June 9, 2025 • 14 mins
This Pride Month, we’re celebrating one of the most iconic, empowering, and downright delicious acts: face sitting. Whether you call it queening, throne work, or just your favorite seat in the house—this episode is your step-by-step guide to doing it with confidence, control, and unapologetic joy.
We’ll break down:
- What face sitting actually is—and why it’s more than just a sexy pose
- The myths that keep people (especially femmes and queers) from fully enjoying it
- How to find the best angles, rhythm, and positions for your body
- How to build confidence (yes, even if you’re self-conscious about weight, smell, or taking control)
- Why the science of pressure, dominance, and anticipation makes this one of the most erotic power moves in partnered sex
This episode is for vulva owners who want to own their pleasure, and for lovers of all genders who want to give their partner a front-row seat to ecstasy.
Because during Pride—and always—pleasure is protest. And sitting on their face? That’s how you start the revolution. 💋
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Do the sex pleasure and desire Around.
Here.
Nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you.
And if you're new, welcome tomy podcast.
(00:42):
Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annette.
Topic is how to sit on a facelike you mean it.
June is here and that meansit's Pride Month, so in this
(01:02):
episode we're breaking down howto sit on a face like you mean
it.
And yes, I mean fems, queers,doms, switches, pillow
princesses, power bottoms andcurious first timers alike.
Face sitting isn't just aboutoral sex.
It's about taking up space,claiming your pleasure and
literally placing it front andcenter.
(01:23):
Pleasure and literally placingit front and center.
So whether you're straddling apartner with a beard, a baby
face or a vulva of their own,this episode will give you the
confidence, angles, rhythm andmindset to make an experience
neither of you will forget.
But before we dive in, let meremind you that I am over on
OnlyFans and there I'm sharingmy intimacy how-tos and
(01:45):
demonstrations, along with audioguided self-pleasure
meditations.
I'm also on Substack doing awhole lot of the same.
You can find me in both placeswith my handle at TalkSucks with
an N, and of course, you canfind all the links you need to
find me anywhere you want to ifyou scroll down to the notes
section of this episode.
(02:08):
But for now, let's dive in.
I'm ready to talk about facesitting, cheers.
Let's start by answering thequestion.
Some of y'all are too shy toask what exactly is face sitting
?
At its core, it's a form oforal sex where one partner
straddles the other's face sothey can stimulate the clit,
vulva, anus or penis with theirpartner's mouth.
(02:31):
Depending on the body partsinvolved and the dynamic between
the partners, it can be softand slow, or dominating and
feral.
But face-sitting isn't justanother position.
It's intimate, it's intense,it's primal.
Here's why it's such a turn-onfor so many people.
First, visuals plus power play.
(02:54):
The partner underneath gets anup-close, front-row view of your
most vulnerable, powerful self.
It's overwhelming in thehottest way.
Second, there's a controlexchange.
Whether you're doing thesitting or being sat on, the
roles can shift betweendominance and surrender.
It's full of juicy, powerdynamics.
(03:16):
You know I love those.
And then there's the sensoryoverload being smothered by
thighs, breathing in scent,taste, heat.
For many it's intoxicating.
The anticipation and visualstimulation of face-sitting can
spike dopamine and oxytocinlevels, for both.
Partners found that beingengulfed by a partner's genitals
(03:47):
through acts like face-sittingcan intensify feelings of
closeness, submission andarousal in participants across
gender orientations.
Let's bust some myths aboutface-sitting, especially for
femmes.
I want to clear the nonsenseand your internalized messaging
about face-sitting so you canget to enjoying it as soon as
possible, like tonight.
(04:08):
So myth number one allsuffocate him.
You won't.
You're not made of bricks.
Your partner can tap out signalwith a squeeze or shift if they
need air.
Most want to be overwhelmed and, let's be honest, they're not
there to breathe.
Pro tip if you're sitting on apartner with a beard or mustache
(04:29):
, grind it gently and tilt yourhips.
Facial hair creates deliciousfriction, but only if you're
moving with intention.
