May 19, 2025 • 19 mins
This is your step-by-step guide to vaginal fisting done right—for real connection, full-body pleasure, and the kind of deep, slow sex that leaves her saying “holy fck.”*
In this episode, I walk you through:
💦 What fisting actually is (hint: it’s not what you’ve seen online)
🧠 The science behind why it feels so good
🔥 How to build up to it with care, trust, and a ton of lube
🤲 A full technique breakdown—from yoni massage to entry, external stimulation, orgasm, and aftercare
Plus: how to pull out without ruining the moment and why fisting can be deeply emotional and healing
Whether you’re brand new or just want to do it better—this is your complete how-to guide.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here.
Nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think, raw, honest andsometimes unapologetically
raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you, and if
(00:40):
you're new, welcome to mypodcast.
Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk, sex with Annette.
Topic is fisting how to do itright, why it's incredible and
(01:01):
what most people get wrong.
Let's talk about the sex actthat gets treated like a joke in
porn, a punchline in the groupchat and a hell no in the
average bedroom.
Fisting and to be clear, thisepisode is all about vaginal
fisting.
Anal fisting is a wholedifferent topic with very
different prep, safety steps andanatomy.
(01:22):
That's not today.
If the word fisting makes yourbody tighten or your brain
spiral into porn scenes andimpossible positions breathe.
That's not what we're doinghere.
Fisting, when done right, isnot about pain or shock.
It's about surrender, trust.
Render trust, deep, slowsensation and, yes, mind-blowing
(01:50):
, full-body pleasure.
This episode is your real-worldguide to vaginal fisting what
it is, why it works and thescience behind the pleasure.
What myths we need to burn andhow to do it right, step by step
, and, of course, finally, howto bring someone all the way to
orgasm, then care for them after.
Listen, your fisting tutorialdoes not end there.
In my next episode, I am joinedby a queer kink, affirming sex
(02:14):
therapist, who works with womenand couples exploring fisting
for healing, release andpleasure.
It's a full Fisting 101 expertedition.
But for now, you've got me.
So I want to remind you thatyou can find me over on OnlyFans
, where I am sharing my sex andintimacy how-tos and
demonstrations.
Yes, there may eventually evenbe one on fisting.
(02:35):
I'm also sharing myaudio-guided self-pleasure
meditations and so much more.
All of this is designed to helpyou start experiencing deeper,
more fulfilling pleasure withyourself or someone else.
You can find me there with myhandle at TalkSexForTheNight.
You can also scroll down to thenotes below this episode, and
(02:57):
I'm going to give you links tofind me wherever well, wherever
you want to, but for now, let'sdive in to fisting Cheers.
So here's why fisting isn'talways what you think it is.
Fisting doesn't always mean afull fist.
In fact, for many people, itnever does.
(03:18):
It can mean a partially closedhand using the duckbill shape
with the first or secondknuckles inserted, and for some
that's already more internalstimulation than they've ever
experienced before.
And it can be incredible.
Fisting isn't about force.
It's about slow, intentionalstretch.
It's about being fully presentwith someone's body as they open
(03:41):
up from the inside out.
It's about rhythm, consistency,trust and for many women it's
the only kind of penetrationthat gives them the kind of
orgasm they've been craving butcouldn't explain.
And here's the science.
One study in the Journal of SexResearch found that deep
(04:01):
internal pressure can createheightened emotional and
physical arousal, especiallywhen it bypasses the fast
friction-based movements andshifts into slow, full hand
touch.
Neurologically, this kind ofstimulation activates the
parasympathetic nervous systemresponsible for safety, calm and
(04:22):
release, which is why fistingisn't just physically intense,
it's emotionally intimate.
Here are some common myths aboutfisting.
Let's burn them one by one.
The first one is that onlykinky people fist.
Not true.
Plenty of people who don'tidentify as kinky explore
fisting.
For them, it's about depth,slowness, surrender or intensity
(04:47):
, not dominance or edge play.
Number two it has to be a fullfist or it doesn't count.
Nope, many people reach intensepleasure long before that.
Fisting is about depth andexpansion, not about a number of
knuckles.
Number three is one of the mostfrustrating myths about fisting
(05:07):
.
Fisting makes you loose.
That is some patriarchalgarbage we are throwing out
today.
The vagina is incrediblyelastic.
It's designed to stretch andrebound With arousal and care.
It expands, afterwards itcontracts.
