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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to the
2% Solution, a platform where
every conversation moves youcloser to your untapped
potential.
In this episode, we're joinedby Tracy Pleshcourt, a personal
and professional developmentvisionary, Certified coach and
entrepreneur.
Tracy specialized in navigatingthe intricate paths of
self-sabotage, a common obstaclemany of us encounter in our
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self-improvement journeys.
Tracy will share her inspiringjourney from executive to
entrepreneur, revealing howacknowledging her true calling
transformed her life.
If you've ever felt like yourbiggest hurdle is yourself,
you're in the right place today.
Let's explore the strategiesTracy used your challenges into
stepping stones as well.
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I'm super stoked because todaywe have an amazing guest, tracy
Pleschkort and yeah, if you seehow it's spelled, you probably
figured it out.
I've been practicing that andso she's going to be a great
guest today.
She's literally a superhero inthe world of personal and
professional development.
She's the founder of Self Madeyou.
We're going to get into thatand also get this.
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She co-hosts the Tracy andGracie Becoming podcast as well.
One of the coolest things Ifound about Tracy is her special
talent for helping peopleovercome something that I
battled with many times atdifferent periods of my life
self-sabotage.
And if you're not sure whatthat is, hold on, we're going to
get into it.
She's totally got this downbecause she's both a certified
coach and an entrepreneur, soshe knows what it's like to face
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challenges but also to come outthe other side stronger.
Welcome to the show, tracy.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Thank you.
It's so fun to be here with you, right.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
You know, and it's
been a while I know it's been
several months since we lastchatted.
I was just getting thingsstarted when we first had our
meet and greet, and so Iappreciate the patience.
Also, I've had to reschedule anumber of times with you.
I just got to say you are coolas a cucumber, as they say, and
I really appreciate the graceand understanding.
But you know, I really want totalk about you and, most
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importantly, I was hoping youcould share with us the pivotal
moment Okay, and I'm surethere's been many, but the
pivotal moment that shifted yourmindset from being a passenger
in life to taking the wheel anddriving towards your own success
.
Because I know there's a pivothere, probably several of them,
but I'd love to hear just sortof set us up and then we'll
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start to dive in some of thethings I shared in the intro
there.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
I would say, if I had
to like really boil it down to
that one moment.
It was probably one of the daysthat I was driving into work.
I had very long commutes, Iheld an executive level position
for an advertising agency and Ihad had that position for
almost 18 years and I foundmyself as an entrepreneur,
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really trying to fit into anemployee's body and it wasn't
working very well, and it tookme 18 years to figure out that I
was just that.
I was truly an entrepreneur.
I really wanted to createpurpose-driven businesses.
I really wanted to work 24-7,because that's what it's all
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about Now.
I live, breathe, eat, sleepthis business.
But it is truly because I'm sopassionate about helping people
really overcome thisself-sabotage.
Really I love helping peoplelearn how to trust themselves,
and I had opportunities toexperience that within my
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corporate position, but itwasn't enough.
And so there was that moment Iremember I reported into the CEO
and I remember looking at him,telling him I think that now is
the time that I'm ready to stepaway and try something new, and
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that conversation led to a yearlong like transition of, like
resignation.
Neither he, or the agency, or Ior my bank account was ready
for me to step away, and so overthe course of a year, I was
able to leave them in a reallygood place and I was able to
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work from home, be with myfamily more and start a business
doing something that I really,really passionate about.
So, yeah, I think it was.
Yeah, it was less about anevent, you know, it wasn't
anything really dramatic, but itwas more of a realization that
I was an entrepreneur trying tofit in an employee's body and it
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really felt uncomfortable for avery long time and I was ready
to not feel uncomfortableanymore anymore.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Oh, I love this.
I mean, as some people know,that I myself was in a
co-founder's position in acompany that I was involved with
for 17 years, and then I had avery similar experience around
year 15, but it took me abouttwo years to get out of the
thing Right.
So you were a much quickerstudy, so good on you.
But you know, on the topic,it's self-sabotage because I
know there's going to be peoplethat this might be a new term to
them.
You know, and if it's might besome term that we've heard
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before, but maybe people aren'tfully aware of what is it and
how does it actually affect ourlives at times?
And do you mind just sort ofsharing what the actual you know
what is self-sabotage?
And also, maybe with your story, how is it showing up for you?
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Yeah, self-sabotage,
but also, maybe with your story,
how is it showing up for you?
Yeah, so self-sabotage isreally a result that you get in
your life that ultimately you'vegot to take the credit for,
you've got to take theresponsibility for it.
And I think a lot of people whoaren't used to taking the
credit or the responsibility forthe things that happen in their
life, they will often bepointing credit or the
responsibility for the thingsthat happen in their life.
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They will often be pointing thefinger at all of the things
outside of them that cause themto not get the results that they
want.
And so that could be, you know,being overweight, or you know
and you're going to point thefinger to your genetic
predisposition or your hormonesor your gut health, and I mean,
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those are very legit reasons whypeople find themselves
overweight.
But it really does boil down tothe thoughts that you are
listening to.
So I like to explain what isself-sabotage and how does it
occur?
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The root cause of self-sabotageyou know, self-sabotage is an
experience or a result thatyou're getting in your life.
It's usually not a favorableresult.
It's usually the exact oppositeof something that you really
want from your life.
But what's causing it is thenarratives that your brain is
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screaming at you.
It's what you're listening to.
So I have to give your audiencea little bit of neuroscience to
really make this make sense.
So we all have that three-poundorgan that exists between our
ears and if you were to cut itstraight down the middle and
think of it as, like, the leftside is the primitive side, it's
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the side of your brain that ismissioned with keeping you alive
.
It's really seeking pleasure,avoiding pain, and it really
wants to be efficient.
It doesn't want to expend a lotof energy and when we were in a
primitive state, that was superhelpful, like the, you know,
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the leaves on a bush would shakeand your brain would tell you
oh my God, tiger behind thattree right, so super helpful.
But in today's day and age,we're not really in any danger.
Yet Our primitive brain hasbeen the part of our brain that
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is used the most.
So it makes sense that it'sactually the strongest part of
your brain.
So it's always offering youvery dramatic thoughts in the
attempt of keeping you safe.
But when we're not in anydanger and you listen to those
fear-based thoughts, yousabotage what it is that you
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really want.
So I like to tell that storybecause it helps people make
sense, it helps peopledisconnect, it helps people not
make their results meansomething about their morality,
their humanity brain and thethoughts that they're listening
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to.
Unintentionally, they'rereacting to these thoughts
because they believe them to betrue.
Who doesn't think that yourthoughts aren't true?
But really, I mean the truth ofthe matter is a lot of our
thoughts are not true.
They're based thoughts.
They are very dramatic and theyare dramatic because they want
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to keep us safe when we're notin any danger.
So I like to teach my clientsthat's the half of your brain,
that is the strongest part ofyour brain and so, by default,
we operate from that part of ourbrain and we are very reactive
to those kinds of thoughts.
The other side of your brain iswhat I like to call your prodigy
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brain.
Doctors, scientists, would callit your prefrontal cortex, but
I call it the prodigy part ofyour brain because it's the more
extraordinary part of yourbrain.
It's the part of your brainthat can respond Instead of
having these knee-jerk reactionslike eating the cookie when
you've decided you're on a diet.
It's the part of your brainthat can actually reason.
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It can actually question thoseprimitive-based thoughts, those
fear-based thoughts that aretelling you you better eat that
cookie now, otherwise it mightnot be there when you come back.
Right, that's what we all hear.
You better eat it now or else,right.
And we don't even notice thatthinking because it's so
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familiar and we in retrospectwill shame ourselves for eating
the cookies.
We're not really even hearingit.
It's so unintentional.
It's such a part of us, becausethat's the part of our brain
that we operate from the most,and so it's very comfortable.
But when you start to strengthenthe prodigy part of your brain,
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you'll notice.
You'll either notice thefeeling of shame or guilt.
You'll be able to question thethinking that's causing that
feeling and really start to kindof reason with it.
Is that even true?
Is it true that I won't haveaccess to a cookie if I leave
that cookie alone?
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Like, cookies are widelyavailable and when I decide to
eat a cookie with intention, Ican do that right.
That's what your prodigy braincan do.
But you have to not unlike allthe other muscles in your body.
You have to do the reps tostrengthen it right, otherwise
you are going to default to thatpart of your brain that is much
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stronger because for years andyears and years, that's the part
of your brain you've beenoperating from.
So it's a little bit ofneuroscience.
So the primitive brain I don'twant to villainize it it has a
purpose.
It keeps you breathing withouthaving to think about it.
It keeps your heart beatingwithout having to think about it
.
Right, it is the survival partof your brain, but we don't want
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to be reacting from it.
We want to allow those thoughtsto be there and we want to have
a heightened sense of awarenessof when we're hearing it and
just let it be there, let thefeelings that it cause be there.
You don't have to buffer thosekind of feelings.
We're human beings.
We're all supposed to feel theentire spectrum of all the
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emotions which so many of usbelieve.
Otherwise, we believe we shouldnever feel sad or we should
never feel pain.
Not true, not true.
We're supposed to feel it all.
So a lot of people will findthemselves in the throes of
addiction because they believethat they shouldn't feel pain or
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they shouldn't feel bored orthey shouldn't feel overwhelmed,
and they'll turn to outsidesubstances often food and
alcohol and shopping, thingslike that to numb or buffer
those feelings when in reality.
We're meant to feel thosefeelings, and having a
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heightened sense of awarenessaround the feeling, so that you
can respond instead of reacting,it changes everything, and so I
have literally dedicated mylife to teaching people, and
it's truly what I just got donesaying.
That's the crux of everythingthat I teach, and it's not the
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intel that's going to changeyour life, it's the application.
It's literally getting theat-bats and practicing in the
moment responding instead ofreacting.
And then, at the next at-bat,practice again the responding
instead of the reacting.
And when you don't get a hit oryou don't hit the home run, you
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don't make it mean anythingabout yourself.
You just wait for that next atbat, and you are constantly in
the act of becoming somebody whoresponds instead of reacts.
And so that's why my daughterand I named our podcast Tracy
and Gracie Becoming, because Itruly believe that this journey
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called life is all about thestate of becoming.
We don't have to think about itas a finish line.
It's like you're always in thethroes of becoming the next
version of yourself.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Oh, tracy, that's one
of the best answers I've ever
heard for just a descriptor ofwhat's going on in that muscle
between the ears Because, likeyou said, it's all about the
reps we put in right.
So I do refer to it as a muscle.
I once gave a keynote and therewas a bunch of doctors there
and I had a neuroscientist comeup and say, just so, you know,
it's an organ.
I was like I know that it was ametaphor and alliteration Like
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hello.
It was a metaphor andalliteration like hello.
Anyways, I thought that wasreally funny, but that was
awesome.
You know, and really touchingdown on that, there's always an
ability to change, but it is amatter of sticking to it.
Right Then, and I know that's asticking point for people,
right Is, as we, because we dohave this very emotional roller
coaster when it comes to change.
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Yeah, Right.
When you look into some of theresearch that's out there, you
know they talk about this valleyof despair, right Like we find
ourselves, and that's eitherwhere we, we, we cut, you know,
we turn and we run away, or wedouble down and keep trying to
push through those hard days,knowing that if we trust the
process, yeah.
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We are going to come out, theother side changed in a way that
we wanted you know, and.
But it's tough, Right.
And now I know that and I wantto come back to the podcast
because I think it's justphenomenal that you and your
daughter are doing this and um,and so I want to create some
space to have that conversationjust about your takeaways, what
the experience has been like.
I mean, I've only done oneepisode, but I had one of my
daughters on and it was one ofthe best and most well-received
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episodes I've done.
So I couldn't imagine having awhole show about it.
Um, I just think it's so cool.
And um, just one other thing thebecoming piece.
I love that.
I often refer to it as we'realways evolving, you know, into
that next, next iteration, but Ilike how you put it.
I thought that was way better.
I like that a lot, you know.
So let's talk about yourframework.
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Okay, All right, Cause I knowyou have this, this, and I'm
fascinated, quite frankly, bythis self framework.
Yeah, Can you just break downthe steps for the listeners, the
audience here, and make anexample of how someone could
apply this into their own life?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Yeah, okay.
Well, it truly has unlimitedapplications.
It truly does so.
I use it all day, every day.
I did create this framework, soit comes natural to me from my
grade school.
I can say, you know, it reallydoes take practice to kind of
organically be living in thisway of learning to trust
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yourself.
And I would agree, Iwholeheartedly agree, and that's
what I mean when I sayrecognize the at-bats, recognize
that this is truly anapplication that can be applied
in, you know, unlimited ways.
I used it the other day when mydogs were barking like off the
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charts, barking like the worldwas coming to an end, because
FedEx was driving down mydriveway and I'm on a podcast
and it's sounding like, you know, the world is coming to an end
out there, and I'm like, oh myGod, I want to kill these dogs,
okay.
And so I used it in that case.
But I also use it to build mybusiness and I use it to
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maintain my weight loss and Iuse it to stay sober.
So I use it in, you know, thethe huge, like momentous ways,
and I use it in the mostinsignificant ways, and it all
boils back to learning how totrust yourself.
I do believe that, you know, weall have had some educational
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experience in our life and Ithink we probably would agree
that so much time is spentteaching you what to think and
then testing your ability to beable to memorize what it was
that they taught us to think.
But nobody teaches us how tothink, and I believe that being
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taught how to think so that youtrust yourself is the most
valuable education that youcould ever give or receive.
