her like you'restill inside her.
(13:46):
You praise her like she's agoddess.
You check in like a man whocares about her climax not just
yours and you tease the nextround, not with pressure, but
with presence.
That's how you become the lovershe bakes for, not because of
what you did during sex, butbecause of what you did after.
Now, if you have any questionsabout aftercare and how to do
(14:08):
aftercare like a sexual master,you know what to do.
You can drop a comment in thecomment section below this
episode on YouTube.
If you're listening right now,head over to at
TalkSexWithAnette on YouTube andsend me your comment or
question.
You can email me at Annette atTalkSexWithAnnettecom If you are
(14:29):
looking for a wing woman, acheerleader, if you will, or
someone to just help guide youon your own intimacy, sex or
relationship path.
My intimacy and sex coachingbooks are open and I would love
to work with you Now.
You can find out more aboutthat by going to my website at
TalkSexWithAnnette, and you canalso just reach out to me at
(14:52):
Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecomand we will get started.
Thank you for joining me today.
This is Talk Sex With Annette,where desire meets disruption.
Now go make your afterglowlegendary today.
Cheers, I'll see you in thelocker room Ring loop.
Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here.
Nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you, and if
(00:40):
you're new, welcome to mypodcast.
Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annettetopic is how to touch her after
sex so that she begs for more.
(01:01):
If you think great sex is onlyabout what you do during, you're
wrong.
The truth is the most powerfulmove you can make, the one that
leaves her aching for round two,happens after you finish.
It's not your dick or dildo,it's not your rhythm, it's not
(01:21):
your stamina.
It's what you do when her bodyis still trembling, breath is
still shallow and her heart iswide open, because in the five
minutes after sex, her brain isbathing in oxytocin, her nervous
system is buzzing and what youdo next determines whether she
(01:41):
feels cherished or dismissed,desired or done with.
Today, I'm teaching you how totouch her after sex in a way
that makes her want you againand again, deeper, louder and
longer.
This isn't about performance.
It's about presence If you wantto be the lover she craves not
(02:04):
just once, but again and again.
You're going to want to hearthis.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans and there I am sharingmy sex and intimacy how-tos,
demonstrations and audio-guidedself-pleasure meditations and so
much more more all designed tohelp you start having more
(02:26):
pleasure in your life and bettersex, starting tonight.
Now you can find me there withmy handle at TalkSexWithAnette.
I'm also over on Substack doinga whole lot of the same, and
you can find me there with myhandle at TalkSexWithAnette as
well.
And, of course, you can alwaysscroll down to the notes in the
description of this podcast, andyou're going to find all the
(02:47):
links you need to find mewherever you want to find me and
join me.
So hopefully I will see youthere.
Now let's dive into it and talkabout what you can do in those
critical five minutes minutesafter you've come, to seal the
deal for your next date.
Cheers After sex is a primetime for seduction, and this is
(03:12):
backed by science.
After orgasm, your brain floodswith oxytocin and prolactin.
Oxytocin equals the cuddlehormone.
Prolactin is the chemical thatinduces feeling satiated and
bonding.
But here's the twist Women'soxytocin spikes higher and lasts
(03:32):
longer.
Now, if you are a man or aperson with a penis, you are
likely biologically winding downwhile her body is primed for
connection, and that's why whatyou do after sex determines
whether she feels deeply wantedor emotionally dismissed.
Emotional dismissal is a moodkiller and ends your night on a
(03:58):
note that makes her think twiceabout ever coming back for
seconds, or thirds or fourths.
Don't believe me.
Listen to this.
Research from the KinseyInstitute shows the partners who
engage in affectionate post-sexbehavior report higher sexual
satisfaction and strongeremotional bonding across the
(04:20):
board.
How does this translate?
Aftercare equals foreplay forthe next time.
That's right.
You're already engaging inforeplay for your next sex
session or lovemaking session,whatever you want to call it.