The vagina is a giant muscleand, like any other, it can be
(05:29):
stretched and then it returns toits original shape.
When an athlete stretches theircalf muscle, it doesn't stay
stretched long, it contractsback to its original shape and
functions even better.
A woman who enjoys fisting isnot ruined, she's just capable.
This is not about broken bodies.
This is about expansivepleasure.
(05:52):
The next myth is it's rare,freaky or not something real.
People do this one's important.
Fisting is way more common thanpeople think, but you don't
hear about it because it'swrapped in shame.
Many women try it, many womenlove it, but most never talk
about it.
They're afraid of being judged,called loose, called extreme.
(06:14):
So it stays hidden and thatsilence keeps other women from
exploring it too.
So let's consider this episodea public unshaming.
Now that you know what fistingis, we've dispelled some of the
myths.
We've talked about the sciencebehind it.
Let's jump into our how-to Stepone prep like a pro you are
(06:36):
going to need to wash your hands, trim and file your nails.
No excuses, have those hands inreally good shape.
If you have calluses, I'm goingto have you buff those off.
We want a nice smooth handthat's not going to create any
scratching or tearing upon entryand or exit.
Lube is a non-negotiable Use.
(06:59):
A ton Silicone-based is bestfor longevity.
And finally, check in.
Make sure you are both anenthusiastic yes and in a good
headspace.
There is no rushing this.
Step two start with a yonimassage.
Foreplay is a must here and Ihighly recommend the yoni
(07:20):
massage Also.
I have already done a video onthat.
I'm going to tag it below ifyou want a step-by-step how-to
for a yoni massage that willhave her begging for your fist.
This phase is he.
It sets the tone for everythingthat comes next.
So step three we're going tobegin internal play First.
(07:45):
Start with adding one and thentwo fingers and gently exploring
.
Feel how her body reacts to you, both inside and out.
You may feel the G-spot startto swell with pleasure.
You may feel her begin to getwetter.
(08:07):
You may also start to feel someexpansion start to happen, a
widening of the vaginal canal.
The next thing you can do isstart to stimulate the G-spot.
You can use the come hithermotion.
I'm not a big fan of how it'sbeen taught in the past.
I like to tell people to usemore of a tapping motion.
(08:29):
You're tapping against thatG-spot and saying hello and
asking if it wants more, andthen, as she starts to get more
excited, you can lengthen yourstrokes and begin to stimulate
the A-spot which is deeperinside of her.
Breathe with her through thisprocess, read her cues.
(08:52):
Only move forward if she'sfully aroused and relaxed.
As her body expands, you can addfingers slowly, three, then
four, using the duckbill shape,fingers together, thumb tucked
in.
You are going to ask forpermission every step of the way
(09:15):
.
Ask her yes and no questions.
Does this feel good?
Would you like more?
Would you like deeper?
Does this feel good?
Would you like more?
Would you like deeper?
Step four is adding externalstimulation.
This is only going to make itfeel better.
You don't have to rely oninternal pressure alone While
you're inside.
Try rubbing her external clitwith your thumb or free hand.
(09:37):
You can add oral stimulationduring the buildup.
A vibrator over her clit orpubic mound can add rhythm to
the whole experience.
Let her guide the movement bygrinding into your hand.
Combining external withinternal stimulation often leads
to stronger orgasms andemotional release.
(10:00):
Step five is full entry.
Once you've built up to fourfingers, pause, let her feel the
stretch.
This is a great opportunity toencourage her, especially if
she's a little bit on the praisekink side.
You can throw out a good girl.
You can ask her to open for youand praise her as her body
(10:23):
begins to bloom on the inside.
That adds just this extra sexytouch that is going to make her
feel more connected with you andfeel like you are gaining
pleasure from the wholeexperience too.
If she gives the green light,rotate your wrist slightly, use
(10:45):
a slow, curved motion to slidein.
Follow the shape of her body,not your idea of what should
happen.
So you're going to move withthe shape of her body and as her
body is opening, you're goingto feel where space is opening
up that you can move into Again.
You're going to do this slowly,with care, and make sure that
(11:07):
there's no catching or pullingthat is going to cause pain or
damage to her body.
The key here is steady,sustained pressure, not
thrusting.
So step six is what do you doonce you are inside.
You are going to keep your handrelaxed, your energy grounded.
(11:28):
You can try pulsing gently.
You can rock the base of yourpalm into her G spot.
