Dating apps. New relationship energy. Getting paid for your time. In this first episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my expectations of dating, romance, and emotional labor. From valuing my time to filtering partners like my client applicants, I unpack why I still date—and what I refuse to give away for free.
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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:21) - Sex Work VS Dating
(01:20) - A Changed Dating (App) Landscape, but Similar Motivations?
(02:50) - The Emotional Benefits of Both
(04:50) - How Getting Paid Taught Me About My Value and Gave Me Choice
(06:30) - Why I Still Date (for free); Entertainment and Aesthetic
(08:42) - How I Keep Dating Relevant in a Frivolous Culture
(11:05) - My Dating Application Process
(13:55) - The Disadvantage of Unpaid Dating Labour
(15:15) - Oxytocin, New Relationship Energy and Infatuation
(17:00) - The 'Neatness' of Getting Paid
(17:40) - Wasting My Resource and Being Valued
(20:00) - A Cis-Het Lens Focus, for now
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