December 3, 2024 • 29 mins
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the kinkiest corners of your imaginations! After the overwhelming response to my last episode on the top 10 kinks, so many of you slid into my inbox with confessions that were too wild, too unique, and too intriguing not to share. From latex and smoking fetishes to sensory deprivation and some seriously unexpected twists, I’m reading your listener-submitted kinks and breaking them down with a little humor and a lot of curiosity. Buckle up, because this journey into your fantasies might just surprise you—and maybe even inspire you to explore a few new ones yourself!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
(00:20):
Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's Masturbation Mondaytopic is inspired by you, dear
listeners.
Perhaps you remember, about amonth ago I dropped a episode
(00:43):
called the Top 10 Kinks andlet's just say, you guys did not
hold back.
In my DMs.
You flooded me with your ownstories, questions, comments,
secret confessions, if you will,and I loved every minute of it.
In fact, I got so manysubmissions that I thought it
only fair to do a follow-up.
(01:05):
So today we are diving in tolistener-submitted kinks,
fetishes and maybe some littlesexy cravings.
So buckle up, let's get readyto dive in.
It's going to be an interestingride, cheers.
So I've got all of your kinksconfessions right here in my
(01:25):
phone, so I am going to go downthe line and read them off and,
of course, add my own take,because, well, why else would I
be here.
If you are watching thisepisode on my YouTube channel at
Talk Sex with Annette, feelfree to continue the
conversation by dropping yourcomments in the comment section
(01:46):
below this video.
Of course, if you are alongtime audio listener who's
driving home or sneaking off tothe back bedroom to listen, feel
free to send me an email atAnnette at TalkSexWithAnettecom,
or, you know, you can send me asexy little voicemail.
You scroll down.
You're going to find a speakpipe link below.
You can send me a sexy littlevoicemail.
You scroll down.
You're going to find aSpeakPipe link below.
(02:07):
You can send me your confessionand I will listen to it.
And, who knows, maybe it willend up on one of my episodes in
the future.
So diving right in Now.
I did get several peoplecommenting on the same kink that
I didn't cover, so I will, ofcourse, mention when there was
more than one of you whocommented on a specific kink.
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So let's dive right in with myfirst submission from a Bradley
W4747.
He says my guess for number 10would have been latex, the latex
kink.
Now I did cover latex andleather fetish in my fetish
episode.
Now you're going to have to goback and listen to my fetish
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episode and my kink episode.
I do explain the differencebetween the two, the
similarities between the two.
Sometimes a kink is a fetish,sometimes a fetish is a kink,
but not always.
So here was a crossover.
But for those of you who arenot familiar, both the latex and
the leather kink it's all aboutthe sleek, shiny, allure, the
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feeling of the material.
It's linked to sensations.
It's linked to, oftentimes,power play, but people love the
way it feels, either onthemselves or on the person that
they may or may not be domingor playing with.
So there is a latex and aleather fetish.
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I'll tell you what I don't hatea leather cockering.
They are makes me get a littlekinky.
Makes me get a little kinky.
Number two Ethan Dang 12, thesenames says I figured a water
sports would have been high onthat list.
Water sports, golden showers.
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Many, many, many of you droppedinto my DMs and commented on
the fact that you were surprisedthat I had not covered that in
the kinks.
Absolutely Golden showers beinghaving a partner either urinate
on you or urinating on them.
You know, one of PresidentTrump's little kinks himself is
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very popular in fact.
And water spores, aka goldenshowers, involve urination as
part of sexual play and can besymbolized as trust, control,
submission and or domination.
So let's just be real.
Sex is messy.
It's messy, it comes with a lotof body fluids and some people
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just like to throw in a goodgolden shower every now and then
, and I did not cover it in mykink episode, but I have covered
it in past episodes and I willbe sure to dive into golden
showers in the future, becauseit's very clear to me that many
of you are curious about them.
Number three Wimpy Gampy says Ilike a woman who doesn't shave
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their armpits.
And actually there were acouple of people who commented
on this kink, and this is anactual kink with its own name.
The name of this kink is calledand I don't know if I'm saying
this correct HirsuteH-I-R-S-U-T-E.
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It'sa fetish about celebratingnatural body hair and rejecting
societal grooming standards, andfor some people that's a
hardcore turn on.
Who knew?
Number four Jedi Knight 4JC saysI get turned on by attractive
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women who smoke and or vape.
Now I have to admit I had neverthought about this as a kink.
I think well, almost anythingcan be turned into a kink, but
it is in fact a kink that a lotof people have.
The smoking kink connectsarousal to the visual and
sensual aspects of smoking,which makes sense in a lot of
ways If you think about the long, slender cigarette between two
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lipstick lips sucking on the tip.
Think about the smoke curlingaround the neck, around the face
, up the cheeks.
I can see it.
I can see it.
So there you are.
There is a kink for those ofyou who like to watch a woman
put something long and thinbetween her lips.
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Number five, geomcc39, says whatabout being smothered by an
SSBBW woman?
