If you've ever felt like your worth depends on what you do, how you look, or who approves of you — you're not alone. In this raw and empowering conversation, Davina Rankin opens up about her journey of chasing external validation through modelling, relationships, and perfectionism… and what it took to finally feel enough without it.
We dive deep into:
✨ The habit that keeps you stuck in cycles of not-enoughness
✨ Why external validation feels so addictive — and how to stop relying on it✨ The emotional shift that comes from choosing yourself first
✨ How motherhood, celibacy, and solitude helped Davina reclaim her worth
This episode is a MUST-listen if you’re tired of seeking approval, performing for love, or feeling like you constantly have to prove yourself. It’s time to break the cycle and remember: your worth isn't something you earn — it's something you own.
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TIME STAMPS
(01:27) Introduction
(01:57) Why Celibacy?
(08:04) Uncomfortable truth about yourself
(12:32) Radical Self Acceptance
(14:28) Don’t have poor spiritual hygiene
(20:10) How has your feminine energy shifted
(23:08) Practical Tips for moving away from External Validation
(27:57) First step to seek your own validation
(33:41) Showing up authentically you in all areas of your life equally (EVEN WORK)
(38:33) Losing yourself & finding yourself as a mother
(42:40) How has your self growth influenced your parenting?
(46:05) Genuine Self love v Bandaid Self Love
(47:56) Learn from your judgemental side
We filmed this incredible conversation in the beautiful Pivotal Conversations Studio on the Gold Coast, Australia. Check them out if you're looking for high quality production, we couldn't recommend them enough!
WHO AM I?
My name is Erika and I am an Australian living in Dubai. I have my own business as a strategic legal consultant and run this podcast to explore my passion + curiosity for all things health, wellness, self growth & mindset. A big focus of mine is how to sustainably navigate a busy schedule and live my best life in the process 📸 Connect with me on IG!
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