Kyle Mooney

Kyle Mooney (SNL) is Ego's dad for the day as they discuss the sports to theatre to improv pipeline, learning lessons of being a new dad, and Ego seeks advice on how to find a good Primary Care Physician.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
This is a headgum podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi guys, I'm May goodam, and welcome to Thanks Dad.
Try to look engaged while I do it.

Speaker 3 (00:17):
At least, oh I thought I was like good like,
I'm like not even here?

Speaker 1 (00:19):
Made no, no, no, Maybe you can be momplicated. You
don't have to. You don't have to.

Speaker 3 (00:24):
Don't do too much though either, I got you.

Speaker 2 (00:27):
Okay, don't do too much, just do the right amount. Okay, Hi,
I made him, and welcome to Thanks Dad. I was
raised by a single mom and don't have a relationship
with my dad. I'm not gonna have a relationship with
my dad because he actually did go ahead and pass
away last year.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
That sucker, So on this podcast.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
That's not.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
Were you not sure if you should Why was it?
Why was it whispered?

Speaker 2 (00:53):
Was it because you weren't sure if you should offer
condolences at all? Or you were concerned about interrupting the
the intro. You were to concern about interrupting the intro,
but you did want to offer your condolences. Do you
want to take the time now to say sorry to
me about not interrupting the loss of my father?

Speaker 3 (01:09):
Yeah, no, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, and I'm and I
know I would imagine it's made more complicated by your
relationship or non relationship with him.

Speaker 2 (01:19):
It's thank you, you know, it's it's actually the truth
is it's so uncomplicated that sometimes I'm like, oh, people
are probably.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
Concerned about how uncomplicated it is.

Speaker 2 (01:33):
So that makes sense where I you know, I feel,
I'm like, I don't you know, I feel very like
death this part of life. Yeah, I read that I
don't know, seven years ago or something. I go, oh, yeah,
and why are we Yeah, so it's okay, but it's okay.

Speaker 3 (01:45):
I do Yeah, how did you become aware that he passed?

Speaker 2 (01:49):
My mom told me, and then his cousin, who's my uncle,
who i'd know and have known since I was a kid,
called me, like I would say, a month after my
mom told me what she also found out late, so
he probably had been passed at that point for at
least I'm going to guess a month.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
That is my guess. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
And then my uncle was like, oh, you may not
feel anything, and I was like, yeah, I don't really
thank you for offering that as a I don't know
why I feel like thank you. I'm like sort of
like thanks, because you make me not feel weird for
not feeling anything and not like I'm like associo, you know,
because I'm like, yeah, he was like, you may also
not feel anything. Yeah, I was at a spa in

(02:29):
QC spa on Randall's Island, Randall Lot, Randall's Island in
New York. It's I don't know what it stands for.
That's I feel like queen something I don't know, but
I made that up. I don't actually even I don't know.
You could google do the rest of the intro if
you if you want quality.

Speaker 3 (02:46):
Control spat on other circumstances.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
QC is quality control. By the way, Queen, thank you, Thanks.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
King again O King. So on this podcast, I'm sitting
down with father figures who are old enough to be
my dad. How does it feel to be one of
the oldest guys ever cast in Saturday Life.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
There's no way that's true.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
We were in college at the same time. I think
we overlapped at USC. We didn't know each other.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
What year did you finish?

Speaker 1 (03:12):
I finished twenty ten? How about you? Two eight oh seven?

Speaker 2 (03:15):
Okay, yeah, yeah, overlapped, but I wasn't. In the comedy
space world. I didn't do any of the things.

Speaker 3 (03:21):
I know. You've always come from like a different angle,
and I've always respected that.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yeah, is that ernest? No? Okay?

Speaker 2 (03:28):
Sitting down with father figuers who are old enough to
be my dad or are just dads themselves, Kyle, I'll
get to ask questions I've always wanted to ask a dad,
like Hey Dad, how do I know if this guy
is the one for me? Or Hey Dad, what should
I look out for when buying a car? Will you
come with me? Or Hey dad, teach me how to
change my oil? I think that's something I should know.
Or change a tire? Do you know how to change

(03:49):
a tire?

Speaker 1 (03:49):
You looked at me like you looked at me. You
nodded so affirmatively, but that I was like, he doesn't know.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
Supporting you?

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Okay, but do you know how to change a tire?

Speaker 3 (04:01):
I can't.

Speaker 2 (04:01):
Do you know to change oil? I have, okay, but
you don't feel confident in your ability?

Speaker 1 (04:08):
I would.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
I would maybe need like a YouTube tutorial reminder.

Speaker 1 (04:12):
Okay, fair enough, it's pretty pretty easy.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
I remember the dipstick.

Speaker 2 (04:17):
Everyone knows the dipstick everyone, but I don't know what
it means.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
I don't know how to gauge anything.

Speaker 2 (04:23):
Okay, anyway, today's guest Guys is a comedian, actor, and director.
He's shimmying a little bit for those just listening. You
can check out his new movie Y two K later
this year. Please welcome My Dad for the Day, Kyle Mooney.

Speaker 3 (04:42):
Oh so excited to be here.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
I'm so happy you're here, Kyle.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
Yeah, he's in the house.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
Kyle.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
Do you have to do stuff like.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
That when they come on?

Speaker 2 (04:53):
No, you're a first, You're first and excited the most
excited to be my dad for the day.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
I'm a goofy dad today. Yeah, I'm sorry.

Speaker 3 (05:04):
I need my spectacles. Okay, I'm good.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
Imagine me with a dad like that.

Speaker 3 (05:11):
I like change that oil. Who I'm messing with you?
Go ahead, let's start.

Speaker 2 (05:16):
Shut up guy, Okay, but Kyle, what was your dad like?
We made a video for your dad wants to celebrate.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
He was he was being honor.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
Won a very prestigious award for planning. Yeah, and could
have been the APA the American Planning Association. Is that
a real association, Yeah, but they're they're other ones. That's
just the one.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
Planning what, by the way, just just for the.

Speaker 3 (05:42):
Audience, cities, neighborhoods, communities.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
Okay, great, yeah, yeah, okay, sorry, so.

Speaker 3 (05:48):
Yes we made but like, yeah, he I was asked to,
along with I think some other of his colleagues and
my brothers, to make a video to congratulate him. And
I made it on in the studio and try to
get as many of our castmates in it as well
the say congratulations. He he's from Massachusetts and he's very

(06:14):
proud of his sort of Cape Cod heritage.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
Is he would he call himself a masshole?

Speaker 3 (06:21):
I don't think so. I don't know that he was
like loves that term. Okay term okay, but I'll ask him.
He yeah, he works as a planner and he for
a long time owned his own planning firm. I grew

(06:42):
up it was it was Mooney and Associates, sort of
a big deal where your father has a company like
with their name.

Speaker 1 (06:50):
For sure.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
I always think about people who are like, you know,
Carnian Sons, and I'm like, do the sons feel so proud,
like earnestly like do the sons feel so proud? They're
sort of like acknowledged in the title of their their
their father's business.

Speaker 1 (07:05):
But it's Mooney and associates. So that did you feel proud?