And so, again, that's what wedo at Self Made you.
We think of ourselves as aschool, and all we do is teach
people how to trust themselves.
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And so we use the acronym SELFbecause we want to make this so
easy to remember.
So the S is start with adecision, with a decision.
So, as my dogs are barking, Iask myself, like how do I want
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to feel?
What is it that I actually want, right?
Yes, I want them to stopbarking, but I actually don't
want to feel this rage.
That's like firing inside of me.
So it's so simple and it soundslike it's so easy to overlook
that step Start with a decision.
The S start with a decision.
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What is it that you want andwhy do you want it?
Those are the two questionsthat, when you start with a
decision, must be answered whatis it that you want and why do
you want it?
People do not ask themselvesthat question Like they are
often like off to the racesfollowing some checklist and
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they don't even ask themselveswhat is it that I'm trying to
achieve here and why?
Right.
And so what most people do whenthey're trying to lose weight
it's a great example they willgo join a program that gives
them a checklist of food thatthey can and cannot eat and
they've never really exploredwhy they want to lose weight in
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the first place.
Right.
And if they even like thosereasons, is it only because
society says that you shouldweigh a certain amount?
Is it because you know, theimages that we see make us
believe that we should be acertain size in clothing?
Like you have to ask yourselfwhat is it that you want and why
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do you want that?
Super important.
So start with that decision,okay.
Secondly, the E is eliminate theself-sabotage.
So we talked about what isself-sabotage.
It's the result that you wouldget if you don't start with a
decision, if you aren't aware ofyour primitive brain offering
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you all of the fear-basedthoughts Like it does not matter
.
I've spent my entire day todaycoaching clients who are
reacting to their fear-basedbrain, and then they're
questioning why am I gettingthese results that I don't want?
Why is my relationship with myhusband stagnant?
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Why am I unable to climb thecorporate ladder?
Right, it's because they'relistening to these fear-based
thoughts that are making themfeel unworthy, inadequate,
frustrated, overwhelmed, right,like that's why that's.
The short answer is becauseyou're listening to these
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saboteur narratives, either veryjudgmental of yourself or other
people, or you'repeople-pleasing, or you're kind
of in this hyper achiever statewhere your worth is attached to
all of your accomplishments.
Like.
These are all very legitnarratives that, depending on
our upbringing and depending onwhat our inherent strengths
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actually are, we will hear veryunique narratives, but we hear
the same narratives over andover and over.
So we offer a saboteurassessment totally free, so that
you can see which saboteurnarratives you're most prone to
hearing.
So there's 10, very universal.
There's the judge, which mostpeople can relate to or we're
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judging ourself, or judgingother people.
Yeah, the people pleaser.
Another very common one theavoider, the stickler, where you
have to do everything in acertain order, like in the right
way.
Mine is the hyperachiever andeven though that sounds really
nice, that one is probably oneof the most painful, because
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what that narrative says is thatyou have to be perfect, that
everything you do has to beperfect or you're not worthy.
That has literally been thenarrative that I have listened
to and sadly believed for solong and sadly believed for so
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long and that has led me tosuffer the consequences of being
overweight and using alcohol tonumb my pain, until I recognize
that's just a function of myprimitive brain.
Those thoughts, thosenarratives, aren't even true.
But I didn't know to questionthem, I just believed them.
But when you know, when youhave a heightened sense of
awareness, you will eliminatethe self-sabotage.
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That would eventually happensimply through awareness.
So I love offering people thatassessment so they kind of know
which narrative to be on thelookout for.
They're totally ready for it.
So you start with a decision.
You eliminate the self-sabotagesimply by being aware of what
narratives you should be on thelookout for.
Then you leverage your prodigybrain strengths.
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Your prodigy brain, thatprefrontal cortex, has access to
empathy, discovery, innovation.
It can navigate through yourvalues.
The prodigy brain can alignwith your future self or your
source or your higher power.
Some people believe in God,some people believe in the
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universe, but through thatprodigy brain you can get into
alignment with that inner beingit has.
That prodigy brain has strengthsthat your primitive brain
cannot access.
So when you know, throughawareness, that you are like
knocking on the door of yourprodigy brain, I'm here to tell
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you.
Now's the time to leveragethose strengths like empathy.
Have the compassion foryourself.
You're human, you're supposedto feel pain.
You're not supposed toexperience unnecessary suffering
, but pain is necessary, sothere's no reason to run from it
.
Allow it right, like that'swhat empathy and compassion
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sounds like.
Discovery is another strength,and that has you really looking
for all of the factors thatmight be involved with the
circumstance that you're dealingwith, because so many of us get
involved with a certaincircumstance and we are kind of
in this habit, this pattern, andwe are operating in a very like
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black and white way.
