Have you ever wondered what really happens between meeting someone and falling in love? In this episode of the Aligned Love Podcast, Dr. Christie Kederian, a renowned relationship expert, therapist, speaker, and author of 10 First Dates to Your Soulmate, shares her insights on how to navigate the crucial, yet often overlooked, phase of dating that comes after meeting someone new. We discuss the common mistakes women make in their 30s, 40s, and 50s, the importance of self-discovery through dating, and how to approach dating with joy and curiosity. Dr. Christie provides practical tips on what questions to ask on dates, how to understand and overcome cognitive roadblocks, and the significance of emotional connection over checklists. She also touches on the concept of “one and done” dating, the pressure of timelines, and recognizing anxious and avoidant attachment patterns. Tune in to discover how to truly see and appreciate others while also staying true to yourself!
Key Points From This Episode:
- Insight into Dr. Christie's background and the inspiration behind her book.
- A journey of self-discovery through dating and overcoming discouragement.
- The importance of mindset in dating and healing through relationships.
- Common mistakes women make in their 30s and 40s in the dating world.
- Tuning into your feelings rather than just focusing on checklists.
- A reframing question to ask on a first date (plus other questions to ask and when).
- Cognitive roadblocks in dating and the concept of anxious and avoidant attachment.
- Taking responsibility for patterns and the importance of slowing down in dating.
- The pressure of timelines and the benefits of keeping your options open.
- What the permission piece looks like in dating and relationships.
Quotes:
“Dating helped me understand how to learn about someone's character and what it means to be truly compatible with someone. I thought if someone checked the boxes, they were the right person, [but] that turned out not to be the case.” — @LyricTherapist [0:05:05]
“A lot of people have the misconception that, once you meet the right person, then all the pieces fall into place. But the reality is – when you meet someone that could be the right fit, that's where the journey begins.” — @LyricTherapist [0:25:26]
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