Speaker 3 (07:08):
Yeah, it was cool to just see my last name
yeh in a somewhat prominent way.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
Yeah, But yeah, how would I describe describe? I would
say he's very he's almost like mayorioal like a mayor.
Like he loves to like talk to people, Oh, how
are you doing, Brian Mooney? Wonderful? You know. Yeah, And
he loves to talk about his work. He loves to
talk about the city of San Diego, where he's done
most of his work. He's gregarious, he's he's he's he's

(07:40):
a proud man.

Speaker 1 (07:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
Yeah. And I wouldn't say. He's been incredibly supportive of
me in my career. Notably he he purchased a video camera,
the Panasonic dv X one hundred B for myself and
my friends in college, and and that was like the

(08:05):
video camera we used to make all of our internet shorts.
So very yeah, very supportive in that regard. I wouldn't say,
and he might listen to this, so I feel a
little bad, a little nervous saying this. Yeah, I wouldn't
say he like is the funniest person on the planet.
Like I don't I don't know that him. Like, our

(08:26):
senses of humor are the exact same, so he's fully again, yeah,
fully cool with mine supportive. Sometimes I think maybe in
the past my humor has been a little too awkward.
My mother, on the other hand, was a very wacky person,
and so it's likely that I got more of that
from her. Yeah, but I think those are the main

(08:51):
bullet points.

Speaker 2 (08:52):
On Brian Okay, On Brian Mooney, that is a very
memorable name, even the way you like reenacted that, Brian Moone, it.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
Is Yeah, that is yeah, Brian Mooney, how are you. Yes,
we thought uh AGO's podcast was just outstanding in relationship
to uh, learning about her her family and where where
she's come from and uh and we thought the uh
the audition stories we were fantastic. We really really enjoyed it.

Speaker 1 (09:21):
Oh wow.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
See that's also that's a very I truly I've never
met your dad, and I'm like, I do feel like,
I'm like, ah, yes, I understand, I think, I bet,
I bet you have the Yeah, I met him at thirty.

Speaker 3 (09:31):
Rock, probably at an after party or something.

Speaker 1 (09:33):
Yeah, we do meet. We do meet a lot of people.

Speaker 2 (09:37):
Would would you say that you feel you guys have
anything in common really, because if you're like, since it's
a humor, don't assarily intersect. Is there are there things
that you go like, I definitely got that from my dad.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
Yeah, we definitely have stuff. Well, we love the Padres.

Speaker 2 (09:54):
Okay San Diego stand up, which is the dad's Okay,
Okay gets dads.

Speaker 1 (09:59):
Oh my gosh, this fits the podcast. Okay Daddy.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
I think I think we're both social people. I think
we both like people a lot, and we like to,
you know, throw them back around them both.

Speaker 1 (10:14):
Like a little Bruski is it?

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Well, he doesn't drink beer anymore because I think it
gives him gas.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
Way to put his business out. You're not worthy of
that and.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
Think I didn't like it when it came out of
my mouth.

Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yeah, Eve embarrassed the mayor. He even embarrassed the mayor.
Tell people if there.

Speaker 3 (10:29):
Was somebody recently who like works in his field, who's
a younger person, who's who I know through a friend
and was like, oh my gosh that my name came
up in a Conversation's like, oh is that Brian Mooney
is his dad?

Speaker 1 (10:44):
Right?

Speaker 3 (10:44):
He's a legend in San Diego planning?

Speaker 1 (10:46):
Wow? Yeah, how did that feel good?

Speaker 3 (10:49):
Especially because like I think my father feels that way
about himself. So like, yeah, to know that, like no
people are really saying this, I think it is special
and bringing true to that.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah idea.

Speaker 2 (11:01):
Yeah, okay, So you do feel like you're both gregarious
and something you enjoy at least talking to people, engaging
with people he was supportive of. So you want to
say something you have a thought you look like you
were geary.

Speaker 3 (11:15):
No, yes, I am gregarious, but I also I think
you said, like, I'm also shy too, so I'm probably tech.
Maybe Okay, in certain social instances I think we are similar.
But then I think also I times I can be
sort of quiet.

Speaker 1 (11:28):
Yeah, I knew, I know both kinds.

Speaker 2 (11:30):
I feel like I've seen it and say yeah totally
because I feel like I've seen both. When you you know,
he bought you this camera and your friends and you
shot a lot of your stuff on it, and he
was supportive of what you wanted to do and have done.
Do you get the sense that at any point he
like maybe would have loved for you to get into
planning or something and something more serious or No.

Speaker 3 (11:50):
I think when we were growing up, I'm the youngest
of three boys. I have two older brothers.

Speaker 1 (11:56):
Uh.

Speaker 3 (11:57):
I think there probably was a hope for him that
he could pass the business down to one of his children,
but no, I think one of my dad's big things
was getting us into sports. It was very important to
him that we, you know, learn that which comes with

(12:17):
playing in an organized sport like team, working as a team,
and that lasted through high school. We were sort of
he was kind of constantly He's like, you got to
play a sport.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
Okay, you had to get involved in a sport. Yeah,
did you How did you feel about it? Were you like?
I don't really feel like.

Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'm There was one specific maybe more, but at least
one specific instance where like I signed up for Pop
Warner football. I had a couple of friends who did it,
and I thought like, okay, this could be my thing,
Maybe I could be good at this. I was like
a little bit of a bigger kid and felt like, Okay,
I don't know a ton of people doing this, maybe

(12:52):
this is something I can be decent at. When I
played Pop Warner foot, when I went through the sort
of whatever you call that, the pre like practice, like
several practices, the building up towards whenever we'd get our
first scrimmage, right. I was so awful that and like

(13:14):
it was in like the neighboring community where I think
the kids were like a little tougher there I played.
I believe they were trying to put me in like
defensive line or something like that. There was a drill
that was like essentially just two football players run at
each other and maybe try to get past each other.
And you're like, and everybody was knocking me over to

(13:40):
a point that one of the kids came over like,
hey man, just so you know, all those guys are
making fun of you because you're like the easiest guy
to take gathered as much.

Speaker 1 (13:49):
Okay, nice.

Speaker 2 (13:51):
It also didn't need to know that the kids are
so fast.

Speaker 1 (13:55):
You need to know that.

Speaker 3 (13:56):
And that didn't make me feel good. Sure, and like
I think, yeah, he implied that they were not only
make yeh, making fun of me, but also they like
liked beating the shit out of me. And so after
that practice, I was pretty bent out of shape and
I was I told my mom, I was like, I
don't think I want to do this anymore. And Dad
did still want me to stick it out because he

(14:17):
felt like I made a commitment, which is very fair.
Yeah yeah, but I ultimately was able to get out
of it. And then in high school I played a year,
I did a year of wrestling. I did okay at that.
Then I did a year of JV volleyball. Okay, again,

(14:37):
fine with that. But my junior year it was cool
with my dad that I take drama and do sort
of and ultimately I like auditioned for the there was
a new improv troup on campus. He was cool with
that sort of being a replacement for the sports. And

(14:58):
one could argue that that sort of set forth the
rest of my life.