That is, a supersized, big,beautiful woman?
That is definitely a kink.
There are people of all genderswho love the idea of being
smothered and loved on andloving and worshiping the body
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of a big, beautiful, sexy woman.
This kink involves body worshipand the sensual pleasure of
being overwhelmed by a partner'sbody.
So that is the smothering partis just being overwhelmed and
overtaken by your partner's bodyand of course this can take
place in all different bodytypes, but some people in
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particular just love it when ajuicy, curvy, beautiful woman is
the smotherer.
Number six, danny Landers, k7z,says queening.
So for those of you who don'tknow what queening is, queening
is known also as face sitting.
It involves a dominant partner,typically a woman, sitting on
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her partner's face for oralpleasure, the face being the
queen's throne.
Do I need to explain that moreto you, or do we got it?
I feel like we could dedicate awhole episode to that.
In fact, for those of you whoare familiar with dominatrix
Lucy, she is quite the queen.
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Number seven was submitted byMac TEP2K.
He says female body piercingsand hidden tattoos are my thing.
I totally, I totally get you, Itotally get you.
Sexy, sexy, sexy.
Piercings and tattoo fetishesare truly a thing.
They celebrate the eroticappeal of body art and adornment
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.
And then it's also the thrillof finding the sexy little
secret as you unwrap a body fromits clothing and finding a
piercing or finding a tattoohidden in places that are
typically covered.
Some people find thisincredibly erotic and arousing.
Number eight Gino5169 says Iwant to try tying my wife up and
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using blindfolds.
So bondage.
We did talk about BDSM on our10 top kinks.
Now someone had left a commentabout like isn't that just an
umbrella term?
And it is true.
Bdsm is really an umbrella fora whole bunch of different
little kinks that you can breakit down into, in particular the
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tying up, the restraining, thesensory deprivation can be very,
very exciting for people to notonly not be able to tell what's
coming next, whether you areblindfolded, some people will
even put something over the earsso the person can't hear, and
then restrain on top of it.
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Not only do you not know whatsensation is coming next or what
the sensation you'reexperiencing is, but you also
have no control over what ishappening to you because you are
bound.
Of course, this is all donewithin a framework of consent.
So, yeah, that's sexy and Ihope, gino, that you and your
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wife get to give it a try.
I highly recommend it.
Number nine Ian Erickson4598says I imagine my partner
fantasizing about someone else.
As I recall, I had a couple ofthese and there was one
submission that was veryin-depth where he fantasized
about his partner or the partnerhe would have being into a
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famous person and having sexwith the same famous person.
But this is very much in linewith a cuckholding kink, and
cuckholding fantasies center onthe idea of a partner finding
pleasure with someone else.
This is often, as a powerexchange, dynamic and it also
includes elements of compersion.
I've done a whole podcast oncompersion, where one partner
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really is aroused by seeinganother partner's pleasure.
It also ties into it a littlebit of the humiliation fetish or
kink where those feelings ofembarrassment or being discarded
by your partner for some reasonadd to the excitement and
arousal.
So this particular kink reallybrings in a lot of aspects of
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other kinks that can again beoffshoots.
Number 10, dennis Kennedy Jr,9128, says navel fetish isn't on
the list.
Intriguing, intriguing indeed.
Now he referred to a fetish.
We're talking about kinks.
Again, kinks can be fetishes,so we're using them a little bit
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interchangeably here and Ithink that that's okay because
really we're just talking aboutkinks, fetishes, interests, sexy
little things that we're allinto because it's fun and it's
what I want to do today and it'smy podcast.
So I did find it intriguingbecause in all the years I've
been doing this podcast thenavel fetish hasn't come up,
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which I think is kind ofsurprising because I imagine it
is quite common.
It's just not one that'sentered my reality over the last
three years.
Now.
This fetish can be somethingsomeone enjoys meaning having
their own navel played with.
Meaning having their own navelplayed with.
Oftentimes, touching of thenavel, playing with the navel,
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stimulates sensations in thegenital region, but sometimes
people have the kink of beingattracted to someone's navel,
innie or outtie.
Some people really love theoutties and playing with them.
Naveletish focuses on theerotic potential of belly
buttons as a sensual touch point.
So that can be receiving, thatcan be giving.
Some people are so sensitive inthat area that it's almost
torture.
So you can bring in a littlebit of BDSM as well, depending
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on what you're into.
Number 11, preamble Patriotshouts out with an exclamation
point panties, and certainlypanties, are a kink, and a lot
of people actually commented onpanties.
They were surprised thatpanties were not mentioned.
So panties the kink that goesalong with the panty kink
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oftentimes centers around thematerial.
It can be silky, it can be lacy, and this can either be a
visual stimulation that turnssomeone on seeing it on someone
else, or it can be actuallywearing the panties themselves
and how it feels on them.
Oftentimes men or people withpenises like to wear panties for
the sensation.
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Also, the taboo nature ofwearing a woman's panty can
really get them off as well.
So there's a lot of differentdirections.
You can go with the pantyfetish.
It's a super fun one and it cantake you into role play,
sensation, play you name it.
It's an easy, I guess, erotictoy or fixture that you can
bring to your sex life.
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Life's Too Short for BS73, Ilove that name says oil and anal
isn't on this list.
I hate to disappoint you, andlife is too short to not enjoy a
little oil in your anal play.
I prefer a gel-based lube, but,yes, oil play enhances touch
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and sensation, often combinedwith anal exploration for
heightened sensation.
Buddy, I am right there withyou.
I think anal play is a kink fora lot of people.
Please don't, don't, don'tengage in it dry.
So a good body oil, massage oil, of course, ph safe for women
and people with vaginas, becausewe don't need to have any
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random oil put down there.
If you're going to put it onthe anus, it's most likely going
to get into our genital area.
So again, another option is areally silky, smooth, high
quality gel for anal play.
Number 13, dan Shoop 6504 says Ilike sensory deprivation,
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chastity cages and CBT.
Now I have covered.
We already talked about thesensory deprivation a little bit
, but again here he is combiningthem.
And this is the lovely thingabout kinks is they don't have
to be standalone.
You can have multiple kinks,you can put them all together
for a mix and match.
You can parse them outindividually.
I have done a lot of contentaround cock cages and male
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chastity.
I've also covered CBT, which iscock and ball torture.
Please feel free to go back andwatch them.
I'll try to tag them below soyou can check them out as well.
And it sounds like in his casewhat he has done is added the
blindfold sensory deprivationwith being caged and maybe
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tortured a little bit.
Sounds like fun.
I love your creativity andthank you for sharing it.
Sounds like fun.
I love your creativity andthank you for sharing.
Number 14, james Harrington 4923says pantyhose and tights and
stockings.
Pantyhose, tights and stockings.
I love this.
So again we're back to thematerial.
Some people like have thepantyhose kink and it's really
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related to the constructivenature of the pantyhose on the
body.
Now the pantyhose kink can besomething visually you like to
see on somebody of any genderand it could have to do with how
the material looks against theskin.
Or it could be your kinkbecause you like the way it
feels when you wear it or whenit's wrapped around your body or
when you're restrained with it,so you might at first think of
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it as stockings that areactually on the body.
But you can use the pantyhoseto restrain someone for some
restraint play or to gag themfor whatever you want to gag
them for.
But it centers around again the, the tactile experience, the
visual experience, the fabricsand then, of course, however you
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want to use them.
Number 15 was submitted by ohSod it.
He says silk, panties,suspender belts, chemises,
skirts, dresses.
So he likes the outfits.
I guess I'm assuming it's he.
I should say they.
I don't know.
I'm sure there are plenty ofwomen who like to see another
woman in all these things too,or another man.
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Again, we're getting into whatit looks like, what it feels
like to wear these things.
Garter belts are sexy, I feelyou.
This is more of a lingerie kinkand this is a pretty clearly
common, maybe even vanilla kink,if you will, since so many
people love to invest inlingerie.
I love it, I love the way itmakes me feel, I like the state
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of mind it gets me into.
Depending on what I'm wearing,I can feel sexy, I can feel like
a baby doll, I can feel like avixen or a femdom.
So there's a lot of role playthat is tied into the fabric
sensation and visual titillation, if you will.
Number 16 was submitted byMichael Ross X9H and I like this
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one.
He says socks during sexincrease orgasms.
He went into more depth aboutthe whole sock sensation.
Now I'm sure many of you haveheard that there are a lot of
women who like to leave theirsocks on, and the idea is it
keeps them warm and it makesthem feel more capable of
orgasming.
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I think I might have theopposite of this.
I feel strange if my socks arenot off, but we won't get into
my sexual proclivities.
We're talking about yours.
So wearing socks duringintimacy can enhance comfort and
relaxation, which may lead tostronger orgasm.
So get yourself some cute, sexysocks and see how your partner
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feels about you leaving them onthe next time you're in bed or
wherever you are when you'redoing it.
Number 17, andrew Dallas offersup eating one's own cum.
This is truly a thing.
This kink known as autophagiainvolves consuming one's own
bodily fluids as part of a poweror humiliation dynamic.
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So there you have it.
It plays into some of that BDSMpower dynamic, maybe a little
bit into the humiliation kinkAgain.
I've got a whole video on that.
So that's the thing.
That's the thing you can do.
Some people enjoy doing itfirst by releasing onto
someone's body and then lickingit off of their body.
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Some people enjoy doing it byafter having sex and coming
inside someone going down onthem.
There are a lot of differentways this plays out, from the
ultra kinky to the fairlyvanilla oral sex after sex,
which is not an uncommon thingto do.
Sex, which is not an uncommonthing to do.
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And then, number 18, I had asurprising number of you DM me
and say that you enjoy givingyourself oral sex.
Now, these were all men, Idon't know.
I'm sure that there are womenout there that have that kind of
flexibility.
