March 11, 2025 • 17 mins
In this episode, I break down 12 powerful sex cues that reveal exactly how to turn her on and keep the passion flowing. From deepening breaths and arching backs to subtle shifts in body language, I’ll teach you how to read her unspoken signals like a pro. Whether she’s melting into pleasure or silently signaling that something’s off, you'll learn how to respond in ways that build connection, trust, and unforgettable intimacy. Tune in to unlock the secrets her body is already telling you!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
(00:20):
Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's Masturbation Mondaytopic is the 12 sex cues that
tell you how to turn her on, orhow you're turning her off, in
(00:44):
other words, how to read herbody like a sex psychic.
Today we are diving into aseriously game-changing skill
that every guy should have in asex toolbox how to read her body
like a sex psychic.
Now, if you've ever wished thatyou could unlock her deepest
desires without having to say aword, you're in the right place.
But don't worry, I'm nottalking about mind reading here.
(01:06):
I am talking about payingattention to these silent,
subtle cues she's constantlygiving you and, trust me, it's
not as hard as it might sound.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans and there I am sharingmy sex and intimacy how-tos and
explicit demonstrations, alongwith some audio guided
(01:28):
self-pleasure meditations thatare going to help you start
experiencing more pleasure.
Tonight you can also find me onSubstack doing the same thing,
and you can find me in bothplaces using my handle at
TalkSexWithAnA.
You can also scroll down, whereyou will find the links you
need to find me wherever youwant to find me.
All right before we dive in.
(01:48):
Here's the deal.
Most men are focused on the bigmoments in bed getting to the
orgasm or making everything seemexciting, but let me tell you
the magic.
It happens in those quietlittle moments.
It's in those subtle, silentsignals that you can unlock a
whole new level of intimacy.
Research shows that women'sarousal is often more
(02:11):
internalized than men's.
What does that mean?
It means women express pleasureand desire through physical
cues more than verbal ones.
If you can learn to pick up onthose cues, you're not just
going to become a better lover,you're going to create a deeper
connection with her.
According to the Journal of SexResearch, nonverbal
(02:36):
communication plays a huge rolein sexual satisfaction.
In fact, studies show thatwomen rely on physical cues to
express pleasure, discomfort ordesire more often than any other
verbal communication.
This means, if you understandher body's signals, you not only
improve the experience for her,but you also make her feel
safer, more relaxed and moreconnected to you.
That's what we're going to diveinto today.
(02:58):
Let's unlock the secrets of herbody language.
Let's get ready to talk aboutsex Cheers of her body language.
Let's get ready to talk aboutsex Cheers.
Now it's time to tap into yourinner sex psychic.
Here's where you can startreading her like an open book.
I'm going to break down thescience into two categories
signs that you're doing it rightand signs that you're doing it
(03:18):
wrong.
But let's start with thepositive.
So one of the most obvioussigns that you're doing it right
is deepening breath and moans.
When she starts breathingdeeper, slow, steady breaths,
paired with those low throatymoans, that's your green light,
my friend.
She's entering heightened stateof pleasure.
Keep doing what you're doing.
(03:38):
You're on the right track.
Research in the Journal of SexResearch supports that deep,
rhythmic breathing is a clearsign of increased sexual arousal
, indicating she's enjoyingherself.
Another sign that you are onthe right track is that she
starts arching her back.
It's a classic.
If she arches her back or tiltsher hip upwards and towards you
(04:02):
, it's her primal way of sayingmore please.
It's a sign that she's readyfor deeper penetration or
stronger stimulation.
This response aligns withstudies showing that physical
postures such as this areassociated with increased
pleasure and sexual arousal inwomen.
The next sign that you're doingit right is often misread.
She becomes silent and verystill.
(04:24):
Silence can be golden If shegoes completely, still, starts
to hold her breath, seems likeshe's zoning out.
She could be focusing on thebuilding pleasure inside of her.
She could be focusing on thebuilding pleasure inside of her.
Stay steady, stay consistent.
She's probably about to reachthe big moment.
Studies show that many womenbecome almost silent right
(04:49):
before an orgasm as theyconcentrate on the sensations
that are building up inside ofher.
I know that I do.
This is not the time to stopand ask her what's wrong.
Just stay in the moment withher and let her build and build
to that beautiful orgasm.
Another common sign that thingsare going well in bed is she
starts gripping or clenching.
(05:09):
If she's gripping the sheets,clutching your body or even
digging her fingernails intoyour skin, it's a sign you're on
the right track.