Speaker 1 (15:03):
And yeah, ye yeah in your trajectory when you said
you like went to your mom to be like, I
don't really want to play this pop born of football anymore,
and not did you even think to go to your
dad to tell him that, like or did you kind
of know like he's he's I think pushing me.

Speaker 3 (15:19):
So I think it probably could have been. I think, yeah,
I think yes, I think like I probably would have
led with asking my mom, though I also think she
was also like he was. It was a scenario where
like when I got home.

Speaker 1 (15:31):
She was she was the one who was there, I
got you, Okay, got it.

Speaker 2 (15:33):
And then your dad being kind of like okay with
improvs like replacing whatever sports you were doing from wrestling
to volleyball, replacing whatever sports you were doing your junior year.
Did he have like any sense or knowledge of what
improv was or was it just like okay, as long
as you're doing something.

Speaker 3 (15:50):
Honestly, I'm not sure. I mean I think we like,
you know, whose line is it? Anyway, it was on TV,
so yeah, I think it's also like pretty obvious once
you see a show what it is. Yeah, but yeah,
drama he definitely got. It's like, oh, I'm going to
be trying to do like yeah, a Shakespeare play or something, okay,
and he.

Speaker 2 (16:10):
Was did he seem excited, like as excited about that
and the fact that you just had something that you
were excited about and passionate about or was it sort
of like okay, yeah, fine.

Speaker 3 (16:21):
I think it was like Okay, that sounds good, you know,
like yeah, I think like I think it's all with
the like if you stick to it, sure. And then
I think also added to that like when he saw
that I arguably excelled at it, or like it was
like I liked it, and I seemingly did well at it.
I think that absolutely like worked for him in terms

(16:44):
of what he was hoping for.

Speaker 1 (16:47):
Yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense. That's cool.

Speaker 2 (16:50):
I mean even that he would have come around and
be supportive when he was like, sports is his thing.

Speaker 1 (16:55):
You know, We've seen all the movies.

Speaker 2 (16:56):
Where it's like the star football player is going to
be in the school play and like everyone's like if yeah,
the fish out of water. So the fact that sports
was his thing and he's like, yeah, if you want
to do drama, if you're gonna commit to it, then fine.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
But that's a value of his. Then he tried to
instill in you commitment.

Speaker 2 (17:24):
Were there any other values you felt like he was
trying to or even in retrospect, feel like he was
instilling in you at the time.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
See, he it was very kind of classic good grades,
Like he really he definitely encouraged us to go to college,
and specifically to go to a college outside of San
Diego where I was from. So it was very important
to him. He felt like, you need that time away

(17:53):
from home to learn about, you know, life outside of
you know, not within the perimeter of the family and what.

Speaker 1 (18:01):
You know, yeah, did he do that? By the way,
go to college away from home, so from Tape Cod.

Speaker 3 (18:06):
But where do he ended up going to? First to
Orange Coast Community College I believe it's called in, which
I believe is in Orange County, and then ultimately to
San Diego State University.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
Okay, how do you find himself east to west?

Speaker 3 (18:21):
You know this is something I should.

Speaker 1 (18:24):
Know, but you don't really totally.

Speaker 3 (18:27):
I know that he there was a time when his
sister lived out west. He also was a surfer, so
I would imagine that was something that pulled him to
the West Coast. And there's a whole nother lane that,
like I get mixed up in terms of how much
it overlaps with him pursuing anthropology is what he studied,

(18:52):
but he also for a time wanted to be a
cartoonist an artist. Oh cool, And he did drawings for
the school yearbook and his football team and basketball team.
And he apparently went to Disney whether it's it's unclear
whether he went to Disney Studios, which would be in Burbank,

(19:15):
or he went to Disneyland. But he brought with him
a portfolio of drawings, right and was able to speak
to somebody of note who looked at the drawings and said,
you know what, you got to go to school.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
Like for drawing or just do something like it.

Speaker 3 (19:33):
I think the implication was like, if you want to
work here, you got to go to art school.

Speaker 1 (19:36):
Okay, got it?

Speaker 2 (19:37):
Okay, And when that happened, that's really that's cool as hell.
When that happened, was our school like an option to him?
Do you know, like, because I know sometimes it's hard
to piece together our parent stories too, because I yeah.

Speaker 1 (19:49):
I don't, but don't feel bad.

Speaker 3 (19:51):
I would imagine his father was not super encouraging of him,
like pursuing an art degree.

Speaker 1 (19:57):
Right, okay, got it?

Speaker 2 (19:58):
Yeah, And by the way, don't feel bad about not
knowing the details. In my opinion, though, you shouldn't feel
bad because my mom can be a woman of few
words too, and I'm like, she's not I just said
to someone recently, I was like, she's not gonna ever
sit me down and be like, let me tell you
how I got from here to here. I sort of
have to piece together whenever we have little conversations, and

(20:19):
I'm like trying to trying to do the timeline, but.

Speaker 3 (20:21):
I actually know, I'm sure my father has told you
so many times. Yeah, I think that my brain scrambled.

Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yeah, it's okay, that's all right, lot on you have
your you have dad brain.

Speaker 1 (20:29):
Now that's the that's true. You do. You can you
can blame that.

Speaker 2 (20:32):
You can if you forget anything about me, anything I
say today, whatever, just dad.

Speaker 3 (20:37):
There is a lot I'm working on, like some sort
of level of constant exhaustion.

Speaker 1 (20:42):
Yeah, I feel like, but then didn't SNL prime you
for that.

Speaker 3 (20:46):
It's it's different.

Speaker 1 (20:47):
It's different. Do you know how could you explain the difference,
because I'm like, I want to be a parent one day.
What's the time?

Speaker 3 (20:52):
Yeah, well, yeah, I'm curious about your Yeah, how you
how exhausted you feel over the course of natsno week
because Monday is chill. Monday to going into Tuesday is
not that bad. Yeah, Tuesday's tough because Tuesday or typically writing,
you could be writing until four five in the morning, yep,

(21:12):
and then sometimes you need to wake up Wednesday morning
to like finish off the piece. It's do at noon.
So you're writing at like what you're like some talk at.

Speaker 1 (21:21):
Seven eighty nine am. I'm waking up with some I'm
getting in the document sometimes at seven and.

Speaker 3 (21:26):
Then you need to do the table read, which is like,
oh my god.

Speaker 2 (21:31):
Yeah, then the whole and you got to perform them,
be energized, yes, and like and bring it and try
to sell a piece.

Speaker 3 (21:37):
What no, what is your when you when your piece
is about to come up? Yeah, it's is it clear
enough what we're talking about? The table read? Like we
read forty pieces and like, Kyle, my piece might be
like seventeenth in the first half or something like that.

Speaker 1 (21:52):
The first half is the first twenty. Yes, then we
get a little break between halftime.

Speaker 3 (21:55):
But it's like the piece that I wrote with some
some other this is the thing that means so much
to me. I think this is really funny and like
I'm gonna I'm there's an angle on it's something I
have something interesting to say, and like I've got this
new character. What is your anticipation? Like, as like your

(22:16):
piece is about to come up.