When you tap into discovery,it's almost like somebody takes
the blinders off and now you cansee all of the factors way more
clearly.
So there's five strengths thatyour prodigy brain can leverage,
and then that fourth step isthe same step as the first step.
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So this is how easy.
It is, right.
It's start with a decision,eliminate the self-sabotage,
leverage those strengths andthen finish with a decision.
Finish with a decision.
What's the next step?
That's so easy, it's hard notto do.
That's the question I teach myclients to ask themselves what's
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the next step?
That's so easy it's hard not todo.
Make it so incremental easy,it's hard not to do.
Make it so incremental becauseif this truly is the way you
start living by trustingyourself, it's like one step on
top of the next little tiny stepon top of the next little tiny
step that have all been liketeed up with a decision about
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what it is that you want.
You are operating from a placethat your prodigy brain is like
all fired up.
You're operating with empathyand discovery and innovation.
These steps are undoubtedlygoing in the right direction,
doesn't matter how small theyare.
Make them so easy, it's hardnot to do.
Before you know it, you've madesignificant progress towards
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where it is that you decided instep one that you want to be,
and so it's just this cycle, andthat's what it looks like to
trust yourself, and it literallyhas unlimited applications.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
This is so cool.
I love acronyms, first andforemost, but I also just love
the simplicity of this acronymbut, more importantly, how it
just gives us some very easysteps to check in with.
You know, especially I I likeyourself, the high achiever part
of me is it's amazing how youyou know, unless things are
perfect, I'm very slow to shipit, you know like Seth.
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Godin always talks about right.
Just just ship it, just get itout there.
You don't know what you need tochange until you get it out
there.
So just get it out there, right, and you're not doing is the
sabotage right.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Self-sabotage.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Totally, totally, and
so I love this.
I love that acronym.
I think it's fantastic.
I know people are going to bedigging this.
And also, just so everybody'saware, that self-sabotage
assessments, or self-assessment,is linked in the show notes.
Just click that little buttonthere You'll see all of Tracy's
amazing links to her websites,also her day planner, which
we're going to talk about injust one second actually, but
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also to that self-assessment,which I think is wonderful that
you're providing that.
And so do go find out what kindof person you are or what kind
of narrative you most relate to,because there's also some
useful steps to help younavigate.
And so thank you for that.
That's super cool.
Since we're on the subject,let's talk about this, because I
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know that everybody struggleswith implementation.
Let's be honest, like that isthe.
You know I was joking with youearlier.
You know we.
Let's be honest, like that isthe.
Yeah, I was joking with youearlier.
You know we were talking aboutplanners before we we started
recording today and I was likeyeah, I, I have no short supply
of planners.
Yeah, I can look over here onmy bookshelf and I've got three
and they've never been used.
So this is really quality shelfhelp, not self-help.
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You know, and I'm not alone inthis right.
I'm not alone in this Right.
I'm not alone in this, you know.
I know this is a real strugglefor a lot of people.
It's the implementation of whatwe're learning, because we love
to collect knowledge but, we'revery slow to make it wisdom
through that application.
So I know that you've recognizedthat that's also a challenge
with people in your community,people that connect with you and
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as a coach, I know this issomething that you deeply work
with your clients to workthrough and now you've created a
planner self-made day plannerand so talk about this because,
oh man, I need one that I canuse that actually helps me.
It sounds like you've reallyreverse engineered this with the
outcome in mind.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
So I'd love to just
hear what this is all about.
Yeah, so basically, to become aself-made person, you've got to
learn how to trust yourself,right?
You stop looking for all of theanswers outside of yourself and
you start, like, looking within.
You stop thinking of yourselfas the common denominator to all
of your problems and you startthinking of yourself as the
solution.
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And I started thinking about,okay, well, if my framework
truly is applicable in unlimitedways, couldn't we apply this
framework to something asuniversal and abundant and that
we know everybody has like a day, and I'm like no, this is how.
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Because our mission here at SelfMade you is to become a
household name, and we talkabout this every single week,
like, how are we doing with thatbig goal?
That's our big, audacious goalto become a household name.
We really want to be kind ofthe Kleenex of the self-help
industry, right?
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Like we want people to haveself-made you when they think of
how do I truly help myself?
And it really is learning totrust yourself.
And so the day planner hasliterally like illustrated the
steps it takes you from decidingwhat it is that you want.
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It helps you.
It gives you visuals of all 10saboteur narratives so that you
can identify which one it isthat you're hearing.
It reminds you of what thestrengths are that you can
leverage when you're using yourprodigy brain.