Now I'm going to share fouraftercare techniques that will
have her craving you so hardshe'll start freeing up time on
(04:42):
her calendar for your next hotromp before the night has even
ended.
So let's get into them.
The first aftercare techniqueI'm going to share with you that
is guaranteed to have hercoming back for more is the
erotic come down.
It's a touch that teases roundtwo.
Okay, so the minute you come.
(05:02):
Don't freeze, don't pull awayand don't flop and roll.
Instead, touch her like you'restill turned on.
Your orgasm is not the cue toexit, it's the invitation to
linger.
So here's what you're going todo.
You can use your whole hand,laying flat and warm, against
(05:24):
her lower belly.
You can cup her vulva and addlight pressure.
You can run it over her chestor her inner thighs, or you can
use light, tickly fingertips andtrace the same path.
Your tongue, your cock or yourtoy followed and you can trace
(05:46):
that path over her labia,clitoral hood, through her
wetness, if she's notoverstimulated, or over her
nipples.
But you're going to do it in aslower, lazier, more reverent
fashion.
Note the touch you use after sexwill differ depending on her
needs, her desires.
Tune in to her physicalreaction.
(06:09):
Does she crave warm, firm,grounding touch or slow, light,
sensual movements that createsparks across her body?
Of course, you can have aconversation about this ahead of
time, but it's also just thisbeautiful act of discovery and
bonding after sex.
(06:29):
So make sure you are tuning into her physical reactions when
you do either of these.
You can also use your breathand breathe into her neck, her
ear or her shoulder.
Let her feel your exhale like awhisper that says I'm still
(06:49):
here.
This is nervous system foreplay.
It extends the high, theeroticism, and bonus that kind
of slow sensual grounding cantrigger aftershocks, many
orgasms that ripple through thebody.
Post-climax Aftercare techniquenumber two that will keep her
(07:10):
thinking about you until thenext time you're together is
well, the praise, kink, thegentle dom version.
This is where most people fail.
If you want her to remember thesex, you have to tell her how
unforgettable she was, notgeneric compliments like that
was hot.
(07:31):
We're going to go deeper.
Try these or some version ofthese.
You looked so fucking beautifulwhen you came, or the way your
body moved under mine I couldbarely keep it together.
Or you made me feel like I'venever been touched before.
(07:52):
Why does it work?
Studies on erotic praise showthat verbal reinforcement of
desirability increases arousal,post-sex satisfaction and
long-term attraction, especiallyin female-bodied.
People Want to really flip theswitch.
Say it while stroking her cheek, kissing her shoulder or
(08:14):
pressing your body into hers,because when you pair intimate
touch with specific affirmations, you're building sexual trust,
and sexual trust equals sexualfreedom.
The third aftercare techniquethat she is going to carry with
her and cherish until the nexttime she gets to be with you is
(08:36):
the aftercare triad water,warmth and words yes, you are
tired, but here's where youstand out.
Give her comfort, like a domwho knows what they're doing.
Water bring it, don't ask, justshow up with it.
She's going to need it and soare you.
(08:56):
Warmth grab a towel, pull herto your chest, cover her with a
blanket, give her warmth.
That is grounding andreassuring Words.
Say things like are you good?
And then tell her you areincredible.
I love how open you are with me.
(09:19):
She doesn't need a caretaker.
She needs to know that she'sstill wanted, even when the sex
is done.
This is intimacy that goesbeyond the physical.
This is where casual sexbecomes magnetic sex and
relationships get sexier overtime.
Aftercare technique number fouris going to pretty much
(09:41):
guarantee that next sexyget-together.
It is called sexual memoryseeding.
If you want her thinking aboutyou hours or days later, then
end the night by planting asensory sex seed in her brain.
Try this while you're holdingher whisper the next time I'm
(10:01):
going to eat you so slow.
I'm going to eat you so slowyou're going to beg me to stop,
just so you can catch yourbreath.