Speaker 2 (22:18):
I get a little nervous still and just a little anxious,
and I'm like all the work you spent hours and
hours doing last night that made you forego sleep, and
even when you were sleeping, it wasn't good sleep because
you're thinking about how you can make that piece better
or finish it whatever. I'm like, it's all hinging on
this moment. My Saturday is kind of hinging on this moment. Yeah,

(22:40):
I feel really stressed. I went to a nutritionist because one,
my stomach always hurts, but also my fault because I
eat things that I know my body can't process.

Speaker 1 (22:47):
But I was like, my.

Speaker 2 (22:48):
Stomach oays hurts and it shouldn't. And she we did
like hormonal tests and she's like, your cortisol levels are
all out of whack and that's the stress hormone. And
so I just feel like it's a constant state of
and I don't even know if it's exhaustion. It probably is,
but I don't recognize it in real time.

Speaker 1 (23:03):
That's no week.

Speaker 2 (23:03):
It's like anxiety and angst and stress on a on
a thousand.

Speaker 1 (23:08):
What about you before your piece at table?

Speaker 3 (23:10):
Well, I want to tell you, but I also but like,
are you like minutes before, seconds before, or like fifteen
minutes are you ever like you know, sort of doing
the carre like yes, yes, greetings mister Anderson piece.

Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yes.

Speaker 2 (23:27):
Meanwhile, we are reading another piece. And if you look
up at table reads sometimes like I'll look up at
table read, and I like sit across from Heidi and
I'm like, oh, she's she's gearing up to she's already
got a piece coming like the.

Speaker 3 (23:38):
Next Yeah, you're like flipped. You're flipped, like nine sketchs
that had like greetings mister and er something, Yeah, greetings
mister Anders.

Speaker 2 (23:46):
Like what's the difference, Hey, I'm all out of cash?
You were that sketch really funny, really fun classic classic. Yes,
very stressed, So you don't think the exhaustion is the
same though for you like s and Alexasder and being
a down and.

Speaker 3 (24:02):
To answer question, yes, I got very anxious before my pieces. Yeah,
and I like I think the show actually, like I
think I already had some of these issues but really
sort of exaggerated OCD like kind of rituals that did
not exist prior to me working there. And so like

(24:23):
I would be like sipping a very specific amount of
SIPs of from the bottle of water, cleaning my glasses
in a very specific way, and that would be like,
you know, a sketch before I would be going nuts.

Speaker 2 (24:34):
These are the things, These are all the things I
have to do. You actually have OCD.

Speaker 3 (24:37):
I Yes, though I've worked through it.

Speaker 1 (24:40):
Sure, Okay, I mean yeah, okay.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
If you couldn't get through your ritual by the time
your sketch started, would you feel like, oh shit, this
is doomed.

Speaker 1 (24:48):
Oh god, I didn't get.

Speaker 3 (24:49):
Would I would almost force myself to like get through
the ritual even if it was like a moment before
Greetings mister Anderson, I got you.

Speaker 2 (25:04):
It is its own beast like SNL and I feel
like no matter where, Like I saw Beck at your
birthday party recently, I haven't seen back in so long,
and it was like, we have to talk about the show.
You got to talk about the show a little bit,
and it's the show, you know all we know the one.
It's but you feel like parenting is like you, it's

(25:25):
just different. It's apples and orange.

Speaker 3 (25:26):
Well the big okay, so the bag. So yeah, So
we're saying Wednesday is tough because you're going off minimal
sleep on Tuesday, right, Yeah, Thursday can be okay.

Speaker 1 (25:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (25:38):
Friday if you have to shoot a pre tape in
the morning or a pro tape too late at night,
yeah yeah, that is tough.

Speaker 1 (25:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (25:45):
Uh, Saturday, you actually kind of get in theory if
you're not up too late. You get to sleep in
a little bit, but you're gonna have butterflies.

Speaker 1 (25:52):
Yes, yes, because you got to see how this works
and running a live audience.

Speaker 3 (25:55):
And then Sunday Sunday, we all have a different Sunday.
I would go hard on.

Speaker 1 (26:00):
Sunday, like you have a full day and get up
and like we need it. I need to live life.

Speaker 2 (26:05):
Oh yeah, I I'm somewhere in the middle there. I
don't like doing nothing and just resting in lay bed
riding all day. But I also am like, you do
need to like recoup some of that lost sleep. You
can't really repay sleep debt.

Speaker 1 (26:19):
I read. I learned that in a p psych shout
out to mister Bresler.

Speaker 3 (26:23):
Yeah, that's actually where I saw the footage of I was.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
That's where of the foe you were an as I
was in. I was in seventh grade government class. Not
too unlike psych to me. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (26:39):
I guess both could be considered, like could have something
to say about the events that day? Are you being
earnest government?

Speaker 1 (26:46):
I feel like, yeah, yeah, I think they could.

Speaker 3 (26:50):
You not trying to take it there, let's take it there.
I don't don't want.

Speaker 2 (26:55):
To feel like I've said more. I've said as much
as I can actually say about it.

Speaker 3 (27:00):
When you have a baby, you cannot sleep.

Speaker 1 (27:03):
But it's different though.

Speaker 3 (27:04):
It's just like one I think the main the main
difference is like at the end of the day, you
are still looking out for pre baby. I was looking
out for.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
Me, dude, what I mean, Yeah, I could.

Speaker 3 (27:16):
Go out to dinner, go grab a drink with a friend,
you know. Now Now it's just like there's this human
being that you're kind of constantly thinking about, conscious of
wanting to make sure that they're okay, and that does
some that sometimes that's obviously waking up in the middle
of the night to help them. You're just it's just

(27:39):
a different level of attachment and responsibility.

Speaker 1 (27:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (27:45):
So, like I would say, like the tough thing about
a baby, and it's a different type of endurance because
it's just like, how can I keep on entertaining you.
I've used all of my moves, whereas like if you're
tired at an SNL day, you sort of know the
routine is going to be.

Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah, yeah, I understand that without again, without having like
walked in your shoes. I'm like that makes sense. Did
becoming a father yourself, make you reflect on who your
dad is, how he is, how he did as a dad,
differently than maybe you were reflecting on it before you
became a dad.

Speaker 3 (28:19):
Yeah. I think I think I thought about it pretty immediately. Like,
I think it's incredibly impressive because it's so frightening to
know that I am in charge of this person. Yeah, along,
obviously I have my wife who does more, if not,
you know, who is doing a big load of the work.

(28:44):
But like to raise a person from zero to eighteen
years or even if you want to say to forty years,
I think you could make an argument for that. Yeah,
he is still there for me. Yeah, and I saw him.
He was at my birthday party.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
Did I wish I could have seen him, right?

Speaker 3 (29:00):
But yeah, I think it's just like it was definitely
trippy to think about, like, oh, he was doing this thing.
I've never thought about him putting me in a swaddle,
or like feeding a bottle to me or changing my diaper.
Like it's like there's a whole component of parenting. And
my parents said, like I never got to appreciate or

(29:21):
think about you know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (29:23):
M m, Yeah, that's what I imagine becoming a parent. Does
really like, yeah, you see your parents one way and
one I think like going to college. Going away to
college for me was a moment where I go, oh,
my mom, Oh, this is what she was trying to do.
She was trying to instill these values in me. And
I didn't see it that way. I just was like dumb,
thoughtless kid, just being like my mom, and I want

(29:46):
my mom to do this and be this way, and
like I'm butting heads with my mom, right, And then
you go and have your worldview expanded and you go, oh,
while I was under her roof and under her direct supervision,
this is what she was trying to do, like fully,
just shape a human and make me decent and in
some way self sufficient and such and just yeah again

(30:08):
and still the values she finds important in me.

Speaker 3 (30:11):
And you ended up you studied what you were like
pre medical.

Speaker 1 (30:14):
I was pre med.

Speaker 2 (30:15):
I was a bio major in college, which I'm sure
part of why we didn't overlap, because I was just
like in that world of people.

Speaker 3 (30:21):
And don't you feel like, I mean, she must have
done incredible. I mean that is such a I would
imagine difficult school place to get into. And now you're
a Hollywood star, Like what.

Speaker 1 (30:35):
I mean, like, well, thanks Kyle, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (30:38):
She must have done some pretty good work.

Speaker 2 (30:40):
I think so actually, thank you, because I also think
my siblings, I just feel like our whole trajectory could
look different, Like on paper, single mom of four and
what she did with that, I just go, wow, I'm
so grateful because this all could have just looked really different,
you know, if someone else had been my single mom

(31:01):
or if not. By the grace of God, all these
things worked out the way they did. But I always
felt like, even having this like insane dream of like
I want to be an actor, no one in my
family has ever done it, and I'm gonna move to
Los Angeles, across the country where we know no one.
Everyone in my family is in Nigeria, London and like
Maryland and so oh in Jersey and so I'm like

(31:21):
all East Coast. But I'm like, I'm going to go
over there and I'm going to do this thing. Now
that I'm older, I'm I'm like, you know, when you're younger,
it's just like I want to do that thing, and
I have the one track mind about it. But now
that i'm older, I'm like, oh, the fact that I
thought I could do that thing. I mean partially maybe
means I'm crazy, but I'm like, I just thought, if
I put in the work and if I'm diligent and

(31:42):
I'm strategic about it, I could do it. And I
think that is a testament to the way my mom
raised me.

Speaker 3 (31:48):
In a space where that sort of thinking was yeah, maybe.

Speaker 2 (31:52):
Encouraged, yeah, and cultivated. Yeah exactly. But as a dad,
now yourself, what well one I want to know, were
you at all scared about becoming a father?

Speaker 3 (32:02):
Yeah? I think I think I have a hard time
believing you're not gonna be some like you're not gonna
be scared. Yeah, it's just it's too it's too.

Speaker 2 (32:11):
Heavy, Yeah, to be responsible, like fully responsible for another Yeah.

Speaker 3 (32:15):
Like do what do I actually know? You know? And
the thing is I can't change a tire and I
probably can't change oil. Like they're very simple things that
I cannot do. And you would probably be impressed, like
how how how many abilities? I like lack?

Speaker 2 (32:35):
But I yes, yes, and yes and no. Like if
I heard the list and it was like this crazy
extensive list, which maybe it is because it's also an
extensive list for me, because there's things I like to
be like, oh, I know a little bit about a
lot of things I think is true of me, but
there's a lot of shit.

Speaker 1 (32:52):
I know nothing.

Speaker 2 (32:54):
I don't know anything about, Like your dad tell you sports,
I don't really know much about sports, but I can
like have intelligent enough of a conversation. Remember we were
like going down the nine to eleven path, and you're like,
that's about all I've got on that. That's how I
feel about sports, where I can be like, I know
who that player is. I think I know where who
they play for. But I'm like there's a long list
of shit for most of us that we don't know

(33:15):
anything about. But then like you're allowed to create a
human and then be responsible for that human and be
like I'm going to raise that human.

Speaker 3 (33:22):
Yeah, And you know what I think is what was
said to me, maybe by my brother who has two children.
I don't know where I first heard it, but like,
there are so many people are having children constantly, right,
and there are some forgive me stupid people out there
having children yeah, and they're able to do it. Yeah,

(33:46):
So like I probably have some of the building blocks
that like give me an advantage to so many other folks.
Out there.

Speaker 2 (33:54):
Yes, I agree with that, and that might sound I
don't hear in an arrogant way at all, and like
you seem like maybe like even reticent to say to me,
like forgive me.

Speaker 1 (34:02):
But here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (34:03):
I was taking djaying lessons and I could not fucking
figure it out to save my life. But I'm like,
there are some dumb ass.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
DJs out there.

Speaker 2 (34:11):
I'm sure the fact that I can't figure this out,
I'm like, I think I need to actually devote the
proper time. I was like, I don't understand, and because
I really love music, but I'm like, I don't understand
how to use this system.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
I just it's not I can't process.

Speaker 2 (34:25):
But I'm like, I know anytime I have i'm facing
a hard thing, I think I will be like, but
there are dumb people.

Speaker 3 (34:31):
Well that's I mean, like, yeah, I think actors are
the are like such a great example of that because
like some actors, I'm like, I feel like you see
them on screen, You're like, damn, that is such an
incredible performance. You're able to like hit these emotions, like
it's like I'm watching like real people on screen, and
then you interact with these people, you're.

Speaker 1 (34:52):
Like, WHOA, exactly, Yes, I agree with that sentiment totally.
But that's why I'm like when people when we're scared
about be humming parents and then your brother says that
thing to you, right that you go, there's some dumb
people doing it.

Speaker 2 (35:05):
People are having kids all the time. I'm certain you're
gonna be Okay, you can figure it out. Could you
elaborate on like what the fear was? Like I can
assume what the fear was, but like what if you
were to articulate it yourself.

Speaker 3 (35:16):
I think one keeping the human alive, keeping baby alive
to an entirely new set of skills that I have
just don't know anything about as simple as changing a diaper,
you know any of or like kind of how do
I how do I hold the baby?

Speaker 1 (35:36):
Yeah? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (35:36):
And then I think like the way more massive pressure
of like yeah, this hue this person I'm gonna raise,
and like can I like kind of help to mold
them in any way so that they have a good life,
and also being conscious of like I think one scary
thing is like my own sort of what I consider

(36:02):
my faults or neuroses or what I consider my mental issues,
Like the idea that like ough, I want like I
don't want to, like I don't really want to pass
some of this stuff on. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (36:13):
Yeah, I have a very good friend who I think
would be an incredible parent, and they have expressed to me,
like I just off the bat, just how wonderful they are.
I'm like, you would be a fantastic parent, And to
hear them express to me like there are things I
just wouldn't want to pass on to a kid that
I just I feel like I came up in this
environment and this is inevitably inside of me and part

(36:35):
of me.

Speaker 1 (36:35):
But then there's a part of me that goes.

Speaker 2 (36:37):
But even the way that you think about that and
articulate that, and the way you just did just now
I go that, I think already sets you ahead of
the pack in terms of parenting. That level of thoughtfulness
about an awareness that like, hey, as this person's parent,
I am going to pass things on to them that
might not even be in my control or might not
be in the like forefront of my mind, but just

(36:59):
by virtue of growing up alongside of me or with
my DNA, this is going to be part of them.
I feel like some people are not even thinking about that. Again, yeah, yeah, yeah,
I think that's right. Yeah, yeah, when you talk about
feeling responsible for like molding the person your daughter.