I did not hear from them, butapparently several men out there
are super flexible and able togive themselves oral sex and I
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imagine that it's a nicealternative to giving yourself a
handjob and it has a verysimilar feel to it that the
autophagia does, where you havethe power, dynamic and you have
the indulging in your own bodilyfluid experience.
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So thank you for sharing that.
Also, keep going to yoga class,man, because I'm sure there are
many, many people out there whowould love to be able to give
themselves oral pleasure if theycould Now before I sign off,
because I had so many complaintsabout my small list of kinks in
my first episode, I thought Iwould add in a couple that I ran
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across that I found interesting.
Maybe some of you are familiarwith them.
If you are, please feel free tohop in my DMs or drop your
comments below.
So let's dive in First.
Let's jump in with breath play.
So it is the erotic thrill ofcontrolling or limiting oxygen,
creating heightened sensationsand intense arousal.
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So this can be just coveringsomeone's mouth and nose and
releasing and giving them airwhen you're ready to give it to
them or they're giving you yoursignal, obviously, sometimes
people use breath restrictionssuch as choking.
This can be a very dangerouskink and it's very important
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that you know what you're doing,when you're doing it, that you
have consent, that you have allof the hand signals or the safe
words in place so that nobodygets hurt.
But it is very common.
The next one is the breedingkink.
Now, if you have scrolledthrough porn any amount at all,
you've probably come across this, and it's basically playing out
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fantasies around the idea ofbeing pregnant, having sex with
a pregnant person.
For some people they're reallyturned on by the pregnant body.
For others it can be the ideaof being bred or people trying
to get you pregnant withunprotected sex.
This kink really leans intoprimal urges and for many this
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is exciting and erotic, and italso can play into when
someone's actually pregnant,finding eroticism in being
pregnant.
There are offshoots of thisthat involve all sorts of
fantasies and maybe we will diveinto that at some other point
in time.
The next one that I find reallyinteresting and I can actually
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see some eroticism in is theclothed female, naked male.
So often a femme dom will befully clothed and looking sexy
and the man will be unclothedand very vulnerable.
It's a power dynamic where theclothed woman is in the power
dom position and the vulnerableman is naked and, I'm going to
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assume, does as she says.
The next one that I just had toshare with you, mostly because
it's definitely going to give menightmares, is and I don't like
to yuck other people's yums,but somebody's got to reach out
to me and talk to me about thisone.
I need to have a conversationwith someone about this one it's
the clown fetish.
It's a clown fetish.
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It's role-playing, as clownbrings a mix of humor and fear
and eroticism to play.
So basically, you know, eitherI assume you're the clown
dressed up as a clown, or you'resomeone who is being sexually
taken by a clown.
I don't know guys.
But again, not one to yucksomeone's yum, if this is your
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thing, let's talk, let's talk.
The next one is one that I havea personal interest in.
I've played with a little bit,experimented with a little bit,
experimented with a little bit,and I have a person who's a
professional in this area thatI'm hoping to have on soon is
the erotic electrostimulationkink, using electrical currents
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for pleasure, tapping into nerverich areas for unique
sensations.
Some people use TENS units, butthere are actually some much
more sophisticatedelectrostimulation units out
there that professionals can useto give a person all kinds of
sensations, from scratchysensations, which I quite
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enjoyed, to very zappysensations, and these can be
applied all over the body indifferent places intimate places
, yes, but it is not solelyrestricted to the overtly erotic
genital areas of a person'sbody, and it is added as sort of
a new sensation in the sensoryplay kink arena.
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So this is something that couldbe included in sensory
deprivation eyes closed, beingrestrained.
It could be BDSM-y and the zapcan be turned up to where it's a
little bit painful.
Again, I have someone who I'vebeen reaching out to and
hopefully sooner rather thanlater she will come on my show
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and tell you all about it.
And last but not least, we havethe tickling fetish.
So some people derive pleasurefrom the sensation of being
tickled.
Again we're back intosensations or tickling others.
So again, this is I mean whodoesn't like a good like back
tickle right or inner thigh ortickle?
Or it can be tickling others.
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Now this can be a pleasure kindof tickle exchange.
It could be a torturous tickleexchange because we all know it
can feel like torture sometimes.
But again we're back into thesensation.
Kinks a different way to bekinky with your partner.
This is oftentimes againcombined with a sensory
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deprivation.
Kink all about exploring thedifferent sensations our bodies
can fill.
So there you go, a whole newround of kinks to explore and
consider.
And thank you to all of you whosubmitted your kinks, fetishes,
fantasies, stories.
Keep them coming, no punintended.
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And remember there's no shamein your kink game.
Just keep it consensual, safeand fun.
So until next time, rememberyou can submit your questions
and comments to me by scrollingdown and tapping on the speak
pipe link below, you can emailme at Annette at
TalkSexWithAnnettecom.
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And if you are looking for asidekick in your pleasure
journey, someone to help youalong the way, remember my
intimacy.
Coaching books are open.
You can email me to reserveyour session.
