How to Handle Her Body Like a Man Who Knows What He’s Doing

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Turn touch into trust. Grip into pleasure. And make her feel so safe, she’ll come undone in your hands.

Most men think they know how to touch a woman—but if you’ve ever wondered why she isn’t melting into your hands, moaning before the sex even starts, or coming back for more? This episode is your wake-up call.

I’m breaking down the 5 specific steps every man needs to know to handle a woman’s body with confidence, clarity, and emotional precision—from the first touch to the final stroke.

This isn’t about domination or rough sex. This is about physical intelligence—the kind that makes her feel wanted, safe, and deeply desired. Backed by sex science, psychology, and 20+ years of intimate coaching work, I’m giving you the exact roadmap for:

• Waking up her body before you even undress her
• Using contrast and stillness to create tension that drives her wild
• Moving her like a partner, not a porn clip
• Anchoring her during sex so she can let go
• And how to touch her after—so she never forgets you

Whether you’re new to sex or seasoned but ready to level up, this one is for you.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:19):
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(00:40):
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Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annettetopic is how to handle her body
like a man who knows what he'sdoing.

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Let me ask you something haveyou ever had a woman, say God,
the way you touched me?
I felt like I couldn't move, ormaybe I didn't expect that to
turn me on so much.
If not, you're about to changethat, because today I'm teaching
you how to handle her body likea man who knows exactly what

(01:22):
he's doing.
We're not talking aboutdominance or rough sex.
This isn't about performingsome porn move or turning her
upside down.
This is about using your hands,your presence and your movement
to create a sexual experiencethat makes her body feel wanted,
safe and fully awakened.
The truth is, a lot of mendon't know how to touch a woman.

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They touch too fast, too lightor too mechanical, and women
don't say anything, they justavoid coming back.
But when you learn to handleher with confidence, clarity and
physical certainty, she melts.
She moans before you even touchher clit.
She wants to give youeverything.

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Why?
Because women crave the feelingof being held physically, yes,
but also emotionally.
They want to feel like they canlet go because you've got her
and you get her, her body, herpleasure, the moment.
And that's what we're buildingtoday Five specific steps that

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teach you how to handle her bodyin a way that makes her feel
safe, turned on and deeplydesired, from the moment your
hands land to the moment she'sbreathless beneath you.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans, where I am sharing mysex and intimacy how-tos and
demonstrations, audio guidedself-pleasure meditations and so

(02:50):
much more, in an effort to helpyou experience better intimacy
and more pleasure in your life.
So you can find me over therewith my handle at
TalkSexWithNight.
You can also find me onSubstack, where I'm sharing a
lot of the same and so much more, and also I'm over there under
the handle at TalkSexWithAnette.

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You can also scroll down to thelinks below and find me
wherever you want to get intouch with me.
But for now, let's get ready toturn touch into trust, grip
into pleasure and to become theman who stays on her mind and
under her skin for days.
Cheers, all right, let's dive inwith step number one.
Let her feel your presencebefore you even touch her.

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This is where most men go wrong.
They touch too soon, grabbingher chest, her ass, going in
like it's a race.
But women's bodies don'trespond like light switches.
They respond like sound systems.
You've got to turn up thevolume gradually.
Here's what to do Approach herslowly, come up behind her when

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she's in the kitchen or leaningagainst the bed.
Don't speak, just hover yourhand near her lower back, her
hip or her neck.
Let your chest breath, brushher skin first.
When you finally place yourhand down, do it like you mean
it.
Why does this work?
It creates anticipation, itshows control, it tells her I

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see you, I want you and I'm notrushing.
Neuroscience shows that slow,intentional touch activates
C-tactile fibers which triggeremotional pleasure, not just
sensation, and emotionalanticipation builds dopamine.
So before you've even touchedher nipples or her clit, her
brain is already lighting up.
This kind of presence doesn'tsay I want to get off.

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It says I want to feel you.
Step two use this touch patternfirm, then soft, then still.
So do this.
Start with a firm hold, grabher hip, the back of her neck or
her inner thigh, notaggressively, just confidently.

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Then shift into a slow, softerstroke.
Slide your hand down her spineor along her waist, then pause.
Rest your hand there, just stay.
Then pause.
Rest your hand there, just stay.
Here's why it works.
Most guys use only one kind oftouch Too much pressure and she
tenses, too little and she tunesout.