The 2014 study in the Journalof Sexual Medicine found that
women who experience intensesexual pleasure are more likely
to exhibit behaviors likeclenching their fists or other
(05:29):
muscle contractions as theyapproach orgasm.
Another sign that things aregoing well in bed that is
closely aligned to the grippingand clenching reflex is tension
in her thighs and stomach.
When her muscles start tocontract, especially in her
thighs, abdomen or core, it's abig sign that she's getting
(05:49):
closer to orgasm.
Keep your rhythm steady andmaintain pressure.
Research in the Journal of SexResearch confirms that muscle
tension, particularly in thepelvic and abdominal muscles, is
one of the most reliablephysical indicators that a woman
is reaching the peak of sexualpleasure.
Another indicator that you areon the right track in bed is
(06:12):
flushed skin and goosebumps.
If her skin turns pink or red,especially in the areas of the
chest, neck or face, and younotice some goosebumps, it's a
sign you are on the right track.
That is her cue, that she issuper turned on.
Her body is overwhelmed in thebest ways possible.
Studies show that vasodilationthe widening of blood vessels
(06:36):
during arousal causes flushedskin, especially in areas like
the chest, neck and face.
Another closely related signthat you are doing what you
should be doing in bed is thather lips will become wet and she
may even start licking them.
If she's licking her lips orthey look extra wet and kissable
, it's a sign of desire.
(06:56):
She's craving connection andmore intimacy.
The Journal of SexualRelationship Therapy highlights
that moistening of the lips canindicate heightened sexual
arousal, particularly whencombined with other physical,
nonverbal cues, like thedeepening of her breath.
But the deepening of her breathisn't the only sign that you're
(07:17):
on the right track.
If you start hearing thoselittle whimpers or sharp inhales
, it's a sure sign you're doingsomething right.
Those little whimpers or sharpinhales are delicate but
powerful signs that she'sfeeling pleasure build up.
This means she's fully engagedand your rhythm is working.
Research indicates thatinvoluntary vocalizations, such
(07:40):
as moaning or gasping, arecommon when women approach
orgasm.
And finally, a surefire signthat you're killing it in bed is
that she makes eye contact andthere's smiling.
When she locks eyes with youand grins during sex, it's a
huge compliment.
She's loving what you're doingand it's a clear signal that
(08:01):
you're hitting all the rightnotes.
Psychology Today notes thatpositive eye contact and smiling
during intimate moments arestrong indicators of emotional
and physical connection andarousal.
So now you've got a grab bag ofsome really good signs.
You're on the right track.
So let's talk about the signsthat you're not on the right
(08:22):
track and you need to change upwhat you're doing.
One of the biggest signs thatyou're on the wrong track in bed
is she starts pulling away ortensing up.
If her body stiffens and shestarts pulling away from you or
her breath becomes shallow, it'sa clear sign that something's
not working.
Pause immediately and check inwith her.
It's a clear cue that she isnot enjoying the moment.
(08:44):
Research from the archives ofsexual behavior reveal that
women often withdraw physicallywhen they are experiencing
discomfort or disengagementduring sex, and you don't want
to continue if she's notenjoying herself.
Another clear sign that thingsare not going well in bed is
that she starts shifting andsquirming, but not in the good
(09:05):
way.
If she starts adjusting herposition or subtly moving your
hand or body, but it feels likeshe's doing it to stop you, it
could mean she's cravingsomething different, maybe a
softer touch or a change inrhythm.
Pay attention to thesemovements.
She's giving you non-verbalfeedback that she's not feeling
it.
The Journal of Sex Researchhighlights that women often make
(09:28):
slight shifts in position tosignal discomfort or need for a
change in stimulation.
A good example is if you aregoing down on a woman and she
starts shifting her hips to theright or left.
She may be trying to help youreposition your mouth to where
her clit actually is.
Another sign that things aren'tgoing well in bed that could be
(09:50):
a little bit confusing is thatshe starts avoiding eye contact
or turning her head away fromyou.
Now, obviously, there are timeswhen a woman shuts her eyes and
goes inside to really get intoher body and feel pleasure, but
this can also be a sign thatshe's not fully present or
comfortable.
If she is turning away from youor not looking you in the eyes
(10:13):
at all, this can be a signal ofdiscomfort or disconnection.
It's time to press pause andcheck in with her feelings.