It gives you the questions toask yourself in order to create
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empathy and compassion andinnovation, and then it holds
your hand through making adecision about what that next
step is.
So there's a little bit of goalsetting involved, there's a
little bit of well, dailyunderstanding yourself, and then
we have not unlike every otherday planner.
We literally have the hoursaccounted for on the half an
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hour, and the way that I teachpeople to leverage this book and
to really use it in a veryrevolutionary way is to make
decisions ahead of time.
If this died, this is truly thereason why yours is sitting on
the shelf, because people thinkof a day planner as a tool that
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you use in the moment.
Right, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Yeah right, oh, yeah
yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
And I teach my
clients.
This is so for 7 am tomorrowmorning.
I want you tonight, at 7 pm, tobe making a decision about what
it is that you're going to do,what kind of commitment you're
making to your future self.
At 7 am tomorrow morning, Iwant you to be thinking in those
terms.
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So you're making a decisionahead of time about what it is
that you're going to do, whereyou're going to be, how you're
going to be, because the nextcolumn right next to where
you're writing in the commitmentnext to 7 am, the next column
asks you I want you to decidehow you want to feel at 7 am
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tomorrow morning.
Now, this is where it gets likeso almost magical, like I could
literally talk about this fordays, because you decide ahead
of time how it is that you wantto feel.
This is what it looks like tobe a self-made person, because
now you are creating your day.
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You're creating literally, dayafter day after day.
You're creating the life thatyou want to live.
And the third column says whatwould I have to be believing to
feel that way?
Because the only thing thatdrives the feelings that you
experience, the energy, thevibration that runs through your
body are the thoughts thatyou're thinking.
And so if you make a decisionahead of time about how it is
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that you want to feel at 7 amtomorrow morning, or when you're
walking into the meeting withyour boss, or when you go to
dinner with your family, doesn'tmatter, it's applicable in all
of these types of commitmentswith your family doesn't matter,
it's applicable in all of thesetypes of commitments.
When you decide ahead of timehow you want to feel, you want
to support your future self byasking yourself and how would I
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have to be thinking in order tofeel that way?
So when you know that your dayhas literally already been
decided and it is a self-madeday, it is like the most optimal
day, like who wouldn't want touse that planner?
Like it is magic and so you canuse this.
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You set your goals ahead oftime.
You let the goals that you haveset really influence what it is
that you're saying yes to, inaccordance to what's actually
taking up your time during yourday, and then you are deciding
ahead of time how you're goingto show up.
It's amazing.
It's amazing.
Before you know it, youliterally are believing you are
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in the body of a self-madeperson and it just is the most
magical, most powerful way to be.
And then when you and you know,when you're in the room with a
person like that, you can't helpbut be influenced.
When you're amongst that kindof energy and that's what really
motivates me is because theclients that we have that have
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really embraced this and reallytruly are the definition of a
self-made person.
They don't only, you know, baskin their achievements, they
feel very responsible formodeling this behavior for other
people.
It's so powerful because ittruly has all exponential
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results and so it's really aprivilege.
And our day planner can bepurchased by anybody.
It's on Amazon.
It's just called the Self-MadeDay Planner and the instructions
to use it are in the front ofthe day planner.
But we also offer programs thatreally allow you to leverage
that day planner in a verypowerful way, in very specific
(35:40):
ways, because we haveprogramming for people who are
struggling with overdrinking.
We have programs for people whoare overweight and want to lose
weight.
We have programs for people whowant to heal relationships and
want to achieve theirprofessional goals.
So it's very diverse theprogram that we offer.
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But if you want to go it alone,this planner will help you, it
will guide you through utilizingyour prodigy brain and learning
how to trust yourself, and sowe put that out there.
I love teaching the concepts onpodcasts and we also offer what
we call free coaching Fridayand it's available to anyone
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around the world.
9am on Friday mornings you cancome and you can see what it
looks like to be coachedutilizing this framework.
You can just kind of sit andbig brother in, or you can raise
and be coached, and it'stotally free.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Oh, I love that.
That is so cool.
So.
So again, we'll make sure toprovide these links in the show
notes so it's easily accessibleto everybody.
Make sure you go check it out,Cause I'm sure you've heard at
least one or two little nuggetsin this conversation with Tracy
today.
That's like Hmm, Hmm.
You know your gut starts to say,hmm as well, it's not hunger
(37:00):
pains you're feeling there,that's just your instinct saying
you know there's something hereI'm a little bit curious about,
and I want to just inviteeveryone take the action,
indulge that curiosity and gocheck it out.
I mean, what else do you haveto lose?
