Are People Taking Advantage of Your Kindness?

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Are people constantly pulling on your kindness, your time, or your wallet—and leaving you drained? In this episode, we break down what really happens when your generosity gets exploited and how to protect yourself without becoming cold, rude, or defensive. If you’ve ever felt guilty saying “no,” this conversation gives you the clarity and confidence you’ve been missing.

We unpack the real problem: takers, emotional manipulation, shifting stories, and guilt tactics designed to make you say yes before you even process the request. You’ll learn a simple decision-making system to vet every ask—check for specifics, look for patterns, pause before agreeing, and protect your energy with smarter boundaries.

Then we get practical. You’ll hear ready-to-use scripts for saying no, redirecting people to actual resources, and shutting down repeat behavior without an argument. We also talk about the power of supporting reputable charities with real transparency so your kindness goes where it truly matters.

This episode is your boundary reset. You’ll walk away knowing how to hold your line, keep your peace, and still be a generous person—without getting used, drained, or manipulated.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:15):
What up, what up, what up, what up?
It's Big Slick and welcome toTalk Your Shit.
Yo, check it out.
We got another great episode foryou today.
But first, I want to give ashout out to all my listeners.
Whether you at home, at work, inyour car, all the truck drivers
on the road.

(00:35):
I appreciate you tuning in.
Yo, check this out.
We got another great episode.
I got another letter in that I'mgoing to read after I finish
reading it.
I'm going to give you my honest,uncut, raw opinion about it.
And I don't care if you like itor not.
So let's dive right in and seewhat we got for the day.

(00:57):
When people take advantage ofyour kindness, I like helping
people, I like helping others,but some people exploit my
generosity.
How do I protect myself withoutseeming mean?
Well, that's first of all, Ijust want to say it's a great
thing that you like helpingpeople.

(01:19):
But the thing is, you gotta helpthe people that's good people.
You can't just help anybody.
That's what I feel like.
You know, it's a lot of peopleout here that that need help,
but a lot of people are not goodpeople, man.
You know what I'm saying?
And a lot of people just takeadvantage of it, and some people
don't even really need help,they just take advantage of good

(01:40):
people that they know they canget help from, which is bad
because that messes us up, itmesses it up.
Let me get my shit right forpeople that actually need help,
right?
So I I you know I truly dislikepeople that take advantage of
good people, you know.

(02:01):
I I I you know that that shitirks my nerves, man.
That's like bullying, you knowwhat I'm saying?
Now, and I'm the type of dudethat like to slap fire out of
bullies.
So if you if you're a goodperson and and you being
generous and trying to helppeople and they taking advantage
of you, that that's terrible.
And the way you can stop that isreally know the people that

(02:22):
you're helping, right?
So if you if this is you talkingabout individual people that
you're helping, sometimes youyou might get get to know the
person first, right?
Before you start helping them,so they won't, so you can
actually know what's going on sothey can't take advantage of
you, right?
That's that's what I would do,my honest opinion.

(02:42):
And another way that you canhelp people is just give to a
charity, you know.
It's numerous charities out herethat you can give to the where
you don't have to worry aboutyou know, individual people
taking advantage of you, youknow, and make sure it's a
reputable charity because we gotsome of those that's out here

(03:03):
that'll rip people off too.
So make sure you're giving ityou know to the right people so
it can get to the right people,you know.
I'm saying that you can helppeople like that, but that's how
you protect yourself.
And the thing about seemingmean, forget about it's okay,
it's okay to be mean sometimes.
I'm I'm getting a lot of lettersin that you know, people who

(03:26):
don't want to seem mean or theydon't like you know, a little
slight confrontation.
Sometimes you have to do that toprotect yourself, you know.
Sometimes you have to be alittle confrontational, and I'm
not and confrontational don'tmean you you going up and
slapping fire out of somebody.
That's you know, it can be youstanding your ground and letting

(03:48):
people know if they're doingsomething wrong to you that you
will not tolerate it.
It's okay with drawing lines inthe sand, it's okay with setting
boundaries to protect yourself,especially when you're out here
doing a good deed to helppeople, and then you got people
taking advantage of you.
So it's okay to be mean, sodon't worry about being mean.

(04:10):
Some people deserve that, theythey deserve for you to be mean
for you to be mean to thembecause they're using you and
taking advantage of you.
So that's how you do it.
Address the situation and keepit moving.
And you know, you want to helpeverybody, but the bad thing is

(04:31):
that everybody doesn't deserveyour help, they just don't, you
know, it's just like that.
We live in a world like thatwhere people take advantage of
good people, and that's sad, butthat's what happens, you know,
and it is it's not good at all.
But I wouldn't worry about beingmean at all because if you you

(04:52):
know, people exploiting yourgenerosity, then they're
actually being mean to you,right?
So stand your ground and keep itmoving and help the ones that
need the help, don't just be,you know, blindly, you know,
just helping anybody, you know,actually put it in the hands of

(05:13):
the people that truly deserve itand need it, and go to these
charities.
And if and if it's hard for youto screen certain people to know
how they are, go to thesecharities and give there, and
that's the best way to do it.
But being mean, hey, sometimesyou got to do it, and I I have
no problem doing it at all.

(05:35):
So do it sometimes, I'm tellingyou, stress-free, you'll feel
good about it too.
So these people that's actinglike this, go out to them and
let them know you're not havingit no more because you just
listened to talk your shitpodcast.
You got information from BigSlick.
Tell them Big Slick sent you.
That's what you need to do.

(05:56):
Listen, y'all, it's been anothergreat episode of Talk Your Shit.
And if you want to be a part ofthe show, you can send your
email into talk your shit dailyat gmail.com.
That's talk your shit daily atgmail.com.

(06:16):
I'll pull your letter, put it ona show, and give you my uncut,
raw, unfiltered truth, whetheryou like it or not, because
that's what I do.
This is big slick, and I'm outin pace.