Psychology of women's quarterlysuggests that avoiding eye
contact can indicate emotionalwithdrawal and dissatisfaction
during sex.
Now indicate emotionalwithdrawal and dissatisfaction
(10:34):
during sex Now, because this canalso be a sign that she's
turning inside and buildingtowards orgasm.
It's important to talk aboutwhat this really means to her.
Either do that before sex orstop for a beat during sex to
check in and say, hey, is this agood thing, is this a bad thing
?
And proceed from there.
(10:56):
A really obvious sign thatyou're getting it wrong in bed
is she starts crossing her legsor tightening her body.
Crossing her legs or tighteningup her body is a defensive
posture.
She may be uncomfortable, inpain, anxious or not enjoying
herself.
This is when you want to slowthings down, back off a little
(11:17):
and make sure she feels safe.
Research in sex role shows thatdefensive postures like
crossing arms or legs signalsdiscomfort or desire to end the
interaction.
Another fairly common sign thatthings aren't going right is
lack of movement or engagementthe dead fish syndrome.
If she's laying still, staringblankly, not showing any signs
(11:41):
of engagement, you might bedoing something wrong, to check
in with her to see if you needto shift gears.
The Journal of Sex and MaritalTherapy notes that lack of
physical engagement could be anindicator of either boredom or
dissatisfaction.
And who wants to continue toengage in intimacy with someone
(12:04):
who's not actually reciprocatingthe excitement?
A sign that things are goingpoorly in bed that's the polar
opposite of flushed skin is coldor damp skin.
If her skin is cold to thetouch or she starts sweating
profusely in a way that feelsuncomfortable, something might
not be going right.
(12:25):
Cold skin can be a sign ofemotional withdrawal or
discomfort, while excessivesweating can indicate stress or
anxiety.
The sexual health journal notesthat unexpected temperature
changes in the body can be aresponse to stress or discomfort
during intimate moments.
And finally, if her breathbecomes shallow or she starts
(12:46):
holding it for long periods oftime, it might mean that she's
getting tense or nervous, and isnot necessarily aroused.
This can happen if she'suncomfortable, stressed or
unsure about what's happening.
You'll want to stop, ask herwhat's going on and maybe change
things up.
Research from the psychology ofsex suggests that shallow
breathing can indicate anxietyor discomfort, especially during
(13:08):
heightened moments of intimacy.
All right, now you know thesigns that you're doing it right
and you're doing it wrong ofintimacy.
All right, now you know thesigns that you're doing it right
and you're doing it wrong.
So how can you make sure you'reon the right track?
Even the best sex psychics needsome confirmation.
So here's how you can make sureyou're communicating
effectively.
Number one ask simple yes or noquestions Instead of asking
(13:28):
broad questions like what do youwant.
Try simple yes or no questions.
Do you like this?
Do you want me to keep going?
Is this hard enough?
Is this soft enough?
These questions are less likelyto pull her out of the moment
and put her in her head, whilealso giving you clear, immediate
feedback.
Two use key phrases.
Try whispering things like thatfeels good, doesn't it?
(13:51):
Or you want more of this?
These phrases not only affirmwhat you're doing, but they also
give her an invitation to tellyou what's working.
Number three establish a safeword or signal For those moments
when she needs a break orsomething isn't working.
A safe word or signal is clutch.
It allows her to communicatethat she's not comfortable
(14:13):
without disrupting the flow ofthe moment.
Look, the truth is that being asex psychic is about being
present, paying attention to herbreathing, her body language
and her energy.
And when in doubt, just askgentle questions and trust your
instinct.
The more you practice, thebetter you're going to get and
the more confident you're bothgoing to feel.
(14:33):
So remember, great sex isn'tabout guessing.
It's about listening with youreyes, your ears and your touch.
Master the skill and you'llunlock a deeper connection and
more pleasure than you everthought possible.
And if you are looking forsomeone to help you on your
(15:00):
pleasure journey, whether it'swith yourself or with a partner,
if you want to become moreconfident in bed for your
current or future partner orwith your current partner.
My books are open and I wouldlove to be your sidekick, your
cheerleader, your guide on yourintimacy journey.
My sex and intimacy coachingbooks are open and you can
contact me to find out moreabout that at Annette at
TalkSexWithAnnettecom.
You can also go to my website,which is TalkSexWithAnnettecom
(15:23):
and find out more there.
Now, if you have any questions,comments, input on what I've
shared with you today, you knowwhat to do.