Just email me again at Annetteat TalkSexWithAnnettecom, or you
can go to my websiteTalkSexWithAnnettecom and check
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out my coaching services.
I would love to be your newsexy bestie.
All right, Until next time,I'll see you in the locker room.
No-transcript.
do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.
(00:20):
Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today's Masturbation Mondaytopic is inspired by you, dear
listeners.
Perhaps you remember, about amonth ago I dropped a episode
(00:43):
called the Top 10 Kinks andlet's just say, you guys did not
hold back.
In my DMs.
You flooded me with your ownstories, questions, comments,
secret confessions, if you will,and I loved every minute of it.
In fact, I got so manysubmissions that I thought it
only fair to do a follow-up.
(01:05):
So today we are diving in tolistener-submitted kinks,
fetishes and maybe some littlesexy cravings.
So buckle up, let's get readyto dive in.
It's going to be an interestingride, cheers.
So I've got all of your kinksconfessions right here in my
(01:25):
phone, so I am going to go downthe line and read them off and,
of course, add my own take,because, well, why else would I
be here.
If you are watching thisepisode on my YouTube channel at
Talk Sex with Annette, feelfree to continue the
conversation by dropping yourcomments in the comment section
(01:46):
below this video.
Of course, if you are alongtime audio listener who's
driving home or sneaking off tothe back bedroom to listen, feel
free to send me an email atAnnette at TalkSexWithAnettecom,
or, you know, you can send me asexy little voicemail.
You scroll down.
You're going to find a speakpipe link below.
You can send me a sexy littlevoicemail.
You scroll down.
You're going to find aSpeakPipe link below.
(02:07):
You can send me your confessionand I will listen to it.
And, who knows, maybe it willend up on one of my episodes in
the future.
So diving right in Now.
I did get several peoplecommenting on the same kink that
I didn't cover, so I will, ofcourse, mention when there was
more than one of you whocommented on a specific kink.
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So let's dive right in with myfirst submission from a Bradley
W4747.
He says my guess for number 10would have been latex, the latex
kink.
Now I did cover latex andleather fetish in my fetish
episode.
Now you're going to have to goback and listen to my fetish
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episode and my kink episode.
I do explain the differencebetween the two, the
similarities between the two.
Sometimes a kink is a fetish,sometimes a fetish is a kink,
but not always.
So here was a crossover.
But for those of you who arenot familiar, both the latex and
the leather kink it's all aboutthe sleek, shiny, allure, the
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feeling of the material.
It's linked to sensations.
It's linked to, oftentimes,power play, but people love the
way it feels, either onthemselves or on the person that
they may or may not be domingor playing with.
So there is a latex and aleather fetish.
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I'll tell you what I don't hatea leather cockering.
They are makes me get a littlekinky.
Makes me get a little kinky.
Number two Ethan Dang 12, thesenames says I figured a water
sports would have been high onthat list.
Water sports, golden showers.
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Many, many, many of you droppedinto my DMs and commented on
the fact that you were surprisedthat I had not covered that in
the kinks.
Absolutely Golden showers beinghaving a partner either urinate
on you or urinating on them.
You know, one of PresidentTrump's little kinks himself is
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very popular in fact.
And water spores, aka goldenshowers, involve urination as
part of sexual play and can besymbolized as trust, control,
submission and or domination.
So let's just be real.
Sex is messy.
It's messy, it comes with a lotof body fluids and some people
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just like to throw in a goodgolden shower every now and then
, and I did not cover it in mykink episode, but I have covered
it in past episodes and I willbe sure to dive into golden
showers in the future, becauseit's very clear to me that many
of you are curious about them.
Number three Wimpy Gampy says Ilike a woman who doesn't shave
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their armpits.
And actually there were acouple of people who commented
on this kink, and this is anactual kink with its own name.
The name of this kink is calledand I don't know if I'm saying
this correct HirsuteH-I-R-S-U-T-E.
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It'sa fetish about celebratingnatural body hair and rejecting
societal grooming standards, andfor some people that's a
hardcore turn on.
Who knew?
Number four Jedi Knight 4JC saysI get turned on by attractive
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women who smoke and or vape.
Now I have to admit I had neverthought about this as a kink.
I think well, almost anythingcan be turned into a kink, but
it is in fact a kink that a lotof people have.
The smoking kink connectsarousal to the visual and
sensual aspects of smoking,which makes sense in a lot of
ways If you think about the long, slender cigarette between two
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lipstick lips sucking on the tip.
Think about the smoke curlingaround the neck, around the face
, up the cheeks.
I can see it.
I can see it.
So there you are.
There is a kink for those ofyou who like to watch a woman
put something long and thinbetween her lips.
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Number five, geomcc39, says whatabout being smothered by an
SSBBW woman?
That is, a supersized, big,beautiful woman?
That is definitely a kink.
There are people of all genderswho love the idea of being
smothered and loved on andloving and worshiping the body
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of a big, beautiful, sexy woman.
