Choose Your Hard

Today the Dads talk about how to "choose your hard." They discuss strategies they've used in their own situations to navigate difficult life choices, where facing a challenge was and is the only option. Choosing your hard doesn't mean bad, but rather is an opportunity for growth.

Choose your hard is a motivational statement that encourages you to be proactive in facing challenges and difficulties inherent in life. It doesn't imply that life will be without difficulties, but rather that you have some agency in choosing which challenges you will confront. Here are some key aspects of this concept:

1. Acknowledging Difficulty

Life is full of challenges, and "choose your hard" acknowledges this reality. It recognizes that pursuing goals, making changes, or simply living authentically will often involve overcoming difficulties.

2. Proactive Choice

While we cannot control all circumstances, this phrase emphasizes that we have some level of control over which difficulties we face. It encourages us to consider different options and their potential consequences, allowing us to choose the path that aligns with our values and goals, even if it presents challenges.

3. Comparison and Awareness

"Choose your hard" can also encourage us to compare the potential difficulties of different choices. For instance, staying in a stagnant job might be comfortable in the short term, but it could lead to long-term dissatisfaction and lack of growth. Conversely, pursuing a career change might be initially difficult, but it could ultimately lead to greater fulfillment and personal satisfaction.

4. Growth Mindset

This phrase often aligns with a growth mindset, which believes that skills and abilities can be developed through effort and perseverance. Choosing a "hard" path often involves learning new things, stepping outside your comfort zone, and facing setbacks. However, the potential for growth and personal development can be greater on this path compared to one that avoids challenges altogether.

5. Embracing the Journey

While acknowledging the difficulty, "choose your hard" doesn't glorify suffering. It's about accepting challenges as part of the journey and focusing on the potential outcomes and growth that they can bring.

It's important to remember that "choose your hard" is not a universal prescription for all situations. External factors and circumstances can significantly limit individual agency in choosing their "hard." However, it can be a helpful framework for individuals who feel stuck or unsure when faced with life's complexities, encouraging them to consider their options, take ownership of their choices, and embrace the growth that comes with overcoming challenges.

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Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy