In this honest and expansive conversation, Lauren is joined by her close friend and intuitive spiritual advisor Jenni Conn to explore what healing really looks like inside a committed relationship.
From the outside, aligned love might look like the end goal. But as Lauren and Jenni share, it’s actually the beginning of the deepest unraveling—and the deepest reclamation of self.
Whether you’re single, in partnership, or somewhere in between, this episode is a wake-up call to the patterns you’ve normalized in love and the power you hold to choose something different.
Through personal stories, astrological insight, and somatic truth bombs, Jenni and Lauren dive deep into the parts of us that still try to perform, prove, and protect in love—and how to meet those parts with radical honesty and compassion.
Key Points From This Episode:
- Why most of us are not addicted to people—we’re addicted to the emotional highs and lows of our survival patterns
- How healing can only go so far outside of relationship—and what becomes available when you're finally safe enough to feel it all inside partnership
- The hidden danger of labeling your ex as a “narcissist” or “sociopath”—and how those labels might be keeping you stuck
- Jenni’s raw story of betrayal, abandonment, and taking radical responsibility in her marriage of 7 years
- The difference between emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, and emotional elegance
- Why your resentment, neediness, or meltdown moments are actually calls from your inner child
- How to move from shaming yourself into healing to meeting yourself with reverence and choice
- The role of astrology in understanding your emotional patterns and personal evolution
Quotes:
“You’re a victim once… but then you become addicted to the wound.” – Jenni Conn
“I thought if I did enough, proved enough, helped enough, then maybe I’d be loved. But I was addicted to earning love—because I didn’t yet believe I deserved it without effort.” – Lauren Zoeller
“Most people don’t want to look in the mirror and admit: I’m the one repeating this. But that’s where the freedom is.” – Jenni Conn
“Compassion is the portal. Without it, your inner child will always feel like she has to earn her place.” – Lauren Zoeller
“We have to stop diagnosing people and start asking: what was my part in continuing this pattern?” – Jenni Conn
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