It can also get uncomfortable,real quick.
Myth number two I'm too heavy.
No, you're not.
This one's rooted in fat phobiaand shame.
Your body deserves pleasure.
If you're anxious, hovering isan option, but you're allowed to
(04:53):
fully sit and let go.
I promise your partner's gonnalove it.
Myth number three it's toodominant.
For me, face sitting is a gift,whether you're in control or
receiving.
It's a celebration of mutualdesire.
You're not being too much,you're being delicious.
Get in that mind frame.
(05:16):
Sit with confidence.
First of all, another name forface sitting is queening.
So it's time to think like aqueen.
But let's get into step one.
For becoming a queen and sittingon your proper throne First,
set the scene.
(05:36):
Props help Place a pillow underyour partner's head or a wedge
to elevate their face.
If needed, light a candle, cuethe playlist and decide if
you're hovering or fully sitting.
Now, for some people, there arealso alternatives.
If you've got achy or bad knees, weak hips, this isn't going to
(05:57):
keep you from being a queen andsitting on your throne.
In fact, there are stools andchairs out there that are
designed specifically forqueening.
You can sit upon your throne.
There is a hole in the bottomwhere your partner can slide
under and have their face rightwhere it needs to be.
I'll make sure to share somelinks below and on my sub stack,
(06:21):
so if you're interested, well,you can go shopping for your own
throne.
Here's why it's important tomake sure you have all the right
props and you've set the scenebefore you start.
Comfort reduces performanceanxiety, which can increase
natural lubrication and deepenarousal.
It's also going to make it awhole lot easier for your
(06:42):
parasympathetic nervous systemto settle and do what it needs
to do so you can make your wayto those big delicious O's that
your partner's waiting for.
Step two is to mount like aqueen or a deity of choice, if
you prefer.
First kneel with your thighsstraddling their face, then tuck
(07:03):
your hips forward slightly togive better access to your clit
and vulva.
You can rest your hands on aheadboard or thighs for balance,
if needed.
Another face sitting positionthat you can use, especially if
you are a penis owner or you'reface sitting with one, is that
you can reverse it and let yourbackside drape over their face
(07:25):
while your legs frame theirshoulders.
Reverse cowgirl style and, formy trans friends and non-binary
lovers, adjust for comfort Ifyou've got bottom growth,
hormone-related changes or justunique anatomy, work with what
feels right.
You get to define what facesitting looks like for you.
(07:46):
The next step is to find yourrhythm.
You're going to start slow andlet your partner explore with
their tongue, grind in microcircles back and forth or rock
gently If you want to tease,lift to hover and lower again.
If you want to dominate, holdtheir head in place and ride
(08:07):
their face like it owes you rent.
Pro tip audio stimulation likeyour words or deep, commanding
moans, plus clitoral pleasureequals a blend of anticipation
and climax.
Studies show that this combolights up both the reward and
sensory motor systems in thebrain Translation.
(08:30):
It's hot and satisfying.
Face-sitting or queening isn'tjust about receiving.
The givers are important too.
So here are some tips forgiving.
When you're the one underneath,if your partner is sitting on
your face, lucky you.
Here's how to turn it into amasterpiece.
Use your whole mouth, tongue,lips and even slight sucking, or
(08:54):
more if they ask for it orcommand it.
Play with pressure and texture.
Don't forget hands.
Grab their thighs, Grip theirass, help guide them.
Another hot tip moan into them.
(09:15):
The vibrations alone can throwthem into an orgasm.
And my last hot tip, which isone of my favorite, is look up
Eye contact from under a leveror as erotic and emotional as
fuck.
It's hot when you're the one onthe bottom and it's even hotter
when you're the one on top.
And finally, let's not forgetaftercare.
Aftercare isn't just for kinkscenes, it's for any intense act
(09:38):
, face-sitting can be physicallyand emotionally intense and
intimate.
So here are some things you cando for aftercare.
And of course, you're alwaysgoing to want to ask your
partner ahead of time what theyneed.
But make sure to talk afterward.