You can drop a comment below myvideo if you're watching this
on YouTube, or you can email meat annette at
talksexwithannettecom.
You can also scroll down to myspeak pipe link below where you
(15:46):
can send me a voice message andI will do my best to get back to
you as soon as possible.
So until next time, I'll seeyou in the locker room.
Cheers.
do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
(00:20):
Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's Masturbation Mondaytopic is the 12 sex cues that
tell you how to turn her on, orhow you're turning her off, in
(00:44):
other words, how to read herbody like a sex psychic.
Today we are diving into aseriously game-changing skill
that every guy should have in asex toolbox how to read her body
like a sex psychic.
Now, if you've ever wished thatyou could unlock her deepest
desires without having to say aword, you're in the right place.
But don't worry, I'm nottalking about mind reading here.
(01:06):
I am talking about payingattention to these silent,
subtle cues she's constantlygiving you and, trust me, it's
not as hard as it might sound.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans and there I am sharingmy sex and intimacy how-tos and
explicit demonstrations, alongwith some audio guided
(01:28):
self-pleasure meditations thatare going to help you start
experiencing more pleasure.
Tonight you can also find me onSubstack doing the same thing,
and you can find me in bothplaces using my handle at
TalkSexWithAnA.
You can also scroll down, whereyou will find the links you
need to find me wherever youwant to find me.
All right before we dive in.
(01:48):
Here's the deal.
Most men are focused on the bigmoments in bed getting to the
orgasm or making everything seemexciting, but let me tell you
the magic.
It happens in those quietlittle moments.
It's in those subtle, silentsignals that you can unlock a
whole new level of intimacy.
Research shows that women'sarousal is often more
(02:11):
internalized than men's.
What does that mean?
It means women express pleasureand desire through physical
cues more than verbal ones.
If you can learn to pick up onthose cues, you're not just
going to become a better lover,you're going to create a deeper
connection with her.
According to the Journal of SexResearch, nonverbal
(02:36):
communication plays a huge rolein sexual satisfaction.
In fact, studies show thatwomen rely on physical cues to
express pleasure, discomfort ordesire more often than any other
verbal communication.
This means, if you understandher body's signals, you not only
improve the experience for her,but you also make her feel
safer, more relaxed and moreconnected to you.
That's what we're going to diveinto today.
(02:58):
Let's unlock the secrets of herbody language.
Let's get ready to talk aboutsex Cheers of her body language.
Let's get ready to talk aboutsex Cheers.
Now it's time to tap into yourinner sex psychic.
Here's where you can startreading her like an open book.
I'm going to break down thescience into two categories
signs that you're doing it rightand signs that you're doing it
(03:18):
wrong.
But let's start with thepositive.
So one of the most obvioussigns that you're doing it right
is deepening breath and moans.
When she starts breathingdeeper, slow, steady breaths,
paired with those low throatymoans, that's your green light,
my friend.
She's entering heightened stateof pleasure.
Keep doing what you're doing.
(03:38):
You're on the right track.
Research in the Journal of SexResearch supports that deep,
rhythmic breathing is a clearsign of increased sexual arousal
, indicating she's enjoyingherself.
Another sign that you are onthe right track is that she
starts arching her back.
It's a classic.
If she arches her back or tiltsher hip upwards and towards you
(04:02):
, it's her primal way of sayingmore please.
It's a sign that she's readyfor deeper penetration or
stronger stimulation.
This response aligns withstudies showing that physical
postures such as this areassociated with increased
pleasure and sexual arousal inwomen.
The next sign that you're doingit right is often misread.
She becomes silent and verystill.
(04:24):
Silence can be golden If shegoes completely, still, starts
to hold her breath, seems likeshe's zoning out.
She could be focusing on thebuilding pleasure inside of her.
She could be focusing on thebuilding pleasure inside of her.
Stay steady, stay consistent.
She's probably about to reachthe big moment.
Studies show that many womenbecome almost silent right
(04:49):
before an orgasm as theyconcentrate on the sensations
that are building up inside ofher.
I know that I do.
This is not the time to stopand ask her what's wrong.
Just stay in the moment withher and let her build and build
to that beautiful orgasm.
Another common sign that thingsare going well in bed is she
starts gripping or clenching.
(05:09):
If she's gripping the sheets,clutching your body or even
digging her fingernails intoyour skin, it's a sign you're on
the right track.
The 2014 study in the Journalof Sexual Medicine found that
women who experience intensesexual pleasure are more likely
to exhibit behaviors likeclenching their fists or other
(05:29):
muscle contractions as theyapproach orgasm.