At the very least, figure outwhat narrative you best relate
to when it comes toself-sabotage.
No-transcript, get back nextseason, but uh, yeah, before
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that, I really want to makemention of your podcast, because
I think there's some beautifulthemes there.
Whether you're a parent or not,I think it's really a well, for
lack of better description abecoming podcast, right.
So so just what was the, the,the start to that?
Like the, the, the big why forthat podcast, other than I, of
course, you know being havingsomething that you can co-create
(37:51):
with your own child is magical.
Yeah For selfish reasons.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
I mean.
I think about the business is alegacy business.
My daughter is 23 years old,she is a certified life coach
and so she is the co-owner ofSelf Made you and we thought how
fun would it be to share kindof multi-generational
perspectives on all things.
(38:18):
You know everything from loveto life, to business, to
relationships, and so that's thepoint of the podcast and we
hear people who say you know, itis so fun to hear the different
perspectives and that theylearn so much.
You know, her friends learnfrom me and my friends learn
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from her and hopefully weinspire mother-daughter
relationships, you know, toreally deepen through listening.
But for personal reasons, Ithink about man, the archive
that I'm building, and I alwaysthink about, you know, the
podcast where we'll someday talkabout her getting married or
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her children, my grandchildrenand you know, and so we we
definitely are very open andtransparent to our audience and
we take them on the ride of ourlife and we try to fold in the
concepts that we teach to ourclients in very relatable ways.
(39:21):
But yeah, we have two totallydifferent perspectives and so
that definitely gets highlighted.
My daughter just said the otherday that one of her friends
asked her do you and your momever fight?
And she said only when it comesto podcasting.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
Ah, what would a
fight be about on podcasting?
I'm just super curious.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Topics topics.
The topics that I come up with,she's like, yeah, no, nobody
wants to hear that.
And then she'll come up with atopic and usually I indulge her
on her.
Yeah, so it's kind of it.
I mean, it's definitely agrowth opportunity for both of
us.
Neither of us are podcastproducers or, you know, we're
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not entertainers by nature, sowe've learned a lot through it,
but we're coming up on a yearwhich is mind blowing and it's
been a fun.
Thank you, Thank you.
You've already beat the oddsyeah, I know, isn't that crazy
it is crazy.
Speaker 1 (40:21):
I had no idea until I
started you know, my own
podcast, just some of the, thedata around stats, and uh, whoa,
I didn't even realize that mostpodcasts never get past 10
episodes.
I'm like, yeah, wow, and ifyou're just doing one a week,
that's 10 weeks.
That's like under three months.
Right, right, it's like rightBlows my mind.
So congratulations.
One year is huge and the factthat you're still talking to
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each other is a huge testamentto the relationship.
And, oh my gosh, we've coveredso much.
We've talked about sort of yourtransition from a career of 17
years to really listening andtrusting your gut, that instinct
that said you know what, whatif, right, and not only just
answered the what if.
You actually fully leaned inand jumped into the what if?
And I know that's extremelyscary and there's a lot of
(41:08):
mental blocks.
And so we also coveredself-sabotage.
We covered the self made youand the different options, the
self framework we now justtalked about you know literally
mummy, daughter podcasts andlegacy conversations, that
future generations.
But I'm like so much that you'redoing.
We could just go for hours.
It can be like a Rogan fourhour episode, but no, no, I
can't do that.
(41:29):
You don't want to do that and Idon't think the listeners want
to hear that.
But what I'd like to justquickly make mention of for
those that are listening and arewatching this right now you
know, go and reach out to Tracy.
You know, go give a listen tothe podcast.
I've included that in the shownotes.
You're going to be wildlyentertained because it's
interesting to see thatgenerational difference in
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conversation but yet you stillhave very similar mannerisms and
similar ways of carryingyourself and communicating.
So it's just, it's really cool,you know to see that.
But also, quite frankly, itjust gives me a huge boost of
confidence that this nextgeneration they're going to do
okay.
Speaker 2 (42:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
You know, if we let
more people like them I always
say that about my daughter well,at least my oldest daughter I'm
like, just give them the keys.
You know, let them have thekeys to the kingdom, because I
think they'll do a better jobthan we're doing you know and I
just got to say.
you know, gracie's seems likequite an amazing young woman, so
good on you, you know.
So, listen, I wish we could goall day, but I know we can't.
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I guess you know, obviously,all your connections, contact
info will be in the show notes,so we don't really need to
reiterate that.
But if you know, I'm justcurious for you, you know, cause
you guys are across lots ofplatforms and I'm sure your
daughter has some influence withthat too, being that they're of
the generation that's grown upwith this stuff.
What's your favorite, you know,for you to?