Speaker 1 (37:14):
How old is your daughter now, by the.

Speaker 3 (37:15):
Way, fourteen months?

Speaker 1 (37:16):
Oh fun?

Speaker 2 (37:17):
Oh sweedie, I've seen pictures there. She's so cute, she is,
she's vicious. What are values you want to instill in her.
Your dad instilled in you, the importance of committing to
a thing, finishing it, education, going away for school. But
what are some things you want instilled in your daughter.

Speaker 4 (37:34):
Well?

Speaker 3 (37:35):
Be kind mm hmm. I get bothered by people who
aren't kind, and I think, yeah, I'm probably pretty big
on having a laugh and a sense of humor about
the world at large.

Speaker 1 (37:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (37:50):
Well, also, you know, not taking the piss out of
moments that don't deserve that. But I want her to
be able to pursue and do whatever she'd like. I
want her to be happy, and I really want to
just be there for her so that she could be

(38:11):
the best version of who she is. I know that's
very vague.

Speaker 1 (38:14):
Yes, but not to keep guessing you as a dad
or anything.

Speaker 2 (38:18):
But I'm like, I think in a correct way because
I think in my again, I say this all the
time on the podcast, and people are probably like, Ego,
we know you don't have kids, you're not a parent,
But I want to say, I'm not a parent. I
don't know what it's like to be a parent. I
think that part of being a good one might be
recognizing that, yes, I'm going to bring this offspring into
the world, but I'm not going to really be able

(38:39):
to control who this person becomes. And so for me
to have all these parameters and such in mind for
them is maybe like it is like a function of
wishful thinking or something, and then creates a tension that
doesn't need to be there.

Speaker 3 (38:55):
Yeah, you think it's like, in an ideal scenario, maybe
like I can expel her to so many wonderful things
and ways of perceiving the world and activities and art
and music and literature. But like, yeah, ultimately I would
I want it to be I want her to figure
out what.

Speaker 2 (39:15):
Yeah, what she's into? Yeah yeah. How do you feel
about discipline? And I don't mean like spanking versus not spanking,
but in terms of like how spank me, Well, that's
not discipline, that's something else, Kyle, Oh, at your age, that's.

Speaker 3 (39:28):
Something Greetings, mister Anderson.

Speaker 2 (39:30):
No, no, how do you feel about being the disciplinarian?

Speaker 1 (39:34):
Like and what does it look like to you?

Speaker 3 (39:36):
Are like a time person and like yeah, we've like
yet to get to that. But like this morning she
reached into like a little sort of garbage area and
there was a loose lacroix can and you know that
little the mouth and yeah, and like I was like no, no, no,

(39:57):
and like I felt even I didn't love of saying
no loudly. And I will say, there are a lot
of you know, parenting philosophies and sort of like I
think parenting has evolved over several years and like they're
like they're there are ideas that I'm still hearing and

(40:20):
learning that like I'm still trying to make sense of
like for instance, like and this is not something I
I am great at doing. But there's a whole movement
to not use the phrase good job.

Speaker 2 (40:34):
Okay, new news to me. I guess why would have
made its way to me because I don't I just
have a pup. Do you know about this and try
the philosophy behind not saying good job?

Speaker 1 (40:45):
It is ever changing.

Speaker 3 (40:47):
I think, Yeah, it's something about how it implies, like
you picked up the toy ball and you put it
in the whole good job. Yeah, it's I guess the
implication is sort of like this is something you're supposed
to accomplish and you did it right, versus like that
was that was such a cool thing you did with
the ball. I don't know. I don't, I don't. I
actually don't think that's why I'm not good at it

(41:08):
because I don't have a grass and.

Speaker 1 (41:09):
You also don't subscribe to it.

Speaker 3 (41:10):
Sounds like like I when it's been explained to me,
I get it, but I'm but like unfortunately, and I
am not a child psychologist, so I can't claim to
be an expert on any of this. It's one of
those things where I'm like, and this is the pessimist
in me. And you might have some listeners who who

(41:31):
who can sort of set me straight because.

Speaker 2 (41:35):
I want my listeners to be sweeties personally if I
was allowed to pick. But I also know, again like parenting,
you can't pick your kid, can't pick my listener. Yes,
I want my listeners to be sweeties for me.

Speaker 3 (41:44):
It's just like I guess I kind of have a
hard time believing like that sort of thing is going
to like fully set her off on the wrong direction
somehow right.

Speaker 2 (41:54):
Well, also the fact that it's here's my thing. I'm
also not a child psychologist. But it's ever changing. And
that's fine because everything is evolving. We're ever changing, everything's
always changing, whatever people are changing. But the philosophies, because
then the implication is that like everybody at every stage
is getting it wrong.

Speaker 1 (42:12):
So that's the implication.

Speaker 2 (42:14):
The Yeah, like as we go on this, we still
we will continue to never ever ever get it right
or have a sense of what is even right or
the right.

Speaker 1 (42:21):
Way to do it with parenting, because that's absolutely yeah.

Speaker 3 (42:24):
And like a great example of that to me is
which I do agree with, but is like, you know,
no screen time until I feel like maybe now it's
like two years old, I'm not sure what like the
recommendation is.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (42:39):
The thing is I watched so much TV and film
growing up, and it is why I do what I do.
So it's like I definitely can understand how it's unhealthy
and I agree with that. And I also think that
like screens have evolved, you know, it's it's not necessary,

(42:59):
it's it's it's maybe different, But there's a lot more
I would already built most of my career out of
like TV shows I watched in nineteen ninety two.

Speaker 1 (43:08):
Yeah, I was walking yesterday.

Speaker 2 (43:10):
I've never thought about this because I feel like I
don't watch a lot now, which kind of sucks. And
I don't know if it's like because we do what
we do and then free when I think about my
free time, maybe like, oh, I don't necessarily want to
watch the thing in my free time because it's like
my world now. But I was on a walk yesterday
and I go, I would literally Saturday morning, my mom
wasn't even up, like, and I'd go turn on Saturday

(43:31):
Morning cartoons and sit with my pop Tart in front
of the TV for.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
Hours, and I think I'm fine. I don't know. I
think it's okay, dude, you're killing it with the podcast.
I got a freaking podcast now.

Speaker 3 (43:41):
I actually want to. I don't know how much time
we have, but can we look up the Good Job thing? Yes?

Speaker 1 (43:46):
Okay, okay, a ya guess please tell us.

Speaker 4 (43:48):
I guess you want to focus on what they're doing
and not just that they did it and you're praising
them for having done it correctly, but you want to
be like I saw that you did that all by yourself,
or I saw that you worked really hard at this,
So it's like there's no good job, bad job. It's
like you tried your best, you did it.

Speaker 1 (44:04):
I guess it's I mean, who knows.

Speaker 4 (44:05):
I don't have kids, but I'm like, yeah, sometimes you
you did it, and you did a good job, even
if you didn't do it all the way, right.