You can hold still and let hermove against you.
Continue talking to her.
Ask her what she wants.
Some women not all will enjoymore of a thrusting motion.
But don't go straight tothrusting without asking her
(11:51):
first.
Usually what happens is she'llstart pushing against you,
thrusting against you.
That's your cue to start movinginto her in more of a thrusting
type of motion.
Once you are fully involved inthe experience, cue into her.
You can continue talking to her.
(12:11):
Or perhaps she needs yoursilence and stillness so that
her body can open and receiveyou.
This is not the time for you tocheck out in any way.
This is where the deepconnection takes place.
This is not the time for you tocheck out in any way.
This is where the deepconnection takes place.
This is where the surrenderhappens.
This is where you give her thegift of an experience that she
(12:33):
will not forget anytime soon.
The next step is what to do whenshe orgasms.
This is incredibly important.
When she starts shaking,moaning, crying or going quiet,
that's your cue to stay steady.
Keep the pressure consistent.
Hold her body with your freearm.
(12:53):
Don't change anything unlessshe tells you to.
You can also whisper somethinggrounding Say I got you.
Just ride it out Again.
Reaffirm Good girl, if shelikes a good girl.
This is a really wonderful timeto say it in a low, steady,
(13:14):
grounding, reverent voice.
Pro tip, your arm and yourwrist might get really tired.
You may need to support it withyour other arm.
Sometimes you can use your bodyas a prop or to help you
continue thrusting if your armis getting tired, but this is
(13:37):
the moment for you to put yourfull self into it.
You are running a marathon andyou are almost to that glorious
finish line.
The final step is how to pullout Once she's orgasmed.
You are not done.
This step is crucial.
Do not pull out fast.
That can cause a lot of pain,especially if her body is still
(14:01):
clenched down on you.
Instead, you can curl yourfingers slightly, slowly rotate
your hand on exit.
Let her body guide you back outgently.
Her body will help you.
You will feel it pushing youout.
Pro tip, the exit can feel asintimate as the entry.
(14:25):
So stay present, stay with herand enjoy what you have
accomplished.
Finally, aftercare this is nota step to be bypassed.
Fisting can be intense,emotionally and physically, for
both of you.
Trust me, if you are on thegiving end, this is an
(14:47):
incredible experience.
You will experience a high domspace, if you will, of your own,
once your hand is out.
Something I love to do that Ithink is really sweet and
helpful, is to just place mypalm over the vulva and allow
(15:07):
the nerves to settle.
Of course, ask her, make surethis is something that she wants
.
You should know in advance whatis going to feel good to her.
If you are unsure, perhaps holdher, help her nervous system
settle, come back to center.
She might want to be embraced.
(15:29):
She might want you to give herspace and go get her water,
something to drink, maybesomething to eat.
She may just want to sit thereand breathe together.
But after fisting, I highlysuggest some communication, a
debriefing, if you will Talkabout what it felt like for her,
what it felt like for you, whatdid she like, what would she
(15:54):
like to do differently in thefuture, what felt really really
good and what maybe didn't hitthe right spot.
This will make your nextexperience even better and bring
you closer together.
It's the moment where you canreally bond and feel how
(16:14):
incredible the experience trulywas.
Most importantly, honor whathappened, don't minimize it.
So if you've been curious aboutfisting or maybe afraid of it,
I hope this helped you see thepotential for what it really is
Not a kink badge, not a pornstunt, but a deep, intentional,
vulnerable, pleasurable way toconnect with somebody's body.
(16:36):
When done right, fisting can behealing.
It can unlock orgasms that noother act has.
It can bring you so much closerto the person you're holding.
In the next episode, I'mbringing in a sex therapist
who's going to talk about theemotional, therapeutic and
relational side of fisting.
You're not going to want tomiss it, so make sure you're
(16:59):
subscribed and that you tune inon Wednesday or if you're
watching this in the future.
After both episodes have dropped, you can scroll down to the
notes section of this episodeand you're going to find a link
to that episode as well.
If you have questions orcomments about fisting or
anything I've said in thisepisode, please feel free to
(17:19):
send me your questions.
You can drop them in thecomments section below the video
on YouTube.
If you're one of my listeners,you can head over to my YouTube
channel at TalkSexWithAnette anddrop a comment below the video,
or you can email me at Annetteat TalkSexWithAnettecom.
You can also scroll down to thespeak pipe link below and send
me a voice message.
(17:39):
And if you are looking for acheerleader or a wing woman, if
you will, on your own pleasurejourney, my sex and intimacy
coaching books are open and Iwould love to work with you.
You can find out more aboutthat on my website,
talksexwithanettecom.
I hope you enjoyed thistutorial, that your next or
(18:02):
first fisting experience isincredible.
So until next time I'll seey'all in the locker room.
Cheers.
Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here.
Nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think, raw, honest andsometimes unapologetically
raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you, and if
(00:40):
you're new, welcome to mypodcast.
Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk, sex with Annette.
Topic is fisting how to do itright, why it's incredible and
(01:01):
what most people get wrong.
Let's talk about the sex actthat gets treated like a joke in
porn, a punchline in the groupchat and a hell no in the
average bedroom.
Fisting and to be clear, thisepisode is all about vaginal
fisting.
Anal fisting is a wholedifferent topic with very
different prep, safety steps andanatomy.
(01:22):
That's not today.
If the word fisting makes yourbody tighten or your brain
spiral into porn scenes andimpossible positions breathe.
That's not what we're doinghere.
Fisting, when done right, isnot about pain or shock.
It's about surrender, trust.
Render trust, deep, slowsensation and, yes, mind-blowing
(01:50):
, full-body pleasure.
This episode is your real-worldguide to vaginal fisting what
it is, why it works and thescience behind the pleasure.
What myths we need to burn andhow to do it right, step by step
, and, of course, finally, howto bring someone all the way to
orgasm, then care for them after.
Listen, your fisting tutorialdoes not end there.
In my next episode, I am joinedby a queer kink, affirming sex
(02:14):
therapist, who works with womenand couples exploring fisting
for healing, release andpleasure.
It's a full Fisting 101 expertedition.
But for now, you've got me.
So I want to remind you thatyou can find me over on OnlyFans
, where I am sharing my sex andintimacy how-tos and
demonstrations.
Yes, there may eventually evenbe one on fisting.
(02:35):
I'm also sharing myaudio-guided self-pleasure
meditations and so much more.
All of this is designed to helpyou start experiencing deeper,
more fulfilling pleasure withyourself or someone else.
You can find me there with myhandle at TalkSexForTheNight.
You can also scroll down to thenotes below this episode, and
(02:57):
I'm going to give you links tofind me wherever well, wherever
you want to, but for now, let'sdive in to fisting Cheers.
So here's why fisting isn'talways what you think it is.
Fisting doesn't always mean afull fist.
In fact, for many people, itnever does.
(03:18):
It can mean a partially closedhand using the duckbill shape
with the first or secondknuckles inserted, and for some
that's already more internalstimulation than they've ever
experienced before.
And it can be incredible.
Fisting isn't about force.
It's about slow, intentionalstretch.
It's about being fully presentwith someone's body as they open
(03:41):
up from the inside out.
It's about rhythm, consistency,trust and for many women it's
the only kind of penetrationthat gives them the kind of
orgasm they've been craving butcouldn't explain.
And here's the science.
One study in the Journal of SexResearch found that deep
(04:01):
internal pressure can createheightened emotional and
physical arousal, especiallywhen it bypasses the fast
friction-based movements andshifts into slow, full hand
touch.
Neurologically, this kind ofstimulation activates the
parasympathetic nervous systemresponsible for safety, calm and
(04:22):
release, which is why fistingisn't just physically intense,
it's emotionally intimate.
Here are some common myths aboutfisting.
Let's burn them one by one.
The first one is that onlykinky people fist.
Not true.
Plenty of people who don'tidentify as kinky explore
fisting.
For them, it's about depth,slowness, surrender or intensity
(04:47):
, not dominance or edge play.
Number two it has to be a fullfist or it doesn't count.
Nope, many people reach intensepleasure long before that.
Fisting is about depth andexpansion, not about a number of
knuckles.
Number three is one of the mostfrustrating myths about fisting
(05:07):
.
Fisting makes you loose.
That is some patriarchalgarbage we are throwing out
today.
The vagina is incrediblyelastic.
It's designed to stretch andrebound With arousal and care.
It expands, afterwards itcontracts.
The vagina is a giant muscleand, like any other, it can be
(05:29):
stretched and then it returns toits original shape.
When an athlete stretches theircalf muscle, it doesn't stay
stretched long, it contractsback to its original shape and
functions even better.
A woman who enjoys fisting isnot ruined, she's just capable.