This kink involves body worshipand the sensual pleasure of
being overwhelmed by a partner'sbody.
So that is the smothering partis just being overwhelmed and
overtaken by your partner's bodyand of course this can take
place in all different bodytypes, but some people in
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particular just love it when ajuicy, curvy, beautiful woman is
the smotherer.
Number six, danny Landers, k7z,says queening.
So for those of you who don'tknow what queening is, queening
is known also as face sitting.
It involves a dominant partner,typically a woman, sitting on
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her partner's face for oralpleasure, the face being the
queen's throne.
Do I need to explain that moreto you, or do we got it?
I feel like we could dedicate awhole episode to that.
In fact, for those of you whoare familiar with dominatrix
Lucy, she is quite the queen.
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Number seven was submitted byMac TEP2K.
He says female body piercingsand hidden tattoos are my thing.
I totally, I totally get you, Itotally get you.
Sexy, sexy, sexy.
Piercings and tattoo fetishesare truly a thing.
They celebrate the eroticappeal of body art and adornment
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.
And then it's also the thrillof finding the sexy little
secret as you unwrap a body fromits clothing and finding a
piercing or finding a tattoohidden in places that are
typically covered.
Some people find thisincredibly erotic and arousing.
Number eight Gino5169 says Iwant to try tying my wife up and
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using blindfolds.
So bondage.
We did talk about BDSM on our10 top kinks.
Now someone had left a commentabout like isn't that just an
umbrella term?
And it is true.
Bdsm is really an umbrella fora whole bunch of different
little kinks that you can breakit down into, in particular the
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tying up, the restraining, thesensory deprivation can be very,
very exciting for people to notonly not be able to tell what's
coming next, whether you areblindfolded, some people will
even put something over the earsso the person can't hear, and
then restrain on top of it.
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Not only do you not know whatsensation is coming next or what
the sensation you'reexperiencing is, but you also
have no control over what ishappening to you because you are
bound.
Of course, this is all donewithin a framework of consent.
So, yeah, that's sexy and Ihope, gino, that you and your
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wife get to give it a try.
I highly recommend it.
Number nine Ian Erickson4598says I imagine my partner
fantasizing about someone else.
As I recall, I had a couple ofthese and there was one
submission that was veryin-depth where he fantasized
about his partner or the partnerhe would have being into a
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famous person and having sexwith the same famous person.
But this is very much in linewith a cuckholding kink, and
cuckholding fantasies center onthe idea of a partner finding
pleasure with someone else.
This is often, as a powerexchange, dynamic and it also
includes elements of compersion.
I've done a whole podcast oncompersion, where one partner
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really is aroused by seeinganother partner's pleasure.
It also ties into it a littlebit of the humiliation fetish or
kink where those feelings ofembarrassment or being discarded
by your partner for some reasonadd to the excitement and
arousal.
So this particular kink reallybrings in a lot of aspects of
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other kinks that can again beoffshoots.
Number 10, dennis Kennedy Jr,9128, says navel fetish isn't on
the list.
Intriguing, intriguing indeed.
Now he referred to a fetish.
We're talking about kinks.
Again, kinks can be fetishes,so we're using them a little bit
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interchangeably here and Ithink that that's okay because
really we're just talking aboutkinks, fetishes, interests, sexy
little things that we're allinto because it's fun and it's
what I want to do today and it'smy podcast.
So I did find it intriguingbecause in all the years I've
been doing this podcast thenavel fetish hasn't come up,
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which I think is kind ofsurprising because I imagine it
is quite common.
It's just not one that'sentered my reality over the last
three years.
Now.
This fetish can be somethingsomeone enjoys meaning having
their own navel played with.
Meaning having their own navelplayed with.
Oftentimes, touching of thenavel, playing with the navel,
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stimulates sensations in thegenital region, but sometimes
people have the kink of beingattracted to someone's navel,
innie or outtie.
Some people really love theoutties and playing with them.
Naveletish focuses on theerotic potential of belly
buttons as a sensual touch point.
So that can be receiving, thatcan be giving.
Some people are so sensitive inthat area that it's almost
torture.
So you can bring in a littlebit of BDSM as well, depending
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on what you're into.
Number 11, preamble Patriotshouts out with an exclamation
point panties, and certainlypanties, are a kink, and a lot
of people actually commented onpanties.
They were surprised thatpanties were not mentioned.
So panties the kink that goesalong with the panty kink
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oftentimes centers around thematerial.
It can be silky, it can be lacy, and this can either be a
visual stimulation that turnssomeone on seeing it on someone
else, or it can be actuallywearing the panties themselves
and how it feels on them.
Oftentimes men or people withpenises like to wear panties for
the sensation.
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Also, the taboo nature ofwearing a woman's panty can
really get them off as well.
So there's a lot of differentdirections.
You can go with the pantyfetish.
It's a super fun one and it cantake you into role play,
sensation, play you name it.
It's an easy, I guess, erotictoy or fixture that you can
bring to your sex life.