Boom, that's an erotic anchor.
It creates anticipation, desireand a dopamine drip every time
(10:22):
she thinks about it.
That's science and that'sseduction.
So there are four solidaftercare techniques that are
going to change your sex lifefor the better and guarantee
that you get her back in bedagain.
But I'm not going to stop there.
I have a bonus for you Anaftercare to-go bag, if you will
(10:45):
, of five unexpected moves thatseal the deal and keep her
coming back.
For you, an aftercare to go bag,if you will, of five unexpected
moves that seal the deal andkeep her coming back for more.
If you want to blow her mindafter an orgasm, try slipping
one of these into your aftercare.
The first one is the tetheredtouch.
Think of it as a vanillaupgrade.
Gently tie a soft scarf or sasharound her wrist and hold it.
(11:09):
While you cuddle, it saysyou're mine, I'm not letting go
of you yet I mean you can evensay that to her.
It's a subtle power play thatfeels safe and sexy and a little
bit kinky.
The second move is called thewhispered recap.
(11:29):
Consider it an eroticdebriefing if you will Tell her
exactly what you loved, in order.
I loved when you pulled me inand the way you gasped when I
touched your thigh and the wayyour legs shook when I finished,
and the way your legs shookwhen I finished.
(11:49):
It turns memory into foreplayand it'll live rent free in her
head all week long.
The third aftercare move is thejust for you treat.
Think of it as an aftercaregift.
Stash her favorite snackchocolate or drink in your
nightstand.
Pull it out after sex and lether know you got it just for her
.
It's nurturing, unexpected anddownright swoon-worthy.
(12:13):
The fourth aftercare move thatis personally one of my
favorites like this is a netcertified both on the giving end
and on the receiving end is theclean up as worship.
Instead of handing her a towel,warm one up and clean her
yourself, slowly, gently, likeyou're touching sacred ground.
(12:35):
She'll feel like a goddessbecause you're treating her like
one, and this is a techniquethat can go both ways.
So, ladies, this is a greatmove to use on your man.
It whispers of cock worship andevery guy wants a little bit of
that.
And the fifth aftercare movethat will have her talking to
(13:00):
all of her friends is thesensory reset.
It's a little bit of a kinkytwist if you will Light a candle
, brush her hair, massage herscalp or spritz her favorite
scent Do them all together.
You're grounding her senses andhelping her come down from high
with care.
It's intimate as fuck and itmakes the whole experience feel
(13:25):
ceremonial.
These moves aren't aboutperfection.
They're about presence, becausewhen you show her that sex
isn't just something you do andthat it's something you care for
, you become unforgettable.
So this week I want you to beunforgettable after sex, and
that means you touch her likeyou're still inside her.
You praise her like you'restill inside her.
(13:46):
You praise her like she's agoddess.
You check in like a man whocares about her climax not just
yours and you tease the nextround, not with pressure, but
with presence.
That's how you become the lovershe bakes for, not because of
what you did during sex, butbecause of what you did after.
Now, if you have any questionsabout aftercare and how to do
(14:08):
aftercare like a sexual master,you know what to do.
You can drop a comment in thecomment section below this
episode on YouTube.
If you're listening right now,head over to at
TalkSexWithAnette on YouTube andsend me your comment or
question.
You can email me at Annette atTalkSexWithAnnettecom If you are
(14:29):
looking for a wing woman, acheerleader, if you will, or
someone to just help guide youon your own intimacy, sex or
relationship path.
My intimacy and sex coachingbooks are open and I would love
to work with you Now.
You can find out more aboutthat by going to my website at
TalkSexWithAnnette, and you canalso just reach out to me at
(14:52):
Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecomand we will get started.
Thank you for joining me today.
This is Talk Sex With Annette,where desire meets disruption.
Now go make your afterglowlegendary today.
Cheers, I'll see you in thelocker room Ring loop.
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