This is not about broken bodies.
This is about expansivepleasure.
(05:52):
The next myth is it's rare,freaky or not something real.
People do this one's important.
Fisting is way more common thanpeople think, but you don't
hear about it because it'swrapped in shame.
Many women try it, many womenlove it, but most never talk
about it.
They're afraid of being judged,called loose, called extreme.
(06:14):
So it stays hidden and thatsilence keeps other women from
exploring it too.
So let's consider this episodea public unshaming.
Now that you know what fistingis, we've dispelled some of the
myths.
We've talked about the sciencebehind it.
Let's jump into our how-to Stepone prep like a pro you are
(06:36):
going to need to wash your hands, trim and file your nails.
No excuses, have those hands inreally good shape.
If you have calluses, I'm goingto have you buff those off.
We want a nice smooth handthat's not going to create any
scratching or tearing upon entryand or exit.
Lube is a non-negotiable Use.
(06:59):
A ton Silicone-based is bestfor longevity.
And finally, check in.
Make sure you are both anenthusiastic yes and in a good
headspace.
There is no rushing this.
Step two start with a yonimassage.
Foreplay is a must here and Ihighly recommend the yoni
(07:20):
massage Also.
I have already done a video onthat.
I'm going to tag it below ifyou want a step-by-step how-to
for a yoni massage that willhave her begging for your fist.
This phase is he.
It sets the tone for everythingthat comes next.
So step three we're going tobegin internal play First.
(07:45):
Start with adding one and thentwo fingers and gently exploring
.
Feel how her body reacts to you, both inside and out.
You may feel the G-spot startto swell with pleasure.
You may feel her begin to getwetter.
(08:07):
You may also start to feel someexpansion start to happen, a
widening of the vaginal canal.
The next thing you can do isstart to stimulate the G-spot.
You can use the come hithermotion.
I'm not a big fan of how it'sbeen taught in the past.
I like to tell people to usemore of a tapping motion.
(08:29):
You're tapping against thatG-spot and saying hello and
asking if it wants more, andthen, as she starts to get more
excited, you can lengthen yourstrokes and begin to stimulate
the A-spot which is deeperinside of her.
Breathe with her through thisprocess, read her cues.
(08:52):
Only move forward if she'sfully aroused and relaxed.
As her body expands, you can addfingers slowly, three, then
four, using the duckbill shape,fingers together, thumb tucked
in.
You are going to ask forpermission every step of the way
(09:15):
.
Ask her yes and no questions.
Does this feel good?
Would you like more?
Would you like deeper?
Does this feel good?
Would you like more?
Would you like deeper?
Step four is adding externalstimulation.
This is only going to make itfeel better.
You don't have to rely oninternal pressure alone While
you're inside.
Try rubbing her external clitwith your thumb or free hand.
(09:37):
You can add oral stimulationduring the buildup.
A vibrator over her clit orpubic mound can add rhythm to
the whole experience.
Let her guide the movement bygrinding into your hand.
Combining external withinternal stimulation often leads
to stronger orgasms andemotional release.
(10:00):
Step five is full entry.
Once you've built up to fourfingers, pause, let her feel the
stretch.
This is a great opportunity toencourage her, especially if
she's a little bit on the praisekink side.
You can throw out a good girl.
You can ask her to open for youand praise her as her body
(10:23):
begins to bloom on the inside.
That adds just this extra sexytouch that is going to make her
feel more connected with you andfeel like you are gaining
pleasure from the wholeexperience too.
If she gives the green light,rotate your wrist slightly, use
(10:45):
a slow, curved motion to slidein.
Follow the shape of her body,not your idea of what should
happen.
So you're going to move withthe shape of her body and as her
body is opening, you're goingto feel where space is opening
up that you can move into Again.
You're going to do this slowly,with care, and make sure that
(11:07):
there's no catching or pullingthat is going to cause pain or
damage to her body.
The key here is steady,sustained pressure, not
thrusting.
So step six is what do you doonce you are inside.
You are going to keep your handrelaxed, your energy grounded.
(11:28):
You can try pulsing gently.
You can rock the base of yourpalm into her G spot.
You can hold still and let hermove against you.
Continue talking to her.
Ask her what she wants.
Some women not all will enjoymore of a thrusting motion.
But don't go straight tothrusting without asking her
(11:51):
first.
Usually what happens is she'llstart pushing against you,
thrusting against you.
