In this heart-opening conversation, Lauren Zoeller sits down with embodiment mentor and retreat leader Rachel Classen to explore why setting and maintaining boundaries is the true foundation for creating healthy relationships—both with yourself and others. Rachel shares her personal story of how abandoning her own needs led to burnout, resentment, and disconnection, and how learning to set compassionate boundaries changed everything.
Together, they unpack how your internal boundaries shape the partnerships you call in, why intention must precede connection, and how success-driven women often unconsciously block love by crowding out space in their lives.
Whether you’re navigating singlehood, dating, or partnership, this episode will help you rethink boundaries not as walls—but as sacred invitations to deeper love, intentional living, and true fulfillment.
Key Points From This Episode:
- Rachel’s journey from chronic people-pleasing to embodied boundaries
- Why real boundaries start with yourself—not others
- How to reverse-engineer boundaries from your relationship intentions
- The role of daily self-check-ins to maintain your standards
- Why successful women often struggle to create space for love
- How slowing down and creating internal spaciousness magnetizes healthy relationships
- The power of aligned boundaries in cultivating deep intimacy and connection
Quotes:
"When you say yes to everyone else, you’re giving them a diluted version of yourself." — Rachel Classen [00:09:45]
"Boundaries aren’t an attack on others. They are an act of devotion to yourself."
— Rachel Classen [00:11:03]
"Presence is the golden ticket—and boundaries are what protect it." — Lauren Zoeller [00:49:12]
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