Why Men Suffer In Silence?

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The quiet rules we give to boys—don’t cry, be tough, shake it off—grow into heavy armor that men carry for years. Big Slick pulls that armor apart with straight talk on why silence isn’t strength and how speaking up can actually be the bravest move in the room. We unpack where the script starts, how it hardens into habit, and what it costs when rage, stress, and shame spill into work, love, and family. Big Slick walks through real ways to change course without feeling corny or exposed. From choosing one trusted person to call, to using simple breathing or journaling drills, to trying therapy if you’re ready, the focus stays practical and honest. If your circle is solid, your people will hold space; if they don’t, we talk about building a tighter network that protects your truth. For Black men carrying extra daily battles, we name the weight and offer tools to unload it without losing your edge. By the end, you’ll have a blueprint: recognize the old messages, replace them with emotional courage, and take small daily reps that build real strength. No lectures, no fluff—just the reminder that protecting and providing also means protecting your health and providing your voice. Hit play, share this with someone who needs it, and tell us: what belief about emotions are you letting go of today? If the show hits home, follow, leave a review, and send your story to [e-mail] so we can read it on air.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:15):
What up, what up, what up, what up?
It's your boy Big Slick, andwelcome to another episode of
Talk Your Shit.
First, I want to give a shoutout to all the listeners.
Whether you're home, at work, inyour car, or you're a truck
driver on the road, I appreciateyou tuning in.

(00:35):
Let's jump right into it.
Today's show is about men thatsuffer in silence.
It's about mental health.
And let's check this out, man.
Me personally, I think thisstarted from when a man is a
child.
Right?
Because when you're young, thefirst thing you hear is, Oh,

(00:55):
don't cry, be a big boy.
Don't cry.
So you're getting taught not tobe shown emotions early at an
early age to show no emotions.
Yo, don't cry, dust it off.
You ain't hurt.
You know what I'm saying?
So now what happens is that youbecome a young man doing the

(01:16):
same thing, not showing anyemotions whatsoever, right?
We know that's not a good thingbecause you're going through a
lot as a young man anyway.
What ends up happening is thatyou crash out, right?
Or if you make it past thatstage, you become a grown man
that's holding all theseemotions in, and you end up

(01:37):
crashing out, right?
So this is the thing, man.
A lot of times men don'tcommunicate what's going on
because it shows vulnerability,right?
And vulnerability is supposed tobe a sign of weakness, right?
Which is really not, but that'sthe misconception.

(01:59):
You know, I'm saying that wehave as men, we were taught not
to show our true feelings.
And if it ain't some, you know,hard, rough, you know, something
that's dealing with you know,physical or something like that,
then it's considered soft.
So if you you're talking aboutsome type of emotion you
showing, you considered weak.
So a lot of men don't show thoseemotions, which affects them

(02:23):
through life, right?
But again, you're taught to dothat at a young age.
So as a man, this is somethingyou gotta correct yourself as
you get older because nobody isnot going to correct it for you,
even society, you know, teachesyou that way, your parents are
teaching you that way, the youknow I'm saying, depending on

(02:44):
now, I'm not saying all parentsdo that, but the majority teach
young men, young boys really tonot show emotions.
They might not mean to do it,but if a if a little boy fall
down and hurt itself, and youtelling him, like, yo, that
don't hurt, wipe it off, stopcrying, then you're teaching

(03:05):
them not to show emotions.
You know what I'm saying?
They become grown men that don'tshow emotions.
So, what do we do now with a lotof men that's holding us in,
that's actually suffering insilence.
You know, to me personally, Ithink the best thing you should
do is to talk to somebody, talkto a loved one, talk to your,
you know, your wife, yourfriends, your homeboys.