Talk about what felt good andwhat you would want more of next
(10:00):
time.
Of course, don't forget tohydrate and it never hurts to
have some sexy snacks waitingfor you afterwards.
Also, be open to giggling,laughing about the experience,
especially if it's the firsttime.
It can feel really vulnerableand humor always helps sort of
(10:20):
break that discomfort and letyour partner know that
everything's okay.
Make sure to reassure eachother, especially if this is a
first time.
That's going to help you bondand ensure that you get to
experience a second time and athird and a fourth.
So here's your Talk.
Sex with Annette pleasurechallenge for the week.
(10:42):
Face it like you mean it.
Whether it's your first time oryour 50th, I want you to own it
.
Take up space, guide the rhythmand see what happens when you
stop worrying about being toomuch and start focusing on being
worshipped.
And if you're solo right now,don't worry, I'm not leaving you
out.
Try straddling a pillow, a toyor just practicing the motions
(11:07):
in front of a mirror to buildthat confidence.
You're allowed to turn yourselfon.
I do it all the time.
If you're ready to turn up thevolume on your sex and intimacy
game, check out my full libraryof how-to episodes and sex ed
guides on my YouTube channel.
If you're a listener of thispodcast, you can find me with my
(11:30):
handle at TalkSexWithAnette.
Or talk to me about my sex andintimacy coaching services.
I am a great wing woman and Iwant to support you on your
pleasure journey.
You can find out more about myservices at
TalkSexWithAnnettecom or emailme at Annette at
(11:50):
TalkSexWithAnnettecom.
If you're looking for thatperfect toy but you don't know
what to buy, if you scroll downto the description below, you
are going to find links to allmy favorite brands and stores
below, along with my VIPdiscount codes.
Feel free to use them and savelots of money on all of your
orgasms and make sure you'rereceiving my hottest weekly sex
(12:15):
and intimacy tips.
You can make sure to receivethem by subscribing to my
e-newsletter and my Substack.
You can find me on Substack atat TalkSexWithAnette, and there
you're going to unlock VIPcontent and my VIP discounts
that are for my loyal listeners,viewers and readers.
(12:35):
And, of course, don't forget tocheck out my intimacy how-tos
and demos and my audio guidedself-pleasure meditations.
All of this content is designedto help you have a better
intimate life with your partnerand with yourself, starting
tonight.
So until next time, sit like aqueen or a deity and let me know
(12:59):
how it goes.
I'll see y'all in the lockerroom.
Cheers.
Do the sex pleasure and desire Around.
Here.
Nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you.
And if you're new, welcome tomy podcast.
(00:42):
Where desire meets disruptionand pleasure becomes power.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annette.
Topic is how to sit on a facelike you mean it.
June is here and that meansit's Pride Month, so in this
(01:02):
episode we're breaking down howto sit on a face like you mean
it.
And yes, I mean fems, queers,doms, switches, pillow
princesses, power bottoms andcurious first timers alike.
Face sitting isn't just aboutoral sex.
It's about taking up space,claiming your pleasure and
literally placing it front andcenter.
(01:23):
Pleasure and literally placingit front and center.
So whether you're straddling apartner with a beard, a baby
face or a vulva of their own,this episode will give you the
confidence, angles, rhythm andmindset to make an experience
neither of you will forget.
But before we dive in, let meremind you that I am over on
OnlyFans and there I'm sharingmy intimacy how-tos and
(01:45):
demonstrations, along with audioguided self-pleasure
meditations.
I'm also on Substack doing awhole lot of the same.
You can find me in both placeswith my handle at TalkSucks with
an N, and of course, you canfind all the links you need to
find me anywhere you want to ifyou scroll down to the notes
section of this episode.
(02:08):
But for now, let's dive in.
I'm ready to talk about facesitting, cheers.
Let's start by answering thequestion.
Some of y'all are too shy toask what exactly is face sitting
?
At its core, it's a form oforal sex where one partner
straddles the other's face sothey can stimulate the clit,
vulva, anus or penis with theirpartner's mouth.