Another sign that things aregoing well in bed that is
closely aligned to the grippingand clenching reflex is tension
in her thighs and stomach.
When her muscles start tocontract, especially in her
thighs, abdomen or core, it's abig sign that she's getting
(05:49):
closer to orgasm.
Keep your rhythm steady andmaintain pressure.
Research in the Journal of SexResearch confirms that muscle
tension, particularly in thepelvic and abdominal muscles, is
one of the most reliablephysical indicators that a woman
is reaching the peak of sexualpleasure.
Another indicator that you areon the right track in bed is
(06:12):
flushed skin and goosebumps.
If her skin turns pink or red,especially in the areas of the
chest, neck or face, and younotice some goosebumps, it's a
sign you are on the right track.
That is her cue, that she issuper turned on.
Her body is overwhelmed in thebest ways possible.
Studies show that vasodilationthe widening of blood vessels
(06:36):
during arousal causes flushedskin, especially in areas like
the chest, neck and face.
Another closely related signthat you are doing what you
should be doing in bed is thather lips will become wet and she
may even start licking them.
If she's licking her lips orthey look extra wet and kissable
, it's a sign of desire.
(06:56):
She's craving connection andmore intimacy.
The Journal of SexualRelationship Therapy highlights
that moistening of the lips canindicate heightened sexual
arousal, particularly whencombined with other physical,
nonverbal cues, like thedeepening of her breath.
But the deepening of her breathisn't the only sign that you're
(07:17):
on the right track.
If you start hearing thoselittle whimpers or sharp inhales
, it's a sure sign you're doingsomething right.
Those little whimpers or sharpinhales are delicate but
powerful signs that she'sfeeling pleasure build up.
This means she's fully engagedand your rhythm is working.
Research indicates thatinvoluntary vocalizations, such
(07:40):
as moaning or gasping, arecommon when women approach
orgasm.
And finally, a surefire signthat you're killing it in bed is
that she makes eye contact andthere's smiling.
When she locks eyes with youand grins during sex, it's a
huge compliment.
She's loving what you're doingand it's a clear signal that
(08:01):
you're hitting all the rightnotes.
Psychology Today notes thatpositive eye contact and smiling
during intimate moments arestrong indicators of emotional
and physical connection andarousal.
So now you've got a grab bag ofsome really good signs.
You're on the right track.
So let's talk about the signsthat you're not on the right
(08:22):
track and you need to change upwhat you're doing.
One of the biggest signs thatyou're on the wrong track in bed
is she starts pulling away ortensing up.
If her body stiffens and shestarts pulling away from you or
her breath becomes shallow, it'sa clear sign that something's
not working.
Pause immediately and check inwith her.
It's a clear cue that she isnot enjoying the moment.
(08:44):
Research from the archives ofsexual behavior reveal that
women often withdraw physicallywhen they are experiencing
discomfort or disengagementduring sex, and you don't want
to continue if she's notenjoying herself.
Another clear sign that thingsare not going well in bed is
that she starts shifting andsquirming, but not in the good
(09:05):
way.
If she starts adjusting herposition or subtly moving your
hand or body, but it feels likeshe's doing it to stop you, it
could mean she's cravingsomething different, maybe a
softer touch or a change inrhythm.
Pay attention to thesemovements.
She's giving you non-verbalfeedback that she's not feeling
it.
The Journal of Sex Researchhighlights that women often make
(09:28):
slight shifts in position tosignal discomfort or need for a
change in stimulation.
A good example is if you aregoing down on a woman and she
starts shifting her hips to theright or left.
She may be trying to help youreposition your mouth to where
her clit actually is.
Another sign that things aren'tgoing well in bed that could be
(09:50):
a little bit confusing is thatshe starts avoiding eye contact
or turning her head away fromyou.
Now, obviously, there are timeswhen a woman shuts her eyes and
goes inside to really get intoher body and feel pleasure, but
this can also be a sign thatshe's not fully present or
comfortable.
If she is turning away from youor not looking you in the eyes
(10:13):
at all, this can be a signal ofdiscomfort or disconnection.
It's time to press pause andcheck in with her feelings.
Psychology of women's quarterlysuggests that avoiding eye
contact can indicate emotionalwithdrawal and dissatisfaction
during sex.
Now indicate emotionalwithdrawal and dissatisfaction
(10:34):
during sex Now, because this canalso be a sign that she's
turning inside and buildingtowards orgasm.
