Are You Really My Friend or Just Using Me?

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Ever feel like your friendship has turned into a transaction? In this episode of Talk Ya Sh!t Daily, Big Slick unpacks the emotional and financial stress that comes when a friend constantly asks for money, advice, or favors—and how to set healthy boundaries before resentment builds.

You’ll learn how to say no without guilt, when lending money crosses the line, and how to protect your peace without losing a good friend. We also talk about the difference between emotional support and financial strain, and how clear communication can save your friendship.

Whether you’ve been the “go-to” friend or the one in need, this episode offers practical advice, boundary-setting scripts, and mindset shifts that help you support others without draining yourself.

👉 Listen now to learn:

• How to tell when generosity turns into pressure
• Why lending to friends often backfires
• How to say no with empathy and confidence
• Healthier ways to help without handing over cash

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:11):
Now let's talk about it.
What up, what up, what up?
This is Big Slick and welcome toTalk Your Shit.
As always, we got another greatepisode for you today.
But first, I want to give ashout out to all my listeners,
whether you at home, at work, inyour car, or all the truck

(00:32):
drivers on the road tuning in.
I appreciate you listening.
Look, we got another letter toread off that somebody emailed
in to the Let's Talk About itletter.
We're going to jump right intoit.
This is what I'm going to do.
I'm going to read the letteroff, and then I'm going to give
you my honest, uncut, rawopinion on it because that's
what I do.

(00:52):
Let's check it out.
Let's see what we got.
My friend only calls when heneeds something.
All right.
I've known him for years, butlately he only reaches out when
he wants advice or favor, mostlymoney.
I feel used.
Should I pull back or tell himhow I feel?
That's a good question.

(01:13):
So if you knew this person foryears and all of a sudden out
the blue, they're asking you fora lot of favors.
Who knows?
They might be having a roughpatch right now, they're going
through in their life whereyou're the closest one to them
that they can reach out to andask favors for, right?
So they said you said they askedfor advice.
Now that's a good thing.

(01:33):
So if you got a close friendthat's asking you for advice,
that's good.
You should give it to him orher.
Give them that advice becausethey think highly of you anyway.
If they asking you for advice,so that means they see something
in you and they feel like you'reyou're knowledgeable enough to
give them some good advice.
So I wouldn't be too concernedthat he's asking you for a lot

(01:58):
of advice now.
That's that's actually a goodthing, and you should be honored
that somebody is coming to youfor that type of advice.
So I wouldn't be concerned aboutthat.
The thing I would be concernedabout is the favors, and you
saying the favors is mostlymoney.
Now that's a little bitconcerning because you know,
once you start either, and Idon't know if you loaning the

(02:21):
money or you giving them money,your friend.
So I don't know which one it is.
Either way, once you're dealingwith a friend and you start
involving money situations whereyou're loaning it to him or
giving it to him, the situation,you know, it's it can become a
little crazy.
So, first of all, if it'sdealing with money, me

(02:44):
personally, I wouldn't loan afriend money.
I just wouldn't.
If I got it, I'd give it to youbefore I loan it to you, right?
Because one thing I'm not gonnado is chase you behind some
money that you owe me.
So if I got it, I'd rather giveit to you.
If I don't got it to you, if Idon't got it to give to you,

(03:05):
then you just ain't getting it.
That's just the way it is.
You it's it is what it is,you're not getting it.
You know what I'm saying?
But so if they're asking formoney, another thing is so if
you're loaning it to them andthey ain't paying you that money
back, now that's another story.
You know, that's a differentsituation.
You might want to cut this off,you know what I'm saying?
Because the quickest way to findout if somebody really using you

(03:27):
for something is if theyloaning, if they're getting
money from you and not payingyou back, then you already know
that's bullshit.
So whatever they look you loanedthem, that little fifty dollars
or twenty-five dollars, youloaned them.
It was worth it to find out thatyour friend was full of anyway,
you know.
I'm saying, so it's all good.
You ain't really lose nothing.
You paid$25 to figure out or$50this to see how what type of

(03:52):
person this person is.
But again, you said you knew youknow this person for years, so
it might be a rough patch, man.
Times are hard out here rightnow.
You know, everybody needs alittle bit of help, so maybe
that's what it is, you know,asking for favors, and and you
know, I don't I don't reallyknow all the favors is.
I know you put in here money isone of them, so all that might

(04:17):
be based around you know, timesis is is is a little rough.
So, you know, people are leaningon loved ones and friends for
help.
So I would what I would do issee how long, and you're saying
it's reoccurring, like so.
Ask the question first, right?
I don't know how long it's beengoing on, but you just like

(04:38):
recently it's been happeningmore frequently.
So just ask this your friend,ask him, like, yo, what's going
on, man?
I you know, I noticed that youknow you've been needing money,
you know.
What's you know, what's yoursituation?
Who knows?
You might have got laid up froma job or or or something like
that, and didn't say nothingabout it.
Maybe his hours got cut short.

(04:59):
You never know what somebody'sgoing through unless you ask
them.
So I would just ask the friend,see what the situation is, and
then go from there.
Now, if the friend don't got nosituation going on, guess what?
You're getting pimped, player.
He pimping you because he's beenpimping since pimping, since
pimping.
That's what's going on.

(05:20):
You're getting pimped.
If it's no real financialsituation, then he's just
pimping you and leaning on youand asking you for favors
because you're a bobblehead andyou're gonna say yes to
everything.
You know, this is what happens,man.
Sometimes you can't be nice toeverybody, even friends at a
certain point.
If you don't set boundaries andlimitations, you know, they

(05:42):
they'll run over you, and itjust happened.
It's just human nature, man.
Everybody tests the waters tosee how far they can go with
certain situations.
But if you draw that line, thatline in the sand and let them
know, hey, yo, bro, you can't beasking me for for dough all day
and not paying me back or nah.
Better yet, just say no.
I don't got it, I don't have it,right?

(06:02):
You say no enough times, peoplewill stop asking you, right?
They'll find another resource togo get that money.
They'll stop asking you forfavors all day if you start
saying no, because now you'restarting to feel like you're
being used.
So start saying no.
First step, ask, see what'sgoing on.

(06:23):
If it's not a legitimate answeror some bullshit, and you know
with somebody trying to throwbullshit at you, then what you
do?
You fall back, you drawlimitations, let them know, nah,
you can't get no more bread.
I ain't doing no more favors.
You know, I'm not out, I'm notout here getting pimp.
You're trying to use me, youknow, and you fall back.

(06:46):
And if and if your so-calledfriend is doing that, that's not
really a friend, so you might aswell cut them off anyway.
So that's what I would do.
Ask the question, see what theanswer is.
If it's bullshit, cut themotherfucker off, fall back,
keep it moving, no big deal.
Because if you don't, you'regonna keep on getting used,

(07:09):
you're gonna keep on gettingpent, and that's basically what
it is.
So cut it short, keep it moving,confront them, and that's the
end of that.
You already know what it is.
It's big slick.
Listen, if you want to be a partof the show, just email in to

(07:30):
talk your shit daily atgmail.com.
That's talk your shit daily atgmail.com.
Right?
I'll pull your email, put it onthe show, give you my honest,
uncut, unfiltered, raw opinionabout it, because that's what I

(07:55):
do.
Again, this is Big Slick.
It's been another episode ofTalk Your Shit, and I'm out at
the pace.