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Life's Too Short for BS73, Ilove that name says oil and anal
isn't on this list.
I hate to disappoint you, andlife is too short to not enjoy a
little oil in your anal play.
I prefer a gel-based lube, but,yes, oil play enhances touch
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and sensation, often combinedwith anal exploration for
heightened sensation.
Buddy, I am right there withyou.
I think anal play is a kink fora lot of people.
Please don't, don't, don'tengage in it dry.
So a good body oil, massage oil, of course, ph safe for women
and people with vaginas, becausewe don't need to have any
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random oil put down there.
If you're going to put it onthe anus, it's most likely going
to get into our genital area.
So again, another option is areally silky, smooth, high
quality gel for anal play.
Number 13, dan Shoop 6504 says Ilike sensory deprivation,
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chastity cages and CBT.
Now I have covered.
We already talked about thesensory deprivation a little bit
, but again here he is combiningthem.
And this is the lovely thingabout kinks is they don't have
to be standalone.
You can have multiple kinks,you can put them all together
for a mix and match.
You can parse them outindividually.
I have done a lot of contentaround cock cages and male
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chastity.
I've also covered CBT, which iscock and ball torture.
Please feel free to go back andwatch them.
I'll try to tag them below soyou can check them out as well.
And it sounds like in his casewhat he has done is added the
blindfold sensory deprivationwith being caged and maybe
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tortured a little bit.
Sounds like fun.
I love your creativity andthank you for sharing it.
Sounds like fun.
I love your creativity andthank you for sharing.
Number 14, james Harrington 4923says pantyhose and tights and
stockings.
Pantyhose, tights and stockings.
I love this.
So again we're back to thematerial.
Some people like have thepantyhose kink and it's really
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related to the constructivenature of the pantyhose on the
body.
Now the pantyhose kink can besomething visually you like to
see on somebody of any genderand it could have to do with how
the material looks against theskin.
Or it could be your kinkbecause you like the way it
feels when you wear it or whenit's wrapped around your body or
when you're restrained with it,so you might at first think of
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it as stockings that areactually on the body.
But you can use the pantyhoseto restrain someone for some
restraint play or to gag themfor whatever you want to gag
them for.
But it centers around again the, the tactile experience, the
visual experience, the fabricsand then, of course, however you
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want to use them.
Number 15 was submitted by ohSod it.
He says silk, panties,suspender belts, chemises,
skirts, dresses.
So he likes the outfits.
I guess I'm assuming it's he.
I should say they.
I don't know.
I'm sure there are plenty ofwomen who like to see another
woman in all these things too,or another man.
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Again, we're getting into whatit looks like, what it feels
like to wear these things.
Garter belts are sexy, I feelyou.
This is more of a lingerie kinkand this is a pretty clearly
common, maybe even vanilla kink,if you will, since so many
people love to invest inlingerie.
I love it, I love the way itmakes me feel, I like the state
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of mind it gets me into.
Depending on what I'm wearing,I can feel sexy, I can feel like
a baby doll, I can feel like avixen or a femdom.
So there's a lot of role playthat is tied into the fabric
sensation and visual titillation, if you will.
Number 16 was submitted byMichael Ross X9H and I like this
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one.
He says socks during sexincrease orgasms.
He went into more depth aboutthe whole sock sensation.
Now I'm sure many of you haveheard that there are a lot of
women who like to leave theirsocks on, and the idea is it
keeps them warm and it makesthem feel more capable of
orgasming.
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I think I might have theopposite of this.
I feel strange if my socks arenot off, but we won't get into
my sexual proclivities.
We're talking about yours.
So wearing socks duringintimacy can enhance comfort and
relaxation, which may lead tostronger orgasm.
So get yourself some cute, sexysocks and see how your partner
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feels about you leaving them onthe next time you're in bed or
wherever you are when you'redoing it.
Number 17, andrew Dallas offersup eating one's own cum.
This is truly a thing.
This kink known as autophagiainvolves consuming one's own
bodily fluids as part of a poweror humiliation dynamic.
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So there you have it.
It plays into some of that BDSMpower dynamic, maybe a little
bit into the humiliation kinkAgain.
I've got a whole video on that.
So that's the thing.
That's the thing you can do.
Some people enjoy doing itfirst by releasing onto
someone's body and then lickingit off of their body.
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Some people enjoy doing it byafter having sex and coming
inside someone going down onthem.
There are a lot of differentways this plays out, from the
ultra kinky to the fairlyvanilla oral sex after sex,
which is not an uncommon thingto do.
Sex, which is not an uncommonthing to do.
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And then, number 18, I had asurprising number of you DM me
and say that you enjoy givingyourself oral sex.
Now, these were all men, Idon't know.
I'm sure that there are womenout there that have that kind of
flexibility.
I did not hear from them, butapparently several men out there
are super flexible and able togive themselves oral sex and I
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imagine that it's a nicealternative to giving yourself a
handjob and it has a verysimilar feel to it that the
autophagia does, where you havethe power, dynamic and you have
the indulging in your own bodilyfluid experience.