Speaker 2 (44:11):
I guess this begs the question that deeply philosophical point
of view. I'm like, when you say good job, good
job is not a complete sentence. Are you saying good job?
I think it's good good job for trying, good job
because the ball went in the hole, good job because
like it's not a complete sentence. So to be like

(44:32):
let's let's keep the shy away from saying good jobs
is like I think things are getting out of hand,
just like let's all relax. I think you can, you
can decide for yourself. But the child psychologists are at
the very least I do.

Speaker 3 (44:46):
Yeah, I think there's something to be said about, like
find other ways to say the same thing, you know
what I mean?

Speaker 1 (44:54):
Yeah, but then it's gonna be I don't know.

Speaker 2 (44:56):
In my mind, I'm like, yes, we'll find other ways
to say the same thing, but then it's gonna be like, well,
not that either, because that's man, you're going to raise
a serial killer.

Speaker 1 (45:04):
Yeah. I just feel like that's a lot of stress.

Speaker 2 (45:06):
When I think about parenting books, I'm like, there's so
many philosophies and schools of thought that if if I
were a parent, I could just imagine feeling a little
overwhelmed by that. If I was trying to be like,
I really want to get this right, I want to
really nail this parent thing, I'd be like, ah, there's
because if I read this book that was published within

(45:26):
three years of this book, these who are totally contradicting
each other.

Speaker 1 (45:29):
So it is up to you in.

Speaker 2 (45:31):
A way, And how do you feel about the thought
that like you're going to kind of mess your kid
up in some way?

Speaker 1 (45:36):
Do you agree with that or feel it?

Speaker 2 (45:39):
I kind of sometimes think like, yeah, I'm a little
bit of the mind, yeah, because I feel yeah, because
I'm like, oh, well, we have therapy now, and we
we we therapy was available for a long time, but
now it's not. The stigma around therapy is not the
same as it was when we were coming up, and
now we're doing our own deep dives on ourselves and

(46:01):
our histories and finding a way to use our language
and excavate our own feelings, et cetera, et cetera.

Speaker 1 (46:06):
Yes, all of that is true.

Speaker 2 (46:07):
And because I'm an imperfect human who is going to
raise another person, it's also going to be imperfect no
matter how much research I.

Speaker 1 (46:16):
Do and how much work I do on myself.

Speaker 2 (46:18):
Of course, you know, do you want your daughter to
count you a friend just because I'm like comedians?

Speaker 1 (46:26):
Do we want our kids to be like the homie
or do you.

Speaker 3 (46:30):
Well, yeah, I was gonna while you were saying that,
it made me think about, like, yeah, how many folks
do you know who are like who are very close
friends with their parents? Because I know a couple of
people that it's like like, like, there they are homies,
you know.

Speaker 1 (46:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (46:44):
Yeah, And I feel very close with my father. My
mother's no longer with me us, but her as well,
like I felt like she was. We were definitely buddies. Yeah,
but not in the way that it's like hey, picking
up some uh palm this weekend?

Speaker 1 (47:02):
Yeah you know what, Yeah, exactly.

Speaker 2 (47:05):
It's funny because that's I feel very close to my
mom too, But like yeah, as my mom.

Speaker 3 (47:09):
Yeah, and so that's yeah. But I think there are
other people who are like, no, we're buddies, and I'm I'm.

Speaker 2 (47:14):
Fascinated by that. I think if it works for people, great.
I'm always curious like when did that begin? Was it
like you turned you graduated college, and then you became
the homie or was it always sort of like I
don't know. My parents didn't really shield me from too
too much, and I've always just kind of been their homie.
I was their little homie at five. Now I'm the
big homie. Yeah, Like it's so, yeah.

Speaker 3 (47:37):
I would like to be friends with So you like that, Like.

Speaker 1 (47:40):
You want your daughter to be like my dad's my homie.

Speaker 3 (47:42):
I definitely I would like it to be. You know,
oh he's cool. Yeah, we have fun.

Speaker 1 (47:47):
Okay, Like okay, so homie like can tell you?

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Would you want her to be able to tell you
like anything everything.

Speaker 3 (47:55):
My my brother has a very good relationship with his
kids where I think they do tell him like, uh,
you know, Mark was being weird to me today, like
do you think he likes like kind of like Gandle
like kind of crushes and and that sort of stuff. Yeah,
I would like to be there for her if that's
what she wants. I don't. I don't feel like I

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need to necessarily know the ins and outs of like
when she's like seventeen to nineteen years old, Like I
feel like, yeah, there's some information, and I'd be like, Okay.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
It's cool, Okay.

Speaker 2 (48:29):
I feel inclined to ask you, even though I feel
I fully understand it. Yeah, I feel I do why
that you're like, I would like her to feel like
she could, but I also feel like there's something that
I don't need to know.

Speaker 1 (48:41):
What do you think that is for you?

Speaker 3 (48:42):
For me? Well, growing up, I think I was private
in that way. I didn't want to, like I kind
of didn't want to talk to my parents about it
because they did feel far away from it. Though, like
now being on the other side of it, it's like,
you know, you know my brother, for instance, her he's
kids are I think one's going to be a sophomore
in high school, one the other maybe in eighth grader,

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And it's like that doesn't feel that far away from
me right now. I can remember seventh and eighth grade
like it actually feels almost recent. So like that's maybe
not a fair thought that I had when I was
in seventh grade to think that, like my parents wouldn't
get what I was like, yeah, going through But I
but I like, I don't know. I guess I thought

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that's what my like other say, similar aged friends were for.
I don't know that I've spent enough time thinking about
this to know that I have like a hearty.

Speaker 1 (49:35):
Fast yeah, she's fourteen months ago over that.

Speaker 3 (49:39):
Like I also, I think, like I guess, I feel
like it's also okay for her to have secrets, do
you know what I mean? As long as they're not dangerous.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
She's in dangerous sure, yeah, yeah, yeah, I just I
just remember being like even early twenties talking with friends,
and all of them were women at the time with
whom I was having these conversations.

Speaker 2 (50:00):
But I would be like, oh, yeah, I don't know.
Even at twenty something, I was like, I don't When
I do have a daughter, I don't know that I
need her to tell me all that we're talking about
right now.

Speaker 1 (50:11):
Right, I don't need it. I don't like.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
I actually kind of yeah, I'll like it. I don't
need to hear it when she's sixteen. Yeah, I would
probably get more kick out of it. Like when she's
like thirty years old and tell me about it. I
was like, you did that. You should stink.

Speaker 1 (50:26):
It you as an old dad iconic Kyle.

Speaker 2 (50:34):
Okay, I can see it because you do the voice already.
That'll be your voice for real, the one you just did.
I also feel like when you get old, I don't
mean to put this on you that you'll just lean
so hard into being old like an old man character. Heay, Kyle,

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thank you for being my dad for the day and
every episode asking my dad for the day for a
piece of advice. So may I ask you I have
a thing I want to tell you about from my
life and then maybe you can advise you.

Speaker 1 (51:05):
Yes, okay, so interrupt me please.

Speaker 3 (51:10):
You've you've done at least one of these today. I've
done at least one, and so you had to come
up with a list of like different things you're going
through right now.