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But when you switch betweenfirm, soft and still, you wake
up her whole body.
Research shows that variationin pressure stimulates different
parts of the nervous system,and stillness, especially
stillness with skin contact,creates emotional safety and
that's what leads to deeperarousal and even more intense

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orgasms.
So try this line while holdingher, still Don't move.
I just want to feel you.
It will melt her.
Step three lead her body withyours, not just with your dick.
You want to be the kind of manwho makes her feel safe to
surrender.

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You've got to lead with yourbody.
That means when you'repositioning her, don't just poke
or push.
Guide her with your whole frame.
This is a dance.
Use your chest to press heragainst the wall.
Use your thighs to nudge hersapart.
Use your arm to wrap around herand draw her hips into yours.

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Here's why this works, becauseshe doesn't just want to be
touched.
She wants to be moved, notyanked or thrown.
Moved like she's dancing withsomeone who knows the steps.
This step is about physicalintelligence, about letting her
feel that you know what her bodyneeds before she even tells you

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.
Studies on partnersynchronization show that
coordinated body movementincreases emotional bonding and
sexual satisfaction.
So don't just grind, guide.
Make her feel like your body issculpting hers into place.
Doesn't that sound hot face?

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Doesn't that sound hot?
Step four anchor her during sexso she can come undone.
This is where handling reallyshows up.
Too many guys focus onthrusting, pounding or lasting
longer, but if you want her tolet go really let go you have to
anchor her nervous system whileher body is trying to go wild.
Here's how Keep one handwrapped around her waist, hold
her steady, use your breath deepand close to her ear.

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Let her hear how turned on youare.
If you're in missionary, slideone hand under her lower back.
If she's on top, grip herthighs and guide her rhythm.
Here's why it works.
Arousal brings up vulnerability,and a woman can't climax fully
if she doesn't feel emotionallysafe.

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Handling her here isn't aboutpinning, it's about holding her
through the intensity.
That's why kink practices likerole play and impact play often
have such emotional results.
It's not the pain or the power,it's the containment.
You can create the same effectjust by keeping your body

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wrapped around hers and lettingher feel you.
So try using this line for thismoment, I've got you.
Let it happen.
Do not say come for me, haveyou come?
Come now.
Let it happen takes thepressure off her orgasm and

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allows her to just unravel andunleash.
Now we're to step five, andthis one is so important.
The aftertouch that seals thememory.
What you do after sex is partof the experience, full stop.
This is where a lot of mencheck out.
They come, they roll off, theygrab their phone.

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But if you want her to rememberyou, to feel emotionally lit up
after, this is your goldenwindow.
Do this Slide your hand downher ribcage or her waist, slowly
Tuck her into you.
Say something specific about herbody how she tasted, how she
moved, what made you losecontrol.

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Here's why it matters.
The female brain is built formeaningful memory.
When you close the loop withreverence, when you handle her
with awe, not just hunger, sheremembers.
Oxytocin release after orgasmis higher in women and paired
with emotionally intelligenttouch, it creates a deeper pair

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bonding even after casual sex.
So try saying this after I'mnot done thinking about this or
about you.
Don't be the guy that wastesthis important time.
Aftercare is everything to awoman and it is the most

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powerful impression that youwill leave her with.
Either she'll be done with youor she'll want to keep coming
back.
So here's your challenge thenext time you touch her, touch
her like you know.
You know her body, know themoment, know the weight of what
it means to hold a woman withconfidence, because when you

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handle her like a man who knowswhat he's doing, she'll let go
like a woman who's been waitingfor someone to finally get it
right.
Now.
If you are looking for a wingwoman or someone to support you
in your own intimate life,whether that's just experiencing
more pleasure or having aricher, more satisfying and

(11:03):
successful intimate life with apartner, my books are open.
I'm offering intimacy and sexcoaching and you can work with
me.
You can find out more aboutthat on my website,
talksexwithanettecom, or you canreach out to me via email at
Annette at TalkSexWithAnettecom.
Of course, you can scroll downto where you are going to find

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all the links to find mewherever you want to find me.
Thanks for listening.
I hope this helped.
This is Talk Sex With Annette,where desire meets disruption
and sometimes the hottest thingyou can do is simply know where
to place your hand.
Until next time, I'll see y'allin the locker room.

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Cheers.