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So thank you for sharing that.
Also, keep going to yoga class,man, because I'm sure there are
many, many people out there whowould love to be able to give
themselves oral pleasure if theycould Now before I sign off,
because I had so many complaintsabout my small list of kinks in
my first episode, I thought Iwould add in a couple that I ran
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across that I found interesting.
Maybe some of you are familiarwith them.
If you are, please feel free tohop in my DMs or drop your
comments below.
So let's dive in First.
Let's jump in with breath play.
So it is the erotic thrill ofcontrolling or limiting oxygen,
creating heightened sensationsand intense arousal.
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So this can be just coveringsomeone's mouth and nose and
releasing and giving them airwhen you're ready to give it to
them or they're giving you yoursignal, obviously, sometimes
people use breath restrictionssuch as choking.
This can be a very dangerouskink and it's very important
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that you know what you're doing,when you're doing it, that you
have consent, that you have allof the hand signals or the safe
words in place so that nobodygets hurt.
But it is very common.
The next one is the breedingkink.
Now, if you have scrolledthrough porn any amount at all,
you've probably come across this, and it's basically playing out
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fantasies around the idea ofbeing pregnant, having sex with
a pregnant person.
For some people they're reallyturned on by the pregnant body.
For others it can be the ideaof being bred or people trying
to get you pregnant withunprotected sex.
This kink really leans intoprimal urges and for many this
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is exciting and erotic, and italso can play into when
someone's actually pregnant,finding eroticism in being
pregnant.
There are offshoots of thisthat involve all sorts of
fantasies and maybe we will diveinto that at some other point
in time.
The next one that I find reallyinteresting and I can actually
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see some eroticism in is theclothed female, naked male.
So often a femme dom will befully clothed and looking sexy
and the man will be unclothedand very vulnerable.
It's a power dynamic where theclothed woman is in the power
dom position and the vulnerableman is naked and, I'm going to
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assume, does as she says.
The next one that I just had toshare with you, mostly because
it's definitely going to give menightmares, is and I don't like
to yuck other people's yums,but somebody's got to reach out
to me and talk to me about thisone.
I need to have a conversationwith someone about this one it's
the clown fetish.
It's a clown fetish.
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It's role-playing, as clownbrings a mix of humor and fear
and eroticism to play.
So basically, you know, eitherI assume you're the clown
dressed up as a clown, or you'resomeone who is being sexually
taken by a clown.
I don't know guys.
But again, not one to yucksomeone's yum, if this is your
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thing, let's talk, let's talk.
The next one is one that I havea personal interest in.
I've played with a little bit,experimented with a little bit,
experimented with a little bit,and I have a person who's a
professional in this area thatI'm hoping to have on soon is
the erotic electrostimulationkink, using electrical currents
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for pleasure, tapping into nerverich areas for unique
sensations.
Some people use TENS units, butthere are actually some much
more sophisticatedelectrostimulation units out
there that professionals can useto give a person all kinds of
sensations, from scratchysensations, which I quite
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enjoyed, to very zappysensations, and these can be
applied all over the body indifferent places intimate places
, yes, but it is not solelyrestricted to the overtly erotic
genital areas of a person'sbody, and it is added as sort of
a new sensation in the sensoryplay kink arena.
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So this is something that couldbe included in sensory
deprivation eyes closed, beingrestrained.
It could be BDSM-y and the zapcan be turned up to where it's a
little bit painful.
Again, I have someone who I'vebeen reaching out to and
hopefully sooner rather thanlater she will come on my show
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and tell you all about it.
And last but not least, we havethe tickling fetish.
So some people derive pleasurefrom the sensation of being
tickled.
Again we're back intosensations or tickling others.
So again, this is I mean whodoesn't like a good like back
tickle right or inner thigh ortickle?
Or it can be tickling others.
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Now this can be a pleasure kindof tickle exchange.
It could be a torturous tickleexchange because we all know it
can feel like torture sometimes.
But again we're back into thesensation.
Kinks a different way to bekinky with your partner.
This is oftentimes againcombined with a sensory
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deprivation.
Kink all about exploring thedifferent sensations our bodies
can fill.
So there you go, a whole newround of kinks to explore and
consider.
And thank you to all of you whosubmitted your kinks, fetishes,
fantasies, stories.
Keep them coming, no punintended.
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And remember there's no shamein your kink game.
Just keep it consensual, safeand fun.
So until next time, rememberyou can submit your questions
and comments to me by scrollingdown and tapping on the speak
pipe link below, you can emailme at Annette at
TalkSexWithAnnettecom.
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And if you are looking for asidekick in your pleasure
journey, someone to help youalong the way, remember my
intimacy.
Coaching books are open.
You can email me to reserveyour session.
Just email me again at Annetteat TalkSexWithAnnettecom, or you
can go to my websiteTalkSexWithAnnettecom and check
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out my coaching services.
I would love to be your newsexy bestie.
All right, Until next time,I'll see you in the locker room.
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