(02:31):
Depending on the body partsinvolved and the dynamic between
the partners, it can be softand slow, or dominating and
feral.
But face-sitting isn't justanother position.
It's intimate, it's intense,it's primal.
Here's why it's such a turn-onfor so many people.
First, visuals plus power play.
(02:54):
The partner underneath gets anup-close, front-row view of your
most vulnerable, powerful self.
It's overwhelming in thehottest way.
Second, there's a controlexchange.
Whether you're doing thesitting or being sat on, the
roles can shift betweendominance and surrender.
It's full of juicy, powerdynamics.
(03:16):
You know I love those.
And then there's the sensoryoverload being smothered by
thighs, breathing in scent,taste, heat.
For many it's intoxicating.
The anticipation and visualstimulation of face-sitting can
spike dopamine and oxytocinlevels, for both.
Partners found that beingengulfed by a partner's genitals
(03:47):
through acts like face-sittingcan intensify feelings of
closeness, submission andarousal in participants across
gender orientations.
Let's bust some myths aboutface-sitting, especially for
femmes.
I want to clear the nonsenseand your internalized messaging
about face-sitting so you canget to enjoying it as soon as
possible, like tonight.
(04:08):
So myth number one allsuffocate him.
You won't.
You're not made of bricks.
Your partner can tap out signalwith a squeeze or shift if they
need air.
Most want to be overwhelmed and, let's be honest, they're not
there to breathe.
Pro tip if you're sitting on apartner with a beard or mustache
(04:29):
, grind it gently and tilt yourhips.
Facial hair creates deliciousfriction, but only if you're
moving with intention.
It can also get uncomfortable,real quick.
Myth number two I'm too heavy.
No, you're not.
This one's rooted in fat phobiaand shame.
Your body deserves pleasure.
If you're anxious, hovering isan option, but you're allowed to
(04:53):
fully sit and let go.
I promise your partner's gonnalove it.
Myth number three it's toodominant.
For me, face sitting is a gift,whether you're in control or
receiving.
It's a celebration of mutualdesire.
You're not being too much,you're being delicious.
Get in that mind frame.
(05:16):
Sit with confidence.
First of all, another name forface sitting is queening.
So it's time to think like aqueen.
But let's get into step one.
For becoming a queen and sittingon your proper throne First,
set the scene.
(05:36):
Props help Place a pillow underyour partner's head or a wedge
to elevate their face.
If needed, light a candle, cuethe playlist and decide if
you're hovering or fully sitting.
Now, for some people, there arealso alternatives.
If you've got achy or bad knees, weak hips, this isn't going to
(05:57):
keep you from being a queen andsitting on your throne.
In fact, there are stools andchairs out there that are
designed specifically forqueening.
You can sit upon your throne.
There is a hole in the bottomwhere your partner can slide
under and have their face rightwhere it needs to be.
I'll make sure to share somelinks below and on my sub stack,
(06:21):
so if you're interested, well,you can go shopping for your own
throne.
Here's why it's important tomake sure you have all the right
props and you've set the scenebefore you start.
Comfort reduces performanceanxiety, which can increase
natural lubrication and deepenarousal.
It's also going to make it awhole lot easier for your
(06:42):
parasympathetic nervous systemto settle and do what it needs
to do so you can make your wayto those big delicious O's that
your partner's waiting for.
Step two is to mount like aqueen or a deity of choice, if
you prefer.
First kneel with your thighsstraddling their face, then tuck
(07:03):
your hips forward slightly togive better access to your clit
and vulva.
You can rest your hands on aheadboard or thighs for balance,
if needed.
Another face sitting positionthat you can use, especially if
you are a penis owner or you'reface sitting with one, is that
you can reverse it and let yourbackside drape over their face
(07:25):
while your legs frame theirshoulders.
Reverse cowgirl style and, formy trans friends and non-binary
lovers, adjust for comfort Ifyou've got bottom growth,
hormone-related changes or justunique anatomy, work with what
feels right.
You get to define what facesitting looks like for you.
(07:46):
The next step is to find yourrhythm.