Speaker 1 (51:18):
What a thoughtful fucking dad.

Speaker 2 (51:20):
Yes, yes, some of the things I'm asking the dads,
I will say, though, too, do not pertain to my
present life and may not even I try not to
ask my dad's anything because I'm like, this is a
huge opportunity to be able to ask a dad for
this advice. Honestly, to me, I try not to ask
the dads anything that's like so far fetched does not
pertain to my life at all, or anything that like

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really will never pertain to my life and the person
I am and whatever. But some of the things I'm
asking are like, Ooh, this is something that'll be good
for down the line. I might not be dealing with
it right now, but I maybe either will be or
I have, And it would have been nice to ask advice.

Speaker 3 (51:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (51:56):
I was on FaceTime with my mom and she's like,
what's that like bump in your neck? You should go
get that checked out? Okay, so go get it checked out.
It's nothing.

Speaker 1 (52:05):
According to whatever doctor I went to on the Upper
West Side, I should out them. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (52:12):
I feel like I see every doctor one time, like
when they're like, who's your primary care?

Speaker 1 (52:16):
Maybe that should be my question for you, mayb.

Speaker 2 (52:18):
I'm would ask you two questions about health today and
every time.

Speaker 1 (52:21):
But this is the thing about it.

Speaker 2 (52:22):
You seem like you made a sound to suggest you're
you're not equipped to answer those questions. But this is
a fascinating thing because if you were my dad and
I came to you, would you say to me, I'm
not the right person to ask, or would you pretend
let's see, yeah, put your arm up and that confident
Come on, Papa bear, Okay, So okay, Question number one.

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I always bounce around from doctor to doctor. I'm not
loyal to any of them. Should I try to find
a primary care? Would you say I should? And if so,
if yes, how do you go about finding a primary
care for real? A good one two part question, and
there's another coming.

Speaker 3 (53:01):
I think it would probably be good to find somebody
who can know your history, okay, so that there's a
point of reference in your visits.

Speaker 1 (53:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (53:14):
With that being said, m h, if you are feeling
safe sort of going doctor to doctor, how are you
finding your doctors currently?

Speaker 1 (53:23):
So I'll go on the insurance website and i will
SAG SAG insurance screen. I'm still on SAG. I'm a
SAG mama.

Speaker 2 (53:34):
And I go through and I see who in my
I try to Actually I don't do my radius, but
like who in New York. I think Upper west Side
in my mind, Upper west Side has good doctors because
those are like family people. For the people who live
on the Upper west Side are family oriented. Yeah, maybe
Upper East Side. I'll go on there and I'll put
in the zip code and then I'll be like, Okay,
I don't know. And then I'll go look at reviews
of that doctor and then be like, Okay, people seem

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to like them.

Speaker 3 (53:56):
And when you see a doctor like this, do you
are you rating the experience in your head as you
are as you're going through it? Are you ever like, Okay,
possibly I could come back to this person or you
are you thinking of it as a one and done thing.

Speaker 2 (54:11):
I'm thinking possibly I could come back to this person.
But I feel like I've been burned too many times
in that anytime. Am I allowed to tell you I
see an obgyn? Or does that feel like a boundary?

Speaker 3 (54:23):
You can't tell me that?

Speaker 1 (54:24):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (54:26):
Yeah, of course.

Speaker 2 (54:27):
So I saw an obgyn and I kept being like,
I should find one because I'll be in New York
for at least seven years on this shop, so I
should find one at SNL, I should find one, and
I go to them, be going okay, this, I could
possibly come back to this person.

Speaker 1 (54:43):
Yeah, And I feel like the.

Speaker 2 (54:44):
Three times I've been like I'll come back to this person,
I've gotten burned in that that person is like, I
try to make another appointment a year later, and they're like,
I moved to northern California. I'm out of here. I'm
only operating out of Long Island anymore moving forward, and
so that's sucks. And so now I feel like, why
bother trying to find a primary care if they're all
just gonna leave.

Speaker 3 (55:04):
Yeah to me as your father, but also hopefully as
your friend. Yes, my recommendation, yes, would be to utilize
those resources around you, persons that you know and trust.

Speaker 1 (55:16):
Okay, ask them, okay, who.

Speaker 3 (55:20):
They are, seeing how they feel about them.

Speaker 1 (55:22):
Okay, Okay, that's great, that's great advice.

Speaker 3 (55:24):
Sorry, I mean that's that's pretty obvious to some degree.

Speaker 2 (55:27):
Sure, but it's not what I'm doing though, really either.
And I think, like I've asked once, I asked someone
about an ob gy and my agent actually I'm close
to my agent, and she was like, I can get you,
like I can tell you a person, but I don't
think that they're like You're gonna go in the office
and be like, what's up here? This is what's going on.
I've been transported to another time in not necessarily a

(55:47):
good way. So then I'm like, okay, what seems like
is anyone into their doctors? Do you like your doctor?

Speaker 3 (55:53):
I I don't have a proper primary care position. I
have somebody.

Speaker 1 (55:57):
So this is a classic do as I say, not
as I do, Dad, Well, because you told me I
should try.

Speaker 3 (56:04):
To Had we started there, I would have been open
with you about my situation. But like, I'm also like
trying to help you and I but you know what
I do do in any regard, I almost always try
to reach out to persons who I think might have
the answer that I need, okay, And like, as your father,

(56:25):
I got to say, I'm not always going to have
the answer, okay, but yes, one thing I've learned over
over time is that often there is somebody out there
who can't help you, who has something that can maybe
lead you in the right direction. And this is you know,
not even just with doctors. In raising you and my
other child, my baby daughter, that's you know, finding Gammy.

Speaker 1 (56:50):
By the way, what happened? Was I the mistake or
was she the mistake?

Speaker 3 (56:54):
There are no mistakes?

Speaker 2 (56:55):
Okay, thanks Dad, think said, uh, you know there's a gap,
a thirty five year gap. Someone's a mistake, someone's an
you're thirty five. I'm thirty six and she's fourteen months.

Speaker 3 (57:11):
Yeah, and I'm forty and you're you're forty.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
I think I was rock hard for you. You were
a rock hard.

Speaker 3 (57:19):
Guys.

Speaker 1 (57:19):
This has been Kyle.

Speaker 2 (57:20):
We actually do need another piece of advice. Do I
need to get a second opinion about the lump? Then
one doctor says it's nothing, and I was like, that's
what I like to hear. I'm not going to go
see anyone else. Should I get a second opinion?

Speaker 3 (57:29):
I bet you're fine, but it doesn't hurt to get
a second.

Speaker 2 (57:31):
Okay, cool, Okay, guys, Kyle Mooney has been my dad
for the day. Kyle, is there anything you want to plug?
We know why two K's coming out later this year.

Speaker 1 (57:39):
We're very excited.

Speaker 3 (57:41):
I do think this rock hard four year old could
be something else. I'll try to pitch it at the
show Y two K December sixth.

Speaker 1 (57:48):
Okay, rock hard four year old as well? You want,
Kyle Mooney, that's his pitch. Okay, Okay, thank you so much, Kyle. Thanks.
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