(42:49):
To connect with people, toinvite them to be part of this
journey, of what you and yourdaughter are co-creating and
literally growing like stink,which is fantastic to see.
What's your preferred channelto invite people to sort of
follow along?
Speaker 2 (43:01):
You know, actually I
tell people who want to learn
more about us just to go to ourwebsite, which is
wwwself-made-ucom, because it iskind of the one-stop shopping.
You can find all the freeresources, all of the social
media channels.
(43:21):
So that's kind of what I spendthe most time working on too,
but as far as what I get themost joy from it's, honestly,
it's watching my daughter'sInstagram.
She was just telling me thatshe grew by 10,000 followers
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last week.
I'm like, how do you do that?
But she's so compelling, she'sso fantastic to listen to and
her niche so I'm more of ageneral life coach.
Her niche is on dating, and shespecifically helps young men
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who single, young men who wantto date differently or want to
change their dating life, and soshe's fantastic, and so I get
so much joy watching her helppeople like see their mind and
see how they sabotage theirresults, and once they see it,
you can't not see it.
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Yes, it helps them leveragetheir prodigy brain to get what
it is that they really want, andso they are so grateful and so,
yeah, it's just like it'scaught fire, and so that's been
so fun to watch.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
That is awesome.
Well, I'll be sure to includeher handle in our conversations
and tags and also put in theshow notes.
So, hey, gracie, everyone gofollow Gracie.
Especially if you're a youngdude that's looking to improve,
Maybe an older dude that has newtricks to learn.
You know especially how toapproach dating and
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relationships in a veryself-made way.
Yeah, You're definitely in tune.
So I always like to give myguests the last word.
So, you know, if you could justlet's not worry about
distilling everything I sort ofrecovered that.
But if there was something thatyou wanted to leave with the
listeners, with the audiencetoday, something that might be
on theme, based on what wetalked around self-sabotage, you
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know what would you like toleave with them?
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Yeah, I think that it
is so common and so universal
to come to the conclusion thatyou may be the common
denominator to all of yourproblems, because your primitive
brain, it fights to be right.
It's constantly looking for theevidence, you know, to prove
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that it's right, that you arebroken or that you are unworthy.
And I just want you to considerthat maybe you've just never
been taught how to think thatyou are not broken, that you
just have never been taught howto think that you are not broken
, that you just have never beentaught how to think differently.
And those are my famous lastwords, because I truly want
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people to consider that thoughtand just notice how different
that feels, how the energychanges in your body when you
just consider that you're notbroken, that you just haven't
yet taught how to think.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
It's called.
It's a Japanese philosophy, butit's also a way of melding
pottery that's been broken backtogether with gold leaf sort of.
Basically it's gold, and soyou'll see these beautiful
pieces of pottery that have beensmashed into a million pieces,
but they put it back togetherwith all these little gold
cracks, and it's all about beingable to see the beauty in the
imperfection.
You know, and we all havecracks.
They're gold, you know, becauseit tells our story right, and
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so I find that super inspiring.
Thank you for sharing thosewords.
What a great way to end the showand this episode and
conversation, but I know we'regoing to have future ones.
So again, last invitationeveryone, go check out the show
notes, go check out everythingthat Tracy and Gracie are
throwing down, because you knowwhat?
What do you have to lose?
You only have stuff to gain,and I'll tell you, being someone
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that's constantly, in variousstages of my life, battle with
self-sabotage, I found today'sconversation extremely
insightful, but also just givesme this new sense of hope, you
know, and so I have you to thankfor that, tracy.
So thank you for being heretoday.
Speaker 2 (47:37):
Thanks for having me,
it's been fun.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
Today we've embarked
on a remarkable journey with
Tracy, from overcomingself-sabotage to pioneering
personal growth.
Tracy's insights are a treasuretrove for anyone ready to take
control of their life.
If our conversation todayresonated with you, I encourage
you to connect with Tracythrough her various platforms,
all of which I've linked in theshow notes today.
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Just click on those littlenotes wherever you're listening
to this podcast.
You'll see them right there,and those links are all
hyperlinked so you can get incontact with Tracy on any of our
platforms, but also take her up.
In contact with Tracy on any ofher platforms, but also take
her up.
She's got a couple of thesereally cool journals with lots
of great exercises and promptsto help start to apply some of
the things that she shared today.
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Don't miss the chance to learnfrom her experiences right and
incorporate these transformative2% solutions into your life.
Remember, every minor change isa step towards your success.
Until next time, keepchallenging your limits and
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Stay motivated, stay inspiredand keep pushing those
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boundaries further.
I'll catch you next time, thankyou.