(03:27):
Now, sometimes a lot of mendon't talk to their homeboys
about sensitive topics, youknow, that might be considered
vulnerable because now theydon't want their homeboys
thinking they soft.
But I'll tell you like this ifthis is truly your friend, he
wouldn't think you're softbecause he probably going
through the same thing you goingthrough about communicating

(03:50):
certain emotions that might havetranspired when you were a young
man.
A lot of times, these things wehold since we were kids, it
never really discussed it withnobody.
So you become a man holding onto these emotions that happened
when you were a child.
So, you know, a lot of times,like I said, men don't want to

(04:12):
talk to a homeboy or somethinglike that.
Because they might be like, Oh,what's this dude talking about?
Man, he's soft, man.
What are you talking about whenhe was a kid?
Nobody paid attention to him, sonow he seeks attention, or you
know, guy looking at you likeyou're crazy.
But again, if you got a tightcircle and it's somebody truly
your friend, they'll listen toyou.
Now, you got a wife or agirlfriend, she should be close

(04:36):
enough to you that she'll listento you as well, right?
If that's who you with andthat's who you love, you should
be able to open up to her likethat.
And then again, we we'll showthat showing emotions is a sign
of weakness or showing certainthings, you're being vulnerable,
but that's actually a sign ofbeing strong, that's a sign of

(04:57):
strength when when when you canshow emotions, you know, and
still hold it down, you know,not thinking you're weak because
you're doing this, becauseyou're not weak, you're actually
stronger.
It's actually easier to notcommunicate, it's easier to hold
stuff in than to unpack it andget it out, you know.
And that and as men, that's whatwe need to start doing.

(05:18):
Stop holding on to all thisstuff.
Because as a man, and personallyas a black man, it's already
hard enough for you, man.
Time you leave out the house,it's challenges that's right in
your face every day.
Now you carrying extra baggagefrom when you were a child or
you know, teenager, or whateverit is, would or you could be

(05:39):
carrying baggage from you frommanhood.
You need to you need to get thatoff your chest, man.
You you need to talk to somebodyabout it.
Whether you seek professionalhelp, you know, a lot of people,
you know, don't want to go to ato a therapist and talk to them,
you know, which I understand.
It's not for everybody.
I'm not even trying to say thatit's for everybody to you know

(06:00):
that's what you should do, butit works for a lot of people.
There might be something thatyou can go and do, you know.
I'm saying to get it off yourchest, but I'm just saying, you
don't want to crash out, so youneed to communicate these things
because it's a lot of men that'ssuffering in silence, man.

(06:20):
And we already go through a lotalready.
We just do that's just pointblank.
So why carry on with stuff wedon't need to carry?
Release it, let it go, keep itmoving.
I know it's easier said thandone.
I know I'm saying it like, ohyo, like it's so simple.
It's not simple, but it's babysteps, you know.

(06:44):
Work your way towards it becauseI guarantee you you'll feel much
better when you release some ofthis stuff, man.
We already know we got toprotect and provide.
That's already built in our DNA.
If you're a real man, that'sbuilt in your DNA.
You you you know, that's that'sthere, you're gonna do that.
You're you're you're trained todo that.

(07:05):
That's what's supposed tohappen.
A lot of people don't have that,but that's what's supposed to
happen, right?
Now, communicating stuff issomething that's not building
our DNA, but that's something wehave to learn and know that it's
okay to do.
So basically, man, I'm I'm gonnatell you like this, man.
If you're holding on to a lot ofstuff, get it off your chest

(07:28):
because what's gonna happen thatnow this causes health issues,
this causes stress.
You know, stress causeseverything, high blood pressure,
all types of things going on,you know, when you hold in all
this stuff, it leads to a lot,it leads to drinking.
A lot of people turn todrinking, a lot of people turn
to drugs, you know, when theyholding on to stuff, and the

(07:50):
root cause can be because you'renot communicating this stuff, so
you seek something else to drownit out, and that's what happens
a lot of times, and it runs intoissues, right?
And if it ain't, you know,drinking or or or drugs or
something, it might be you gotanger issues, you get angry
quick, right?

(08:12):
Around the house, around thekids, around family, you just
snap and you know, stuff likethat.
It's a lot of ways that thisthing plays out when you carry
around this extra baggage thatyou need to get off your chest.
So I'm saying it like this, man.
Get it off your chest, talk tosomebody close, man.

(08:33):
Don't suffer in silence, bro.
You know what I'm saying?
Handle your business, and that'swhat it is.
It's been another great episodeof Talk Your Shit.
You know what I'm saying?
Big slick keeping it on apositive note, man.
You know, mental health isserious.
Go get that help, man.
You know what I'm saying?

(08:53):
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I give you my honest, uncut, rawopinion, whether you like it or

(09:20):
not.
I'm gonna give you the truthbecause that's all I know how to
do.
It's been another great episode,man.
Holler at your boy, it's big,slick, and I'm out.
Pace.