That's your cue to start movinginto her in more of a thrusting
type of motion.
Once you are fully involved inthe experience, cue into her.
You can continue talking to her.
(12:11):
Or perhaps she needs yoursilence and stillness so that
her body can open and receiveyou.
This is not the time for you tocheck out in any way.
This is where the deepconnection takes place.
This is not the time for you tocheck out in any way.
This is where the deepconnection takes place.
This is where the surrenderhappens.
This is where you give her thegift of an experience that she
(12:33):
will not forget anytime soon.
The next step is what to do whenshe orgasms.
This is incredibly important.
When she starts shaking,moaning, crying or going quiet,
that's your cue to stay steady.
Keep the pressure consistent.
Hold her body with your freearm.
(12:53):
Don't change anything unlessshe tells you to.
You can also whisper somethinggrounding Say I got you.
Just ride it out Again.
Reaffirm Good girl, if shelikes a good girl.
This is a really wonderful timeto say it in a low, steady,
(13:14):
grounding, reverent voice.
Pro tip, your arm and yourwrist might get really tired.
You may need to support it withyour other arm.
Sometimes you can use your bodyas a prop or to help you
continue thrusting if your armis getting tired, but this is
(13:37):
the moment for you to put yourfull self into it.
You are running a marathon andyou are almost to that glorious
finish line.
The final step is how to pullout Once she's orgasmed.
You are not done.
This step is crucial.
Do not pull out fast.
That can cause a lot of pain,especially if her body is still
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clenched down on you.
Instead, you can curl yourfingers slightly, slowly rotate
your hand on exit.
Let her body guide you back outgently.
Her body will help you.
You will feel it pushing youout.
Pro tip, the exit can feel asintimate as the entry.
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So stay present, stay with herand enjoy what you have
accomplished.
Finally, aftercare this is nota step to be bypassed.
Fisting can be intense,emotionally and physically, for
both of you.
Trust me, if you are on thegiving end, this is an
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incredible experience.
You will experience a high domspace, if you will, of your own,
once your hand is out.
Something I love to do that Ithink is really sweet and
helpful, is to just place mypalm over the vulva and allow
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the nerves to settle.
Of course, ask her, make surethis is something that she wants
.
You should know in advance whatis going to feel good to her.
If you are unsure, perhaps holdher, help her nervous system
settle, come back to center.
She might want to be embraced.
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She might want you to give herspace and go get her water,
something to drink, maybesomething to eat.
She may just want to sit thereand breathe together.
But after fisting, I highlysuggest some communication, a
debriefing, if you will Talkabout what it felt like for her,
what it felt like for you, whatdid she like, what would she
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like to do differently in thefuture, what felt really really
good and what maybe didn't hitthe right spot.
This will make your nextexperience even better and bring
you closer together.
It's the moment where you canreally bond and feel how
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incredible the experience trulywas.
Most importantly, honor whathappened, don't minimize it.
So if you've been curious aboutfisting or maybe afraid of it,
I hope this helped you see thepotential for what it really is
Not a kink badge, not a pornstunt, but a deep, intentional,
vulnerable, pleasurable way toconnect with somebody's body.
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When done right, fisting can behealing.
It can unlock orgasms that noother act has.
It can bring you so much closerto the person you're holding.
In the next episode, I'mbringing in a sex therapist
who's going to talk about theemotional, therapeutic and
relational side of fisting.
You're not going to want tomiss it, so make sure you're
(16:59):
subscribed and that you tune inon Wednesday or if you're
watching this in the future.
After both episodes have dropped, you can scroll down to the
notes section of this episodeand you're going to find a link
to that episode as well.
If you have questions orcomments about fisting or
anything I've said in thisepisode, please feel free to
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send me your questions.
You can drop them in thecomments section below the video
on YouTube.
If you're one of my listeners,you can head over to my YouTube
channel at TalkSexWithAnette anddrop a comment below the video,
or you can email me at Annetteat TalkSexWithAnettecom.
You can also scroll down to thespeak pipe link below and send
me a voice message.
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And if you are looking for acheerleader or a wing woman, if
you will, on your own pleasurejourney, my sex and intimacy
coaching books are open and Iwould love to work with you.
You can find out more aboutthat on my website,
talksexwithanettecom.
I hope you enjoyed thistutorial, that your next or
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first fisting experience isincredible.
So until next time I'll seey'all in the locker room.
Cheers.
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