It's important to talk aboutwhat this really means to her.
Either do that before sex orstop for a beat during sex to
check in and say, hey, is this agood thing, is this a bad thing
?
And proceed from there.
(10:56):
A really obvious sign thatyou're getting it wrong in bed
is she starts crossing her legsor tightening her body.
Crossing her legs or tighteningup her body is a defensive
posture.
She may be uncomfortable, inpain, anxious or not enjoying
herself.
This is when you want to slowthings down, back off a little
(11:17):
and make sure she feels safe.
Research in sex role shows thatdefensive postures like
crossing arms or legs signalsdiscomfort or desire to end the
interaction.
Another fairly common sign thatthings aren't going right is
lack of movement or engagementthe dead fish syndrome.
If she's laying still, staringblankly, not showing any signs
(11:41):
of engagement, you might bedoing something wrong, to check
in with her to see if you needto shift gears.
The Journal of Sex and MaritalTherapy notes that lack of
physical engagement could be anindicator of either boredom or
dissatisfaction.
And who wants to continue toengage in intimacy with someone
(12:04):
who's not actually reciprocatingthe excitement?
A sign that things are goingpoorly in bed that's the polar
opposite of flushed skin is coldor damp skin.
If her skin is cold to thetouch or she starts sweating
profusely in a way that feelsuncomfortable, something might
not be going right.
(12:25):
Cold skin can be a sign ofemotional withdrawal or
discomfort, while excessivesweating can indicate stress or
anxiety.
The sexual health journal notesthat unexpected temperature
changes in the body can be aresponse to stress or discomfort
during intimate moments.
And finally, if her breathbecomes shallow or she starts
(12:46):
holding it for long periods oftime, it might mean that she's
getting tense or nervous, and isnot necessarily aroused.
This can happen if she'suncomfortable, stressed or
unsure about what's happening.
You'll want to stop, ask herwhat's going on and maybe change
things up.
Research from the psychology ofsex suggests that shallow
breathing can indicate anxietyor discomfort, especially during
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heightened moments of intimacy.
All right, now you know thesigns that you're doing it right
and you're doing it wrong ofintimacy.
All right, now you know thesigns that you're doing it right
and you're doing it wrong.
So how can you make sure you'reon the right track?
Even the best sex psychics needsome confirmation.
So here's how you can make sureyou're communicating
effectively.
Number one ask simple yes or noquestions Instead of asking
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broad questions like what do youwant.
Try simple yes or no questions.
Do you like this?
Do you want me to keep going?
Is this hard enough?
Is this soft enough?
These questions are less likelyto pull her out of the moment
and put her in her head, whilealso giving you clear, immediate
feedback.
Two use key phrases.
Try whispering things like thatfeels good, doesn't it?
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Or you want more of this?
These phrases not only affirmwhat you're doing, but they also
give her an invitation to tellyou what's working.
Number three establish a safeword or signal For those moments
when she needs a break orsomething isn't working.
A safe word or signal is clutch.
It allows her to communicatethat she's not comfortable
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without disrupting the flow ofthe moment.
Look, the truth is that being asex psychic is about being
present, paying attention to herbreathing, her body language
and her energy.
And when in doubt, just askgentle questions and trust your
instinct.
The more you practice, thebetter you're going to get and
the more confident you're bothgoing to feel.
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So remember, great sex isn'tabout guessing.
It's about listening with youreyes, your ears and your touch.
Master the skill and you'llunlock a deeper connection and
more pleasure than you everthought possible.
And if you are looking forsomeone to help you on your
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pleasure journey, whether it'swith yourself or with a partner,
if you want to become moreconfident in bed for your
current or future partner orwith your current partner.
My books are open and I wouldlove to be your sidekick, your
cheerleader, your guide on yourintimacy journey.
My sex and intimacy coachingbooks are open and you can
contact me to find out moreabout that at Annette at
TalkSexWithAnnettecom.
You can also go to my website,which is TalkSexWithAnnettecom
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and find out more there.
Now, if you have any questions,comments, input on what I've
shared with you today, you knowwhat to do.
You can drop a comment below myvideo if you're watching this
on YouTube, or you can email meat annette at
talksexwithannettecom.
You can also scroll down to myspeak pipe link below where you
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can send me a voice message andI will do my best to get back to
you as soon as possible.
So until next time, I'll seeyou in the locker room.
Cheers.
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