You're going to start slow andlet your partner explore with
their tongue, grind in microcircles back and forth or rock
gently If you want to tease,lift to hover and lower again.
If you want to dominate, holdtheir head in place and ride
(08:07):
their face like it owes you rent.
Pro tip audio stimulation likeyour words or deep, commanding
moans, plus clitoral pleasureequals a blend of anticipation
and climax.
Studies show that this combolights up both the reward and
sensory motor systems in thebrain Translation.
(08:30):
It's hot and satisfying.
Face-sitting or queening isn'tjust about receiving.
The givers are important too.
So here are some tips forgiving.
When you're the one underneath,if your partner is sitting on
your face, lucky you.
Here's how to turn it into amasterpiece.
Use your whole mouth, tongue,lips and even slight sucking, or
(08:54):
more if they ask for it orcommand it.
Play with pressure and texture.
Don't forget hands.
Grab their thighs, Grip theirass, help guide them.
Another hot tip moan into them.
(09:15):
The vibrations alone can throwthem into an orgasm.
And my last hot tip, which isone of my favorite, is look up
Eye contact from under a leveror as erotic and emotional as
fuck.
It's hot when you're the one onthe bottom and it's even hotter
when you're the one on top.
And finally, let's not forgetaftercare.
Aftercare isn't just for kinkscenes, it's for any intense act
(09:38):
, face-sitting can be physicallyand emotionally intense and
intimate.
So here are some things you cando for aftercare.
And of course, you're alwaysgoing to want to ask your
partner ahead of time what theyneed.
But make sure to talk afterward.
Talk about what felt good andwhat you would want more of next
(10:00):
time.
Of course, don't forget tohydrate and it never hurts to
have some sexy snacks waitingfor you afterwards.
Also, be open to giggling,laughing about the experience,
especially if it's the firsttime.
It can feel really vulnerableand humor always helps sort of
(10:20):
break that discomfort and letyour partner know that
everything's okay.
Make sure to reassure eachother, especially if this is a
first time.
That's going to help you bondand ensure that you get to
experience a second time and athird and a fourth.
So here's your Talk.
Sex with Annette pleasurechallenge for the week.
(10:42):
Face it like you mean it.
Whether it's your first time oryour 50th, I want you to own it
.
Take up space, guide the rhythmand see what happens when you
stop worrying about being toomuch and start focusing on being
worshipped.
And if you're solo right now,don't worry, I'm not leaving you
out.
Try straddling a pillow, a toyor just practicing the motions
(11:07):
in front of a mirror to buildthat confidence.
You're allowed to turn yourselfon.
I do it all the time.
If you're ready to turn up thevolume on your sex and intimacy
game, check out my full libraryof how-to episodes and sex ed
guides on my YouTube channel.
If you're a listener of thispodcast, you can find me with my
(11:30):
handle at TalkSexWithAnette.
Or talk to me about my sex andintimacy coaching services.
I am a great wing woman and Iwant to support you on your
pleasure journey.
You can find out more about myservices at
TalkSexWithAnnettecom or emailme at Annette at
(11:50):
TalkSexWithAnnettecom.
If you're looking for thatperfect toy but you don't know
what to buy, if you scroll downto the description below, you
are going to find links to allmy favorite brands and stores
below, along with my VIPdiscount codes.
Feel free to use them and savelots of money on all of your
orgasms and make sure you'rereceiving my hottest weekly sex
(12:15):
and intimacy tips.
You can make sure to receivethem by subscribing to my
e-newsletter and my Substack.
You can find me on Substack atat TalkSexWithAnette, and there
you're going to unlock VIPcontent and my VIP discounts
that are for my loyal listeners,viewers and readers.
(12:35):
And, of course, don't forget tocheck out my intimacy how-tos
and demos and my audio guidedself-pleasure meditations.
All of this content is designedto help you have a better
intimate life with your partnerand with yourself, starting
tonight.
So until next time, sit like aqueen or a deity and let me know
(12:59):
how it goes.
I'll see y'all in the lockerroom.
Cheers.
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